My niece agreed to grocery shop, do medications, ensure food in the home is safe and not expired, and do basic cleaning - she does all of this. But she cooks for herself and never my mom. My mom has some healthy meals delivered and eats prepared meals for the remainder, as well as fruits and vegetables.My niece cleans her own clothes but not my moms. Although she allegedly said once the appliances are fixed she will throw my moms clothes in washer/dryer and bring them to her to fold. In the mean time my mom washes her clothes. My niece doesn't even spend time with my mom. When I ask her to do more she says she is not a caregiver. I'm thinking about talking to my brother (nieces dad) and seeing if he will talk to her about stepping up. Am I wrong for feeling like she should do more? She She did agree to all the things in the first sentence and does them. Cooking and laundry she did not agree to but I feel she should do those also. No compensation - lives rent free though.

Currently I am 21 and a senior in college. Judging by how the semester is going, I might have a couple more left. Anyways I hate my life. Wasn't raised by my mom, don't know my dad, and raised by a family member who treats me different. I am in a living situation that I hate. Sometimes I am less than 200 dollars short on rent. Yes this a big deal but I basically take care of myself. Its hard when you have been pushed before you were ready to be fully on your own. Instead of my guardian helping me, she curses me out, puts her hands on me, and basically makes me feel like Sugar Honey Ice Tea(first letter of every word). She barely wants to help me but loves treating me like a child; but depends on me. She takes money out my account (I am employed but its a petty campus job), makes me fill out her job applications and anything pertaining to her job. I think she is illiterate because she will call me and make me read things to her; alongside another things. I have thought about this before and I am fed up with everything. I really do not have any money but I am not materialistic. I am about being at peace and being happy. Should I just up and leave without telling anyone? I feel like nobody would care anyway. I have thought about this for awhile. With me being a strong believer in God I feel like he is constantly putting situations in front of me that makes me think about leaving. Then again this could be a stretch. Have you ever done this before? Any suggestions? Do not judge!

I know my dad will come but why does he have to bring her with him. She's not my mother and I'm not her son. I don't even consider her a stepmom. She means nothing to me.

Last week my mom found an empty pack of BC pills in my purse when she was looking for keys. That night we were given a speech, that if they found out we weren't virgins then it's a disrespect to them since we're living under their roof with the privilege of studying without bills to pay. They tried scaring us by saying that in the next few days we will have another big discussion and "secrets come out".  My oldest sister told me after that my mom found my pills and I knew that whole discussion was about me. This week they haven't really talked to me and giving us "facts" about BC just to scare me into regretting to ever taken it. "Did you know it can ruin your skin, make you go bald and changing your hips and body?"  Obviously they know that I know that they found out, but they haven't discussed it with me. I understand and I'm thankful that they're taking their time to think things through but any day now they're going to confront me.  I know I should talk calmly, but my mind is going blank. I'll definitely apologize for disrespecting their views and definitely know my privileges of living rent free and just studying are gone, but I want to tell them that I was responsible enough to look into BC and have a boyfriend that was very supportive enough to go to the clinic with me and waited for 8 years to have sex. Something that my parents, grandparents and great grandparents never did.  I'm 23 trying to earn my BS math. We use BC and condoms

I have a relative who has a love for elephant necklaces. So every b-day and X-mas I buy her a different elephant necklace. Do you think I'm overdoing it and should buy different type of necklaces to switch it up?

Curious as a guy I work with asks me all the time "if my aunt had balls would she be my uncle".

So basically my dad cut out the wifi from 2 months ago. Okay, that's fine I got bad grades whatever but then he really gets on his nerves about me still having my laptop because he thinks I send nudes to literally everyone just because I posted a picture of me wearing a short dress once.  Anyways, today he took me to the police because he found out I spent the whole day outside instead of going to the trip the school had organized (i haven't gone out since summer so I was desperate to just go out) and he got really pissed off and said I was worse than street girls and I'm not his daughter. He thinks I was with someone and that I probably had sex with everyone I saw. Why does he think of me like this? Is it because of an experience that happened to him or? 

