Family: Question: My Dad has been drinking and I am supposed to take him to a viewing tonight in 4 hours. Should I just leave him?

Question: My Dad has been drinking and I am supposed to take him to a viewing tonight in 4 hours. Should I just leave him?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 01:44 PM PST

I get so embarrassed when I take him places when he has been drinking. Plus this is a viewing. I am 23 so I can kind of make the rules but my mother asks me not to make a big deal about his alcoholism (he has been this way since I was little). So what do I do? It is my maternal grandfather's cousin we are going to the viewing for. I can always just say he has a family obligation on his side and will come tomorrow afternoon to the funeral (we will all be there tomorrow). The people we will be seeing know he is an alcoholic but not how bad it is.

Question: Please help me convince my mom?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 01:42 PM PST

Im trying to convince my parents to move to Chicago to go to a better school and just have better opportunities in the city. My dad said yes and then my mom said no and my dad just agrees with what she says. Her arguments are that my sister is going to college this year so making the move would be irresponsible with money and also that she would need to be registered as a doctor in a new state and she wouldn't make as much. Right now I live in an awful small town and go to a run down school where Im taking the hardest classes I can and am getting As in everything. I need to be challenged I want to have a fun childhood in the city. Help me convince her. (Im a high school freshman by the way) Thanks!

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Posted: 16 Nov 2016 01:23 PM PST

Question: Got caught doing sexual stuff to myself and my mom found out ! help?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 01:21 PM PST

Yesterday my mom came home from school and saw my underwear in her room.my underwear was in her room for a different reason. she thought i had did something out of line.she told me to give her my phone.I did thinking there was nothing in there.she goes in my phone and sees a sexual video i had made of myself. some of my girl friends at school were talking about the stuff they do so i was like why not try it.it was an experience.one time thing,i tried it and it felt weird. after making that video i stopped hanging with those group of girls because i dont want to be in that crowd.my mom saw the video and was livid.keep in mind i made that video for myself.i was never going to send that to anybody.she took my phone threw it and said she was gonna block contacts on my phone.she deleted my instagram account,not sure i can get back.She told me to get out and leave and started calling me names.i was hurt and scared so i left and went to my ex's house.he was calming me down and his mom was telling me to go outside and talk to my mom.my mom followed me to his house. it was crazy, i felt i got them in it.but me and my ex are really really close and whats hurting me is that i cant talk to him for a long time now. and the fact that my instagram is deleted.and the fact that my mom is very angry and i want to fix it.she needs her space and time.how much time do you think it will take for my mom to forgive me,when i could possibly get my phone back,and how to gain my mom's trust back

Question: My sister's smoking weed. How can I stop her.?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 01:16 PM PST

My sister's 16 years old (I'm 15) and I heard her in her room about a week ago saying how she was smoking weed, my mum and older sister both know too, my older sister is 24 and she did it when she was my age and really regrets it. My mum told her that after school she needed to come home and do her work but instead she went out with her friends and we suspect shes smoking with them. I'm really worried cause a few years ago a guy I knew started smoking weed and as result developed schizophrenia and killed himself. It was very difficult for me and I really don't want her to end up the same way. She's meant to be my big sister but I feel like I'm the one looking after her here and I'm just tired of it, and yeah I know it's selfish but I have big things in my life right now like I have my GCSEs this year and i really don't need this stress. I'm really worried about her, what can i do?

Question: My step- daughter is 10 years old. I have been in her life for going on 5 years now. Ever since the beginning I have noticed something a...?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 12:48 PM PST

Little off with how she acts. she s not your typical little girl. She is very un-attached from reality in that she has no focus on logical thinking and is rather in her own little state of mind, call is spacey if you will but to the extreme. She does have a delayed development and requires and IEP (individualized Educational Program) at school where she gets the extra help that she needs. It's very hard to have a conversation with her because she get's all anxious and has trouble forming correct sentences that are required to have actual conversations. There is no Mentally challenging disease or issue that causes this other then possibly seizures. Brianna is an extremely pleasant girl and is hardly ever mean, angry, or upset. ( which we enjoy thoroughly :) However she just isn't your average child and the hard part is there really is no explanation as to why... Her behavior is becoming an issue in school and at home. Not in the sense that shes acting out and being bad but in the sense that her lack of focus to do or not do a certain task is the issue. But not like your normal child.... For YEARS we have worked with her on table manners yet nearly every dinner her face is covered in food, chewing with her mouth open ( even after being reminded several times to chew with her mouth closed. in school shes also getting in trouble for making impulsive reactions without thought of ANY consequences. We want to help her but we have no idea where to look any ideas? Pls Help us.

