Family: Question: Am I rude to assume my neighbor abuses his family?

Question: Am I rude to assume my neighbor abuses his family?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 01:43 PM PST

I have new(ish) neighbors. They moved in and have 3 kids. The one boy is my child's age. The husband works a lot of hours and has a temper. I was first talking to him and he was drinking. He told me he wanted to "beat the other neighbor for parking close to him. It didn't seem like a big deal at the time. However, all the sudden his wife stopped talking to me. We were good friends I thought. She keeps her head down now and runs when she sees me. Her son tries to wave really fast when she sees me. There are always 100 beer bottles and cases in the back. The husband does the same. The little boy just came to school today with a huge black eye. He doesn't play any sports and I know it's none of my business but I used to be in a relationship with an abuser and it shows all the signs. Thoughts?

Question: Why do outward circumstances cause self-hatred?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 01:39 PM PST

The environment in my home is very hostile and stressful. My father is always yelling at my sister because she is a screw-up. I have anxiety and depression already and have never been able to deal with confrontation. My home life is a mess and I do not know how to deal with it. Every time my father yells at my sister, I want to hurt and kill myself (even though I know that the situation is is not my fault). Why is this?

Question: What would be a polite way to ask my mother to stop when she starts bad mouthing family to us on Thanksgiving?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 01:32 PM PST

My mother bad mouths family because she is vindictive towards her own siblings and won't see them. Her feelings were hurt about 6 years ago but she won't move on and it was not a huge thing. So how can I politely respond when I see her for Thanksgiving and she starts in on the bashing family game she plays. It triggers my unresolved shame that I am her kid when she does this.

Question: Moms would you have done this?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 01:26 PM PST

I just got home from picking up my daughter at her friends house. Since I live in Florida and it was hot out and I did not get out of my car I drove barefoot and did not bring my shoes. Also my daughter got in the car barefoot she did not take shoes either since she was inside her friends house. Both my daughter and I are barefoot as much as possible. My daughter is 15 and I am teaching her to drive and she always drives barefoot like I do. It really feels good driving barefoot and my daughter tells me how good it feels driving barefoot.

Question: PLEASE HELP-----How do I change my damaged personal truths about family?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 01:22 PM PST

Growing up my Mom's father was an alcoholic. She thought she was protecting us by not letting us see him but it actually harmed me. I got close to him as a teen though. Now as an adult I feel like a 2nd class extended family member since my immediate family was the only ones to boycott our grandfather for 6 years. My cousins all saw him but me and my two sisters weren't allowed to (I am the only son). My mother told us her parents didn't want to be in our lives (my grandmother included as she was mad my mother pulled away from family). So now as an adult I am still stuck in this 1990's belief that I am a 2nd class family member. I fear my cousins think less of us and we still do more things with my Dad's side of the family then my Mom's (my mother and her mother reconciled but she and her siblings are just tolerant of each other). I am always finding fear that something means I am a 2nd class family member. So how do I change this personal belief? Maybe this belongs in the psychology section but I will start by asking here. Don't just say therapy as I am doing that, looking for additional ideas. I live this personal truth because I get obsessed on making it up to family and crushed if I miss some family event or don't see people at special holidays (because I feel like it is 1990's all over again).

Question: What age do you think is safe to leave two boys home alone?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 01:20 PM PST

Question: Are you dreading seeing family on Thanksgiving?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 01:17 PM PST

My sister is a ***** and she will be there I found out with her daughter (a brat but learned it from her mother). My mother will be bad mouthing my late father (they were divorced) all day, thus triggering my shame. My uncle we are going to he house of is an alcoholic and his in-laws are slick (ask me money questions). My drunk uncle will also make jabs about my Dad since he will be trying to please my mother. Meanwhile he can't get a hold of his own marriage as his wife only stays with him because she is an alcoholic and their son a drug addict in prison right now. The uncle's other kids will be nice to see. Lastly, my mother's narcissistic sister will be there calling on us to bring praise and glory to her. Her daughter who worships her day and night will be with her and is okay to see. Her son she has disowned because he is nice to his Dad (they are divorced) so we will play 10 things we hate about Aunt Linda's son. Worst of all my two brothers I like will not be there and my grandparents who I adored have died. Also the other aunt will not be there (she and her kids are cool but she is in rehab right now and her kids with their Dad's family). SO IS ANYONE ELSE GOING THROUGH THIS AND READING THURSDAY? Christmas isn't as bad as we get to go see some of my late Dad's family and my brother's will be home. I will have to deal with my mother's bitterness at Christmas and this sister.

