Family: Question: I dread the pain inflicted on me at Christmas by the family segregation, what do I do?

Question: I dread the pain inflicted on me at Christmas by the family segregation, what do I do?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 02:08 PM PST

When I was a kid my parents segregated us from extended family over trivial things (my Mom's father was an alcoholic). I felt terrible that we did not see extended family at Christmas when everyone else I knew did except the other family that would come over that had none in the area and wasn't close. So Christmas Day was devoted to gossiping about the alcoholic grandfather. This was a horrible memory from my childhood. While seeing him drunk on Christmas might have been awkward, I wish we had done it even if we abbreviated the visit. I feel SO guilty I didn't fight my parents about it. So now I am an adult and some years I see the extended family (I was 16 when the grandfather died) and other years they don't ask us since they know my mother won't go (she still holds grudges). So I don't know what this year will bring but I am very-very anxious about the wounds that will open if we are segregated. WHAT DO I DO? The same question applies to Thanksgiving.

Question: I am wondering if my step-daughter should be dating her relation? It is her biological mother s half-sister s half sister s son!?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 02:05 PM PST

Question: It is my mother's birthday Friday but I can't stand her. How do I deal with having to see suck an abusive woman?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 02:05 PM PST

She is turning 60 so I feel it is my duty as a son to see her even if briefly. She is hateful when I was a kid to my Dad after they divorced and she ruined my life as a teen by this. Yet it is 22 years later and I sometimes see her as I have to. I have some love for her but no like. So how do I deal with seeing this mean woman come Friday? My step-father asked me over and I accepted.

Question: My brother knows so many of my secrets?!?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 01:54 PM PST

We hate each other, but now he knows all of my secrets. He says he's been visually observing (spying?!) and he knows things he shouldn't. Of course my parents don't know, because he always has the best excuses and is really good at deflecting things. Like when I'm on the computer he'll be standing behind me, or if I'm just in the bathroom, he'll barge right in. I don't know what to do I'm scared, he's gonna reveal all of them to the family at one point, I can't let them know, and if I happen to get famous or successful, he's gonna ruin my career! I know I'm overreacting, but he's trying to break me a part. He's not physically abusive, but he is messing me up emotionally I have thought of killing him or selling my soul to the devil for a better life. HELP!

Question: Help me out...?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 01:38 PM PST

Every once in a while, my aunt comes over to do something to my hair because... Y'know, Strict parents go from non-approval of cellphones, to m rated games, to hairstyles. Here's my point. Yesterday, my aunt did something to my hair, and i didn't really like it. So i took the hairstyle out last night, and did natural box braids on myself. The next day, my dad seemed alright with it on my way to school, but untill my grandma mentioned my hair, thats when he started complaining ? I tried to tell her, i didn't like it... But the first thng they said was... "ALWAYS DOING WHAT YOU WANT" "NEVER LISTEN TO US" "WE MEAN NOTHING"...They don't even listen to me, i feel like they just wanna hear themselves talk. I didn't wanna go to school with a hairstyle i'm not too comfortable with? I wish they could stop threatning me to make me go live with my mother, but its non-stop. Once i do one little thing, they always think i'm "Doing what i wanna do" but really, i'm just making myself a bit more comfortable. What can i do? Plus, i wanna get out the house so i can stop hearing their complaints, like a friends house or to a store, because it really annoys me to hear them complain. What should i do?

Question: What kind of father is this, oh crazy?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 01:35 PM PST

He has a 20-year-old daughter, but reveals that there's no jealousy of her not even in adoslecencia and he is liberal with his daughter I asked him why he doesn't feel and he spoke ´ ´ I can't stand jealous even the jealousy is little, I think something unbearable even moderate jealousy I like, and alias jealous will just make my daughter away from me and will give me headache ´ ´ a father that loves the daughter always got jealous that her father is a jerk.

Question: How can I make my sister feel better ?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 01:31 PM PST

My sister just got home from work an hour ago. She's 4 months pregnant shes really tired. She's upset she hardly gets to see me anymore. She works at Walmart where she could work 24/7 if she was told to. Today and tomorrow she works from 9-2 but she might start getting longer hours. She's in my room taking a nap. All she does is go to work for 5 or 7 hours then comes home and showers and is in bed by 9 or 10. She doesn't even stay up late anymore. Its starting to turn cold here so she can never go outside much. She feels like she never sees me anymore. Her feet were hurting today she was also tired from walking all the way around the store. She said her back hurts from standing all day. She just started working last week so its gonna take her a while to get use to this. How can I help her feel better ? Would it be ok to lay down and nap with her ?

