I am told it is unusual but my ex husband Bill and I are still on friendly terms. When we were married my mom thought of him as the son she never had. They were best friends then and they remained friends even after our divorce. She just adores him and he feels the same about her. The thing mom enjoys MORE THAN ANYTHING ELSE IN THE WORLD is to go out to a restaurant for dinner. Bill occasionally takes her to a high end restaurant which thrills her to no end. She looks at it as a son taking his mom out to a restaurant. Some of her friends tell me they think she is turning into a cougar. I know that is the farthest thing from her mind. I know Bill does not think of her that way either. Should I tell her what some of her friends are thinking? I am afraid it will spoil her enjoyment of her outing. Bill is a great looking guy and mom is 20+ years older than he is. I can see how people might think that but it is not true. Or Do I just keep quiet? Mom is having fun and enjoying herself and anything that makes her happy I am all for. In fact, I wish they would invite me to come with them sometime. Should I or she care what other people think might be going on. ADVICE PLEASE.

I have tried for the longest time to keep up my studies but yesterday reached a point where I decided that it was interfering with my family too much. I have been studying nursing part time. Yesterday I took an exam straight after night shift. I have a comfortable job working in a hospital. It is not physically demanding because it is desk work for 8 hrs. On the night shift I work alone and have periods of time where I can complete studies or read etc. I had left the pram for my wife to take our son to the daycare. He is only 18 months old. She exclaimed that she didn't sleep all night. I came home about 1pm to find them both asleep. I crashed on the lounge for half an hr. Then she got up and was so angry. I explained that I need to sleep before night shift tonight and that I'm run down again with a flu. She flew into a rage and shoved the expensive Dyson fan across the room and scared our son. Slammed the bedroom door and took off after saying she doesn't care about my studies or my job. That I have to stay awake and take care of our son. Last night was a struggle. I slept from 6pm to 9pm...then worked all night. I asked my parents for help but they couldn't and dad gave a piece of his mind. Saying I am risking everything for my studies, to be there more my son, give up the study, appreciate that my wife doesn't want to help but that she is working her butt off to accumulate a serious real estate portfolio for the family... He basically called me a d****head for messing things up with my stubborn approach of trying to continue my studies. That all I had to do was to work in my current job, be there for my son, clean the home and let my wife go out to work hard at accumulating the wealth. That I'll be the reason for the marriage failing. To stop risking it all. To understand that my wife has mental health issues (see her violent anger outbursts) and stop relying on the family to help babysit my son. He also claims I have Asperger's but cannot see it. They want me to take a proper adult test for it. But that will cost nearly $1000!! I don't believe that I have this condition. I have read resources online, taken unofficial tests and listened to YouTube videos about the topic and it doesn't appear to match me. Is there any other way I can find out other than an expensive test with a trained psychologist? Bulk billing isn't available for the assessment here in Australia. I'm also getting run down and getting the flu a lot from the stress and lack of proper rest.

My dad believes like it's 1950s and the woman shouldn't work or anything, just basically be his slave. "It's a woman's job to be in the kitchen". like when I joked about getting a dishwasher installed, he said "well I already have two dishwashers right here" (me and my mom) and it pisses me off when he makes sexist/racist slurs. Any good comebacks for those that'll leave him speechless? 

My wife brought our 5 year old daughter to Walmart while I was at work and left her on the bench in front of the store while she shopped for about an hour. My daughter told me what happened and my wife said its fine because our daughter knows not to talk to strangers. I was furious and told her it doesn't matter it was still dangerous!

Have been abused or molested by people in the family?

so back when he was living in my house during hurricane sandy he use to borrow my clothes but now he has moved out and has his own house and everything. he does now has his own clothes but im afraid he is gonna ask me to let him borrow my clothes again i mean i know he has money and all that now and probably has bought alot of clothes but i just dont want him borrowing my clothes again because last time he did he never gave them back to me and i still dont have them back and thats because most of the clothes he borrowed were thrown out by his ex and were at her house so now i dont even have them back at all. im not trusting my uncle again with borrowing my clothes because of that. i know it sounds like i am selfish but i really am not i just dont trust him with my clothes after he lost all of mine and i never got them back. what should i ever do when he asks me again if he can borrow my clothes

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I got an email this morning of the November month sale, 50% off on all test. Should I went for the holidays (Christmas time) that maybe it will be cheaper? I'm asking, during Christmas would the price be lower? 

 andI get abused by my dad.He has hurtful things all the time. Even my uncle keeps saying that i'm good at nothing.He says that I'm stupid and i cant do anything good in life ...and i keep lieing down and using my phone. Yesterday he said he wants to have a conversation with me.He took me in a room where all the relatives were sitting.Then he publicly started lecturing me about how my usage of my phone and this and that.While that was happening his kids and all the other relatives were having a lot of fun and laughing at me.Then my dad joined in and started saying hurtful things to me again but this uncle was mine allowed it to happen and his kids were having a lot of fun.I felt so humiliated that i stormed out of the place and muttered to myself "bastard" and his wife heard it(which i got to know later) and i became the bad guy and everyone including my parents blamed me for it. I don't think it was my fault.He had no right to lecture me, humiliate me and have fun at my expense.I don't agree with him.He may think that I'm a looser but he doesn't know me as well as i do.I don't think I'm a loser and as a matter of a fact im actually good at many things....but i didn't want to waste any time convincing him.

