Family: Question: Since my mother doesn't love me do I have to love her?

Question: Since my mother doesn't love me do I have to love her?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 02:00 PM PST

She is incapable of love as she is a narcissist. She hasn't spoken to me in 6 years except two times at family gatherings. This is since I love my Dad and she wants us to hate him (she divorced him as he didn't reflect her glory). I think since I don't reflect her perceived glory she hates me. My sisters she loves because they worship her like a God and do all she says. They also have a different Dad so they don't associate with my Dad or theirs (their Dad was an alcoholic so is out of the picture). My Dad and I are close so I can't ever justify her complaints about him though he says he was not perfect either.

Question: My parents are super mad at me and canceled my birthday party for "committing" a theft "crime"?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 01:51 PM PST

Hi. I had recently found a phone at school and it was on the floor in the girl's locker room at school and I just picked it up but was too scared to tell anyone. So yesterday the police showed up and it was just my sister and I home and they were asking my sister questions then called me out there and was asking me questions about it and eventually I gave up and admitted I had the phone. They soon just asked for all me and my parents info and called my dad and told him everything. They also said stuff about school police too. But today nothing happened but at the end I had to go there and write down whatever happened etc and now I feel bad because I lied again but I instantly regret it but I plan to tell the truth if she just asks me, if its only me and the assistant because I have to go back to her the morning and talk to her again but I'm still scared of the police and my parents because they said that I might have to be removed from the household and put into some school when I already learned my lesson and to never do it again but I still don't know what to do anymore but I gave everything back and I hope the family forgives me and I don't feel like my parents love me anymore and are giving me my worst 13th birthday ever and they no longer love me and they said they no longer will ever trust me so I'm scared now and I wanna suicide myself because I don't wanna go to jail or this school and idk what to do anymore then to cry and hope I don't go there. Please help. If you have nothing good to say, don't say it at all

Question: What Should I do?HELP?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 01:46 PM PST

So Im 15,IM from Dallas Texas and I left at 10 years old. I left in 2-3 days with no reason given. So I had to cope to ALOT . I moved to Mexico with very little spanish and up to this day I struggle. I already spent 5 years through pain and struggles and I had enough. Ive missed my homeland and havent been theres since the day I left. Whats worst is I left because of my parents mistakes. Im trying to convince them to support my decision in studying in my home city Dallas. Now I have no support, each and one of my family members are real messed up so I have to face my problems on my own. Honestly my situation is so complicated and im just at loss. I want to study what people do in a American Highschool .My parents thinks Im having a rebel phase but it isnt,Ive been quiet about this for so long.WHAT SHOULD I DO. My parents are even more messed up,they are divorced and I live with my dad because my mom did not want a responsibility anymore and Im home alone with my dad most of the time. Theres more to my story but this is part of it.

Question: I hurt my little sister when angry?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 01:14 PM PST

When me and my little sister get into a fight, I usually will pinch her. Hard. I end up leaving marks on her when I do that, but I I regret it later. She yells at me and says i have anger management issues but when I'm angry at someone I just need to make them stop, and to do that I'll hurt them so they know how angry I am and it's basically a warning sign to back off. I just get so pissed off I need to hurt something. Do I have a problem?

Question: I got touched as a child!!?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 12:55 PM PST

As I child I was in year 2 or 3 and I went on the school bus, this boy kept touching me inappropriately and putting his hands down my pants and feeling my vagina. I told my parents and it was sorted out I still thought and think about it a lot even to this day. I asked my mum about what happened to the boy and if he was put on the sex offenders list or anything but she said he wasn't and that the school said it was a stupid mistake and they would sort it. My mum said she wished something more had happened looking back on it now. Should I just forget about everything and am i being over reactive? What do you think I should do about it all and why do I sometimes get really upset about it

Question: Is it right of my wife asks me to choose between her or my family? she already distanced me from friends and most family.?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 12:48 PM PST

Now my immediate family! Please help she is a jealous rage and feels that everyone is her enemy. Even me when she is mad!

Question: How do I get my mom to stop complaining?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 12:36 PM PST

She always complains about her job money and everything I know she is stressed but she yelled at me for complaining and it's rare when I do she even said that but she does every day do I seriously have to yell at her to? She stopped complaining when our dog ran away for a few days we got her back but she starts it again. She is a hypocrite..

