Our relationship has been in a very bad shape the past few years. Lot of disagreement for everything between us, not taking for days, etc. 3 days ago I got to a point I couldn't take it anymore, this is after a few days not talking and my husband been irritated that I told him This time around I was really done, he said he was done too and tired of me treating him. . In the past every time I will mention that things were not good and that something needed to change, or we were gonna have to separate he would take it as a treat. He took off his ring and have been sleeping in the couch for the past 3 nights. What does this mean. He have two kids? What should I do?

Husband has poop on his penis. It smelled like doo doo. Why didn't he smell it?

I m in the military and my husband is not. He doesn t have a job so I am the sole provider (a woman). He has laid his hand on my( grabbing my wrists too tightly, or grabbing my thighs roughly when he s mad, leaving bruises). He threatens me when I upset him saying "do it again and I ll **** you up". He s pushed me down and I got hurt. He doesn t like me to wear my uniform in public. He calls me names like ***** and ****. I ve had problems with my libido and can t last long in bed so he ll say things like "I guess I ll find someone else to have sex with". He s even threatened to kill himself if I left him. But things aren t always bad and that s why I m confused.

My husband is 56 years old and I'm 32 years old only, he called me "old fart" in a conversation. He said it's just normal in his country to call anyone like that. Or am I just being too sensitive?

He just came to my house unannounced and I told him to leave numerous times but he refused. I threatened to call the police . I looked out the door and he's gone... What should I do? What is his issue?? He's 33 and I'm his first real relationship.

married for a long time around 40 years old

He tells me he has stopped seeing that woman,but I have a feeling he is still in contact with her.Am I right?

Not sure if it's the stress, but I'm not excited to see her. We do talk when we get home and kiss each other goodnight and goodbye. Other times we are together we are with the kids. I don't even know if I would care if we didn't see each other.

My wife and I have been struggling to have a child for 3 years now. We were notified by the gynecologist and multiple other doctors that she is infertile. Now she wants a divorce because she ,"doesn't want me to have to live with that." How do I convince her it doesn't matter? I've tried everything I can think of at the moment.

Ok recently I talked to my ex and she claimed that I called her a psycho on Facebook and told my friends o n facebook about us like rumors. i admit i did talk about her to one friend cause i needed advice but she doesnt even know her. Thing is she was the one who deleted me and blocked me from FB. And recently not long ago she had unblocked me so I sent her a message and found out she had unblocked me. How would she know I would do that if my Facebook is on private, that's one. 2 no one knows her at all. And biggest question of all? Would it even matter if I did talk about her to my friend since their MY FRIENDS. I know for a fact she's the one having a grudge on talking smack that I treated her bad.

I ve been gone for work for a month. My wife notified me via text that she spoke with a lawyer and I needed to go sign for a divorce. Worst off she didn t even talk to me about it. Once I got home we talked and she decided she didn t want to divorce at all. How do I trust my spouse after everything she has put me through?

I'm 34, married, and have an 18 month old daughter. I recently got promoted at work. I'm a logistics engineer for a manufacturing company. Until now, I've worked mostly in a corporate environment, but in my new role, I need to spend 2 days/week at the manufacturing plant. These 2 days are long, 12 hour days, and it involves staying overnight near the facility. The facility is 2 hours away, so I leave on Tuesday at 7 AM, get to the facility at 9 AM, and work until 7 PM. On Wednesday, I get to the facility at 7 AM, work until 5 PM, and get back home at 7 PM Wednesday. Monday and Thursday I'm in the corporate office 5 miles away, for a regular 8 hour day. Because I'm working long days at the facility Tue and Wed. I have Fridays mostly off. I'll usually log in for 2-4 hours, but rarely more than that. My wife is PISSED about my new schedule and wants me to get a new job. Yes, Tuesdays and Wednesdays suck, but it's really only Tuesday night that my wife is alone. The rest of the week, she benefits from me having Fridays off. I can take care of stuff around the house, and I can run errands. As a result, we both have more free time on the weekends. This schedule will likely continue for 3-5 years, before I'm ready for another promotion. How can I get my wife to look at the positive, and not the negative?

My husband's mother and I cant stand each other. She makes it a point to favor the girlfriend of her teen son, despite the fact that I am her other sons wife and we have 2 kids together. She wont answer her phone when I try to call about Thanksgiving (my husband wants to visit them in the evening) and he told me that I will go to their house, no questions asked. Our old therapist told him that he is capable of visiting them himself and cannot force me to go if I dont want to. He is trying to and says the therapist is wrong. What is right?

