Family: Question: Why doesn't my mom just hit me?

Question: Why doesn't my mom just hit me?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 02:09 PM PST

Ok I know this question sounds dumb but she emotionally abused me to make the story short she used to physically when I was really young because she had control but I want her to so I can call the cops and have a reason to leave and I know she would love to hit me anyway I don't know why she takes her stress on me.

Question: My parents are so sensitive to every ******* NOISE?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 02:01 PM PST

I live in a house with a high ceiling with my mom and dad. when ever I make a noise it travels to my parents room and they hear every ******* noise. even small noises. then they start getting mad for no reason. Also whenever I open the door to go outside an alarm plays and that always alerts my parents. my parents don't mind me going outside but the problem is the noise. Does this sound like adhd ?

Question: I was not asked to my cousin's wedding back in September, this makes me feel rejected, how do I get over it and what to do next time?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 02:01 PM PST

I was not invited because my Mom doesn't like her family. So growing up my two siblings and I were the only ones not to participate in family holidays and other events. As a teen out on my own I got to know my Mom's family and came to like them. However, I am still known less then the others since I missed the childhood years and the extended family overlooks me when it comes to invitations for some family events. So a wedding was held and I assume I am not looked at as a known part of the family because all cousins were asked but my two siblings and I (the other 13 were asked). This opens my guilt about when I was a kid and not able to see family and the shame that I am 2nd rate family. How do I get over this and next time there is a wedding how do I not let it bother me so much? What upsets me is the wound that I am not as good as the other cousins who were born with better mothers. This was the third wedding and I was asked to one, not the other two.

Question: Father related problems?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 02:00 PM PST

I'm 19, almost 20, years old, first year of college . And i really really need to go out, because I've under a lot of stress lately and I've passed all my exams with top grades. So my best friend's birthday will be on Saturday and she's taking us out for a few drinks. My father is very strict and i can only stay till 2 when i go out, and i go out extremely rarely. The last time was in june, which is not really normal for a person my age. I am always the first one to leave and every party in town starts at 12 am and I'd only have about an hour and a half with my friends and then I'd have to call a taxi and go home so i won't be late. And I'm a very good and obedient daughter and never made any problems, always was a top student in class and I'm sick and tired of these chains around my neck. So I've decided to come home whenever i want on Saturday, which will probably be around 4 am..i don't know what consecvences will follow this...he could take aways my phone, forbid me from going anywhere except for college or worse case scenario beat me up..he hasn't hit me since i was small, but he threatened to break my nose few months ago when i confronted him about him hitting my dog, so i can expect anything. Talking about staying longer won't help because i tried it so sooo many times with no success...i also think about running away from home during night...so what do you think about my plan? what do i do if he beats me? I'm young, thirsty and unhappy, i have to change things :)

Question: Should I move closer to my work?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 01:58 PM PST

I'm currently in school and a coworker and I were considering moving in together. Her mom may possibly move in with us too and we could split the rent 3 ways. I live w/ my grandparents & love them but it is getting too hard to live with them, they think they can control my life and they act like I am an idiot... I'm very responsible, have my own car and job, get good grades, etc. I am just unsure if I should move out. It's a stable situation I'm in now, BUT I do want to spread my wings...just unsure what to do! I can afford to move out w/ a roommate, but am in a situation where I don't pay any rent now. So, I'm wondering if I should just suck it up and deal w/ not being treated like an adult right now, while I can save money & get a better place later?

Question: My brother is a felon. Do I have the right to consider him the bad seed of the family?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 01:57 PM PST

My sister is a jerk but never as bad as a felon.

Question: My mother will not let me be in her extended family. How do I get her back for this?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 01:56 PM PST

She feuds with her siblings and so she uses me to get them back.

Question: I don't know if my step dad is abusing me or spanking me. but for sure, he hits me.?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 01:29 PM PST

I'll just tell you the story. I really hate my step dad. I'm not sure it's an abuse or spank, but he hits me with the belt and he was about to kick me with his sneakers on. He thinks to hit children is the only solution for everything so whenever I have problem with something, even its a small problem, he hits me with his belt or he drives and drop me few miles away and then makes me walk to home. One day, he made me to clean my room when i was in game called league of legends. I asked him if i can finish just one game, but he just shut down the internet and made me to clean my room. I started slowly and he hit me for not doing it fast. And then he gave me 15 minuites and I was tard, and he hit me with his belt for 10 minutes and he was laughing and cussing at me. The other day, he hit me because I was wearing earbuds and I couldn't hear MY MOM SPEAKING TO ME. Can you tell me if it's an abuse or not and what to do? Also he hits me whereever he feels like to hit. legs, chest, back, head. where ever.

