So there I was crying my eyeballs out seeing estranged husband battling pneumonia in the ICU. Then little by little, the plot thickens. When I spoken to our landlord (I'm still on the lease), he had a girl in the house sitting on my furniture. I have his phone and the alarm button says "sex cutt off alarm". Tarnished my furniture and my bed. Turns out this girl is his a trainer he manages at work. So unprofessional. Then it turns out he has been subleasing out home without our landlord's knowledge and pocketing the cash. Gosh...my home was once a family abode now turned into a whore/frat house by husband. He probably contracted illness from doing disgusting things. He is such a piece of scum. Then he would ask me to come back in that house before he got ill. Now his mother and exwife are his emergency contacts because he knows that I will eventually find out the **** he's been doing while we are on break. That explains not having time to help me with our baby. Why do people like this exist in the world?! When you meet them they act like prince charming then when they get you, their true colors shoot you down with grief. My family is broken because of this piece of scum....ironically he is in the ICU on a life support. I felt so sorry for him the past few days...but when I think about the mental, emotional and physical abuse I was subjected to it makes me hope he just rots away. Sorry I sound so evil. He is scum.

Should I amend my taxes and change filing status if I just found out I'm not legally married.? My husband is still married to his ex, I just found out. The incoming coming in for 2014 was mine. He didn't work. Plus are marriage is not valid due to him not getting a divorce with wife 1! I know it's sound complicated and it is, specially because IRS gave the whole refund to unemployment from HIS past due obligations NOT mine? Any feedback

Just curious. Thanks.

I have been married for 3 years and it has been a rocky road. We have lied to each other he cheated on me and has in the past physicallu abused me. I know what you are thinking - why the hell do I stay? Im comfortable with him and I do have feelings for him. I have had dreams where he is out of my life and I woke up crying. I dont know why I love him so much after what hes done. There is someone I have dated before and I was in love with. We started talking again just as friends and he admitted he still feels for me and somehow after these years loves me. I think about him alot now. Why cant I just make a decision? Im scared it will be the wrong one and I will regret divorcing him and then not being happy with the other guy. Im not happy in my marriage only sometimes. Is it just me thinking the grass is greener on the other side? x x

I found out my husband hid $500 from me. I feel betrayed and lied to. 2 weeks ago he got a check from work and I just found out today. He said it was because he wanted to do something nice for me and he was saving it but when I asked him for it he only had $350 of it. He said he spent it on gas and lunch. It hurts me to think he would do this and I honestly don't believe him saving it for something nice for me. What should I do?

I'm 17 and in high school. I'm kinda popular at school because of my guitar and my singing. Everyday at lunch, I go to some quiet location and just play my guitar. The girls at my school really dig it. A bunch of em have asked me out in the past but I've rejected them all. I'd rather focus on my guitar and my grades. One girl in particular was really fond of me. She'd come over and hear me play every day. She talked with me and texted me alot. I tried to be friendly but eventually, she asked me out. I rejected her like all the others but she took it really hard. She started crying and then accused me of leading her on. She called me a jerk and ran away. Some of her friends are mad at me now as well. They're spreading rumours that I'm gay... Seriously, are they just being immature jerks?

I know that all men probably think about when it comes to women. But me and my husband have a baby and have been married for four years. Sex isn t fun anymore. I don t wanna have sex everyday anymore. And at some point shouldn t the man feel the same way? I feel like I m married to a sex addict. My husband never really conversates with me anymore. We still go out and have fun together but when we re at home or at a restaurant (anywhere where you would normally have to conversate) he s just there. Playing on his phone. I know this is normal for all guys to do this but I want more than just to be asked the same question everyday. I don t think I wanna cheat or leave my husband. I have a baby which makes dating complicated and I just don t have enough self esteem to put myself out there right now. But sometimes I just don t know..it s not that the relationship is horrible but it s not great either. I m just here. So what should I do?

