we were engaged at the age of 17 and she was 18 , officially married last year with me being 20 and she was 21. we are from a muslim country and she wears head scarf to cover hear beauty but she isn't so strict about it she wears it just to avoid trouble as i said she is attractive we are both university students at the same major but i got high GPA so i was awarded an opportunity to do my masters in the US which i will finish in 2017,while she stayed in my homeland. last week she made a surprise and visited me here and she is causing me troubles without meaning it. at first my friends got shocked to see her at the airport . she was dressed like a western woman and then became the topic of discussion till now when they see me and about how stunning she is which makes me angry,to the point of losing them. then she invaded my life here,took my friends , answers my emails and phone calls and even trying to control my diet and the way i dress. she wants to go out and see the country with no consideration to my work here.not just that she is making modifications on my projects when i didn't ask her to do so. when i tried to discuss this with her she got mad and accused me of having a secret lover here and that i don't want her ..which is all false , she is the love of my life since kindergarten so how can i get over her stay here ? so i tried to show her around as she wanted and make her happy but eyes follow her and she likes that it is strange to our culture .

Me and my husband want to have kids. How much would it cost to have a family member have my child. Link please?

Shes got a beautiful face but she weighs 115lbs and is is 5'3. Shes not like HUGE HUGE. But its not like she's super duper thin, and its not a big problem. I just like to speak my mind and my wife is a crumbling mess with the new revelation, i told her she doesn't need to get thinner but now she seems determined?

I have been married 24 years very happily with 2 grown children. My wife and i went to a restaurant recently and we were served by a very attractive 20 year old waitress. Anyway, the waitress revealed that she is a college tennis player. I told her that i played tennis in college and i used to coach it. She asked me if I would like to meet her for a friendly tennis game sometime, which seemed a bit forward with my wife sitting at the table. I told the young lady I would like that very much, but now my wife is very upset with me. I am planning to meet her at a park to play tennis this weekend. My wife is quite heavy these days and isnt into tennis, otherwise I would play tennis with her. Does my wife have a right to be upset over this?

I always here that guys remember their first love when they were teenagers (sometimes the one that got away) or that girl they lost their virginity to, I was wondering do you still love those girls even when you're married and have kids do you look back at those memories? Does that mean you love that other girl more than your wife?

My phone doesn't cover connection all the way over there, and so my husband and i have been using one of those cheap online chat rooms to talk to each other. I made friends on there on nights when my husband was to busy to get on, and i made a horrible mistake. I met up with a guy at a local park since he only lived 3 hours away. He is so mean to me. And i know i sound stupid saying it but he is. He intrudes into my house and wont leave me alone. He's constantly messaging me and he says that I'm fat and that my husband's probably cheating on me. I'm trying to ignore him but it gets really hard. I have no friends or family where we moved, except my husbands brother but he pretty much hates me. All i want is for my husband to come home and for this guy to leave me alone. Hes gotten drunk and tried to have sex with me. I HATE HIM, I don't know what to do, please, what do i do?

I found straight long hair on my man's neck when he attempted to kiss me tonight. I picked it up and showed him, and i told him this was clearly not his hair or mine since we both have short natural hair. He then told me this was hair from my weave. I gave him a look because at the moment i was not wearing any weave. He then tried to pull a fast one by trying to blame me of not trusting him. He walked away after this and hasn't said a word since.

