Family: Question: How to deal with your mum when she cares about anything apart from you?

Question: How to deal with your mum when she cares about anything apart from you?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 02:11 PM PST

Question: Why won't my family visit me?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 02:00 PM PST

My family is in Michigan and I am in Florida for grad school. I have been to Michigan for Thanksgiving, Christmas, and a few weddings. Other than that my time is in Florida. I have been here for two years now and none of my family members have visited me. I'm starting to think they want me to remain down here. My brother and sister in law said they would be down here for a week last summer but somehow that fell through. My parents don't like Florida because it's too humid and my sisters don't have the money. I really miss my family and I would like it if somebody visited me, but now I'm starting to think they din't like me. What can I do about this?

Question: Have you ever had to start all over in life?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 01:57 PM PST

Question: I think my mother is on drugs again? (PLZ HELP I AM 14)?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 01:53 PM PST

So, my mother hung out with a bunch of like 20 year old guys who all did drugs when she was 15-17. She did cocaine and pills. When she was 17, she got pregnant with me. My nana tried to force her into an abortion, so she ran away. She completely stopped drugs. She just stopped taking them, and I was fine. She worked as a waitress. We went to her home once a year for Christmas. But now, after 15 years, she decided to move home. She ran into her old friends last night, and went out with them for a night. My nana seemed really worried. I didn't know about my mothers past until she told me why she was worried. She didn't come home until today at around 12pm, and she had this white stuff under her nose and she looked terrible! Please help!!!!

Question: How do I get my younger brother off the computer?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 01:52 PM PST

Before I start no dumb answers plz Hello guys, So I am a 13 year old person and I have a 7 year old brother who uses the computer for 6 hours. So I need the computer for 2 reasons homework and doing my biggest dream and it is to be a YouTuber, and I can t do it because of him. My parents have a low income and my parents said "I am too irresponsible or too young for odd jobs" and when I convinced them they said in the summer but I need it now. So this is what I tried -To tell him his mom needs it but he is not that dumb -I told him to do his homework -I told him he will be cursed if he did not get off but he is not dumb -I tried to tell him the computer has a virus and I need to fix it but he said it works perfectly -I tried to explain how need to do homework but he said I will use it too much -I tried to make him eat his lunch so he could leave -I told him I will be your personal assistant for a whole week But of course non of these work Ps : like I said my parents have low income and I can t work for myself P.s.s : no dumb answers

Question: Is running away okay for my situation?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 01:47 PM PST

My parents are what I would call Christian extremists. We don't celebrate Halloween, Christmas, birthdays, or Easter (for Christmas and Easter we have a meal but we don't get together with family or anything because my family is normal). They also think that to be modest, women have to wear dresses, skirts, and loose blouses only and the dresses and skirts have to be down to the knees or longer (since we don't have money to buy a new wardrobe, I can still wear skirts and dresses above the knee for right now but no pants) and that women should stay home and cook, clean, and raise children their whole life. Ugh! This annoys me. They believe tattoos are wrong. We also don't really watch movies, TV, or listen to music unless it fits their criteria for "acceptable"...it isn't much. They control who my friends are, they have supervision over my Internet usage, what I wear, what I believe, etc. If I say I disagree with something, I am wrong and always wrong, rebellious, and "need to get my heart right with God". DISCLAIMER: Not ALL Christians act this way or believe the same things as my parents, It is NOT fair to judge a whole group of people based off of two of the people in that group. I have extreme anxiety and mild depression. I feel lonely. I feel trapped. I feel like I'm suffocating and I can't breathe. . I don't know how to please anyone. I feel like every move I make is being monitored and criticized and is wrong. I feel guilty for every problem in the world.

Question: It hurts me that my Mom hates her family so much (except her Mom she likes). I can't change her but how do I stop caring?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 01:45 PM PST

They don't ask me to anything because they'd have to ask my mother so I miss out on seeing any of her family other then my grandmother. They all make excuses as to why they are busy when I offer to bring something by for a visit. At the same time I can't go to my mother for comfort because she is so hateful towards them she just goes into a rant. My grandmother likes us but never spends any holidays with us because she is with the rest of the family. So Thanksgiving will be spent listening to my mother rant about how much she hates her siblings while I am sorrowful they are all gathered like a normal family. I fear they hate me because I am my mother's child. How do I stop caring and how do I get past this? Talking to my mother just turns into a rant from her about how evil her siblings are in her eyes. I am 15 and can't drive yet but even if I could I'd be grounded if I tried to see them. How do I get over this? It sucks at the ******* holidays especially.