Dating a guy who wanted to islamically marry me but i kept putting it off as i am going through divorce i am not lebanese so also wasn't entirely sure of islamical marriage. 4 months on after things having been awesome i had stayed in his house for a couple of months he has stepped back and now can't tell me if we have a future as he wants me to sort out my divorce and stay at home more with the kids and stop wearing make up and stop spending so much time shopping and well see what happens. What do you make of it? I love him so much and dont know what to do eventhough he is 18 years older than me.

to me it seems that husband's love towards their wives is very strong and unconditional... but women's love towards their husband is not that strong and unconditional... (they are the ones who file for divorce) do wives love their husbands after 5 years of marriage? if you have been married for more than 5 years, tell me, do you hug your husband? do you kiss them? do you hold his hand? thank you

Ive been with my wife for over a year and weve been married almost 6 months. Recently my wife has expressed multiple times that she feels there is no passion in our marriage and that things seem different. I am unsure of what to do . I do feel like an idiot because I can not figure out how to fix it. She says our marriage lacks romance. I will agree it does lack it . But weve been through some rocky parts and experienced some bad circumstances. we both lost our jobs at one point, and the landlord at her old house threatened to have her removed from the house because he wanted her to buy the house that she committed to rent and she wanted none of it. So we faced eviction . we both landed two positions a couple of months ago at the same place and it barely paid rent for the apartment we are currently in . We've experienced car troubles , financial troubles , basically it felt like god was trying to test us. Along with this my wife feels that I dont find her attractive anymore, which is not true at all. She thinks she has gained weight which may be true but considering that her weight gain has been 4-5 lbs in 6-7 months her body has no noticeable differences. Me on the other hand I was in pretty decent shape before I moved down here. I worked out like crazy ate right , made a lot of headway naturally . The started HGH and steroids. long story short I tell her that since my body has me depressed I dont feel like Im attractive. She doesnt believe that that is the problem .

I'm doing a questionnaire for my Sociology class and i need some married couples to answer! I'm researching the amount and kinds of conflict in the marriages How frequently do you and your spouse have arguments? 1. never 2. less than once a month 3. once or twice a month 4. once or twice a week 5. daily Then lastly: -What are the issues or topics about which you and your spouse argue? Make sure you let me know your age, and how long you've been married

In Law & Order: SVU "Paternity", a wife cheats on her husband with her boyfriend and decides she wants to leave her spouse for her new partner. They have a son together than happens to be the boyfriend's son rather than the husband's. According to the show, the husband will have to pay alimony for the divorce and still have to pay child support for a child he isn't his but still loves (even though he is not the biological father). They say the father has to pay child support because he was the financial provider when the child was born, but does he still have to pay alimony even though the wife cheated and has a boyfriend to support her? Also out of curiosity, if the husband "hypothetically" decided he didn't want to pay child support anymore, would that be legally possible? This show takes place in New York so if we have to choose jurisdictional areas, we'll be using New York for this example.

My wife is very well lubricated

Whenever we have sex, my husband will roll over and fall asleep afterwards. He hardly ever stays awake to cuddle me or talk. But I always wake up to him holding me. Why can't he hold me before he falls asleep? I've tried waking him up but once he's out, he's out. Is this normal? What can I do to prevent it?

I have a bit of a dilemma. My little sister has been living with my mom for a few years and they can't seam to get along to the point they don't want either one in each others life. My sister wants to leave to our native country which she grew up but I didn't. My nephew has live in the USA most of his life. He wants to stay and she has asked me if I would take him for the last 3 years he has left of high school till he can get a job and be on his own. Now I'm in the middle of it and I have to ask my husband if it's okay or not. My husband and I have only been marry 2 years and together 4. I have a 16 year old from my previous marriage and he does not want to have any kids of his own. I'm trying to get my mom and sis to make up but it seams it's not going to happen. I don't know what to do. Specially how to tell my husband.

I'm on my period and last night my husband kept trying to make out and have sex. When I told him no bc of my period and want to die rather than feel the pain cramps he yelled at me saying how dare I deprive him of sex and how he should go out and get some on the side bc his wife is to much of a bich to give it to him just bc she's in pain ugh women using periods as an excuse. We have sex every night or I give him a bj so he's happy. I even offerd to give him one and he went crazy. Got up in my face pinned me up against the wall tried to hit me serval times ( moved my head out of the way) and did once. Would u be that mad at ur wife bc she said no to sex bc of cramps or am I being a *****?

How much your life has changed financially going from a nuclear family to a single mom. Details please!!!

Are you wondering what she is like in bed? Are you wishing your wife looked like that? What is it? I know guys are visual but what are you thinking when you check out a woman?

It's his co worker. He finds her attractive and likes to check her out. He gets excited when she talks to him because she is a pretty girl. He said "her husband is a lucky man because he gets to have sex with her". Does that mean he wants to have sex with her? Or is he thinking about having sex with her? He claims that he just thinks her husband is lucky and he is not thinking about sex with her. He says he is only interested in me. I think he is very interesred in her.

