I am 55 years old and have watched those that I have grown with get married and have kids of whom are now college age. I feel like I have missed a part of my life. Have I don wrong in not getting married and raising a family. Or better yet will it ever happen/

I'm married and we are three months away from having our first and last baby(per my wife). According to my wife she hates the process, she is not completely sure she wants a kid but she's doing it. The other fact about our relationships - my wife doesn't care about sex. If it would be up to her we wouldn't have any at all. This question has been an issue for us on multiple occasions and she'd say - go find someone on a side who can feel that need of yours. I don't think she means it. So you can imagine it is easy to fell a bit for someone outside of your relationships. So I did....I think. A co-worker. She is 35 (I'm 30 and my wife is 34), divorced several years ago, recently out of 6-year relationships. She is awesome, really nice and fun lady to be around with. Lately we've moved from just chatting once in a couple of weeks to pretty much texting each other throughout the day. To top that off we are having a Christmas party soon in my company and we both didn't have a +1, so I proposed to go together as each other's date and she agreed. I do plan to go this party with her and I plan to let my wife know I have a date for that event. I'm just not sure whether this is my pre-parenthood freak out or something more that's been building on the base of sexual unsatisfaction throughout the years with my wife. What do you think I should do and do you agree with one of my friends who warned me that I might be having innocent fun, but I'm planning with fire.

I was so in love with my husband 4 years ago. The chemistry was there, we had the same interests, the same goals. I thought he was the one who would make me happy for the rest of my life. Well I took the plunge and got married even though deep inside I wanted to wait it out, feeling like I just wanted to ejoy what we had and really be sure that he was what I wanted. Of course he was the one I wanted deep down but I was hesitant and ended up saying yes anyways. Well I got pregnant and we were so happy to welcome a baby girl. And I'll admit my pregnancy hormones were off the wall and I was very very emotional, one min sobbing next yelling and throwing stuff. Total nighmare!! Well after a month of having my daughter I found that he had a meet me account ( for those who don't know, it's more of a dating site/ app then a meet new friends app) and that was totally heartbreaking for me. I wanted to leave and he's crying to me not too and that he wouldn't lie and put everything on the table. My dumb butt believed him of course but he lied. Straight to my face, lied. I found out months later that he had a ashley madison account and supposedly couldn't turn it off since he old no longer get into his email. Not a stable lie. my inlaws convinced me to stay and they would talk some sense into him. They swear nothing happened but I don't believe this, I mean he lied to me why not them!? Now 4 mnths prego, feeling I am being stuck with baby work to stay runningoutofspace2explainmore

I need an answer or advice: my stepson ask a favor to his dad if he can go with him to watch football and I said "oh okay" but kinda don't want to do it but I have no choice and a month later when the date of football even getting closer, I didn't realized that his mom is going too ( ex wive)...is that crazy? My stepson is 18 1/2 yrs old and had a disease and this is his wish to watch football together with his parents not just a dad but a mom too... And my husband didn't tell me anything about the ex's going and I'm glad I found thru text from my stepson text and read those text message to my husband and emails if not I am blind to the hell... Would you agree to let your husband go with them and hangout for the whole day and night with them and act or pretend like a family...

Does the Texas department of public safety recognize informal marriage? My husband and I just filed for decleration of informal marriage the other day and I want to change my last name to his. We are now legally married.

I am doing a Sociology paper on the topic of how far a man will go to be with a woman he loves. So I need opinions from real people. ----With that being said: Some people say "If a man truly loves another woman, he would have already left his wife." Let's say a married man is more passionate about her and she makes him happier than his wife. Is it possible that although he is in love with this other woman, he still stays with his wife? Please explain the reasons why. Thank you!

Some people say "Oh if a man truley loves another woman, he would have already left his wife." Let s say a married man has fallen in love with another woman. He is more passionate about her and she makes him happy. Is it possible that although he is in love with this other woman, he still stays with his wife?

My vagina has been itchy for the past three days and has only gotten worse. Border -line unbearable. It also has small bumps on the inside lips and it's a darkish red color. It's painful and burns when I pee as well. I was wondering what this could be? I know it's most likely a yeast infection but I had pregnancy scare a while back. I did end up getting my period but it was a week late. I haven't been physical with my boyfriend for a month. I'm nervous W and scared because I know yeast infections become more common with pregnancies. I also know having your period doesn't always mean you're not pregnant. Please help. I need reassurance before I talk to my mom. I'm only 15.