Question: Can my mom still try to do this with me in college?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 12:38 PM PST

I'm 19, a sophomore on full academic scholarship to college, and commute from home because of money. My mom mostly lets me do my own thing but I still have a few fair rules like picking up after myself, doing some work around the house, safety issues, being honest and respectful, etc. I was talking to a boy I met online and I gave out my picture and contact information, big no-nos when I was a teen. Mom happened to come into the room, saw what I was doing and asked me about it. I don't know if she really would have made a BIG deal out of it now that I'm 19 but I panicked and tried to lie to her, making up a hairbrained story about how I wasnt doing what it was clear I was doing on the screen. She quickly caught me in the and was mad both about the inernet safety and even FAR moreseo my lying to her. In fairness, that's fair of her. But then what came next..... She grounded me. When I protested she said her house, her rules.....and that while I have VERY few rules these days because of my age, as long as I live here she has the right to enforce the rules she does have. Is this normal? Is there anything I can do? Is she being unreasonable? My mom's always (justifiably been big on lying). But still a grounding at my age? She's trying to take away my phone, no going out, no friends over, just school and work.........

Question: I hate my family. I'm 16, female, and African.?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 12:32 PM PST

She picks on me. She won't say anything when it's just us. She waits until there's an audience and then she tells me how fat and ugly I am. She assumes things about me. If something goes missing, she yells at me and says how I'm a thief and I sneak things into my room. I've never stolen anything from anyone. Just last month, her umbrella went missing. She yelled at me for taking it. I didn't. She also tells everyone every single thing about me. My weight, bra size, etc. Most of the time, it's all lies. I hate myself. She refuses to take me shopping because she buys things she knows won't fit me to make me feel bad. She tells me to be more like my cousins because they aren't fat. My cousins are both failing school, smoke, and disrespect their parents. But they're thin so, I guess it's okay. I try to work out, but she tells me I'm so fat and laughs at me. I try to eat healthy but she only buys junk food because my cousin likes it and forces me to eat African food even though she knows that it's not healthy. She's constantly telling me she's going to send me back to Africa if I don't behave. Me misbehaving is not sitting back on the chair. I used to do ballet, I'm used to sitting up straight. She makes up stuff about me and tells my relatives. She makes fun of my boobs. It's not like I asked for huge boobs. I really don't know what to do. It's either stand up for myself and get sent back to Ghana or Liberia or spend the rest of my high school period being bullied by her.

Question: How do you convince your parents to let you go to a party wuth no parents home?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 12:31 PM PST

Question: Wanting your opinion on this?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 12:13 PM PST

my very close friend (she's 50 and I am 18) she's been an adult role model and close personal friend mine. She called to check up @ Of course she asked how I was, if I was okay etc.. then she started skipping around subjects talking about her family, troubles, problems occurring, stories of when she was little, about how she misses her parents etc. her procedure. it was a great long talk, I listened and gave her all my attention. I understand people need to vent or need advice but why come to me? That day I sent her flowers to show my love and support. It's been stressing me seeing her go through so much, I want her to be alright and have great health. She's always so supportive to me. We both always send encouraging texts, she's always liking all of my social media posts, we send inspirational stuff to each other, etc.. We're very close. She's a very blunt lady and will tell you like it is. She's always giving me compliments, telling me how amazing I am, so I take it to heart. But she's never really said if I've helped her. I do all things with love and expect nothing in return but I wish I knew if I was a help to her or if I am doing something good. Sometimes I feel useless like I've done nothing good for her. Do you think I've helped? Ive started to feel embarrassed inside, like I'm being TO loving or caring and I feel she isn't liking it. So I've been quiet lately and haven't talked to her much, save myself more embarrassment. It's confusing.

Question: Why does my 11 year old son behave differently at my home versus his father's home?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 12:12 PM PST

Question: Many FAMILIES IN EUROPE ARE NOW POOR AND HUNGRY, do you feel sad for them?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 12:11 PM PST

Question: How do I survive the pain of being with family at Thanksgiving that bring old wounds from childhood back?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 11:50 AM PST

I have to go because my grandmother is dying. All the old wounds are going to be opened.

Question: How do I stop stressing over the holidays and my grandmother and mother's anger if I go see my Dad's family?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 11:48 AM PST

This year we are doing Christmas Day I with my immediate family, my aunt, her two kids, and my grandmother. My uncle has in law obligations as his wife's dad is dying. So this year they are having us over the day after Christmas which is the same day my dad's family is going to have a party at his cousins house. My dad is going wherever my mother goes but I'd like to see my dad's family my grandfather died and it fills the void left by his death by me still being able to see the rest of his family. I know my mother will throw a fit and my grandmother also but we're seeing this uncle on my mom side Thanksgiving so how can I get them to be OK with me going to my dad's families as I'm an adult at age thirty one. It is the tension with my mom and her mom that makes me so nervous at the holidays as they want me to go see their families only. They have never respected in law obligations or obligations to the other side of the family and my dad enables that

Question: Is it wrong that I don't love my dad but respect him?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 11:30 AM PST

When I was a toddler we used to be close and everything. But I believe we started to have our downfall in the 3rd grade when I didnt come home with a good report card. All through elementary to high school, he admitted numerous times that he doesn't love me. That he wished me and my other 3 siblings were not his kids and that he wished that some other kids were his. I tried to get close with him numerous times but he's always shut me out and say he's busy. I invite him to sport events and he's busy. We had a conversation a few days ago about this and he claims that the car he bought me should be enough love and ****. I'm not really a materialistic person and told him that I would rather have a used than. Rand new but he said no. He's mad because my siblings and I refuse to tell him we love him. Idk about them but I dont. I respect him as a man and individual and graceful for everything he's done for me but, I'm 22 now. The time to build a friendship to me at least is too late. So is it possible to respect him as a person and not love him? Or am I wrong for thinking this?