Question: Would anyone know I'm gone if I was too disappear......?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 01:17 PM PST

Question: Can Social Services do anything for verbal and emotional abuse?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 01:03 PM PST

I am in a very tough spot right now. I used to live with my grandma(she raised me most my life) and she past away a couple of years ago. I tried living with my mother, but shortly after i moved in i found out she was doing drugs. This forced us out of the apartment and we were homeless, and i was pregnant. My great aunt took me in for almost a year. I had my child and she let us stay for awhile longer, then sent me off to my birth dads home. I just met my dad about 3 years ago so this was a change for us both. I didnt know my dad very well at all. He is very bi polar and he is an emotional and verbal abuser. He nitpicks at everything i do, weather its good or bad. He wont help me get my drivers license or anything like that. He also yells at me in front of my 1 year old daughter, and he calls me a slut for getting pregnant at 16( im 17 now) He will text my phone when i am in my room and call me a "piece of **** *****" . This literally breaks me down so much. He doesnt talk to me like a normal person, or ask me anything about how school is going or anything like that. Me and my 1 year old stay in my room all day and all night because this is how scared i really am. He has never hit me (yet) but he gets in my face and threatens me with phrases like, "What are you going to do about it?" taunting me. I just need help getting out of this situation..

Question: My brother got hurt and blamed it on me?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 12:53 PM PST

So a couple days ago I was Reading a book and my little brother told me to throw it at him so I did and it hit his eye the side of it . Then me and my little sister were playing tag own the couch and he wanted to play so I let him and I tagged him and he fell and bit his lip. Today my mom got a phone call by his dad and he was all like "what happened to him" and my mom said it was me and everything. These were on accident and I'm crying cos I'm scared of what's going to happen cos my mom always wants me to get in trouble 😭. He most irritating part is that at their dads house the little girl always tells them about sex and **** like that. And they come back saying penis,boobs,butt,pee,poo. And a couple years ago the dad burned my little brother with a cigarette!! I'm sad plz help

Question: Do you think it was right to kick my mother in law out?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 12:47 PM PST

My mother in law lived with her sister for 5 years and then her sister kicked her out. Three weeks ago I agreed to let my mother in law move into my house 2500 miles away. She is aging and medically and physically needy. It was an inconvenience to my wife and I who had total peace in our home. To top it off my mother in law had a bad attitude. Plus she would drop stuff and make lots of messes. I wasn't happy, but I was dealing with it...then one day she ate some sugar free chocolate pudding and literally pooped her pants...she ran down the hall to the bathroom leaving a trail of poop in my livingroom and hall way. I told her she had to leave. I did call a carpet cleaner to clean it up, but that was the last straw with me and sh*t literally hit the fan. She flew back 2500 miles to NYC and is staying with my wife's best friend. She is essentially homeless? Am I wrong for giving her the boot? Should I have had more compassion for the difficulties of an aging person? Is pooping on the floor and peeing yourself acceptable for a 70 year old? What is done is done, but I'm feeling guilty.

Question: What would you do if a boy hit your daughter?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 12:45 PM PST

She's 13 and the boy that hit her is 13. One afternoon they were walking together. It was cold and he was the only one with a jacket. So she touched him, and he hit her and pushed her. Five minutes later he noticed she was cold so he gave her the jacket. She goes home and tells you this. When you first meet the boy his hair is messy, he has a few burises on his face, neck and cuts on his hands, and he's wearing a hoodie. He says that he fell then gives your daughter a box of cookies and smiles. she hugs him. he looks really scared and shakes a little. Then when you go near him he hits you and backs away. What would you do in this situation?

Question: My mother is trying to pressure my brother and his wife to have another child (asking for my older brother)?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 12:33 PM PST

Okay so my brother and his wife have my two year old niece Ryleigh and they don't want any more kids which is totally fine by the rest of the family. My mother however is trying to pressure them into having another kid saying that 'it'll benefit" Ryleigh and she even called them selfish to deny her more grand kids even though one of my sisters and her soon to be wife have a little boy (that my mother ignores) Every time they come over to visit (me and my little brother) my mother starts in on them saying that they need to have another child, and every time my brother yells at her that they only need Ryleigh and that they are happy with one child. My brother doesn't want to stop coming to my mom's because of my little brother and I, but he's thinking about it :(

Question: Is it okay to like both boys and girls?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 12:21 PM PST

I'm a 15 year old girl and I be always liked boys and still do. But I'm beginning to like the thought of being with a girl, it just seems so natural and easy, girls get each other, and I really try not to look at girls in a romantic way but sometimes I can't help it. It scares me to death to think that I could actually be gay and I'm even more terrified to talk to my parents about it because they have never been to open to gay people. But like I said I'm also attracted to guys to. Is it okay to like both? Can someone please help explain these feelings? Thank you

Question: My Mom won't let me see my Dad for Thanksgiving, how do I get her to change by Christmas?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 12:17 PM PST

He left her 5 years ago and so she won't let us see him except if it is something like a wedding. People tell me he could take her to court but he wont. She tells us because he left us we need to show our mother the respect she showed her mother (our grandmother) when our grandfather left her (my mother won't speak to her father and we've never met him). I want to have my Dad even if he left us. He didn't have an affair or anything. My friend's Dad had an affair and got the woman pregnant and he still sees his Dad because his mother does this thing called forgiving where she is nice to her enemy. So my question is how can I have a Dad at the holidays like my friend who gets to see both parents even though they are divorced? My sister hates our Dad and cuts him down with our mother daily but I kind of like him. We only see him two or three times a year though and it hurts at the holidays. Also I do worry what if my mother is right and he left us to.