My husband has been getting so angry and at times over exaggerates. He yells at me and at times calls me hurtful names. I don t know why he acts this way.

My husband and I are currently TTC, and I'm just wondering what it will be like to give birth (once I'm pregnant, of course.) And I know I may be a little ahead of myself, but do you recommend giving birth with or without an epidural? Does the epidural take away from the experience? How bad does it hurt without it?

My husband doesn t buy me gifts. If I ask for it, he will hand me his card and say go buy it for yourself. Not willingly though. He doesn t spend anything on himself either. He has never bought me a single gift since we got married. Not even on the wedding day. I gave him many many gifts. He expects me to share all bills with him. We decided to put 3000 each in a common account for monthly expenses, mortgage and house related expenses. When we bought a house he took a loan from his company for which he pays 2000 every month. So he puts only 1000 in our common account. He earns much more than me. He has all his investments under his mothers name. When we go with his friends for dinner, he expects for me to pay for my bill. Is it normal. Then pays from our common account. It s been 2 years since we are married. From last one year we never had sex. He asks me to get naked and jerks off and sleeps. No kissing no foreplay. . He says men don t like foreplay. We do cuddle, watch movies together, show affection etc. Is this normal

This guy is very over-protected. He has issues with his wife to the point where they only fight during the weekends. She comes home from work like on friday nights and he starts acussing her of not atuall going to work and being with a man (not true). This lasts all the weekend and then on Mondays, he is fine. Which is weird. He gets mad at her because she doesn't call him while she's working during the day. She has to let him where she goes in order to be "communicated." He also checks her phone, and takes it away from her when they argue. This happens every weekend out of nowhere.. What does this mean? What should she do?

My divorce is fairly simple. We do not own land, vehicles or have any bank accounts together. Just 2 children who he hasn t wanted anything to do with at all. He was served the papers and didn t respond in time. So the legal assistance fellas told me I can go for a default divorce but it could take from 6 months to 18 months. I ve been seperated from my ex for almost 4 years so I ve moved on and am engaged to a wonderful man. We are wondering what determines how long it ll take? Really hoping it doesn t take 18 months... :/ thanks everyone. Legal stuff isn t my cup of tea.

So I have always had a bad smell, from my vagina. And I don't know why. First off it doesn't matter how many times I have a shower. I still smell. And I don't have a thrush problem, or being itchy there either. And I've already been too the doctor about it. Well I should say the nurse. Cause I had a smear test done. And got tested for bv I think it's called. Both normal, and fine. Now this time, I have too go back there.. To get tested again, this time for everything. And I have to also have a blood test done. So what could possibly be wrong... By the way I'm still young 22 + and married. Y would I have a std or a sti. Doesn't make sense, cause I don't have discharge. Only sometimes, like when I'm ovulating... Also I'm finding it impossible to get pregnant, we can have sex.. And nothing happens.. I have a appointment this week. So anyway what could be possibly wrong with me?

so yesterday me and my wife had an argument about whether or not she should have a fat removal surgery or now not. She said that she didn't feel comfortable with the way she looked, and was suggesting a fat removal surgery. Since we've been married for only 2 months now, I suggested that we should save money for our own apartment, car first and then we can work on her fat removal surgery. I understand she doesn't feel comfortable with the way she looks, but I fell in love with her when she didn't look any different so I really wouldn't mind if she didn't choose to have any surgery. Plus, she's not really fat but more chubby so it's not for health purposes. After I explained to her that we should first get our priorities straight and then work on her surgery (I'm, myself, planning on saving money for our own needs instead of getting a new phone/ laptop) she got really upset/mad and said that i was just bringing her negative energy. Do you guys think that she has the right to feel this upset with me? do you think that i should support her decision to get her surgery now? please help!!

