Family: Question: Please Help- my mother may be cheating on my dad. I am in a situation where i cannot confront her. help?

Question: Please Help- my mother may be cheating on my dad. I am in a situation where i cannot confront her. help?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 01:51 PM PST

I am 16. I was looking through photos to send to myself on my mom's phone from a confirmation a few days earlier- me and my 4 siblings attend catholic school and our large extended family is very catholic. Anyway- My mom received a long message while i was scrolling through photos from a contact with only initials and "runner group"- my mother is an avid runner. I was curious and i am repulsed that i opened the message. It was confusing and long, but it seemed like this was a man who had feelings for my mom. I kept scrolling up. I fund a weird, deep conversation between them, which signaled a past between them too. Here's what i know -both have families -my mother sent a pic of her underwear area -this man seems to me honestly mentally weak; he seems to be fawning over my mom and talking about his broken life -after, i saw mom got a notification from the man and when i asked her who it was, she said it was her runner group. it's NOT. -this mans birthday is written on our family calendar in light pencil with only his initials -BIG: there was recent talk between them of "getting together" when my brother is 18. He is currently 7. this was clearly discussed earlier do i continue reading these texts. i trusted my mom with my life and i can hear my parents sounding very in love some nights :/. i want to ******* rip this man apart and hurt him. what the hell do i do when my brother turns 18

Question: Anyone else deal with competition from their mom?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 01:43 PM PST

My dad passed away a few years ago and my mom is very dependent. We bought a home together. A large 6400 sqft home, so she has her space,me my husband and kids have ours. We(my husband and I pay the bills, she pays the taxes. Everything for the most part is 50/50. Here's what Erks me and I need to get figured out because mentally it's very draining. In the common areas of the house If I decorate something that gets complements, she has to add her touch to it later and then calls it "my" for example a mantle. Or the sitting room she calls her room. It goes so far as her comparing her grief(from loosing my dad/her husband, both grandmothers in 2 weeks) to my grief. Or if I complain that I never hear from my dads side of the family, she jumps in about how she doesn't either(she does, but it doesn't count for some reason) I know how high school this sounds but it's my life, and I have to deal with it. Mentally the back and forth is tough. And it's all so odd too. I'm stuck between respecting my moms quirk and weirdness to her realizing that stealing my complements or claiming ownership to things that are equally shared. If you have lost parents I'm sure you understand the sensitivity of this but respect goes both ways.... please Help.

Question: I just caught my son peeing in a cup, poured it down the drain an then put the cup back in the cabinet!?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 01:33 PM PST

OMG I almost had a seizure after I saw that! I grabbed him an whipped him an asked him where in the heck he ever got the idea to do some thing like that! He said his DAD did it! I called his asshole father an asked him if he urinated in his kitchen glasses an poured it down the sink, he said no, he pees in a pee cup in the garage an throwed it out in the yard. So I asked Max if that was what his dad did an he said yes. OMG I had to take ALL the dishes out of the cabinets an wash them, I have no idea how many times I have poured my self a glass of wine an he had peed in the glass. I throwed up. OMG I'm sorry I throwed up so I didn't get to finish my question, is it normal for men to put there peckers in a glass an pee in it an pour it down the drain? I have nevar herd such nonsense.

Question: Is what I am doing wrong. Your opinion please.?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 01:27 PM PST

Edit I got a call from my ex wife's mother and she told me a storm had knocked out the power to her home and it would not be back for 2 days. She was scared to stay in a house with no power for 2 days and asked if she could stay at my house until the power to hers was restored. I told her I would be happy to help her and to come on over. I really liked her when she was my mother in law but we had drifted apart after her daughter and I divorced. After she returned home, I got a call from my ex wife asking what I had done to her mother. My ex wife said she had not seen her mother so happy and full of life in years. She said what did you do to her. I explained that the first day she was at my house I took her to a mall and then to a high end restaurant (Ruth Chris) for dinner. The second day I took her to an outlet mall and that evening to another high end restaurant. Then to my surprise my ex wife Jo said "Can you do it again for mom and this time can I come along"? This was a total surprise to me but I told her we could do it again next week if it was OK with her mom. My friends, especially the male ones tell me I am crazy to be doing this with my ex mother in law and my ex wife. They say I should stay completely away from them and let them get on with their lives and I get on with mine. Is my ex wife using me for a free meal? PLEASE TELL ME IF I AM DOING SOMETHING WRONG. THANKS

Question: Ok so my mom took my phone because i failed...?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 01:09 PM PST

But I DIDN'T fail! it's been 2 weeks without my phone and I'm going crazy and I've been helping a lot but she won't give me my phone back unless I get straight A's on my report card which comes 2 WEEKS after Thanksgiving Break! UGH! Can ya'll help me talk some sense into her? My teacher who told my mom I was on my phone in the first place even said that would be reasonable but idk just help please.