Question: Isn't this a bit too harsh?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 12:30 PM PST

So my older brother and I are not on the best of terms and we do not get along at all, but unfortunately for me he's the head of the house. Not to mention a big asswipe. I mean, I'm just your usual 18-year-old guy, not too high on the drugs and pimps and sh!t. To cut to the point, he saw one of my GameStop receipts from like 2 months ago and saw that I'd bought a $50 game and practically exploded. Locked up the family computer, changed the WiFi password, and almost even took my PS4 away. I don't get this at all, especially when I bought said game with MY own money on MY own decision. I'm hitting rock bottom because I got booted from my job a month ago, but I bought the game back when I had over $800~.

Question: If I don't see my dad's family had holidays but do the rest of the year do they still count as close family or will they think less of me?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 12:24 PM PST

My mother makes my dad to all holidays with her family she does not share the way most families do. I worry that as a result my cousins will think less of me and not think of me as part of the family since they don't see me on Christmas' and other holidays but they do see me the rest of the year. So does this make me less family then family that sees each other on's family holidays ? We live nearby so it's not like travel is a factor but it's purely my mom selfishness about only wanting to do her family

Question: Do you love all your kids the same?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 12:09 PM PST

Question: How do I tell my parents I don't beleive in Santa?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 12:03 PM PST

I'm 12. I have 2 younger brothers. I dont beleive in Santa.. I don't know how to tell my parents though... Does anyone know how I can say it, without disappointing them..?

Question: Why won't they get it over it?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 11:42 AM PST

I am 53. I have bipolar and adhd, I have been beating my son and daughter with belts(more than once at a time) for 12 years, whenever they'd laugh, cry or bother me(speak to me). I would beat them in the face head and back 15 minutes to 30 minutes. I stopped a few months ago but they still get freaked out around me or if people have sudden movements around them. I have had them in online school for 11 years. They are 17 and 18, once I beat them for an hour straight. It was funny to me as I have bipolar. Why won't they get over it? People in the world have it worse than them.

Question: I'm not sure if I should let my kids go to their dads house for visitation.?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 11:37 AM PST

My ex is actually he step dad of two out of three of my kids. He is the only dad they have known. We are in the middle of a custody battle over the one we share.. He chose not to see the older tow for 2 months. And is now sayin he can only take the older two when he doesn't have the youngest. ( alternating weekends). He is purposely tryin to Pull them apart.. The first time he had them in 2 months they came home upset because he has bad mouthed me and poured a lot of adult steer on them.. I don't know if I should allow them to go or not.. With how he is insisting visitation be it makes it so the kids are together mon-fri, every other week! Now he is taking their weekends away too and upsetting them with a bunch of other ****.... I don't know what to do

Question: Aunt thinks I'm only going to my great aunts funeral to get out of school?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 11:36 AM PST

I'm 15 and fckn upset and angry that my ***** aunt (she's a 'social worker' but she strangled, hit us when we were younger and in conclusion a total ****) thinks I am only going to my great aunts funeral to get out of school. Hmm 😒I am no longer allowed to get my £50 xmas present from her (who gives a fckn **** about that for one, I'm still going, it's my great aunt) because I'm going to her funeral, what she doesn't seem to get in her thick head is that I want to say goodbye to her body and my great uncle as it would be the last time I will see him. He also asked for me to be there as I have been going to their mansion every year with my gran and grandpa since I was 7. Get this my aunt has never seen her before in her life meanwhile I get regular letters from my great aunt (who passed) and have met up with her n her family for fireworks in her hometown. How should I go about this? I am definitely going I couldn't care less what she says I can't have or takes away it's my great aunts fckn funeral ffs. I know she's is going to act up at the funeral when she sees me she's always like that to try n attract attention to herself because everyone basically knows she's a cow (sorry lost all respect when she tried to punch my eldest sister in the stomach when she said she was pregnant) My mum also says I shouldn't go either basically because she is afraid of going against her sister. What do you think of this situation?

Question: Since my brothers dont like me how can I get them to?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 11:23 AM PST

They find me different and are uncomfortable with my father (we have different fathers)

Question: My mom is paranoid & went into hiding...?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 11:20 AM PST

Brief history: I'm 41 with a family of my own. My dad was always the dreaded discipliner growing up. By all standards he was abusive (physically & mentally) My parents got in a big fight about 15 years ago which got my mother put in jail & ultimately ended their 27 year marriage. She fought back for the first time in her life. My mom never got over it. My dad has moved on, has remarried/divorced twice, and currently on wife #4. Now to current: "something" told my mom that her life is in danger & that my dad is suddenly out to kill her. (Completely false & paranoid mindset). So my mom turned off all communication. "Something" told her to give away all of her stuff: bed, furniture, towels, even car so she couldn't be traced, and move to an undisclosed location. My aunt (her sister) is the only one who knows where she is. My aunt can't/won't tell anyone where she is out of fear of being cut off too. My mom clearly has a mental issue going on, but I don't know if there's anything I can legally do to get her help. I've considered Adult Protective Services for "self neglect", but I only know what city she's in. I don't have her address. Any ideas out there. Only serious replies, please. I'm really worried about her health - mental & physical.