So I was talking about marketing and realestate with long distance bf, and he says that the price of homes looks expensive in foreign countries because they are trying to rip you off, but for the people that live there, they can find homes for cheaper.... Then he compares it to escorts (hookers). Saying that the escort ads run to about 200 an hour, but then these same girls put that they are charging 20 bucks an hour for locals. I asked him how he knew and he said he was looking up escorts in Ukraine and then they were expensive so he did more digging and then looked at it through a way were it would show it like a person living in Ukraine, and it was like 20 bucks... for the same girl. When I get upset he is like "Oh shut up, it's in Ukraine, it's thousands of miles away, Jesus." Now, he has looked up escorts on backpages before (18/ teenage girls) he is 40. He says he just "looks" but doesn't hire anyone... but he does on these sites on a monthly basis...

A couple weeks ago, my wife asked if her sister, brother-in-law and nephew could "come for Christmas." Keep in mind that they visit throughout the year and take over the house when they do. I said "no." I like spending Christmas alone with my immediate family. (I also have no problem if they come after or before Dec 25th.) She asked again a few nights ago. I said "no" again. Just a few minutes ago, she informed me that they were coming for "Christmas dinner", and then spend the night and next few days with us. I guess technically in her mind, just coming for Christmas dinner doesn't count as coming for Christmas. Who's right?

I got dumped by my wife via email while I was 1400 miles away on a work assignment. She cc's her attorney on the email and tells me she was blocking my text messages. This was in August. I got back and got an attorney and filed before she did. Mind you, it was a realization that she betrayed and cheated on me at least 17 months prior, though she played along to get along, visited me on the work assignment and the like. And we are in our 50's so wild oats should have been sown. She was a coward for the way she handled this. Our final court date was earlier in the week and I didn't contest anything for I wanted it over. She comes over to me before we go into the courtroom and tells me how good I look and she was about to say something else, but I must have given her a look for she stopped trying to talk to me and went into the courtroom. She had extended her hand to me not as though to shake it, but to hold it. This is from a person who told me not to contact her again and on the 1 phone call I made to her after I received the email, she yelled "I don't love you that way!" Didn't beg, nor plead or anything like that. I don't have her, but I will have my dignity. 7 year relationship, she tells me she has moved on, but reaches out in court. Why would I take the hand of a woman who left me for another man?

we drove up to his grandparents to pick our kid up. his grandma told him to take me back home so him and her could go out to eat. (she hates my guts and won't allow me in her house) So he did, now he won't answer his phone even though he told me he'd text me when he got there.

My wife ex in laws and ex husband are causing problems. She has kids with her ex and the in laws watch them sometimes while she is at work. It has come at a price. They are very passive and insist in inserting themselves in her life without me included. Whenever there is a holiday they insist on going to her family's house still and guilt her into inviting them so she backs down and they come along. Granted they no longer speak to their own family so have nowhere else to go. Her ex husband will even yell at her if he does not get his way, his parents are nicer but more passive aggressive. I end up going to my own families instead just to avoid the awkwardness. They are also always voicing how they wish her and her ex got along better and were closer because of the kids. On top of that the father in law always likes all of her photos on Facebook except the ones I am in. He even likes the ones where she is by herself dressed up. Creepy. He doesn't have a life or a significant other since him and his wife divorced a while back (he cheated on her) I keep quiet and don't make a big deal about stuff because I know that is what they are trying to do, cause a riff with us. How do I handle this ? Do I just keep ignoring it and not make a big deal and let it go? They are nice to my face but it's so fake and they get on my nerves. I am always nice to them face to face too and don't let them get to me but just tired of their antics.

I understand that Support is necessary for children but why do men have to pay so much?

So I just got married to my wife on Sunday. We got drunk the other day and started talking about the past. Being curious and asking questions I knew I shouldn t be asking, I asked if she had been with anyone a lot bigger than me in the pants. She said yes and that he was 9-10 inches in length. She did not want ot tell me this. I practically had to pry it out of her. However, I m about 6.5 inches with a ruler pressed against my pubic bone. Since he told me, I cannot stop thinking thinking about her with that huge penis. I m constantly thinking she will never enjoy mine and am starting to resent her. I know that is not fair to her. How do i accept the fact that my wife spent 13 months getting pounded by a giant penis? I m feeling so insecure it is pathetic.

