Family: Question: North Carolina child custody?

Question: North Carolina child custody?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 02:28 PM PST

I have 3 stepchildren ages 3,6 8. Their father has permanent physical custody of themotional and joint legal custody. The mother has nothing to do with them. She's supposed to see them every weekend. She's seen then 3 separate days for 3-4 hours each time. She has to be supervised due to previous drug abuse and domestic issues. A term of her visitation is that she has to continue mental health treatment (she has Schizophrenia) she is not going to therapy or taking medicine. My kids are scared of her and don't want to go near her. All she does when she does see them is talk badly about me and their father. Can we keep the kids from her? She does nothing but upset them

Question: Custody of Sibilings?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 02:18 PM PST

My mother is on Life Support and not looking to make it I am 22 and have 2 younger siblings that are 11&14 .. Does that mean I will automatically get them? There other parent is dead also. I have a child of my own he's one. Have my own house/car and married. I work full time. I just don't want the state to get them.

Question: Feeling trapped?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 02:12 PM PST

I come from a very religious and republican family. I don't mind them having their beliefs. I'm not going to argue with them. I'm not looking for an argument anyway. I'm just looking to feel at peace and be able to be myself. My parents are always shoving religion in my face, and because of it, I'm actually not sure how I feel about it. Everything I do or say comes down to my mom replying with something "God" related. I don't get to figure out what I believe and what I don't. I'm agnostic at this point because I'm afraid. They throw all this Christianity on me, but I'm not feeling it, but what if I'm wrong? Not to mention a lot of the people in these churches I've been to have said a lot of rude negative things about "liberals" and want them out of their churches. I'm basically being forced into something I'm not really welcome in. I just feel really confused and trapped. I can't seem to do anything without my parents throwing a fit. I'm a good kid. I'm 20. I have a job, I'm in college, a steady long-term relationship with a nice guy, but it's not enough. They won't let me move out, I can't unfriend them on facebook, I'll never get away from the pressure. I just want to be left alone. I'm sick of constantly being filtered. I want to express myself and choose for myself, and I can't and I'm so unhappy. I've felt this way since I was about 12. I thought I'd be out by now, and now I'm not sure if it'll ever go away.

Question: Please donate so we can eat?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 02:07 PM PST

My sister 22 and I, 18 are alone in the world right now. This is our last week staying with a friend. We moved to Maryland early July with our parents, but we left because our step dad began doing inappropriate things and my mom took his side. We ended up going to the hospital for it and also let social services get involved. As of right now we are back in Virginia and we've been here for 3 weeks. I had saved $500 from my last job. my sister has 2 kids. I set up a gofund me page so someone could donate enough money for the week for us to eat but no one did donate. Please anyone..even 10$ is helpful. We can buy flour eggs and bread with that and make food for long term since we don't know where we'll be in the next few days. We have asked for help but no one is helping. We submitted an application to get housing for 3 months as we can't he on the streets because of the kids, but we haven't heard back. We are hungry and lost. This is really happening to us.We did not upload pics because my mom is trying to contact us and hurt us for accusing our dad of such things. We don't know what else to do. Please, just money for food would be the best. I've used all my money on the kids and my sister and I have been stepping back on eating so they eat. I don't have any more money and I can't wait 3 weeks for a paycheck to eat I get unpaid training and I don't start until next week. If anyone could please take their time and look at it. This is the page http://www.gofundme.com/2z8hcxw

Question: Is my mom ok looking..she feels plain?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 02:06 PM PST

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Question: How can I be thankful at Thanksgiving when in a broken family?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 02:05 PM PST

We can't go to the family Thanksgiving and same will be true come Christmas, because my Mom was molested as a kid by her older brother. Her Mom who I love more then anything didn't protect her enough so my mother will never let us go to family holidays again. Plus the uncle who is abusive is sometimes there. I miss my grandparents and hate this time of year because we can't be with them much anymore (we see them a little in the summer). We used to be able to see them at holidays and it was like heaven. Now my parents just have friends with no families over. I am humiliated by this. There is no doubt my Mom's brother will burn in hell forever for what he did to my Mom but I am a boy and not at any risk of being abused by him. I don't care if I see him as he is hell bound but I do care that I don't see my Grandma and aunties and cousins. My grandmother still loves her evil son so he is welcomed there also. My brothers and I are not allowed to go at my mother's rules because seeing her abuser upsets her. She never minded until she found out my older sister was abused (by someone else outside the family) and she started caring more. She used to let us go. Please tell me how to get through the next month. I really miss family and my mother has taken it from me because of this evil uncle. Instead of punishing him she has punished me. EC----I DONT CARE ABOUT THE UNCLE, IT IS MY GRANDMA, AUNTIES, AND COUSINS The cousins see him and are not molested. He is bad I agree, but the rest of the family is good.