I live with my in laws and spouse for a year and I waited a year just to see if Edward will decide to move out. But I was wrong .. He told me he would move but he changed his mind. Maybe he doesn't love me much like he use to ... Hmmm Edward is Confy living at his home ( he live at his home since he was 4) I want to move out because I want to grow up. I don't want my in laws to help us pay bills and buy our food . My hubby's need: stay home with in laws : reason : study to be agent, pay off his debt , it's cheaper . My needs : move out to get the experience of living with adults responsibilities and living life .. Like a grown woman .. Edward did say he would move to London but not for another 7 years .. I don't think I can live with in laws for 7 more years and I'll be a 28 year old finally learning to live like an adult .. Advice ? I want to move out and pay bills , buy food , live like an adult. Also in tried of being s people pleaser .. An inpressing my in laws with my cleaning skills . I'm 24 and Edward 25. Edward want to study to be a life agent . That another reason why he want to stay . Ideas?

My Abusive ex wife, keeps changing her mind on visitation. She went from only wanting to give me 2 x days 2 weekends a month, to three days 2xweekends a month, to finally giving me my daughter 4.5 days out of any given week. (65% physical custody) just so that she can go out, party and be promiscuous. Three weeks later, she has now filed a request to modify the order (She wants Child Support out of me w/ these percentages) Will she be granted child support even if she has our child less than I do now? This most recent modification to the order is to give me several hours MORE time than I already had, and she's trying to get me to pay for a $160, 3 year old, gifted crib as well as have me pay her CASH for half the value of my now bank owned car. The account settled and didn't leave a debt nor a credit. Can she do that?

Update my husband keeps taking care of his sister she's 21 with a baby and 18 year old brother who is finishing high school I have no problem with the brother but the sister I can't get along with. I have a baby 3 months and 3 year old daughter. It was supposed to be a few months she's stays with us till her tax money came in but she's still with us. Everyone keeps telling me I should talk to my husband set boundaries but when he tries she ignores him and still does her own thing I told him she has to go but now he looks like he's annoyed of me for pushing him. We had a rocky relationship in the beginning of our marriage his family has always been one of the reasons. I don't feel attracted to my husband anymore and starting to just debate about moving out with my girls and starting over. My home isn't my home his sister runs the place I wanted to put values in my girls and raise them right I had a hard time seeing my own sister mess up her life I don't want my daughters to go through what she did. My sister in law is really ghetto she brings guy after guy over and cusses up a storm not to mention her tantrums she's throws. I wanted to save my marriage but it seems like it's falling up no matter what

when thinking about marriage what do you do about living? when do you start looking for a place to live together or should you already be living together? i have been dating my bf for 3 years and i think he is the one. so if the day comes i'm just not sure what to do about the whole living thing or what we should do.

What? Her personality and looks? Uh, iunno. They're good enough. Maybe you'll grow to like her more???

Picture this: Husband took out the trash, cleaned the car, took the kids to soccer, went shopping for groceries, made lunch, let you take a nap, and even put the kids to bed without your help. Does he get sex for his hard work? Also picture this: Your dog walks 4 miles with you and tolerates the lack of water you brought. She notices you are feeling sad and lays with you on the couch. She sees you have a headache and goes outside to bark there instead of in the house. She plays with the kids so you don't have to. And she even fetched the newspaper. Does the dog deserve a biscuit? One more: You and your spouse want to think of something to do together now that the kids are at your parent's house for an overnight. Your spouse (man or woman) gives you a back massage and you two watch your favorite show. The massage was awesome and you are feeling like you MUST reciprocate since that is what you were taught it takes to be a "good spouse". How do you reciprocate? With sex? I see a logical fallacy of using sex as a reward. Maybe you can justify the claim on why it should be? Or maybe you can show your support that it shouldn't be? 'I'll best answer whoever gives the most compelling argument for their position. Well, logical fallacy is probably the wrong phrase. I just don't see it as being healthy and defies all logic about how respect between two people is formed/designed.