Question: What would you do if your sons girlfriends blouse was wide open and her boobs were exposed to people?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 01:29 PM PST

Question: I need some fatherly advice.?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 01:29 PM PST

I have a four year old daughter, who I love to the end of the world. I grew up to a single mother and a strict uncle, who taught me to behave and Grandma's who taught me to be respectful. Well I'm basically raising my daughter alone and sometimes I feel as though I'm to hard on her when she does wrong, I don't abuse her or anything but when she talks back or lie about something...etc. I'll pop her or make her stand in a corner. But afterwards i feel guilty, and wonder if I'm doing it wrong or if there's another way. I just want the best for her.....and to keep her from becoming like her mother to be honest. Any advice from Father's or Mother's are welcome. Im 20yrs old btw.

Question: My son got my girlfriends boobs while she was asleep should I pull her bra up or leave my son alone?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 01:26 PM PST

Question: My girlfriend fell asleep and my son is got her boobs out and playing with them should I pull her bra up or not? He is 4 years old?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 01:08 PM PST

Question: You have two half brother and sister, and are you related to there cousins, come from there own moms side.?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 01:00 PM PST

Question: Is everybody right about me? Am I too stubborn?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 12:52 PM PST

Ever since my husband left us, I've been a single mother for a long time and didn't date. I have four children two boys and two girls (ages 13, 9, 7 and a year old) Anways I've been on out own for a while and I'm a hard working mother and a nurse. My sisters and best friend offered to help but I told them, "No this is MY responsibility." everyone keeps asking me if I'm okay. I really appreciate my family caring for me. It got to a point that I was overwhelmed and burst into tears. One of my younger sisters said, "Yes you do need us. You're just too stubborn to ask for help. Look at you. You can't do this by yourself. You need us right now." My parents want to say and help but my sister said they've done their share raising us and now its our turn. What's wrong with me?

Question: How can I get my brother to accept my mannequin?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 12:46 PM PST

I'm 17 years old and I bought a mannequin three years ago on the internet. It is a realistic mannequin made from plastic of a female child. I have named her, talk to her, kiss her, and have dressed her up in little pink clothes. I have a girlfriend at school and all that, but I still enjoy spending some time with my mannequin and sometimes I read to her! My brother is 13 and he still has his teddy bear he's kept since he's been a baby, but he HATES my mannequin. If he sees me with her he says rude things to me and one time he hit her so hard her head rolled off. He's even called me a pedophile, which is funny since in no way is this mannequin sexually attractive to me. I've always wanted a little sister, so the mannequin has been nice. I've been with my girlfriend for less than a year now, and I love her more than my mannequin, but I still have an emotional attachment to the doll. Actually, she is kind of like my little daughter in some way. I've tried to reason with my brother to no avail. How can I help him see this differently?

Question: Was i wrong for doing this to my mom?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 12:19 PM PST

My mom and i have never had a good healthy relationship. Mostly because she is a crazy abuser that had bipolar depression like ****. Im her only child btw. The other day, i went to her house to help her clean up because she had broken her arm and couldnt do it herself. Well, I took some paper and other stuff to burn and left some boxes behind because they were too big for me to carry. When i was walking out the door, she stopped me and started to cuss me out for not taking out the boxes too. I calmly stated that I couldnt carry them and would come back for them. She started to tell me that I needed to take them out then instead of taking two trips. She kept coming at me and coming at me as if im still 12 years old. Im 18, married, and have been out of her house for 2 years now. She kept taking to me as if I was a child and finally I snapped at her. I cursed her out and slammed the stuff that I was holding down and **** went everywhere. I told her I was doing that out of the kindness of my heart and that I wasnt a child anymore. After that, I stormed out and left.

Question: Brother sister insults?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 12:10 PM PST

im writing a short story for fun.. what are good insults a sister can say to her brother and a brother can say to his sister?