Question: Can I get my child support money sent to me directly?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 12:15 PM PST

Just some back ground info: Im 17 and no longer living with either of my parents. My dad is currently paying back child support to my mother , while the current child support was on hold due to the fact that I was living with him at the time. But he s since then kicked me out and I want to have the current child support reinstated but if I do I m afraid my mother will keep the money. Is there a way I can have the current child support sent to me without having my mother interfering?

Question: My mother has said she will be furious if I ever find my father and his side of the family. Should I just be loyal to her?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 12:02 PM PST

She has never allowed us to meet our father even when he inquired. He is an alcoholic and he says he loves alcohol and not us. So I was 3 when I saw him last. I am 20 now and want to find him or if he's dead his family. My mother has said she will be the maddest she has ever been at someone if I do. I kind of feel it is my right but in my mother's family the clause is you do as your mother says whether an adult or child (my mother does everything her mother says). So what should I do? With the internet I located someone in the family but haven't emailed them yet. Person I located would be my grandmother MEANT TO GIVE CARLOS K BEST ANSWER

Question: Should i invite my mother to my baby shower?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 11:59 AM PST

My mother and i have not spoken for about 3 years now. We never had good communication while i was growing up, and she was always a very emotionally distant mother, even though i am her only daughter. I believe that i was the best daughter i could have been, never got into any problems, was always at home, rarely going out, and i graduated from university. Shortly after i graduated i met the person that would become my husband, naturally my mother hated him. Her reasons were that he was divorced, and was too old for me. I was 24 and he was 34. My dad was completely ok with everything as long as i was happy. We had a very serious relationship, thinking about our future together. He even came to my house with his parents to ask for my hand in marriage. I already knew that my mother would be against it, but i did not expect what ended up happening. ( she talked bad about me not knowing how to do anything, like cooking or cleaning, things like that.) She tried many times to separate us, she tried to get him beat up, trashed talked his family, she would also fake cry all the time, trying to convince me to cancel the wedding, all this caused me to breakdown several times, since i was tired of all her negativity. After we got married, everything was great, i cut all contact with her and didnt look back or think about it, until i was asked if i was going to invite her to my baby shower. I think i should just be the bigger person and invite her. But im still thinking about it.

Question: Why does my dad always try to act like a hero?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 11:52 AM PST

He always tries to make me and my mom the bad guys (he is in his 50s). When I (17 year old girl) said I was jealous of my friend that was a boy because he was smarter than me, his family makes more money,etc. My dad said that was bad! That he never hurt or insulted anyone and that he is connected with God That everyone is a slave to money. Yet he refuses to go out with us. Why is it my dad refuses to have fun or eat out but he is generous with us. He isnt sociable. Why does he get all defensive ?

Question: How do I get my door back? My parents took it off forever?!?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 11:49 AM PST

My parents took my bedroom door off. They didn't like how I would close it. But I would only close it when they were being too loud and I was trying to focus on hw. But they don't believe me and say that I was only closing it so I could go on my phone w/o them seeing me.And then they also said that I never talk to them abt anything anymore, the reason I DON'T talk to them is bc they always criticize me when I do. so first they took of my doorknob, so it wouldnt shut. Then they got fed up and took of the whole door. I asked them when I could get it back and my mom said when I "behaves and listened to them" even though I usually do. But my dad said I couldnt have it back for at least 2 years maybe longer. Im so mad bc they don't even have a good reason for taking it off. I really need help

Question: My sister wants to marry this white guy and won't listen to us?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 11:45 AM PST

My parents live in India and I live in the US. She lives in France and is dating an Austrian guy whom she met at university. He had asked her out and they've been touring all over Europe while my parents are depressed. My parents and I are strongly against this. Not because we have anything against white people but marriage is like a game to them. It is bitter to hear this but they will be with you today and divorce tomorrow or cheat. I know a white female friend who got cheated by her white boyfriend. I hear many instances of infidelity with whites. We've advised her not to proceed with this relationship but she won't listen. My parents say they want to stop sending her money and want her back home. What do I do. My parents want me to convince her to leave this guy

Question: My parents hate me?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 11:44 AM PST

I'm a 14 year old girl and I hate my parents they are constantly on my case anything I do is wrong. I have a younger sister who is 6 she is perfect to them if she does something wrong or bad and is naughty nothing happens she tells my parents to shut up hits and kicks them and so on , I'm not jealous at all I completely understand its a different punishment for her but she does it constantly as I am mature for my age I'm not 'naughty' just cheeky sometimes as I am a teenager they should understand and its rare I'm like that. Why do my parents do this??