My husband and I have been married for 5 years, im 24 hes 33. about 3 years ago our marriage was starting to get a little rocky but that has never stop us from being sexually active with each other. Here recently we have been arguing more and more and my husband just stopped having any interest in having sex with me. It went from 3-4 times a week to maybe once every 2 weeks. He says its because hes getting older and his sex drive has gone down. I have a strong feeling he is cheating on me which is why he dont want to have sex like we used to. I know every man is different, but I want to know if there are any other guys out there who can help me understand this. Thank You.

hey i've a problem. I'm a married woman. my marriage was arranged by parents(Indians would know it).Let me give a detailed description. july 2014: guy flies from USA to India and we met. our engagement was fixed in august 2014 before guy flies back to USA. we met second time and he says he had a past love affair in his college which was pretty serious and after lot of arguemnts disagreements etc etc and other reasons they couldnt get married. he said now everything is over between us and we broke up in 2012. END of discussion. we never spoke about it later. we talked for 6 months before getting married daily on skype. I got married in feb 2015 and flew to USA. while searching for our marriage photos in his laptop, I found his ex pics in a folder. I asked why he kept them. He said he forgot to delete it. But I was not convinced and i searched his mails later when he went to office and found that he mailed her quite many times asking her to call her during december 2014( after our engagement). I asked him again why did you mail her. He said she used to call his dad(my father-in-law) repeatedly, so he asked her to call so that he can warn her not to disturb his parents. I was not convinced again. this time I checked his whatsapp chat and found he was talking to her continously after engagement in every way.. calls, messages, mails till jan 20th 2015 ( jan 23rd he flew to India to get married)conversations were quite intimate. I asked him very strongly what the hell is this?

He cheated on me a couple times. I don't work, because we move a lot. If we get divorce, does he has to pay for me for my living cost? Or how does divorce works?

So my husband and I went to a get together at a friend of his this past weekend.We had our 2 kids with us 5 and 2. Normally when we go over there it is just us 2 couples, but this time there were a few other people there. I was the designated driver so wasn't drinking very much. Everyone else was, and my husband is a big drinker so he was pretty drunk from early on. I normally get stuck being the DD and watching over our kids while he hangs out with his friend, which really isn't a huge deal, I like that he gets to spend time with his friend. This night however, my husband spent the entire night flirting with this other girl, completely ignoring me. I was embarrassed and a bit humiliated. The next day when he was sober, I confronted him about and he said he was sorry and that he was a jerk, but that still doesn't make it better. I am just so incredibly angry at him that he would do that, and do that in front of me-to me it is hugely disrespectful. I am also left with all of these questions about how he behaves when he is not with me, and what would have transpired if they had been alone upstairs or something. He says that I am being overly jealous. Do you think he is right? Would you be pissed off?

Even if he wasn't in her life for basically her whole life? She is a year old and he's only been in her life once for a short period of time...he claims that because he has more than me and him and his family are wealthy that I will lose custody of my daughter... He even want's joint custody even though she doesn't even know him well enough to take her to another state for months...

a lot of people cheat because they lack emotional care, but if you love your wife/husband and you got a problem that you want a best friend (husband/wife) to stand with you and help you, how to discuss it? i mean, you get the point

All because I'm growing a beard for a bet

I'm a 32 yr old surgical coder and I work at home while my wife is a resident OB -GYN so she basically work/live in the hospital. 3 months ago, her newly divorced aunt moved in with us as she just relocated her Illinois. I must admit her aunt is stunning hot for a 48 year old.The thing is her aunt is making advances @ me. At first her being super sexy /seductive is just part of her personality i.e. tshirt and thong @ night watching TV in th living room & I ignore it at but there were things that occurred that I can confirm that she's seducing me. She went inside the shower while I was taking a bath and I saw her naked as she pretended not to see me. I asked her why she went into my basement/office/gym bathroom, she told me she thought I take my shower at our master suite I just had my workout for Christ sake. She will asked my opinion about her lingerie, she was ready to show me her collections then I walked out. she sends my kids to watch movies frequently, she pays for it. she'll undress w/o closing her door, she go skinny dipping in the pool and often times running naked to her room she aint like that if my wife is home. I'm a hair away from being tempted. I told my wife to tell her aunt to go look for an apartment even offering her to pay half year for the apt but she wanted her aunt to stay with us coz according to her her aunt needs help at this difficult times. IDK if my wife will believe me If I tell her those stuff and how can I tell my wife about her aunt? me and my wife been married for 11 yrs, must admit also that sex is not that frequent due to her work so the temptation is overwhelming. I do not want to ruin my wife's relationship with her aunt. My wife is aware that I find her aunt hot, I jokingly tell her, "of course it's in your genes".I also offered her aunt a job, but her aunt refused as she still can not moved on yet from the divorced, my wife also told me that her aunt need not to work as she received 5 million dollars from the divorced the coz is due to limited characters, wrong grammar or choice of words because English is my 2nd language. pardon me for that I started to tell my wife that her aunt's attire is not appropriate but she just told me, what's appropriate? @ night and kids are sleeping already I told her that her aunt's doing skinny dipping in the pool but my wife even went to tell me that let her aunt be, she needs to feel sexy because she just got divorced. I also told her aunt that all the things she's doing is not okay. I was furious on the bathroom incident.I got no witness, the aunt do all those stuff when my wife and kids are away