Question: Can i get my dad arrested for punching my 6 year old sister? he made her cry so bad?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 01:43 PM PST

so what happened was we were all eating dinner and my dad was sat at the end of the table and i was sat diagonal from him and then my sister was sat next to me. anyway during an argument i called my dad a name. i cant actually remember the name but it was probably the C word since he hates it when i say that in front of my mom, and thats probably the only swear that would provoke his crazy reaction of punching an innocent 6 yr old girl. so i called this name and he stood up and i could see he was gonna hit me. so i just pushed my chair backward really fast so i slid out of the way and instead his punch got my sister. she screamed so loud. she was in bad shock and crying and everything. i mean the punch wasnt that hard, but for a 6 yr old i guess it would be. and cuz he was aiming at my arm and shes shorter than me it got her neck. he punched a 6 yr old girl in the neck. and blamed me! saying to my sister that hes sorry and he was meant to get me but i moved. so its my fault for moving??? do you see how crazy he is? i toad my sister to tell her teachers when she goes to school and she said she will. but then my dad traumatize her, saying the police will take her away and does she want to be took away from him and my mom. hes a psycho. he made her cry more. i have done some bad things but ive never punched a 6 yr old. he calls me irresponsible but he is. he throws punches around at a dinner table when his wife and 2 babies and a 6 yr old are there. he needs arrested it is completely true!! he really is that awful

Question: How do I get my step-mother to stop telling me all the reasons she hates my Mom and sister?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 01:42 PM PST

I agree my Mom and sister have done very hurtful things but I am uncomfortable bad mouthing them, especially my mother, to my step-mother. My Dad joins in with his wife (my step-mother).

Question: My girlfriends breasts are hurting should she get them out and breast pump or keep her breasts covered?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 01:37 PM PST

Question: WILL DONALD TRUMP be good FOR KIDS?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 01:23 PM PST

food stamps child care private school funding and scholarships free and reduced lunch schools providing healthy and nutritious food ensuring K-12 schools offer a quality education FAMILY- KIDS NEED to ensure they can live good and do well, achieve their goals, not go hungry, go to school well dressed, good grooming, a stable and supportive household, good schools, and away from all the crime. WE HAVE DONALD TRUMP AND KIDS especially the middle class and below may lose out. This is not good and future generations could be set back sharply THE US BIRTHRATE IS ALREADY DOWN AND official abortions 1 million plus each year. unstable government means less kids and more AGING

Question: I feel like I want to just die sometimes.?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 01:14 PM PST

Things you need to know: I live with my grandmother. I just saw my mother last weekend for the first time in probably a year and I feel so much more wanted than with my grandmother. My grandma kinda brainwashed me before I went there saying things like "last time i texted your mom I was called a liar " which she didn t... I looked. I just wish that my grandmother and other family members would respect me more for the way that I am and not be criticizing and condecending to me. I DONT GET ANY OF THIS CRAP AT MY MOM S.

Question: Did I cause a marriage breakup?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 01:12 PM PST

My mom has a friend that she wanted to exchange email with so she convinced Betty to buy a computer. Mom wanted me to teach Betty how to us the computer so I agreed to do it. I went to Betty's home for an hour on Saturday for several weeks. Betty's husband was with us the whole time I was training Betty. Betty told me her husband John was very jealous of her and other men. When Betty briefly went to answer the phone, John asked me if I was "fooling around" with his wife. I told him he was with me the whole time I was there. I knew at that moment this was my last training session. I was not coming back to that house as I had no idea what John might do. I did not hear from either one of them again for several months. Then my mom told me they were getting a divorce. Then I got an invitation to a "He's gone, good riddance" party at Betty's home. I decided to go. At the party, one of the guests told me I was the cause of the divorce. I asked her how that was possible. She explained that Betty used the computer to track what web sites John had been accessing and found he was on several web sites for finding women to date. He had also been posting stuff on porn sites. She said that if she had not know how to use a computer they would still be married. I told her I did not teach Betty to trace web sites from the computer. She must have learned by her self. Am I responsible for their marriage break up?