Question: How do I stop feeling so sad at holidays that my mother died? It has been 6 years and I have hated the holidays ever since?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 11:32 AM PST

My siblings have all moved away and aren't around. I see a cousin who is a great person but it is just not the same.

Question: Why do people get sad and upset when is kids grow up and tell kids to stop?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 11:13 AM PST

Ok so I see photos of my parents with me and other kids with their parents. Some people are telling us to quit growing up and stay little. I know its a joke but I feel like I gotta act little to make them happy. I posted a picture of me with my dad and my dads friend said, "Hey there Angela (me) you seriously just growing up so fast. Stop it already! Haha. Looking gorgeous." Even my older sister said last month, "Today my baby turns 13 today. I can't believe she's a teenager already and she needs to stop growing up so much! Why?!! 😭😭😭" Of course she said happy birthday and love you. My sister is 30. I'm autistic so its hard for me to see if some people are really joking or getting mad at me. Even my mom cried so hard because I turned into a teenager last month and she wanted me to stop growing up and grow down. She held me tight and said, "I'm never going to let you grow up no more."

Question: Is it rude that my brother and his wife didn't invite me to thanksgiving?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 11:10 AM PST

So, I'm single no kids, my brothers wife's family live out of state, they take turns on where to have to have it at. This year, her whole family is coming. They didn't say anything and even my brother didn't invite me well, it's already Tuesday and he still hasn't said anything. In the past he has invited me and I went, didn't bother inviting my parents either. I don't hardly talk to her family, I feel kind of offended. I don't know if it's because my mom make this comment about how when everyone was done with dinner her family left the table and decided to chatter among themselves. My brother told his wife then it seems he told her family. Maybe they don't want us there?

Question: Is it normal for parents to behave like this?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 10:23 AM PST

My mom s usually a calm person, but normally when some tiny little things happen she starts shouting at me for no reason. Recently she asked if I wanted to celebrate christmas with grandma, I proposed that we d sleep over at her apartment (I mean it s so far away). And she immediatly shouted "NO!" very loudly and stomped in the floor. She usually does this when I tell her she s wrong about something, and she refuses to accept the truth, and when even the tiniest things happen... Although she s normally very calm... Something like this happened a few days ago, what happened was that she opened the fridge and then started yelling at me because she thought I had stolen her wine, in reality it was right next to her chair in the kitchen. But that was my mother, and surprisingly enough I m really happy I live with her. This is because my father is alot worse, he was alot worse, I remember that he forced me to do tasks such as mopping and cleaning and doing the dishes when I was 10... It was because of this that I lost almost all my confidence, he took away my video games and everything, he didn t even cook food for me... I fled from him at age 11 and I ve never seen him since. this is just a glimpse into how they ve acted but, is this normal? I ve grown so used to it I don t even know how a parent should act anymore.... thing is I m kind of tired of it, after watching anime and seeing how parents act there, I just want to live in a real family... (not gonna move though) don't misunderstand the anime part, I meant more like how calm the parents were in anime when their children did nothing wrong...

Question: My aunt is a narcissist my mother says (Mom's sister). Do these descriptions make her a narcissist?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 10:06 AM PST

She has a daughter she worships and a son she dumps on (a 2nd daughter is the "normal one she tolerates"). Her daughter she worships showers her with affection and praise but the son she teaches her two daughters to hate and thus the daughters don't speak to the son. The son is cold to her but not mean. He made some mistakes in high school so she made a mountain out of a molehill on them. She talks trash about her son to those she meets and praises her daughter while not saying anything good or bad about the other daughter. She flips if someone does not show appreciation towards her (part of why she is divorced). She can be really sweet at times and really abusive at other times. She is very critical though my mother is also. She accused her now ex-husband of adultery which he adamantly denied. Yest she still says "he cheated on me" but is not mean enough to intentionally make up something about someone. He was not the kind that would cheat. Lastly, with her extended family (siblings and others) she is always the "victim". Like she won't travel to town to see the family but she complains her family has forgotten her since the grandparents' deaths. She declined to come to something and then complained she didn't get invited (someone had mentioned it to her and she said we won't be able to come). She resents family for being good to the son she turned on who lives with his Dad. So is this narcissism or just more like a menopause thing? She was always a little self consumed but in the last 10-15 started doing these other things. She is menopause age but has been like this 10-15 years.

Question: My mother's cousin is notorious for going around on his wife. What do I say when people say "oh so your related to...." and gossip?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 09:48 AM PST

The guy is still family so I feel weird bad mouthing him even though he is a horrible husband. It is well known where I live so people like to gossip about it when they hear my mother's maiden name.