Question: I don't know if my step dad is abusing me or spanking me. but for sure, he hits me.?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 01:29 PM PST

I'll just tell you the story. I really hate my step dad. I'm not sure it's an abuse or spank, but he hits me with the belt and he was about to kick me with his sneakers on. He thinks to hit children is the only solution for everything so whenever I have problem with something, even its a small problem, he hits me with his belt or he drives and drop me few miles away and then makes me walk to home. One day, he made me to clean my room when i was in game called league of legends. I asked him if i can finish just one game, but he just shut down the internet and made me to clean my room. I started slowly and he hit me for not doing it fast. And then he gave me 15 minuites and I was tard, and he hit me with his belt for 10 minutes and he was laughing and cussing at me. The other day, he hit me because I was wearing earbuds and I couldn't hear MY MOM SPEAKING TO ME. Can you tell me if it's an abuse or not and what to do?

Question: I don't have lice!?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 01:23 PM PST

I swear to you I don't have them I used the brush thing to find out and I checked when some other test things that came with the kit and my mom is still forcing the shampoo on me but you're NOT supposed to use this kind in your hair if you don't have them but she just keeps repeating the same stupid words "if I'm using it you're using it" she legit fought me for my phone because I said I don't need it, it irritates my skin because I have eczema (really bad) and I can't heal with all the chemicals ivolved

Question: Would you consider someone alone if they have a family but no emotional connection with them?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 01:21 PM PST

And no personal conversations at all with anyone, I m not sure if I ve ever had a truly personal conversation in my life with anyone (either personal to me or the other person).

Question: How to deal with parents that make it a priority to interrupt my studies just because they want to mess with me?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 01:19 PM PST

It's not like I can go to the library to study. I'm not allowed to leave the house.

Question: DO YOU FEEL KIDS AND FAMILIES IN INDIA have a decent life?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 01:14 PM PST

Question: Am I spoiled?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 01:12 PM PST

I don't usually ask for a lot. My dad loves his kids the most. He will almost agree on everything and I feel really guilty for that. This is what I own: A MacBook Air, and iPhone 6s. That is it. He's never really around since he's always at work. I feel guilty for making him buy the computer since it was expensive (he payed for it all at once cause he doesn't like paying once a month. I tried to convince him for a monthly plan). I was so stupid and right now I wouldn't have asked for the computer. What do you think? I'm 12 years old. Am I spoiled (please don't be rude, I'm already as guilty as it is)? I also get my clothes from justice (I know, pretty lame) or hollister. I have ugg shoes but my mom said I could have them since she doesn't wear them anymore. I have a twin size bed, my room is kinda small. I have about 7 pairs of shirts and 5 pairs of pants.I don't really know guys. By the way, I'm not trying to offend anyone since I know that some people can't even afford this. I also get my clothes from justice (I know, pretty lame) or hollister. I have ugg shoes but my mom said I could have them since she doesn't wear them anymore. I have a twin size bed, my room is kinda small. I have about 7 pairs of shirts and 5 pairs of pants.I don't really know guys. By the way, I'm not trying to offend anyone since I know that some people can't even afford this.

Question: How do I get my daughter to stop being mad at me?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 01:03 PM PST

I am a single mom of a 17 year old daughter. On Saturday night my daughter went out with her friends. When she drove home she was so drunk she could barley make it into the house. I took her cell phone and keys away and locked them in the safe and told her she is not allowed to drive and is only allowed out of the house to go to school for 2 months. Well when she came home from school today she was so upset since she had to ride the bus. I told her she could have been killed or killed someone driving drunk and she is still so mad at me, What should I do so she will calm down?

