Family: Question: Laptop or new t.v for my birthday?

Question: Laptop or new t.v for my birthday?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 01:38 PM PST

I am turning 14 December 7th, I have a TV but it's an older one. I have bigger TV'S in my living room, and my parents room which has the cable box. I was wanting a newer t.v but mainly for a tv guide which only my parents have from their cable box...So, they were going to get my a new tv but without the cable box for my birthday. Then, my mom said her and my dad were talking and they thought I'd like a laptop better. I love using a laptop more, I can do some school work, go online for facebook/twitter, etc, and do research on nursing (Im interested in it a lot.), But I already use my dad's laptop which I somewhat feel like it's mine, it isn't but I don't know. My mom said it would be my own...What should I go with, or what would you go with? Pleease don't call me a spoiled brat because I'm young. They were going to get me a new tv anyways but I told them to just do it as a birthday gift so they don't have to keep spending money. I didnt think of a laptop till they brought it up. All hate will be marked as spam, >>

Question: Why can't I get over him ? Should I give him a chance please help best answer 10 points?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 01:34 PM PST

Hey okay so I know him for a year and we are close friends and I love him so much. I'm depressed and he always been there for me. We both talks about our problems. Oh yeah he moved 3 months ago so we chat. The thing is ever since I told him how I feel he been ignoring me and than apologize to me. I was hurt for almost a year because of him he knows. I'm always forgiving him. So at the end I ignored him and it was very hard for me. I'm scared to talk to him I don't know why. He been begging me to talk him and he said he loves me.   By the way I always helped him with his gf and she hurts him. He used to complain to me about her I helped him although it hurts me   To be honest I never thought I would for him.   I never cried over someone like that before   I'm hurt sad and I miss him and I'm scared to be hurt.   I love him and I miss him ugh I hate myself for that  I still cry over him by the way we agreed to be friends again it's just I don't want to be hurt I'm really hurt everytime I remember him I cry  Seriously love hurts so much  I'm trying to get over him I don't know why I can't get over him  I don't know weather I should talk to him or not I seriously want to cry no one ever understood me like him I don't want relationship we agreed to be friends

Question: Why is privacy important to you?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 01:26 PM PST

My wife does not respected my privacy and she tells her mother and aunt every thing... How do I keep her from disrespecting me? Her only excuses is that she would not feel like she can trust them...

Question: Need help?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 01:25 PM PST

my mom has yelled at me a bunch and screamed at me when she tried to help me with my homework. she already threatened to drop me off on the streets countless times. already said when I grow up im gonna be a hobo and get raped. when she tries to help me with my homework she lectures me most of the time and will not help. I already yelled at her and then my grandma got mad. I broke my waterbottle and im ready to kill myself. this isn't even half the story I have had worst things happen to me

Question: How am I gong to be able to move in with my grandparents My parents wont let me and there doing bad things I don t want to go to foster care?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 01:25 PM PST

Question: Should I change my last name?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 01:23 PM PST

I ve wanted to for a while. I don t have anything against my father. I love HIM. He died when he was 8. I HATE his kids from his previous marriage. They re mean. Greedy. And basically arseholes His whole side of the family hates me. They basically argue with my mom and her side of the family and are so f*cking pretentious. They re all lawyers and doctors and think the world revolves around them. My dad was nothing like that. I don t want to disrespect my dad. But I can t stand being a part of that family Would you change your name if you were in my position?

Question: How do I break this news to my parents?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 12:56 PM PST

So last year, I was officially ban from all social media, skype etc. This was unfortunate for me since I am a gamer, and skype is used to communicate with other players. Social Media is also unfortunate, but I am more concerned with skype. An incident happend last year involving pornography shown to me through skype (I was 12) and they dealt with the situation by banning me from all social media and skype. I see why they did it, but its been a year. If I ask my Dad, I know for a fact that his instant reaction would be "No, I hate those skypes" and would start ranting about how it could happen again and how I can do inappropriate stuff. How do I ask/Convince him to let me use skype? I'm in an Asian family by the way, all the stereotypes are true...

Question: WHAT THE HECK IS GOING ON?!?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 12:45 PM PST

My grandpa challenged me to a wrestling match when he was drunk last night and now he still wants to wrestle. I think I can take him and drive him into the dirt, but I'm afraid because he was a boxer in the navy in the 1940's and I'm afraid he's gonna try to poke me in the eyes or hit me in the king crab....essentially take a cheap shot. Should I cheap shot him first to catch him off guard? I could really just drill him in the family jewels and beat his cheeks when he walks in the door for dinner tonight.

Question: What should I get my sister for Christmas / birthday??

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 12:21 PM PST

Since my sisters favorite holiday/birthday is coming up I want to give her something cool, but when I asked her what she wanted she said "surprise me". I asked her to give me more deatil about what she wants. Does she want a gift card, candy, electronics,etc. And she just said that she doesn t need that stuff. She doesn t want love because she isn t that type of person. I thought of maybe getting her a Pomeranian she can foster and if she wants it she can adopt it herself, but even though she thinks their cute she isn t so keen on animals. I m generally confused. She s giving no idea on what she wants for christmas / birthday. Asked her is she wanted bath and body works stuff but she said no. Any recommendations on normal gifts for people who don t want anything😐

Question: Please help me with this.....what should I do??