I've been with my husband for 4 years now, we recently married on September. It feels like what I have been fearing finally happened. He doesn't send me sweet little nothings anymore, and we constantly fight about how we feel but no one gets through. Our sex life was great but lately it has went from almost all the time to nothing. When I started to please myself he said it's why we never have sex anymore. I changed that and I still can't get him in the mood even when touching him. (Which isn't a problem) until he starts huffing and puffing and says getting naked in the most unpleasant way possible. Maybe I can do things differently.

It wasn't long enough for me to know my husband better when I married him because my father asked me to.We decided to get married because of mutual love for each other,I thought it wouldn't be so bad but it wasn't like I hoped. He doesn't like me nagging at him.It's not that I want to,but I have no choice.He knows I dislike smoking & I told him not to smoke inside the house & throw the cigarettes bud inside the toilet,yet he doesn't listen.He rarely helps around the house too.We both have full time jobs & it's also my duty to keep the house clean.Though I wish he would at least help too & I told him that I'm tired after 8 hours of working,why doesn't he help but he would say he's tired from work too. We also argue about money issues,last month he gave all his salary to his dad(I understand his dad has no money but he is also working,surely he has savings in the bank)when we ourselves are in desperate need of money?I had to advance from my dad(I work under my dad & run his business)over one thousand just to feed both of us,I had to pay everything including petrol for the car my dad let him use for work.He spends most of his time with friends & comes home very late(I've nag at him about this too)but he never listen. I feel that he doesn't love me as much as I do.My sister suggested me to divorce him & find another husband but I can't.I hope we will last,we've only been married coming 1 year & hope he will change(we are both age below 25)but doubts fills me.What should I do?

I feel like I am at a crossroads here. After 7 years of marriage, my husband never refers to "us" or "we" it is always "I", "me" and "my" with him. Most of the time I overlook it but when he says to his ex (with me standing there) when we pick up our Grandchild from her house is "I will watch him for the next two days." It hit me like a bomb. Am I being petty? It really gets to me since we have been married for so long now.

I was reunited with an old friend and we've been texting for about 7 months. At times it's more than regular texting; it's more like intimate texting, and we went from that to sending ea other videos. I spend every minute thinking about him. In the beginning we would take turn in starting the text, but for the past few mo I've been the one starting the conversation, and if I don't start he won't start either. There were times when he won't text me back for hours/days/even a week, which made me devastated until he texts me back, then I get happy again. Is he not that into me anymore? I know what we're doing is wrong, esp that we both are married, but I feel such a strong connection with him and can't get him out of my head. I feel like I'm obsessed with him and constantly check my phone to see if there is a text from him. Is this what mid-life crisis feels like? I feel bored even though I am busy & have 3 kids, and he seems to be the only one that gives me excitement and makes me feel good. We never talk about love or anything, but for some reason he makes me super happy. I feel like I'm addicted to him like drugs. Cannot stop thinking about him. I love my husband and I know this is wrong, but I cannot stop. Now it has been 6 days he has not texted me, and I feel devastated. I have texted him 12 times but no response. I keep having the urge to text. Note: his wife is in a different city, so I don't think she found out. Please Help... I desperately need some good advice. Txs ps. We never got physical, as he lives in a different state. He asked me to meet him after our first reunion, but I turned him down, knowing what could happen, and I was super scared. Now I have a strong urge to meet him if I'm ever in the area.

I watch lost of US films and so many show eating breakfast in bed and that is not part of my culture. Thank you.

Doesn't tell he is married or has a girlfriend? He flirts with women anyway?