Question: My mum lost hope in me for a little mistake.?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 01:02 PM PST

so in the past i was not a good kid as in i was dirty and rude but i told her i wanted to change and so i did i became more clean listened to her and talked nicely. 2 days ago she told me to get my cloth and put it in the bucket and take it back into the house obviously i did but instead i put it in my room which normally it would be in the bathroom but it had clean cloth. Next day she came in yelled at me and i said defence saying i did nothing wrong and please tell me what i did wrong. she replied I am not going to tell you what you did wrong. After that day my mum came in again and was like dont ever talk to me again etc so i asked her what i did wrong. in a sulking way now she gets pissed and yells at me obviously this brings out what i was trying to change my rudeness. i said i did nothing wrong again in my defence she said you didnt follow my instructions put the bucket in the bathroom now notice how she said to take it back to the house so i said i misinterpreted her. what she says is Dont ever talk to me ever again when your 18 your gonna move out of the house and if you ever need anything im not gonna help. This hurt me mentally and i got really really triggered so i started calling her stuff like a bad parent for doing such a thing i also said that why do you have to do this its not like you have not made mistakes and i made a example you blamed me for stealing something and yet you just misplaced it i even said i was sorry but no she didnt listen.

Question: What is my aunt s neice s husband in relation to me?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 12:57 PM PST

Question: How can i convince my mom to let me go to parties?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 12:57 PM PST

we were at a pool party and some hot chick had her period in the water so now shes not hot anymore and everyone freaked out and got out, and then i set off a firework from the roof slightly after and it was about to explode and then it shot in the pool, and the bloody water exploded everywhere and everyone screamed some more and ran inside, and now i cant go to parties anymore! how can i convince my mom even though this happened last time

Question: Why does my family insist I be a truck driver?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 12:45 PM PST

I went to art school for college, but after school when I had a hard time finding a career I settled for a delivery job with an auto parts company. I spent 10 years employed there, not for love of the work but for not wanting to be unemployed. Well wouldn't you know it they laid me off after 10 years. For some reason my mother got it into her head that truck driving was something I should do, despite my repeated telling her I hated my old job and have no desire for a trucking career. Thankfully I found other, albeit similar to my last job, work. Now my wife has lost her job, and once again my mother is pushing truck driving on me. Any career change is going to involve school, truck driver included. With a wife, 2 kids, and a full time job I can't imagine fitting it in right now. Especially if I've become the sole provider. Throw on top of that having absolutely no interest in the career, if I was going to go back to school I would rather try for something I actually like. Yet I still get this look from family members as if i'm letting my family down. What can I say to make them understand truck driving is not the path I should take?

Question: Should I kill myself?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 12:27 PM PST

I know my mom is having a tough time but she doesn't need to take it on me I try to be positive all the time but she kinda just snaps at me and make me feel bad it actually hurts I am a 21 year old female in 2 months I should be getting my driving stuff I know late but I have my reasons I don't think I can wait that long though she makes me hide in my room and cry I have no friends down here because we lived here for a little over a year.

Question: My brother is Mental! It's so embarrassing?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 12:20 PM PST

This is going to be long. Alright so my brother he's 17 and honestly he's just out of it/lost everything. It all started when he began doing drugs, ******* stupid may I add since that **** ***** people up. These days he's gone crazy over it, he blasts OBNOXIOUSLY loud music out loud, and whenever I tell him to turn it off he'll stick his tongue out at me or tell me to **** off. So over this past weekend, my mom made him go to church on Friday, and he took his friend; he got invited for a Saturda.y birthday party for someone. He went with his friend once again, but she left cause she's just a little ***** (i'm salty cause of her, since she introduced him to drugs, such as LSD, Robitussin, etc) MY BROTHER DID SO MUCH DRUGS HE LEGIT FRIED HIS BRAIN, I'M NOT KIDDING. He went to the party as I was saying and apparently as he told my mom he had a supposed mission, which was basically (since he's gay) was to sleep with a guy. He started flirting with this guy in the church and idk the guy wasn't feeling it and it embarrassed my brother. (I also want to add that my brothers, he's an attractive guy at the least, but he thinks that people are checking him out all the time at school, THEY'RE JUST WALKING IN A HALLWAY; he's so cocky and egotistical its annoying) So he ran all the way home, and knocked on the front door like a mad man; take in mind me and my mother were just relaxing watching netflix. He was acting crazy, mental! So we took him to the hospital and it didn't help much apparently he was "alright" but it's honestly noticeable that somethings off on his head. TODAY he got suspended from school for trying to fufill his "mission" HONESTLY EMBARRASSING. My parents don't know what to do with him, can anyone help? P.S When he's blasting his music he starts moving his head all strangely like in circular motions, creepy.. As well as he's saying he's got schizophrenia but the doctor told him he didnt but we'd have to do furthur examination with a psychiatrist My brother doesn't have any disabilities or anything, he's a normal 17 year old, beats me how he turned out this way. If anything I feel for my mother, having to deal with this.