Question: Relatives refuse to stop teenage inappropriate behavior, what should I do?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 11:27 AM PST

My tween son told us that he witnessed my husband's brother (his uncle who is 17) and his younger girlfriend kissing, cuddling, and acting inappropriate in front of him. My in laws live in a huge house and we have asked my father in law (my husband has) to please tell the teens to stop showing PDA in front of my impressionable son. My father in law thinks teenage intimacy is a laughing matter and says he doesn't care if they go upstairs alone and sees nothing wrong with their inappropriateness in front of the kids. My husband was a product of teenage pregnancy and his parents are still married. I even had a heart to heart with the teen girl and said that I had a bad experience with things like this when I was her age and I explained to her what the Bible says about their behavior (we are all Christians ) she got super defensive and we do not want our boys seeing this stuff. My son also said he knows they went into the shower together with him upstairs near them. What can I do? I realize its their home, but my in laws simply refuse to acknowledge that there is a problem and we as parents dont have to allow our kids around this. MY HUSBAND'S PARENTS HAD HIM WHEN THEY WERE TEENS, DUH! HOW HARD IS THAT TO UNDERSTAND?~! I dont live with them! This little girlfriend is over there constantly. Its like she has knowledge of when we are coming over an hour away to visit and makes a bee line to their house and they start up.

Question: Is it ok to think that my aunt deserves what she is going through right now?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 11:22 AM PST

She is 74 but she has smoked a lot in her life and my dad who is 72 says that is what she gets because she is in the hospital and can't talk. Also she is my mom's sister and not my father's sister. If I ever try and say anything back to my dad I will be punished or be said it what respectful. The best form of respect is to agree with him and the laws of God and nature right?

Question: My little brother always cries?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 11:05 AM PST

So my little brother is 6 and he is very intelligent kid. I like sometimes to talk with him and sometimes not. Everytime I say something thats wrong in his way, he just starts crying. Oh and by the way when we are going to sleep (we share a room) he suddenly starts fake crying and calling out for my dad. And also he cried like 6 times today of stupid things like when I asked him for some chips he started to cry. Whenever my parents are talking to him with a serious voice, he starts crying.. can someone tell why does he cry over EVERYTHING?

Question: When to tell a young kid your moving?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 10:47 AM PST

My family is moving from our state back to Seattle, Washington. This isn't my home state but it is my little brothers state where they were born I'm older I'm almost 19 but my little brother is 8 were moving in 8-10 months and my parents don't know how to tell him we're moving, he has all his friends here. What is the best way without hurting his feelings?

Question: Answer was too long so here's a screenshot haha?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 10:47 AM PST

Question: Why do I feel I want to quit when my mom is pushing to do my best?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 10:40 AM PST

My mom always tells me that her and my grandmother did their best to be successful and now she is pushing me to be at my best. She expects to have an A in all my classes. I understand she wants to be successful but I don t feel somewhat motivated. I feel like I just want to quit. Please help

Question: Can you help with this situation?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 10:10 AM PST

My brother and his wife broke up and neither wants the kid. My mother took the full responsibility of the kid. My mother is near retirement with no patience for raising one more. I help as much as I can but I go to school and work 40 hrs a week. Is there anything we can do to make the mother take back her kid?

Question: Where did I go wrong?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 10:10 AM PST

I've been seeing two crazy women for the past 6 months. I like them both but they found out about each other about 4 months ago and it's been crazy ever since. Lisa, has gotten mad and thrown a drink on me on two separate occasions. She has shown up where me and Jessica were on a date and started a fight with me. She punched me in the face and stayed outside stalking us until we left. Then on another occasion Lisa saw me hanging out with friends and got mad because I didn't want to be with her that night. She tried to run me off the road then she cut up some shirts I left at her place and threw them across my front gate. They've both gone threw my phone and gotten each others phone numbers. Then they started calling and texting each other telling each one whenever I was with the other. Lisa started sending Jessica a call log of every time I called her. Last week I stood up Jessica to go be Lisa. Jessica send me a dozen really angry text message and then when I left Lisa's house in the morning all of the tires where slashed on the car. Jessica insist that she didn't do it that maybe Lisa did it she's always been violent. I was with Lisa at the time so I don't know when she could've done it unless she had someone else do it. Jessica claims Lisa is trying to turn me against her. For now I'm refusing to see either of them because I don't trust them. Who should I trust? They've both snooped through my things and now my car is damaged.