Me and my wife have been married for almost a month. We did it a few months before we were married had sex on our wedding night we done or a couple times last week. She's 3 months pregnant. How often should we do it ?

Husband feels he does not owe anything to wife. Yes or no? He walks out on her and his 4 kids and 2 dogs. They divorce. Before this, he was belittling her and cheating on her. This situation is embarrassing for the wife. Yes or no

Specially talking about an ex girlfriend of 15 years ago. He has MS and our sexual life not always happens. He was diagnosed after breaking up with her but at the same time that she got married with another guy. She tried to cheat her husband, years later, calling my husband on skype and showing her boobies when he was paralised. I already asked him to move on and leave it behind (It all happened before we met) but he often jokes and provokes me, saying I m jealous. However, when I joke back about her new "super nice" husband, he freaks out. He told me that the girl cheated on him a lot and he also "shared" her with other people. She got pregnant (from him), lost the baby, and he felt "relief" for that because he wasnt sure the baby was his, cause she was so promiscuous. How on Earth is it possible that he s mentally stuck in this relationship, what kind of joy would a sane man get from picking on his new wife (opposite of slut) about this unhappy story ?

I'm 40. i'm married with two kids. He's 25. He's a single dad and a career criminal. We were acquainted 6 months ago and we haven't talked ever since. I saw him today and it made me relive how painful it is to want someone you can't and shouldn't have. We never had any type of affair or any friendship. It's already been 6 months. Why am I still crushing on this guy?

My wife came from a very conservative Pentecostal home. I was only the second boyfriend that she ever had, she never had the opportunity to go to parties or do basically anything that could be considered acting up. First, I just want to say that I am deeply in love with her and pretty much would do anything to save our marriage. Now that we have been married for three years, things are really blowing up. I suspect that she is actually a closet lesbian or has some other serious sexuality issues. She comments on other women's looks quite a bit to start with. But what really gets me, is what she has been asking me to do. First, she asked me to shave my beard, and has been making me wear less and less masculine clothes. She has been asking me to dress like a woman, and I have reluctantly went along with it. Afterwards, she starts kissing me and making out. Her demands have become more and more regular, she has even asked me to put on a wig, makeup, high heels, and fishnet hose and then we make out. I have been trying to just engage in normal sexual relations with her, but she backs away more and more if we don't do it this way. I'm not really into it and have no idea what to do. I am too embarrassed to talk to her family's pastor, and I don't want to even mention marriage counseling. I've asked her why she likes to do these things, and she just says "because I like it" and "its hot" and plays it off.

When we argue my husband yells, curses or gives me the silent treatments. He had a rough past from childhood. I didn't know it was this bad until we got married. I walk around on eggshells scared to make him upset. He's starts belittling me in front of others over stupid things. The last time he was upset over Pizza I cursed out & yelled at. I keep begging him to go to counseling he's told me he doesn't want to change or he couldn't because I'm emotional which I have depression & am going to Doctor. I also am have diabetes. I'm stressed because I'm afraid he will spend all our bill money. I paid all the bills cook clean and work take of our dog. Which he claims he too tired to do or he stands up at work all day. He throws in my face that I work less hours & sit alot at work. The worst is the yelling and cursing last he will even yell at our at dog. My nephew and niece are 3-2years old. He yells curses at them or makes rude remarks when I him to stop. He also calls my niece fat she is 2 years old. He's making the horrible comments about her. I ask him to stop. I stopped inviting family or friends over because of him. They want to be around him either. I'm not a perfect wife I nag, I have health problems & emotional. I can't connect with him emotional level. He's never wants to spend time with me or the puppy My parents beg me to leave but we been together a long time plus our anniversary is coming up. My parents won't take in the dog & he abusive to her as well.

My wife's aunt passed away yesterday. We are not particularly close to her. In fact in my 6 years with my wife I have only met her once. My wife does not talk about her aunt so I felt as though they weren't close. My wife wanted to fly to the funeral. So told her as follows "We just spent a lot of money on our anniversary and I am about to finish grad school and we will have to repay Stundent loans. If you feel as though this important than you should go. However if you don't need to be there maybe we should consider skipping. Since flight and hotel wil be expensive during holiday. She got irritate and said that shouldn't be talking about money when in comes to funerals. That my comment was disturbing and in bad taste. That of course it was important or she wouldn't have told me she needed to go. Am I wrong for saying anything I actually wrote it down before I talked to my because I think she is sensitive. So how I wrote it here is pretty much how I said it.