Question: I haven't had motivation for school in years and I don't know what to do?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 11:13 AM PST

Ever since 7th grade and learning useless stuff, my educational life has gone down the toilet. My insomnia has gotten worse. I stopped going to my dyslexia classes. I have no motivation to study. My mother tries to make me do better by taking away phones and tablets but you can't force a person to do what they aren't interested in. Yeah I understand "college" and "getting a good job." I personally don't care about that. My mom puts me down and is so judgemental. My cousins don't wanna visit me because of her, and my cousin's are like my bestfriends. My mom is always OVER-concerned with my education. I have been doing bad for 3 years and maybe she tries to ignore it. Some days I'm up but she always bring me down to where I hate everything about myself and I feel like I'm nothing or noone important. I confessed to her I was suicidal once and she felt bad but now still treats me like crap.....Please give me advice because I'm honestly so tired. LEGALLY I'M NOT ABLE TO REALLY SUPPORT MYSELF. I'M NOT NOT CONSIDERED AN ADULT TO MY STATE. Be smart here...if I'm still in school that means I don't have a diploma yet, so what great job pays so well without a diploma that you can support yourself under the age of 18? I'm not even legally able to own anything in my name. I hope YOUR mother is happy she raised such an *** who talks crap online. nice try! :)

Question: How do I get my mother to stop controlling me and who I have a relationship with?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 11:10 AM PST

I am 31 so not a kid and out living on my own I am refering to friendships and family relationships so Non-romantic friendships. She is very opinionated and gets bugged when I see friends she dislikes or family members she dislikes. She only likes people she feels like her. Her mother is the same way.

Question: Brother issues?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 11:00 AM PST

So my brother and I are 19, both have steady jobs, and in my mind things should be going well. I'm the only one of the two with a license right now (he couldn't get his because his eyeglass prescription was way bad) so obviously I do all the driving between the two of us. But ever since I got my license and started driving and stuff, my brothers become almost angry with me. I take him out to get things he needs, and he argues about where to go. I offer to help pay for a gift for our father and he freaks out on me. It's especially bad when I go to offer to do something for my parents that require I leave the house. It's almost like he's jealous, but he won't practice driving to get his license or tell anyone why he's so angry. I don't know what to do. I've tried talking to him, to our parents, to his friends and no one knows why he's so mad at me or why he's acting this way. What can I do about this situation?

Question: My sister always think shes right?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 10:58 AM PST

Yesterday me and my sister got into an argument because of this she told me I couldn't go into the basement which I left my backpack down there. I tried to tell her that it was down there but she didn't even let me finish and she handed me my backpack from last year and told me that I needed to do homework. Today I asked her if o could get my backpack from the basement. She said oh so you've been in the basement without my ******* permission! I've tried to tell er everything she wont consider other possibilities or listen. What should I do?

Question: My Mom hates me ��?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 10:53 AM PST

Whenever i cry on things and tells her my problem she says me to stop crying. So she makea me cry more by saying that i am making her peace disturbing (whateva u say) she say that i am the one who have made her life worse.. Instead of loving me or relaxing me when i am crying.. she makes me extra worry and extra cry. I hate her for that.. she always always says me that i have made her life full of worries and disturbing 😢 :( today she even didnt care if i am eatinf meal or not otherwise she give me and emphazie me to eat because she knows my health is at loss.. and she fears that i will make her the one becuz my health is at loss. But today without even thinking she go to sleep. I dont know what was my mistake.. all i did was i shared my problem woth her and cried.. she really never loves me.. she buys me cloths and stuff and give me money but note love.. but i love my mom so much and she only thing that i do everything which makes her life worse.. she says all to my face.. Shw dont now care.. if i am crying or anything :(

Question: Where did I go wrong?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 10:46 AM PST