So my wife was in the mood. But physically I'm injured. I broke my toe so trying to kneel puts all my weight on the toe which hurts. I have lower disc trouble and rods fused up to my neck. I used to just kneel by the bed which was most comfortable for us both. But at the moment it's hard. The room is quite small and hard to fit a chair. So I turned her down and she mentioned that tge repairman had been looking in at her while she was sleeping. That guy was with our landlord to fix broken glass on the outdoor balcony. Then when she realised I definitely wasn't going ahead, she proceeded to tell me she will have to find someone to satisfy her. I got angry at her saying that and she accused me of having no humour and that she can't share with me. I can't see the funny side of having a partner say that of you can't sexually satisfy them, then they will gwt it sonewhere else...

My husband and I have not had the best of times in 2013 he cheated on me for a year. He finally confessed in 2014 I had mountings piles of evidence.. He had "anger issues" when he started cheating that got worse into physical pushing. He's guilty of fracturing my lower rib. He often when angry tells me it's over. He will tell me it's over between us and then turn off his phone (he only does it when he's gone) he will give me the cold shoulder at home and after two days he will ask for forgiveness. It's a regular painful cycle. He just told me the other day during one of his "breakups" and I don't think our relationship can take it. I'm trying to recover from his cheating but he's so cruel to me anytime he's angry at anything it's always my fault he broke up with me last time because a friend told him he was an asshole to me. So he left me for it saying there's no hope in us and I'm pointless. If he ends up working alone with a woman all day and this treatment never ends that will be the last shred of hope I have I can't handle it. My phone cut off the other half of my question, what I was trying to say was I can't really go to him and tell him how I feel because it ends in war most the time. I was curious if anyone had any advice for a good way to talk to someone who has anger problems. To tell him how I'm feeling without making him want to leave.

I have a regulation issue. When I say that, I don't mean I can't hold back my anger from hurting people - no, I'm a control freak and I do the opposite; I lean to the EXTREME side of self abuse. If I ever get that angry, to the point of wanting to release it instead of numb it, I can (and will) self hurt so I can protect the people around me from my rage. I'm not Emo but I'm also not a threat to others (I'm a pacifist who values peace, love, harmony), and I do it by IMPLODING instead of EXPLODING. I also have a problem with social interactions in real life (internet I'm not myself, so you can't base my life on THESE interactions). I used to just be myself, but due to the rise of the political correct era, I've learned to censor myself and educate myself on many world problems. Now that I have, I know all about the struggles of LGBTQA, sexism/feminism, Native Americans & Muslims in America, cyber bullying, and a wide range of other cultural/sensitive problems. But now I am too afraid to say anything (social anxiety) because I don't want to hurt anyone (except maybe swbarnes2 - but she deserves it for hurting me FIRST). So out of respect for the people around me and their hardships, I have chosen to censor myself and lose a part of me... This obviously benefits the world but NOT my marriage... I think the driving factor in all these extreme self regulations is the drive to be perfect. The "best" husband and person I can be... But this can't be healthy for me... So, what is? I'm specifically looking for advice on the perfectionism. You can talk about the regulation issue if you'd like, but I really, really, REALLY need help on the perfectionism issue. I just don't know how to carry myself around others. I feel like it is MY responsibility to act appropriately around them and not worry about them acting appropriately around me (I'm the white privileged male after all). My wife is a perfectionist too, so flowing with her only makes it worse (hence my talk of change). Still looking for advice on how to handle this issue in relation to my marriage. I don't know how to be myself any more because I'm trying too hard to be caring of other people's feelings/thoughts/sufferings/traumas.

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20151119083726AAOiG5A This is a continuation from my other question and I really want help. My husband is now seeing his ex-gf frequently and although I beg him to not do this, he just spends the night in her place more often, particularly on the weekends. We sleep in different rooms and he basically just come home to shower, sleep and eat his meal before going to his ex's place. I am willing to look the other way over what he has been doing but it's getting hard when he ditches all our own plans to go for a vacation with this girl and the last straw was this girl posting pics and saying they have got back together and that we are separated. I asked my husband does he want out of this marriage and he just kept silent before saying, he is beginning to have feelings once more for his ex. We have not been talking since and I am just beginning to lose hope that we can't recover from what has happened. I told him I am staying at my sister's place and he didn't even object. Last night, when I went home to collect my clothes, she was there in the living room and I could see from the smirk on her face telling me she owns him now. I didn't say anything more and just grabbed my stuff before crying in my car. I know my actions have caused our marriage but I really love my husband and want to be a better wife for him, I am just having the feeling that the divorce papers is to come and I have no chance to fix our marriage anymore... Please read the following question before commenting, it would help you to get a better perspective...