So long story short. I'm 25 and I was never really one for relationships. I was content being wild and having fun in life. Well I fell in love with a good Christian girl who's 33 and has a daughter that's 3. Her husband was tragically killed right before her daughters first birthday.   I made a comment before about being willing to adopt the daughter when we get married and she loved that idea but seemed concerned about changing her last name because the deceased husbands family is still in the lifts girls life, which I love! The little girl knows her daddy went to be with Jesus and has pictures of him, but I can tell she wants to call me daddy. Occasionally she does and then calls me my name right after. Or she'll called me papa.  First... I just don't know how to feel.. I would love for her to call me dad but because of her real fathers family being in her life, would they feel like I'm trying to erase their son/brother? Is there a way to keep her real dad in this and satisfy her want to have a daddy to call daddy? And second, the last name change if I were to adopt her.. I just don't know which way this should go.. I want everyone to be happy and have a little girl that doesn't have to grow up without a daddy. Any advice? 

He left me with his brother my uncle and my uncle has locked me away I'm not sure if my dad knows I have not spoken to him I have a phone right now and if I contact the British Embassy would they arrest my parents

I have lived with my Grandmother since day one but i wouldn't let anybody other than my mother touch or watch me. I would violently cry if she wasn't near me the moment i woke up. Which made it extremely difficult for her to do anything, this went on until i was a year. Does this say anything about me?

So im a 13 year old girl! and my brother is 11. He is has mild autism (he can talk, and do things that normal people do). He is embarrassing in public. Before i talk, I have ADHD and can get pretty mad some times, so excuse me (im not blaming this on my adhd). But their is one thing that really pisses me off, he is soooooooo annoying. He wont be quiet for at least 2 freaking seconds and he always follows me. I know he is my little brother and looks up to me and stuff, but he isnt very younger than me. I never get privacy away from him. For example, So i have a game room upstairs right, and when i come home from school he is working with his therapist and sees me and runs up stairs and wont leave me alone. He keeps asking me a bunch of freaking question like i know everything or something. And also he watches everything that i do on the computer. Can't i just have some privacy? Also he plays my video games and just leaves the consoles on and he treats the game room like a dump. I have talked to my parents before, but they say they will do something about but never do. Thank u for reading and i hope u think of something

Like you were in an unfair situation and they got mad because of this...for you? 

My mom moved in with my cousin recently she pays rent for the room we live in together but my mom says I can have my boyfriend over my cousin tells me I can't ? Is this right ? This isn't my cousins house it's her boyfriends dads and he doesn't have the problem she does 

This woman can speak of nothing else but her hatred of her sister (not my mother but another one), her mother, and her step-father. My Mom used to be the same way but has softened.

He and his family are coming to Thanksgiving this year. His son is just as cold though his daughters are nice (one is autistic so non-verbal but cannot help it).

I have only met their children twice since the fight 15 years ago. Their mother plays victims and her siblings finally gave up on her. She has spread some lies since but lies by bias where it is her beliefs but they are false. I generally avoid this aunt to but I have seen her about once every three years at things like weddings. Her children are the victims cause they no longer attend family celebrations cause no one wants to deal with their mother. The mother is asked as "the sister" in cases of weddings but the children are not and when they are they stay home under pressure from their mother. So if I decide to reach out to these victims how would I? They are the victims of their mother's problems.

I am a high school girl. My school is a short distance from where my mom works. Sometimes after school I go to mom's work place and wait for her to get off work in the company cafeteria. Mom is the only woman employee at this location. While I was waiting for her, I met and became friends with a lot of her co workers. They are some really great looking guys. Several of them told me "I see where you get your beauty from. Your mom is gorgeous." Some of the guys there told me "Your mom would make a trophy wife". Anyone know what that means? Is it a compliment I should tell her about? Would my mom want to hear what her fellow employees are saying about her?

My mom and dad are divorced and my mom has custody because my dad was verbally and a tiny bit physically abusive. My dad got help and is better now. I hate living with my mom, it's making me hate my life. I wanna move in with my dad but I could never do that to my mom. Not to mention I'm still in high school and have a lot of good things going for me there. It's just my mom that I cant stand.

I'm elderly and didn't save for retirement in my younger years so I have my son helping to support me financially. My 39 year old son has a girlfriend who lives with us and she says she wants to have her own life with my son. Basically, she doesn't want me to move into a new house with them in January, because she wants to have kids and get married and feels I'm intruding on their relationship. As a compromise she asked if I would stay with other family members half of the year and they wouldn't mind having me stay with them the other 6 months. I am not willing to do this . It seems she won't be happy with me unless I'm out of the picture for the most part.Am I wrong for continuing to live with them and expecting my son to support me? I am 69 and I get very little from social security.