Question: How do I stop stressing over the holidays and my grandmother and mother's anger if I go see my Dad's family?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 09:41 AM PST

This year we are doing Christmas Day I with my immediate family, my aunt, her two kids, and my grandmother. My uncle has in law obligations as his wife's dad is dying. So this year they are having us over the day after Christmas which is the same day my dad's family is going to have a party at his cousins house. My dad is going wherever my mother goes but I'd like to see my dad's family my grandfather died and it fills the void left by his death by me still being able to see the rest of his family. I know my mother will throw a fit and my grandmother also but we're seeing this uncle on my mom side Thanksgiving so how can I get them to be OK with me going to my dad's families as I'm an adult at age thirty one. It is the tension with my mom and her mom that makes me so nervous at the holidays as they want me to go see their families only. They have never respected in law obligations or obligations to the other side of the family and my dad enables that

Question: My Mom's cousin is coming at Thanksgiving, How do I know if he is racist or not?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 09:40 AM PST

When I was little my aunt adopted a baby who was (is) black. She felt this cousin ignored her when she was showing him the new baby. At the same time the cousin was like 19 at the time so maybe just not into a baby story. This cousin's Dad was a racist though (my great-aunt's ex-husband). and it was well known when he'd get drunk his bigotry would show. So now this cousin is about 45 and the black baby is 25. I am just curious if this guy is racist or not. I don't know him that well (just see him at weddings and funerals) but my grandmother asked him over for the holiday with his son as his mother just died. The cousin who was "the baby" won't be there as he sadly got into drugs and is in jail right now.

Question: My mother hurt me as a kid by bad mouthing my Dad to me all the time. Now that my brother is screwed up should I cut him down to her?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 09:36 AM PST

Now that my brother is screwing up (he is a drug addict and womanizer) should I cut him down to my Mom all the time? Only thing my Dad did was he was young for his age (they married too young) so he still acted like a teen. So after they divorced my mother bad mouthed him to me constantly. Now I am an adult and my mother's son from her 2nd marriage is screwed up and ten times worse then anything my Dad did. So should I do this or is this petty on my part? The point would be to cause the hurt and embarrassment to my Mom that she caused on me as a kid.

Question: Does this seem kinky to you?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 09:23 AM PST

I am a 19 year old guy with a 15 year old female cousin. She is a very nice person but is very shy. Her parents will not let her date until she is 16 which is a few months from now. She is very much looking forward to that time. She told me she has never kissed a boy and she wants to do it right. She wants me to give her kissing lessons. I told her there ABSOLUTELY CAN NOT BE ANY ROMANTIC RELATIONS BETWEEN US. She said she understands that and is cool with it. She said she just wants to learn how to be a great kisser. Should I do what she wants? It seems kind of kinky to me.

Question: Should I get my son our of this class?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 09:18 AM PST

My son and I are very close. He is in high school and in one of his classes he is the only guy. He thinks that is great as he is friends with all the girls. The girls in his class tease him all the time about being the only guy in class and he LOVES it. He says it makes the class so much fun. He came home from class today and said "Mom, the girls in the class asked me if I was hung. Can I show them? I told him "NO NO NO". "That would get him in BIG TROUBLE". He might get suspended from school or reported to the police. Then he said "Can I tell them I would gag Linda Lovelace"? Again the answer is NO. YOU CAN NOT TALK ABOUT SEX WITH THESE GIRLS IN CLASS EVER. He said "But mom, they ask me". I am going to try to get him out of that class before he does something stupid and gets in trouble. He will not be happy but I think I had better act now before something happens. He thinks I am being overly protective. Am I?

Question: What should I do about my cousin?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 09:05 AM PST

Recently something has been disturbing me. My parents told me that we were going to be spending Christmas this year with my uncle and I was excited until I realised that my cousins would be there and normally that would be a good thing because I like spending time with family, but I remember that when I was about 4 and my cousin was 7 we were playing a game and he pulled down my skirt and 'kissed' my private parts he asked me to do the same to him but i didn't want to. My Aunt and Uncle moved away when I was about 6 and I haven't seen them a lot since. I'm 13 now and he s 16. We are planning on staying the night and I'm scared something might happen. What should i do?

Question: I hate my dad?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 08:59 AM PST

Hes egoistical. He refers to himself as god. I hate his way of speaking because im a believer. I want him to respect me but he says "i created the hunankind". He doesnt respect animal rights either. He kicks street cats and i doubt he tortures my caged bird. She doesnt have open wounds but i caught dad running after her till she was exhausted because shed been flying for too long. Also hed left her in the dark. Because she couldnt see, she was flying in the dark room and hitting some walls and having been kind of shocked.

Question: Why cant I recieve Social Security or Survivor benefits for my Son?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 08:55 AM PST

My sons father was murdered back in Feb, 2015. They say because my sons father never worked hes not titled to any social security. SO what they're saying I cant get no benefits/ income/ child support for the next 17 years of his lifee???? Help please, how is this possible. He was young, its not like he was 30yrs old and never worked. So now im a struggling single mother for the next 17years raising my son on my own and have to be on government assistance cause I cant afford child care!

