Family: Question: Can my parents take away my room for something stupid??

Question: Can my parents take away my room for something stupid??

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 02:17 PM PST

Well my parents are super religious and I am gay... so you can guess the arguments that happen. I am old enough to respect their religion and understand why they get mad at certain things " if they believe in heaven and hell and what their child is doing will result in hell according to their religion" I understand that. But they treat me like a horrible person. I'm in a long distance relationship with my gf and she live 1 hour away. With them being all religious she can't come over they won't take me to her. Btw I'm in my first yr of college. I have no job yet because I wanted to see how easy and hard my first yr would be before I took on school and a job... it's going good I have straight A's it's fun. But I have left the house to go see her once fore my birthday and another for thanksgiving... because of my sexuality I never allowed to anywhere... they treat me differently ... my brothers and sisters can get pregnant at 16 and catch std's,smoke weed, bring beer in the house but I'm always in trouble for having a gf. I literally do nothing but have a gf. But I just got told they are giving my room away because I'm nasty. I know their house there rules but the consequences of their house is hipocritcal my brother left many times he never had to sleep on the coach .... idk what to do or say to them???

Question: How can I get my family to stop nagging me?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 02:16 PM PST

I'm not much of a socialising person. I enjoy peace and quiet in the safety of my room. Yeah, I know I'm quite stubborn and incomprehensible, but I don't do anything bad. I constantly get good grades, and I hardly drink or party. ****, I hardly go out with friends. Yet, despite I'm not causing any harm, my parents keep nagging me. Telling me I should be like this person, or I should look like this, or do that, etc. They want me to change who I am for their own benefit, not mine. I don't gain anything through these changes, nor do I want to become them. How do I stop my family from annoying me so much, and to stop forcing me to do things I don't enjoy? (My parents aren't understanding folks. Once they have an opinion on something, they never usually change it.)

Question: Eloping at 18 with a Marine?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 02:12 PM PST

I turned 18 this past October and am a freshman in college. While at college I tried 3 drugs for the first time along with testing other boundaries and going a little crazy with my freedom. I settled down tho and am trying to achieve my dreams. I am doing well in school (mostly As, one B). During a visit to San Diego to see my older brother, I told him about how I had tried cocaine along with marijuana and adderall. The following week (this past weekend) I traveled to spend Thanksgiving with my family, at which he told my parents about how I had done cocaine. I stress that I TRIED the drug, I do not have a problem with any drug or alcohol abuse. My parents were extremely upset and wanted me to go home immediately with them, however my father convinced my mother to let me go back to school to finish the semester. Basically I have two weeks to figure out if I can support myself, or if I will go home and live with my parents again (likely with very strict rules) All while this has been going on, a guy who I went to high school (who is currently in the Marine Corps) with and I reconnected and both have fallen in love with each other. I was planning on seeing him over my christmas break when we both went back to our home town. We have talked about marriage and part of me was excited about the idea, and the other part was logical, thinking I should wait. Since everything has fallen apart he asked me if I wanted to run off and elope with him. So what do you think I should do? I've known him since my freshman year, his sophomore, but we began our relationship this past July when we began talking again. He is 20

Question: Parents might be having a break!!?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 02:06 PM PST

yesterday everyone went to bed it was on a weekend and i hear my dad whispering so i get up by my bedroom ( my bedroom door is right beside my parents bedroom door so I get up by there door. I hear my dad really mad at my mom "private messaging" my dad with his voice low so he would not wake us up but he was really mad and my mom crying ( he was not abusing or punching anything) but then i heard my dad say "we should have a break" and right when i heard that I cried and he also said he did not "trust my mom" I know that was none of my business hearing that I wish I did not. right now in am at my grandmas she picked me and my sister up when they were both working and they just came here they are not talking to eachother she is just talking to my mom and my dad talking to my grandpa I really don't want them to divorce

Question: My little brother and little sister are... HELP!!?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 01:58 PM PST

Well i dont want to name my name here so ill just say my name is Matt. I am 16 years old and my little brother is 12 and little sister also 12 (they're twins). Well i always tought they had feelings towards eachother as it was so obvious how they were acting. And sometimes i would call them downstairs for dinner or something and i hear their bed creak really loud as if i spooked them. And they yell in a like scared voice that they are coming. The biggest shock of my life was when i saw them humping eachother ( i dont know if it was sex or if they were humping eachother, anyways they had no clothes on which is very wrong) and they were 10 at this moment. need help guys should i tell my parents because maybe this will get out of hand.