Question: What should I get as a gift for my British in-laws whom I do not know too well?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 01:11 PM PST

I am visiting my British in-laws this Christmas and hardly know them since I have been living in the states and they are far away.

Question: My mom found out I'm a goon?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 01:08 PM PST

My mom found out I'm gooning and shittttt, she's going to beat my ***. Any advice?

Question: I am making a cake for my friends baby shower and I don't have the milk and I don't have time to get it. Continue on details?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 01:07 PM PST

Should I get my boobs out and use my milk for the cake?

Question: Feeling anxious?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 01:01 PM PST

So my dad traveled to Germany because he has some work to do there and everytime im going to sleep I get anxious and feel really disturbed. And when my dad is around I feel normal. Can someone help me? I hate being anxious every day. Oh and by the way my dad is gone for a month andd he left a week ago. So yeah, thanks.

Question: My parents don't want me to shave my mustache?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 12:59 PM PST

Okay so Im 13 and I come from a latino family in which is socially conservative. I got so sick of the mustache growing on my face and the hairs on my cheeks. One day I shaved my mustache while I was at a party with one of my dad's disposable razors. I shaved it all off. None of my parents noticed at first, until the next week where my mom asked me "Who shaved your mustache" and me being the p***y I am told her that someone dared me to. She was mad at me and gave me a long lecture on how i shouldnt let people take advantage of me, and I really didnt wanna go through that. Then a few days later my dad also noticed and he said that men dont shave their mustaches and if you do then youre gay ( I am bi but I havent told anyone which is irrelevant ), and I was kinda pissed. It stared to grow back quicker and I decided to shave it again and Im already predicting the complaints. What can I say if they ask why I shaved it? They don't even think Im old enough to be wearing deodorant so I have to buy my own and sneak it in my backpack. At my age my brother was shaving and using deodorant and all that stuff. He even went out to the park and stuff alone yet I can barely walk out to the backyard without having someone there. -_- So I guess another issue is, why do my parents treat me as if I were 9?

Question: How to handle controlling parents as a college student?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 12:57 PM PST

Okay, just some background info: I'll be 21 in two months, and I'm graduating college in one month. I've been in college for 2 1/2 years and I've been home approx. 4 times within that period due to college being 10 hours away. My parents have always had expectations of me. They have always tried making decisions for me behind my back because THEY wanted me to. They want to dictate every aspect of my life. Well, I've decided that after I graduate I want to stay in my college town since there are more high paying jobs, and to stay with my boyfriend. The first time I put my foot down about them saying things like "WHEN I come home", my mom hung up and didn't talk to me for a week. I have made it clear that I don't want to move back in with them on several occasions, but my mom just gets very quiet before saying "gotta go". When she DOES talk about it, she just puts me down saying how staying with my boyfriend is a sin and I know better, and what would God think, etc. (I grew up in the bible belt). She also says things like what will your think. My father and I don't really talk, but he's angry because he says I'm being disrespectful since he is paying back his PLUS loan. I don't understand how it's disrespectful. I just don't know what to do about the situation. At this point we can't even have decent conversations without them making smart remarks and it's only escalating. What should I do?

Question: My mom jumps to conclusions?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 12:56 PM PST

my mom jumps to conclusions way too quickly. for exmple my mom is a teacher at my school and i have one of her spanish classes every day she wants me to put my phone on her desk and has never told me why. esterday, in the class before my phone rang and got my phone taken away when i walked into the class i told my mom i had gotten it taken away and she believed me. i picked up my phone at the end of the day. she saw that i was on it and threw a fit in front of the school students. i have tried to explain things to her but everytime i try to talk to her she says im "mansplaining". she also said every day i dont confess to her what i didnt do i grounded for one month. how can i talk to her? alsow hat is mansplaining?

Question: My 10 year old sister got stuck in a room alone and the door handle is not working, HELP!?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 12:32 PM PST

Hi, my sister which is 10, she got stuck in a room, she closed the door and then she couldn't get out of it because of the broken handle. What should I do?? Call police (999) or some other services? Which one? Thanks for help, the house owner came and opened the door for us.