Question: I'm getting bullied and I just feel really trapped?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 01:09 PM PST

I've been getting bullied in school and made fun of because of the guy I'm dating. I've been getting pushed around, paper thrown at me, prank calls, disrespected, being humiliated, sexual harassment, and just tons of hate. The principle and teachers don't so much either other than ask them to stop but it never works. I can't escape this. It gets worse. I get bullied by my dad when I get home. He doesn't appreciate anything I do for him. I get good grades, I cook him meals, I spend time with him, laughed with him and try to be a good daughter. But if I do one thing slightly wrong, he brings up things I did months ago that I already apologized for. He forgets everything good I do for him and says I do nothing for him. It's hard because he used to be nice to me when I was little. I don't know what happened. He also goes on about how my other family members are prettier than me. Constant comparing. He gets mad at me for everything and it's so difficult. My mother doesn't help because my dad never listens to her either.

Question: Can I name my son as the third?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 12:59 PM PST

My father gave my brother his name, making my brother jr. My brother wont have kids. Can I name my son after my father and make him the 3rd? III?

Question: My sister steals my stuff. What do I do?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 12:58 PM PST

She steals my stuff, clothes, jewelry, perfume, underwear, anything. When I confront her about it, she freaks out and gets really angry and cusses. I've stolen some of her things for revenge and she yells, cusses, calls me names and hits me. Mom always takes her side. I get in trouble, not her. I've been missing a necklace for over two months, a book, and my favorite Marilyn Monroe shirt that wasn't cheap. She lies and says she doesn't have it, but often times I've seen her wearing or using it afterwards. What do I do?

Question: I NEED my grandma but she is not here :(?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 12:46 PM PST

My grandma was the only one who could help me while I was having hard times.. My mom, well she gets angry whenever I try to talk to her and my dad always travels.. My mom and dad had a divorce when I was 1 years old, by the way. And I also have a step mom. None of those people can comfort me. I have depression and I just need my grandma, I wish she was here just talking to me and giving some advice but no.. I cry myself to sleep everynight thinking about her.. Who can I talk to? And what should I do?

Question: My step mother and mother are at war who side should I be on I like my stepmother more but my mom is my mom?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 12:34 PM PST

My mom is demanding a take her side and refused to go to my dads if his wife is there. My mom has only met my step mother once but she still hates her with passion and my stepmother hates my mom.

Question: My mum is 30 and my dads 57 ( don't judge , they r true soulmates and have never once argued in the two years of being together.?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 12:00 PM PST

But I'm always worried bout my dad dying he's my stepdad and I love him truly And I worry because if his age

Question: My parents hit me?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 11:58 AM PST

Both my parents abuse me since i was about 6 im 13 now they always argue with me and most of the time they hit me,throw heavy stuff at me and sometimes even strangle me i'm sick of it and i'm very suicidal i've been to my school nurse because i'm depressed and she called my dad as soon as i got home he hit me and blamed me for being depressed and he doesn't care how i feel i shouldn't tell them anything so i should just not say anything it also doesn't help that everyone at my school tells me to kill myself and i have no friends it's mainly my dad and my mum says it my fault for him hitting me and doesn't even try to stop him but when my mum hits me she gets really mad they both think i need to be hit to be respectful and so im "disiplined" it really disgusts me that they would do that to anyone i just hope when i'm older i wont be like that if i have children i dont know what to do i want to tell someone but they don't understand please help me i just want advice on what to do because im not sure i just really want to kill myself because this has been happening for 7 years

Question: My teen keeps barging into my bedroom without knocking?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 11:57 AM PST

I have a bedroom in an old house with a skeleton key lock. No keys. I shut the door here and have told my daughter age 12 to knock before entering. She walked in on me last night changing. I put a sign on the door reading "knock before entering!". 10 minutes later, she opened the door and walked in again. I am sick of no privacy in my omy room. She just did it again as it was shut. All I ask is for a warning before she just bolts in my room. Am I asking too much? I don't think it is too much to ask a child to learn to knock on doors and respect privacy. At other guests houses also.