Question: Step-mom at thanksgiving?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 09:41 AM PST

This is kind of a tough situation for me. My husband'/ step-mother is going to be at thanksgiving dinner this week. She and I have never gotten along (and I'm using that lightly). Usually the only way I can survive being anywhere near her is after a drink or two. I just found out yesterday that I'm pregnant, so obviously can't drink. Between the two of us, I've always tried to be the bigger person, but she just has the ability to bring out the worst in people. I can't stand the woman. My husband does stand up for me when she tries to start something, but she still gets on my nerves. Anyone else who has to deal with step-parents who could offer up some advice? I'd appreciate it

Question: What can I do if a 24 yr old female family member is hanging with my 17 yr old daughter and I think the relationship is inappropriate?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 09:24 AM PST

Question: My family abandoned me and I don't know what to do for thanksgiving?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 09:22 AM PST

I came out to my parents a year ago and they disowned me and made me leave their house. I've been living with my boyfriend since then, but his family disowned him too. We don't know what to do for thanksgiving.

Question: How do I get over the disappointment that we no longer have big family holidays since my grandparents died?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 09:08 AM PST

I know its normal as the big family holiday is now just my parents and siblings and two nephews (no longer aunts, uncles, and cousins). I know it is normal but it hurts so much. I don't get the holiday joy I once did. People say just be thankful for the family you do have but that doesn't help. How do I get over this?

Question: Wondering, if you found out your daughter had an affair with a married man 35 yrs older , what would be your reaction?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 09:05 AM PST

Question: Stumped by baby logic?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 08:31 AM PST

I have been in my girlfriend s child s life since she was 1 and 5 months and now she s turning two. She calls me by my first name and says daddy but has never been taught to call me daddy. Is it possible that children can correlate parent titles without it being taught? My girlfriend says she has no idea how and why she knows that.

Question: My mother is so-so-so mad that I am going to see my Dad for Thanksgiving. How do I make it up to her?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 08:17 AM PST

My Dad will be away at Christmas with my step-mother's family so I am going to see him for this weekend and won't be with my mother. She is so-so mad. She says I am betraying her by picking him over her when he wouldn't stop drinking when married to her and left us. I feel he only left her, not me, but she says it was us both. So I am 22 and going to see my Dad and will be with my Mom on Christmas. She is furious even though her sister's family is having her and my grandmother over. So how do I make this up? I feel nervous when I displease my mother so usually back out on my Dad but don't want to here. My maternal grandmother's Alzheimers is getting worse so I want to have some time with her before she forgets us (she will be at my Dad's). I can't do both as my Dad lives 6 hours away

Question: My uncle's wife has an aunt I think is hot. Would there be anything wrong if I asked her on a date now that she is widowed as of last week?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 08:14 AM PST

Her husband died Wednesday of last week and I am going to the funeral tomorrow. She is really hot but 69 years old. I am only 24. Is there anything wrong with asking her on a date and maybe later marrying her if it works out? She is my aunt by marriage (uncle's wife's) aunt. Her daughter and my uncle's wife are close cousins so we see this woman two or three times a year which is why I am going to the funeral for her husband (though he didn't come around much himself so it was her I knew more). This is a serious question, not making a joke or trolling

Question: How do I move to the other side of the country?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 08:12 AM PST

So in June me and my boyfriend split up and he moved to the other side of the country to live with his mom but recently we have been sorting things and have talked about getting back together, me and my 10 month old daughter are wanting to move over there to be with him but am not sure what the council will say/if they will help me and my daughter get a house. PS I have a family connection as my daughters dad lives there. Does anyone know what I should say and will the council accept me and house me somewhere.

Question: Why is my mom so fake and mean?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 08:04 AM PST

She complains to me so much but one day she yelled at me for it but it's rare when I do she does everyday just the other day she got mad because I didn't feel sorry for her for once all I want is her to try and be positive because she never is but around people in person or on facebook she acts like nothing ever happened or she never apologizes to me so why should I? When she is miserable she tries to make everyone else like that. She even tried to make her life harder it seems like to have something to feel sorry about her she hates her job I told her a million times she could try and get a new one she just ignores me. Oh and we have a bird that screams constantly wants attention I sometimes give it to her but there are times where she doesn't want out of her cage I don't want to stand in front of it all day obviously my mom is to stubborn to give it a new home what it deserves.

Question: How to set up a pretend sleep away camp?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 08:02 AM PST

My 6 year old is obsessed with sleep away camp, since we went to her older cousins visiting day. We re not going to have her go until she s at least 8, but she s always asking, and she always wants to "play camp". In the summer we go to a beach house with extended family, and she gets to share a room, which we tell her is "like having your own mini camp" and she loves that, but what are some other ideas at home? She has a bunk bed which we got primarily because we don t have a guest room. Any ways camp games could turn into discipline? I tell her that she shouldn t waste too much time in the shower because it s practice for camp, and that she shouldn t fuss about not liking her food because at camp they ll only serve one option? anything else?

