I am a big fan of our local sports team. I go to every game I can but I can afford only the cheapest seats. One day at a game, I heard someone say "Hello Ann". I turned around and it was John, my sister's ex husband. We talked briefly and he invited him to join him in his luxury box and I gladly accepted. I had never been a luxury box but they are GREAT. I really enjoyed the game a lot more from his box. He told me that any time I was at a game to come by his box and join him in watching the game. I did and each time I had a great time at the game. He had refreshments brought to his luxury box and we just talked. I had a wonderful time. He was the nicest person ever, very polite and never hit on me. We never talked about my sister, his ex. Sometimes his friends would join us in his box. They were all very nice to me and this just made it more fun. I have never told my sister about this so as not to cause her and me any problems. I don't know many details about their divorce. She never says anything bad about him at family gatherings. Should I tell her or is it none of her business as they are no longer married? Please tell me what I should do. Thanks.

My older sister is 24 and she got engaged 4 months ago. Her fiance was an amazing man. Everybody loved him. He always had a smile on his face, he was adventurous and he loved my sister very much. He was the type of man I one day hope to end up with. It was a real shock when he died 3 weeks ago. Understandably my sister has been inconsolable. She moved back to live with me and my parents and she has been locked inside her room about 90 percent of the time. Then about a week after seemed happy and claimed to be speaking to him. We all thought it was just a phase but then said: "He told me I should not worry. He is fine and will wait for me. We will be reunited soon". Then my parents started reacting. We're afraid that she might go as far as taking her own life but it's also a very delicate situation because how do you approach the subject without being insensitive? Maybe it is just a phase? I haven't told my parents yet but at night I can hear her speaking to herself. She cries a lot of course but she also laughs, like someone said something funny, and has conversations. Maybe we should try and get a counselor to come here?

My Nan had been bed ridden a lot recently and I can tell on her face how guilty she feels. She is always saying how, "I'm just wasteing your time" and "I'm so useless, you should be going out having fun." My pop died almost exactly a year ago and she really hasn't been the same since. She's so obviously depressed and sees herself in a horrible light but I just don't know what to say to her. I tell her she's not useless and how important she is but she doesn't believe me. Any advice on how I can explain how important she is?

My parents are not in the picture. And for example two days ago she was being acting like a bit*h so I was ignoring her yesturday and she like flipped out and said I was disrespectful. If I talk to her she finds an excuse to tell my brother I was disrespectful and if I don't talk to her she says I'm disrespectful. My brother ALWAYS stands up for her and he said yesturday stop acting like a brat or I'll take your phone. Like wth I literally did nothing. WHAT AHOULD I DO?

My fiancé and I live in Provo Utah, my fiancé moved here to get away from him s abusive amd toxic family. His saint of a mother moved to Utah to be near her only sane son after she was bought out from her home by his father. My fiancé and I love each other but his dad said that if he and I move back to Nashville he'll lease us a place to stay and he can get treated at several cancer treatment centers, I could get a job working in either Nashville or a surrounding town but his dad is abusive and his brother is mentally ill, so much to the point to where he had a double amputation for no reason. My fiancé has Chronic leukemia and I'm terrified about his health right now. His mother amd I are trying to convince my fiancé to stay in Utah because it might not be perfect but he'll be in a loving environment opposed to being with his dad and brother? How should I go about this. I want to provide more information in Utah we have the Huntsman cancer research institute, while in Nashville there is St. Thomas and Vanderbilt. I don't know what to do. His Dad said he will help with bills and insurance if we stay in Utah. His one brother is mentally unstable. How can I convince my fiancé that it's less stressful for him to stay in Utah and get treatment than to move to Nashville get stressed and that will affect his health. I would like to explain that his brother had numerous doctors tell him that there were numerous treatments, instead he shopped for a doctor to amputate both his legs

I come from a dysfunctional family.