My husbands is from Australia so all of his family lives there. We keep in communication because we have kids through platforms like instagram and email and skype. I sent his uncle who is in Brisbane and never gets to see our sons a pic of them in their halloween costumes and some correspondence on how they are doing on skype. I do some dishes and do some website design for my business. I check my messages I see one from him. I think its a a reply to my pic but its not..... It is a pic of him naked, in a cowboy hat and boots holding his penis taking a selfie in the mirror at the bottom of this is a message that says "Hey Lily Greta, I cannot wait to see you baby. I miss you so much and so does he." Lily Greta is a nickname we all my husbands other uncles wife. I don't know what to do. DO I tell my husband. I didn't delete the pic until I can figure out what to do but I am never looking at it again either. Should I erase the pic and keep my mouth shut, let my husband handle it, or what? Any Advice. FYI: The uncle in question is 63..;(

He's a chronic liar.

His wife is divorcing him because of it and his kids only see him a little bit. One threatened to withhold her kids from knowing him anymore as a punishment.

Involving the hardest physical trainings and tests he had to do for the selection, and deals everyday with terrorism, human trafficking and drug dealers and could die suddenly? What do I do if the only  guy I have liked and have had feeling for, does this job? What do I do when I see him wounded and I cey begging him not to quit and do that anymore and he smiles instead, like he means 'stupid little girl, why are you crying? This is nothing compared to what I have been through'. And when you ask him, he doesn't brag about his position, for which he fought and had no help or recommandations, he just speaks on a proud way about his country, the people, the kids and the nature he wants to defend, or mentions how traditions of having militar bases on islands, and that he had been working since he was a child to get here, because this was everything he dreamed of. Risking his life for others? You don't even see him in clubs or partying, he just hangs out with his old friend and doesn't seem to have a girlfriend. When I asked him, he said 'it's hard to find a good girl, and even harder considering my job. But I want a family, because I never had one'. And you hear him and you just wanna hug him and kiss him all over because he's the most beautiful thing you have seen in  your own life but you cant, cause he is so distant and treats you like a sister 

My partner loves his mother a lot. Which is a good thing. But there are also some issues. He was home schooled and never really had any other outside influences. He was constantly berated by his parents, especially his dad. He could do no right by his dad. He was raised in a rather strict environment. His mom was radical in her religious views. Which made him almost the same way. But he learned to think for himself. Thank goodness. But since he was brought up in such a zealous setting, he is at odds with himself constantly. Especially since he met me. I am the opposite of everything his mom is. I am Agnostic, she is very Christian. I am Centrist leaning left, while she is conservative. I am open minded about all creeds, races, orientations and I am pro-choice. While she has flat out told me she can't stand Muslims, is very pro-life no matter what, and has made some very harsh comments about gays in front of me. Well good for her. But my partner, who is trying to become more open minded and relaxed, struggles with it because of her. She still dumps her issues on him, which really annoys me.  Every time he goes over there, she dumps on him.  Sometimes she'll text him to dump on him. He wants to be more open minded. He doesn't want to be the zealot his mother is. He wants to be more assertive, less of a pushover, and actually put himself first once and awhile. His upbringing has made him self loathe something fierce And I am trying to free him of all this. How can I best help?   Also, I want to help him realize he doesn't have to entertain her unloading on him all the time. She has a husband.  She is a grown woman. Her son is trying to live his own life, happily and in peace. He gets anxious every time she starts going off about something. I am trying to tell him he doesn't have to take it.  He's not her sounding board.

What happened to all of those generations? You never hear about them. Or was labeling generations never a thing until baby boomers came along and labelled themselves to show how mighty they were after their parents ****** like ravenously horny dogs.

In my teen years I was chubby like not that fat and I was ok with myself since I had a pretty face. My mom, she made me cry and fat-shamed me and insulted me saying I look ugly and look at how other girls take care of themselves. She was mean to me until I lost weight, and now she ignores me since I'm thin. But I'm still puzzled like why being chubby girl is so bad for  my parents. Some people were mean to me also when I was chubby.