Question: Cut off completely?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 12:25 PM PST

My dad died 15 years ago, his side are up North of UK and never had much to do with us due to distance. He had a special nickname for me that my mums side use. They never actually call me my name unless I'm in trouble (I'm 27) I've been having a hard time, I lost a baby, and my father's side have not bothered. Today my cousin gave birth and although that is great, she's given her my nickname. I doubt it was to spite me yet it really hurts, its as if they have their own girl now so screw me. It's like a part of me has been taken away. So as dumb as it is, it really hurts. Should I just cut them off? They're barely bothered with me but it's like they have replaced me too. So should I just cut them off? Be aware of my heritage but ignore them as people? My name was one of the few things I had left of my Dad and they've stolen it. Or am I overreacting?

Question: How do I get my parents to respect my relationships with family members they don;t like?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 12:14 PM PST

Question: How to tell me mother she cant live with me anymore?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 12:12 PM PST

Hi, i know that sounds horriable that i dont want my mother to live with me, but there are so many reasons why. The main reason is that over a year ago my brother, mother and me got eviticed from my mothers place because she didnt pay rent. So huge family fight, i went off on my own got my own place within 3 weeks of being homeless and now and fully supporting myself. Well after 3 months of getting my own place my mother is knocking on my door saying she has no place to stay. Well i was the nice one and said you can stay here for a while....well word got out in my town that i was going to kick my mom out and i became the ungreatful horriable child, so i let her stay and that has been over a year now. She doesnt help with any bills and basically just sits in my house doing nothing. (She does clean, but thats not hard to do) Well im fed up agina with it. Im just sick of not be able to have friends over and partys because of her living with me. (Im 22 btw) so how can i tell my mom that im moving againa and she can not come with me and trust me i have tried this before and it didnt work. I was even to the point in where i was locking her out of my house and said im going to get eviticed because of her and she just didnt care. Of course when i locked her out it was cold and i had to break down and let her in. So what can i do? I want to live the start of my adult life on my own.

Question: Is this the reason why I'm so shy now, was about 11 years ago..?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 12:06 PM PST

Well might be TMI but **** it. My mom wasn't really the mom type and she never told me what a period was but one day in math class the teacher had us all stand so we could be put into pairs and this girl behind me said really loud "THERE'S BLOOD ON HER CHAIR!!!" I was like wtf and my teacher pulled me outside class explained what was going on but I thought I was dying but she sent me to the nurse. I had to wear lost and found clothes that were actually mens jeans that were supper huge. I went home and never told my parents cuz I was young and embarrassed. I would steal my mom's feminine products but I flushed them down the toilet but about 3 months later my dad had to pay a plumber to fix it and he beat my *** for it and my mom disowned me for not telling her about me starting my dot.... kinda like carrie movie I guess. I find it funny now because the ***** that still made fun of me for it after everyone finally forgot about it looks like a man now. Hahaha KARMA

Question: PINK/ Victoria secret questions?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 12:04 PM PST

So I recently started to wear PINK underwear, because I'm going into 7th grade and that's when we have to start changing out and I didn't want to have granny underwear and underwear with monkeys and stuff. So my mom said that I can only get them when they are on sale because if not, they are normally really expensive. So I started getting them when they were 7/27 or 5/27. I just went to the mall and got the 7/27 before it was gone because it was a good deal. So I'm organizing them and realizing I have ALOT. I start counting and realizing that I have about 30. Omg 30 pink panties and I'm only 13. I start crying and tell my mom that I feel bad and that I should have this much. And my mom just tells me it's ok they will last along time and you needed them anyways. Is that a lot? How old were you when you started getting the PINK panties? How many did you have when you were around my age? Is it bad that I have 30 and I'm 13?

Question: My mum doesn t appreciate anything I do or say..?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 11:40 AM PST

I tell my mum I love here I get no response, I hug her she doesn t hug back.. I do things for her she doesn t say anything I feel like if I died she wouldn t care, I am 15 and I always feel this I cry in bed or to my nan or m lil brother I just feel worthless I was bullied so bad I was taken from school and had depression and anxiety she didn t care the person who took me for help, my nan, she couldn t care my step dad spoils her and they come from work and lay in bed if I come up they tear my head off, and I have never told my mum I hate you!" or swore or went against she barely speaks to me but in public she acts like mum of the year.. I feel worthless being only girl I find it hard to talk to my brothers as they don t really understand they are more laid back and it goes in one ear and out the other with them, but not for me... what do I do... I feel she doesn t love me,

Question: Cheapest method to move a mattress set my sister is giving from her house in California to my house in Arizona?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 11:22 AM PST

My sister is giving me a cal king mattress, box springs, memory foam topper, etc.. The problem is that she lives in Central California, and I live in the Phoenix valley in Arizona. I don't have the time to fly out, rent a truck, and drive it back here. Do any of you have any recommendations that is affordable???? Thank you in advance!