Question: Is it okay to marry 5th cousins?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 08:52 AM PST

Question: Would you let your son play with a ken doll?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 08:17 AM PST

My son is 2 about to be 3 and he is into all sorts of boy things like superheroes, cars, trucks, action figures etc so I didn't think much of when we were searching the toy aisles for toys him and his sister wanted. We came across barbies and she chose Barbie he spotted a ken doll. After their joint bday party their dad asked our daughter to pick up her toys and she told him those ken dolls were her brothers. He flipped his lid and made a huge deal out of it. I honestly didn't see it as a big deal because I had gotten him Gi joe dolls and they look like ken dolls to me with the exception of their facial expressions. Anyways is there something I'm missing here am I the only one who didn't get the memo. Please let me know. Would you let your son play with ken dolls. Why or why not? The photo are of the ken dolls the third one is a gi joe

Question: Why does my grandma stay married to him?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 08:07 AM PST

My grandpa tells my granny when she can talk and is always hateful towards her. She can not go anywhere unless he goes and if she guys anything she gets screamed at. My parents and none of their kids like the fact that he treats her this way. I personally can't stand being around him. Why does she stay wth him? He used to abuse their children and now she's all that's left living with him.

Question: It seems like my dad loves my sister more than me??

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 08:04 AM PST

I'm a girl as well. I'm 18, she's 16. The other day my dad screamed at me because I "had an attitude" towards my sister, but my sister says rude things to me all the time like, "I'm better than you" and "You do realise people say I'm prettier than you?" and even things that are not true at all like "I'm not suprised that you don't have friends, how can anyone like you?" and "Look at my good marks then you look at your bad marks" even though we both get quite good marks at school and I do have friends, and neither one of my parents ever do anything about it. My parents are divorced, if that's relevant. I'm autistic and she is not, could that be why my dad favours her? He treats my brother, who has ADHD, bad as well, maybe he wanted "normal" children? (I'm using the term normal loosely here).

Question: My dad is looking at porn sites and saving images....?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 07:40 AM PST

I found this months ago n I deleted an nude woman pic from my dad's phone. We are from very religious family and my dad wasn't very much used to phones or social media. I didn't tell anyone in my family bcos they will think strange to Dad. I just decided to forget it as I found out many men look at porn very frequently. But now, my sisters found out that he's (accidently) shared a boobs pic online. I'm like the only one close with my dad. So they are asking me. I don't want them to feel like dad is a horxy man, they will lose respect on him. What can I do? I don't want to talk about it directly to dad. I'm afraid it will break our family current happiness. But you know, I thought that age is no more interested into sex or woman. Why is he doing it?

Question: Would I be able to travel and go where I want to go once I start driving again?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 07:03 AM PST

I am 29 years old I'm a female and I still live at home with my parents I do work and I am in college. They are overprotective of me and they don't like me traveling alone. They are the ones who drive me to the airport because I don't have anyone else to take me. I like going to LA but they don't want me going there alone. Whenever I go I have to lie about it because I know they will just give me a hard time. The first time I went I told them I was going for a class reunion. They found out I was lying because someone told them. The second time I tried to go my friend told on me. The next couple of times I went my parents sent my kid brother with me. But they aren't going to pay his way to go anymore. I want to go again but I know if I tell them the truth they won't let me go. I plan to go after visiting my family in Atlanta but my dad doesn't trust me. So it'll be hard to get him to agree to letting me go to Atlanta. What can I do so that I don't end up getting caught again? I plan to visit my family in Atlanta for five days and then fly to LA and stay there for two or three days. Is there anything I can do to keep from getting caught again?

Question: Is getting hit with a stick/ belt child abuse?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 06:55 AM PST

I live in sydney australia and am a 20yrold girl. When i was younger, from as far back as i can remember to about when i was 9 or 10 if we did something wrong we would get hit with either a stick (mum would use this if dad was at work) or dad would take of his belt abd give us 2 or 3 whacks with it. One time mum hit my sister and the stick broke and another time i was left with red lines across my bum and lower thighs (this was always were they would aim, sometimes getting us in the lower back) for a swimming lesson the next day. I just wondering if this would be abuse because while my parents say their parents did it to them, my sister and I both wet the bed until about the age or 10 and have grown up to develop alot of anxiety and self esteem issues. I guess i jist wanted opinions. Thanks

Question: 16 y/o runaway in Canada?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 06:26 AM PST

I live with a family of six, and although I'm not really in any "danger", I believe I'm being emotionally abused by my parents and have been for years. I'm not going to go into details, but could I get in trouble with the law for running away to live with my grandma? I would still attend school and get a job and such. I believe I would be much happier living there and wouldn't be put under so much stress because my grandma is way more understanding and gentle and actually cares about my mental health. I've brought it up with my mom but she thinks I'm going to drop out of school.

Question: Did my brother deserve to be punished? Is my mum overreacting?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 05:48 AM PST

My younger brother has been playing Christmas music since Friday and according to my mum "It's still far too early to listen to that music. It should only be played when everyone listens to it, and that is in December". Everytime she hears him play Christmas music, she orders him to turn it off - if he doesn't, he'd risk getting punished. And that's exactly what happened this morning. He was playing Christmas music on full blast while he was getting ready for school. As he was getting ready, mum finally snapped and said, "Turn that crap off or I'll turn it off myself". He then turned it off... for like a minute. He turned it back on again and mum got even more furious. She then shouted, "THAT IS IT - I'VE HAD ENOUGH. YOU'RE GROUNDED FOR AN ENTIRE WEEK. DON'T YOU DARE SAY YOU DON'T DESERVE IT BECAUSE YOU DO. I'M CONFISCATING EVERYTHING YOU HAVE, INCLUDING ANYTHING THAT CAN PLAY CHRISTMAS MUSIC!" As she walked out of his room, I heard her muttering under her breath "ungrateful scum". Did my brother deserve to be punished? Is my mum overreacting? Is his punishment too harsh?