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 12:16 PM PST

My mom is currently unemployed after walking out of a job a few months ago w/o giving notice & w/o having anything lined up. She is not eligible for unemployment benefits (long story) & has been temping on/off since then. She has been borrowing money from my Aunt & Uncle & (last month) has even taken out a $2000 loan to cover all her expenses for Oct/Nov. Now that December rent is due for her, she is asking me to take out ANOTHER loan for her to help her out. I really do not want to & here is why: She is unemployed... I have taken out 3 loans for her in the past & she has promised me that she would help me pay them back & only to end up paying most of it, if not all of the loan back on my own. One of the loans was for her & she was making pmts, then she defaulted leaving me to pay the loan back on my own & also ruining my credit. My credit score sucks. And I have my own money issues. I am not in default, but I cannot afford to pay back the loan pmts. She is very irresponsible when it comes to keeping a job & managing money. She has made broken promises & is part of the reason that 5 yrs ago I had to file BK. #1 reason was medical related. She has been begging me to help her out & has told me that she will make the pmts herself. But she does not even have a full time job & has WAY TOO much debt. If I take out another loan for her, it is highly likely that she may default again & since she already has a lot of debt and on top of that $2000 loan, she will be in even deeper debt. I do not trust her when it comes to money. Should I help her out by taking out this loan or say no. I believe that my reasons for not wanting to are valid and I think that I would be doing her a favor if I did not because like I said before she would be in even deeper debt with another loan that she "promises" to pay back on her own. Please tell me what to do!!!

Question: My boyfriends dad maybe dying and he's extremely mean to me lately?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 12:08 PM PST

My boyfriend and I are in our 30s, live together and have been together for 5 years. His Dad is 74, has COPD (Lung problems) and now is in hospital. He was brought to the hospital because BF's Mom let him get too dehydrated. And also because he didnt eat for nearly 4 days. (Claimed he was being stubborn) Dad was diagnosed with Pneumonia after being admitted. Anyway my boyfriend is acting so AWFUL to me since this news. After we visited his Dad, I needed to eat something. He and his Mom actually ATE pizza they brought in from outside in the Emergency room's exam room... I refused because it is so germy in there (hello MRSA) Anyway he b--ched about taking me to get food and then started insulting my weight out of the blue. Today he is crabby and rude. I know he is stressed out, but it's hard to suddenly be his punching bag. Advice?

Question: I feel like ending it?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 12:07 PM PST

I honestly feel like I have no point in living anymore. I hate complaining but right now I don't know what else to do. I live with my mother, and this is the sole problem. She makes my life miserable. She doesn't let me have or do anything so if I'm not at school I'm in my house alone with literally nothing to do. I don't have a TV or computer or phone so I'm literally sitting in my bed until the next school day. I'm not in any activities because she says no, and I can't talk to my friends out of school because I have no way of texting them. My mother only cares for herself. She's a selfish *****. I can't live with my dad either. He's the only person in this world that I care about, and I don't even get to see him every week. I just miss him and I don't think I can put up with sitting in my room all day every day anymore. He's the only reason I'm still here but I don't know if I can even take it much longer. The only reason I'd even considering ending my life is so my mother regrets treating me this way. She never bothers to see if I'm alright, and anytime I ask her for something to keep me entertained while I'm alone she says no. I've been so bored I've lost my appetite and got skinny and she still doesn't care. I have no idea what to do, I feel like just dying but I'm too pussy to do it.

Question: I absolutely hate my family.?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 11:57 AM PST

I genuinely believe they are the reason I am insecure and have social anxiety. My mom yells at me for the stupidest things 24/7 and believes she is the only one who has problems and responsibilities. She calls me a crybaby if I cry. She puts on a act, and talks in the fakest ******* voice ever when talking to other adults, etc. It s so ******* annoying. When she gets mad she has hit me before, and she blames everything on me. My sister is a ******* piece of **** and I wouldn t care if she died. She calls me ugly, untalented, weird, freak, psycho, and even goes as far as saying my friends are ugly. She s only nice when she wants something, and once I give it to her she turns into a *****. She s incredibly stuck up and fake.. She sings obnoxiously at the top of her lungs just to annoy me and she thik shes funny when she isn t. She constantly takes my clothes. My dad never talks to me, he just sits in front of his computer screen all day. He spanked me as a child, and always takes my moms side even if she is clearly wrong. I could go on and on but unfortunately I don t care enough about them to.

Question: Son keeps asking when I'm coming to his home. Should I continue meeting at a neutral place or make an attempt to have a visit at their home?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 11:46 AM PST

I was in a situation where I was paying almost $1500 in child support and my ex was not allowing me to see our son. She always had excuses for why I couldn't see him. I had to take her back to court for visitation and now I see my son a few hours on Saturday once a month. I am working towards standard visitation but have no idea how long it will take for us to work our way up to overnights. I talk to my son about once a week and he keeps asking me when I am going to come to his house. It wouldn't really be an issue if she encouraged us to have a relationship but it's like she is trying to prevent one between us. my son will be turning 4 in january. she's was bitter about me ending our engagement a few years ago, which is why she is making it difficult for me to have a relationship with my son. I eventually married someone else. I used to live about 2,000 miles away but recently moved so I could be in the same state. Now i'm 4 hours away. It takes an entire day and I only see him for 3 hours a month.

Question: My life is messed up. Who is my real mother?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 11:42 AM PST

My biological mum had me when she was young (18) and she struggled to cope with the pressures of raising a baby. Her sister (Aunt) helped her but in the end she ended up raising me. It was only when I was 10-11 when my mum tried desperately to start being a real mum. Things began to pick up and she has spent the last 8 years trying to make it up to me. I've lived with my Aunt and her daughter for most of my life and it kind of feels like I have two homes. When I'm not with my actual mum she often comes and stays with us. I often think it would have been better for everyone if I was never born.