Question: Am I blood to my second cousins ?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 11:15 AM PST

Question: Am I blood related to my first cousins?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 11:14 AM PST

Question: How do I get people not to paint my whole family as messed up because of my one loser brother?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 11:11 AM PST

Question: How would you react if your dad smacked you on that a$$?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 11:09 AM PST

Question: My Mom does everything her mother does and is terrified to displease her. Is this okay as an adult or is this unhealthy?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 10:45 AM PST

Should I be terrified to displease my Mom? My grandmother doesn't get that mad as she is a sweet woman, but my mother is terrified to displease her and is obsessive nice to her.

Question: I'm tired of getting treated like a child? I'm a 19 year old male?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 10:31 AM PST

I turned 19 a few months ago, and my sister tells me that I still talk kidish, which is ironic considering I speak our native language really well, i have recieved many compliments from people who were surprised of my knowledge on speaking our native language. I was once selling a game because school was starting up, and my dad was like "good, you're not a kid anymore" but yet, my parents tell me to shave because I'm still not a grown adult? I have had people ask me my age, and they wonder why I have no facial hair, and that I look much younger because of it. When I was going out on friday night to play soccer with a older guys in their 30s and 40s, with a few around my age, my mom was like, "this is the manly characteristic of you playing soccer." By playing soccer, I'm a man? What about younger girls in elementary who like playing soccer? Another example would be when I was employed, i was working a half hour away, and i always preferred rides my by sister because it was a faster way of getting home than to wait at the bus stop. My mom says "you should take the bus to develop the characteristic of a man". Like omg, I'm losing it! I'm 19, i want to be treated like one. I recently got injured at work, my whole immediate family knows, I expected my mom to tell everyone about because my dad broke his hands at work, my eldest sister broke her ankle, my youngest sister went through surgery, and my mom was told she might have cancer, but was fine. Everyone knew about all of that, and the week following the result of my injury, we had a party. After the party, I asked my mom if she told them about me. She said no I didn't. I feel I'm not getting an adult's attention. Rebecca, I'm trying to act like one, but they aren't allowing me to enter the open space of being an adult. I want to be independent on my own, I work hard for my money to help my parents pay the bills, I did take the bus for the most part i worked, I want to act like one, I'm trying to, but obviously, my parents don't want to allow that, They are pushing me back from growing into an adult.

Question: Is my dad's "girlfriend" using him?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 10:30 AM PST

My dad has only known her for 5-6 months now. At first she had a boyfriend then in july she broke up with him cause he went to jail. She almost got away with stealing 2x from my dad and me once but she lied that she didn't. Before her boyfriend went to jail he said to watch her cause she'll will steal something. Then in September and October she was dating two guys. Then a month ago, she smoke crack in my dad's house and he made it clear not to smoke it in the house. All she does is ask for rides, and asks for money, and when he says no she starts bagging and saying she "needs it", and when my dad does her money she'll stop, and act all nice. The only reason she comes to me and my dad's house is for money, she only come over 3x to visit in the past months. Now my dad likes her, she started controlling him. 2 weeks ago he was going over there and he said he'll be right back in 10 minutes, but he didn't he came back 6 hours later. Now finally I had to tell him what she is like that she is using him for his money, and controlling you and stealing from others too. Before his friends would tell him that, but now i'm starting too, and all he say is I know but she changing. From what i can see from her she hasn't at all, she starting to get worse. I love my dad and i want him to see what kind of person she is, but he doesn't see it. Now it starting to affected me at school and my friends notice it. What should I do/tell him? My dad also fixed her trailer, and help her pay her rent once. My dad is also nice guy, is that why he's getting used?

Question: What do you think of a stepfather that always with his stepdaughter & the mother past away & she with him like that.?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 09:46 AM PST

And she has a small child with no place to stay with nothing but bad habits her & the stepfather are living with a lady to pay their way.