Question: I just turned thirteen years old, and I really want a small stud on my nose. My mom has thought about it, my dad doesn't. Any ideas?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 11:46 AM PST

Question: My mom won't buy me pads. Please read details and help!?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 11:34 AM PST

Ok so my mom gets mad and always says things like "oh well go live with your dad then", because she knows he doesn't do anything for us. She got really angry at me and I'm scared that if I ask her for pads she will tell me no. She has done stubborn and rude things like that before.

Question: My mom is abusive and puts me down?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 11:29 AM PST

I'm a 17 year old girl and since I graduated early, I'm in college now. My entire life my mom has been physically and emotionally abusive, putting me down, beating me, etc. I never had a dad to protect me. I thought going to college would stop the comments from her, but she'll text me horrible things, calling me a whore, saying I'm ugly and need to get raped, all this stuff. She also has a habit of coming at my looks, saying things like "you ugly b*tch. You think just because you have a "nice" body you're better?" I never said that.... she shames me and makes me feel like garbage. A couple years ago she pushed me down the stairs and as a result, my canine tooth is a little bit chipped. She insults my teeth (when they're perfectly fine besides that little chip) when her teeth are dentures!! How do I stop this?? No matter how hard I try to cut off contact she always makes me feel like I'm nothing.

Question: My dad gets angry at small things!?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 11:20 AM PST

Alright, this has happened one too many times and it's pissing me off, ALOT. First time this happened was when my Dad asked me to give a piece of chicken to my little brother (aged like 9/10) and since my brother didn't want it I took it. And ofc, my dad kept saying give it to him so I said but he doesn't want it. So he kept saying why are you so greedy, selfish blah blah you unfortunate kid and I just gave it to my brother. And all of a sudden my dad flips out and throws my (or his I dont remember) plate of dinner everywhere on the kitchen. And shouts. Second time was when he was in his room before going to work, so I went in to get some paper because I saw he was still awake. And it took me a while to get the paper out as it was under alot of books etc., as I was taking it out my dad just shouts out of nowhere saying CAN YOU NOT FIND IT? Keep in mind his bed is like right next to where the paper and I was so no need to shout, which is what I say. And then he just flips out saying take it quicker, you're disturbing blahblah. All he was doing was watching his stupid TV show. Other times have happened but this will be too long so PLEASE PLEASE HELP ME OUT. Also, I'm only a teenager so I dont really know what to do! Will appreciate the help!

Question: Girlfriend wants to have thanksgiving with my family, but I'm not allowed to go to her family's house?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 11:15 AM PST

Me and my girlfriend have dated for almost 2 years and she actually lives with me at my mother's house. She has been my best friend since we were 13 years old so she has been in my family for 7 years. She is invited to Thanksgiving, Christmas, Easter, the birthday parties, everything, she won't even let me go with her to lunch with her sister. Her mom blames me for her being a lesbian, but everyone else is cool with me. Last year she made a huge deal about how this year I was going to be with her family for the holidays and that her mom could either get over it and accept us or she wasn't going. She said I was her family too and she wasn't going to deal with the BS anymore. Admittedly, our relationship is on the rocks right now but we are still together. However, she didn't even try to ask her mom about me coming to their thanksgiving. Sbe brought it up a few days ago by saying, "what time is your family's celebration?.... okay well I will probably go to my family's early in the morning and then have my grandma bring me to your grandmother's house around 1." And then had the audacity to complain about making it to 2 houses in time. But is this right??? I'm not welcome as a part of her family as if she is ashamed of me but my mom considers her one of her daughters. I've been crying and angry. Honestly I want to tell her as long as I am not a part of her family then she isn't a part of mine and is no longer welcome to ANY family functions until I am welcome to hers.

Question: What do you think of these girl name Combos? Rate them from 1-10?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 11:14 AM PST

Thea Sandrine Malina Cecile Malina Cecelia Cara Roxane. Dahlia Christelle Tahlia Patrice. ( Malina is a polish name it means raspberry..and Christelle is a French name , just letting you know..so what do you think)

Question: Has any first family in the past skipped out on living in the white house?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 10:58 AM PST

Melania trump and her son are now said to continue living in New York after next January, i m only in the ninth grade and dont really know but that feels shameful as ****. Has any other first family ever skipped out on it?