Question: Why is Mickey mouse first word is hotdog?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 12:07 PM PST

Question: Why is my mom so negative all the time?!?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 11:58 AM PST

She complains about everything when she was I rolled my eyes she asked why I always do that twice I said because you're so negative she said she was just stressed is all so I just smiled because I don't want to be negative then she walked away said alright whatever I know it was towards me. Why can't she be positive for once? I would run away right now but I have no where to go so I am stuck for awhile. I am not her therapist when I complained before she said she is tired of hearing me complaining so I never talked about my problems with her again if she isn't there for me why should I be there for her?

Question: I m 15 and want to leave home serious answers only please)?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 11:52 AM PST

Yesterday my mom called my sister and she heard her say "ugh she gets on my nerves" and my mom got so angry and started cursing and now she s is still mad. she told us she was packing up her kitchen and taking the aisles off the stove and that we have to eat what and when she cooks, son for breakfast I m eating pizza tolls in my room because she said she stay downstairs and she stays to herself. she told us not to ask her for anything. she s taking her anger out on all of us and this isn t the first time. im honestly depressed and have worsening anxiety. Family members don t want to visit USM she says we have no family and I see why. my friend and aunts said I can stay with them but she can report me as a runaway or give them custody of me and and this is honestly a lot. I can t stay here or I m honestly thinking of overdosing on sleeping medication. I hate my life and myself.

Question: Is it ok to still go out with him?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 11:34 AM PST

I met a very handsome guy two weeks ago and we've been talking as friends. He hasn't asked me out we have just been talking. I met a woman a month ago that hangs out at the same local spot that we have drinks at and we've become friends. We were having a conversation about the last guys we dated and she was telling me how much of a loser the guy she broke up with 2 months ago was. She showed me a pic of him and come to find out it's the same guy I met 2 weeks ago. She said he was two-timing her with another woman and that they broke up because he stood her up. I found him funny and charismatic. He even has a great smile. I felt like God was sending me a message through this woman. Like I said him and I haven't gone out but we have talked just getting to know each other. Should I take her word for it and steer clear of this guy. I am attracted to him but he hasn't asked me out just calls and texts. It old her that since it's only been 2 months he might come back to her because guys always come back but she said she doesn't want him back. Is it ok to go on a date with him?

Question: Why does my son act and dress like an emo/"goth" kid from 2006?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 11:33 AM PST

Question: How to cope with unreliable mother?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 10:40 AM PST

My mother has been pretty extremely unreliable most of my life and the past 10 years it has gotten worse. Sometimes she will blow off my siblings and I for weeks and not return our calls then wonder why we don't make plans with her. If she is buys doing something, sleeping or not in the mood, she will not communicate or return or calls or txts and we will worry about her but the reality is she is always fine and either is out doing something or at home. Why does she do this and what should I do about it? I worry about her but she's exhausted my worrying at this point.

Question: At Christmas I offered to take a gift by my uncles, he has three kids. If he declines for some reason how can I still have a good Christmas?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 10:30 AM PST

He and my mother are not that close so they don't come over to our house but he's the only extended relatives nearby. If I don't see them at Rex Christmas because it feels so weird not to have extended family and all four grandparents have died. So if this happens how do I still have a good Christmas? His mother-in-law just died so I'm thinking his wife might not be up for a visit. This happened two years ago and I felt depressed all day.

Question: My 17 yr old sister is pregnant and my parent's take their frustrations out on me. Why?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 10:11 AM PST

I am 16, I am a good kid, I have a part time job, and I make good grades. I also have never even kissed a boy but every little mistake I make my mom yells at me and will even curse while they talk nice to my pregnant sister. Should I start yelling at my parent's too?