Question: My father, mother, Father, brother ,son of son daughter is what relationship to me?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 09:37 AM PST

Question: How can I get past the void that remains in me at the holiday season since my grandparents deaths?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 09:35 AM PST

During the regular parts of the year I've excepted their deaths and moved on but at the holidays the void opens. It especially hurts because we don't see their families anymore answer uncles and cousins as they've all moved away other than one it especially hurts because we don't see their families anymore answer uncles and cousins as they've all moved away other than one aunt. So how do I get past this and enjoy the holidays even though my mom and I and sister are the only family here otherwise it's my moms friends. I see my mom and sister all the time so there's nothing special about that sing the cousins always made it special as we'd see them in the summer and Christmas

Question: Have you ever wanted to slap someone else's kid? ....may be even right in front of their parent?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 08:49 AM PST

Question: I will like to know if seems my sister remembers and doesn't want to tell, also was this abuse or no since I didn't understand it was wrong?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 08:20 AM PST

I feel really bad that when I was 11/12 I touch my sister private part, first time I rub over her diaper fast and the second time all I remember was touching her (rubbing) to see if she would feel anything or make anything of it for a little awhile, it was a sexually and couriosity, but more curiosity, it's all a blur and I can't remember really, I believe nothing happen when I was 13/14 I'm most positive.....my sister acts like a normal happy kid and when I ask her do you remember anything of us when younger she said all she remember was a party, then I ask her again and she said no and when I repeat she yelled at me and said stop, then shake her head no, then I ask her again and she said I remember a few, like once we played dolls....then she said "was it dolls?" And the other stuff she can't remember well and can't say what. I know my mom knows when we were all sleeping in one bed (mom, sisters, and me) once I masturbated a couple of times and she got upset (a couple of times) then when I was like 14 I dry hump my moms leg and she known about that to and how I was a crazy kid growing up always jumping stuff and see porn, but nothing about my sister. I also dry hump with I was younger in front of my sister BUT I didn't know any better I known it was wrong but at the same time I didn't......is this something to move on from and put behind because I was just a kid and now I'm 17 years old (girl) or do I tell? My mom has enough on her plate and I feel like just moving on

Question: Why is my mom acting this way? What's her problem?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 08:20 AM PST

Last year I moved out for college and am living in a college dorm on campus. My mom is remarried (I have a stepdad) and they live together. She was a stay at home mom since I was born, even when married to my biological dad and when she single (my grandfather took the "dad" role for a while). Now she's a stay at home wife since I'm no longer there. I figured she and my stepdad would have more time for eachother which is good. The holidays are coming however and I told my mom (who wanted me over for the holidays) that I'm spending them with college friends. Then she got angry and tried to guilt trip me. And said "after everything I've done for you?" She's not even paying for my tuition. She has no money, and stepdad barely makes enough for both of them to live off of. Why can't she be happy that I'm being proactive in college and making friends? I've got A's so far but ironically when I almost got a "B", she panicked even though she dropped out of college when she was my age and has no degree. I don't get it!

Question: What should I tell my neighbors?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 08:09 AM PST

They are black and pregnat. Does that mean my baby is cheating on me?

Question: My son came out and my husband is threating to leave us?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 07:58 AM PST

So..the question says it all..my son who is 15 came out to his father and I with his boyfriend(who I think will take great care of my son).Being gay is against our religion,but I'm a mother and being a good and loving mother to my son is more important than anything to me. Sadly for my husband,he doesn't think the same.He called both boys such horried things,I couldn't even believe this man would say that to these young men..He told my son's boyfriend not to come near us and made him leave.I obviously took my son to his room and tried helping him stop cry...later this night my husband told me that if we don't "fix" our son he will leave us....I love my husband so much..but...my son is the only reason I wake up with a smile everymorning..and I really need help...

Question: I received a job offer and signed a contract but I do not start until December 1st. My parents are getting on my case about me not working.?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 07:52 AM PST

Question: How do I not feel sad about growing up?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 07:51 AM PST

I'm a 16-year-old girl, and a junior in high school. I just got back from a week vacation in Florida with my mom visiting my family there. My mom will be there a few more days but I had to fly home by myself because I had to go to school. I cried the whole flight home and I hated doing it by myself. I have three little cousins down there, the ages 6, 7, and 10 and sometimes when we visit them I feel like my mom Is happier around them because they're younger and she misses me at that age. I'm super close to my mom and I've always been super close to her and I just don't want to grow up and not be her little girl. And whenever we have vacations like this I love being with her and I don't know I'm just scared about getting older and having more responsibilities and not being able to be a kid anymore. Is there anyone my age who feels like this? Or does anyone know how to make myself feel better? Please help me, no mean comments