Question: Is my situation normal?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 12:01 PM PST

First of all, I'm sharing this account with a friend of mine, so that's why you might see other questions on here that don't match up with my situation. So here's the deal. I'm 22 years old and I'll be graduating from college with my B.A. in a few months. In my field, there aren't really any jobs I can get right away that pay a ton. I'll have to start with a lower-paying job and work my way up towards a higher-paying job. The thing is, the jobs I'll start out with won't pay enough for me to support myself. Therefore, I'll probably be living with my parents for at-least a year after I've graduated and they'll be financially supporting me during that time as well. Is it normal that I'll still be financially dependent parents even after I graduate from college? What if I lived with roommates and my parents helped with my apartment expenses? Would that be normal?

Question: Why can't my mom share her bathroom with my brother?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 11:52 AM PST

I share my bathroom with him I am so tired of cleaning up after him he leaves hand soap in the shower and toothpaste yes he brushes his teeth in the shower then there is blue toothpaste at the bottom of the shower my mom allows him to live with us yet complains about him everyday why can't she share her bathroom with him? I'm not the one who let him with us she did.

Question: Is this normal? Or special needs?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 11:44 AM PST

A family member of mine is 21, she is still into playing with dolls and teddies, she told me she wants to see Santa at Christmas should I say something ??

Question: When my mom and her family would fight when I was a kid she would tell us them upsetting her meant they didn't want us in their lives?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 11:36 AM PST

my question is how do I get over this now that I'm an adult and overcome these hurt feelings from when my mother personalized it. I grew up with the hurt of thinking her whole family disliked me and while I know they don't now I still worry about it and have trauma from it. I am in therapy looking for additional advice

Question: My four-year-old seen me his father fighting and my son immediately started hitting his father what do they mean?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 11:24 AM PST

Question: Is it only me or are moms very annoying?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 11:23 AM PST

So about everyday I have a little small fight with my mom! It's just annoying! Every once in a while I have just a big fight with my mom! I had one just now about that she got me 2 Homework classes! I just finished having one and then with the teacher next to her she asks, So does she need anymore classes? The teacher (which is a very kind person) says, maybe one next week before the exam? My mom said, are you ok for it this Saturday? At that point I started feeling mad.. and she is like, yes I also give classes in Saturday... I could come for one in the morning for this week? I say, no please not this weekend?! Then my mom is like it's ok this weekend at 11:30 (and I normally wake up at that time) and then I also have to take another one on Tuesday at 7! And I get home at 6:40 on Tuesdays because of skl activities! I'm mad with my mom now! I really want to not do anything this Saturday!!!!!

Question: Why do I feel like I have no time anymore?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 11:08 AM PST

I go to school Monday through Friday, and that takes up a lot of my time, including homework. Every other weekend I go to my dad's house and every Sunday clean/do my chores. Lately I feel like I don't have any time to do anything fun. Why do I feel like this, and how can I stop feeling like this?

Question: How do I get my parents to respect my privacy.?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 10:47 AM PST

I am 13 years old and my parents are so nosey. They are always wanting to check my phone and instagram. This is all because I said something bad to a kid when I was 11. They are always thinking that I am hiding something and need to check it. How do I get them to stop stalking me online?

Question: My mom lets my sister do stuff I never would have gotten away with. Is this because my mom is lazy parenting by child number 6?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 10:45 AM PST

I am the second child and my sister is the youngest.

Question: Is it weird to think, your grandma may have beet a hottie back in the day?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 10:26 AM PST

Question: How do I survive the pain at the upcoming holidays of not being able to see my Dad due to my Mom's anger at him for drinking?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 10:03 AM PST

My parents divorced and my mother won't let me see my Dad. During the random days in the year I don't worry about it too much but it really hurts at the holidays. I feel so ashamed because his other son sees him (his son from his 1st marriage) but my sister and I don't because of my Mom. I feel I must look so unfaithful in the eyes of my older half-brother and my Dad's family (parents, siblings, etc....). My mother says I should be grateful she doesn't make me see him. But it makes me feel ashamed. So at Christmas I see all my Mom's family (she has a big close family) but none of my Dad's. She says they don't want a relationship with me but they act really nice when I email them so I don't think that is true. So how do I cope with this pain? I am only 15 so have to wait until after high school until I can go anyway and even then my mother will make it difficult. How do I cope with this pain at the holidays? She might think she is protecting me but she is hurting me.