Question: How can i make my mother stop smoking?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 05:44 AM PST

Question: What to say, do or think?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 05:31 AM PST

I was with this guy I've been dating for 3 months, we were at his aunts house with his family. About 3 hours in, his mom started turning colors and passed out. She's had prior health problems and scares, he's warned me about but never had she passed out. I am a CNA, so I reacted quickly... Volunteering to help in any way I could. As soon the EMS came, his aunt asked if I could take her kids home, which I did with no hesitation. When I got back his mom seemed alert as she was on her way to the hospital and asked could I take her sister home, which I did. As I was in my car, his aunt called and said that he had been calling my name and looking for me to make sure I was okay, and she informed I was, when I got back he kept telling me "thank you, I don't know how much that truly meant to him by being there for him and his family and that he looks at me totally different now... Idk what that means?"

Question: Why are they like this?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 05:29 AM PST

I am 53. I never drive my son and daughter places, I am rarely around them. I have had them in online schooling for 11 years. I never got them a drivers permit, or license or car. I never taught them to drive at 15 and 16, and I am sure not going to start now. They're 17 and 18. They have no job and never had one as I never got them an I.D and every time they apply for job the places tell them they're unhirable as they have no transportation. We live in the south and public transportation is an hour away which I will not take them to. We live on an interstate/highway. There are cars everywhere and no side walks or areas on the road for walkers. You cannot go into town without using the interstate/highway. Why are my son and daughter so scared to walk in the road behind cars as if they were driving but they'd be walking?

Question: Why won't my kids leave?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 04:07 AM PST

I am 53. I don't consider myself a father, and I haven't for 15 years. My son and daughter are 17 and 18, I've had them in online schooling for 11 years. They have had very minimal contact with any outside person for 11 years. They don't know how to drive, they refuse to teach themselves I have never gotten them a permit or license or car. I do not want to teach them any thing. They claim it is illegal as they have no permit, license or car. We live off of a highway, and if they really want to go somewhere they'll have to walk in the road with cars. There are not any sidewalks. My parents taught me to drive and got me a driving instructor when I was 16, but I don't feel as if I have to do that for my kids. I just want them to leave, except they can't drive, have no car, or a job. They refuse to leave because of that, why are they messed in the head? I refuse to drive them to apply for a job and drive them to jobs as that is not my job and a huge waste of time for me in my opinion. We live in the south, so it is not like they can get public transportation around here. Is my request for wanting them to leave reasonable? I want them to leave together. I hate them living off of me, I hate having to support them.,I am not going to teach them how to drive so they have got no way to learn that. I have wanted them out for 15 years. They cannot afford driving school or college as I have never allowed them to get a job before, plus they are unable to get one as we live on highway and no side walks or walk areas on it. Why are they afraid to walk in the street with cars? Why are the rude for not leaving?

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Posted: 16 Nov 2016 03:47 AM PST

Question: How do I convince my parents to let me stay home from school?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 03:38 AM PST

There is this bully and she threatened to beat me up today! What should I do? I told my parents and they called the school! Now she threatened to KILL ME! HELP BTW: I'm in 6 grade

Question: PLEASE HELP---How do I be thankful at Thanksgiving despite losing family after my grandparents deaths?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 03:17 AM PST

On my Mom's side of the family I was always thankful at holidays (Thanksgiving, Christmas, etc...) for them. We saw them in the summer and the holidays. Even though my Mom was not real close to her siblings they liked us kids. We got to see our cousins. It was the meaning of summer and holidays. Now the grandparents have died and my Mom and her siblings are not on good terms. They are cordial at funerals and otherwise don't speak. My Mom's siblings make excuses when I try to visit. Thus, my cousins never see me other then via Facebook. My mother's siblings broke into three fractions. My Mom, my Mom's two brothers, and my aunt (Mom's sister). So I miss my grandparents so much more because with their death everyone else left. My cousin got married this year (uncle's son) and only the two uncles and their kids were asked (not the two aunts or their kids). My Mom and her sister don't speak. So how can I be thankful at Thanksgiving for family despite this? How can I focus on the grandparents even though we have lost their family? The grandparents were close but they have died. My Dad's side of the family he is an only surviving child and his parents have died. There are no cousins in our generation (my Dad has some that live far away). So please help, how can I be thankful despite this and I will be asking the same question come Christmas.

