Question Family

This is a crazy story. My mom and dad were dating and when my mom was 18 she got pregnant. Her parents kicked her out and shunned her so I don't know that side of the family at all. My mom and dad lived in my grandma's (dad's mom) basement until my mom had the baby which they gave up for adoption. I didn't know any of this happened until one day I got a text from a random number staying I've been lied to and I have a sister and to ask my grandma Billie or my mom about it. And when I did, the story I just told was revealed... Took 19 years but I finally found out. My mom didn't know, but I guess her name is Jaime. I don't know anything else about her but I do want to find her. My mom won't help me so I was wondering if there was any way I could find her?

Everything in my family has been going downhill lately, especially after my mom found out that my dad cheated on her. My dad still hasn't left his mistress of 10 years despite my mom being willing to take him back. My mom isn't any better either because instead of seeking the healing she needs, she twists people's advice the way it would fit her wants and in turn, it makes her sound petty and victimized, and it's killing me because I've tried so hard to try and make her see how to cope with the situation. And to add to all that, my brother recently turned off the wifi connection because I was apparently making him lag, which I would totally understand but still get pissed at in a different situation, but then I realized that I only use the internet once a week or so nowadays and turning it off is completely rude and... and... frustrating! Every single person in my family has gone insane and its driving me crazy!! I'm running out of ways to cope with them. This is just too much. I know they all have their problems, but to dump it all on me topped with my brother's bitchiness? I'm freaking lost and tired and endlessly frustrated. Is there a way to live with them more peacefully???

So here's the story. My dad recently told me I have a half sister (we'll call her Zoe), 8yrs older than me, from before he and my mum were married. (Im 18 btw) The judge ruled against my father having any custody, so he let her go, intending to find her when she was all grown up. They've recently reuinited. Now Zoe is a very wild girl, & extremely inapropriate. My dad doesnt want to let us (me & my 5 full siblings) meet her b4 he teaches her how we act/behave. So say a couple of months. I am DYING to meet her, but at the same tired respect his wishes & understand his worries. Now my aunts and uncles (dads side), were given her contact details (by my dad). They've been txting & calling eachother. Now: One of my aunts decided she wants to meet Zoe, so she invited her over this Sunday night. Along with plenty of her in laws & my cousins. Here's the issue. 1) aunts is being told Zoe is wild, yet without seeing her first, she's going to intro Zoe to her kids 2) Zoe is being shown how modest & smart we act while still being totally fun... But aunts inlaws can be a bit inapropriate themselves when carried away. Mixed signals much? 3) my aunt is the type to shape herself to please anyone's character. Not helping the wild situation, again. MOST IMPORTANT: 4) Zoe's own siblings have not met her yet... But aunt thinks it ok to intro her to the whole distant family first! She won't listen to my dad.. Is there anything I can do to snap her outta things? Thx

The thing is I'm 22 I'm leaving with my mother and my younger brother, my mom is a single mom and raised us by herself always been with us threw thick and teen and me being the oldest know all that she been threw to support us so now I'm the one that helps her out with rent and bills because she has hard time trying to pay things and she can't afford things herself right now things where I live is very hard and expensive city. Well I just found out my gf is pregnant and I have to be there for her as well as I want to be there for my mother and my younger brother uhmm he is 16 by the way anyways I don't want to leave my mom because besides me being the one helping her out she has canser and I love her but as well I have to be with my gf and my baby soon to come. I would tell my girlfriend to move with us until my bf turns 18 so he cab start working and help my mother as well I will always help her even after NY brother working but the thing is we have little space and we won't all fit well, please what can I do in this case I don't know what to do. Thank you very much for the support. :)

I'm in a tough situation right now. Basically my brother grew up without finishing school, got into the wrong crowd of friends and has never been the same since. He takes drugs, he drinks a lot, he doesn't care about anyone but himself. He does have his own place, but he's here 99% of the time just taking advantage of me and mum, eating our food, using our internet etc. he acts like a 10 year old kid, and he's 30 years old. He has a child but isn't allowed to see him because of the drugs, he doesn't have a girlfriend, his apartment is a disgusting mess all he cares about is partying. I'm tired of him, everytime I hear his voice I want to kill him, I've never felt this strongly about him before. If he's 30 now, then there's not a chance he will ever change his ways. We used to be close at one point until we were at a party together and he basically hit me to the ground and blamed everything on me and my own mum didn't believe me. I just hate him so much and wish I had a brother who cares and it breaks my heart to know that he will never be like that. The only way he will learn to live alone is if we all disown him which we should of done years ago, but my mum doesn't listen to me, she just shouts at me whenever I mention my brother, and she's the one that always complains about him, my whole family are just screwed up and I hate the way I am because of them. All I want do is move out but I can't afford to live alone and my friends and boyfriend don't want to move out yet!