Question: Am I being paranoid; Advice pls !!?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 01:57 PM PST

So lately I've been noticing that my sister is being sneaky and secretive for quite a while. Weeks ago, I saw that she bought very sexy underwear and even corsets. She Skypes late at night I think every night, I'm not sure why. She used to wear raggy clothes as home clothes but now she wears home clothes that show skin like shorts shorts & a cami. All this started happening one after the other. Then she got caught hiding her bf whom she was secretly dating for 6 months in the basement. She lied about being in her friends house when she was in the basement with him instead. My parents dont restrict us frm having a bf so I'm confused as to why she would hide it. I knew something was going on cause I sensed it. After that, she was normal for a bit. But now i sense it again. Yesterday afternoon, I woke up from a nap, from hearing a bed move like people were having sex, to find out that my parents had gone out. I gently walk to the living room where her room is & sit quietly to try to hear although the tv was on. She was skyping someone but didn't speak to much. When she did, it was in excitement or in shock. Then i heard my parents car parking & she heard it too. She moved to quickly put away stuff and remained quiet. She came out of the room & saw me and said: oh I like that game and then went to the bathroom. I was pretending to play a game on my phone. Anyways, I may be wrong but seeing this change is making me see her as a different person, as someone I can't trust.

Question: What should I do about my cousin?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 01:48 PM PST

He lives with me and my wife and we have a baby on the way. He is a complete loser, doesn't work, doesn't pay bills, does go to school but also smoke weed and takes prescription drugs to get high and also drinks to get drunk. He stays in my home mostly doing drugs, watching porn, movies and video game. I also have to put up with his big dog that's not even house trained. I feel bad for him so I let him stay, but I didn't know he was this bad. He has personality disorders and his parents (my aunt and uncle) give him money for him to support his gambling addiction. He's a few years younger than me, I'm 34 and he's 32. I don't want to kick him out as he has nowhere to go, but what should I do?

Question: I HATE MY **** MOM and I hope she dies or at least go to Prison?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 01:27 PM PST

THIS Monster is not my mom, she always hit us with the belt when our room is not clean... she insults us and she told us that we wont eat anymore just because someone took her damn soda.... there is many more that i dont want to talk on here... I HOPE THIS BI**CH ROTS IN HELL! Should i call the police/cps or should i just keep hoping she dies

Question: I should live with them or leave them? PLZ HELP!! IT S TOO SERIOUS DECISION FOR MY FUTURE LIFE.?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 01:22 PM PST

THE PEOPLE AROUND ME ARE FULL OF NEGATIVE ENERGY. THEY ARE NOT MY ENEMY. MAY BE THEY DON T WANT TO HURT ME. MAY BE THEY ARE MY WELL WISHER. BUT I AM GETTING FRUSTRATED AND MENTALLY ABUSED BY THEM. THEY BROUGHT ME UP, I HAVE BEEN THERE WITH THEM SINCE MY BIRTH. BUT I CAN T TOLERATE ANY MORE. I AM 20 NOW. SHOULD I LEAVE THEM AND LIVE MY OWN LIFE? OR I SHOULD STAY WITH THEM, MAKE THEM HAPPY AND BE UNHAPPY?

Question: Girls who drive would you have done this?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 01:20 PM PST

I just got back to my college after spending the Thanksgiving break at my parents house with my family. I had a 6 hour drive back to school so I drove back in my bare feet and kept my shoes behind my seat out of the way. It was very comfortable being barefoot on my drive back to school.

Question: Help me deal with my mom.?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 01:19 PM PST

I'm 17, male, I'm having problems dealing with my mom. She says I do nothing but study play games or hang out with my friends and never spend time with family or just sit around with family. We went this weekend to my aunts house and it was 2 hours away and while we were there I was bored. I have nobody at that house I talk to and they have one tv, and I had to sleep over for 2 days. I kept telling my mom I'm bored and she got mad at me. She said all my life is, is games and fun and I never sit with my family or care sbout them. Every single day she criticizes something I do and she always puts me down and makes me feel bad about myself. Now she's even getting mad that I'm studying. I play baseball on the team and on the bowling team, I only play video games on the weekend but when I do I play until 1am (which she gets mad over). I have almost straight A's yet I still get criticized for the **** I do. And I only hang out with my friends maybe once a week. Can someone please help me out and give me a response that can benefit me, I will greatly appreciate it.

Question: My brother is difficult to get along with and is coming home for Christmas I just learned. How do I get along with difficult people?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 01:15 PM PST

He gets pissy with out parents like he is still 16 (he is 26) and his romance life is beyond disgusting. He also is sneaky and used to be an addict though supposedly he is clean right now.