I stayed single most of my 20's and considered myself to be a very independent person. I had this fear of "losing myself" when in a relationship. When my bf and I first started dating, I thought he was crazy that he wanted to see me everyday. Overall, it's a good relationship to be in because we still get have our own lives, be ourselves but still be there for each other. I didn't even know if his friend "bob" until maybe into the 2nd year into dating. All I knew about Bob was that he was obsessed with his gf, had her face as his wallpaper, and was in college an hour away from his home. My bf had time to hang with his guy friends, even at the expense of our time together, sometimes, which was a hard at first. They're very last minute and it's just how they operate. In general, I have no problems with "guy time". Lately, my bf's been looking into buying new cars and he's been spending more time Bob. Bob is starting to feel like "the other woman", I'm feeling resentful. I work, workout, looking to go back to school, have my "me"/friend/family time but it's like my bf actively pursues to spend time with bob and vice versa. Part of me resents Bob for not respecting his friend's time with his gf. He's always texting to hang out. He'll CALL him even after they hang out. It's like they're spending more time hanging out with each other and using the car as an excuse. I called it a "bromance" and the bf gets mad. He HATES and will become very upset if I say any "gay" jokes, even If I don't mean it in that way. After work, they'll meet up to play catch or basketball, then at night I'll see my boyfriend for a bit while they text back and fourth or bob will call or invite him to play bowling. Sometimes I think when they're together, they become the stupidest, immature dudes...not just silly stuff but telling each other they'll race each other or joke about getting high and racing...or going to raves. One night, there was no word of my bf for 7 hours. When he called, even If I don't mean it in that way. After work, they'll meet up to play catch or basketball, then at night I'll see my boyfriend for a bit while they text back and fourth or bob will call or invite him to play bowling. Sometimes I think when they're together, they become the stupidest, immature dudes...not just silly stuff but telling each other they'll race each other or joke about getting high and racing...or going to raves. One night, there was no word of my bf for 7 hours. When he called, he apparently got drunk & slept for a while. He is 25 years old and I know boys will be boys but it's just too much for me. I know when you start to feel taken for granted, it's a sign to do more in your life, focus on yourself more...which I have but part of me feels resentful still. I talked to him honestly about it without nagging and for a second, he got it but then went right back into it. I went to dinner with the two of them and he's already planning trips with bob and his gf w/o my input I just feel like if I were gone he wouldn't notice. He still "wants to see me" after hanging out with bob it's like being in 2nd place. Why be in a relationship when I'M the one who feels like the 3rd wheel and THEY'RE in their own relationship? & shame on bob for taking advantage. Just bc he doesn't have his gf to hang out with, he'll cling on to my bf, as if he were single. I can't say anything like this bc dudes are protective of their dudes. I hate playing games but I want to push him away It's different if he sees him here and there but they see each other EVERYDAY. After work..then i have left over time...then after that they see each other

She's due to give birth in April and I said I do not want to be in the room for it… she said "you helped make it, you have to be there to help and support me!" but I know it's my right to sit in the waiting room. I do not do well with blood and bad smells. So I'm not willing to cooperate and now she told me to go stay at my brother's house for the night while she "thinks?" What does that mean?

I've heard that when you meet your soulmate you feel some kind of connection and you know they're the one. Or something like that. Is that true, or do you just meet them and realize it through time that they're your soulmate? And how do you know if you've met your other half?

unless there are kids in the marriage Like seriously it doesn't take all day to cook and clean I live on my own and still do all those things while working a 9-5 job at the clinic It doesn't take more than an hour to cook and prepare a decent healthy meal and clean up Laundry is done once a week and doesn't take more than 2 hours to finish and you just throw the clothes in the washer and dryer and do your thing You only need to clean the house once a week or two weeks or month and it doesn't take more than a few hours to vacuum sweep and mop and clean the bathroom So exactly what are these stay at home husbands and wives doing at home all day while their spouse is at work ? Seriously I think women and some men over-exaggerate the work they do at home claiming it's like a full time job and bull crap a lot Spouses should demand that their partner have a full time job instead of allowing them to stay home

Apparently someone she knows "saw me walking into a restaurant with another woman" and snapped a blurry cell phone pic and everything. It was just some lady I work with and we were grabbing lunch for the office. No funny business whatsoever. She's not even attractive. But my wife is all shades of suspicious and rather than admit embarrassment over jumping to conclusions, she keeps saying she hopes we have full transparency in our marriage… How do you move on from this?