My best friend and I are very close and like sisters. In a few weeks she's coming for a visit for the weekend for a big event we are attending, and wants my husband and I to go on a double date with her for the event. The problem is, her date is a married man, who is still with his wife and kids, but is sneaking away with her for the weekend. My husband has said he doesn't agree with the relationship and does not want to go out with them, under any circumstance...he told me if I want to go, I can go alone. I don't agree with her relationship either and have told her, but ultimately it's her choice. I don't want to go with them, but I don't want to ruin my friendship with my best friend either. I also definitely don't want to go alone.... I'm already uncomfortable and this will make it worse. I think my husband should suck it up and go in support of me, but he is refusing. What should I do? I respect his right to refuse, but think he should not leave me to go alone with them. I have met him, but I have never been anywhere with them because we live in different cities and he's usually unable to come when we are visiting one another. They will be in a hotel nearby for the whole weekend, and want us to all spend a lot of time together. Help!

My mother is 42 has 4 kids aged 15-21. She also has a kid on the way and was gonna get married, but it didn't work out. She is attractive, but doesn't pay much attention to a guy's appearance, but has trouble finding a husband. She thinks its because she has so many kids. But we're all pretty much grown have jobs and cars. Its not like he'd have to parent us, we'd just be friends. Even before she was pregnant its been like that. Are you guys reluctant to marry a woman because you're afraid the kids won't like you and be hostile or because you don't want the responsibility? With us all the help with the baby its not much as a responsibility. I'm just trying to see your point of view. The 4 kids are from her first marriage. Her first husband( my dad) wanted a divorce and he treated her terribly. She takes relationships seriously and doesn't mess around. She was going to marry her fiance, but at the last moment and she backed out. The baby was unintentional. He didn't treat her badly, but due to his previous lifestyle he may not live a long life. His problems are weighing her down its for a good reason they didn't marry. She believed that only he was the few guys that would accept her because of her many kids. I wonder if guys are really that put off by that or is she paranoid? I'd say that she is a good wife. She often cooked and cared for her fiance. I'll keep that in mind for marketing when she's ready to start looking again. Her fiance had mutual feelings about not getting married, so it wasn't one sided

My wife is extremely b*tchy today, she woke up that way. She says I don't listen, which is why our kids don't listen to her. If I didn't listen, then how would that's part of the reason she's POed all the time? Today's incident started because she wanted to leave for work early to stop by Walmart; for her it's easier to go in the morning, apparently. Now she claims that because I took forever to get ready, she didn't have the time to pass by without being late for work. I thought her b*tcyness today was related to pms or something, but she's not due for a least another 10 days or so. She's been extremely moody like this for a few weeks, but not this bad. Friends and family have been scheduling their events (birthdays, baby showers and etc) every weekend, one immediately following the other and sometimes two parties in one weekend. My wife says she's exhausted from all these parties, especially since I don't help with the kids. She yelled at me at one of them to get off my a$$, then snapped at me when I asked if she still wanted to go to the carnival (it was the last day). And all this right in front of the hosts and our friends. Tomorrow is another event that I believe she's trying to get out of because she's keeps asking me if I'm sick. Even tho we RSVPed 2 months ago, I don't think she wants to go anymore. She gave me a deadline of when we need to leave FOR the event and FROM the event to return home. Then she quizzed on it! What can I do? She's out of control. We have 2 kids who are 2 and 3 years old, and neither are potty trained yet. She works 2 jobs: FT secretary and part-time home business, I have one job. I do 90% of the cooking and more or less half the cleaning, and taking out the trash. She usually takes care of all the laundry, bath time, diaper changes, household bills, etc. She says she's so exhausted from the parties EVERY weekend. We have a lot more friends now than last year. so more invitations to parties/events. And all of this started over not being able to stop at Walmart. She's doing this shoebox present for Christmas for some organization, and has to drop it off before tomorrow's event, since we have a weekend trip coming up for Thanksgiving. I tell her not to be so strict, but she says she has to be with 3 kids in the house...meaning me too evidently.

