Family: Question: Should i try to make an effort to be closer to my sister?

Question: Should i try to make an effort to be closer to my sister?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 01:57 PM PST

My older sister always tries to phone keep in touch ,insist i visit her but i dont really want to the reason being since her teenage years shes always surrounded her self with the wrong crowd and always makes really bad life choices .She also can be very reckless at times and always trusts the wrong kind of people. Ifeel very unsafe around her but lately shes being having sum major health problems and i feel guilty for not being closer to her but i also feel that she made her choices and now that shes older its not my fault her life is so difficult.

Question: My dad is acting like the victim when I am?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 01:55 PM PST

I'm 16 and I'm a girl. My mum left me when I was 10 and I've been living with just my dad ever since. I have a sister who's 22 but she left when she was 18 due to university. She's now living with her boyfriend on the other side of the city. Since I was 14, my dad has been abusive towards me. Not sexually or physically, but verbally. Literally everyday my dad shouts and shouts at me. He calls me names. He says how worthless I am and how I will never be successful in life. He calls me fat when I'm not. He calls me ugly and loads more stuff. When I came back from sixth form earlier, all he did was shout at me and call me names for no reason. My brain thought "enough is enough". I shouted at the top of my voice, "I'VE HAD ENOUGH OF YOU DAD. FOR NEARLY 3 YEARS, YOU HAVE BEEN TREATING ME LIKE A PIECE OF SH*T. I'VE REALLY HAD ENOUGH OF THIS. DAD, I AM THROUGH LIVING WITH YOU. YOU CAN GO F**K YOURSELF, YOU VILE SICK B*STARD. YOU ARE MY LEAST FAVOURITE PERSON IN THE WORLD, YOU FAT F**KING C*NT. I AM MOVING OUT AND YOU'RE NOT STOPPING ME." I then packed all my things and I saw my dad shivering like he was come kind of victim. I then went up to him and said "you pathetic stupid old man. I won't miss you... ever!!!" I then slammed the door behind me and left him there. I'm now living with my aunt, uncle and three cousins who are happy to take me in. I've had texts from my dad saying he'll call the police if I don't apologise to him. My dad is acting like the victim when I am?

Question: What to make for my grandma to make her feel welcome?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 01:34 PM PST

My grandma is visiting from Alabama and is staying for two weeks. I want her to welcome her and make something special. She should be here in three hours so something fun, not too time consuming and thoughtful. Additionally, nothing too babish like welcome posters

Question: Why do some people pretend to hate what other people have even though it's clear that they don't hate it?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 12:54 PM PST

Say you get something new, I'll just use a car as an example. And someone makes a rude comment like they don't like it, but it seems more like jealousy because you can hear that odd tone that goes in their voice.

Question: Is 2 years a long time?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 12:45 PM PST

It feels like time is absolutely flying by lately. Only 2 years until I'm 18, and I'm more than ready. I can't wait to get a good job, go to college, and most importantly can't wait to have my own family. I know every teenager wants to be 18 but it's for the wrong reasons. They wanna get into clubs and leave their parents. I honestly can't wait to just have responsibility. And I'd like to be able to help support my mom as she gets older. Is 2 years a long time to you? How do i make it pass quick?! Thanks yall. God bless

Question: Does my mom favor my sister?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 12:36 PM PST

For years, I think my mom has favored my younger sister over me. If you put me, my sister and my mom all in a row, you can see that my sister has a striking resebalance to my mom. I have black hair and blue eyes, and my sister has curly dirty blond hair and hazel eyes, and my mom has curly dirty blond hair and hazel eyes. Whenever we go out shopping, whenever I pick something up my sister snatches it away from me and says something like "oh this would look cute on me!" or my mom would say something like "that's not your size you need to pick something from the plus plus size section." I don't even shop in the plus size section, I don't need too because they're way too big for me. This happens all the time when we're shopping. Any clothes that I get are hand me downs from my sister and cousins and even then they're way too big for me. Not only that, but whenever I buy something for myself, clothes, food, makeup, ect. Mom rips it from me and lectures me that I have to work harder to get whatever it is that I bought. Whenever my sister sees something in the store, she asks mom if she can have it and she says "anything for my baby girl". I can keep going on and on with examples, but I'm seriously thinking that my mom favors my sister over me. Any thoughts?