He and I broke up 2 months ago and I started going to church and found him staring at me 2 weeks in a row so I texted him but he said he was offended which is why it wouldn't work and why he wouldn't allow himself to have feelings for me again. I didn't respond. I've been going to church since then it's been almost a month, i don't look at him and have given him a dirty look couple times. He literally doesn't take his eyes off me my family says...confused. My friends say it's a longing stare

Growing up, my mom and I fought tooth and almost every day and it made my life a living hell. I barely graduated high school because my mom would always come home and take her frustrations out on me as the oldest in a divorce family, and anything I did to mitigate the issue almost always ended up with me being "thrown out" for the night where I would just walk the streets or to my dads house a few miles away--rain, sleet or snow. I'm really disgusted by hosting this little pity party right now but adolescence was a constant bombardment of condescending and mean spirited comments and incessant pecking, berating, and unthoughtful punishments that impacted my school work and even my self esteem--though I f*cking hate to say that. I was to young to deal with it all responsibly. She eventually got a new boyfriend who I still don't know much about or trust, and she threw me out before I even graduated high school. I didn't go to my graduation because my truck that I was forced to live out of was impounded the night before for not having been registered; I couldn't afford it because my mom wouldn't put the policy in her name so my rate wouldn't be through the roof. Long story short, I managed to scrape out a decent life thru the enlisting in the USMC, during which I didn't talk to my mom and she didn't reach out to me. We've been spending more time together recently just to salvage something I guess and be civil but I officially decided that I don't wish to. Am I alone?

So my dad once again put limits on my pc usage time and it s just ridiculous, so it s not that i m lazy or something like that. I do the stuff they ask me to do, i get good grades, I don t even know what they want from me anymore. i ve always hated my dad because he used to abuse me when i was a child and showing he s the boss and all that, that s one lf the main reasons why i don t even talk to him anymore, i stopped loving him once we had a arguement and when he started screaming that he doesn t love me anymore. I was heartbroken. Thanks for reading. -John

My brother is 24 and not in a good place in life right now. He quit his job even if it was a car wash job he didnt need to quit. He is now selling weed and asked if my friends wanted to buy some. He also has a girlfriend who is 4 months pregnant. He asked if my job was hiring and I just told him we recently hired someone but ill let him know. Its hard for me not to feel bad because he was there for me when we re young. Whenever my parents fought or we went through bad times he did everything he could for me and now I'm watching him destroy his life. Am i supposed to feel pity? If not how do I get rid of it?

My older brother is 31 years old. I'll bring you back to elementary school, we moved 3 times and he tried hard to fit in with the friends he's made, but always felt he had to try extra hard, and eventually it lead to him cutting them out. Ever since then, it's been hard for him to keep friends. He has high expectations I should say. Its to the point where certain qualities about a person turns him off from talking to them. But its lead to him being very lonely. He has had many girlfriends, some of which have lied and cheated. Which has only made it harder for him to trust anyone. Throughout the many years, he's isolated himself, had terrible relationship with my mom and I and just recently, it's gotten worst. He shows many signs of depression but has never been diagnosed. The last few months he's been texting my parents blaming them from the life he has, wishing they never had him. Blaming my parents for having kids when they weren't ready. Calling them names. Telling them to shut up. Calling them degenerates. Making rude remarks about my aunts and uncles and cousins and me of course. Telling my parents they are bad parents. My parents are far from bad parents. I'm afraid to message him because I cant handle the verbal abuse. He's really nasty! What do I do?

Hi. I've been placed in foster care. My parents are abusive mentaly emotionaly, and physically. I've been placed in a home for two weeks and got really attached to the family that kept me. The woman that kept me said that one of the kids will leave soon and that she will love for me to come back and stay there. I talked to a professional and she told me that i might go back to that family but she can't promise me anything for now. As of now i'm staying in my school dorms on the weekdays, but i only decided to come here because i didn't even think that foster care is an option, i don't know where i am going this Friday night and that terrifies me. It's gonna be another foster family but i don't know who will they be or how far will i be placed. i am a very anxious person and staying in class right now is hell. I'm stressed out, but when i was in foster care i felt happy for the first time in months. I don't know how to cope right now, it's hard, it's so hard and staying in class while feeling panicky all the time is hell. I need your advice: how do i cope? i know leaving home was the right decision but it's not easy. I live in France btw so the foster care system is different