So my husband and I have been a blended family now for 2 years. He has 1 daughter (age 9) from his previous marriage and have 1 daughter (age 19) from my previous marriage. We all get along well, however, there is something that has been bothering me for a while. About 1 year ago, my husband and my daughter started giving each other inappropriate nicknames such as "s l u t", "s k a n k", "b i t c h", etc... They think it's so funny to call each other those names, but I think it's completely inappropriate. I have told them both how I feel and they just roll their eyes. They say they're just playing around, well I don't like it. In my opinion, a father and daughter (related or not) should not talk to each-other like that, it's disrespectful. My fear is that they well never have a healthy father-daughter relationship because they talk to each-other like they are.. teenagers. Do you think I am being unreasonable? Please be honest. Any advice would be appreciated! Just to clear things up, they don't talk like that when his daughter visits. He does not curse around his daughter. But my husband WANTS my daughter to see him as father-figure

My husband child support went up and we didn't know why. When we called his case manager she said it was prob bc he missed a payment and they increased it until the missed payment was made. This did not make sense bc he didn't miss any payments. Everytime we called his case manager it would be some vague excuse. Anyway we obtained a lawyer and the lawyer said she filed court papers to raise his child support and bc he didn't show they raised his child support. We found out the case filed didn't have a correct address, I'm not sure if it's something she did on purpose or a mistake made by the courts. Anyway if it was something she did on purpose is thier some legal consequences for this. She had the correct address bc thier child support agreement has both addresses on it. The address on the child support doc has our correct address. Thanks for reading.

I left because he abused me repeatedly. I gave him lots of chances. I love him but refuse to live like that. I miss him and his body so yes i want the pic , but he could show my bf that i said yes to pics of it ... thus ruining a good relationship. My husband and i have been apart for almost a year now .

Me and my husbands divorce will be final in a month. Bottom line he left for her I let him go, he moved in with her and now she is hating me. She is always trying to pit me and my ex against each other ( we share 2 kids together) even though we are not friends on Facebook she puts up new pics all the time. I ended up blocking her so she would leave me alone. I don't understand she got my husband she can have him why is she so mad at me. I let the two of them go!!!

He's ignored me and new baby the first 8 weeks :(

My husband and I are finally going to have our wedding, after nearly 20 years of marriage. We're trying to decide if it should be casual, semi-formal or formal. It will be a small event consisting of just immediate family--and our kids. We just can't decide. What do you think? Please no negative responses. Thanks.

I have a friend whose husband got mad at her after she confronted him with letters she received about him cheating. She confessed to me she sent the letters trying to make it look as if the other woman sent them hoping the affair would end. It didn't and instead it backfired and they grew further apart (he didn't blame the other woman at all). He doesn't know she sent the letters but suspects she did. So now she thinks he's still seeing the other woman and now wants to send more hoping he'll either confess or blame the mistress and stop seeing her. I think it's a bad idea since the last set of letters made them fight and argue like crazy but she thinks its worth a shot again. How can I convince her its not and she's only driving him closer to the other woman? Thanks No I am not all up in her business, yes she came to me about doing this again. So yes she's asking for advice in a way and I have told her not to do it. I have also told her deserves so much better but they have 2 kids and have been together over 10yrs so she does she want to stay with him for the kids. Thank you

Now my immediate family! Please help she is a jealous rage and feels that everyone is her enemy. Even me when she is mad!

3 weeks pregnant-my husband and I wanted to have another baby but our marriage has become rocky and close to divorce. I made a decision and slept with someone else. Well NOW after months of my husband and I trying prior to the issues-I am pregnant. not sure now which one I have gotten pregnant by. In order to save everyone enormous hurt and stress, I have thought about the abortion pill. what are your thoughts on that? judge if you will, I know its crazy

Yesterday my wife sent me a message with a picture attached of a young lady who's facebook pictures I have been liking. I must admit the young lady is beautiful and very sexy, but I would never step out on my wife and kids for a maybe. How do I explain this to my wife because she is not listening to me and it's getting annoying. Recently I noticed a dramatic weight loss on my wife. I asked her if she has been eating, not to starve herself. She said she does eat but I think she is lying. I don't want her to harm herself to look like a fantasy. I assured her that I love her like she is and those pics mean nothing to me. It's just an attractive young woman. My wife is changing, she is not as loving and affectionate towards me. Please help. Other women don't mean anything to me, my wife is my love. She's starving herself.