Question: Is it strange to miss a family you don't know? They left my school and I'm grieving?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 11:19 AM PST

I'm a school lunch time supervisor and have been for 27 yrs. There was a family who came to my school in the early 90s. One son started the school in about '94 and the families kids kept coming until this year. That's 21 years of their kids coming to our school. Every 2 years without fail, a new kid from their family would join until about 2002, when their mum slowed down with having kids and then it was one new kid every 4 years. At one time, about year 2000, they had 6 kids at our school. They were pretty famous amongst us employees. It was so unusual in our school because it is an affluent school where most parents had 2 kids max. I admired the mum but didn't know her. I barely knew the kids either, only knew they were into trouble all the time but a couple of them were very smart kids. I heard the eldest boy became an engineer and one of the girls a lawyer and another girl is at university studying to be a nurse. In July just passed, their youngest son finished at our school and moved onto secondary school (UK). And thats it. Theres no more of them. I feel very sad. Like an era has ended. So much changed in all those years but their kids were still there, the only thing that didn't change. Am I a lunatic? I have cried over this. I felt sadder about this then I did when my own kids left school and moved on.

Question: Why do my parents do this?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 11:04 AM PST

Sure, my family gives me nice things and clothes and food..but they verbally abuse me..mostl my mom. She'll call me fat or say i need to lose weight (even though i actually don't at all and weigh 130 pounds) or will make fun of me for something else. And sometimes in the store will say i need to lose weight and when i try to defend myself she gets mad at me and makes me feel like i shouldn't be defending myself and that it's wrong to. She'll also make fun of me if im not wearing "girly" clothes all the time and asks why i don't wear a skirt every once in awhile or a sundress (i mostly wear shorts, jeans, jogging pants, and a shirt) ..but my question is why is it any time she belittles me and i defend myself and get mad at her for her it that she gets made at me for doing that? I also don't know why she's so concerned with my image.

Question: I just found out my sister is actually my half sister but no one knows I know. What should I do?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 11:03 AM PST

Question: How to get memories out?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 11:01 AM PST

So I was in Target shopping for Black Friday for my little cousins. Then, my cousin who is 4 and doesn't know the evils in the world, says, " Look! She has no underwear!" I have to do whatever my cousin says because she is a spoiled princess. I looked and saw a mom helping her child except her pants were halfway down revealing a thong. It looked like a hemp string down with two hemp strings around her waist. It was so disturbingly thin, it was like handmade by Victora Secret. How do get rid f disturbing thoughts? I think it's in long term. Please help because I am only 14.

Question: How do I make my mom let up?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 10:47 AM PST

I'm 16 and my mom won't let me do anything! I have started to like a guy and he wants me to go over his house just to hang out. My mom said that she would only let me if I got his moms number and she called her. And his mom would have to be at the house and it would have to only be for like 3 hours. I understand the par to his mom being home while were there but I'm not 5 and it's a little overboard that she has to call his mom. I literally feel like I'm in a box and my mom never let's me doing anything wih my friends. No I will not have sex, I am far too young to think about that right now. My older siblings were allowed to sleepover their boyfriends house at my age and I can't even go to his house? How do I tell her to trust me and that I am growing up and need to live a little!

Question: How do I improve my relationship with my brother?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 10:33 AM PST

I'm 14 and my brothers 12 and we fight almost all the time. We're pretty much complete opposites and disagree on almost everything. He says he doesn't love me and that are relationship will worsen as we get older. What should I do?

Question: What causes old people to get to where they don't want to do anything?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 10:31 AM PST

My grandmother is 80 years old. Yes, she has been through a lot in her life (but hasn't everyone, really?). Now she just wants to sit around almost all day with her head glued into a Horoscope book reading a bunch of garbage. She has gotten to the point where she doesn't want to go to the store, doesn't want to go anywhere or do anything (not for others, but simply for herself and to get out, which everyone needs to do). While everyone isn't promised tomorrow, it is my goal that when I am that age, I will still be in a pretty fit shape because I make it happen with my body and like to take care of myself. It just seems like every little thing she has no desire for, no goals and has become purely lazy. I'm sure that older people get tired more easily, need naps, etc. But today we found out that she only walks the dog out into the yard twice per day, which is ridiculous. She is here all day and does nothing else but read, watch tv and sleep. It really isn't asking much. Myself and another family member give her a place to stay and we don't have a bunch of crazy rules or requirements. It is simply expected that she get her lazy butt off from the couch and walk the dog outside ever 3-4 hours for just a few minutes. What causes old people to become this way? We also take the dog out a lot, and there are three of us, so we don't expect her to do it all. I take her out lots of times all throughout the day on my off days, even though I'm busy doing stuff. So does the other family member. I don't get why my grandmother is so incredibly lazy for everything...other things that are just so simple and require no effort like that, she doesn't seem to even want to do anymore.