Question: Not getting along with Fiance's mom! Help!?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 09:37 AM PST

I have always been really close with his mom. She makes comments sometimes that are extremely rude. She does things like telling me I look fat in the wedding dress I tried on that I loved, puts her other sons and their girlfriends before my fiance and i, and when telling her that we want to move out of state, she literally told us that we weren't going to. So my fiance and I were home for the summer from college, to save money, so we just stayed at our parents house then when school started, we got an apartment together. Right before we left, we had a going away dinner. His family was there and no one else was drinking but his mother. She got so drunk that she started calling me a hussy across the table and telling me that I deflowered her son. I was so embarrassed, everyone was listening and they kind of didn't know what to say. My fiance tried to brush it off as her just joking around but she literally wouldn't quit saying it. We left the restaurant and I decided since we were leaving in a week for school to not talk to her anymore. I went over once before we were going to leave and I said hi but I wasn't being my normal bubbly self around her so my fiance talked to her and she said that I was being immature and she didn't want me in her house if I wasn't talking to her so I left. Now we are away at college and I told my fiance I didn't want to be around his mom anymore. He is really struggling with this, I want to know if its okay for me to feel this way.

Question: Is second cousins proper close family ?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 09:21 AM PST

Question: Is my brother a pervert for doing this?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 09:10 AM PST

I am a high school girl that has chores that help out my mom. One of my chores is to wash the clothes and sheets from the beds. I noticed the sheets from my little brother's bed were sticky when I washed them. They kept getting more sticky each week. I asked him how come they were sticky and he denied they were. I finally got tired of washing his sticky sheets and demanded he show me how they were getting sticky. YOU WILL NOT BELIEVE WHAT HE DID. I asked him if that hurt. He said no. It feels pretty good. Is it normal for guys to do that? It sure messes up his sheets. Should I tell him if he does not stop doing that, he will have to wash his own sheets. I don't think I EVER want to touch his sheets again.

Question: Aunt hates me?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 09:00 AM PST

My aunt, (mom's sister) absolutely hates me and I don't know why. Ever since I was younger, she always gives me dirty looks and acts like a child. She just turned 30 and I'm 14. Once while we were celebrating my birthday, my mom had gotten me a pair of boots and my aunt threw a fit because she wanted them for herself and she kept them. When my younger cousin (her daughter) and I are playing or talking my aunt immediately tells my cousin to go play alone or with someone else. She gives me these dirty looks and smirks all the time too, she knows what she's doing and when my mom is around she acts nice and gives me fake smiles. When I tell my mom what she does, my aunt plays the victim card and says that she loves me and I don't love her and that I'm rude. I didn't invite her to my birthday party because really it was only a small gathering with my friends and she fake cried like a child and said I'm was so mean. On top of that she doesn't involve me in anything. When we went to visit my mom insisted on making cookies and my aunt left me out because it was only a project for the younger kids so I was forced to watch soccer with my grandfather. She does that all the time, I'm the oldest so I can't play outside, or I can't go to the movies or I cant do anything kids do. I don't know what to do, they're coming over to spend a week at my house next Saturday and I do not want to put up with her crap. Any advice? Sorry for the misspelled words and punctuation.

Question: Help! My dad sent his resume to a bunch of people in Canada today, but I don't want to leave?!?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 08:54 AM PST

Please help me change his mind!!!

Question: Is first cousins immediate family ?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 08:47 AM PST

Question: Moving out at 18?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 08:28 AM PST

I plan to move out of my mom's house earlier than I would like. I'm having problems at home with family and I gotta learn to balance the pressure and stress that I have. I just don't think I can do that living with my mom and my brother. I talked to my therapist and she knows a lot about my personal stories. She understands why I have the need to move so she is willing to lend me a helping hand by introducing me to resources that could help me. I had to quit my previous jobs in the past because I wanted to focus on my education. Since I do want to move out I know I need a job. I'm in getting into a paid internship program in hospitality and I.T. Once I complete the internship and get my licence for either hospitality or I.T, I plan to apply for jobs within those field. I don't plan to move out asap because I'm still contemplating whether I should go through with this. Am I jumping way ahead? Should I stay and bare living with my mom and brother for financial reasons even though I know if I stay it's going to impact my mental and emotion health?