Going to try and keep this as short as possible, but I'm getting tired of my family at this point in my life. My parents divorced when I was about 9 years old, and since then my dad never really tried to have a relationship with me, never visits/calls. Before I got married I asked him to please walk me down the aisle, he never came to the wedding. My brother and I never really had a relationship either, and last year I tried talking to him and told him I would like us to be closer and I tried to talk to/text him and make a change but it hasn't been reciprocated, I just feel like he doesn't want a relationship with me and he won't tell me why he treats me the way he does. The only time I hear from him is before Christmas when he tells me what gifts he'd like for Christmas and asks what I want because my family does a gift exchange. And for my mom, my husband and I only live an hour away from her, but every time she wants us to come down to her house, she wants us to do something for her. It never feels like she wants us there just to see us, and she only comes out to our house like once a year. Also she tries to bribe us all the time by saying if we come out and fix this/do that she'll buy us lunch or pay us money. I'm really tired of all this and dont know how to handle it anymore. Any ideas? Should I just distance myself from my family for a while? 

I've spoke about a sibling experimentation situation a few times on here I put the same question up about it. Will I get investigated and arrested for it ?

Let's say her biological family lives a four-hour drive away.  Therefore, she never changed one diaper of any of the cousins from the generations after her.  In addition, she never attended their birthday parties, and therefore didn't watch them grow up.  Meanwhile in her hometown, she ended up like a godmother to children whose mothers went to high school with her, due to having been at their houses for birthday parties, Christmas and Thanksgiving every year since they were born.  But she never refers to them as her godchildren, but instead "my friends's son/daughter."  Meanwhile, they always call her their godmother, as well as on Facebook such as "Happy Birthday, Godmother," and in greeting cards.  Basically, she she goes by protocol when it comes to who's family and who's not, while totally ignoring how close they are: "This is my cousin" (who she barely knows) "This is my friend's son/daughter" (who is like a godchild or niece to her, as she's changed some of their diapers and have watched them grow up). Is she cold-hearted for not regarding her classmates and their children as a family who filled the void of her biologically family who she rarely saw?

Long story. But during high school I sponsored a child from Romania through my church. I used to have a part time job and part of the money I made I sent to a village in Romania. I sponsored a girl who's a few years younger than me. She always wrote to me and showed me how well she was doing in school (despite her broken English) and I was so proud to be able to help her. Last time I heard from her was, she was moving to another town where his father found a mining job. This was back in 2014. Fast forward 2019, we went to Romania to visit our sister church. I found out that her dad died in the mines and she lost her mom the year after. She's staying in a rich guy's house, the man who owned the mine her dad used to work for. The man's name is Mehai... When we spoke she was ecstatic at first but began crying when she told me that she's being forced to sleep with his boss. And that she has no choice because her boss supports her two younger siblings age 13 and 10. She was begging me to help her. She said that she already had miscarage (pregnancy through rape) due to abuse when her boss gets angry. Worst of it, is this guy acts like a town hero. It's just so sad... I told my dad about it and my dad said not to get involved, we don't know how things work and this man seems dangerous, dad said "He wouldn't be rich in such a poor area if he wasn't dangerous" I'm back in US now and I really can't shake this thought I didn't do anything.

I occasionally keep my phone in my back pocket as a quick place to put it when I'm not holding onto it or when it's not I'm my purse. I am 23 years old, and my mom said that it's very childish and teenager like to do that. I'm very confused and wondering if this has anything to do with her having narcissistic tendencies or becoming of older age? I slightly agree and think it'd be best to have a habit of keeping it in my purse when I'm not using it but I also don't see it as being that big of a deal to occasionally use a back pocket considering most women's jeans don't have front pockets. Opinions? 

Whenever my mom yells at stupid things or me my dad would come out and stare at me. He would just stand there in his blue robe and stare silently at me. And while he is there, mom purposely yells louder so he would hit me. When he comes out of his room he doesnt even know whats going on, he would hit me no matter what. He slapped my face 3 times after stairing at me while gritting his teeth like he enjoyed it. Meanwhile my mom goes on about how i should die and how she wishes she never gave birth to me bla bla. This is chinese family, this is NOT normal. I know its not normal because she is the only one that talks so ugly. When someone pisses her off, she will always use death as a insult to them. Do you guys think this is normal?

Right now some friends had a party and I was not selected as there were only 11 tickets. I feel hurt I am not in the top 11 friends. Also a cousin got married two weeks ago and all the cousins were asked except my siblings and I cause our Dad does not talk to their mother over an estate fight from 9 years ago. Again, I feel rejected like I am not as good as the other 16 cousins who were asked because my Dad doesn't like the bride's Mom (his sister). It hurts so much, I hate myself and I want to die.