Question: Ladies please mature question?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 10:19 AM PST

A beautiful girl in my class. We never really talked and she had time to make a move. We now graduated. She just added me on ig. She likes my selfie pics and sometimes comments on my memes stuff. It was my bday. She said "we should take our cars out for a spin & wow nice exhaust you have on your car *in love emoji face*". This other time she wrote "i got a new car yes we should celebrate with a beer". I once also wrote a post saying "kinda want a babe & kinda dont" and she liked it. I had gfs in the past so im not ugly. When my own friends asked her about me she said "hes a cool guy". Could she like me??? Or is she just being friendly??? Keep in mind if she doesnt like it will totally kill our friendship make me look weird

Question: I need help regarding my 2 year old son and the custody/name change situation?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 10:15 AM PST

My son is 2 years old, I'm wanting to get his last name changed to mine but when I called, they said his "dad would have to agree. Heres a little bit about the situation. Me and his dad were together for about 3 months when I got pregnant with our baby. When my son was probably about 6 months or so, he started to abuse me and beat me. When I'd get up and get my son to take him out and away from the mess, he'd get up and start hitting me with my son in my arms and he ended up hitting my son in the process. He's treated me and my family with taking our lives, and has on some hard core drugs such as herion, cocaine, and crack. However he did sign the birth certificate when our son was born but he hasn't came and seen him since his first birthday and after all this stuff I have officially cut him off. My son doesn't need that in his life. But my problem is, I want to make sure he doesn't have or get any eights to Levi, because I know if he's done all that, he'd hurt my son behind closed doors no doubt. I don't even feel safe with visitation. And is like to have his name changes but I don't want his dad to be there or have say over it. What do I do and how do I go about it?

Question: Why does my family treat me this way?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 10:05 AM PST

Every time I get into an argument with my little brother and my older sister I'm instantly the bad guy. It's always my fault. Even I fun right. We does my Mom antagonize me like that

Question: Is it okay to have a favorite sibling?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 10:02 AM PST

Question: Would you break up with someone that doesn't care if you're alone on the holidays?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 09:38 AM PST

I've been with my boyfriend for over 4 years and am just starting to realize he doesn't actually care that much about me. I was blinded due to the fact that I normally go home for the holidays (over 1,000 miles away) and he normally goes to his (4 hours away). This year I decided not to go. I've been working 60-70 hour weeks at work and I'm just exhausted and would love to use my time off to relax. Well, he decided to go to his parents' house for Thanksgiving, which is perfectly fine. Why wouldn't he? I started getting sick on Tuesday, and since Thursday was my first day off of work in a few weeks, I just wanted to stay home and sleep all day anyway. He told me he'd be back on Saturday morning and we could have our own Thanksgiving since I'd be better by then. Well, he just told me he wants to stay until Sunday. I go back to work on Monday, and he won't leave until at least the afternoon, which means when he gets back, it'll be dark and we'll have no time to do anything. So basically I get to spend this holiday alone. I told him that for Christmas I'll just go with him to his parents' house and maybe we can go to NYC after (since it isn't too far from their house anyway). He just looked at me and said that after Christmas he was going to meet up with his friends from college, like he did every year, so why would I want to go? I asked him if he seriously just suggested that I also be alone for Christmas and he said he'd be back before New Year's Eve. He doesn't seem to care that I'd be alone for the holidays. And I never noticed before because I'd be with my family. We were never together for the holidays because it seemed natural we'd want to be with our families, and it's the ONLY time I get to see mine all year. I didn't expect him to not be interested in having me tag along for Christmas. I mean, I know his family. They only live a few hours away, we visit them all the time and they always tell me they want me to come back more often. It's making me question who I'm really with. I didn't even tell him not to go home for Christmas, just said I'd go with him then we can spend some time together. A nice getaway for a change. Why would I want to be with someone who doesn't care if I'm home alone? Any suggestions?

Question: What do you think I should do?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 09:29 AM PST

Quick backstory we live in Texas and also are Hispanic and my family doesn t speak english all to well not to mention that my grandmother (age 82) doesn t even speak it let alone understand it but my mother is with her at all times to help her translate and we have never had a problem with it. Now my Grandmother was supposed to get a hip replacement and was all ready with all the post surgery work like blood work and all.we had the date for the surgery for 3 weeks from then and after the first week the surgeon that was supposed to operate on her said he couldn t operate on her because she couldn t speak english I dont know if that can be counted as a serious reason thats literally all he gave as a reason we have to wait now till january 12 which I feel is ridiculous. What do you guys think I should do?

Question: Should I let his see his daughter today?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 09:16 AM PST

Yesterday me in my fiance which is also my baby father got into a huge heated argument to the point the police had to be call. Are daughter is a week old. I packed most my things in most my daughter things in took them to my mother house . which is where I'm staying until this madness with Him die down. By the way the argument was over are daughter. I felt coming to my mother house would be the safest plan for us instead of staying over there with him arguing and fighting everyday. Well its the next day in he text my phone in asked can see come see his daughter. I'm not denying him right to see his daughter but is it too soon this stuff just happend yesterday in my daughter is to young to leave so I can't send her with him. Should I say yeah or wait a few days until this madness die down more.

Question: My mother won't let me have a phone?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 09:03 AM PST

I'm a pretty good student, I get A's and a B here and there. I do my chores, take care of my little brother, and I never put up a fight with my mom like I've seen my friends all do. I'm fifteen, and I've never had a cell phone before. My friends have had one since they were ten, and lately I've been finding myself in situations where I need one. I've taken into consideration that my mother may not be able to afford it, but she's constantly buying stuff for herself that ends up sitting in her closet, like expensive handbags and shoes, so I thought a phone wouldn't be too much. I asked her a couple days ago, and she looked like I was insane and said absolutely not. I explained to her that when I go running I'd feel safer having one, or I'd like to listen to music or take pictures and talk to my friends. I could even check my grades and do homework on it through email. But she still says absolutely not. I don't know how to convince her. I'd get a job, but where I live you need to be sixteen, and even then a lot of places hire at eighteen. Any ideas on how to convince her? I told her once I get a job in a year I'd pay for the bill, but she still says no. Thanks.