P.S. let me state that I am of the opinion if you go "looking" for something, you might just find it... I know that doing these things are unethical. The thing is I did suspect something, and I knew his password, and sure enough I found evidence of another woman. I am stuck between a rock and hard place. I am ashamed of doing something so unethical, ignorance may have been bliss. I can hardly admit this to him. So now, I am stuck between a rock and a hard place. I would rather have NOT known. At Joss: Joss -- Thank you for your advice. .. I know this man loves me because he treats me very well and does a lot for me, but why do some men feel like they have to have someone on the side?? Unfortunately, this is very prevalent in Hispanic culture. Macho man syndrome. I don't know why some of us put up with this bullshit. Financially, I can't make it on my own right now. Sincerely, La ForSelvestre de Tejas --- Wildflower from Texas

We make an absolutely amazing team on joint work projects. If I were to just up and quit, it would bug me as to how much more good teamwork we could ve accomplished for the greater good of the company because we are on so much of the same page. We are both married in excess of a decade and have kids. I do not know if it is mutual. But on my side, it feels like it is inching too close to the danger zone. This is the first person since getting married that I have ever felt attracted to and only 3rd in my whole life so I do not have much practice at getting over someone. It would be easier because I completely trust myself to maintain my boundaries if 1.) my home life was great where I felt loved and emotionally supported and 2.) I got even a small impression that he and his family are happy. That was not what I have witnessed when I ran into he and his family once in public or what I have gleaned between the lines in our conversations.

For some reason I have lost all of my sex drive lately. My fiance wants it a lot and I just never ever want to. I love him like crazy and I think he's hott, but I just don't want to have sex. We think it could be the birth control or because I am so busy with getting my degree and wedding planning and house work and so on. I just feel bad like I'm not keeping up my end. But I also feel like if I fake liking having sex that I am lying and I feel wrong about that. What to do? :(

Will I divorce' a man I don't love

We been to marriage counseling it work til now have been married for 12 years have 4 kids. The main problem is for 2 years that I know of my husband cheated on me off and on, he lied about it most of the time even though I had proof, humilated me on facebook, lied to ppl saying he wasnt married anymore. It hurt me deeply hes all I have known during my adult life, what makes it worse is I did get revenge and cheated I wanted to make him feel how I did. I still have guilt for doing that it went against what I believe. For about 2 years we have been ok for the most part but recently moved to a new state don't know anyone, the community we live in noone talks to us we both decided to use craigslist unfortunately. I looked for girls and gay and bi guys, he looked for guys and girls. We set rules that it would be strictly friends and we would go together to meet them in person. I trusted him but gut feeling bout one female he was texting so i went into the phone account online and i was right.he was liing again. He said her husband knew she was talking to him and when they meet her husband will be there..LIE.when i asked if I could come he said no He told her about some of our personal issues lied about most them and said hes sick of me always spending his money I have my own money(sorry if he has to put money in the household for food) He stopped talking to her.I want to fix my marriage but Im hurt he doesnt seem to get it he says i went in his **** but i knew something was wrong

We have only been married for almost 2 years. It started out great, we had a baby girl who is nearly 1 years old. He stopped initiating after the baby was born but he said it isn't because he finds me unattractive but because he finds it uncomfortable having her in the same room. And he said that we would start having sex again after our daughter is old enough to shift bedrooms. I have started taking it personally though because he does occasionally glance at other women and he has a different look opposed to how he looks at me when I make an effort. I have not let myself go but I am underweight and he does tell me to put some weight on and I'm trying my best. I eat healthy and sometimes I eat quite a lot but I'm still underweight he sometimes comments if I eat a lot too so I'm not sure what to do. I have been seeking medical advice and I'm fine, just anemic which I'm taking vitamins for. He has never said that he finds me unattractive but I'm not sure if he's just being nice. I try my best to look good all the time yet I'm always the one initiating and when we do have it he feels a little insecure at his performance I have figured lately. He does initiate it sometimes but he's just really focused if the baby can see him that he gets put off. I guess I just want some reassurance. Is it me or does it really sound like he's afraid of the baby watching us? Thanks