Question: My son did not sleep 10 nights.he dosnt bleave sleeping pill.please helpe,him.thanks?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 03:13 AM PST

Question: How to talk to my God sister again?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 02:34 AM PST

About 3 or 4 years ago, I went to go see my God sister during my winter break and she invited me over because we haven't seen each other in a long while and so the whole time I was over there, she was constantly on her phone talking to her friends and I started to feel left out and felt like I was over staying my welcome because I was suppose to be there for five or six days. So, I had a problem with her talking to her friends instead of paying her company (me) any attention so I asked my God mother to take me home a day earlier and she did but before I left me and my God sister talked about what she did and she apologized but I was really upset and wasn't ready for an apology so I left. Now, I'm really starting to miss her because we were very close, actually inseparable and I want to know how to build up our relationship again because I haven't talked to her since then. Any ideas?

Question: My brother in law is dying and we are very worried about my sister. How do we help her in the best way possible?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 02:20 AM PST

My brother in law got some very bad news about a year ago. He had been feeling ill for a while and when he finally went to the doctors he got the news. That was about a year ago. I, myself, am kind of shocked how fast it went. 3 months ago he seemed ok. But in just 3 months he looks half dead already. He can barely get up out of bed now. I doubt he will survive the end of this year. My sister is struggling to say the least. I'm afraid she will snap at any moment. She loves her husband, he is her everything. They used to travel together, help people and do all of those activites that make you jealous of them. But he has been the driving force behind it all. She fears what she is without him. In a way she still hopes he will come through. I really think she should talk to someone, even before he passes. Support groups, therapist, something. I'm honestly scared for how it will be when he finally passes. She might snap, she might take her life, God knows what. And it's hard for me and the rest of her family to speak about this. It's an extremely deligate subject. I don't really know what we should do. I suggested that maybe she should prepare to move in with me. So when the time comes she isn't alone. She snapped at me, started crying and stormed out of the house. I'm only thinking about what is best for her. But she treats me like the enemy. What do we do with her?

Question: I think my uncle is gay?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 01:39 AM PST

There wasn't enough room in the car and I had to sit on his lap. I didn't really give a **** until I think I felt something..plz help I didn't tell anyone but it won't get out of my head.

Question: Why didn't my plan work?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 01:18 AM PST

my brother was caught smoking and my parents made him smoke an entire pack of cigarettes. My sister was caught drinking and my parents made her drink an entire 6 pack. I buy scratch off tickets and I purposely dropped them in front of our parents but made it look like an accident. My plan was to get them to buy me a bunch of scratch off tickets and make me scratch them all. I was sure this would work, it is pretty much the same punishments my siblings got. I won $20 once. I consider lotto tickets to be a long term investment, my uncle won $2,000 once and he continues to play and he said if he can win it once, he can win it again.

Question: Should I call the cops on my 'dad'?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 12:38 AM PST

I have every ******* right to be angry with this prick. I know that I am a minor and I should treat my parents with respect but HERE IS THE STORY: I'm 11. My mom's bf (or my step dad) has been with us for 5 years. The yelling and screaming started maybe 3 or so years ago. My parents got a divorce, and here is the thing, THEY HAVE BEEN OFF AND ON FOR 2 DAMN YEARS! IM LEGITEMETLY SCARED OF THIS ASSHOLE! FIRST OF ALL, HE ******* ABUSED MY MOM! HE TORE THEIR GODAMN ENGAGEMENT RING OFF HER FINGER AND HURT HER FROM THAT THE DOUCHE ******* PUSHED HER HE'S SCREAMED AT HER FOR THE STUPIDEST ******* REASONS HE'S KEPT ME UP TO 2 AM ON SCHOOL NIGHTS! HE'S ******* SCREAMED SO LOUD THE WHOLE NEIGHBORHOOD CAN HEAR HIM! HE STILL ABUSES MY MOM! HE'S ******* HIT HER!! HE EMBARASSED ME AND MY MOM AT A ****** RESTAURANT WHERE HE TRACKED US AND SCREAMED AT MY MOM IN FRONT OF PEOPLE TRYING TO EAT, MAKING MY MOM CRY I RECORDED HIS *** AS AUDIO PROOF TONIGHT AT 2:00 AM ON A SCHOOL NIGHT IN WHICH AFTER RECORDING I RAN DOWNSTAIRS AND TOLD HIM TO SHUT THE **** UP IM TRYING TO SLEEP I HEAR HIM FROM DOWNSTAIRS SAYING THAT MY MOM NEEDS TO SPANK MY *** EVEN THOUGH I HAVE MANY RIGHTS TO BE ANGRY AT HIM! I AGREE THAT ITS DESRESPECTFUL TO TELL A PARENT TO SHUT UP BUT I AM NOT HAVING HIS BULLSHIT HE CONTINUED TO TELL MY MOM THAT IF I KEPT BEING A POTTY MOUTH BRAT THAT I WOULD STILL BE LIVING WITH THEM BY THE TIME THEIR 80 WHICH PISSED ME OFF EVEN MORE!

Question: My Mom says she loves my brother and I the same but likes my brother more?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 12:01 AM PST

Do you think this was rude thing for her to say? So she always favors my brother and I brought it up to her. I said "You obviously like Andrew more! He's soooo perfect." and she said "Yeah I do! I love you the same but I like him a lot more".

Question: I feel like my dad will rape someone some day?