Question: MY PARENTS ARE EVIL!!!!?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 12:34 PM PST

My sister stays home alone for more than 4 hours a day. The legal age to be home alone is 12. She Is a LONG LONG LONG way away from being 12. She hates being home alone and said she would call the police. My parents got mad and now she cant have her laptop and she is not aloud to go outside or to school. When My parents leave they lock her in a cage like the one below. She is not allowed to eat. She has not eaten or drank for 2 days now. She has to sleep in the cage too. The only time she is free is when BOTH me and my parents are with her. She does not deserve this. Im not allowed to do any thing like her too. I woke up and snuck on the computer to right this please help! Sorry I forgot to put the picture of the cage in. Mrs. Please dont do that I need REAL answers, Thanks Sorry Mrs.! Nothing was wrong, My computer said you said hm! (:

Question: Is it ok to be still taking baths with my mother?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 12:34 PM PST

Question: Why does my entire family dislike me so much :(?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 12:17 PM PST

I'm a 13 year old boy, turning 14 tomorrow. Okay, here is my story. My sisters have a complete distaste for me or whatever I do. My dad completely hates me. He refuses to ever talk to me. He doesn't even refer to me by my name, I'm just "him" when he talks to my mom or siblings. My mom is pretty much in the middle. Most of the time it is, "leave me alone, I don't like you, and I don't want to talk to you". Or even "Get lost, nobody in this family likes you". My dad and sisters never get or sign a card for me on my birthday. My mom usually does this and gets my a small gift, but this year she says that she won't get me a gift, or even sign a card. I think it is hopeless now. :(

Question: Would you dictate over house rules if you owned the house and not give any voice to anyone.?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 11:59 AM PST

Question: My sister is prettier than me and everyone likes her better how can I deal with it?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 11:45 AM PST

She's really pretty and I wish I looked more like her :(

Question: I don t want to go home for Thanskgiving. If I don t my parents will throw a hissy fit. How to avoid the guilt trip?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 11:45 AM PST

My sister s wedding was last weekend and after the snide comments we faced from my mother, my fiance and I got engaged without their permission, I m literally familyed out. Not going will result in my parents acting like I owe them something and throwing complete hissy fits but I just cannot deal with them right now. Also, I recently got a job after being fired a month and a half ago, they offered no support during that time, so there s no financial liability I owe them.

Question: Should my boyfriend spend the holidays with me or his family?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 11:30 AM PST

I have been with my boyfriend for over 6 years. During those 6 years I have spent every holiday at his family s home. I ve made efforts to bond with them but it seems I was the only one interested in forming a relationship so I decided to finally stop trying. I am still cordial but it was too draining to hear my boyfriend complaining about how his family doesn t like me even after all my efforts. So this year I told my bf I would not be spending the holidays with them. In my opinion it is better to spend the holidays alone (my family lives far away) than to spend it with people who could care less if you were there or not. I made a comment about him possibly spending the holidays with me and he shut it down really quick. Was I out of place to ask this of him? We talk about marriage and a family all the time so it worries me that he will always put his family over our potential one. Any advice would be much appreciated!

Question: I stole money from my mom?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 11:24 AM PST

well, im currently a student , my mom have been depressed for several years due to my dad abuse...i remarked that she stopped taking care of herself, i talked to her, but she deosn't seem to care about anything now, so i had no choice , i wanted to change her and make her happyn even if she deosn't care about mme too,, however, i took some money hided inside her closet, and byied a lot of products for her, becausse i know she will never do that, what should i do ? when i gave it to her, he was so happy , i've never seen her like that before and thanked me,but i lied about it, i've said that my friend was selling some products and thoses ones weren't selled, so i took them,,but yesterday, she asked my sister if i stoled money from someone ,,, now she doesnt know , but i feel really BAD ,i just wanted her to tale care of herself , i cant even work to remplace , my parents deosnt allow me to work even a part time job, until i graduate from college,what should i dooo ??? she was "

Question: Is this counted as a sister fight?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 10:50 AM PST

There was this one time years ago, I was probably either 10/11 years old and my older sister Jasmine and I were arguing about something with the computer in our computer room. We were at each other's throats and arguing. Then Jasmine went into the guest room and I followed her there. While she was sitting listening to get iPod, I kept talking sh*t to get face. Then when I got everything off my chest, I got up and walked away and then out if nowhere, Jasmine punched me on the back of my head. Then we started scrapping like crazy in the kitchen. I forgot what happened after that, but I do remember she wanted to permanently make us enemies, but I wanted to make up. We eventually did and I started crying. We both got cut on our finger. So was this counted as a sister fight?? If so, who do you think won and why??

Question: Afraid that my new stepdaughter will not accept me as her new father?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 10:50 AM PST

So, I'll be marrying this wonderful woman a week before Christmas. She was a widow, when her daughter turned one and after long period of mourning and counselling, she decided to accept it and move on. I moved into the neighborhood and eventually met her and her adorable daughter who is now 5. My girl, at times tells me how she feels about missing her late husband and I always give her support. Her daughter seems to like me and lovingly calls me uncle pinkey (pinkey is not my name :P) the child though not knowing her father, yet she is aware that he is in heaven. I'm worried if the child will accept me as her new father, as she for now just sees me as hers and her mommie's best friend and she is very sensitive, like most children. I wonder how she will she react with a new male parent in the house. I don't have children yet, but I'm sure I'm good with kids as I have very younger siblings (they are currently in highschool and I just turned 30) and I may want to have a child or two with my soon to be wife, which will also lead me to wonder how my step daughter will accept this (would she feel abandoned by us if we had children?), as she will be in middle school then, which is also the sensitive years of a growing child. I'm truly excited of our wedding and getting involved my soon to be step daughters life, but will she accept me too?