Hi, my husband and I have been married for 8years and have a 2 year old daughter. He is a lovely dad and nice human being. We have been separated for 8 months and we now decided to come back together for my daughters sake. I don't love him but the problem is that he still loves me. I never loved him and we were introduced by our parents and now that I've been on my own for a little while I've realised I don't have any romantic feeling for him. Now after being together for 2 months I can't even think of touching him in a sexual manner but at the same time I'm really horny. Because of this I've ended up cheating on him. I don't like this but don't know how to stop myself. I need help. He is a lovely guy and is making an effort in our marriage and I still don't feel anything for him. I just want what's best for my daughter and feel that I can sacrifice my life for her. But in reality it's not fair on either of us. I'm really unsure what to do. Please help :(

And what factors might come into play that could allow that age limit to be lowered for a couple? Maturity, financial security, terminal illness (so they could live out their dream of marriage while there's still time), etc.? My sisters (who've both gotten married at 21, divorced about ten years later after getting through professional school, then one of them remarried very happily) said they won't come to my wedding if I'm younger than 30 lol! I personally feel like 26-27 is a fine age to start marrying, if that's what you want. I'm trying to get into vet school, and he's got more graduate schooling (also a science major like me), so we've got a lot to go through, and I realize that higher education changes people a LOT. So I'm definitely not ready to settle down any time soon. I appreciate all of your answers so far!

Help I'm scattered and hopelessly devoted to my husband.We've been married for 3 1\2 yrs no children, together but we've both have one boy each from a previous marriage. Both of us have been married before and longer than 5yrs, the results were our spouses cheated on us. I was single for 10 yrs before I remarried. He was newly divorced and met me immediately! We have a lot in common,and share things in common like a typical couple. Last week he said that for the last two months he's fallen out of love with me, and wants a divorce, reasons because he feels that we don't want the same goals, plus he's wanting to move out of state for a better career, which was my idea.He wants us to go to a counselor for me to realise that it's over and coach me, because I told him I didn't want a divorce. I believe it's stresses, with a new job coming our house is trying to get sold. Etc. I asked if there was another woman, and he said no he wants to be single for a few yrs in his new career a new state without me! Did I mention since day one of our relationship his ex wife, which he told me he'll never take back has stalked us, and lives 2 blocks away. I'm hurt because I tolerated so much and sacrificed.We both wanted a new life out of state together. Yet, it seems like he planned for a divorce and lied? He told me he wanted to divorce before he'll have to pay alimony.Sorry for lengthy Q.I don't want this to be a failed marriage #2!I love him. I'm open for any suggestions please!

we were in bed preparing to call it a day, he was reading and i was finishing some work on my laptop but i was turned on and i couldnt focus so i put away my laptop and took off my t-shirt and started acting playful he didnt pay much attention then i was like what was your last fantasy and he just smiled and said he would love too but he " was drained" !!!!!!!!!! what does that even mean? is it me? did i come on too strong? i have to admit he works long hours in a large corporate but he's below 30 like COME ON!!!! we have sex 5 times a week and it feels great and all but sometimes i feel like i might need more i can't figure out what the hell means with " drained" is that a code for not attractive??

to the pu$$y who has no job who keeps moving questions, enjoy a big point deduction.

So my husband is a big perv and I caught him lying to his friends about me. I can't be intimate with him because I feel like he's not man enough. His friends are my cousins and I feel like I don't want to go to family parties anymore because they know too much. He talks about everything I have no privacy i want to run away or die but I can't cause I have a toddler.