Question: How do I get my younger sister off the computer?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 08:50 AM PST

Every day as SOON as she wakes up she rushes right to the computer. After my dad and I pick her up from school, its RIGHT to the flipping computer! I got on it ONCE and she started crying that I use it all the time which I kid you not is the biggest lie I've ever heard. Every time I turn it off when she's using it or something like that she goes crying to Mom and Dad because they hate me and love her. How do I get that brat off the computer so she can live her life?

Question: I want to be vegetarian but my parents won't let me..Help!!!?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 08:44 AM PST

I want to become a vegetarian but my parents won't let me because they think it's ''bullshit'' and don't understand why I want to become one whatever I say to them. My step-father always thinks that I want to be like the others, but that's not true at all and makes me very sad because he always misunderstands me. They say that i need vitamins (which you can ofc get from plants too) . I just want to help the world & love animals but nobody understands me. Please help..

Question: Why do these questions come in my mind?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 08:07 AM PST

I literally have the worst mother on earth.She is sexist so therefore she favours my brother.She's also toxic,she put blame on others including me ,unappreciative and always criticising my dad .She has made my life a hell and you would never imagine that a mother could treat her own daughter like that.I took a very long time to realise that and now I hate her.On the other hand i'm the kind of person who appreciate,whenever she does things for me I appreciate it.But then i'm like am I doing wrong by hating her?As soon as I start liking her she does stuffs that hurt my feelings so that's why I hate her.i don't know why I got questions in my mind like ''what if she dies?''it's a very short story of my life.

Question: Why might I be experiencing daddy issues later in life?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 08:02 AM PST

It's kind of hard to explain. But I am 18 & haven't had daddy issues all my life. I've never apprecuated spmeone who is supposed to be a dad never being there for me. But I've never had a problem with it until now. Never really did when I was younger. Now I see things w/ girls & their fathers & I'll start crying. For example I'll see commercials & movies & start crying. I mean I just saw Inside Out (It is a really good movie overall) an was slightly bawling. In the movie I'd admired the relationship she'd had with her father (and mother), she was his little monkey, lol. But my point is, why would it be happening now? I've never wanted tgat perfect family with Mommy & Daddy until now & have always been fine. Why now. It's really wierd & I'm having trouble understanding it.

Question: I'm sad my family is leaving after thanksgiving?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 08:00 AM PST

I'm sad my family is leaving, my immediate family live in LA while my cousins live in NYC , Baltimore, and Philidelphia. They came here for Thanksgiving and I don't want them to leave. I had the best Holiday ever, I have 17 first cousins 2 are married with kids , my grandparents came , and all my aunts and uncles. All my cousins are around my age and my siblings ages so we had so much fun. They all stayed by our house. I shared my room with 7 other girls and we stayed up all night and talked you know (I have all brothers so I'm not use to it). I've never seen my younger brother and my two older brothers so happy either. We all played ball outside, last night we had a BBQ since we had the official thanksgiving dinner Thursday night and now tomorrow they are leaving. It was just so much fun there was never a dull moment and everyone was always laughing and it was fun since there were so many kids in the house . I'm just upset that everyone is leaving, But I don't want people to think I'm a baby if I get upset about it. Do you think it would be ok if I do

Question: Mom doesn't like my sister's boyfriend because of his bad health habits and wacky family?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 07:35 AM PST

My sisters boyfriend is a very nice man but he smokes, has Meniere's disease, gluten intolerance, bad back, bad knee, occasional chest pain, eats a terrible diet. My mom is terrified he'll end up disabled or drop dead of a heart attack and leave her a young widow -- or he'll end up obese and unattractive. Also, his brother and father are big time adulterers. His mother and sister are celiac. His brother, niece and nephew have ADHD and all have been held back at school. His niece has a sleep disorder which means she can't go to school. His other brother has severe anxiety and never finished high school. Does my mother have a right to be unhappy about this? Knowing my sister, she doesn't have the strength to raise a family of juvenile delinquents, but he is a very nice man

Question: Can someone please explain my mothers behavior to me?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 07:23 AM PST

I need help with my mother, she is dressing like she's in her 20's, she's living two different lives, she's being dishonest with us when we ask her questions, she's 65 & a widow & we are happy to see her move on but yet she continues to lie to us even though she's been seen several times with a younger man (younger than me) & it was obvious they are more than friends , again I don't care if she's moved on but be honest about it, and to top it off she treats me like I'm the one in my 60's tells me all the time how I'm aging, getting fat etc, if I dress up she acts like she's in a completion & will change her outfit 2-3 times to out do me, she questions me if I color my hair but she's 65 with hot pink streaks I don't understand her behavior as a mother I would never try to be younger than my daughter let alone make her feel bad about who she is she gloats about my marital problems then gets mad when I tell her i filed for divorce she watches what j put in my plate then makes sure she either matches what I eat or eats extremely less then makes fat jokes she weighs 100 pounds soak & wet & swears she's fat she always points out my flaws but if I say "you aren't a spring chicken either" she gets all mad & says "u know I'm not I don't need to be reminded" I need help trying to figure out why she's this way if she's afraid if aging that's one thing but shy try to make me feel older than you like in your mother?