Question: How to forget?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 10:43 AM PST

My dad used to get drunk and tell me all of this stuff to me when i'd tell him he had to go home (my mom and dad are separated). Negative and heartbreaking things... 5 months on i keep remembering what he said to me. I've told Councillors about it but it's still in my mind. He'd use drugs and bring weird people into our house... i'm only 15... why does this happen to me? How do i erase everything out of my mind?

Question: My parents despise me. Do they just wish I was never born, or am I being over the top?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 10:42 AM PST

I never understood my parents. They just always had this attitude towards me they didn't have towards my siblings. Right now, I'm dealing with some pretty serious financial issues. I'm working two jobs to be able to support myself and it's still not enough for basically anything. I asked my parents for help, and they quite literally shut the door in my face and told me to deal with it alone. It's not like they can't afford to help me, I actually come from a very affluent and wealthy family, surprisingly enough. It has always been like this. When I was 16, I had to get a job, then 2 jobs, because my dad refused to give me any money. I couldn't shop every weekend like my friends did, I couldn't afford expensive cars like them, I couldnt go to fancy restaurants, I couldn't do anything. The money I was making from my jobs was barely enough to cover weekly Friday night outings with my friends. It was so embarassing for me, especially because all my friends got everything they wanted whenever they wanted. Yet my parents did nothing. Literally by the time I was 18 I might as well have been living by myself. It's just so unfair. I really haven't had it easy as a teenager finanically, even though I grew up with wealthy parents. And now they won't help me with anything yet again. Parents are supposed to support you, not leave you hanging. Doesn't it sound to you guys like these two people just wish I was never born?

Question: How to convince my dad to let me do YouTube.?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 10:39 AM PST

Hey guys so a few months back I started my YouTube channel. I LOVE everything about it and I was gaining subscribers quick. Then one day my dad "accidentally" found out about my YouTube channel. (My dad always snoop on my social media and always use the I'm a old person that don't know what I'm doing and I accidentally got in your social media account excuse). He told me to stop doing it. When I asked him why, he said it was because I should not be focusing on fame I should be focusing on school. He told me that I can do it when I graduate from college after I get a college degree. I want to do YouTube now. I love it do much and it is helping lose weight and it has become my #1 hobby. How can I convince him to let me do it. I'm 19 btw. I know some people will say "you are an adult you can do what you want. You don't have to listen to your parents all the time" but I have been getting into a lot of arguments with my dad lately and I don't want to have another problem btwn us on top of all the other disagreements we had that is not resolved yet..

Question: What is the age limit?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 10:35 AM PST

So me and my partner wants to move to mexico to be closer to his family but he is 19 and i am 16 turning 17 in July... can I go down there without my mom call the cops to take me back home? Even with an 19 year old adult? And me being only 16/probably turning 17? But without any parents just me and him... please don't judge it's only an questions and I need help

Question: Do you think this was too harsh?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 10:28 AM PST

Background info: My dad is no longer part of my life, and I somewhat hate him for being abusive and cruel to the family. I'm low key glad he's gone. Okay, so he recently found me on social media (twitter) and he followed me. He sent me a tweet but when I say the notification, I didn't open the tweet. I blocked him without reading what he had to say. Do you think I was a bit rude for that or is that justified.

Question: I hate my father?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 09:37 AM PST

I hate my father... when i was 6 years old my parents divorced and my dad and his evil sisters deceived me and the authorities about my mother i was really confused but i remember one day my mom was cleaning the house when i was young he came back from his sister house and threw garbage can all over our house and then chocked my mother he stopped but she called the police they imprisoned him only for 1 day... fast forward few months they divorced and my father and his sisters manged to deceive everyone including me on how my mother vandalized our house and stole money (very stupid accusations i don't know how anybody believed it including me but i was 6...) and he had expensive very good lawyer too so basically he won me over my mother through false accusations and deceit now i am 22 but i am living with him i want to move away from him i hate him so much i cant stand his cowardly nature and i get deep depressions from knowing that he is my father if i were to find out that my mom cheated on him and i am bastard child i would be extremely HAPPY he ruined my life and my mother life I want to move away from him and change my surname to my mother surname its hard to do because i am demoralized from living only with him 16 years he is not aware that i know about his lies but i figured them all out and i have enough proof any tips on how i should proceed in my situation ?