Question: My sister makes a wierd face when she takes a selfie?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 07:53 AM PST

my sister makes an awkward face when she takes pictures of herself, I want to know why and she won't tell me why

Question: I heard a banshee?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 07:37 AM PST

Last night I was in my bed. Regular day, y'know? And then all of a sudden I was woken up at 3 A.M. because i heard awful wailing and sobbing right next to my window. Later, at 5 A.M., I was woken by my mom crying. Turns out my grandpa has a brain hemorrhage, and he has to undergo dangerous brain surgery. Yeah. I've even had to skip school today because of it, even though I have a huge test. But the biggest mystery is if I really heard a banshee or not. I'm Irish on my dad's side. It wasn't windy at all. It's literally impossible for any animals to go into my backyard (because of a huge wall + an electric fence), I live in the literal middle of the desert with no owls, foxes, or anything that can make that kind of noise. Nobody in my neighborhood has ever seen a cat or bobcat around here. It's just a huge mystery.

Question: Can life get any worse!?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 07:29 AM PST

When your dad is rude af and makes you sit in the pouring rain locked out of the house for an hour and a half for "joe from work in a black jeep" to come and bring the key because he can t leave his "serious graphic design job" even though you have a math quiz tomorrow and are sitting on a freezing rock under the smallest tree on your front lawn ever in a dame kilt and non water roof vest! This week keeps getting better and better :D Hope more lovely surprises come my way!

Question: Question about how to handle a family situation at Christmas this year?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 07:25 AM PST

Last Christmas my parents were asked by my aunt to come over for dinner with the siblings of my Mom's and their kids on Christmas Eve. My mother declined because she had a friend coming over (my mother doesn't like her siblings). I wanted to go where the extended family was, not to see my mother's friend. So I tried to finagle an invitation but did not get one. As a result Christmas sucked. All the pain of being different as a kid flooded to me (as a kid I wasn't allowed around my Mom's family). I could not invite myself as I got in trouble with an aunt for doing that in my late teens. So this Christmas if the same scenario arises I don't know what to do. I would hate to have a bad Christmas again because of my mother's bitterness and any bitterness her siblings might have. The reason I want to go is that I want to see my cousins and be an active part of the family instead of a distant relative like my Mom. ANY IDEAS?

Question: Drive to Georgia or take a bus and Uber to Georgia?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 07:03 AM PST

I live in North Carolina and the part of Georgia that I am visiting is a 7 hour drive. I usually drive 4 hours to a bus station that is only a 3 hour trip to Georgia after I get there via bus and park for $5 a day. The ticket is $77 round trip. However, if I drive, I can drive straight there, but not sure if it is good to drive that far alone. I plan on visiting family and they hate when I drive alone. However, when I want to get where I need to go, I have to take uber everywhere because my family there are either always using their cars or do not have reliable cars.

Question: I overslept and i missed school.?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 06:09 AM PST

Well it was morning, my mom came in and told me to get up, it was 6. I decided to sleep, thinking my sister would wake me. I woke up realizing it was 9. I didnt't have my phone, it takes 6 hours to walk! How do i tell her?

Question: My mum hasn't returned home yet and I'm extremely worried...?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 05:41 AM PST

My mum left at I think around 5pm-6pm to go to her weekly course and she usually comes back at 7:30pm or a little later, she took the taxi to her course since she can't drive and she hasn't returned, its 11;39pm and I'm worried, she couldn't have gone anywhere after her course since she relies on taxi and there's no where she could possibly go. I'm worried she mightve tried walking home and something bad has happened. What should I do? I'm 18 and I'm with my 2 baby siblings :( she doesnt go out with friends, even if she did she would msg me... :( I feel like bursting into tears OMG thank you everything in this world that kept her safe, she just arrived, her course went extremely overtime, a bit unusual for a night class to finish at 12:21am!? but shes here and laughing at me being dramatic, I was gonna call the police, something I didn't want to have to do. Thank you everyone. I can't believe she walked home and it's 12am. Her phone ended up being dead, so thats why I never got a response.

Question: How is this person related to me? And is it even family anymore?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 05:38 AM PST

So my grandma has a cousin who had a kid and that kid had one too. How is theist child born related to me? Here is a clear list of what I mean starting in his side of the family. Him His mom His grandma (my grandmas cousin) My grandma (his grandmas cousin) My mom Myself We want to find out if he really even is family? Hispanic family trees are about the sizes of real ones haha.

Question: How is this person related to me?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 05:33 AM PST

So I met a guy who apparently is ver close family but my mother said out Greatgrandmother has a cousin who had a daughter who had a son. Who is he to me? So the list starts from him: Him His mother His mothers mom (or my grandmas cousin) My grandma (or his Grandmas cousin) My mother Me Is that even considered family anymore? It s so confusing!