Question: My sister is dying of leukemia. How do I get over the jealousy I feel of all the attention she is getting?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 02:05 PM PST

I am not a troll but marking anonymous as I am embarrassed by this. I am so jealous of all the attention my sister is getting. She will die any day now of cancer. My mother is not babysitting for me or anything, all her care is on my sister. It reminds me of when I was a kid and my sister was the favorite. My mother also is helping my sister's two sons and not paying attention to my daughter and I. How do I get over this narcissism? JOHN I can't tell a favorite teacher, I am 42, an adult.

Question: I feel left out by my mom.?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 02:02 PM PST

Hi. I hope someone can help me with this one. Im 23 and the middle child also the only daughter. As a child i felt i was always in the middle of my parents fights. I would sit at the door and listen to how they fought (i was scared that my mom would get hurt). But i never really got that love from my parents - a hug here and there but for some strange reason my dad thought it was weird. (we also had no relationship growing up) Well after a while he stopped drinking and i grew up. Everything is going great (i still have that mindset that being affectionate is weird). Anyway.. So we have family friends (They live in Paris and we... very far), i really like them but at times my mom would go out of her way to do things for their daughter. I sometimes feel out of place - my mom never did those things for me. When i spend time with my mom she s on the phone with the girl and its heart and kisses and i love yous. They text each other about 3 times a week and like each others FB photos almost everyday. She also bought hella expensive gift for the girl (Brand names on my account) But see here's the thing whenever i want to give my mom a hug or kiss she would make some silly joke saying "what do you want" or "don t kiss me, your dad is gonna think weird" or "im not gay" then she would laugh. I would giggle to,but i cry about it every time. I love my mom and there's not a lot of time left i really want that with her. I don't always want to talk i need her in that department too.

Question: My Dad won't talk to my brother until he gets his life together, is this okay to do or is it immoral as a parent?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 01:58 PM PST

My brother is a felon. My Dad blames him somewhat for the failing of my Dad's 2nd marriage. My former step-mother was very protective of her kids and disliked my brother and sister for being bad influences. My sister is now in rehab. My brother has stolen a car, fled police, stolen thousands in forged checks from our mother, and done drugs. He has been in and out of jail. So my Dad's philosophy is to cut our brother out of the family until he gets his sh.t together. Our mother is much more caring and still talks to him. Our Mom cheated on our Dad when I was little so they divorced and my Dad has been bitter ever since. My mother, while guilty of cheating, is a much more forgiving person. So is this right of our Dad "tough love" or is he being a bully since this is his son? I wouldn't speak to my brother if he were not related but since he is related I feel that makes him family even when he is bad.

Question: My parents won't let me see my grandfather because he drinks too much. Why is this and is this unfair?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 01:48 PM PST

I really want to know my grandfather and all my cousins get to see him. My brother and I are banned from any family events he is at and thus we miss the annual family reunion and we also miss holidays like Christmas. My grandfather gets grouchy when he drinks and so my mother, whose grandfather was also an alcoholic, won't let us see him. She insults him to us everyday and I feel like I am being disloyal to him since I have only met him two times. He is not dangerous, just grouchy. So why is this that they penalize us for his drinking and is this unfair? I am 14 and have to wait until after high school in 4 and a half years before I can see him on my own. I am afraid he won't live that long. My Mom also says our grandmother doesn't want a relationship with us because of our grandfather. I am afraid she might blame us then. Denton----He does not beat and rape anyone, that is offensive. Only thing he has done is get grouchy like a teen.

Question: Can I be wrong about molestation?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 01:40 PM PST

I'm 28 years old and I was 13 years old when my father was playing around with me in my brother's room. He was wrestling with me and moved his groin up and down against my leg while saying "Horsie!"... I had NO idea what he was doing then and what he meant by it so I just laughed it off but something just felt wrong ever since then. I confronted him about it a few years later and he got angry and denied that it happened. I'm so confused about it. He's very controlling and overprotective. He was just playing around but do you think he molested me? I'm afraid to talk to professionals about it because I don't want to cause drama. But it made me feel VERY uncomfortable for him to be on top of me like that.

Question: Do you ever feel sorry for yourself that you wish you had a different parent, then feel even worse because you're thinking that?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 01:40 PM PST

Honestly, I wish I had a different father. sound like an idiot, I know. I wish I knew more websites or threads that I could post my thoughts on instead of YA because some people are just negative on here. Anyways, I wish I had an honorable father. One with morals and who would go to great lengths to protect me. I want a father like how Rick Grimes is, how Will Smith is or honestly like Naruto's father. See? I sound dumb. I am 100 percent serious. I just admire the relationship they all have with their children: Protective at all costs, teaching, and their children look at them as heros. My father isn't so much. Don't get me wrong, my dad is a good dad. I mean, he buys me stuff. He wants me to do good in school. But I know he just wants me to succeed so he can succeed. He's the type of guy who would probably sell me if it meant he got to do his life over/get a endless money/permanent power. He never would get that chance, but I just brought that up because that's just how he is. He takes advantage of people. He's not honorable. He didn't even want a kid. It cost to much money he said. He said he would have moved to Europe and had a good life if I wasn't born. That sounds pretty dark, but he never was abusive, if that's what you're thinking. Also, he's your typical hypocrite and a old, white Trump supporter. He is honestly racist and he even admitted it. Funny because I'm not even fully white. I don't even know. Anyone feel the same as me? I also wanted to add this: I have always thought this. I've always imagined having a different father. Since I was young. And I 'love' him. I don't like using that word when thinking of my dad because it's just kind of weird. Why? Why do I feel like that??? And I feel horrible that I want someone else to be my father because he IS my dad. But I know he doesn't care. So I feel like I'm just stupid. When thinking of my father, I feel a mix of depression, anger, and stupidity at myself.