Question: My mother doesn't want to cook...How should I explain her?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 08:48 AM PST

So my mom , who curently doesn't want to work(since 6 months or more) due to cosiness, Since a while she started complaining about making food and the fact that she's all tired of making food ,arguing that i eat too much .(which is not true at all because i'm not fat at all ,tho i practice basketball and hit the gym). So then she didn't want to make dinner so I told her that i can't understand How a mother wouldn't want to cook for her only child. For me ,it's like she wouldn't care at all... But when she heard that ,she just closed the door in front of me, and after a while ,all angry,went to make some real quick sauce for spaghetti. Meanwhile , she had her earphones in her ears, so when i wanted to talk to her, she just ignored me. Therefore i pulled them out, and she was all like 'go away' and then she shouted for my dad like ' Come here and take him from here ,or else i will smack HIM' . How can I make her understand that what she does is so wrong?? It's like she wouldn't even care, plus the fact that she doesn't respect me enough to even listen to what I have to say. But then if I do the same, she gets pissed of and i'm the one suffering in the end...

Question: Can a 8year old boy share same bed with mom after divorce in California?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 08:46 AM PST

Question: Have you ever done anything stupid when you was a small child?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 08:39 AM PST

I mean have you ever trying to follow what the older kids and adults do and you end up doing it the wrong way? For instance me and my sister was staying at my grandsons when we were real small. I was about 5 and my younger sister was 4. Anyways me and my sister was outside of my grandma's house and my older cousins who was teenagers were outside to. So my teenage cousins found some pecans on the ground because my grandparents had a pecan tree nearby. So my older cousins pick some pecans and started eating them and me and my sister since we were very young, we couldn't figure out what they just picked up and ate. So my sister started to pick something up and it was a white rock lol so she bit into it and started crying lol. I didn't see her pick it up I just heard her screaming and crying and when I turned and looked at her I see a white rock in between her teeth. So my older cousins picked her up and open her mouth and yanked the rock out and they took my sister inside the house and my aunt was telling not to put things and your mouth again. Lol now I'm 33 and she's 32 but that was some memories.

Question: Can "love of my life" be used for parents?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 08:30 AM PST

For example, if your dad or mom passed away...could you say they were "the love of my life"? Or is that more of a husband/wife thing?

Question: My mom got married..... Twice without telling me. Is she twisted?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 08:26 AM PST

My parents got a divorce when I was 9. My mom won the custody battle and made it so I could not see my father again. She was in the army. A few years after the divorce, my mom sent me to live with my grandparents. Her reasoning was because she was getting deployed. I believed her and went to live with them. I hated it there and had no friends and my grandparents close to ignored me. I told my mom that everyday she called. She came to visit me and brought a boyfriend named James. I just assumed they worked together or something and we're just dating. She got relocated to Louisiana I went to live with her.. And James came too. Which confused me. Apparently while I was gone and she got "deployed" they had gotten married. They had been out partying, having fun, vacations, friends... Etc. I was livid. She'd lied to me. She and James get a divorce. Im back living with my grandparents. She's living in Louisiana still. She meets a man named Stanley and they get married while they're living there before I've even met him. I just saw pictures of them together. She moves in with me and my grandparents after she retires from the Army. He visits frequently and again I thought they were just dating. Until I saw her sign a piece of paper with her last name and his put together. I confront her and she says they just had a small gathering for a wedding at a courthouse.

Question: How to cope with your parents getting divorced?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 08:24 AM PST

My brother and I are handling the situation greatly but my 11 year old little sister is having a hard time. What should I do?

Question: I need some help from controlling myself not to cry. Anyone got some advice?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 07:23 AM PST

My dad had to leave to Mexico, yet he cant come back. He just left last night and everything he touched brings back memories. It really saddens me because I cant focus on anything but my dad.

Question: Why does my mom say I suck at singing but my grandma says I'm amazing?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 06:26 AM PST

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Question: How i deal with my boyfriends drug crazy mom hating me?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 05:58 AM PST

i think she is crazy because she used to be addicted to meth. but she hates me for no reason. ive been with her son 4 years. his dad loves me. but his mom and sister hate me. my boyfriend says his sister is jelious of me and his mom weirdly is too. how do i deal with this im only 16. i really cant think of one thing ive done to make her hate me other than be with her son. and its not like im some terrible person or a hoe bag. he was and is my first boyfriend ever. she is like. he was at bootcamp for the millitary and i sent him some taisful photos she was digging threw his mail opened my letter to him and showed his whole family pictures of me naked. WHO DOSE THAT! so thats when my boyfriend and his dad said she is jelious of you. and resently his mom decited to be a cyber bully and trash my family because my boyfriend asked me not to give her his number so we did not. and she is trashing us on fb now. so he is not talking to her again. but how do i deal with this. she is beyond crazy

Question: My parents are yelling at me and hitting me and punishing me what should i do?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 05:50 AM PST

i am 18 years old and a senior in high school, my parents took my phone away for i dont know how long and there yelling at me saying that im not working hard to fix my grades so i can graduate but i am. i ride horses and they said i cant horseback ride for a whole month, i have two younger brothers that have worst grades then me and they dont get yelled at what so ever. my dad has said he is going to kick me out of the house and he has called me cuss words. everytime they yell at me it makes me want to kill myself i dont know what to do anymore.......