Question: Is Christmas a good time for you?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 05:17 AM PST

Question: How can I convince my parents to give me back my cell phone?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 05:05 AM PST

My parents took my phone away since I got a bad mark in my physics quiz and I have apologized a lot and then they told me that I am supposed to work harder and I did I study for more than 6 hours a day and when I did my second Physics quiz I got a very good mark but they still are refusing to give it back, they say I didn t work hard enough and I was supposed to take a full mark, what should I do????

Question: Why doesn't my mom tell me she loves me anymore?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 04:46 AM PST

Hello everyone. I'm a 20 year old guy by the way. Usually before I close my mom's bedroom door at night, I tell her goodnight and that I love her. She usually responds saying the same thing. Recently I been either working or studying late, so I rarely get a chance to talk to her before bed time. Most times she'd just say she's going to bed and rarely says goodnight. About a week ago, I got a chance to tell her good night, She said goodnight then I told her I love her. She just said ok. Yesterday I told her goodnight and that I love her. She said alright, turn off the light. As you may have guessed, that kind of hurts. We didn't get into any arguments and I haven't done anything to get her upset. She does seem a little stressed but is it hard to say, "I love you." back? I'm only 20... I'm almost done with college. No law that states, "You can't stay home." I'm leaving right after college. She is the one that wants me to stay. Thank you. I guess I'll show it more than just saying.

Question: Family tree?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 04:34 AM PST

What would be my relationship with my cousin-in-law s father?

Question: How do I survive the pain at the upcoming holidays of not being able to see my Dad due to my Mom's anger at him for drinking?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 04:30 AM PST

My parents divorced and my mother won't let me see my Dad. During the random days in the year I don't worry about it too much but it really hurts at the holidays. I feel so ashamed because his other son sees him (his son from his 1st marriage) but my sister and I don't because of my Mom. I feel I must look so unfaithful in the eyes of my older half-brother and my Dad's family (parents, siblings, etc....). My mother says I should be grateful she doesn't make me see him. But it makes me feel ashamed. So at Christmas I see all my Mom's family (she has a big close family) but none of my Dad's. She says they don't want a relationship with me but they act really nice when I email them so I don't think that is true. So how do I cope with this pain? I am only 15 so have to wait until after high school until I can go anyway and even then my mother will make it difficult. How do I cope with this pain at the holidays? She might think she is protecting me but she is hurting me.

Question: Moms would you have done this?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 04:16 AM PST

I just got back from dropping my daughter off at school Since I did not go in anyplace and came right back home I drove in my bare feet and did not bring my shoes.

Question: Why would she choose me to tell such personal stuff to?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 03:46 AM PST

I had a procedure done recently (I'm okay.) so my friend Janet (she's 45 and I am 18) calls to check up on me, FYI we are very close, she's been an adult role model and close personal friend of mine... anyway she never calls. Of course she asked how I was, if I was okay etc.. then she started just skipping around subjects talking about her family, recent troubles of hers, problems that have occurred, telling stories of when she was little, about how she misses her parents who past etc.. even about her procedure coming up and what the doctors wanted to do. don't get me wrong it was a great long talk, I listened and helped any way I could, giving her all my attention. But why would she call me? I understand people need to vent or need advice but why me? I'm just an 18 year old. Or at least that's how I see myself.. I later that day sent her flowers to show my love and support. But why would she tell me such personal things?

Question: In need of advice. My boyfriend and I have a 2 month old and he has 2 kids (7 year old, 10 year old) from previous relationship.?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 03:24 AM PST

So When we started dating I accepted the fact he has 2 kids from the previous relationship. I ended up getting pregnant with his child. Now before I moved in with him everything was fine. I didn t mind the kids and I didn t really mind the mother of his kids. The kids don t live with us. They are here every other weekend. Now he pays his child support that needs to be paid. The mother of his kids does not work and collects welfare because she is a single mother who doesn t work. Now she doesn t work because she is lazy. She claims to. It trust her children with anyone when clearly she tries to leave the kids with us every single day after school even on the weekends that he doesn t have them. I get it they are his kids. But one thing that I cannot stand is the fact that she is always asking him for money because she is broke. He literally buys the kids everything. Their clothes and shoes. Even their beds because she sold them!! He buys them their costumes every Halloween and she complains about the costumes. All she does is talk **** to him. I am at my wits end here. I go back to work in a week. He doesn t help me take care of the bby at night when I need to go sleep. He would rather look out after his other kids and help her with being lazy. She can t even buy them a cheeseburger she is always asking him to buy them food. Even for herself. I don t get it they give her welfare money for the kids yet she s always broke and can t provide for them. What should I do?