Question: Have You Ever Had To Make Huge Family Sacrifices?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 07:19 AM PST

Hi, wanna start by saying that I am 20 & I live in Las Vegas. My girlfriend & I have been together since we were 15. We have been living together for 3 years now. We started living together when my mom moved to another town an hour away for a new job, but then moved back after a short period of time. I was 17 & didn't want to leave my girlfriend. I moved in with her & her mom. No regrets at all. We then moved into our first place together & now currently live in our 2nd. We have two amazing dogs, 2 guinea pigs, & a baby turtle. We both have a nice car and good jobs. We are both in school. Here is the problem that I am facing. Her mom recently moved to Denver. Her mom is pregnant & this is a very emotional ride for me & my girlfriend. I am trying to cope with the huge possibility of moving there soon & leaving my mom & my younger sister who is 9. I care about my new family as well as my "prior" family (Mom & Sister) They only have each other. My mom doesn't even have her full time. Her dad and my mom switch off with her. Besides that My mom has no family out here. I don't know how to feel about all this & it makes me so sad to think about it. Thank You for your help.

Question: How can I convince my friend that's a boy not to go to the same college as me and choose a different course?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 07:17 AM PST

I am really annoyed now because I feel like he follows me EVERYWHERE! And I thought I would finally be getting away from him next year when I go to do music production in Tralee and he said he wants to stay in Limerick but NOW all of a sudden he wants to go to Tralee because the points are low and all that! How can convince him to go to Limerick or choose a different course because I won't be happy if he's going to the same college as me because he'll want it just to be me and him and I won't be able to make any other friends and I'm even thinking ofdoing a different course now and goin g all the ways up to Dublin because of this! Advice? Please?

Question: Why are my parents so negative ?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 07:10 AM PST

My parents are really negative people. My dad always tries to picks fights with me, & my mom tells me to leave her alone & how much I annoy her the second I wake up in the morning. My presence literally irritates her. i have close to no friends , and a random girl in one of my classes once told me "nobody even likes you". I barely knew who she was. Another girl in my gym will turn anything I say into something negative. I try to be nice to her but I can tell she just hates me. She is nice to everybody else. Why do people perceive me as so negatively ? Why do people hate me so much. I am not really annoying either, I am a very quiet person & barely talk but when I do everybody just hates and attacks me. I just turned 18 & am a senior. People are going to say "if you don't like it move out" but it has been like this for years @& I just don't feel I should be treated the way I am.

Question: My son, 29 lives with his girlfriend, and mother of his 2 and a half year old son. She is 26. They are getting married in March.?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 07:04 AM PST

They both work. My son is a corrections officer and works difficult and long hours. He does "doubles", (double shifts). His girlfriend is a hairdresser, and works long hours cutting hair. When he is off on the weekends he does not get up to help her in the morning. This makes her upset. I don't want to get involved, but I see a problem here, the girl is exhausted, my son is exhausted, and the other grandmother helps out a lot. I live in another state, and I'm 63 and work full time. The other grandma does not work, is supported by her husband, and has more time to give. I feel guilty, and I just don't know what the answer is.

Question: I flipped out at my 27 year old daughter?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 06:43 AM PST

My 27 year old daughter & her husband are staying with us for a few months until there home is ready. I KNOW for a FACT she broke my computer because she was the last person to use it when I asked her to type up her husbands Christmas list for me the other day. Anyway, out of anger I swore at her & called her a mother f*cker & a b*tch a few times & tried to slap her when she refused to help me fix the computer. Afterwards, I apologized I even offered to do her hair (I'm a hair dresser) & we'd go out do some Christmas shopping this afternoon. She refused said she wanted nothing to do with me today, she had absolutely nothing to do with breaking the conputer & that I need to seek mental help & left. What should I do?! I feel really bad? Any advice?

Question: Am I allowed to put my son in adoption due to him having cancer?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 06:33 AM PST

I have a 7 year old who is currently battling cancer. Having children with cancer is the most expensive thing in the world. It takes a huge amount of time and money in order to care for a child like this, because they require weekly appointments to the doctor, which takes up a lot time and puts a burden on my medical bills. I don't mean to sound selfish, nor am I a selfish person but I have so much going on in my life that I have decided that I am not going to be in the right position to care for this child.

Question: Why is it taking so long for my uncle to get social security?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 06:31 AM PST

My uncle has been waiting to get approved for social security for 6 months now and I am wondering why in the world it's taking so long?? The reason I'm so curious is because for the past 25 years, he's been living with his parents (he's 58 years old) because for all those 25 years and up until this day, he has been unemployed, divorced, lazy, a moocher, drug abuser, alcoholic, and heavy smoker. Back in April his dad finally kicked him out after he threatened to commit suicide and ever since then he's been living with us. I have 2 parents and 3 younger siblings. My house is chaotic and abusive and the last thing we need is for someone like him to live with us. I can't wait until he gets his damn social security so he can move the hell out!! Sorry I'm kind of venting a bit but I've had enough! This is getting ridiculous. He has an appointment this week with someone about the ss but I don't know what will happen at that appointment or what specifically it's about.

Question: Do I have step siblings if my dad doesn t want to marry his girlfriend?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 06:05 AM PST

Basically my dad has been dating this girl (Tina) for about 7 years now and she has two kids. Lately me and my biological sisters have been spending more time with Tina s daughters and even spent Thanksgiving with them. I know my dad and Tina made a mutual agreement that they didn t want to get married but DID want to blend our families. I know that they love eachother and will be together for probably the rest of their lives and so there will be plenty of times that I will have to be around her daughters. So if they are never getting married but want to blend our families, do I consider them step-sisters?