Question: Why does my dad yell at me or punish me if I stay home from school because I'm sick?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 05:44 AM PST

I'm usually going to school on time and everything. I'm in 7th grade, seems like a cliche on here but why does he do that? I was throwing up a bit before this question was asked and I'm having diarrhea as I type. He said he won't buy me the game I want now (Small price to pay for my health) and thinks this is BS.

Question: Am I selfish?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 05:36 AM PST

My son is 5 and has always lived with his maternal grandmother but now I want to fight for custody. I don't know him well and I dont like the way shes been raising him but if he lives with me I can change that. I barely get to see him. He doesnt want to live with me when I ask him but he will get used to it. My wife doesn't want to have custody of him (she is not his mom) she does everything for me. Wakes me up takes me to work picks me up makes my lunch makes my dinner cleans makes sure I get everything done and shes saying it's going to be mostly responsibility for her but I think shes just being selfish. Him living with us isnt going to change much for her. What she has to take him to school and pack an extra lunch and cook a little more dinner? Big deal! I want my son.

Question: Is it normal for a 20-year-old to kiss his mother good night every night? I think he's the next Norman bates?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 05:32 AM PST

I think I have at home the next Norma and Norman Bates!!! He is my stepson but he is way into his mother and sometimes I think even wants to sleep with her. He hardly has any friends he doesn't leave his room he does have a job but his mother won't let him man up or have me man him up so that he can get to and from work without counting on her all the time. I can barely go on dates with my wife because she would have to either pick him up at work or drop them off. When my wife gets home from work this boy will be the first want to greet her at the door like a lost puppy. Before I her husband can ask her how her day went he will beat me to it and act like her husband. If we do manage to go out he will ask her what did she have for dinner and what movie did she see. I feel like I have no privacy with her at all

Question: Step mom despises me.?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 05:23 AM PST

So, I recently was working full time and was pregnant. Then I wrecked my brand new car, almost lost the baby, and lost my job. My dad and step mom asked me to move in with them. I was weary of moving in with them because they argue so much. I now am still without a job and I asked for $40 so I could get me some groceries. My step mom had the nerve to say, "When is your baby due? Your priorities are so far out of order it's sad. You should already be working by now. You do not have a disability. You do not seem concerned about getting a job" when I have a interview tomorrow at 1pm. But what she doesn't realize is it's extremely hard to get a job at 21 weeks pregnant within walking distance because I no longer have a car. She says she will not allow my dad to support me and she will not support me. If I get this job I am moving out ASAP. I want opinions on what I should do in this situation. My dad knows what she says to me and he doesn't nothing about it.

Question: Depression hit me like a truck and my parents are putting me under so much Pain and **** in my life? Help please! Please don't ignore me!!?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 04:41 AM PST

I'm 17 years old girl. I'm homeschooled studying SAT only.I've been depressed for 5 years now.I wanna run out of this house.I can't take it anymore, my parents are always giving me negative news,complaining about lots of stuff, extremely stricted, abusive (specially dad).I want to start a YouTube Channel& become a singer. I have the talent. I believe I can make it thorugh but my parents will kill me if I did it.I think this is the only way that'll make me happy and smile but I'm scared. I live in fear. yesterday I went shopping for a jacket for winter, while I was searching for a jacket,I liked something but I wasn't planning to buy it or anything so I told my mom it looks nice and then they said it won't fit you because you're fat. They can't call me fat while I've been dieting for 4 months and I made a huge change from obese to Normal/Healthy.&they call me fat?! They always compare me to my older brother because he has a higher GPA. They always compare me with my brother on Everything. As for college I'm not allowed to go to a private and they want me to go to governmental while my brother is in a private college because guess what? He's a Boy & I'm a girl.he's more important than me. I'm not allowed to hang out with boys. I'm not allowed to have my own Fashion style.I'm stuck between 4 walls 24/7 studying. My dad keeps fighting on anything! I'm so done with them. Sometimes i pray to God for death. I used to Cut myself in the past.Kindly someone advice me what to do! Thanks

Question: Why doesn't my baby's dad want a DNA?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 04:37 AM PST

I gave birth to the most beautiful little girl a little over 8 weeks ago. She's my best friends baby. But he doesn't believe me. He's grew a bond with the baby and always tells me he wishes he could be her dad. But when I tell him he is, he tells me I'm lying.. I suggested a DNA but he refused it because he 'knows he isn't the dad and doesn't want that to be confirmed'.. He's happy providing for her and he's such a great dad. Should I just leave it? What do I do???