I've been seeing two crazy women for the past 6 months. I like them both but they found out about each other about 4 months ago and it's been crazy ever since. Lisa, has gotten mad and thrown a drink on me on two separate occasions. She has shown up where me and Jessica were on a date and started a fight with me. She punched me in the face and stayed outside stalking us until we left. Then on another occasion Lisa saw me hanging out with friends and got mad because I didn't want to be with her that night. She tried to run me off the road then she cut up some shirts I left at her place and threw them across my front gate. They've both gone threw my phone and gotten each others phone numbers. Then they started calling and texting each other telling each one whenever I was with the other. Lisa started sending Jessica a call log of every time I called her. Last week I stood up Jessica to go be Lisa. Jessica send me a dozen really angry text message and then when I left Lisa's house in the morning all of the tires where slashed on the car. Jessica insist that she didn't do it that maybe Lisa did it she's always been violent. I was with Lisa at the time so I don't know when she could've done it unless she had someone else do it. Jessica claims Lisa is trying to turn me against her. For now I'm refusing to see either of them because I don't trust them. Who should I trust? They've both snooped through my things and now my car is damaged.

Question: Are my first cousins 50 percent blood to me yes or no ?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 10:34 AM PST

Question: I love my son?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 09:28 AM PST

As a single mom raising a son we are closer than anything in the world. My son had always been a sweetheart but he said something the other day that got me concerned. Write were watching something the other day on TV about the a Donner Party and my son said he would let me eat him if I was hungry enough. I thought it was adorable at the time but is istill it normal for a boy to be that submissive to his mom?

Question: Can both my self and my brother be on the POA for my mother ?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 09:07 AM PST

Question: Should I let my daughter smoke weed?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 08:32 AM PST

So my daughter is 17, intelligent, and is a well rounded, socially mature girl. Her grades aren't perfect but her achievements in school have landed her scholarships to the school she wants to attend. She also competes and places in Business and Leadership competitions as well as plays volleyball. Our issue is that since moving to Florida she has started smoking pot. We were not aware for 3 years and found out recently. We have restricted her freedom completely as to try to limit time she could be smoking which does not go over well with my extremely independent daughter. It has caused many issues in our home to the point that she has left our house due to us saying if you don't want to follow our rules you can leave. I just wanted to get some outside opinions on the situation to see if I'm overreacting and i should focus on a relationship with my daughter instead.

Question: Is my stepmom a sociopath?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 08:26 AM PST

Ok she wakes me up at 4 o clock in the morning and expects me to clean up after her. She punches me and says things to make me feel bad about myself. She calls me a retard and tells me i will never do anything that is successful. Though she sleeps all day doesn't clean house or cook, if she cooks she forgets about it and lets it burn over and expects me to clean up her messes. then she tells my dad i am lying about her or she makes huffing and puffing sounds and puckers up her lips. when i moved out she hid my horse's papers which he was giving to me. and she kept saying she gave the papers to me. ( i know its not a legal ownership thing but he is in my name) I would like the papers. Also i was planning on going to the house to get some of my stuff but then i changed plans and she took everything out of my room and started painting my walls and she took a picture of it and sent it too me, like she was trying to punish me. She "brainwashed" my dad into believing her and he doesn't understand why i left in the first place he blamed it on my mother's side why i left but i was chased out of my own home which i lived over 18 years and she lived their 10 years. I believe she is gonna do something to me when i am older. She had something against me and my sister. She is manipulated my sister and started to suck up to her. She made me sound crazy to the med doctor like i was hearing voices (because i talk to myself to figure out what i need to do next) so she wanted me to get on risperodone which happened and it made me gain over 80 lbs and she started to call me fat, and that just put me into depression and i started to binge eat and then got put on and anti-depressant. Until i couldn't take it anymore so i left. During when i was first put on meds i was always interupted by my step mother so when i tried to tell him that she was crazy she was like also this... or that... and now i am trying to loose wait but it going away very slowly.

Question: Drop out at young age working +40 hours at mcdonalds and sleeping on my friends couch, how do i get out of this situation for a better life.?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 08:19 AM PST

16 years old, lived with parents that where drug addicts so i moved with my cousin and dropped out im sleeping on there couch and i am currently working on getting my ged, what can i do for myself to gain a better future.