Question: Please Answer ASAP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 10:31 AM PST

Every time I ask my dad about school related activities, he always says no. If I ask him if I can hang out with some friends from school, at the mall or something, he says no. Basically, my whole life has just been no and I'm just sick and tired of hearing it. Especially now that I'm in high school, 15, Sophomore, I've been thinking about my future so much, but everytime I ask my dad like "I want to try out for basketball" so colleges can see what I've done during high school, he always says no. I've never dated anybody, never went trick-or-treating, never went to birthday parties, never had sleep-overs, or haven't been invited to anyones house, or let any of my friends come to my house because of my parents. I know they are trying to protect me and all, but I need them to back off, they've taken away much of my childhood and are starting to take away my teenage life. Mostly my dad saying no is just making me stop giving ***** about school. Like before i was a Straight A one B student. and I still am, I get all As but like 2 very high Bs, but now even if I got a F and my grade dropped to a D, I wouldn't really give a ****, because my parents are just killing my motivation. I just need some advice. What would you do in my shoes? Also, I'm 15. have been 15 for like 3 months now, I take the only available honors classes for sophomore's, this being chemistry and English, I've also doubled up on math, meaning I'm taking Algebra II and also Geometry. The school I attend is called Cristo Rey (look it up)

Question: If a dog and a dolphin can learn to get along, why can't our mom and his dad?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 10:30 AM PST

Question: How do I survive Thanksgiving with my Mom not letting me see my Dad and his family?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 10:28 AM PST

Once again she won't let me see my Dad except the weekend after Thanksgiving and New Years Day for Christmas. This hurts because it doesn't feel like Thanksgiving or Christmas when seeing them weeks later. Plus my Dad lives 15 minutes away but my Mom won;t let him in the house (my Dad offered last Christmas to come see me for an hour on Christmas Day but my Mom said no). My parents are divorced and my mother's priority (if that is the right word) is to get revenge on my Dad and loving me is back seat to getting revenge. So how do I survive Thanksgiving with the pain this brings? There is no joy when I don't get to see my Dad and his family. We see my Mom's family twice a week so there is nothing unique about it.

Question: My aunt is not on speaking terms with her daughter, whose side should the extended family be on?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 10:28 AM PST

The aunt (mother of the cousin) is on bad terms with her daughter because she expected too much of her in high school. The daughter is not perfect and lied about the job she had after high school. Also the daughter was unmotivated in school. So she told the daughter she was not welcome at the family Christmas 3 years ago. The aunt did reach out a few times since then but the daughter does not reciprocate. This makes the aunt bad mouth her daughter to all of us extended family. She says she loves her daughter but hates who she has become. The daughter just avoids the mother the few times the mother reaches out. So the extended family mostly sides with the daughter and considers the mother too hard on her. The daughter now works extremely hard (no longer lazy) so that is not an issue. The daughter does strike me as bitter though as is the mother obviously. So whose side should we be on? The mother spoils her other daughter and so appears to play favorites. She is also good to her son.

Question: Should i force myself to read? Does that make it easier after time? Will i get the habit of reading by forcing myself to do it?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 10:27 AM PST

I was a video game addict, i withdrawed from it, now i have very interest to be addicted to reading books because of its vast benifits,but i cant stand it, should I force myself to read? Wouldn't forcing oneself, have reverse resault in habits?

Question: A friend of mine has told me he doesn't find siblings incest wrong as long as it's consensual. I was quite shocked?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 10:24 AM PST

What do you think about that?

Question: My brother is like the *** of the earth. He has hurt our parents so many times by his reckless behavior. Can I hate him?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 10:23 AM PST

Is it okay for me to hate him as long as I love him in the spiritual sense? He is an awful human being. He even called our mother the C word.

Question: I need help with parents. I am 20 years old!?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 10:23 AM PST

I am 20 year old, I am a full-time college student and working a job 25-30 hours a week. I do live at home but my dad never knocks on my door he just barges in whenever the heck he feels like it. I get it its his house but is privacy not a thing anymore? Whenever I say Im going to hangout with friends my parents ask me 20 questions, who were you with, where were you, what did you do. were there parents home. I feel like Im 13 all over again. My parents want control over every aspect of my life, they are always trying to find a way to know how much money I have in my bank account but I never tell them, in my opinion its none of their business. They are always want to know what my mail says, sometimes they even open it. They tell me I have a bad attitude when I tell them I am a legal adult and that they cant make decisions for me anymore.