Question: Adult Relationship advice.?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 02:35 AM PST

My boyfriend's 15 year old daughter lives with him. I just recently moved in and since then things have just been strange. He talks all the time about how they are best friends and tell each other everything. The thing is if anything is going on then she is the one who has to tell me. He barely communicates with me. If I want or need to talk about anything then he interrupts me and starts telling me how his daughter is going through some kind of something. But a great example is how I ended up driving myself to the ER this morning because I was sick because he didn't want to wake her up and didn't want her to be at home alone. She's 15 and really responsible and I was really way to sick to even drive. I'm just really starting to feel like I'm not in a relationship at all. And they are. And please don't think it's a jealousy thing. She's a great kid. I have way more conversations with her than I do her father. And of course it wasn't that way until I got rid of my place and moved in with them. And I get the whole kids come first. I have three adult children of my own. Now I just don't know what to do. :(

Question: I thank everyone for their answers, but my question was did I abuse? Or did I not? Is this something to move on and forget or tell?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 01:35 AM PST

Did I sexually abuse my sister if I touch her private part like twice I believe when I was like 10 or 11/12 and maybe 13 or just 11 I can't remember, and I can't remember what I did its all a blur, I remember when I was like 9/10 I were make like I was breastfeed my sister (that stop shortly) but I then touch/rub over her diaper. I am 17 year old girl and I would never do something like that ever and I feel really bad about it, I did it without thinking like experimenting/sexually but like I was sexually abuse by a family member. I just feel really bad, she doesn't remember and no one knows about it, I don't know if I should tell my parent or just forget about it? As I said I would never do anything like that now I feel bad like really badly bad

Question: Steps to move on from losing a family member?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 01:29 AM PST

Next Janurary will be a month since I lost my mom due to cancer and everyday still feel like the same stab in the chest that same day. My dad is slowing moving, my brother said he was asked by him how he'd feel about another women. He has yet to ask me, I assume he probably already knows I won't be comfortable with. But I don't want him to be upset, he is only 38! I don't want to put everything under the rug, but what are safe steps to move on, or bring out the good memories...accepting this mess. I just feel lost and confused with all this. Everything of hers I don't want to move or give up. I just want to hoard it all in, I know it isn't healthy...

Question: Missing my mother so much.. :(?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 12:47 AM PST

Im a young boy, and on my job. Its internship. So Im not an expert to stay away from mom for so long. Its just that I was an only child, and Im soo much attached to my mom.. that I miss her so much right now. I have a whole day to spend here after I'll be able to go home and see her... What to do?

Question: If someone has a baby?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 12:42 AM PST

My nephew's teenage girlfriend just gave birth. I haven't had any contact with my brother (his dad) or him for a couple of years, when the nephew stopped trying to get money from me. I found out about the birth on Facebook. I've never met or spoken to the baby mama. Am I supposed to track them down and send them a gift? No one in the family has contacted me. I don't know where they live. There has been a lot of addiction issues and drama with them and they're too into their own drama to bother with me

Question: Is this normal behavior for brother and sister?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 12:40 AM PST

Marvin is 13 and his sister is nine. Marvin holds his sisters hand at night when he's nervous or scared. It makes him feel relaxed and helped him fall asleep at night. Normal or not?

Question: My mother won't let me see my Dad for the holidays this year because they divorced. How do I get her to, I feel so sad by it?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 12:36 AM PST

Question: What happens if my mother blames me for Trump winning because I voted 3rd party instead of for Clinton?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 12:28 AM PST

Question: Is a parent allowed to give custody of their child to another adult if the children of the adults are dating?

Posted: 09 Nov 2016 12:10 AM PST

Now that trump won the presidency, my family is planning to move to Canada, and my boyfriends family is most likely going to travel back to their home country. I'm 16 and my boyfriend is 17. Is it possible for his parents to give my parents full custody of him so that we can go to Canada together? I forgot to add that I'm in the state of New York