Question: My brother hurts me...?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 06:04 AM PST

My older brother is very violent because of what happened in the past, and it never seems to stop. Ever since my dad left, my mom lets him get away with everything. He stole my phone, she didn t care, he punched me in my head and she didn t care. He is both emotionally and physically abusing, but she never does anything about it and it is extremely unfair- I m 12 and he is 16 btw. I started cutting and she still doesn t care. Some days, I want to take my own life but on others I d rather take his. Please help!

Question: Mum is really sinister... Help?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 05:43 AM PST

A bag she was looking for went missing. Checked my room and it wasn't there in sure of it. But when she went in she somehow found it saying it was on the chair I was sat on. I know it wasn't as I sat on it this morning and would have noticed. This isn't the first time as when a wedding was on she was screaming about where her hat is. Once again I check my room and of course it wasn't there but when she checked she found it. This happened with her phone as well. I saw it in her pocket but because she was shouting I couldn't speak up. She went in her car and says she found it where I just checked, saying I was too lazy each time. I find this disgusting how she must make everyone else around her be the one in the wrong and not her. How do I deal with this. I'm in the house and can't leave and I've noticed how much she's lied to me through my whole life. That's another story for another day. Thanks!

Question: My entire family is toxic?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 04:39 AM PST

My family is a significant hindrance to my personal growth and development. I am a better person when I am not in their presence. I'm easily influenced by their closed minded, judgmental and shallow personalities. It's like going back home sucks me into my past, a life that I do not want to get caught up in. I've only been back for a week to visit and I feel so distant, yet by the end of this week I feel like their negativity has warn me out. I catch myself acting more impulsive and superficial like them, which I do not want at all, but just comes naturally because I'm around it so much. It's not healthy for me to be here. I'm moving back to finish my last year of college at the local cc. I can't stand one week here. I'm out of warn down from just this past weeks drama my family stirs up. I can't live here. I just can't. If I move back, it will be like taking a huge step backwards in life. What should I do?

Question: Hello, I am 14 years old. I have cousin (female) and she is 11 years old. We kissed on mouth few times last night and it felt so good.?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 04:38 AM PST

It felt so good that i almost fainted, but that made me so guilty for doing that. That girl is my close cousin. My mother have a sister ( my aunt ) and my aunt have a kid that is she. I feel so gulty for what i did. I have no idea how to tell it to my mom. This is my 2nd biggest problem besides my mom doesn't know i jack off and feel so guilty for that. Btw i really love my cousin and i didn't know why did I kissed her. Please somebody help how to tell to my mom and if she reacts bad to it i will be f*cked up :( PLEASE SOMEBODY HELP I CAN'T STAND THIS ANYMORE I HAVE TO TELL HER GUYS I HAVE TO TELL YOU I FEEL ALOT BETTER NOW AND I AM IN GREAT MOOD THANK YOU AND THIS IS BECAUSE OF YOU... THANK YOU AGAIN FOR YOUR RESPONSES AND MAKING MY LIFE BETTER

Question: Why does my father joke about the death of my Lizards? (Please help..)?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 03:19 AM PST

Hello ive been living in a household of parents who.. well are divorced. i have a BPD Mother thats also Bi-polar. and my Father who was divorced with her for three years. My mother has done a lot of bad things to my dad and i and she is super lazy.. Highschool dropout and hasn't gone to college and almost 40. But i have my own issues too and my father recently keeps on joking about how "What if lilo(My dog) ate or attacked your lizard? ) and a whole bunch of death jokes that are disturbing and WONT stop. Today we recently got a 40 gallon for my leopard gecko and he flipped. He kept getting mad at me easily and when i said we need to get UTH lightbulbs.. he flipped and gave me the silent treatment while on the other hand my mother drills my head in. i have no one at this point and im being driven insane..

Question: My parents always try their best to make me happy, but I m afraid I ll never be satisfied with whatever they give me. HELP??!?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 03:14 AM PST

So I m usually just really stuck-up and want fancy and high class things, but my parents being the people they are constantly work to achieve my happiness and I just feel like I m using them and I feel like they struggle to make me happy and I feel so bad about that. So anyways I asked for a computer and they said ok and just tonight I heard them arguing, my mom wants me to get the computer but my dad says that it s taking out too much money. I said I ll wait til Christmas but now I m starting to think that I should just say no to the computer and just leave it alone and tell them how I feel about them having the choice to get it. Idk I just need some advice I guess....

Question: My sister hates me and disowns me I seriously want to cry?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 02:46 AM PST

OK so I have two sisters. My sister Amy is driving me insane. I'm depressed and she makes me feel worse she always tells me I'm black hearted, pathetic, stupid, and asshole and failure. She yells at me for being depressed and she always tells me she hates me and wishes I was dead or gone. It really hurts me. I always cry because of her. She always goes to my older sister and tell her that she loves her. And hangout with her and it's like I'm not even there. She always like's to see me hurt sad. I can't take it anymore she always yell at me I'm feeling very low. And i hate myself because of her. I had a rough life I was abused physically and emotionally by my aunt for years and I felt worthless and I'm hurt but my aunt stopped abusing me 5 years ago my sister said that I deserved it. And when I talk about how i feel to everyone she says I'm pathetic and I have black heart. And i should leave .I'm seriously hurt I don't know what to do I feel like I'm alone in the world no one support me. I tried talking to her she made fun of me. Thank's for the advice and for your time She's always commenting on my behavior or actions and I can't fight with her because my dad is sick he can't handle any stress or agreement Like in my grandma's house when I talk to anyone she tells me to be quite I'm annoying. I'm not even trying to be annoying and she calls me childish all the time I'm done I'm depressed I want to end my life but I don't have the courge to :(