I was in the Coast Guard and couldn't do it and I dropped out. I knew they would be mad so I lied and said I was being transferred. They later found out. I was banned from Christmas that year and they have disliked me ever since. My sister and brother do not speak to me though my sister did briefly before her wedding and the 1 Christmas I saw them. My mother hates me with passion but I think my Dad sort of loves me but does not like me.

So im 16 and my moms brother and his children and that side of the family broke off contact from us due to a family fight 8 years ago and i tried to contact my cousins during the time over the phone a few years ago but we got in fights and they hated me also because i kept trying to reach them and so now my grandfather died yesterday so the whole family is gathering and my cousins and uncle are coming over tomorrow and im scared to see them

everytime I do talk to them, they give me a chore. I learned if I stay quiet they forget about me and I dont have to do chores. Do parenta remember what its like to be a kid. I am sure they tried their best to get out of chores too every time we do talk they complain about my grades or me not doing chores. I choose to avoid all that by not talking

To me if a girl's brother thought she was unattractive,  she wouldn't care. I mean he's her brother, why would his opinion matter?

My sister and I did a 23 and me test just to see if we really had Native American history like my dad is always telling us. We recently got the results and there were some weird results. 1.) my sister came up with Native American ancestry. I did not. 2.) My sister had family come up that were on our dads side like cousins and aunts. I did not. 3.) It says they theorize that we are first cousins but we are sisters. This has made me start thinking of some weird scenerios. My sister said it may just be a mistake. I was born while my dad was in the military. He was stationed overseas and my mom remained at fort hood.  I am scared my father may not be my father. My mom is a sweet women but she did cheat on my dad once when they first got married and he cheated on her once.  I want to ask the question but I do not want to offend her or hurt her feelings. I also am not sure if I could handle the answer that is anything other than "silly of course he is your dad" What should I do here? I am so lost and sad right now.

My friend got pregnant by some guy she thought was rich so she kept the baby, but now she realized he isn't rich, and he wants nothing to do with her. So she went behind my back and has latched on to my brother because he is so nice and was being nice to her because she's my friend (and because he's a man). She has always bragged about cheating on men and using them for money and other stuff. I told her to back off of my brother but she laughed in my face and said it was too late. I told my brother every bad thing about her, but she has convinced him I am just angry at her because of a time she slept with my boyfriend (which did happen, but he was scum and it was after we broke up so I wasn't even mad about it). It's only been a couple weeks and I just found out the day before yesterday because she made him keep it from me under false pretenses. I just want to get them apart before it's too late. Our parents aren't with us anymore so there's no family I can call to help. I'm so angry at myself because I'm the reason they met, and I always thought it was funny how she could make idiots of men. I let her meet my brother because I wanted her help persuading him to lend us his car and let us use his house for parties while he was abroad, since she is so good at persuading men and that's how they met. My brother is the only good thing in my life and I can't just let her ruin his life or it will be all my fault. What do I have to do to stop this?

For the last 5 years, I've been taking care of my nephew. 24/7 so my sister could work and go to college and for her husband to work full time. My sister passed away, 4 months ago and her husband basically passed me his child. I am only 20, I have my own house and I work as a teachers assistant. My nephew goes to school that I work in and everything works out fine. I basically raised him. For some reason, no amount of love that I give him will be enough for him to choose me out of a group of strangers. He was like that with my sister but now I'm dealing with it. Now I know how she felt when she felt like the only way to make him "love" her was to give him toys. I haven't tried that method, I will buy things for him, here or there but not like that. I get him during the week when it's hectic, he's at school then he goes home, does homework, watches tv, eats then goes to sleep. His dad gets him on the weekends when it's fun. His dad takes him to the park and he plays with his boy cousins. He chooses his other aunts whom he sees once every two weeks over being with me and they don't even give him anything. It really hurts and really embarrassed me that he cries when he sees me. I tuck him into bed, I read him books, I give him unlimited amount of love, I play with him and give him attention, even my fiancé does but my nephew doesn't choose me. What can I do? (Also, the death of my sister doesn't change the fact that he has always been this way towards a mother figure).

She's a very odd woman and just not my type of person at all. She's an alcoholic for starters and has a lot of health problems and mental problems due to alcohol abuse, and she still drinks. I just can't relate or understand someone who does that. If I'm honest, I like to spend as little time around her as possible. Ever since me and my husband have had our daughter though she wants to bond with me more, I'm guessing so she's able to spend more time with her grandchild. At the moment she only sees her granddaughter when my husbands around, cos I don't feel comfortable being around her on my own. She'll ask me occasionally if she can pop over when it's just me in or if I want to go to a concert with her etc and I just really don't want to. I get she's my daughters family and I have to be around her sometimes but I am not interested whatsoever in having a 'friendship' or 'mother-daughter bond' with her at all. Is this bad of me? I can get on with her and be civil and polite when we go over to hers occasionally for a meal but I'm not bothered about anything more than that.