Question: How to tell that my best friend is lying or not?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 08:16 AM PST

Hi and thanks for reading, We both are boys. Now this is what happened recently. We were studying for our O Levels, just days before the physics exam ( The subject we take tution at my home , Only Us ). We took an Overnight, my whole family was sleeping in the next room which doors locked but my sister's room was left open so we could use the bath room. after the overnight, we and the teacher both slept on the sofaa that night. both the teacher and he left at morning.After a few hours, my sister came screaming that her Hard drive is missing. That hard drive was left open connected to the Computer in her room that night ( I saw it ). I went to his house afterwards and asked him about the hard drive, he said that he did not and search the whole house if i dont believe him. but his eyes were looking somewhere else when he told me.i said that i will forgive him if he hand over the hard drive now. I searched but no where to be found. i made him swear. After what happened. The hard drive was never found . i still suspect him cuz the first question he asked was whether it was my hard drive or not. (Another reason to suspect him is that Few months ago, He stole my laptop but he got busted by me when i came into his house undercover. He made up some stories and then spilled the beans. just before he got busted i asked him whether he had my laptop or not , the answer he gave was ' Do you suspect me to have your laptop? ' in a unfriendly voice. ). thats all. Thanks4Reading!Any Q Askme!

Question: Why do people hate me for no reason?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 07:48 AM PST

we have a new department manager at work that for some reason never seems to like me. She's always narky towards me and shouts at me in front of customers for things I didn't even do. She's always extremely friendly towards others but always hostile to me. She's only been here for 2 weeks and already she hates me for no reason. She won't fire me but she seems to do it just to piss me off.

Question: How do I change my name?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 07:32 AM PST

Question: I do nothing but lay around. my life is ruined?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 07:25 AM PST

i was diagnosed 6 months ago with breast cancer stage 3 at 37 years old. had surgery to have the tumor removed. it has ruined my life! i literally do nothing but work my 4 hr shift at night. i constantly throughout the day fight off panic attacks. i am getting where i go nowhere and when i do i have to be close to my house because i am afraid of having another one. its unfair to my 9 year old ( i am a single mom) but i am doing all i can. my day consists of struggling to get up at 8 am to run my son to school, come home and lay on the couch and watch tv or youtube til 3 pm. go get my son and come back home and lay on the couch doing the same til 6 pm. go to work from 630-1030 pm, come home lay on the couch watching videos til 3 am or so then go to bed and get up and do it all over again. i am not lazy, i am just to the point i am afaid i will get somewhere and cant breath etc. cancer has ruined my life. any advice?

Question: I hv strict parents,they don t allow me out of the hse @ all.I tried talking 2 them but they won t listen & will get angry w me. Wat do I do?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 07:16 AM PST

Question: How is the silent treatment from parents a punishment?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 07:15 AM PST

My friends parents give them the silent treatment when they do something really bad. I would take full advantage of that. I would not do chores, eat all the cookies in the house, stay out as late as I want, and when I fail tests just leave it on the table for them to sign, and stay up as late as I want. They can't punish me if they do not say anything

Question: How is the silent treatment from parents a punishment?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 07:15 AM PST

My friends parents give them the silent treatment when they do something really bad. I would take full advantage of that. I would not do chores, eat all the cookies in the house, stay out as late as I want, and when I fail tests just leave it on the table for them to sign, and stay up as late as I want. They can't punish me if they do not say anything

Question: How to deal with public criticism towards parents?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 07:06 AM PST

My father was recently in the news about a study he had conducted. After the news was published, there were comments posted on those websites that questioned the competence of both my dad and the study itself, not many comments but still... He wasn't the only one who worked hard on that study, and I'm very proud of him. It's just that people who don't know enough about the whole thing come to criticize that work make me sad. Might be stupid but I'm not used to publicity. The problem is, how do I deal with that?

Question: Do children really need a sweltering hot room?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 07:00 AM PST

my mom thinks my nephews/nieces (who range in age from 6 months to 6 years old) must have the fire on full blast and the windows closed when they come round which would make the room about 28C+. Do babies/young children really need a room this hot? Surely they aren't that fragile? Do kids even need a hotter environment than adults at all? this goes beyond a warm environment, she seems to think kids need an exrtremely warm environment one that makes me uncomfortable hot

Question: My mom is not talking to my dad? help.?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 06:58 AM PST

So my mom hasnt talked to my dad for almost 8 monthes for some reason, we have had our ups and down as a family ofcourse but she has so much pride that she thinks everytime she is right. and it is only me hurting at this point because i have two brothers and one of them studies in other state and the other one is barely at home. i dont really know what to do right now, my dad has tried to talk to her several time and she wont talk back or she just answers rudely. please help. i cant concentrate in my school works i think more than i should and im getting depressed please...