Question: How much would you give a 17 year old for their birthday and christmas?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 01:27 PM PST

How much would you give a 17 year old girl for their birthday and Christmas. From the age of 14 we stopped giving her birthday parties and presents (only money) and she did not get a sweet 16 either (but got money). This year she is turning 17 and we are not throwing a party or giving presents. How much money should be given? Also how about Christmas. We do not give stocking staffers or gifts. How much money should be given? Sidenote : we do not have a lot of family where we live so she does not get anything from relatives. And she is extremely picky and her interests change often so I prefer giving her money.

Question: Does "Home" have to be where you (primarily) live?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 01:15 PM PST

Ok so my mom and dad got divorced about a year ago which caused Me to move into a new house about a mile down the road (I just moved 2 months ago), so I didn't have to change schools, and my dad still lives in my other neighborhood. (Not in my old house but he moved three blocks away from there), and I just feel more "at home" in that neighborhood. I still consider that "my" neighborhood- so basically what I'm asking is, does "home" have to be where you primarily live? I mean, that's where I spent the first 13 years of my life, and that's where all the people I know live.

Question: Should I cut off all cimmunication?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 12:56 PM PST

my very close friend (she s 50 and I am 18) she s been an adult role model and close personal friend mine. She called to check up @ Of course she asked how I was, if I was okay etc.. then she started skipping around subjects talking about her family, troubles, problems occurring, stories of when she was little, about how she misses her parents etc. her procedure. it was a great long talk, I listened and gave her all my attention. I understand people need to vent or need advice but why come to me? That day I sent her flowers to show my love and support. It s been stressing me seeing her go through so much, I want her to be alright and have great health. She s always so supportive to me. We both always send encouraging texts, she s always liking all of my social media posts, we send inspirational stuff to each other, etc.. We re very close. She s a very blunt lady and will tell you like it is. She s always giving me compliments, telling me how amazing I am, so I take it to heart. But she s never really said if I ve helped her. I do all things with love and expect nothing in return but I wish I knew if I was a help to her or if I am doing something good. Sometimes I feel useless like I ve done nothing good for her. Do you think I ve helped? Ive started to feel embarrassed inside, like I m being TO loving or caring and I feel she isn t liking it. So I ve been quiet lately and haven t talked to her much, save myself more embarrassment. Should I just block/unfriend her?

Question: I have bad grades and my mom is pissed at me!!?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 12:38 PM PST

I'm in 10th grade and I got my grades, they were horrible. I'm failing three classes which are: geometry, earth space science, and chemistry. Yes these classes are pretty hard and I try my best. My mom got my grades through mail and as soon as I walked into my house she started yelling at me saying to not ask her for anything and she's now avoiding me. I want to do better honestly and I know she has the right to be mad. I'm disappointed in myself and I know I should do better. My younger siblings are straight A students and never had an F. I sometimes get jealous because they brag about it. Yet I'm here feeling stupid and worthless. I'm really mad at myself.

Question: My 83 year old great grandmother got mad at me over something little, why?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 12:34 PM PST

So, here's what happened. Every year, this day (november 18), has a potluck in every classroom. I decided to bring apple pie and mac & cheese. The pie wasn't finished so I bring it home and I unwrap the pie and place it on the table. I go into my room grab my cup to get water and go back into the kitchen. I reach into the drawer to get a fork but then she said "Don't you make no tea. Put that pie away.". I respond with "Oh, I'm grabbing a fork. And I was gonna get wat-" "You know damn well your mother would not allow you to eat all that damn pie and cake.(My friend gave me his loaf cake that wasn't eaten at all. Which i don't even remember where is no but i was gonna give it to my grandmother.)" "I wasn't even eating the cake." 'I don't give a ****! Wrap that pie up and put it on the counter for your mother to see!" She then walks out and tells my grandfather (her son). He comes into the kitchen to give me a lecture. Then she comes back saying "I don't like your disrespect (what disrespect?)! Don't do that **** in here! Don't play me like I'm stupid! We were all born yesterday! You're the smartest person in the world! Nag! Nag! Nag! Bla! Bla! Bla! Yada! Yada! Yada!" I would understand if it was a whole pan of pie but it was only a half with out the core. I guess a crescent shape. TYPO!!!! it was here "Every year, this day (november 18), has a potluck in every classroom" i meant to put "Every year, this day (november 18), my school has a potluck in every classroom". I added "my school"