Question: How many believe that there are really "monster-in-laws"out there? Or am I just crazy?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 04:21 AM PST

the mothering & smothering never ends, the sarcasm, shaming, blaming, telling me how to raise my kids, even my dog how to clean, iron, do washing, belittling me in front of her & my direct family telling everyone "Im such a slob", causing fights between myself & my partner, & then she comes to play "referee"....Im so tired, feels like she's trying to give me a mental, physical & emotional breakdown

Question: Do my parents love my sister more than me?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 04:10 AM PST

I think my mom loves my sister more than me Whenever I ask her about clothes in the morning for school to see if it matches and she s like your going to have to wait but she s all over my sister and my sister is 8 and don t have to do chores but I have dishes clean the bathroom which is 2x bigger than my mom s clean the room where I share with my sister. And my sister has more clothes than I need more jeans so I wear the same ones about twice three times a week my sister doesn t. My dad makes me do stuff for him when im sick to do for my sister when I don t even want to get up because I sick. Like my family treats me like their personal slave practically all the time I always thought they didn t care about me but only my little sister

Question: Why does my mom want me to be punctual for everything?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 03:51 AM PST

My mom is obsessed with always being on time for EVERYTHING. She gets really pissed off if I'm late for anything. Why can't she realize that I do things at my own pace? And no, don't tell me to start getting ready earlier.

Question: Is it common for brothers and sisters to kiss at a young age?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 03:17 AM PST

When me and my brother were young, we did it too. Just out of curiosity and yes, we do regret it and feel weird about it xD

Question: I found this in my 7 year old daughters room...?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 03:04 AM PST

So while my daughter was staying at a friends place for the day, I cleaned her room, and in the process I found a small notebook and thought there'd be drawings in it so I opened it..... And there were poems... That scared me- "Something I saw made me this way" "I'm scared of what I'll do the next time I forget, but at the same time I don't care" I really need some help with what I should do...

Question: My family cages me in the house then complains that I'm antisocial and rigid around others?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 03:01 AM PST

Ever since moving to the U.S (I was 12, now 19) I basically lost all my outgoing life. I wasn't allowed to the movies in 7 and 8 grade. In high school only went to the movies with 3 friends who my parents met. I found out my 2 best friends would go out without ever inviting me since they know Im not allowed. I spent my sweet 16 locked in the bathroom crying because my dad found out I was texting a guy (flirting) and was furious. My 17 birthday my mom did a 'surprise party' 2 friends and my grumpy grandma. 18th birthday I was in a dental appointment no gathering, and 19th my family asked my little cousin to choose what to do and basically it was like any other dinner.. my parents want me to be outgoing and socialize and like parties (events by church) but won't let me go out on Halloween or to friends' birthday parties. Then they complain that I don't know how to coexist with others and that I need to stop being uptight and cold (aka make friends in church and dance to music I hate) . I seriously missed out on my youth , I feel trapped and dependent. I feel like I will die and no one will remember me and I wouldnt have done anything to tell my kids about. Sometimes I feel like doing something reckless and stupid just to feel alive but I'm so trapped (physically and mentally ) that I don't want to lose my family's trust, and lose more freedoms. I hate how just cuz I'm a girl my parents keep me from living life. My 2 brothers have so much better social lives what do I do?

Question: Dropping negative people , even if some are family . But you find that you feel you are disappointing god, more than the people you drop.?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 01:55 AM PST

Actually I am not mad, mad, just upset about people who are negative and have no interest in being anything else . So I just blocked numbers, not even going to really say much about it too them . I don't want a sorry .the strike is personal from them . Ranges from my daughter getting married and I have not been told because I was a teenager and as a couple we made mistakes .my brother opening up my mail and called someone and now a lawyer is in charge of the money. I'm not mad at that, it was the blabbering to others who don't matter because of one thing or another .

Question: Mother often finds fault in me,notwithstanding that it is nothing as big?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 01:06 AM PST

I'm 15 years old. I have three siblings and am the youngest. So just the foregoing day,I felt overwhelmed by uncertainty as I attempted at writing out replies and comments in English (I'm an Asian). Thus I became so worn out and my mother noticed my condition,but she didn't ask at first. The following moment I sat next to her as she viewed old messages on her phone. She asked me out what was wrong. But I refused to tell because I knew what would she say then. The moment I spoke out my problem,she laughed it off and told me that I have mental disorders. That wasn't the first time,she often labels me as most insolent among brothers whereas I just back myself up from her allegation. She loves to bring forth small matters into lengthy brawl and alas expects me to undergo what she had during her teenage years. How do I deal with this? (Apology for the lengthy introduction)

Question: Is it bad my uncle watches porn?