I am 18, and my kid brother is 11. I really love the little fella, he makes me laugh and always brings joy in the room. Lately his laughing and jokes have been dying down. He seems a little more gloomy. Recently he was crying about how mom will Die before us and a lot sooner then us. My mother says that's just a realization growing up as a kid. He's just maturing. My little brother has told me about people calling him ugly at school even though he's not at all. I had the problem too and it wasn't a pleasant experience. I worry a lot for him. How can I make him lighten up and feel okay again? How should I approach things with my beloved brother?

My fiancé also asked her fiancé separately. My Honda was already stolen last year out of our parking lot, and his car has parts worth over $15,000 in it. They both said no, and that they didn't have room. Cool, that's understandable, it's their garage. BUT my brother is 19, lives at home with his dad (my mom and his dad are divorced) and makes more than both my fiancé AND my mother at his job. No responsibilities. My mother OFFERED the garage to him for his car for the winter (yes, my 19 year old brother can afford multiple vehicles), after telling my fiancé and I no. I am pregnant with twins, I do not have a job (I was fired for being pregnant because I was a liability yes that is illegal no I cannot prove that was the reason), and my fiancé has not been able to find a buyer for his car. She is aware of all of this, and claimed that she and her fiancé forgot that they said they had no room and they both claim they never said they didn't have enough room. She refuses to admit that what she did was at least a little wrong. I understand it's her garage, she can do what she wants with it, but she completely ignored our pleas to let us keep the car there so we can afford our bills and food, and we asked months before she offered to my brother, meanwhile let my brother keep his car there while he just keeps collecting money that is all play money since he has no bills. Am I crazy, or was that messed up of her?

My boyfriend is moving in with his best friend and he told him I would be around and asked if that was okay. His friend came back and asked why I don t just move in also.i guess my issue is I m too nice and I don t want to hurt my parents they re extremely religious and they don like that fact that we even have sex so I know They ll be sad....currently I work for my parents office so id still see my mom everyday. All I m asking is how do I tell my parents??????

My family and I have very different political views and it's causing resentment and stopping me from wanting to visit them very often, which is a shame because we've always got along well. My solution would be that we simply don't talk about politics together, but they won't agree to this and keep making political (often racist, homophobic and downright ignorant) comments in front of me which I feel can't go unchallenged. It's starting to change my opinion of them as I don't understand how people who have always seemed like good, decent people with fulfilling lives can hold such abhorrent views? What's the best way of dealing with this? I live in the UK by the way, so this isn't republican vs. democrat.

Yes, one of my cousins robbed our house many years ago.My mother silenced me.But it has been a while after his marriage that he comes for emergency monetary needs.Despite he returns his debt in time.but he uses all of gold diggers ways to get money. He pretends to be shy and proud if hears No. Any suggestions? I forgot to write he's still haunting me even after my mom's death for humanitarian reasons with new guises.

My Dad died, my Mom and step-Dad always kept me from seeing him as a kid at Thanksgiving and Christmas anyway. My Mom would tell me that my Dad didn't love me and my step-Dad was my father now. I felt rejected by my Dad as a child because of these words. Then I learned my Dad did love me. But there had been a 6 year estrangement at that point. He could have fought for me better then he did but the rest of it was my Mom's doing. I never forgave myself for believing my Mom from ages 8 to 14. So the family holidays are a reminder now of the sadness of my childhood holidays. My Dad was always insulted the most at that time of year with my Mom saying "another Christmas and your Dad didn't come bother to have a relationship with you". I personalized it. My Dad was an alcoholic and when he got help is when he got back into my life. Sometimes my Mom was alienating me from him other times she may have been being protective of the drinking. Her words scarred me forever though and she wouldn't even give me his gifts when he mailed Christmas gifts at first (I found them years later when my mother and step-father were moving). So now my Dad has died (in 2014) and I feel that emptiness at the holidays again that I used to feel. My Mom and step-father get angry and defensive when I bring it up. My Dad's family doesn't ask me to their get together and seem vague when I inquire. They live two hours away anyway. I feel sad and empty like when a kid. ANY ADVISE OR IDEAS? I marked my name anonymous to discuss family dysfunction. I asked last night but only got vague answers.