Question: Forgive pet sitting inlaws for giving away cat?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 12:22 PM PST

I live in a foreign country and I went back home for two months to see my sick mother while my husband was also out of the country for work (to a different country). My inlaws were watching my cat. Shortly before I returned they gave it to the shelter because it was shedding too much. I am so hurt and can't forgive them now, but my husband thinks I am over reacting. Am I? Where we live (and where they are from) they don't put much value on animals. But I feel it was so cruel and cold to me and they didn't even tell me before they did it. I could have made other arrangements. I can't help but thinking maybe they did it to spite me? We never had any issues before this. There is a language barrier and my husband just tells me to drop it. I don't want to ruin a relationship completely over a cat but still. And when we have children I definitely won't ask them to babysit! Should I just drop it?

Question: Why does my mom craves for attention so much?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 12:09 PM PST

On facebook when she post a video of something if no one noticed it she will share it tell people do she will also comment on a bunch of stuff, or in person she talks to much and gets into a conversation she even minics animals way to much it's really annoying. Does she need a boyfriend?

Question: How old do you leagally ave to be to choose who you want to live with ?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 12:02 PM PST

Whats everyones favorite color ?

Question: Mom won't let me drink but let's my sister?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 11:56 AM PST

Okay I live in a country where 18 is the drinking age so drinking at 16 isn't so bad. Anyway I'm 16 and mom said I can't drink and she thinks I'm more sensible than that but the thing is she's been letting my sister drink since she was sixteen and when my sister started drinking she said that I could drink when I'm sixteen too but now she's changing her word and saying that I can't and that really upsets me because even though I don't want to yet I feel I should be allowed to because I don't think that's fair. And I hate the way she says I thought you'd be more sensible than that like she's too over protective of me. And please don't be saying that I shouldn't be drinking and **** like that because everyone drinks where I'm from since they were 14 even 13 like I mean every single person and I feel like I'm the only one who doesn't and moms making me feel guilty for no reason.

Question: How to stop crying at confrontation?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 11:49 AM PST

I don't cry when i get in trouble at school by teachers and stuff but with my family I get really upset and I tear up and it makes me look like a crybaby and ruins my argument, particularly with my mother and a small but with my sister not so much with my dad though. Does anyway know how to stop or prevent myself from crying in these situations?

Question: Is masterbating nice?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 11:43 AM PST

Question: Am I more related to my first cousins on my mum side as in blood relation and genes then my dad side?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 11:42 AM PST

Question: I love my soon-to-be step brother. How can I make these feelings go away before our parents wedding?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 11:40 AM PST

My mother is getting remarried to a good man and I'm happy for her. But the problem is that I fell in love with my soon-to-be step brother...and to make matters worse I think he's starting to feel the same about me. I catch him staring at me alot lately, he does things like when I'm doing something he volunteers to help or volunteers to do the task for me even if I don't need help, he apologizes even when he's done nothing wrong, holds the door open for me and he's never done any of these things until recently. There was also a couple of other problems be has a super clingy girlfriend and I have a super clingy ex-boyfriend. In fact I actually broke up with my ex because I couldn't in good conscience continue that relationship knowing I loved someone else. I love soon-to-be step brother and I would like to give things a go. But I can't do that to my mother I have never seen her this happy before. Which is why I haven't said anything yet because I don't want to take that happiness away from her. How can I make these romantic feelings for him go away before wedding? My mother and his father haven't set a date yet but I would still like to get this problem taken care of before the wedding.

Question: I feel like i mimick others personalitys, like if im with someone i just pretty much act like them. I also feel like i dont have a personali?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 11:07 AM PST

Question: How do I get over family trauma that resurfaces each year at the holidays?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 11:07 AM PST

When I was a kid my parents divorced and my mother used us as a weapon against our Dad. So at holidays she would gossip about him the most and tell us how he did not want a relationship with us. When he'd reach out she would tell us he was just kissing up to feel good at Christmas. When I got to be a teen I got closer to him much to my mother's dismay. As a result she stepped up the attacks on him. Long story short I started feeling deeply guilty as a teen and now adult for rejecting him as a kid. He has died now and I am 41 but I still feel the shame at holidays as with his death last year it feels at the holidays like it did when I was a kid as we just see Mom and her family (my Dad's siblings don't live local). So how do I get over this trauma that now resurfaces only at the holidays?

Question: How do I get over my hurt and sadness when my Dad won't see me because of my Mom? How do I accept this?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 11:06 AM PST

My Dad only sees me twice a year. I ask him over multiple times and he never wants to come because he is divorced from my Mom and he says it makes him upset to see her. Yet, I AM HIS DAUGHTER, and I want him in my life and my kids' lives. My husband's parents are the greatest grandparents in the world and my mother is lovely also. My father just has no interest in me it feels like. He will not change so how do I accept it?