Posted: 15 Nov 2016 11:52 PM PST

My dad is so nasty . He and my mom are going through a divorce right now so he's trying to talk to others girls. The problem with that is that he ALWAYS tries to convince them to come over or let him come over. If they say no he's like come on let me and like begs . if they keep saying no he's like I'm going to come over and then he leaves. Right now he's talking to my mom and telling her to do nasty **** over facetime. Even though she is doing what he says sometimes she says no and he goes 'do what i say' and he's trying to convince her to come over to 'watch tv' THIS IS SO ANNOYING. How do i tell him to STOPPPOOO doing that?

Question: How would you feel being in her place?

Posted: 15 Nov 2016 11:30 PM PST

my very close friend (she's 50 and I am 18) she's been an adult role model and close personal friend mine. She called to check up @ Of course she asked how I was, if I was okay etc.. then she started skipping around subjects talking about her family, troubles, problems occurring, stories of when she was little, about how she misses her parents etc. her procedure. it was a great long talk, I listened and gave her all my attention. I understand people need to vent or need advice but why come to me? That day I sent her flowers to show my love and support. It's been stressing me seeing her go through so much, I want her to be alright and have great health. She's always so supportive to me. We both always send encouraging texts, she's always liking all of my social media posts, we send inspirational stuff to each other, etc.. We're very close. She's a very blunt lady and will tell you like it is. She's always giving me compliments, telling me how amazing I am, so I take it to heart. But she's never really said if I've helped her. I do all things with love and expect nothing in return but I wish I knew if I was a help to her or if I am doing something good. Sometimes I feel useless like I've done nothing good for her. Do you think I've helped? Ive started to feel embarrassed inside, like I'm being TO loving or caring and I feel she isn't liking it. So I've been quiet lately and haven't talked to her much, save myself more embarrassment. What do you think?

Question: How often should I visit my parents?

Posted: 15 Nov 2016 11:22 PM PST

I've been living on my own for almost a year now. Due to my parents living less than an hour away, I sleep over their house once a week to visit. I'm 26 years old. Is this normal? Part of me says I should stop sleeping over once a week because I'm an adult in my late twenties. But then the other part says that if I'm fortunate enough to be able to see my family once a week, take the opportunity because they're not going to be around forever. I have a lot of concern because I'm also going to be moving in with my girlfriend in a couple of months, and I'm afraid that she's going to judge me if I want to go sleep over my parent's once a week. They don't live close enough where I can just go for dinner and then come back to my place. So back to the main question, do you think visiting my family once a week is a bit too much? Should my girlfriend approve of this when we move in together?

Question: My dad and brother are fighting because my brother came out as gay?

Posted: 15 Nov 2016 11:06 PM PST

Hi, I am a 15 year old girl living in the United States with my Dad and older brother who is 16. So basically, there is a lot of issues in our family right now because my brother in the last two weeks came out to our father as being gay and said that he was in a polyamorous relationship with two other guys (who are both 18 and 21) and its not so much that my dad is a homophobic person or anything, but he is really worried that my brother is being taken advantage of and that they could be doing more, you know...sexual things when he is still a minor because my dad found things in his room that were pretty sexual. Anyways, so now they are constantly fighting every single time they see each other and it is always a screaming match of some sort. My dad has even hit my brother and threatened to disown him and kick him our and has called him some pretty horrible names like sl** and w**** and things like that and my brother has lashed out at my dad threatening to completely drop our dad out of his life and has even said that maybe he will become a male p******** just to mess with our dad. It really hurts to see them both being like this, because before my dad knew that my brother was gay, we had the closest tight-knit family that you could ever think of. I just want my brother to be happy (and safe while doing it) and I want my dad to be happy (and accept my brother for who he is). What can I do to help them be happy again or get over their issues with each other? Please help.

Question: Praise the real God you all scrambled my brain for refusing to renounce that you all are alive today?

Posted: 15 Nov 2016 10:59 PM PST

you will not get away with charging me for your lawyer when I don't get one and it is you that is framing me of being a threat to society when you are the threat. you should all be executed for what you are

Question: Any alternative ideas?

Posted: 15 Nov 2016 10:48 PM PST

6 months ago I had a heart transplant, everything was going great for me until I moved with my mom because she wanted to take care of me I didn't want to move with her. I wanted to stay with my dad so he can take care of Me. But my dad is a busy guy so he doesn't want me around because he can't take care of me.I'm 19 years old now. I was 18 when I got the transplant, Im still getting back to old rouintes it's difficult as you might guess. Thing is my mom has got tired of me she has told me she is so annoyed with me and so I understand because I do need extra attention to get back to my feet I recently got a job at lease to make her happy which has been very difficult for me since I get tired easily but I suck it in. Well today they told me I might need a kidney transplant which I said I won't do it. I have rather die than go through so much pain again. I have been broken down mentally and physically I honestly can't go any longer like use to... my mom doesn't want me around she is always screaming at me for not doing stuff and sometimes I can't because I'm in pain but she doesn't care and my dad doesn't want me around neither I honestly don't have any family members around to ask for there help...