Question: How would you feel if a kid/student chose you to write their Letter of Recommendation? And why?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 10:19 AM PST

Question: I just feel my motivation for school just disintegrating, little by little. Any advice?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 10:15 AM PST

Every time I ask my dad about school related activities, he always says no. If I ask him if I can hang out with some friends from school, at the mall or something, he says no. Basically, my whole life has just been no and I'm just sick and tired of hearing it. Especially now that I'm in high school, 15, Sophomore, I've been thinking about my future so much, but everytime I ask my dad like "I want to try out for basketball" so colleges can see what I've done during high school, he always says no. I've never dated anybody, never went trick-or-treating, never went to birthday parties, never had sleep-overs, or haven't been invited to anyones house, or let any of my friends come to my house because of my parents. I know they are trying to protect me and all, but I need them to back off, they've taken away much of my childhood and are starting to take away my teenage life. Mostly my dad saying no is just making me stop giving ***** about school. Like before i was a Straight A one B student. and I still am, I get all As but like 2 very high Bs, but now even if I got a F and my grade dropped to a D, I wouldn't really give a ****, because my parents are just killing my motivation. I just need some advice. What would you do in my shoes? Also, I'm 15. have been 15 for like 3 months now, I take the only available honors classes for sophomore's, this being chemistry and English, I've also doubled up on math, meaning I'm taking Algebra II and also Geometry. The school I attend is called Cristo Rey (look it up)

Question: Horrible little sister.. what do you think of this idea? Or should I let my mom handle it?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 10:15 AM PST

I'm 19 and I have 5 siblings. They're all normal 3 in college (they're 19, 22, and 24) 1 is still a student (17) they're going onto do something with their lives and all have good grades and their own place minus Carter who lives at home (the 17 year old) Then there's my sister Jenna.. she's 14 and she is probably the worst kid I've ever met. I love her, but feel bad for my mom, Shes in detention everyday, making my mom have to leave work to pick her up. My mom is borderline getting fired, half the time when my mom cooks dinner (often trying to make Jenna's favorite just to make her somewhat happy) she's never pleased. My mom bought her a Louis Vuitton purse in black, she wanted brown, they're back ordered for brown, she burned the $2000 purse and made my mom buy her an iPhone instead. I'm 28 years old I have a job and a stable home and a boyfriend but he doesn't live with me. I'm telling my mom to let her come live with me. She will get a reality check. I plan to put her under strict (though fair , not abusive or anything) rules until her act clears up. It'll give my mom a break and get her act cleaned up where hopefully she can have a chance at life and not be someone everyone hates. I love her and want her to be happy. Do you think this is a good idea or should I let my mom handle it?

Question: Honda Ridgeline Truck vs. 500 lb. grizzly... who wins?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 10:05 AM PST

A family of four is drivingg through the mountains on vacation. The father is not a very safe driver and is going pretty fast on the Rocky Mountain roads, say 75 mph. Two kids in the back, the mother in the front. A huge grizzly male bolts out from the side of the woods and across the road. The father has no time to stop and the truck hits the bear head on. Who dies? Will the children die? The bear? The mother? The father? Make me a situation.

Question: My wife is always cutting my family down to our kids. She even is getting them feeling she is telling the truth, what do I do?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 09:50 AM PST

She is bitter towards my family because my Dad is an alcoholic and we seldom see him but they often see him. Therefore she labels all them as bad guys. Her family is one where you are either in or out and if out you are degraded. Thus, she degrades my family to our kids. She has gotten my son where he thinks his grandmother doesn't want a relationship with us because of my father's drinking. She actually says to the kids "your grandmother doesn't want to be in our lives". My mother doesn't come over a lot because of my father. I tell her to stop and she won't and it is the only thing we fight over. I can't believe I am asking it on here but am. How do I get her to stop poisoning the kids minds? Her family gets together every Sunday so the kids see them all the time.

Question: I believe I'm afraid to grow up?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 09:49 AM PST

There's a lot of things I believe is wrong about me right now. While my mother is taking chemotherapy, my sister and I are the ones to look after her (Me being 17 and my sister 16). Thing is...we kinda suck at helping. And to my mom it makes us seem selfish having her to worry about her health and deal with the responsibilities of an adult (paying bills, getting a job, etc.) My sister and I both have a problem in maturity. She is growing up too fast while I'm not growing up fast enough. And because of that we aren't doing much to make things easier for our mother (who is our only parent that we trust dearly). I'm too afraid to get out there and help her, and I think it's because I'm afraid of failure. I take failure too hard and I'm honestly scared how I'll take care of myself in the real world. My sister can go out and get a job or even her driver's license if she wanted, but I would be screaming internally about both of those things. And I want to do those things, but I don't have the right mindset for it. I act more like I'm 13 or 14 than 17. I want to help out my mother and make things easier for her, but..