So, I was married a month ago and the Pastor that married us never sent in the marriage license like he was supposed to. To say the least, things have gotten really rough at home and I regret my marriage because it appears as though I never truly knew my husband. He has changed dramatically over the past month, becoming overbearing and controlling, staying out all night, sleeping on the couch, yelling at me over petty things in front of the children, and treating my son differently then he treats his own. When I attempt to communicate, he ignores me or turns up the television. When I cry about the road that our relationship has taken, he mocks me and calls me a baby. Up until this point, I rationalized all of this, explaining to everyone that marriage was an adjustment but his psychological abuse is getting out of hand. Last night, I left our home and stayed elsewhere because I came to the realization that I do not know the REAL man that I married. I have known him for ten years and we dated on and off for six before he finally popped the question. I did not think that it was possible to do such a 180 after knowing someone for so long but you live and you learn. I wish to file for an annulment but he is adement that we aren't even married because the paperwork has yet to be filed. Can we just wash our hands of this marriage like it never existed? Or do I have to file the paperwork and then have it anuled in order to be rid of this unhealthy relationship?

My ex husband and I were married for 7 years (of hell). He cheated, ignored me, lied, etc. He wanted a divorce eventually because obviously he was miserable and so was I but I didn't want this because I was stupid. Well, we divorced and realized it was the best thing I ever did. Now, 8 years after our divorce, to this day, he still messages me (him remarried with kids) wanting to say sorry, meet up, he misses me, and wants to be friends. I decline everytime. He says I am holding a grudge and wrong and that he will always love me and want me in his life. Am I wrong for feeling this way now and not wanting him part of my life? This person put me through hell during our marriage.

I just don't get why people get married. Maybe there's something I'm not understanding? Yeah I get the legal benefits and all I guess but why can't you just be with someone you love without having to get married? To me it's much more proof of your love to just be with someone because you love them without needing to involve the government and all that futile bs. What do you think?

My husband and I dated throughout high school and decided to get married while in university. We had no sexual encounters prior to our wedding night and at first it was all he wanted. I'm sorry to get so personal but honestly it was a daily occurrence for him to ask for sex and I always gave him what he wanted. However we have been married for going on two years and he has seemed to not want sex at all. I would try to be the one to initiate the sex but he always refused. Of course he has every right to tell me no and I understand that not all men want sex ALL the time but this has been going on for months now. I tried talking to him about any kinks or fantasies he wanted to act on hoping it would spark his interest once more but no luck. I'm just afraid that he has already grown tired of me and craves something else. I've tried talking to him about it and suggested seeing a counselor but he got defensive and said for me to "stop being a desperate sl*t". Since then I have stopped asking or even discussing it but I am just worried that things will fall apart. I don't know what to do. Does he just need time or could something else be bothering him? The problem isn't that I NEED sex and am demanding he gives it to me. If he doesn't want to than I respect that and won't pressure him to do so. I'm just worried that something may be wrong or that I am doing something wrong that makes him feel this way. It's more about his feelings than the actual sex, just wanted to make that clear.

We have be married 4 years and when we first met we had sex pretty much everyday. We moved in together and we still had sex pretty much everyday. We got married and he still gets laid pretty much everyday. There are the rare, I mean RARE occasions when I tell him "not today sweetie". There has maybe been 5 at the most in our entire relationship. Those times I've said no because I honestly did not feel up to it (sick, horrible period, stuff like that), he gets extremely defensive and upset. Last night was one of the few times I've told him no. I have ovarian cysts that burst sometimes and cause pelvic pain. I did not feel too well last night but I sucked it up took some medication and gave my husband a massage to make up for it. After the massage he initiated sex and I told him he knows I'm not feeling well. He said "I was waiting all day for sex and you deny me. Are you f******* kidding me!?!?!". I calmly told him that's not a very nice thing to say and cried myself to sleep. He acts like I'm some horrible wife because I say no to sex on rare occasions. I have sex with him almost everyday he is not deprived of sex at all. I like to please him and vice versa and we NEVER argue about anything else. I offer to get him off orally the times I'm not up for it and he says he only likes that for foreplay. To have sex. I've tried talking to him about this and he doesn't see how he is upsetting me. What else can I do?????

My husband of 12 years of marriage and 15 years together has had are ups and downs but within the year we have seem to grow to much away from each other I still love and he's the father of my children but I believe I realize when I see DEFEATED in the marriage. Any advices