Posted: 20 Nov 2015 12:30 AM PST

My uncle(not blood related) hes my aunt husband. He works in the evening and come home from work around 4-5 am earliest i saw him come home was 1am. Due to insomnia im up late and always upstairs while hes downstairs. When he come back from work he get his food go watch ballgame then when he done hes on the computer. I found out he watches porn when i was going downstairs to get my art supplies and i turn my head to my left and saw the screen but he hurry up and turn it aside acting like he was fixing something. So i went back upstairs. Sometimes i can hear it like i cant hear it at all then he turns it up like rlly loud to the point u can hear it. I remember i was searching something up in google search and saw what he typed to watch it. Is it bad he watches porn? it sometimes bothers me bc i feel disgusted

Question: Is my daughter being molested?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 11:57 PM PST

My daughter is 1, shes 17 mo. We have recently had some one move into the house with us a couple months ago. He takes our daughter into the garage sometimes w him bc she wants him to , and that is where his room is,its connected to the house the door is always open. My mom and dsd watch my daughter at night whike me and her dad work. (Mom and dad live with us also) . Ive noticed hes got a little more comfortable around the house and that he has sat my daughter on his lap facing him , which i stopped when i saw it. My daughter is touching her private more (but also may be bc of her age) a couple times the inner part of her private has been red and looked irritated but her dad said it may just be a diaper rash coming on . and my boy cousin also is here while im at work too , and ive noticed hes more demanding with her than he used to be. I dont see much of whats going on and i feel like i barely see her the hours that i work A mother has her instincts and gut feelings. And i feel them

Question: Can anyone show me a picture example of children whose parents are both hapa?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 11:32 PM PST

I am half asian, and I want to see how 2/4 th asian look. (2 parts asian from 2 countries, european, ameerican)

Question: Strict parents wont allow me to attend a concert at 19 years old- I need advice!?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 11:31 PM PST

As you can imagine, its frustrating being raised by strict parents. Mine were always more strict than others in a religious way. Everybody has that one celebrity they are crazy for, and to me, that person is Abel Tesfaye, AKA: The Weeknd. I have been dying to see him perform in concert for as long as I can remember. Yes, I do still live with my parents and I respect the fact that I have to follow their rules even if I disagree. I asked my mom to let me go to the concert in Atlanta with a group of friends to be safe. She agreed to let me go UNTIL she looked up his music. That is when she decided not to let me go and the ONLY reason is because he has foul language in his songs. Keep in mind I am 19 years old. I can't let that stop me from going to the concert! I just think it's ridiculous that she wont let me go simply because of the lyrics, when she has watched plenty of rated R movies in her lifetime. I am so angry at her ignorance. She says he is "too sexual" and she "doesn't want me to be exposed to that filth." I am a responsible person! I don't plan on drinking or doing drugs at the concert. Am I being completely unreasonable as a daughter? I would truly love to know the honest answer from people. I know my parents care about me but it is frustrating. What do you think? Is it reasonable for me to ask her to let me go, or not? Is she doing the right thing, or is she being ridiculous? I have no idea but I would love to hear what other people think, especially parents.

Question: My mom wants to leave my dad?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 11:04 PM PST

I just recently turned 21 and my mom finally decided to tell me the truth. She wants to leave my dad because he cheated on her in the past and she feels like he's doing it again. My dad doesn't let no one near his phone and it makes me worried if it is true. I told my mom that I'm moving out because I think it's time for me, and she told me she wanted to go with me because she can't be with my father. I'm so sad because I've always been a daddy's girl and now I can't even look at him since my mom told me everything about him. I'm so angry and I want to confront him but it will start so much drama. What should I do, I wanna take my mom with me but I don't wanna leave my dad. God please someone help.

Question: What is his relationship to the baby?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 10:45 PM PST

Okay, so my best friend has a REALLY weird family situation. When his parents got together, his mother already had a daughter from a previous relationship. His parents didn t work out, and split up a few years ago. His father is now currently expecting a child with .y best friend s half-sister. The two of us are trying to figure out if he is supposed to call this baby his sibling, or his niece or nephew, but neither of us know the proper answer. Do any of you?

Question: What does hispanic mean?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 10:34 PM PST

I got some papers from my school that have information about me, and it says that I am a "13 year old hispanic male" what does hispanic even mean?

Question: How can some mothers let their children be abused?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 10:21 PM PST

Letting their boyfriend's verbally harrass or even physically abuse their kids, or even the child's father. I have this friend whose father molested her and her mother ignored it, then got a new bf who also abused her and her sister. Wtf? What kind of WOMAN?! Let alone a MOTHER? This angers me to a point of exhaustion, makes breayhing hard, when I hear about these kinds of thing I get sick, it hurts my stomach. I'm about to be a mother and I already put my baby first before anything and anyone, I have made it perfect tly clear to my husband that her needs come first and he agrees. What kind of people can let that happen to their own children ? I really cannot understand this guys. These people need to be put in jail, the moms too for allowing this to happen. No, the moms ESPECIALLY. THAT IS YOUR BABY WOMAN. Whose with me??