Question: In law Christmas gift ideas?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 01:11 PM PST

My husband and I always try to put a lot of effort into finding a gift for those we shop for. This year we are only buying gifts for my mom, dad, and his parents due to money issues. We can not afford anything big...in fact, I am getting my mom a pair socks, and maybe a pair of earrings since she just lost her only pair. Every year we buy for everyone, and the only people who show any application are my mom and dad. Everything we have ever bought his family, they cast to the side and it is never seen again. In some cases, his mom gives the gift we give her, to his sister in law. His parents have everything...and they are extremely wealthy so if they want something, they buy it. We ve given her scarves, expensive bath sets...decor for their cabin. His dad we give lots of fishing stuff usually ...and i think he sort of appreciates that, but he has so much fishing stuff, it now seems pointless. I would like to get them something together, rather than separately, since we don t have the $$....but I don t know what. I am tired of them not appreciating our efforts.

Question: I feel lost in my life, I don't know what to do please I need help?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 01:10 PM PST

I grew up in a big and economically sustainable family. When I was little I had everything I wanted, I went to private school, went on international trips twice a year and even lived in a exclusive gated community. I have lived in a bubble my whole life and now I feel like I'm lost. Last year my dad lost his job but we were fine anyways. We used our funds for our daily lives and to finish paying my senior year at private school. My parents told us that things would soon get better but we are getting worse and worse. all the money went away with my brothers college, my school, the house maintenance (tremendous big house), the help's salaries, among others. I enrolled at a community college in order to spend less in college but now I want to transfer, and the price tags of universities is insane. now all my siblings currently work and pay their own expenses but I'm the only one left at home and I'm desperate. I started working but the wage is not enough! my parents can't support me any longer and now I've even got distanced with my friends because I cannot longer afford going out for lunch or even shop. I KNOW it seems shallow but that is how I was raised and my life has been this way my whole life... i feel depressed and cry often... I feel lost what woud you do?

Question: Why does my boyfriend eat as if hes never been fed before? is he one of those abused kids?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 12:54 PM PST

he eats like a pig. ive seen dogs with better manners. usually i dont care but he came to my house and ate like this in front of my parents. he ate a plate of food in like 3 minutes. he was barely stopping to chew. it was embarrassing. it was like we'd invited my dog to sit at the table with us. im just thinking about his home now. his moms dead and his dad is a douche whos been to jail a couple times and hes hardly ever at home my parents just think hes rude

Question: Good stocking suffers for 14 year old boy?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 12:52 PM PST

I got him under Armour boxers and sport socks already and I'm going to get him a couple of belts, but what else is good? Body wash? Cologne? He plays basketball at the moment but is there stocking things for that? He's getting the shoes and I already bought him a new hoop and shorts. He likes all sports but he is doing basketball now

Question: My mom tried to fight me?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 12:44 PM PST

my mother started yellin at me and i got upset ( belittling me) so i screamed back and she got up and tries to punch me in my face but i blocked it and told her to back up off me . she grabbed my face and pretty much tries to rip my face off than she put me in a head lock and started banging on my head . i'm so f***** pissed off because i didn't even hit her because i know better than to hit my mom. i have a huge scratch on the side of my face. then to make it worse she starts laughing about how i can't even fight and that's why i got beat up by this girl i had a fight with a short time ago . that's when i lost it i told her if i were to put my f**** hands on u like u did me don't call the f****** police on me crying domestic violence. now she's trying to be calm with me because she knows now if she tries that again i'll beat her like a b**** on the streets. i wanna leave and go live with my boyfriend and her mom but i don't want her saying i ran away . what should i do ? i'm literally crying rn .

Question: My mom is torturing my little brother?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 12:33 PM PST

My mother is on medecation, and my little brother is naughty, and to be honest he is really naughty, but my mom tied his hands in our basements, and he is standing on books and whenever he yells my mom removes a book, his arms are hurting him and she would beat him up with a belt in his back, the fact that he is 7 years old is ridicioulos, he is still down there and he is standing tied up by ropes, and i am afraid to say that he is being tortured! What should i do now? Should i report this? Or should i stay quite or what?

Question: I wish I could go back and fix my mistake?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 12:26 PM PST

My mom caught me with a snapchat on my phone after she repeatedly told me I couldn t have one. For months, I did a great Job hiding it. I never thought she would catch me. I had a great next few months ahead of me. She just bought me new shoes, she was about to buy me the iPhone 7 plus and everything, and I messed it up. I feel so guilty. I keep wishing that I could go back and delete the snapchat before she checked my phone. Part of me is glad she found it because i dont have to hide it anymore. But she is beyond disappointed in me and I feel like I will never get past this. Any advice?