Question: My sister doesn't care I have friends over when she walks out undressed at home. How do I get her to stop?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 11:04 AM PST

She has emotional disabilities so she might not realize it but my friends are all watching and laughing so it is embarrassing. My sister is emotionally disabled but functions as an adult and all so she's not retarded or anything. This is a serious question. Rebecca----It is a serious question

Question: Is it normal that since my Dad is an alcoholic my friends avoid me on weekends?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 11:03 AM PST

Their parents my Mom suspects dont want them around my Dad.

Question: Does my stepsister have a crush on me?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 10:58 AM PST

I am 18 year old guy and my stepsister is 16 I am quite confused on what to think of this, but here it goes. a couple of years ago My stepsister didn't really bother much to really talk to me. I really wasn't much of talker either since I would just stay in my room most of the time, but after a year or so have gone by she's way more open to talking to me, But she has been acting weird lately, she's been wanting me to go places with her and the family and when I ask her why she wants me to go with her she doesn't give me a straight answer, she had to think about it and says that "it's fun to mess with you" she also says that she rather be my actual brother than her real brother, because she said that I understand her (and her real brother doesn't). When we are home alone we usually just hang out and watch Tv, but in the meantime she would get close with me either sitting right by me, trying to hold my hands, or just overall laying on me like if we are a couple, she really does like to try and snuggle with me WHICH I DONT GET, like brother's and sister's don't snuggle... When her other siblings try and mess with her she gets really annoyed and irritated, when they touch her (head, Shoulder, leg) she gets mad. When I mess with her she seems very cheery and when I give her head pats she really doesn't seem to mind it at all (seems like she actually enjoys it), Does she have a crush on me?

Question: I really need help with this?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 10:40 AM PST

Okay so I have an iPhone 6 and my dad said that he won't have to back it up using iTunes anymore like he used to. Is he right? and also my storage on my iPhone 6 was full but I fixed that by deleting a lot of pictures and videos so can my iPhone just be backed up by using iCloud? And will the backup be able to be completed using iCloud since I fixed the storage?

Question: Boyfriend's brother is coming to stay with us?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 10:31 AM PST

My boyfriend's brother is coming back from college for thanksgiving, and he's going to be staying with us. He is extremely ungrateful; this past summer he didn't thank my parents for the cruise they paid for and took him on, he eats all the food in the fridge, leaves trash on the floor, doesn't flush the toilet, uses all the hot water and invites his friends over to smoke weed. I've told him multiple times that I don't want drugs and alcohol in the house, and he tells me to **** off. He's unreasonable and rude, but my boyfriend says he's staying with us rather than with his parents. How do I handle this? He's going to be staying for two weeks.

Question: How to cope with no one caring about my birthday?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 10:31 AM PST

Hi. In 2 days it'll be my birthday and I'll turn 15. However, on the 19th my father is getting re-married and I haven't had a proper conversation with him since I was 11. I pretend as if I don't care that my birthday is coming up, but it saddens me when my mom doesn't even aknowledge the fact it is coming up, and it hurts me. Honestly, I didn't really care. In fact, it was just a day to me. Just a day to celebrate the amount of years I lived for. But nobody even cares at this point. It's selfish and greedy for me, but I can't help it. They're all stressing over marriages. I'm scared that she'll not even try to celebrate. I never wanted to, because I didn't want to make a fuss, but it hurts. Growing up in a environment filled with previleged kids can really have a toll on you. Please help.

Question: Never receive love in my life. Help? :(?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 10:19 AM PST

I am the eldest Pakistani child but I was born a girl. My Pakistani parents wanted a boy as the eldest child. Due to that they treat me bitter,harsh, never kiss me, hug me, or buy me things. Im lucky they feed me at least and buy me clothes (cheap clothes).They tell me they don't love me and hate me deeply. They love my sibling who is a boy and he like my parents hate me and say he don't love me as a sister. I have no friends either so I don't have a friends love. I am forbidden to hang out with people out my culture/religion and so is my brother. My parents told us to tell on each other of one of us talk to a person out our culture or religion. Now my parents are forcing me to marry against my will. (Common in my culture). This marriage will never have love, and if I was to marry I'll be a servitude and have to live my life serving this "husband" & later be force to have sex and be pregnant. (Common in my culture). I can't say no to the marriage (Pakistani do honor killing if a marriage is REFUSE.) I never receive love in my life I'm 25 I just want fall in love with a NON Pakistani NON Muslim man, marry out of love and live a life beautiful away from my parents. But there is no such thing as love before marriage in my culture it forbidden. And we MUST marry a Pakistani Muslim man ONLY. What shall I do? How should I report? Will they be arrested? I live in New York.