Question: How to tell my dad I want to buy new cloths?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 01:53 AM PST

I know some of you may think I m a brat but thats your opinion. So my parents are divorced and my dad is rich (I mean not rich like madonna, but I know he has money to buy me tons of stuff) He has social anxiety and he doesn t talk much and thats a porblem because I need ti talk to him and whenever we talk he is scary( not that scary but rude or something idk how to explain it) he is almost always in a bad mood and I feel uncomfortable sometimes. The thing is that I literally have like two stuff in my closet and I need new cloths, and I m trying to find a way to tell my fad that I need clothes... can someone please help me to talk to him because I see my friends and they have a ton of clothes and I feel awkawrd with them cause I don t feel equal is not like they care or anything but its just inside me is a little green envy monster that idk ...just help me please

Question: My family and friends keep thinking that I should get a girlfriend, but I can't, and besides I won't. What do I do?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 01:34 AM PST

Not only do I have bad people skills, but I know fully well that dating and marrying isn't worth it if you're broke and you still have grad school ahead. As a grad student I know it'd be stupid to date when I most need to focus on just passing classes and working hard to get at least have a chance at getting a half-decent job since most women worth their salt wouldn't date a broke grad school guy anyways, especially a guy who wants to be a professor since professors are considered low on the food chain anyways. Maybe they're desperate for me to date since I've always been single and a virgin by choice. So what do I say to them? I'm tired of them trying to say I should date and that being single, and probably not keeping any pets either, means my life will be miserable.

Question: How can I find my dad without him knowing?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 01:25 AM PST

Hi, I'm 19 and my parents recently split up. Long story short, my dad has been cheating on her so about four months ago my dad left home to move into the woman's house. I know, he's really messed up. He told me that he would support us financially since my mom currently doesn't work. But two months later and since then, all of a sudden stopped contacting us, and even his family. My grandma (his mom) last heard from him a month ago that he got a stroke and is in the hospital from text, but we have no idea whether that's true or not since he lied to us many times. Thanksgiving passed, yet there's still no word from him. I texted him numerous times, but I never got a reply and when I call him his phone goes straight to voicemail now. What can I do to possibly find him? I want to contact the police or something but it probably isn't a big deal for them since all I want to know is where he is and how I can contact him. Is there anything I can do to talk about this situation and get help to find him? I am seriously worried about my messed up father and would like to know what happened to him

Question: Should I tell my mom why sister is really upset?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 01:16 AM PST

My mom lately around this time of year has been grumpy because she is a perfectionist and she feels the Christmas tree has not been perfect. This upsets my sister because it makes the rest of us upset that my mom won't just let it go because its the holidays and its not the time to get upset about a tree. When my mom asked me why my sister was upset I just said she had a long week at work which was part of the reason so i was not lying. I don't know if I want to tell my mom the real reason because my sister is already upset and she will know it was me that told. But mainly because I don't know how my mom will react and I don't want to start a fight but if I don't tell mom then they won't work out this problem.

Question: Joanne, could you PLEASE be my sister so we could bang?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 01:14 AM PST

I would adore and love you like no other. Consensual incest is totally fine and I'd love to have you dance for me and as you said we'd have A LOT of fun together! I'd let you get dirty with me and arouse you to the point of no return.

Question: I ve heard my parents have sex in their bedroom, how do I handle this?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 12:35 AM PST

I am of the age of 13, and I am a female. I am a light sleeper, and awoke around 2 AM to my mother and father moaning and laughing, they re bed was creaking and I instantly knew my parents where having sexual intercourse. I know that it s signs of a healthy relationship and all, yet I still feel quite awkward about it considering I m their daughter. Once they finished, I got up to use the bathroom, partially to signal that I was here and didn t want them to start again, and partially because I actually needed to use the restroom. After that my dad came to check on me, they usually do this if I get up in the middle of the night due to the fact I have diabetes and sometimes if I get up something is wrong with that-- anyways, he was overly nice to me considering it was 2 AM, and he sure wasn t tied when he walked into my room. After he checked on me, he went back into his room with my mom. My mom asked why I was up, and continued to ask him if he thought I heard them. They re scared of me hearing them, and I don t want to bring it up, after all this is suppose to be natural, right? I don t really know how to deal with this, it s hard for somebody my age to bring up such an odd topic, especially if it s my parents who I m talking to and if it s my parents who I m talking about. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Question: My parents show favoritism?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 12:27 AM PST

I get the better grades in school, I am respectful to them, I never get in fights at school, etc. yet my sister always throws tantrums at 14 years old, gets in school fights, has bad grades, and is totally disrespectful towards my parents. And she gets her way ever single time. She never gets in trouble, she got an Xbox for her birthday, my parents pay more attention. For me, they ignore my achievements, they didn t get me anything for my birthday :( and they always punish me for my sister s actions. They get so proud of her C on a test but dismiss my perfect scores. I dunno..... They say they don t pick favorites but I see it....

Question: I feel bad for the girl. She's depressed I think I don't know?

Posted: 28 Nov 2015 12:26 AM PST

I work with her parents. I came to their house and they have a girl she seems miserable. She's 19 and everyone in her house ignores her. They don't give her attention at all. So I always talk to her. She always complaining how life is hard. Her family are cheapskates. She always complain to me how everyone is treating her and how life us difficult and how she hates her life and no one cares about her. She said she feels better talking to me and make me promise not to tell. It's just she seem really sad I told her to see a therapist she refused. And I don't see her often maybe 2 times a week.