Question: What do you think of this situation and what should I do?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 12:23 PM PST

Ok so my mom annoys me. She makes too much noise and always makes a reaction out of every little thing I do. I always see her giving me dirty looks with the side of her eye. And whenever she is doing song she is always looking at me. I told her to stop looking at me but she still continues to and it makes me uncomfortable. I got into a fight with her one time and got arrested. Then she called my dad and told him that I was being disrespectful or doing something bad then he came over and didn't even give me a chance to explain and started kicking me and hitting me. He even pulled my hair and I feel like some of my hair are missing. I'm 16 turning 17. What do you think of this situation and what should I do?

Question: I m 14, and own a shotgun, yet it is kept at my grandpa s house, how do I convince my parents and grandpa to let me keep it at home?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 12:18 PM PST

Question: I need help with my emotions?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 12:14 PM PST

I feel like getting a hammer and smashing down my entire apartment building But at the same time suiciding (I know it won't solve problems but it's a feeling) I wanna lie down and cry But I want meet new people I'm nicer to my friends than my family I got grounded for a month but I just don't care anymore about what happens to me My friends call me happy and loving But my family calls me a sulking prick Please help

Question: Both my Mom's brother and her brother-in-law are alcoholics, why is she okay with her brother's drinking but not her brother-in-law's?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 12:14 PM PST

She won't let us go to things her brother-in-law is at saying it is not healthy for us to see his drinking. However, we are free to see her brother whenever we want as long as they come along. Both are severe alcoholics. Neither is violent though the brother-in-law is more cranky my mother says but her brother can be awfully cranky like on Thanksgiving. So while I know you don't know the people involved why might this be? My mother is one of those people you can't question, whatever she says we must do. One is her brother the other is our step-Dad's brother. Our step-Dad is pretty much my Dad (real Dad out of the picture).

Question: I lied to my daughter. She won't talk to me. It's been four months. Please give me information on what to say in a apology letter.?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 12:13 PM PST

Question: I lied to my daughter. I need a apology letter?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 12:09 PM PST

Question: Is it okay to sleep with your your older brother at 13. Please Read?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 12:06 PM PST

Me and my 16 year old brother have spent the most of our life in various foster homes. In the last foster home we were at they used to be physically abusive towards us. Because of this I started to sleep with my brother because I felt safe in arms. He also liked it because he knew I was safe. Now we are with a different family who are really nice and I know would never hurt us. I'm still afraid to sleep alone though and sleep with my brother every night. Is this weird? Should I try and suck it up and sleep alone? Or is it okay to Sleep with my Brother?

Question: What do I do when my dad undresses when he gets mad at me?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 11:38 AM PST

My dad suffered a brain injury 2 years ago and now his social abilities are slightly impaired. When he gets mad at me and wants me to leave somewhere he will start taking off his clothes and pulling down his underwear and pants saying he's going to go take a shower. It's only happened twice but it makes me really uncomfortable and I'll tell him that but he'll just keep repeating he needs to take a shower. I get out of wherever he is as soon as possible because it makes me feel really uncomfortable. I'm 16 years old and I just want my mom to divorce him so I don't have to deal with him. I know this isn't normal but his brain is ruined from past injuries but I've never had a dad that acted normal and I've always wanted that. He does other weird things too like start stomping his foot and talking really fast when he gets nervous. Sometimes he gets aggressive and grabs my arm and pulls me. I'm just exhausted dealing with him. I just don't think a 16 year old should have to deal with this kind of stuff. Advice on anything?

Question: What do you do when your family is driving you crazy because they will not stop talking?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 11:08 AM PST

Question: Is it wrong to maybe hate your dad even a little?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 10:57 AM PST

We always fight like always he's always trying to one up me with like everything like last time I was talking about how I didn't want to go to college here in Las Vegas and he kept saying how Idk what I'm talking about that I won't be ready and I'll fail and dont how to be an adult I got so mad I started ranting about how there are better colleges afterwards he called me crazy and laughed how I'm in my period He just makes me so freaking mad!!! Why can't he listen to me once without trying to prove me wrong?! I called my mom paranoid she kinda is and he started saying how paranoid is actually a disease and I'm using the word wrong or whatever like "What the hell are you even talking about?" I spent most of my life with my step dad it wasn't until I got into the 3rd grade that we started living together again maybe that's it? Why we just can't get along? Either way he annoys me sooo much my brother says I should feel bad, should I feel ungrateful?