Question: Excuses to tell my siter why I'm in my mothers room?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 10:01 AM PST

My sister and I share a room so I cant be with my bf when I want to. We have decided to just hang out in my mothers room. Yes we are responsible and old haha. nt want to tell my sister why I am in my mothers room with the door locked. She is too young to know and she is also young enough to tell my mother on me. Please no hate or you shouldn't do this stuff I just want answers. We have been together for two years so I trust that he cares.

Question: I don't think I'm my parents child?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 09:40 AM PST

Okay so im 19 and the eldest of three children, we live in Scotland. My family on both my mothers and fathers side are Scottish also for at least three generations before them. Ive long suspected i'm not their child, this is because I look nothing like anyone else in my family. Literally everyone in my family including my grandparents are light haired and have pasty white skin. I'm dark haired and have olive skin. To the point that people always think i'm Italian when I first meet them. It just makes no sense to me. I've asked my parents before and they insist I am their child but I just don't know what to believe. I want a DNA test but I don't know how to go about this because I doubt my parents would consent. What should I do?

Question: I do my dads home studies.?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 09:34 AM PST

Hi, so i m an 18 year old in my last year of high school, and like it says i do my dads home work. I really have no time to get his studies done because i m stressed about mine, i m not an A plus student, i only received Cs and Ds last year and i want to get higher grades, but its impossible because of this extra work. My dad reads 8 subjects and i read 9. so technically im doing 15 subjects now. I have told my dad that i want to focus on my studies but everytime i tell him that i dont want do it anymore, he talks about all the things he has done for us, and what he is going through now and all. The thing is, his studies are for medicine and i m only in high school, but whenever i get an D or something in it, he just wants me to do it harder and so on, i have tried to fail it on purpose but his teacher or whatever sends it back and tells him to complete it. The thing is, this is not allowed, and i have told him so many times but even if i say no completely and don t listen to him, he will continue until i say no..so im stuck. Next year i have to apply for university, but in this level, i dont think my application letter wont even be read. What do i do

Question: Why does my ex bad mouth me?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 09:28 AM PST

My ex and I broke up because I stood her up one night and she found out I was with a woman that I told her I wasn't seeing anymore. Now, I've met a woman a week ago that she just so happens to know and she has told her all of these negative things about me. She said, I'm a loser, two-timer and a hoarder. I've never said anything negative about her so why does she speak so negatively about me. She still calls every once and while and said that we'd probably be better off as friends. If she thinks that then why does spread negative gossip about me?

Question: Did I really do anything wrong? Parents opinion please? (Serious answers only)?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 09:14 AM PST

So my parents recently enacted a no locked doors policy. I understand it's their house their rules so I comply. As of lately my mom's been opening my door compulsively (I counted 6 times in an hour once. Six.) I asked her why she's been walking in so often and her response was simply because I can (fair enough, again, it's her house.) She's seen me naked or almost naked multiple times now and it doesn't seem to phase her. A little over a week ago she opened the door when my younger sister's friends were over and they all saw me stark nude. They went home and told their parents and my mom and dad have been getting multiple angry calls from (rightfully) upset parents about me "showing them my privates." They're pretty heated at me about the whole thing. They've revoked a bunch of my privileges and they're making me call their parents one by one to apologize. I can understand calling them to say sorry, but is this really worth all the punishment? It's as much her fault as it is mine. She's been acting like it's all on me and has been yelling at me at random and slighting me at every opportunity for the past few days Did I really do anything wrong? Opinions from parents please? @John I was changing. I'd just taken a shower.

Question: Help on dealing with boyfriend s autistic older brother. How do I handle this, and help my boyfriend..?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 09:07 AM PST

My boyfriend s older brother is a high functioning autistic. He I easy to be around for most of the time, but he has his moments. These moments include screaming, throwing, and beating up my boyfriend and hurting his parents. My boyfriend is 22, his brother is 24, and their parents are in their 50 s. His brother has caused a lot of physical injuries to my boyfriend and when ever my boyfriends tries to say something or do something to make his brother stop he gets in trouble by his mom. They try to warn his brother to stop, and threaten to take stuff away or not do something. But they never follow through. Ever... His brother knows that they never through and likes to test how far he can get. It really bothers me that my boyfriends parents never follow through and the constantly wonder why he never acts right.