Question: Why do I feel such a special connection when I meet certain people for the first time?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 10:20 PM PST

Why does this always happen to me? It's nothing bad it's just weird. I'm a girl/17. Like ever since I was very little I'd always feel an attachment to some people, it wasn't just any person, it'd just be someone I meet; and right off the bat when I met them I'd feel something special towards them. Like in 2nd grade, I was so in love with my teacher (Mrs.Marback) like I always wanted to be around her and tell her I loved her and always wanted to just show her she was special to me. Or another example, I had a new principle (mr.simon) at a new school, I just had a special feeling toward him. I wanted to get recognized by him and be around him and just make him proud, show him that he had a big impact on my life. I met my moms friends dayla and I just loved her so much, always wanted to be around her & have her attention & show her I really cared for her. My last example, I met my hairstylist a year ago (Johnson) he just met so much to me the moment I met him. Why is this?? Why do I feel this special feeling toward certain people I meet? Like they feel special to me right away and I don't know why. Help?

Question: I m 14 and my stepdad is mean to me but not in an authoritative way. I wanna teach him a lesson that won t get me in trouble. What do I do?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 10:03 PM PST

I m 14 and my stepdad is mean to me and my mom tries to tell him to stop when he yells at me and gets in my face or does anything too extravagant but he doesn t listen. He has trashed my room looking for silverware? And he says that he can take whatever he wants and do whatever he wants with it if it s under his roof and I can t do anything about it. I m sick of his crap, so what should I do? Please help me.

Question: What can I do now?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 10:01 PM PST

She is my mother and honestly, I don't know how to make her happy. I'm trying my best to live my life in happiness but she makes it all about her. Before my brain surgery, she didn't want me to get it even though my neurologist put a big percentage on surgery being successful. Since I was 19, I went ahead for myself and signed paperwork. Now that I am cured, she just doesn't know what to throw at me. Just recently I am being told that I have to clean around the house. And I get that. But there is my sibling of 13 years of age who isn't being made to do anything. Something of which at his age, I'd be doing. Cleaning the house, cleaning my room and even being taught how to wash clothes and cook. I learned but how come with chores it's still the same? How come she can't add my sibling into it the same way she made me do things at his age?

Question: My mom has no trust in me?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 09:25 PM PST

I cant do anything! I have to sneak to wear mascara because im not confident without! All i want is to be ALOUD to wear bb cream powder and mascara but my moms to stubborn. I wasnt wearing anything today but i have dark circles under my eyes and i just got out the shower and my mom storms up to me looks me dead in the eye and gets her fave really close to mine and starts yelling and saying she knows im wearing makeup. She proceeds to storm into my room take all my lip gloss (which im aloud to wear) and throws it all away. I BOUGHT ALL OF IT WITH MY HARD EARNED MONEY (i do extra chores for my sister she pays me and i help train my friends puppy and she pays me) Im thirteen and have tried to reasonably explain that im not asking a large request and that im growing up and need privlages. I cant even walk my dog or go to my mailbox without my mom one foot away from me (not even exaggerating) I get straight b's in school dont do anything bad and i just feel trapped i live across the street from my school and my mom has to drive me because she thinks im going to ditch or get hit. I can't have an instagram anymore because i got 200 followers (all people i know) and she thinks im a slut. My dads chill but if i ask him something around my mom and he says yes my mom will convince him not to let me. I cant even go to the mall down the street from me with a group of friends without her being their! I get having rules and limitations but come on! I'm 13 its 2015 And I need some freedom!

Question: Girls: Can you help me?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 09:13 PM PST

MThere's this girl who I have had a crush on abc I've thought that she was a "bad girl" but I'm beginning to think she's not. We hung out the other day and she told me that she was really hurt. There is this little boy who she babysits that she absolutely adores and idolizes. She was out at a restaurant with a couple of her girlfriends a few weekends ago and she saw him and his parents. The thing is, she smoked cigarettes and had just smoked one with her friend when they came back in and saw him. He ran over and gave her a big hug and kiss and everything and she said when they got done talking she overheard him telling his parents that she smelled funny and they told him she was a smoker and to never pick up the habit. She was also wearing a shirt that showed off a little bit of her midriff and her hip tattoo was showing and she felt embarrassed that they saw it. She told me that she feels so humiliated and such a bad person. Because of this, she threw away her cigarettes and tried to quit smoking. She said she has not had a cigarette in three weeks and the cravings have gotten unbearable she she desperately wants one. What do you think about her? Is she a good girl?

Question: My mom keeps interrupting and asking what I'm doing and it annoying as hell?

Posted: 19 Nov 2015 09:11 PM PST

i was just taking a photo for this game on my iPhone and its harmless and i don't even do things i see on tv and I'm 23 years old