I am a mother of a two year old and I am married, unfortunately I have a husband who is as mean and selfish as they come. I am attending university and I have basically had to use my credit cards for all things because I can hardly ask my husband for money. I have no way to ay them back and I feel so lost and alone. I am not even able to drive myself anywhere because my parents didn't bother to teach me when I was younger and I had no other family so that was a dud. My husband tries to teach me when he has the time but its just not often enough and in the small town we live in, you hardly find anyone who is willing to help in such a way. I literally have one single friend in this town from high school and nowadays it seems she is dodging me too so I don't really talk to her much. I feel as though my life has turned out differently from what I had imagined. I am sad all the time and cry myself to sleep most nights, I need help but I am not a beggar and really feel like others have things to deal with too, I guess I am merely writing this hoping for a miracle and just to vent. I am a good wife so I know it's not me, I do my best by my husband and even when I am sad try to show love as much as I can I just feel like the amount of love I give is not returned. Thank you all for your answers. I just want to say I really am not trying to blame anyone for how things have turned out with me, it's just the disappointment of not being able to reach certain goals. It is embarrassing to me to not know how to drive, I practice when I have the chance and I am currently seeking a job so I'm just waiting for things to start happening where those two things are concerned. Please don't get me wrong, I am not a bum or anything, I am a very hard working person. When I had a job I paid for my own schooling and had all my bills paid up, I am responsible and just in a tough spot right now. My husband has never had to pay for anything for me where my own personal life is concerned he basically provides for our daughter and pays our rent even now with no job I still have to find ways to pay for our internet and light so please don't think I am just a complainer, no I just want to be back to a good place in my life is all.

I am a very loving person and really I treat you how you treat me so if my husband is treating me well I will always show him respect and love but sometimes he is so grumpy and uninvolved when it comes to our daughter and myself. He hardly has to bathe her, feed her, change her diapers because I work from home so I take care of her but he doesn't even take her for walks. Its just not the marriage I thought we would have. He can be very loving and he used to be constantly but now he gets upset at everything I say or do for example the other night we went to the store and I forgot to do something at the cash register so he came over to do it but his tone of voice and body language was a bit off and he kind of just pushed passed me so when he was done I said why did you have to push pass me like that? immediately he got pissed and we argued. He said he didn't push pass me or mean to push pass me and he's been cross with me for the past week saying I should know he wouldn't do that, so I am just like well im not a mind reader. There are just a lot of little things like that which we argue over and it annoys me and is really making me fall out of love with him. Every time we fight and he decides to give me the silent treatment I just hate him more.

Let me tell you a story.. OK.. My husband of 11yrs is a dam good mechanic. His ex calls him to have him fix her friends car. He agrees, now this is a trans problem in which he takes it out, waits for another, puts it in with a lot of difficulty. His specialty is not trans. Right before this we are thinking about separating, there were a lot of bad words said between both - mainly myself. He is gone for 20days out of town to do this. Now keep in mind we have a seven yr old daughter. During the 20 days m car breaks down and I know he gets the messages that we need him, we called and texted everyday--- no respond-- it got to the point of me getting very upset and wanting to throw out his stuff, leaving bad words on messages, he called twice during those 20 days and texted maybe 5. He comes home and stays or two days-- saying that he wasn't finished with the job and that there is no signal up in the mountain area where he was. Also, during those two days we had sex, if that is what you call it. Bam bam thank you mam once. Now knowing my husband is a sexual type of person sometimes. But, I kept telling him that I wanted more and never received it. So he returned to the mountains to finish this job. -- I feel like I became second to him because I needed him and he wasn't there nor did he care, I feel like he should take care of his family first before anyone else. Wheather I say bad things or not am I wrong.. Please respond.