Question: Do you find an issue with any of this?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 07:51 AM PST

I take my two boys to my Brother Jeffs house to visit on the weekends. I am friends wtih their only neighbor who have a little girl that my boy's made friends with. Brenda is 7 like my youngest (our oldest is 8). At first I did not see this as an issue. When I first met Brenda and her Mother. She came over holdling Daddy's's hand wearing just her sweater and white underpants after coming home from church. Her Mother lets her wear her panties as bottoms to play in if she wishes. The boys did not seem to care or notice when she in her underpants and honestly I think she looks cute! This weekend Brenda got in trouble. When the boys went to the door her Father told them she had been a bad girl and could not play. Boys are boys and they were nosy. They peeked around back where they could see in the window that Brenda was over her Mother's lap getting a spanking with her pants off. I yelled at them to get back over here and don't look at that. Later when Brenda was allowed to come out to play the boys asked her if it hurts that way (getting spanked with Mom's hand) and does it hurt more on her kind of underpants. My boys noticed that her underpants (she always wears a nylon panty) is thin. I may sound silly but is there an issue with any of this???

Question: What do I do?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 07:37 AM PST

I leased my first apartment with my bf and his cousin and his girlfriend. We are all cool. Everyone respects everyone. We help each other out. I don't have a job because I got into an accident and couldn't get to work. I'm also 6 months pregnant. I try to find a job but every time my boyfriend tells me I don't have to work. He doesn't want me to and he does all of the working and pays the bills. My mom bought all of the furniture in there to help out and I am so grateful for her. The issue is his younger brother. They are really close because they went through a lot and went to foster care. I love his little brother and treat him like he's my younger brother as well. His younger brother is always here. His younger brother sleeps on the couch which isn't meant for sleeping on all the time. He lays on the couch like it's a bed. It's only a love seat. His feets hangs off of it so he's tall and average. He doesn't clean up after himself properly. He throws his clothes around in our coat closet. He comes here every morning after my bf goes to work, I always have to wake up and unlock the door because it's more convenient for him to come because aw his school is closer where we live. He's loud. Always butting in our business. He busts in the room without knocking, eats up the snacks (not just mine) our roommates too. He Basically acts like a child.

Question: My 3 year old daughter acts different when its both parents rather than one. What to do?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 07:22 AM PST

I have a 3 yr old daughter. She has always been a momma's girl I think because I am much more strict and my wife, because she doesn't like to hear her cry, used to give in. Now that she is older, we are having issues with getting her ready for the day or putting her down at night. If my wife is not at home and I am getting her ready, she might cry but then she is fine and gets ready. If my wife is home alone with her, no issues. On the other hand, if both of us are home, my daughter only wants my wife to help her get ready. At night its less of a big deal but in the morning, my wife is trying to get ready herself as she brings my daughter to daycare. I was wondering if anyone has had the same issues and what they did or if anyone is an expert, what should we do? I feel bad because it stresses my wife out and I feel like even though I am trying to help, its worse that I am trying to help. Thanks and sorry for the story

Question: My fiancée puts too much trust in his mother?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 07:22 AM PST

Me and him have been together for four years. He's a great father and caretaker, but some things he does just aggravates me to a point of tearing my hair out, a major one being his parents. His parents are immigrants and moved to the US decades ago (he's 33 now) and at the moment, live with us due to them losing their own house a few months ago. We just recently moved into a home which has a second masters suite so they have their space, but his parents particularly his mother has been causing some discomfort. A major thing with her is getting me to set a wedding date, and he puts too much trust in her with things like bills. He gave her money to pay the light bill when he was in a hurry one day and she spent it without telling us, leading to us spending a night in the dark. He's been talking about moving them out and I think it's a good idea but just how far is too far?

Question: How do I find joy in the holidays when my late father died and I won't be seeing any of his family this year?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 07:06 AM PST

It feels really weird because as a little kid my mom kept me from my dad after they divorced but as a teenager I had a successful reunion and was close for the last 20 years of his life. Each Christmas I celebrated that closeness and last year even though he had died I saw his family. This year it will just be my mom and her family. It feels depressing because it feels so much like when I was a kid and held back. So how do I enjoy myself this Christmas and future years.