We are legally separated and he said when we moved back in together that the $800 pays for everything except my clothes and personal items. Since he makes me pay for my food when we eat out then shouldn't he pay for all the housework I do? It's his house and cars. I have to pay to use a car if I need it. I just want things to be fair here.

I don't get why people never think of turning their atitude about their marriage aroind and communicating with their partner better and improving their marriage. They could go to couples therapy. Many people that once thought that they wanted a divoce stuck it put and wored on their marriage are blissfully happy married together later on.

I'm not talking caring too much as in over nurturing, I mean caring too much about hurting someone's immature emotions. If someone was physically hurt, I know my role and I take care of business (trust me on this, a girl who comes over to see my daughter likes to sprain her ankle and I do RICE all the time). What I'm talking about is their sensitive feelings; I shouldn't have to water down my sense of humor to avoid making someone angry, should I? Self regulation issues is an issue with ADHD. I can learn coping strategies, but I just wanted to know which was worse. http://www.adhd-health.com/philosophy/adhd-theories-self-regulation.php

I feel like I have to look outside my marriage to fix this. What to do?

We're married for 13 years and I'm oh so bored. He refuses for me to get a job because it will mess up his work schedule and he worries about the kids'activities. I don't want a menial part time job because I want to finally have a career. I asked him for open relationship becsuse I just want to divorce him. I'm tired of his controlling nature but I don't want this divorce to be a battle. We have kids, ya know. What will you do?

About two months ago my husband brought home a pit bull puppy without talking to me first. When he brought the dog home, he claimed he bought it for the kids but our 2 year old is afraid of it and our six yr old doesn't care for it. I've never been a dog person but I know my husband loves dogs so i agreed with him that we would wait until the kids got a little older we would buy them one. Since the dog has arrived he chews and tears up everything. My husband works more than I do so I'm usually the one feeding and cleaning up after the dog. He never has time to take of the dog and I still don't want the dog. What should I do?

I just found out my husband has been cheating on and off for the last year with his ex that he divorced 6 years ago. I caught him so he admitted and also admitted that they now realize they have feelings for each other still. I feel like the last 6 years with him have been a waste of my time. Why did he not just tell me I love him but I would have let him leave. We have no kids together he has 1 with her so maybe he really misses his child not his ex. Any advice on how to understand and cope? Is it common to leave someone and divorce if you still have feelings for them, and than want to try again after you have already found a new wife? Could it be he only stayed with me out of guilt?

I have always considered myself an incredibly intelligent man (not trying to brag) I'm obsessed with knowledge and becoming a matter everyday. My wife is quite the opposite. She's just like most people, she just goes with the flow. What I hate is that she doesn't think I'm smart, she just thinks I'm crazy. How can I be with someone who doesn't know who I really am? She doesn't think I'm special in that way. My wife always finds a way to make me feel "normal". I know I'm capable of doing incredible things. And I can't understand how she cannot see that. What should I do? I'm losing my motivation about life... Sorry if I made any grammatical mistakes, English is not my first language.

We ve been together off and on for 12 years longest apart 4 years. We been married the last 2 years and have two kids. He has physically abuse me a 6 times of the 12 years. I told him if does it again we are done. And, two weeks ago he choke me and bite my finger until blood was drawn. We live in a home in which I brought when we were apart. He refuses to leave the home. I m so confused, I don t know if I should stay or go. I ask to get apartment and get therapy but, he refuses leave in the process. But, I m thinking of divorce but he doesn t want one. And making me feel guilty for wanting one.

My husband works full-time like anyone else. But since our baby was born 2 years ago, he has hardly changed any diapers, bathed him, or done anything for him. He said this is my responsibility as a mother and not his. We are expecting another son next year and he told me that since I will breastfeed again, he will not feed the baby (of course with a bottle) and that he is not responsible for diapering or bathing it- and to keep it out of our bedroom so he can sleep. Is he right in his choice?