Question: Is it rude to ask for a surface pro 4 for Christmas?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 08:01 AM PST

My dad had agreed to buy me a laptop for Christmas as I have been needing one for a while. I really need one that is good for digital art as that is what I mostly need it for as well as essays and the like. I then asked him he could get the aforementioned laptop and I would pay for half as I know it's expensive and money doesn't grow on trees. I have a job and just a month's wages would pay for my share. I then let one of my friends know about that plan and they said it was a very rude thing to do and it would have been better to ask my dad to buy me a regular laptop with a graphics tablet and some art software. I now feel terrible for asking my dad because of that. He hasn't read the message yet so I don't know his reaction. Do you agree that I was rude to ask?

Question: Why am I always left out on family decisions?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 07:56 AM PST

Since I was a teenager I have always felt like I don't belong in this family because I rarely speak with my parents or my sisters. When I try to bond more with them they just ignore me and it makes me wonder if I was adopted or if I was not planned. It sucks because I have to keep my feelings to myself and most of the time I'm just there sitting alone while my sisters talk about things that I'm not inlcuded in. Most of the time I just go to my room and I spend my days alone trying to distract myself from it.

Question: Attached mother?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 07:46 AM PST

my mom is very attached to me. Im 18, in univerity and living at home. I am quite independent for my age, i work a part time job. I do not ask my parents for money they give me money each week to eat in college and i ay for my own nights out and taxis home ect.. I dont do drugs, never been in any serious trouble. I dont cause probems at home. Im studying 5 days a week and i work one day a week. my mom wants me home constantly. after class she calls me to ask am i on the way home. I never really spend a day away from home for no reason. Shes always asking when ill be back and who im with. i want to travel, as its my current curse of study. my om will not let me go abroad or stay ver night with friends. she always asks why i dont spend time with her, why i dont show her affection or why i never want to spend time with family. To be honest, i dont have time, im busy with my own things. When i hav time, do spend time with them. i just want my own life to... She is constantly telling me how cold i am towards her and how im never around. She makes me feel so shitty. we dont get along particulary well, nor do we get on "bad". i actually feel quite indifferent towards her. my parents have never been bad to me or done anything on m. im just quite content being on my own. nothing personal. My mom thinks im "desperate to get away from her". Honestly, im not. Being at home makes me feel awful. Her negative attitude is really draining. She regulary tells me how bad i am and how horrible and thoughtess i am but i really dont understand why! i dont do anythig bad, ive never caused trouble or brought it home. I have good friends, were all in college, their not criminals. Really, what am asking is how do i get her to back off and realize im not a bad kid, i dont intend on doing anything i shouldn't. I just want my own space?

Question: I just found out that my dad got arrested for doing weed in college and I can't look at him the same?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 07:26 AM PST

Question: Why does my brother tell on us?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 07:22 AM PST

My brother always likes to tell on us to our parents! He tells on me and my other brother who is 8 a lot. He tells on us over things like missing homework, playing video games when we weren't supposed to, and eating junk foods when we weren't supposed to. Once he told on me because he found out that I was wearing crop tops to school since my mom said they showed too much and he told on my brother for something like forgetting or rushing his homework.

Question: HOW TO BE MORE EXTROVERTED AS A INTROVERT/AMBIVERT?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 07:20 AM PST

JUST A LITTLE INTRODUTION: So right now I'm still living at home with my mom. I just turned 23 yrs old recently and I do work and I plan on going to school for the spring semester. I was suppose to be away at college right now I even got a scholarship for music but because of various reasons I couldn't go at this time. I live at home because I'm still trying to figure out life and plus it's super expensive living in NYC. I do plan on moving out though when I finally have things in place. I'm an only child but my I grew up close with my cousins. My mom had a twin sister and her daughter which is my cousin, and I, are like sisters/twins. Growing up I had friends I was always the comedian/mom/know it all of the group. I feel like I have extrovert qualities but are my heart's core I'm an introvert who is super shy and somewhat socially awkward. But I play it off so well that my friends would think I'm crazy If I said that to them. They would probably say I'm the most fun and hilarious person out of the group. So my Mom and I live with her fiancé. His sister and her boyfriend just came into town from Florida and they are staying with us for a few days. I haven't met them yet. We usually don't have guests spend the night. I Usually I just stay in my room most of the time when I'm not at church or hanging out. So when I finally meet them how do I make a good impression and seem interesting? When I'm super shy and awkward at my heart's core.