My parents make excuses for him because he is mentally ill. He is 38 years old and grabbed me by the shoulders when I was refusing to let them use the bathroom at the house we were vacationing at. I wanted him to go outside around back at night because I don't wanna have to share the bathroom with him as he's not clean. He's really annoying and he's mentally ill and my parents make excuses for him because he's mentally ill. My parents make excuses for him because he is mentally ill. He is 38 years old and grab me by the shoulders when I was refusing to let them use the bathroom at the house we were vacationing at. I wanted him to go outside around back at night because I don't wanna have to share the bathroom with him as he's not clean. He's really annoying and he's mentally ill and my parents make excuses for him because he's mentally ill. They also made excuses for him cause he was bullied as a kid. Our cousins mentally ill and she works and has a boyfriend and his normal I'm not annoying. It's not an excuse for my brother. I said I would never talk to them again and I won't but I'm gonna have to see him at Thanksgiving if he comes. Or Mom says he's obsessive and can't help it as he has something called OCD. That's not an excuse.

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the tv is full of christmas ads and commercials. the stores are full of christmas displays, christmas items and they torture shoppers with annoying christmas music. even yahoo and other sites are bombarding me with christmas ads. i remember when christmas came only one day a year. now christmas lasts three months!

im chinese 17 and a female. ever since i was 13 my family forced me to be a server, take phone calls, you know typical Chinese restaurant stuff. but seriously, i feel like i'm forced to waste my life away like this. i dont have a real job or a even a permit. my parents wont let me get a permit and im freaking 17...it makes me frustrated when i see other highschool students come on with their friends while im here wasting my life away -_- ive asked my family to help me get a job but they dont speak a lick of english yet theyve been in america for longer than me. im sorry if i sound like a brat but even the employees have more free time than me. im here from 3 pm to nine and i go to school and back at the restraunt again. my life is repetitive and honestly, i think my life is kinda pathetic dont you think? :\

Okay, so, here's the background. My parents met in their early to mid 30's, got engaged after three months, and found out they were pregnant with my eldest brother after getting married. My father is adopted and was a troubled kid, smoked since 8 and was an alcoholic for a long time. My mother came from an abusive-ish family and vowed she would never treat her kids the way her parents treated her. They went on to have 4 other children(5 total, in the youngest) and throughout their so far 27 year marriage my dad had been an alcoholic, verbally abusive, and on a few occasions, physically abusive. My mom decided to separate from him a little over a year ago. The situation is that I'm 7 years younger than my most close in age sibling(I'm a minor) some more background, I was sexually abused by one of my brothers and have been going to therapy for 6 years, I suffer from anxiety and depression, yada yada)and I live with my mother. Around last july(it's November now) my mom and my dad started to talk again. It started with just hanging out to going shopping to her staying at his house on the weekends. My other siblings seem fine if they get back together but in all honesty, the sound of it literally makes me want to puke. I feel repulsed when I think of them getting back together and of course I want them to be happy, but they've really become better people apart. Why do I feel like this?

Okay I'm 17 years old and my dad is checking me out. Even tho I don't wear tight clothes and I mostly wear baggy clothes. So when I was 16 I would show skin but I saw my dad checking me out so I started to wear baggy clothes and Cover my skin but last week I was wearing this red shirt with pants but my dad told me " Your boobs are growing" I felt uncomfortable and weird I think I'm being paranoid or something because my grandpa makes me uncomfortable 2 he always hits me sits near me or makes weird comments like " your mine don't date no one" or "you've been bad I'll punish you one day" and i don't like it! He touches my back or he try's to tickle me so I stand up and leave where there is people . Also my moms brother touched my butt like 3 times The 1st time we where in a party I was standing and he stand next to me and squeeze my butt and I looked at him and he said "sorry I didn't mean it" so I let it passed but the 2nd time he was walking by and slapped my butt and it made me feel weird But before I could have say anything he left and he didn't say sorry it was an accident and the last time he touched it  I looked at him and he smirked and I LEFT MY GRANDMAS HOUSE AND WENT TO THE PARK. I feel weird around those people they make me feel unsafe & uncomfortable, I think I'm getting paranoid but at the same time I am not and I should tell someone.