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My husband and I got married 8 years ago and have 2 boys. Oldest is 6 years and youngest is 4 years old. 3 years, in 2012..My mother in law passed away due to colon cancer. My mother in law and I wasn't that close. When she passed away. We were at her funeral but I didn't stay until the end. I felt so much guilt, I just had to leave so I left without saying anything to anyone and my husband is a mama's boy. Ever since that, He accused me of killing her, accuse me that I caused cancer to her by making her so depress by taking him away from her, everyday he bring this up or every time we argue, He would lash out and say that. I fell into deep depression thinking I actually did killed her because I hear it everyday, I convinced myself that I did. I was depress for so long and what my husband accuse me of have effected me so bad.. I started having really bad thoughts.. Like killing people, my mind was out of control..I was developing thoughts I didn't want.. at that time, My youngest son was still a baby and I became abusive towards him and I'm not the abusive type. I started having thoughts of hurting my kids. So the end of last year, I seek out for help and got helped. I'm so much better now and realized what reality is... that I didn't kill her. This year I want to make a change for the better for me and my kids...don't want to fall back where I was before but the thing is, My husband still bring this up to knock me down. He's still accusing me and I don't think he'll ever let this go and I don't want to be where I used to. * I have talked to him about this but my husband is an arrogant and very selfish person. He doesn't allow me to have friends, or talk to anyone. He won't even allow me to have a car or go anywhere. All I do is stay home with my kids everyday 24/7. After so long of not having any contact with the outside world. I don't know how to make friends anymore or talk to anyone. I basically became stupid and afraid of the outside world.

I am a married man who has been seeing my mistress for six years now. My wife is beautiful but there is no passion in our life anymore. I no longer desire her and although we still have sex sometimes, I think she only does it because she feels like she has to, not because she wants to. I think she is truly happier when I keep away from her, and I never want to embarrass her about my having a mistress so I don t flaunt it to her. My mistress is 30 (ten years younger than me) and we have the most passionate sex. She says she loves me, but I don t love her. I can t leave her though, because only with her do I feel truly alive. I need to feel like a man again and I only feel like that when she is in my arms. At home, I feel emasculated and weak. I am only happy with my mistress. I even skipped my children s birthday party to stay with my mistress because I get more pleasure with her. I feel like a man when I please her sexually, and she always lets me know how good I am to her in bed. I need that feeling again and not that of mediocrity. I used to hate adultery and think it was sinful but now my only pleasure comes from it. Should I leave my wife for my mistress or stay with my wife to keep my children secure and still see my mistress as I have done for the past few years now?

I've been a married father for 17 years. I'm a very successful professional and although not perfect, I do have many good, wonderful qualities. I'm smart, incredibly kind, thoughtful, loyal, generous, compassionate, fun (I love to laugh and smile) and nice looking. I'm not a lazy man. I have always put my wife and kid's needs / wants first and always tried to be the absolute best husband I could possibly be. Unfortunately my marriage has not been good for some time. My wife has no interest in intimacy – It's been 2 ½ years since we last had sex (sex only 3 times over the last five years). I get scorned if I touch her, look at her and I can't kiss her intimately. She is frequently in a foul mood and seems to direct all her anger / frustrations at myself and the kids. She gets worked up and yells at the silliest of things. I can't talk to her about my needs, concerns and issues without her blowing up at me and blaming me as the reason. She turns everything around as if I'm the bad guy. It's extremely painful to be treated this way and rejected from your very own wife. I have never felt so lonely, broken and trapped. The last year has been emotionally tough me and I no longer want to be married to her. I'm not mean to her and I still love her as a person, but not as a wife. I have always been faithful, but I can't help but wish I could find a kind, thoughtful, warm, loving and affectionate woman that was attracted to me and would be my very best friend.

My ex wife didn't invite me nor my parents to her house for thanksgiving. We have to young kids together and I wanted to be with them on thanksgiving. She told me I could either follow the divorce decree and have them on Xmas instead or she would compromise and allow me to take them with my parents for half of the day to my house. I think this is selfish of her because the kids need both parents and sets of grandparents on the holidays together but she says she wants to move on with her life seperately. Can she do this? Me and my folks are used to going to her moms house for thanksgiving because we have nowhere else to go.