Question: I called myself out of school and got caught, what should I do?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 07:17 AM PST

It's the day before thanksgiving break, I didn't have to work and thought it was be a good a idea to ask my dad for the day off so he said it would be fine and went on a lecture about me not being sick and I wasn't gonna graduate and that it's all on me (iam well aware) He also said he won't call me off I was like, ok whatever. So I just decided I would just call myself off called the hotline that hotline you use to call if you are gonna be absent, look i know it wasn't smart I just didn't want to be more in trouble then I had to be I just wanted a day off, I knew it wasn't smart idea, iam to the school district because I moved to be with my brother-etc plus they graduate early and I don't take new changes lightly I get stressed out easily, I've already called once for not being able to sleep because my room is so hot and I've left school early because I couldn't stay awake for the second period this is my third time and now my last. Long story short I got caught my mom called me and yelled at me about it I told her my dad said I could stay home and she whatever stay home this one last time she said I won't graduate but I've been working so hard on keeping those grades up are they b and a's but I'm a c student and because I have three study halls back to back I can just get caught up on that Tuesday I took before break, I feel real bad about it and because she said I can just stay home Iam at home, I feel I'm that only one who is ever done this, what should I do?

Question: Every time we go to the grocery store, my little daughter always runs off and it makes me so mad?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 06:55 AM PST

How do I get her to stop?

Question: I need to get my phone back HELP?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 06:48 AM PST

I had downloaded an app that i wasnt supposed to (instagram) and they took it away a couple months ago. See the thing is, I am 14 and they never let me have anything on my phone, I can't even text someone without my mom peering over my shoulder or asking me, I just don't get the freedom I should get with a phone. So I downloaded it again and they found out and took it away but i really want it back, i never wanted to make them mad but i believe that i should be able to have these certain freedoms because i am not a little kid anymore, and talking to them about it will not work because they'll think i'm trying to make them feel guilty, but i just need to find out how to get it back because according to them, i'm never getting it back ever again so please help i know i sound like an ungrateful teen but i'm desperate to get it back so please help if you can

Question: I have very deep feeling of guilty, what I can do?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 06:45 AM PST

Three years ago. I have lived in a host family and studied in a Christian school. All people in this family are very nice. They took care of me a lot and show their kindness and love to me. Although I was not good at speaking English, they used to tolerate me and try to help me. However, my personality is not very open and not good at communication with other people. Most time I just stayed in my bedroom. In addition, I was not accustomed to the food they cook. Therefore, I just told my dad in Skype about this. Honestly, the only thing I said is that I was not accustomed to their cook style, everyday we share the same food. Really!! That is the only meaning I want to expressed during that period. However, I don t know why, after me dad told that to agency(I was not plan to tell agency, that's my dad's mean), the feedback they got is " Your family never feed him, because you don t have enough money?!" That really hurt my host family a lot. Add I have showed some disrespect to God before(because I can't join in any group that makes me feel negative, I really lost my mind during that time), they might not trust me anymore. Every night I thought of it, I will have very deep feeling of guilty. I really repent of my sin deeply. Thanksgiving is coming, I want to send them a email, but I really don't know what I can say. I feel very sorry about it.

Question: How do I tell my mom that I'm dropping out of college?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 06:37 AM PST

I'm going home for Thanksgiving tomorrow. Right now I'm in college but I didn't register for next semester since I've decided that college wasn't for me. I didn't really want to go anyway but my mom decided it would be best for me so I can decide what I want to do with my life since I wasn't sure. Now I think I do know since I've been working part time as a dance teacher at this dance studio in the city where I go to college at and the owner has offered me a full time job and I really like it and I think that's what I want to do. But I think my mom really wants me to stay in college and I think now is a good time to tell her or should I wait until a couple of weeks when the semester is over? Either way I need to know how to tell her without starting a fight. I think she expects me to graduate since my other siblings did but it's just not for me though.

Question: Where can I have my sons birthday party at late notice?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 06:18 AM PST

My son is turning one. I got so caught up in planning it and planning my sisters birthdays that I didn't realize how close it was. I've called parks and recreation and they have no openings. I NEED a place for Dec. 3rd. Please help!!

Question: I m not my fathers son nor am I my mother s son. Who am I?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 06:13 AM PST

Question: Did I molestation my sister if I didn't know it was so wrong of me?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 05:39 AM PST

Am I a molester if I remember holding my sister and she was on my hip and I wonder if she was getting any feeling down there, so I made her rub more on my hip, another time I believe I rub over her diaper. I would say it was sexual and curious BUT MUCH MORE curiously to see like what woud happen, all I remember I just did it to do it I wasn't even thinking and was in another world. I also would watch porn when she was by me but she didn't see it, I NEVER EVER DO THAT NOW I was a preteen or a bit younger and now I am a girl that's in her mid teens and I really feel bad because this will NEVER cross my mind, I would never do anything like this ever, I am like a mother to my younger sister and I always make sure she stays out of trouble and if she does something bad I always tell my mom. As I get older I am more and more like a mother/kinda fun sister to my younger sister. I never do anything in front of her that's not right. I can't sleep or eat from this. yes I known about sex already and know that what I was doing wasn't right BUT I also thought it wasn't wrong, so I was totally in another world because I won't ever do that now never

Question: Everything I wrote I do not do now near get any desire, please if I can get a answers if my mothers figure somethin happen and move on?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 05:25 AM PST