Hello. I am a 25 year old male living in the United States and I would love to get some advice on how to deal with a few issues that I am going through at the moment. In basic, when I was younger and unfortunately foolish at the time, I had sex with my best friend; both of us drunk, didn't use any protection, and as a result she got pregnant. Our child is now three years old (as of last month on the third) and unfortunately her mother only stayed around for the first year. Her mother has not seen her or me since and refuses any contact. Our daughter has had daily, constant seizures since around the age of 9 months and is unable to stand, crawl, speak, or eat without a g-tube. She is prone to infections (respiratory) and is having issues with fluid near her heart. I had to quite college last year, just shy of graduating in order to pick up an extra 2 jobs to help pay for medical bills. I have a nurse that takes care of her while I work my main job (my other 2 are from home) but that is the only type of support I have. I have no support from my family because they believe that I need to deal with the consequences of my actions. I am mentally and physically drained. I sleep maybe 4 hours a night, barely eat, and I struggle to balance work with taking care of her. Her nurse is a blessing. I am just exhausted and worn down and I feel like I still am not being a good enough father to her. How do I become a better father for her? How do I support her? Any Advice is helpful.

Hi Guys, My cousin just gave birth to a beautiful baby girl. I am trying to write her a letter but I can't seem to write anything nice. I looked at greeting cards online and all of them seem not personal. I'm also not the type of person that is easy for me to express my feelings in writing. Anyone can help me write a letter? I would really appreciate it. I just want to tell her that I am lucky to be part of the family and having her (my cousin) as a sister. She is a wonderful person and I wish her all the best. Please help me. thanks in advance

I know everyone has problems of some sort but is there ever a person in ur life that you know very well in and out and you just know their life is perfect?! My aunt grew up in a ghetto neighborhood, barely went to school cuz she just didn't want to, somehow my rich uncle fell in love with her and married her even tho his parents were totally against it, he literally does whatever she wants, she has 2 grown kids who are smart and almost done university, my uncle always made a profit in all the businesses he did in the past 25 years so they have so much money, they got their green cards and citizenships the fastest out of all the ppl in our family, and she's rude and self absorbed yet she still gets things her way. How?!?

Hello, my name is Hebre and my friend has a very serious problem, as you could tell by the title. So, a few days ago, not long after I found blood in an apartment (story in my other question), my friend has told me something about his family. He told me that his father abuses him, physically and verbally, and that he drinks A LOT. His father is an alcoholic and gets mad really easily, his mother, Amy, helps my friend's sanity stay sane. His mother helps him, orders a psychologist to forget what his father did to him. His father threatens his mother that if he divorces her then he would kill her. So my friend is in a VERY serious problem, I need help immdeatly!

So my uncle called me over to his farm to help wrangle up his herd of ~10 cows/steers so the vet could give them shots and preg check the females. So I was over there for about 90 minutes helping him. Didn't have to do a whole lot but without me there, he would have had a much harder time getting everything done. Anyway, as I'm leaving, he tried handing me $25 for all the help. I turned it down and said he didn't have to pay me but he put it in my sweatshirt pocket anyway. I thanked him and headed home. Don't get me wrong, I like money but I had nothing going on anyway. I'd rather he keep that money for himself.