Question: My mother's brother (my uncle) is 54 and is lit often at parties and was at Thanksgiving yesterday. Does this mean he could be an alcoholic?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 09:44 AM PST

He is not like fall down drunk, but he is lit about 1/3 of the time I see him. I only see him a few times a year and it is always parties. Yesterday my family had Thanksgiving and he was lit.

Question: People say I should get over it?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 09:29 AM PST

So my dad ran away from me and my mom when I was 3, just to make a new family. I don't get it, like he had a family already, then he just runs away. People say I should get over it, but I just can't

Question: I'm 16 and I never thought about this but like only Holidays when you greet your family, Ik you do handshakes for guys, and hugs for girls?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 09:14 AM PST

Question: My family members are constantly asking for money for one reason or another all the time, they harass me/do the guilt trip until I give in?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 09:11 AM PST

How can I change to stop being such a pushover all the time? Im really good with saving money because Ive been financially independent since I was a teenager and nothing was ever handed to me, I like having money for a rainy day and Im also 27 I would like to put a down payment on house at some point instead of renting the rest of my life so im trying to save up 30 - 40K This is a weekly thing its someone everyweek from atleast my mom, Dad or brothers if not multiple/All of them. My mom asks for money every week but in small amounts $40 today $20 tomorrow $60 Friday and it doesnt stop and its not for bills or surviving, she has a serious spending problem and when I try to give advise to curbe her spending she flips out and doesnt want to hear it. My Dad and brothers always ask for large amounts - I lent my Dad $700 last week and yesterday I caved and lend my brother $1800 (This doesnt happen every week but this week im at my breaking point due to the sheer volume of money ive lent). All my family members have spending problems and are not into saving or trying to cut back and then come to me to harass me so I can bail them out. If I wasnt a pushover of the family for 12 years I couldve had my goal saved of a down payment and on with my life. Does anyone have any advise to make me grow some Ba.lls and not be a sap and pushover? I have no self esteem to stick up for myself.

Question: My family members are constantly asking for money for one reason or another all the time, they harass me/do the guilt trip until I give in?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 09:03 AM PST

Question: Why does my mum use my money more than hers?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 08:47 AM PST

I'm 19 and I have a job as a barman. I'm still living with my mum. I get paid £6.67 an hour, bringing my wages to just over £15.2k annually. My mum has a job as a management accountant and she gets paid nearly £35,000 a year. However, she barely uses her money and she always has to use my own money - even when my bank balance is far less than hers. Every time I say she can't use my money because she has her own, she keeps badgering me until I give in - sometimes she even gets angry, accusing me of being 'greedy' and 'selfish'. She usually says she'll pay me back, but she never pays me back. Every time I ask her "When are you gonna pay me back?", she either ignores me, has a massive go at me or both. My mum uses my money to buy all of our groceries and sometimes even for paying the bills and other stuff as well such as clothes and household appliances. Why does she always have to use my money? I'm trying to save up for my own place, but her just keep 'borrowing' money is halting that. It feels like she's using my money to prevent me from renting an apartment or something.

Question: How to stop someone with an unhealthy obsession?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 08:32 AM PST

My sister has a very unhealthy obsession with Steven Universe. It progressed to a point when she breaks up friendships with people who have been her best friends for years if they don't like the show as much as she does. She completely ignores me and is very mean because I don't like the show very much. Her grades have always been around a B, but now all her tests have an average of a D because she never studies and watches Steven Universe. My mom can't even take away her computer/phone because if she can't watch it then she draws it. My mom told me to review her test that she failed and I couldn't even do that because every answer was impossible to read because of a Steven Universe drawing. She has become very apathetic towards others, and uncaring towards her grades. She doesn't understand this show isn't reality. She's 12 years old please help

Question: Am I asking for too much for Chistmas?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 08:09 AM PST

my Chistmas list is... 1. 2 hamilton tickets 2. Spotify gift card those are the only things I want but hamilton tickets are REALLY expensive they can be anywhere from $300-$2000 and I would be fine with literally back row but idk if my parents would be willing to spend that much I would just buyah my own buy I only have a summer job and my parents don't give me an allowance should I ask or just wait until summer to get some

Question: Moms I need some advice please?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 07:19 AM PST

I am a single mom of a 15 year old girl I found out my 15 year old daughter is dating a 22 year old man. I told her never to see him again. I worked last night and when I came home I found my daughter naked in bed with the guy. I threw him out and my daughter told me it is her life she did not use condoms because she wants to get pregnant. She left the house in just a pair of shorts a tee shirt and she also left barefoot. I am sure she went to her boyfriends house. Should I call the police.