Question: My dad is not home saturdays at all and today he was in a really bad mood he yelled at me and my mom should my mom divorce my dad...?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 10:57 AM PST

Question: My mom and dad usually don't talk my dad doesn't really take us out and stuff he goes out every Saturday and Sunday and comes back at 3:00am?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 10:55 AM PST

Question: How can i convince my parents to do online school?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 10:47 AM PST

i barely learn anything. my parents say no everytime. i know it is the right thing for me

Question: Should I feel bad for saying no to family?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 10:45 AM PST

I got asked to babysit again by a relative, although its possible for me to do it, i have to push around my schedule and its just irritating because i have things to get done to, this is far from the first time, i guess she's having a hard time finding someone to do it since she's on a budget, but should i feel bad for saying no to it considering im the last resort?

Question: Is my cousin weird?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 10:32 AM PST

So my cousin is a 12 year old girl and she is different. She wears clothes designed for little kids and she acts a lot younger then she is. She has no friends and has not shown any interests in what most people her age are interested in. She is also very bossy and rude. When we have family outings and all my cousins come over she only talks to the really little ones and she plays childish games with them. They built a box fort and she said only her and the babies could go in it because everyone else was too big even though she is 12 and I am only 2 years older then her so I'm really not much bigger. I accidentally tripped over her box fort and crushed it and she got mad at me and I told her that I tried to fix it but she just got mad and told her mom that i destroyed her fort. She is also very rude and always has to be right even when she is completely wrong. She tells her parents everything that myself and my other cousins do and always tries to get us in trouble. She also hates that i have friends and don't always want to be with her. She really scares me sometimes and I worry about her because she is weird.. what do you think? It is like she hates me because she is always trying to get me in trouble..

Question: Do you have an older brother? If so, you have any suggestions on how to get bros to back off, when they put you in a headlock?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 10:31 AM PST

Question: Should I tell my son-in-law my daughter is cheating on him?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 10:27 AM PST

I have a 23 year old daughter. She does not work and when her husband is at work she brings guys to her house and sleeps with them. I went over the other day and found her in bed with a guy. I told her she should not cheat on her husband but she told me to mind my own business. My son-in-law has no idea my daughter is cheating on him.

Question: I hate my little brother and I don't know how to put up with him at this age?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 10:24 AM PST

He's 15 years old and he's the most disrespectful person I've ever met in all my days of living. Maybe I don't completely hate him but I definitely dislike him. When things don't go his way he acts out in such unnecessary ways. He's so violent. He burns or damages peoples stuff if he's upset with them. He's always so rude to people and has zero respect for anyone. He's stolen money from me and other family members countless times. He once got caught stealing from a school fundraiser, he took all of the money and left nothing behind. The police gave him a chance but he never even apologized for it. He stills steals all the time even after that incident. One time I was sleeping in my room and woke up to him looking through my wallet. Another time he came into my bedroom at night and took pictures of me in my sleep. He starts random arguments with people all the time. He always has something rude to say and I hate being around him. I try to keep my distance but that doesn't help, it's like he's constantly trying to start something. I hate talking to him. But, I live with him so I have to put up with him 24/7. How do I deal?

Question: Should I tell my daughter about this?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 10:21 AM PST

I just adored my son in law Joe when he was married to my daughter Jill and that did not change when they got a divorce. We remained good friends. When I needed help with something I could call Joe and he always came over and solved my problem and he would never take any money for helping me. Jill was trying to get on with her life without Joe so I never told her about all of the help Joe gave me. I got a call from my garage that my car needed some expensive repair and the cost of the repair would be more than the car was worth. I did not know what I should do so I called Joe who is a financial expert and ask for his advice. I did not have enough money to buy another car. Joe said "I will be over to your house tomorrow evening and solve your problem". When I got home from work Joe was there and he handed me the keys to a new car. No one in my whole life had been that good to me. He really is a great guy. I am really sorry Jill and his marriage do not work out. My problem is my daughter knows I could not afford a new car and she is going to want to know how I got it. Should I tell her the truth and just hope it will not make her feel bad? Am I doing the right thing keeping information about Joe helping me from her? Joe told me he would prefer I did not tell Jill what he is doing for me. Joe said "When my friends need help and I can help, I do it". I don't want any credit for it.

Question: Does this make me a pervert?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 10:14 AM PST

I am a high school guy with a step mother that is just 10 years older than I am. She is the best mom EVER. I just love her so much. I think I am the luckiest guy in the world to have her as a mom. To say she is beautiful is an understatement. She is gorgeous and she has a figure to die for. 36G would be my guess. I believe she thinks that because I am her son, I don't have any sexual feelings for her and she is right. I don't. However sometimes when she cooks me breakfast in her shorty night gown, my weenee has a mind of it's own. I get a b0ner and it embarrasses me to no end. I always hide it from her. Does me doing this make me a terrible son?