Question: Should I send my dad s brother a letter?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 09:01 AM PST

I have been thinking of writing an anonymous letter to my uncle, claiming that my dad is dead. My dead has been living abroad for many years, and broke all contacts with his family here. I do think he is dead, but I have no proofs. Should I send a hand written letter to him, saying that I am just a messenger and I was just supposed to let him know. OR any better suggestions? I hope he won t find out nor see me while putting that into his mailbox at night.

Question: Is my my mother in law jealous or has an envy?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 08:56 AM PST

Hello im 25 i been with my husband for 9 years we have 2 kids. and his mom always did things that bothar me but yesterday she totally make me see another side of her by not showing up to my youngest daughters birthday party. She is very self center right begore the party she kept asking my oldest shoe size, she has 4 more grandaughters so she always made a clear myne is not important.her favorite is the boy.i been reading allot about mother in laws and she is so much diffrent then this typical jealous mother in laws. She got worst when her daughter got a divorce and went i stared acting stronger about her not paying attention to my youngest daughter. who looks like me.Is like she had to take despret measures to get to me. But this to much work . Unless her heart is very small and only has room for certain people.either way this woman is not alone either her husband is there for her i dont understand why she is this way, like my husbands dad her exs family invited me over to a family get to gether i dont think she like it that. That whole time she was talking about her other grandkids not myne at all. As if myne were goin to take their place. I dont know what to do she acts fake in front of other people too as if she likes me . But she totally made it clear she dont care about me.for no good reason.i slways work,im currently goin to school i always gave her gifts i have never cheated on him.is she like this?

Question: Who do you like to go out with at the weekend? (What do you do?)?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 08:49 AM PST

Question: Help writing a sympathy card ...?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 08:41 AM PST

My ex-boyfriends cousin passed away last week, she was only 27 years old and we were very close. I was always extremely close to the family but unable to attend the memorial due to issues with my ex and wanting to allow him to mourn without the stress of seeing me. Her parents are completely distraught and I am sending a sympathy plant for my condolences but I am at a loss for words. Please help me find the words to say ...

Question: I dont know what to do.?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 08:37 AM PST

I came out to my parents. Theyre divored and i live with my remarried mom. My dad lives in Florida and my mom and me in Pennsylvania l. I told them i was bisexual. Now my mom wants me to move away to my dad and my dad wants that too but i dont want to move to him because of certain reasons. My mom doesn't want me in the house but i have family who will take me in. Im 17 but im afraid ill run into legal issues because of my age and moving out and refusing to live with my dad. What can i do?

Question: Is it cool to not speak to my mother again?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 08:32 AM PST

All my life i felt neglected, like after my mother and father split up for like most of my life, she feel like she is the ****. She never stand up for self and she is like the fakest ***** ik. She started listening to her cousin n **** and after that everything changed. She been with alot of dudes through my childhood, and i didnt like none of them motherfuckas, just let them ****** live of her. Im the oldest out of 7, and 2 of them already dont even like her and all us came out of her. I feel like she take her boyfriends words over her children. I dont even see my father when i want to, my father have his days but he means well though. And a while ago she hooked up with a dude, and real young, loser type mufucka, and now got 3 kids and dont **** for em, she practically play the father role in too. And this dude threatened to hit me to and my mother was right there and didnt say ****. And he lucky he didnt cuz if he did i would be in jail by now. And it seems they break up and get back together again... and in my mind i think why is this clown keep coming back, she thinks she needs a *****. And i just want yall opinion...

Question: Why does my dad have condoms??

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 07:38 AM PST

I was getting something from my parents room and I opened my dad's drawers to find it. I found then some condoms in his drawers! The dude is almost 60 and his health isn't well. Besides, my parents don't even sleep in the same bed anymore. So why on earth would he have it? It was totally ewww. People! I WASN'T "snooping" in my parents room!! I was getting something from there and my dad knew I was in his room! I wasn't doing anything behind their backs! Also for the person saying I found condoms in his underwear, you do realize that people keep other things in their drawers, other than underwear, right?

Question: My friend cries over her brother ?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 07:38 AM PST

My friend is madly in love with her brother they've been dating for a while. She's mad and upset that she can't marry him. She cries about him 24/7. Whenever she watches her favorite movie it makes her sad because there's a brother and sister on there that are in love they can do whatever they want. They can even get married. She said its not fair that in real life she can't marry him. She really needs him right now because they're grandmother is dying. She's been sleeping with him every night. How can I help her feel better ? Is it normal for her to cry over him ?