Question: What to tell other when they ask about my father who left me?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 07:14 AM PST

I go to an international school and people always ask about your parents where they're from and where they work. My father being a bum left us when I was 12. I'm 17 male in high school what do I tell people when they ask about who mh father is. If I lie I feel weird and it isn't right, if I tell the truth it seems I'm seeking attention, I usually just idk about my father

Question: GF feels I'm too soft on our son?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 07:11 AM PST

We became parents at 15, and are now 20. Our son is 5. I'll admit I'm not very strict with him, because I'm just laid back in general. Him staying up late to watch a game with me is not a big deal in my book. Last night he was up past his bedtime because there was a game on. GF came in and went off. Her: Why is he still up? Me: It's 4th quarter, it'll be over soon. Her( looks at him): Teeth brushed, face washed, bed, now. Him: But... Her: Nope, do it, unless you want time-out. He did what he was told and this started an argument about me " always making her the bad guy". I told her she doesn't have to be so strict with him, but her reply is that, " Someone needs to be his parent." Is she right?

Question: For Thanksgiving we are going to my uncle's and he is usually drunk. How do I respond if he starts bad mouthing my Dad in front of me?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 07:11 AM PST

My parents are divorced and when my uncle gets drunk he bad mouths my Dad. I feel shame when he does this because my mother did this after her divorce when I was little and it resurfaces that shame I felt them when my uncle does this. I am 26 now. The uncle is an alcoholic so bad mouths people without thinking when drunk but fixing him is impossible. My Dad was also an alcoholic which is why my uncle cuts him down (to distract from his own drinking).

Question: My mom gets on my nerves?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 06:48 AM PST

my mom is going to take me to jail just because i got headphone in my ear that i cant hear her. she always nagging about little thing like that is so annoying. i'm a good 13 year old daughter that didn't do nothing to her.

Question: How do you coparent with someone who wont even see their son?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 06:47 AM PST

I'm 23 and hes 40 and this is my first child. My son is 2weeks old and his father has yet to come and see him.While i was in the hospital he said he was coming the first couple of days,then i didnt hear anything from him for 5 days, his excuse being that he left his phone in his brother's car for the last 5 days.Then i didnt hear anything from him again all week, and he called me yesterday a little intoxicated saying that he doesnt want to come down here and get stuck, he lives 2 hours away, and my parents agreed that he could come and stay for 5 days, and i told him id pick him up from the bus station.(we had an incident while i was pregnant,he drove my car drunk and was very disrespectful towards me so i sent him back home.he decided to show up at my parents house days later even though he was told not to come and my dad made him get off his property. So he was stuck at food lion for 2 days waiting for the bus) So he blames that incident on being the reason he hasnt come to see him. He also hasnt helped buy anything for my son. I am planning to go for full custody as well as child support. He doesnt answer my calls or texts unless he wants to but when he calls me, he will say that he i can call him too and that he doesnt have to be the only one to call. I'm just fed up, and all i wanted was my son to have a father.

Question: Im 24 and my mum doesn t want me to fall in love or get married?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 06:40 AM PST

I m 24 and my mum made it clear not to fall in love with anyone else. I have been in relationships with guys my mum didn t know it because she is again it and today she asked me not to get married. My mum thinks it is bad and she said she would never talk to me if I date someone or get married. What should I do

Question: Appropriate male garb for a memorial service?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 06:36 AM PST

Very sadly, my brother and I just lost our dear, dear mother. My brother is desperate to wear a suit to her service. He is 57, and devoted himself to caring for Mom for almost 17 years. I told him even a nice shirt and tie and khakis would be all right. We are destitute. He is big and tall and feels he needs to be fitted for a suit. What is your opinion about what is appropriate for him to wear or not wear to the memorial service? And do you have any inspirations about where he could get a fitted, new suit really cheaply? I know he seems demanding, but I think it has to do with how much he sacrificed for Mom and how much he loved her. I can't really talk to him about it because he is very defensive, but this just seems to be an issue with him right now. Believe me, I know when I can't talk to my brother about something, but would like to try to solve the problem if possible as inexpensively as possible as it's just one of those things I know he's locked in on. If you know of how he could get fitted for a suit cheaply, it would be greatly appreciated.