Question: Ladies have you ever driven your car in your bare feet and left your shoes at home if you did not need them?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 10:04 AM PST

I do. I am at my parents house now visiting them and I am going to stay for supper. I drove over here barefoot and my shoes are at home. I did not need shoes for a 30 minute drive and I don't need shoes at my parents house.

Question: My dad has a weird condition that causes him to get distracted very easily when you talk to him while he is driving.?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 10:02 AM PST

I just think my dad is autistic or has ADD, because he he has extreme anger when he gets distracted by passengers while driving. if you talk to him or anyone else in the car while he is driving, then when he misses a turn, he starts getting all mad with you. Ive never seen anyone else do that. It seems weird that someone talking could be so distracting that you cannot drive without being a huge dick

Question: My fiancé lied about his educations to his parents me and my parents! what should i do now break the engagement or stay still and help him?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 10:00 AM PST

so im got engaged recently to nice guy as my parents thought he is nice to ,but yesterday he told me everything was lie about his education he came to united states with work and travel documents ,when he applied for college his documents weren't approved to continue his education in states .instead of leaving the country he decide to work and help to his parents financially ( because he came from poor background ) and his family finical statues was so in bad and same time he lost his sister too , but lying to them that he is in college is bad thing . It's huge lie !!! and now me I'm girl from good background compare to him when got engaged i wasnt feeling right something was missing about this engagement .few of my relatives were opposite about engagement cuz of their level of status .some people said oh they are nice people and e.t.and my parents were judging by the guy that he is workaholic ,religion ,studies (a guy who tires his best in anything) .and education is really important to our family. SO few days ago i had date with him and he told me honestly his all lies before anything gets serious.i was shocked, lying to parents plus me and my parents.WE in our family consider lying serious issue!!he told everyone that he lied about studying ,cuz i always asked him about studies he would say I'm doing good .

Question: Is my daughter growing up way to fast?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 09:56 AM PST

My 13 year old daughter came to me with what she thought was a problem. She had heard her brother tell his friend on the phone that he was going to spank the monkey. She was afraid he was going to hurt an animal. OH MY GOD. How do you explain to your daughter what her brother was really going to do? I explained to her what he really meant by what he said. That is when I got a BIG SHOCK. She said "If he was going to j**k off, why didn't he just say so and then I would know what he meant". He does that all the time. I must also have a talk with my son about locking the door to his room when he does that. Is my daughter growing up way to fast. Parents, (and teenage girls) please give me some guidance? Isn't 13 to young to know about all that stuff?

Question: Why do my parents put me down?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 09:36 AM PST

My parents are pretty bad. I feel like they try to make my life hell. My grades are great, I'm responsible, I don't ask for very much, and I feel I do what I'm told most of the time. They always find a way to make me feel like I am not good enough. My father ( I don't call him dad anymore because he doesn't deserve that title) was going to pick me up one day after school, but I had to ask my friend something important. I didn't see my father's truck anywhere, so I decided to get what I needed. My father called me, and told me where he was, I walked over to him and took a verbal beating that went something like this " What the f*** is wrong with you, you know I pick you up right here! Why are you so stupid d*** it! Get the f*** in the car." I'm fourteen and used to this, so i showed no emotion until i got to my room at home. He snaps at me for the stupidest things. My mother is different. She's still bad, but not the same as my dad. She acts nice around others, but when my family is alone she makes me do tons of things. I could have done every job there is to do in the house, outside, cleaned every room perfectly, done everything exactly as she wanted it to be done using every manner ive ever been taught, but she would still tell me how, lazy, worthless and disrespectful I am. They tell me they love me, they say they care, but once they finish all of that nonsense, they kick me back down into the dirt. I'd love to hear something soon. Thanks!