Question: My mother emotionally abused me as a child but I don't think she realized she was abusing me. How might I forgive her?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 06:55 AM PST

She used me as a pawn in her divorce from my dad and told me that my dad didn't want to be my dad and didn't have love for any of us kids. Even if this were true it would be a horrible thing to say. But it was not true and he got close to us as teenagers. This caused me great anxiety about relationships and trust to this day so I resent my mother for that even though she was understandably hurt getting divorced. How do I forgive her when she has never shown remorse and even defend some of what she did? I don't want to hate her the rest of my life as she otherwise was a perfectly protective mother.

Question: Tips for running away?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 06:51 AM PST

im 14, im running away for probably on 24 hours because i need to get away from my emotionall abusive mom who just found out how bad my grades are, im terrified of her. im wearing ripped jeans (the style) a shirt and jacket and i have my bag with phone charge money snacks and my ukulele and a stuffed animal just for extra stuff. oh and i also have a hairbrush. again it will only be one day. i live in a big city btw. i just need a break and i need my mom to get a break otherwise i dont know whats going to happen to me, shes already going ballistic im at school now and after i get out im running to another neighbourhood quick so she wont find me then im gonna figure out what to do til tomorrow shes already called me every name in the book (with the f word added) and told me to drop dead. i have to run away so dont tell me not to. i just need advice from people whove done this before.

Question: Are they allowed to do this?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 06:50 AM PST

My cousins parents have messed up minds. They're forcing my cousin to lose weight until he gets down to 49kg but he doesn't want to lose any. He weighs 56kg and he is 5'7 his parents think anything other than 49kg is overweight. Why are they allowed to do this?

Question: Got into an argument with mom. What should I do??

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 06:45 AM PST

So last night I went up to my mom and asked her what he thought about me being a cable technician for a company and she flat out said she thinks that I can't do it because the more technical a job is the more it's going to be hard for me. That really pissed me off. I'm not stupid and my parents seem to think I can't even wipe my own ***. She says I'm trying to go for the big money jobs and I told her I'm not trying to do that, but even if I was what's wrong with that? I don't wanna be making 11 dollars an hour for the next few years. So I'm gonna do whatever I can to advance myself and get more pay. The thing is I have a bad work history and haven't stayed on jobs for long, but that has nothing to do with my ability to do the work. My laziness is what got me in this position that I'm now. That's it. She says that we have limitations and need to know my limit. Well I don't believe in limiting myself, telling myself I can't do something. She may like that but not me. If a dyslexic kid can earn a doctorate degree then I can be a damn cable tech if I want to. She never tried to see my point of view. She is just trying to keep my in this box and I refuse to stay that way. You'll never grow if you don't get out of your comfort zone and experience things. I just realized how different I am from my mom and dad. True success comes with sacrifice and long nights and hours, but she just thinks I'm some naive kid that doesn't know anything.My parents are a sickness.

Question: Can my mom still attempt to do this with me in college?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 06:42 AM PST

I'm 19, a sophomore on full academic scholarship to college, and commute from home because of money. My mom mostly lets me do my own thing but I still have a few fair rules like picking up after myself, doing some work around the house, safety issues, being honest and respectful, etc. I was talking to a boy I met online and I gave out my picture and contact information, big no-nos when I was a teen. Mom happened to come into the room, saw what I was doing and asked me about it. I don't know if she really would have made a BIG deal out of it now that I'm 19 but I panicked and tried to lie to her, making up a hairbrained story about how I wasnt doing what it was clear I was doing on the screen. She quickly caught me in the and was mad both about the inernet safety and even FAR moreseo my lying to her. In fairness, that's fair of her. But then what came next..... She grounded me. When I protested she said her house, her rules.....and that while I have VERY few rules these days because of my age, as long as I live here she has the right to enforce the rules she does have. Is this normal? Is there anything I can do? Is she being unreasonable? My mom's always (justifiably been big on lying). But still a grounding at my age? She's trying to take away my phone, no going out, no friends over, just school and work......... Lon---so accept the grounding?