So I'm 24 and my husband is 30. We've been together for three years, married for a bit less than a year. We're both college educated working on our careers. I've never been big on the idea of kids, I was an only child myself, but I like the idea of ONE child at some point in my life. Anyway, my mother-in-law who I do get along with btw, has started pestering me about babies. I've always told myself that I wouldn't have a baby in my 20s and I still feel that way. I don't care if other people do, I just don't want to for a lot of reasons. Firstly, I've only recently graduated and want a career, I don't ever want to be a stay at home mom. Also, I don't want my body to change just yet. I like my body and I know babies have a way of changing them. There's plenty more reasons than those though. I've told my MIL that I won't even consider a baby until I'm 30. My mom had me at 38 and while I wouldn't want to wait that long (I'm thinking 32-33) I don't see the harm in waiting. I'm only going to have one so why not wait and let me be selfish with my time now. My MIL is not happy at all, even though I've told her this before I married her son. Maybe she thought a wedding would make me suddenly want babies or something. How do I get her to back off? She's like "if you wait that long I'll be dead!!!" Which is highly unlikely but I guess it's possible. She also has other grandchildren so it's not like this would be her only one. But WHY are people so babycrazy?? I just don't get it. Am I missing a piece of my brain that's wired to just want children?

I recently found that my husband has been liking pics of beautiful, sexy women via Facebook. One in particular is a mutual facebook friend of our 18-year-old daughter. The young woman is around 20-21, very pretty and ultra sexy. Her photos are of her dressed very fun and sexy and almost in nothing sometimes. I was so devastated that I approached him frantically about it. I have sense went on a very strict diet but fear I cannot compete with someone so young and beautiful. I'm getting depressed and hopeless. He claims he is dong nothing wrong, that he is my husband and loves me. He told me to just do me and not worry about things and people that don't matter. I feel like he doesn't care about my feelings. I'm lost, sad and feel like I have failed him as a wife that he seeks to find sexiness and beauty in younger women now. I am so sad lately. I am working on losing the weight through a vegan diet and exercise. I met a gentleman who keeps telling me I am very beautiful and sexy,It feels good to hear these words. My husband looks at pictures of a younger woman via facebook that dressed provocative. What should I do? My wife posted this question on another forum that I found when her phone was unlocked. I have already told her the pics don't mean anything. She is overreacting.

My husband and I are traveling with my family this year for Thanksgiving and we (my family) has a tradition of drinking egg nog during that holiday. We usually buy the store bought stuff and that's fine. My husband made a bach last year just for our house and he made it from scratch and included some bourbon into the mix. It was really good. He wants to make that again for the family gathering but I told him that he knows my parents are uber religious and alcohol would be a no no for the occasion. He said he didn't want to make the non alcoholic version so he'd just rather not make it. He offered to lessen the amount of bourbon as to not get anyone drunk but they'd get a hint of alcohol in the taste. I still thinks he should eliminate it all together. Most of those who will be there are adults, a few college kids, 1 16 year old, one 11 year old and a 3 year old. Those would obviously not get any but he said the college kids probably are already drinking and a little egg nog wouldn't hurt them. It's not like we're all sitting back taking shots. Should I let him make what he wants or should he honor my request and make it without alcohol? My husband loves to cook and he likes making things from scratch. He feels that if he wants to make a slightly alcoholic version then that's his right. They don't have to drink it if they don't want to. But the holidays are for home made things. Not things you buy in the refrigerated section of the grocery store. He feels that when we go out to eat if he wants to order a beer or glass of wine he should be able to. He's grown and my parents shouldn't expect people to change who they are simply because they are around. No, he'd never take alcohol into their house but we're going to a couple of condos where they have a timeshare several hours away from where we live. It seems that some of you think he's bringing alcohol into their, my parent's, home. He's not. My parents have a couple of condo timeshares a few hours away from us and we're all traveling there to celebrate Thanksgiving. No, he's not taking alcohol into their personal home. He just wants to put about a half a cup of bourbon in the egg nog. He's not walking in with a bottle or J.D. to pass around to all the adults. Most of those there are 20 and above and 4 of the 20 year olds are college kids. Only 3 are below the age of 20. There's a total of 15 people who are going to be there. I personally think he needs to squash the alcohol in the eggnog this year but he feels that if you don't want the alcohol then don't drink the eggnog. He says a half a cup isn't going to get anyone drunk, even if you drunk all the eggnog yourself but my parents don't drink and I think he needs to respect their wishes. No, they haven't said "no alcohol" but some things should just be understood.

I second guess myself ALOT so I sometimes don't feel attractive enough during sex. My spouse doesn't make me feel this way, I just don't feel like I give him the best experience. On the other hand, he's amazing. He takes lead a lot of what we do together when he notices I'm feeling this way, but he still encourages me to be more bold with my presence. I'm always ok pursuing him first and tempting him for sex but whenever it comes to doing it I fear I'm not good enough for him to enjoy it