Question: Major disagreement with my daughter made Thanksgiving a living hell and now Christmas may be out of the question. Family situation?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 09:36 AM PST

I had a major disagreement with my daughter over Thanksgiving which lead to me leaving early and considering skipping Christmas with the family this year. My daughter lives in Waterville, which is 75 miles from my home in Portland. I hosted the holidays last year, so it was Pam's turn to host them. She invited her neighbor and her neighbor's son to attend as well. Her neighbor's son is mentally retarded. He is physically capable but mentally I would say he is two years old. he is 14 and around five feet, nine inches tall and stout as a horse. When they arrived, my sons and son-in-law were in the living room when we heard this horrible noise. It was the neighbors son, crawling on all fours like a dog and chasing my daughter's cat. The other children are scared of this "child," and no one wants to deal with him or be near him. Dinner was unreal. The boy shouted and yelled and screamed, picked up his food with his bare hands and shoved it into his mouth and then threw his plate on the stone floor, which caused it to shatter. As desert was being served, the boy flatulated loudly and soiled his pants, which stunk up the dining room and we had to take our desert into the living room as the mother diapered this monster child. I don't think they should have been invited in the first place. They're not family. My daughter thinks she was right in inviting them and wants to invite them for Christmas. I said I refuse to attend if they're there. Who is right?

Question: Can my child watch Over the Hedge?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 09:13 AM PST

Can my son (5) and daughter (3) watch over the hedge? My son got it as a gift from a relative and Ibe not seen in in for ever. Can my daughter watch it?

Question: My son is gay and my husband is threatening to leave us?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 08:55 AM PST

So..the title says it all..my son who is 15 came out to his father and I with his boyfriend(who I think will take great care of my son).Being gay is against our religion,but I'm a mother and being a good and loving mother to my son is more important than anything to me. Sadly for my husband,he doesn't think the same.He called both boys such horried things,I couldn't even believe this man would say that to these young men..He told my son's boyfriend not to come near us and made him leave.I obviously took my son to his room and tried helping him stop cry...later this night my husband told me that if we don't "fix" our son he will leave us....I love my husband so much..but...my son is the only reason I wake up with a smile everymorning..and I really need help...

Question: What can I do with my 10 year old sister?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 08:50 AM PST

-she showers about once a week -her teeth are really really yellow, she never brushes them -her breath is really bad -her armpits stink because she doesn't want to wear deodorant -she's ALWAYS eating. She will not stop eating, sometimes I even catch her at 2 in the morning waking up just to eat. She is getting overweight Everyone else in my family is really clean expect her. We really don't know what to do with her anymore. We all always tell her to shower, to brush her teeth, stop eating so much but she never listens to us. I'm scare for her health. What can I do to help her?

Question: MY DAD ALWAYS COMPLAINS ABOUT SPENDING MONEY?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 08:35 AM PST

He offers to buy us things and then a week later he will say how we take his money and blah blah blah. He also has a veary bad temper for as long as I could remember and it's not like he does not have the money it's that he doesn't like to spend a dime of it for anyone but himself he makes me feel like a burdan to his life and I don't think I should have to worry about that what should I do Also I'm 15 and I want to start drivers ed but he says i need to get a job first to pay for it but my sisters never ever paid for a dime and they are 25 and 21 still living at home. I can't live like this

Question: Why is it that when one family member is an alcoholic the whole family is effected badly?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 08:20 AM PST

Question: Is my younger sister jealous of me?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 08:09 AM PST

So two incidents happened to me that makes me question if my lil sister actually have my best interest at heart. My ex broke up because of him texting my sister messages that has nothing to do with me or business (they worked together) and it's strange to read her text responing back him in a manner that isn't loyal to me. She's a liar who acts innocent I'm the guise of not being looked at as a bad person. For one if your my blood sibling are you even sparking up or entertaining ANYONE I'm romantically involved with?! Okay a year passed and I went in her phone to send pictures of us to my phone and I seen AGAIN messages of a guy that I'm dating and she is in no way or form showing her loyalty to me. Why is she flirting with guys I like? Is she insecure? Maybe it's because pull attractive guys and she don't? Maybe because I'm able to effortlessly be myself and she secertly wants to be me? At this point I'm over her and her immaturity. I'm 26 and she is 21 she is at the age to know better thsn to break the girl code. Don't mess with your family or friend man! What should I do block her and move on or try to salvage our so called relationship and continue to keep her close? She knows that I'm mad about it but she isn't woman enough to take responsibility for her actions. Because honestly I'm ready to cut her off because I don't need anyone around me that I can trust, family or not. We didn't get to talk about it because I was so upset and now I'm just over her altogether.