Question: What would you do?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 10:07 AM PST

I am 19, I just graduated high school, and I live with my parents. My dad has been telling me he is going to open me a business in January, yet he will not let me get a job, won't let me hang out with anyone and he is so strict about guys it is not funny. I fell as if I am a kid again. I tried to move out and he got mad and started punching wholes in the wall, screaming at me and my mom and I had to go to my bedroom. I am so lost. What do I do? Most nights I cry myself to sleep because I don't have a normal life and everybody seems to hate me. What do I do? Please help me..... I have a car that I bought when I got a check from the bank due to a wreck I was in when I was little and my dad doesn't even let me drive it. I bought it, it is in my name and he is always threatening to do stuff to me and my mom and my brother if we do anything or go anywhere. I would give anything to be anywhere besides here. Please help me.... what do I do. I can not handle this.

Question: Is the baby of the family always treated like one?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 10:05 AM PST

No matter how old they get.

Question: Why does my ex speak about me negatively?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 10:03 AM PST

My and I broke up because I stood her up one night. Now she is going around telling people all of these negative things about me. Like I'm a two-timer, and liar. I've never said anything negative about her why does she speak so negatively of me.

Question: I need help with this please answer?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 09:46 AM PST

Okay so I just updated my iPhone 6 and My dad said that I don't have to sync my iPhone to iTunes anymore. Is he right? Can I just back it up to iCloud instead of iTunes?

Question: I'm freaking out help..?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 09:45 AM PST

my friends went out to the mall last month(i wasn't with them)when they got there, they met some boys, &idk why but they eventually got their #. they all made a group talked on it . 2 weeks later i decided to go to the mall with my friends ,my friends wanted me to meet them so they invited them.(1 of my friends father hired a person2watch us(my friends father is in italy and hese coming back in a few days)&that person saw us standing with the guys but he didn't really say anything.(we dont know about that person) my friends added me2the group&we made a plan2go out again to the mall the week after that.we met and started to walk together&stuff.Until my friends mother came and told her that a man (the person her father hired) took pics and videos of you with the boys (now, one of those guys likes my friend and he gave her a flower so I'm pretty sure thats what got the mans attention but he also took pics of all us i guess) anyways her mom told her that the man sent the pics and photos to her dad (her mom is ok with everything the problem is with her dad) (her dad is REALLY close to my dad) we all went home after that and i was freaking out cause if my dad finds out i will be dead. idk what to do I'm shaking right now and I'm just freaking out!!! i really need someone to calm me down. I'm only 13 i learned my lesson but my father is a really strict person idk what he might do and overtime i think about it my chest/heart aches please some one help me..

Question: Should I still consider seeing him?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 09:40 AM PST

I met a very handsome guy two weeks ago and we've been talking as friends. He hasn't asked me out we have just been talking. I met a woman a month ago that hangs out at the same local spot that we have drinks at and we've become friends. We were having a conversation about the last guys we dated and she was telling me how much of a loser the guy she broke up with 2 months ago was. She showed me a pic of him and come to find out it's the same guy I met 2 weeks ago. She said he was two-timing her with another woman and that they broke up because he stood her up. I found him funny and charismatic. He even has a great smile. I felt like God was sending me a message through this woman. Like I said him and I haven't gone out but we have talked just getting to know each other. Should I take her word for it and steer clear of this guy. I am attracted to him but he hasn't asked me out just calls and texts. Is it ok to go on a date with him?

Question: How to tell my mother in going to live with my father?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 09:35 AM PST

I m 14. After coming out as a bisexual male to my mother, she reacted badly. She got all emotional and kept asking me if I wanted to be a girl and that I m selfish. She said she gave birth to a boy not a girl. She said she doesn t want me living with her and to go live with my father. She wants to be alone. She then later apoligized for how she acted. But I still want to live with my father. How do I tell my mother I m going to live with my father when our house sells?

Question: I walked in to the front room and found a female sex toy. I just feel that its not normal for my mum to do this.?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 09:31 AM PST

Question: How to explain to 4 year old stepson why you call her by her name if she is your mom?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 09:05 AM PST

have a 4 year old step brother and he's wondering why if his mom is also my mom to why I don't call her mom and idk how to answer that. No I have no connection at all with my birth mom so there is no other mom in my life.

Question: I think my best friend is going to kill herself pleaaase help! I know it's long but can you help please?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 08:47 AM PST

We have been friends since we were two, and she has always been really happy and stuff even though her life was hard. But then this year, her mom let her dad move into their new house, and he had non stop yelled at her, her sister and her mom. After that her dad got fired. Then he got kidney stones and surgery that they couldn't pay for. And then he had an allergic reaction to some medicine and almost died. My friend is afraid they will lose their house because they don't get enough money and is even worried they won't get enough money for food and new clothes and stuff and will have to move back into their grandma's house. She's started cutting and even wrote a suicide letter. :(. I want to help but she's already seen a counselor, and it never helped, and I honestly agree. Also, she probably never forgive me if I told a counselor. Her mom already thinks that she's being a horrible mom, so if I told her, then she would've just thought she was being a worse mom. Her dad wouldn't even believe her and would just say it was attention. I really don't know what to do and I'm really scared someone please help me!