Starting from a young age like 2/3 I would dry hump anything, anyone, anywhere, anytime. I startec to get a hold and watch porn at a young age, I was kinda crazy kid, then when me, my mom and younger sisters were all sharing a bed (long story), I would watch porn and masturbate with my sister sleepin right next to me, my mom found out twice and got upset, another two times I humped my moms leg (I have no idea where my mind was) then what my mom doesn't know is that I touch my little sister over her diaper to see how she would act curiouse more then sexually, plus another time I wonder always when I hold my sister or was playing with her when she were on my side and since her "area" rubs I wonder she gets a good feeling like how I use to when I was little. I was like 10/11 or even 12/13. But I mostly am sure like 11/12 Is this something to tell my mom or do you think she already figures or assumes something weird must of happen since there was a few times that she saw me or known I was doing something weird/crazy and stuff? Im in my mid teens now (girl)

Question: Should be a father jealous?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 05:24 AM PST

There are a lot of people questioning me for not being a dad jealous with her daughter, always tell her to prevent not to get pregnant and dating someone like her, but everyone says that if I dont be a jealous father means that I don't love her and that she will turn pu ta is what they say, I must listen to the people and become a jealous father.

Question: Why are they spolied?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 04:49 AM PST

I am 53. I tell my son and daughter all the time I am not their father and they are embarrassments to me. I am their biological father though, just I do not consider myself their father. I have been beating son and daughter with my hands and belts for 11 years. They are 17 and 18, I have had them in online school for 12 years. No outside person knows of my ahdh and bipolar. My son and daughter say they hate people because of what I do to them. They refuse to leave as we live on interstate/highway with no sidewalks on them and they refuse to walk with cars behind cars. I get joy out of seeing my kids hurt I do not know why when they cry(after I beat them in face for few minutes) I yell at the them to shut up. Can I legally stop allowing son and daughter to eat and use my airconditioning if they refuse to leave my house? Why are they so spolied? People have it worse than them.

Question: Tickling as a punishment?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 04:46 AM PST

What do you guys think about tickling as a punishment? I always got this when I was younger where my mom and sometimes my dad would do it and all they did was just put me on the floor put my hands over my head and put my shirt up where my navel was showing and just tickled my navel and around it. They don't do it now but they do it on my little sister still. But what are your thoughts for having tickling as a punishment?

Question: Do any other daughters feel like their mothers embarrass them on purpose?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 04:45 AM PST

I know it's normal for girls and women to have adversarial relationships with their mothers, but I'm not talking about an overbearing or controlling mom. In fact, in my case it isn't that at all. My mom has always done things that make me look bad to others. She's a smart lady yet pretends to "forget" things I told her not to say. She has never kept one secret I've told her. Not one. I usually find out from others that she's told them stuff, while her memory and manners escape her around others she usually keeps her lip zipped around me. She's told my peers ridiculously embarrassing stuff like her I have a crush on and that I don't have many friends. She never did classic parenting stuff like forcing my brother to go to my dance recitals. She didn't do anything to encourage a sibling bond and now there isn't one. I don't think my mother wanted me to be close to my brother. In fact I believe my mother worked overtime at keeping me separate from her side of the family. It's almost like my mother viewed me more as a sister figure and was competitive with me over status in the family. Is that normal? Does anyone else feel their mothers did similar things?

Question: Do my parents hate me, or am I really a bad person? How do I fix this?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 04:42 AM PST

My parents and I have never seen eye to eye. However, since I had my son things have gotten worse. My mum will tell people that I've been abusive towards her since I was as young as 5. It upsets me that she says this, she even says I was physically abusive as a small child and has always said I am exactly like her little sister. She will say things to me like that I'm a bad mother and was lazy for not breastfeeding my son past 6 months. I did have 4 surgeries and after my fourth my milk supply went low, the doctors put me on domperidone but after two scripts told me to stop as my health was poor, she still thinks I should've done more. She says I'm a bad mother for not buying bottled water to boil to make my sons formula, so my dad and her have been buying bottled water for my son and if I give him tap water they yell at me. They don't want me to sleep train him because they think it's abusive, they don't want him to sleep in his own bed because she keeps saying he needs me, and if I put him in his own bed she puts him in their bed. My parents are continuously putting me down, saying how bad of a person I am, they even pick on my partner. I am heavily pregnant with baby number two and as of yesterday my partner lost his job, so I don't know how we're going to move out, but they want us to. I want to write her a letter, but whenever I have written her a letter she has picked on my grammar instead of reading what I'm trying to say to her. Can someone please help me out?

Question: How do I get over the disappointment that we no longer have big family holidays since my grandparents died?

Posted: 22 Nov 2016 04:39 AM PST

I know its normal as the big family holiday is now just my parents and siblings and two nephews (no longer aunts, uncles, and cousins). I know it is normal but it hurts so much. I don't get the holiday joy I once did. People say just be thankful for the family you do have but that doesn't help. How do I get over this?