Question: I hate my race traitor mom?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 07:53 AM PST

She prefers that wetb@ck anchor baby Mexican boyfriend who abuses me over me and my brother I'm autistic and it's hard for me to find a job so I can get my own place, my mom is a self hating white woman and prefers coloreds over white guys

Question: I'm 14 and I really hate my autistic brother am I mean evil selfish and a bad person?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 07:50 AM PST

I'm 14 and I have to constantly hear his screaming all day he just won't shut up he can't talk and he screams so loud sometimes I feel like killing myself because I hate my life. I can't eat food I like because it will upset him we can't go out as a family or on holiday because he is an embarrassment how can a 6 year old completely Ruien my life? My dad calls me selfish and says my kids will end up autistic because I don't like playing with him but how can I when all he does is scream. I have another little brother who I love to the moon and back because he communicates with me he's funny and he doesn't scream

Question: Should I be blunt with my older brother or leave it alone and let him do his thing? Does he still have a chance?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 07:29 AM PST

I'm in college in my early 20's and work a part time internship. Gonna move out of parents house in 2017, after getting my AA and before transferring schools. My major is finance (you can give opinions on this if you want). Anyways, my older brother is in his late 20's, has no degree, and works full time in retail (which he hates). He's never been to college and has had a goal of becoming a famous singer and actor since he was younger than me. He's still not there yet and I am getting worried. Not just about him but about my parents because he doesn't plan to move out anytime soon and doesn't pitch in for rent or food because he uses it on music supplies. He eats a LOT of food and it runs out fast, and mom is the one who buys most of the food. I buy some but am also using money for school. Sometimes when I come home from school, all the leftovers or tv dinners are gone. I just don't know what to do or what to tell him.

Question: My sister is 23 and still bullies. Is this normal for some people in their early twenties or is something wrong?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 07:25 AM PST

Question: How do I get over feeling so sad at the holidays this year because of my grandmother being gone?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 07:25 AM PST

She made the holidays and everyone doesn't get together like they used to now that she has died. We see one of the three families on my Mom's side and two of the five families on my Dad's side. It used to be everyone on both sides. I feel sad by this. All the grandparents have died, most recently my grandmother in 2014. This will be the 3rd Christmas without her and I still haven't gotten used to it but everyone else has and doesn't want to talk about it. She was the last of the grandparents to go and all have died in the last 10 years. So how do I get over feeling so sad at Christmas Time? Thanksgiving Day I was sad all mourning and didn't think I still would be.

Question: Teenage girls do you smoke?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 07:23 AM PST

I do and I really love smoking. I am 17 and have been smoking since I was 13. Both my parents smoke so they let me smoke. I smoke 2 packs a day and love it.

Question: How do I get out of seeing my mother times I don't want to deal with toxic memories of days she hurt me?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 07:20 AM PST

She isn't as bad as she used to be so I don't want to say "I can't see you because of the past" and I am working in therapy to get past the hurt she caused. The hurt was emotional abuse when I was a kid and she made me scared of my Dad for no reason when they were divorcing. She still hates my Dad with a passion but I am an adult now so she no longer uses me as a pawn.

Question: What does this dream mean?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 07:15 AM PST

I just woke up from a dream about my parents having dinner at my mom's house together with my dad's girlfriend and my mom's boyfriend. It was fine until my my dad started calling my mom names. My mom's boyfriend punched my dad and they picked us up from our grandma's and hurried home. In the dream I went upstairs and saw my dad in my room and he tried to kill me. I got away and ran downstairs. My mom saw him and grabbed a knife but it slipped out of her hand and my dad grabbed it and killed her and my sister and then himself. I'm really scared because my dad and my mom used to fight alot when they were together. When it got really intense he choked her or punched her. I was 5 when it happened so I couldn't do anything. There was this one instance where he was choking her on the couch near the stairs and I was screaming at him to stop but he wouldn't.

Question: Why are they rude to me?

Posted: 27 Nov 2016 07:12 AM PST

I am 39. I recently joined a new band. I am the oldest member. The other 2 members are 17 and 20. Neither of them own their own car(siblings) they have to share a car with parents. When I first went to play music with them, I asked them. "Why not come to my place next time to practice?" They said "We will have to see." I said "See what? Ya'll are 17 and 20, when I was your age I didn't have to see." They said, "No need to get defensive with us. We share a care with our parents. We don't have our own." I said "Why not? Ya'll moochers?" The 17 year old said "Dude, stop with the name calling." The 20 year old said, "I'm not going into details but for personal reasons, we both had to wait until a year ago to get permits, and obviously we don't have our own car just yet, but that is none of your business man, so please don't feel the need to call us names just because we aren't like you." I said "Wow, get over yourselves." And left. Why would they treat me like that? Aren't I(39) in the same age group as them? Why are they so held back compared to me? I am only 12 minutes from them, and they've got a drum set already so I never bring mine but still... What would you do? Why were they rude to me? My wife stood up for me when they said those things to me. She told them to get over themselves and she asked them why they don't work 24/7 at an office job like I do 5 days a week. They're immature in my opinion!