Question: My Daughter has sex?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 08:39 AM PST

She is 15 and I came home and found her having sex with her girlfriend what should I do about this if she can't get pregnant with her I know the parents of the other girl and she dosent have stds should I let her continue when I'm not there ?

Question: Mom causing me to be angry at in laws at holidays, what to do?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 08:25 AM PST

My mom is extremely immature and so is my grandma (her mom) despite them being elderly. My mom despises any female who dares to be in my life (she feels they are a threat). She brought up a fight last year, in which she bought groceries (paid half) for my annual Xmas party and my in laws decided not to come @ the last minute & instead visited their teen son's girlfriends family who live closer to them. My mom said she will never forgive them and said I said no family allowed at TG dinner due to me being angry at my mother in law about another matter. She refuses to stop talking about my in laws negatively and now I am angry and lashed out at my mother in law via phone the other day. What can I do to stop my moms anger at them from influencing me?

Question: Should I ghost my estranged brother?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 08:21 AM PST

So after him reaching out to me last year we were finally able to meet for lunch yesterday. The lunch went OK, he was very shy but not terribly so, however I did notice he kept upgrading his meal every time our waitress walked by. During lunch he asked what I had planned for the day and I told him a little bit of shopping, he asked if he could come to the mall with me and I agreed. So after being in the mall about 20 mins he walks up to me with 2 coats in his hands and is like "I don't want to be a brat but how much are you planning on spending on me? This coat is 60 and the other is 70". At that point I was completely taken aback because I had not promised him any shopping spree and told him I was not expecting to spend anything on him and asked if he had any money of his own, to which he responded "No". Immediately after that exchange I felt he was only there for some financial gain so I walked away and paid for my items and went to the car to cool down some before I spoke to him again. Around 10 mins later I called him and told him it was time to go home and if he needed a ride he should come outside of the mall. The ride to his place was quiet and we have not spoken since. What is your take on this situation?

Question: My boyfriend hates my mom?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 08:20 AM PST

My relationship with my mother has been on the rocks for the past few years; I'm dealing with the repercussions of her abuse and neglect from when I was a child. We talk occasionally, and I see her on rare occasions. Yesterday she called me and told me that she has Osteosarcoma. I was hesitant to tell my boyfriend, because he absolutely hates her. He doesn't really like my siblings, and doesn't like me talking to them. I finally ended up telling him (and crying in the process) and he started yelling at me (which only made me cry more). He said that if I was planning on getting involved in her "bullsh**" to leave him out of it. He went and slept in the guest room last night, and hasn't talked to me since. He said I shouldn't care if she lived or died because she was so cruel to me. My father is deceased and I love my mom despite what she's done. What do I do? I don't want my boyfriend to be mad at me, how can I help him to handle conflict better?

Question: My Family thinks im lying.?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 08:16 AM PST

last saturday i was supposed to work from 12 until 4. me and my sister got into an argument that day and she told me i could not leave the house. i tried to tell her i had to work but she got even more mad at me and sent e to my room for the entire day i could not leave for any reason. when my mom found out i didnt go to work she lost her ****. i told her that my sister would not let me go, but my sister came around and started calling me a liar. the whole family and even my girlfriend is now involved and they all believe her. i doont want to have to tell them what my sister is telling them because i might lose my girlfriend and alot of my friends. what should i do from here, and how can i talk to my sister?

Question: Why are they so spolied?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 07:40 AM PST

I am 53. I have bipolar and adhd, I have been beating my son and daughter with belts(more than once at a time) for 12 years, whenever they'd laugh, cry or bother me(speak to me). I would beat them in the face head and back 15 minutes to 30 minutes. I stopped a few months ago but they still get freaked out around me or if people have sudden movements around them. I have had them in online school for 11 years. They are 17 and 18, once I beat them for an hour straight. It was funny to me as I have bipolar. Why won't they get over it? People in the world have it worse than them.

Question: How to convince my mom I want a baby shower without my sister?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 07:36 AM PST

My mom is planning my baby shower. I was fine when she asked if my sister could have a small party at the same time. But now I am not. This is my first baby but my sister's third (and her third baby shower). The hall my mom picked only holds 50 people. We have about 10 family members coming. My sister is insisting that she has 35 people minimum that have to come for her and my mom agrees. These are not family members just friends. So with me, my sister, and mom I can invite 2 people tops. So my best friend and her daughter are it. My mom says it is fine because I'm not as "social" as my sister and I really only have a few friends. My friend has decided to plan a second baby shower for just my friends but my mom found out and said it was rude to my sister and insisting I cancel it because my sister is only getting one. I tried to explain it wasn't really a party, it was just a group of friends having dinner. She won't have it. It is always about my sister and what she wants. How can I convince her that I can have a secondary baby shower? I am the older sister but when she was little my sister was very sick so every one always wants to make sure she is happy. I won't get my sister behind me she can be very entitled but my dad even said my mom was being rediculous but he would never stand up to her. If I go and do this behind her back my mom will never get over it. She stills brings up the fact when I was little I slapped my sister and calls me Slugger when she is mad at me. I can assure you I do not live at home, that would be really sad for a married, 27 year old.