How to tell if my husband is thinking of someone else while having sex. Also how to not feel crushed by it.

my husband started the progress of getting a house for his parents before we got married(to be exact, a week before). His parent called me today saying they need my social and iD to confirm that i won't be involve in getting the house. do they really need it since I'm now married to their son or are they trying to do something else with it? I don't have that good of a relationship with my husbands family because they always try to get things their way and always try to manipulate people so I'm not sure if they're trying to get something out of me or if they're being truthful. anyone please help my husband understand where I'm coming from and doesn't force me to do anything i don't want to. I'm just curious they said they needed it for quit claim deed

I am working full-time. I also am a graduate student student. Getting my degree (and the promotion that is contingent upon my Masters) is really important to me. In high school, I had a 3.4 GPA. I had a rough home life and didn't push myself enough so I was limited to applying to a lot of the prestigious colleges. I pushed myself really hard in college. I worked part time, graduated in 3 years with dual majors, paid off my debt four years after graduation, and graduated with a 3.8. I was accepted to Columbia, an Ivy League school. Given this, it is extremely important to me that I finish my Masters within the expected time of 2 years. He says how much he misses me all the time and how he wants to spend more time with me. If I'm up at 1:00 A.M doing class work, he'll tell me I should go to bed and get some rest. Sometimes he'll ask me to go out when he sees I'm busy. I appreciate that he's voicing his concerns and I know he loves me very much and he says how proud of me he is. When I am not busy, he will drop whatever plans he has to spend time with me. He got his work schedule changed so we'd have more free time together. I don't know what else to do besides drop a class and I don't want to fall behind. I know my marriage is important but so is this. I feel like he doesn't grasp how rigorous this program is.

I know I can't support our daughter on my own salary. My husband also works long hours but doesn't have a good enough salary so We live with my husbands parents who help us out. and they are actually nice compared to my husband. So he is verbally abusive, alchoholic, has a bad temper. So I am really thinking I should leave. I'm tired of all his drama. But his parents are so nice and I know if I left my husband wouldn't have that much to give via child support. So I don't know what to do. Should I just put up with him so our daughter can have a comfortable life. His parents are very wealthy.

This is Madonna Cassandra Cabuay Gorospe's letter to her ex-husband Alain Angelo Canlas

My husband is a cross dresser. He may even be transsexual. He has cheated on me right after we had our first baby. He is verbally abusive. He tried to commit suicide before. He is violent. Not to me but to things. He doesn't take care of himself in the sense that he drinks too much and has been known to vomit in bed. I told him he had to sleep in a different room cause he kept vomiting. I couldn't take it any more.

We've dated for 8 years and been married for 2. I'd always made it clear that the one thing that I would not tolerate was cheating. I said the moment I found out it would be over no matter what. Well recently my husband says that he can't handle the guilt and didn't want there to be secrets between us. He confessed that he cheated on me once when we were in school and once when we were already engaged. Of course I was hurt and have really just been not feeling well. I don't want to eat or go out I just want to sleep all the time. I didn't leave right away and my husband has been trying to talk to me. He says that it was three years ago and that he has been faithful since we actually got married. I still can't really even look at him without crying. I also found out from one of his brother that the only reason he told me was because one of the girls he cheated on me with was threatening to tell me anyway. I don't know what to do. It's been years since it actually happened but the point is that it DID happen and I fear he would do it again. What are your opinions?

I love my husband, he loves me, so he says. We are trying to have another baby, we have one 4 year old, a beautiful home, he goes out one night with a sales rep, gets too drunk , goes to the strip club, then gets arrested for omvi in another county, about 45 minutes past home. After spending $450 of our money our of the atm, that's the only way I knew where he was. I'm so mad . That doesn't even begin to cover it. He had an ankle bracelet and can't leave home..... We are not degenerates, we abide by the law, the madness is growing.... Tips? I'm lost as a wife. I love him but couldn't be more mad.

With new technology? My life is too strange to tell anyone.

I've asked my ex to please call if he is going to be really late in dropping off our child at home, several times now, and this time.....He tells me that I'm being "petty" and "childish" He was 30 min. late in bringing our child home, something that happens all the time. How is asking for notification petty or childish??!!