Question: How can I deal with my little sister?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 06:21 AM PST

I always wanted to have an older brother but unfortunately I have a very annoying little sister that is 13 years younger than me (I'm 16) and disturbs me in every way possible. She's a very feisty child and because of her age my parents do not let me to punish her or anything. I always mind my own business but she always finds a way to bother me. What should I do? Ah and If you have a brother how does it feel? Ya know I always wanted one to just be there for me and protect me

Question: My parents don't care about my health and won't let me take painkillers?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 06:03 AM PST

I've had pain in my abdomen and back for ages, I went to the doctor and he said it was heartburn and gave me medication for it, the meds didn't work and the pain got worse. I went to the hospital and was prescribed strong painkillers they made me sluggish. I went to the hospital again and the doc said it might be acid build up after having an ultrasound to check for gallstones and kidney stones. He gave me anti acid meds and a weaker painkillers. I'm still in pain and it's getting worse, the anti acid sin't doing anything and my parents keep blaming me for it and won't let me take the pain killers even though my back is hurting a lot. I don't think it's acid build up, I don't get any burning feelings and i've never had heartburn or anything like that. The hospital and the docs have been really shitty.

Question: Why are they like this?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 05:32 AM PST

I am 53. I tell my son and daughter all the time I am not their father and they are embarrassments to me. I am their biological father though, just I do not consider myself their father. I have been beating son and daughter with my hands and belts for 11 years. They are 17 and 18, I have had them in online school for 12 years. No outside person knows of my ahdh and bipolar. My son and daughter say they hate people because of what I do to them. They refuse to leave as we live on interstate/highway with no sidewalks on them and they refuse to walk with cars behind cars. I get joy out of seeing my kids hurt I do not know why when they cry(after I beat them in face for few minutes) I yell at the them to shut up. Can I legally stop allowing son and daughter to eat and use my airconditioning if they refuse to leave my house?

Question: My sister fell asleep with my penis in her mouth what should I do?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 05:20 AM PST

Question: How would you feel if a kid/student chose you to write their Letter of Recommendation? And why?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 05:10 AM PST

Just wondering

Question: My parents know I can t afford to move out and use it as leverage.?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 05:05 AM PST

my parents know i cant afford to move out and use it as leverage to control my life. i am 23 and living in california which is expensive as ****. they tell me how to spend my money, make me give them money for savings, try and choose my friends and relationships, dont respect me and treat me like im their employee. also if i do anything they dont agree with they just hammer me with restriction like im 13 years old. yes im working on my career and working towards independence but living like this makes me want to kill myself. i have talked to them time and time again. each time i try and talk to them they always give me some long winded answer about how im disrespectful , ungrateful, lazy and need to grow up. keep in mind that i am also sober, work most of the time and spend time with my girlfriend when i can. im just sick of living like this and would almost rather just live on the street again.

Question: I stole something and sold it because I wanted money and it belongs to my mom and now I feel so guilty and want to return it asap?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 04:42 AM PST

Question: My sister is uninterested in extended family events if her friends are doing something. Is this unethical of her?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 03:40 AM PST

Question: My Mom wouldn't let me see her father (an alcoholic) as a kid but had no problem with me seeing her cousin. Was she was just using me?

Posted: 20 Nov 2016 03:30 AM PST

Was she likely just using me as a weapon for her anger at her father? Her cousin was also an alcoholic but on my Mom's Mom's side of the family so she had no problem with me seeing him. Yet, her Dad was an alcoholic and I was banned from seeing him until I was about 15. This hurt me that she wouldn't let me but my cousins could. Neither alcoholic was dangerous other then being moody and obviously not one to drive. So while I understand needing to be supervised while with the grandfather, does it sound like her restricting me from seeing him was more her being mad then her being protective since she had no problem with me being around her alcoholic cousin? My mother's parents divorced due to the alcohol so she felt her Dad picked alcohol over his wife and she saw her family as her mother and all her family wonderful and her Dad and all his family as enemies. The alcoholic cousin was on her mother's side so the "good side" in her eyes. My mother was extremely bitter towards her Dad but never complained about the cousin. At age 15 I pleaded enough that my Mom let me get to know my grandfather but continued to tell me "he doesn't love you" when he was actually delightful. I was 26 when he died at 72. Her cousin who has alcoholism just died Friday which is why I am asking this. It was like my mother had it good alcoholic vs. bad alcoholic. mJc----But she didn't care her cousin drank or feel the need to protect us from him. Pearl L answered after I picked best answer or I would have picked him for best answer