Question: How is average?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 07:23 AM PST

Do you look at it as a negative or a positive? I mean, from what I hear being average is still bad because you can always have something better and that means average is bad, right?

Question: My dad gets mad at me when I come to him about my anxiety what do I do when feeling alone and my anxiety?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 07:20 AM PST

I have a therapist but I'm not with him for 24 hours a day like my dad. Also the therapist is not family so it's not the same. GERT----Your right and it is why so many people in his generation turned to suicide, alcohol, drugs, etc.......

Question: Can you get put into foster care with over protective parents.?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 07:15 AM PST

My parents are super overprotective and don't let me have a life. It's gotten so bad that I wake up feeling like I don't want to live anymore. i have depression, and anxiety. I want to move. I don't have any relatives at all who I can stay with. Can you get into foster care, or an adoption center or anything from overprotective parents?

Question: My mom had a tantrum and cancelled thanksgiving?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 07:03 AM PST

I moved out of my parents house a few years ago. I have three younger sisters and an brother that live with my parents. The other day one of my little sister's said that my mom's Christmas ornament was creepy. It turned out it was my mom's mother's and she passed 20 years ago. My mom then freaked out and started throwing things. She threw the Christmas tree and things. Screamed at my sister calling her every name in the book and made her cry for hours. My mom texted me saying that Thanksgiving and Christmas are cancelled. My mom later changed her mind saying she wanted me to come. But, now I really don't want to. She is violent and abusive. She will often do these sort of things for attention. I don't want to punish my siblings or father by not going to Thanksgiving though. They look at me as a mother. But, I feel like by me going, I'm enabling her irrational behavior. I want to stand and let her know that her behavior is not right. To be honest, I'm afraid of her though and fear for my safety/the safety of everyone around. If I don't got then my mom will disown me forever, which is fine. But, I won't get to my siblings anymore and I don't want to punish them by not coming and spending time with them. Thank you everyone!

Question: What should I message my brother I haven't seen in over 10 years on Facebook?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 06:58 AM PST

I have a brother who we both share the same dad and I haven't seen him in over 10 years. Partially because my dad died back then and partially because my mom doesn't like my brother because he used to be really bad. I've been friends with him on Facebook for awhile, but we've never talked on there but he knows its me. He's asked a couple family members about me before and my therapist told me I should reach out to him sometime. I want to, but I don't know what I should say. Should I just be like, "Hey, remember me?" or "Hey, do you know who I am?" Please help. Thanks!!

Question: I want to be independent to move back to Nevada . My parents feel like I talk of it too much how do I stop doing that?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 06:43 AM PST

Question: Is it wrong to know family news?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 06:42 AM PST

I just found out my relative is getting a divorce. my family kept it from me till now. is it wrong to know then and there the news or is it gossip?

Question: Is this abuse? Or am I being sensitive?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 06:42 AM PST

I started seeing a therapist who has been asking me questions such as if I've been abused. I ended up saying no, despite thinking I have been, because my one friend told me that I am being sensitive and that in fact, I was not abused. These are some of the occurrences I had with my father, would you consider them to be abuse? * Grabbing my neck firmly and pressing on it, just enough to scare me, but not enough to kill me. I would say strangling but maybe not that hard? And definitely not more than 10 seconds at at time. * Closing all the blinds/windows to the house, grabbing the kitchen knife, and saying "I'm going to kill you then myself" while swearing and shouting how much he hates me (but not psychically touching me) * Slapping me across the face hard, full force * Kicking me a few times * Lifting a dining table chair up at my face, threatening to throw it, but not actually throwing it * Shouting how worthless I am, how much of a b*tch I am, etc. All of these things happened when I got bad grades in school, or disobeyed them, was rude, etc. My dad has always said sorry and is my best friend. He loves me very much. He is very nice to me otherwise. We are all on good terms now. This is stuff from my childhood. I am an adult now. Should I tell my therapist or let it go? Like I said, my friend calling me sensitive kind of confirmed for me that I might be making a big deal of it. I know others have had it worse. But what do you think?