Question: All my mother does when my two siblings come to town with their families is complain about their spouses and sometimes the kids why this?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 07:02 AM PST

Why would she do this when they are family she likes her two sons but their spouses she finds loud and one of them somewhat intrusive like my Mom's stepsister she always complains about. They both are coming for Thanksgiving so I anticipate lots of complaining.

Question: How can I tell my mother this?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 06:57 AM PST

I'm in the 9th grade and I'm 19 years old. I use to go to brick and mortar schools and was constantly bullied which depressed me so badly, I let myself become so distracted from my work, I failed several times. I'm now homeschooled but I am still so depressed every time I sit down to do the work. Sometimes the depression is so bad, it brings thoughts of suicide to my mind. My family is also having financial trouble, which makes me want to help in any way I can. Right now, all I want is to drop out. I wish to get a job and support my family right now. We've got bills to pay and no money to pay em. Both of my parents are disabled and can't get the disability thing. We're struggling and got taxes coming up, and we are unable to pay them. If I do drop out and get a job, I may be able to help my family. I would also promise my mother that one day I would go back to school and graduate. But another thing is, I'm considered a felon. When I was in brick and mortar school, a kid said I held a pencil to his stomach and said that I tried to stab him with it. Which I never did, as he leaned over me while I was writing (he was one of the bullies) So all this means it would be hard for me to get a job unless we pay $250 to get it off my record, which we have no ways of paying... Honestly, I constantly feel so alone and that the weight of the world rests on my shoulders alone, even though I know that's not true. What should I do? Any help would be appreciated.

Question: Are first cousins much more related to me then second cousins as in blood realation and genes yes or no?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 06:38 AM PST

Question: Is my moms verbal/emotional abuse the reason im a bad student?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 06:38 AM PST

Question: This time my son has went to far! I love him but he is ruin my life!?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 06:19 AM PST

Last night I had a man ovar for dinner an a movie. His name is Ronald McDonald (please don't laugh, he is sensative about it cause people makes fun of him so he goes by Ron). I made breakfast for dinner (ham an eggs, grits, toast, flapjacks, biscuits with country gravy, milk an sweet tea). After the meal we went into the family room to watch She Woke Up Pregnent, which is my favorite Lifetime movie. I figured after are dinner had settled I would reach ovar an grab Ron's cock an we would make love. Welp, yesterday was Sunday an my son Max was home an he ruined the WHOLE evening. During dinner he sat their an told a poop joke! I was so embareassed an I could tell Ron was as well. When we was watching the movie, Max came in an made me stop the DVD an said he had something importent to tell us. I said "what is it, Max?" He turned around an stuck out his butt an ripped off the biggest toot I have ever herd. It just went on an on an on, then he ran to his room. I was humiliated an could tell Ron wanted to die. Then the smell came rollin in, OMG it was so rank, Ron gagged an ran in the lavatory an throwed up an said he had to go. Max is now grounded until Jan 1 2018. Today while he is at school I am taking everything out of his room accept his bed an dresser an at night he will do his homework an go to bed an if he has any free time he will read the bible. That will be his life for the next year an month and a half. I just don't know what else to do with him.

Question: How can I comfort my sister ?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 05:46 AM PST

My sister is feeling sad because our grandma was put in hospice last night. She tries to be happy all the time she doesn't like being sad especially in front of people. Only her best friend. Usually when she's around her friend shes happy or sad. Me and our friends live in the same house she had a sleepover with her friend last night her friend said she was crying in her sleep. She has to work today her friends will have the next two days off she doesn't want to be at work by herself but her husband will be there with her. How can I comfort her ?

Question: Should i admit my love to my step dad's bestfriends daughter, whom we count her as a cousin.?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 05:31 AM PST

Question: My brother is an evil person. Am I wrong not to associate with him?

Posted: 14 Nov 2016 04:32 AM PST

He has hurt our mother by constantly letting her down. Back as a teen he had violent rage (that part has gotten better). And he is never faithful to girls. He has no sense of right and wrong. So I just avoid him like the plague and when I do have to see him say "hi, how are you" and nothing further. So my question is am I wrong not to associate with him? I ask because my other brother is still relates to him (the other brother is a good person).