Question: I hate myself for having a big heart for people?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 06:41 AM PST

my very close friend (she s 50 and I am 18) she s been an adult role model and close personal friend mine. She called to check up @ Of course she asked how I was, if I was okay etc.. then she started skipping around subjects talking about her family, troubles, problems occurring, stories of when she was little, about how she misses her parents etc. her procedure. it was a great long talk, I listened and gave her all my attention. I understand people need to vent or need advice but why come to me? That day I sent her flowers to show my love and support. It s been stressing me seeing her go through so much, I want her to be alright and have great health. She s always so supportive to me. We both always send encouraging texts, she s always liking all of my social media posts, we send inspirational stuff to each other, etc.. We re very close. She s a very blunt lady and will tell you like it is. She s always giving me compliments, telling me how amazing I am, so I take it to heart. But she s never really said if I ve helped her. I do all things with love and expect nothing in return but I wish I knew if I was a help to her or if I am doing something good. Sometimes I feel useless like I ve done nothing good for her. Do you think I ve helped? Ive started to feel embarrassed inside, like I m being TO loving or caring and I feel she isn t liking it. So I ve been quiet lately and haven t talked to her much, save myself more embarrassment. It s confusing.

Question: Family start fights at holidays, lost temper with my mom, right or wrong?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 06:13 AM PST

I believe my adoptive mom has emotional problems. She is in her late 60s and she and my grandma (mid 90s) start fights every holiday season. My husband and I bought all the groceries for TG dinner and she had said they were coming, then she said they were not, then she said they were. She does this every year and brings up some fight from years ago (that she caused). This year she said "we are not coming because last year you said you are tired of our drama and are not having family over this year" we were kind enough to invite them and buy the food of course, and last night I screamed @ her and told her that I am sick of her fights and at the last minute deciding she is coming for dinner (what she always does) so that all eyes are on her. I also used foul language @ her because I had finally gotten to my breaking point with her antics. She kept telling my grandma she was taking her to the shelter to "eat dinner with the homeless". She will do anything for attention, even holding grudges against my in laws and refusing to visit with family. Was I wrong for lashing out at her?

Question: My mom wants to have sex. but her husband died. and i'm the only one with penis. how can i fix this?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 06:04 AM PST

Question: Who was in the wrong?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 05:17 AM PST

My friends mother started calling me ugly(I'm not female) I told her "Why are you talking about yourself like that?" She said. "Are you f*cking retarded? I am talking about you." I said "Ha. You must be talking about yourself again." She is 52 she tried hitting me but I pushed her away. She has bipolar. Is this normal? Who was in the wrong? So what if someone is older than you? You shouldn't have to put up with it if they're saying stuff to you to your face and if they started it for no reason.

Question: My older sister was messy, but she redeemed herself?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 05:01 AM PST

But shouldn't she know better to clean up her own mess after sleeping in my room, I'm almost 14 and she's about to be 20.

Question: I hit my little brother and I feel awful. What can I do?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 04:47 AM PST

I'm 15 (male). About a year ago, my mother left our family and moved to another state so it's just me, my dad and my 7 year old brother. Since my dad is working most of the time, I'm pretty much in charge of raising my little brother. I make his breakfast, do his laundry, help him study, tell him when to go to bed, things like that. I love him and our relationship is usually great. But today I lost my temper with him. He was supposed to take out the garbage and do some other chores, and I told him about it three times, but he kept playing on his computer. When I told him to do what I said once more, he told me to "f*** off". I lost my temper and hit him in the head really hard and he started to cry. He is not talking to me. I feel terrible, I know I was out of line. Should I apologize to my brother? Or tell my dad about it? How can I make sure this doesn't happen again?

Question: How do I get my mother to see how much she is hurting me?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 04:36 AM PST

She won't let me see my cousins because she is mad at her siblings. They had a fight after my grandmother died. I am only 15 so can't go on my own. It makes me mad at my Mom for the first time in my life (other then little fits of 10 minutes like all kids). She has always had a personality where someone is either really good or really bad and nothing in the middle. She now labels two of her siblings really bad. The only one we can see is the one with no kids.

Question: My mother emotionally abused me as a kid. She is old and terminally ill now. How can I teach myself to have some compassion on her?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 04:29 AM PST

I'd hate to think I go to her funeral feeling glad.

Question: How do I convince my parents to not make me walk at highschool graduation?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 04:01 AM PST

I'm home schooled thru a program and they let you decide if you want to walk or not. I don't want to because I don't know anyone there and to go to the place to graduate is 2 hours away from where we live. Also I have really bad social anxiety; I get panic attacks just thinking about talk in front of people. I just want a small party with family and I'll even do professional pictures for it. I'm having trouble convincing them, what should I do?