Question: How do you prove to the people who are trying their hardest to help you that you want to move back to where you originally came from?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 06:01 AM PST

Question: My mom cancelled Thanksgiving.?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 05:31 AM PST

I'm 25 years old and live on my own. I have three sisters and a brother that live with my parents. The other day one of my little sister's said that my mom's elf on the shelf was creepy. So my mom then freaked out and threw a temper tantrum because that was her mother's that died 20 years ago. So my mom told me not to come to thanksgiving and cancelled Christmas as well. She was screaming at my sister that she ruined everything. She then changed her mind and said to come but that there will be nothing on Thanksgiving. I really don't want to go because she is irrational and I will be miserable on Thanksgiving. But, if I do go then she will probably behave better and I want my siblings to have a good Thanksgiving. My dad also wants me to come because he says everyone misses me. If I don't got then my mom will disown me forever and I won't get to my siblings anymore. (Sorry for the long post and yes, I know it is ridiculous). Thank you everyone! She can get to be violent and I fear for my safety when I'm around her.

Question: Why is that my family does this? Details below?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 05:09 AM PST

It could be 5am and I'm dead asleep and my mom could call me (about nothing or something that could wait until I woke up) and see nothing wrong with that like this morning she came over unannounced knocking on the door and woke up my 9 month old and I go to the door (reluctantly she knocked for at least 5 mins my care was out front) I instantly throw on my wtf face told her she woke us up only to reply babies wake up just put her back to sleep (we both knew that wouldn't happen). Also she calls me at work over nothing so much to the point that my boss said she had no issue with them calling and speaking to me its just that they call every time I work numerous times. My sister does this too but seems a little more apologetic about to. I did the same thing to them ONCE see how it made them feel and was cursed out for being inconsiderate and possibly getting them fired WTF

Question: How may years have you attended a college / university?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 05:01 AM PST

Question: Why is my dad so hard on me?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 04:55 AM PST

Like I've been getting good grades for as long as I can remember, but if I get below a 93 it seems like my dad gets mad. I've been on high honor since they started keeping track in my school. I had plans to go to an Ivy league school but I don't even want to go anymore. My dad holds me to a very high standard I guess he thinks I'm a robot. He says that he's going to take my phone away from me because I use it too much (but I admit I do.) He bought me the book "The Last Star" last month and I just started reading it today. He was so mad because he spent $22 on it and he says I'm wasting his money. I've just been so busy with school work. Please any advice, I want to have bigger plans for he future but my dad makes me want to settle for less.

Question: I think my dads cousins son(my second cousins son(my third cousin?)) is really hot. Is this ok?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 04:45 AM PST

I think he's really hot and nice. Him and I are the same age. Is it ok to like him or am I crazy?

Question: How can I tell if people view me as active family (family like) or distant family (relative only)?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 04:40 AM PST

I have written a number of questions about my obsession with what family thinks of me. My mother and her family are not close and so I don't get to see my cousins and all that often but do two times a year. They all live within 45 minutes of me. Holidays we miss as my mother has us travel (she doesn't want to see her family) and I was overlooked the one year I stayed back. No one is mad at me personally but I don't see them as often. I worry to the point of obsession as to do my relatives see me as "active family" they know or just a "distant relative" to be cordial to. My mother has softened a little but still refuses to do holidays. I invited myself at one time but people were uncomfortable with that so I stopped. I am in my late 20's now so an adult. So how can I sense if I am among family in their eyes or just a distant relative.

Question: My Dad was drunk all weekend so I called my Mom to come pick me up after 2 hours. Now I feel bad, should I?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 04:36 AM PST

My Dad is an alcoholic and it was my weekend with him so I wouldn't have to do Thanksgiving with him. He was drunk, big time, and so I called my Mom to come get me and left a note I was leaving due to the circumstances (he had fallen asleep). Now I feel bad like I let him down and nervous what he will say when I see him around Christmas (I see him once or twice a month). My mother came to get me understanding I was uncomfortable (she was very kind about it). I am 16. Should I feel bad like I do now? I feel like he loves his alcohol more then me but everyone assures me it is a disease and he is not choosing it over me but needs to get help (I go to AlaTeen).

Question: My sister blows off family events unless it is relatives she sees all the time. What makes someone this unethical?

Posted: 21 Nov 2016 04:32 AM PST

She is aged 24.