Question: How to explain to 4 year old stepson why you call her by her name if she is your mom?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 07:19 AM PST

have a 4 year old step brother and he's wondering why if she's my mom to why I don't call her mom and idk how to answer that

Question: I hate my abusive family but have to stay in contact with them, what to do?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 06:47 AM PST

I grew up in an abusive household and I finally moved out a year ago. I'm 21 at the moment at a top university but I'm still legally dependent upon them until I turn 24 so I have to stay in contact with my parents for financial purposes (like fafsa filing, insurance information, etc.). I've tried to apply as an independent but I'd need to be legally emancipated which is a process of at least a year and I can't afford to lose my academic scholarships by not being in school for a year. I hate them so much, for everything they've emotionally put me through. The physical and emotional abuse all gives me flashbacks. We can't have a single conversation without them yelling at me and calling me names like whore, slut, failure, etc.. I'm on psychiatric medication because of them but I can feel the positive effects reverse every time we communicate. Any advice on how I can better tolerate them, or how not to internalize the names they call me?

Question: How many clocks do you have in your house?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 06:31 AM PST

Question: If I don't see my dad's family at holidays but do the rest of the year do they still count as close family or will they think less of me?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 06:24 AM PST

I ASKED THIS EARLIER BUT ONLY GOT ONE ANSWER AND ONE JOKE ANSWER. My mother makes my dad to all holidays with her family she does not share the way most families do. I worry that as a result my cousins will think less of me and not think of me as part of the family since they don't see me on Christmas' and other holidays but they do see me the rest of the year. So does this make me less family then family that sees each other on's family holidays ? We live nearby so it's not like travel is a factor but it's purely my mom selfishness about only wanting to do her family

Question: I am going to my father's for Thanksgiving but I barely know him, how should I act?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 06:24 AM PST

He got remarried so he is sudden;y acting like he likes me. He never did want much to do with me before other then sending money at birthdays and xmas and my Mom says that was just because he had so much money he didn't know what to do with it. Suddenly he likes me. My Mom says it is just because he is impressing his new wife but I am a little hopeful. How should I act as I dont really know him. I am 16 and male

Question: How is this fair?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 06:20 AM PST

My name is Elizabeth. I am 28, I have never liked my younger cousin. Even when he was really young. He is 20 and doesn't work but gets money! I don't consider what he does working/ or a job. He plays guitar and sings. He works with a music manager, and his manager gets him shows he "works" 6 times a week, I pretended I cared and asked my cousin how much he gets paid per show. My cousin said normally he makes $115 per show! That is NOT fair! If I wanted to make $100 a day, I'd have to work 13 hours a day at my minimum wage job! Why does my cousin get paid for not working? How is this fair?

Question: Need a sensible answer to newborn family living arrangements Girlfriend shutting me out of my sons life?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 05:44 AM PST

Me and by gf are expecting a baby on the 7th of feb She s been talking about moving as she doesn t want to stay at home The problem being I agreed to move out as I didnt realise her maternity leave is only 12 weeks of 90 percent pay which we can just about afford She wants 7 months and to move out what she doesn t realise is that we would be 400 in debt so I ve said we cant afford for her to do 7 months and i strongly believe we should move out and be a family She now no longer wants to move out she wants to take her 7 months and stay at home with her parents My side of it is its not fair on me the father as i ll be missing so much of my sons life in that 7 months with me living at home and her living at her parents just because she wont take just 12 weeks Why dont you move in to her s and visa versa? her place is not an option and she also refuses to move into mine because she thinks that she will turn into her friend that never moved out and just stayed at her boyfriends nans I want to be part of my sons life from day one I want to come home and take over the duty of being a father and let her rest from looking after him all day and share the load basically be part of my sons life and bond with him She also wants to move somewhere that is within the area of her doctor and hospital which is out of the question with the house prices in that area and refuses to fill in a form to switch. I feel like im being pushed away, so any advice would be great. I understand that maternity is important, but 12 weeks is three months and is quite a long time when you have commitments. Her mother shouted at me saying she wants to bond with her baby so I said OUR baby and you think I don't?.. I feel like i'm being turned on. I've gone from being so excited to not excited at all Sorry for the poor punctuation, yahoo wouldn't let me post the question with them in.. Also I meant turned on as in turned against me, I realised how that would be read when i submitted it.

Question: I'm so confused! Does my dad abuse me?

Posted: 18 Nov 2016 05:28 AM PST

So he calls us stupid and when we try to tell him that we aren't stupid then he gets madder and pushes us. He also screams about nothing, and when I tried to tell him he was hurting me he punched a hole in the wall.