Question: My dad tried to kill me?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 01:31 AM PST

So this happened everyday but today I was home by myself and my dad came home. He knocked on the door but I was watching a video so I opened it looked at him and went back into the room to pause my video and I came back out. He asked me who else was home so o said no one then he got mad and said I was lying and if someone was in my room he was going to kill me. He was pretty drunk but that s no excuse so then he demanded that I do the dishes so I did ten he would always stop me to call me a dumb ***** et . because I listen to kpop and not black coloured music (I m not black he is ) he would find a reason to diss me and say great men died for you to do this . so I ignored him. Then he asks if anyone was home again and again and again and I said no every time so my mom called and he told her how I did nothing he said to do which was a lie and I was telling he the truth when he jacked me up in a corner and punched me in my back and I couldn t breathe but he kept hitting me and punching me but when he blistered his knuckles from missing me he picked up the broom and started beating me eventually the broom broke and he didn t care so he went for a knife and started swinging it at me telling me to tell my mom I was lying . myom came home and he started crying saying all he does is care for his family that kind of bullshit. This has been happening since o was two...... Help me please tell me what to do. If in in my room he comes and bangs on it just to tourment me

Question: How do i tell my close ones that i really want to die?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 01:03 AM PST

Question: I feel like taking my life..?

Posted: 17 Nov 2016 12:18 AM PST

So I'm 17 & I did something that really upset my parents and my grandpa and I regret it so much, my parents are threatening me to leave the house because they're tired of me apologizing to them for doing wrong. I regret what I did, I really do, and I've sobbed for hours and prayed to God so many times explaining what I did and asked him for forgiveness and for my parents to give me another chance because I've truly learned from today and I will never do it ever again and it's final. My grandpa forgives me and he spoke to my Dad about it, I listened in on their conversation and I heard my grandpa say "Son, Just talk to him well, maybe he'll understand" and my Mom goes "I want her to leave, I'm tired of dealing with her, when I come home I don't want to see her again." I broke down in tears after I heard that, I thought to myself, "Mom doesn't want to see my anymore, maybe.. I'll just take my life, she wanted me gone right? She's so tired of me that I'm no use to her anymore." Now I'm just here alone and just thinking about what my mom said and thinking about If I would want to take my life right now. My grandpa told me that he was going to speak to my Mom when she got home and I know that my mom will just ignore him and kick me out anyway. Can anybody...please help me? This maybe me last post I'm going to post on here because I just feel so helpless and lost and I keep worrying that when my mom gets home, she'll just kick me out.

Question: Who is your daddy and what does he do?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 11:42 PM PST

Question: My moms boyfriend, what should I do?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 11:34 PM PST

I was on my mom's boyfriends boat and I leaned over, my glasses fell off in the water and I asked if I could get them and he said I'd have to take all my clothes off to get them because he didn't want me getting into his car with wet clothes. I was so panicked that I wouldn't get my glasses back that I finally did and he handed me a towel when I got back in, seeing me totally naked. he said something to my mom that I had to go "skinny dipping for my glasses" and she just laughed it off. I'm a girl and was super embarrassed by it, should I just forget about it?

Question: Stay and keep my job or leave on vacation with family?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 11:20 PM PST

So im 18 and I just started college, as you know it can get a bit pricey. So my mom hounds me to start getting a job asap, even threatens to take my car. So i look for weeks and i finally get a job at forever 21, a seasonal position that can very well turn into a permanent part time, and god knows we need the money. But the dilemna is that a few members of my family are going to mexico to spread my recently deceased aunt's ashes. This trip would take about 7-10 days, and would make a horrible impression and might even have me lose the job I had just earned. Im stuck whether to go on this trip and lose the job I just earned or to go with my family, please help! Thoughts?

Question: 19yo, My mother betrayed me, I am now alone and lost for words?

Posted: 16 Nov 2016 11:17 PM PST

My parents have been in an un-happy marriage for my whole life. As of 2011, they are legally separated but my dad is still present in the house. This has emotionally ruined me and my sisters. My mom since the 90's has had conflict with my fathers family, they used to make petty comments to her and cross the line. My dad never defended her which was crucial in their relationship. She always bottled in it, until few years ago when things got bad. I always maintained a healthy relationship with them because I love my cousins, while showing loyalty to my mother mostly. I got into a fight with my mother, and made a comment that her "in laws" have commonly said to her, and she responded by sending every negative text message I said about my aunts to them even though my mom and Aunts do not talk. My aunts no longer are communicating with me as much, they are mad, and now I feel betrayed and lost for words. I don't even know what to do. I'm 19 years old in college and I feel like running away. I feel like I have nobody. **she said her reasoning for doing this, was because I used to run back and tell them our issues. I was 11 years old when I did this. They asked me first and sided with me. I had no type of sense of this was an unloyal act, and have not done it in ages.**