Let me give you a visual of our street; dead end cul-de-sac. My parents house is two houses down from the end of the street and one house away from their house is my grandfathers house. Around 3am my uncle went outside and saw a drone hovering about 30 feet above my parents house. At 4am by father saw a drone hovering around 30 feet again above my grandfathers house(where my uncle lives). When my parents were talking about it I was like 'yeah yeah whatever your old and crazy', but around 9:40pm my mom saw it outside and we (Mom, Dad, and I) got in the car and decided to drive around and try to find out who was operating this drone. It didn't take us long to figure out that the drone was ******* following us. It was scary. We drove through the grocery store parking lot and lt kept following us until we were about one and a half miles away from home, then the lights on the drone dimmed and it flew away really quickly back towards our house. The drone had two red lights on and and when it's close we can hear a buzzing sound. We are a pretty quiet family, but my uncle has some ties to drugs in the past, besides that I don't know why anyone would want to watch us. Does anyone know the drone laws for Riverside County California? Could it be the police? FBI? It's now 11pm and we're waiting until midnight to go out again and check for it.

Ok so im currently homeless right now with a 1 year old im 20 years old. I feel like i have no family no friends no anything. I lost my apartment 3 months ago due to the rent being too much for me to afford. I lost my job a month ago because i didnt have a stable babysitter. Daycare is expensive but the welfare only pays for it temporarily. The person i had babysitting was complaining and she was taking away too much money from me she wanted 50 dollars a day. She is a family friend. My mom doesnt want to bsbysit for me even if u pay her. She wants 40 dollars a day. I told them both just please let me buy me and my son beds and some more things that we need first and then i can pay you that much. My mom only letting me stay with her because the housing assustance im on is helping her pay her rent. She complains about my baby playing with his toys around the house. She complains about everything he does she kicks him out her room she just doesnt want to be bothered. She got so mad at us one day she threw glass and broke her whole oven the glass came out. She says shes tired of us. Ive only been here for 3 weeks. She ciuldnt even watch him while i went to an interveiw. She does drugs locked in her room late nights with her friends being loud and rude waking my baby up in the middke of the night. I tell her can she be quiet she says no. She wakes up 6/7 in the morning loud and wakes him up. Were sleeping on the couch. Im just fed up and thinking about going to a shelter. I have work at 8 in the morning but im dusturbed i cant sleep good. Im so stressed out i want to cry. Im doing everything on my own with no help his dad is a deadbeat and i dont want him in our lives. She say she will babysit until i put him in a daycare if i pay her 30 dollars a day. But honedtly i think she wouldnt even last 3 weeks she not igoing to wnt to watch him by the second day

After my dad left 11 years ago, my mom became aggressive. She was easily angered. When she would get angry, most times I would stand there silently while she verbally berated me. In my late teens I would respond calmly and respectfully even when I disagreed, which really made her mad. She would say I was trying to parent her and that I needed to stop acting like I was more of an adult than she was. During really bad days I would go to my room to escape the yelling... Until she unscrewed my door from its hinges to get in. I finally learned that they only way to get her to stop attacking me was to attack her back, and that wasn't the kind of person I wanted to be, so I moved out. Now we talk mostly through text. I asked her to communicate respectfully with me so that we can rebuild the relationship (ie no more name calling, sarcastic jabs, hitting things, etc). She accuses me of loving her conditionally and requiring her to be "perfect". My logic tells me I need to just forgive and then cut ties. But another part of me questions whether or not she's right. Is it wrong to walk away from someone who treats you badly when they're family? She says she loves me and that she is learning and then does the same hateful things again. It's confusing. I've read about emotional abuse and I have many of the signs. How do I tell myself it's okay to let her go and that it doesn't mean I'm an unloving person?

Your mom and dad are your parents. Your brother and sister are your siblings. Your aunt and uncle are your ______ Your neice and nephew are your ______

My fiancé and I live in Provo Utah, my fiancé moved here to get away from him s abusive amd toxic family. His saint of a mother moved to Utah to be near her only sane son after she was bought out from her home by his father. My fiancé and I love each other but his dad said that if he and I move back to Nashville he'll lease us a place to stay and he can get treated at several cancer treatment centers, I could get a job working in either Nashville or a surrounding town but his dad is abusive and his brother is mentally ill, so much to the point to where he had a double amputation for no reason. My fiancé has Chronic leukemia and I'm terrified about his health right now. His mother amd I are trying to convince my fiancé to stay in Utah because it might not be perfect but he'll be in a loving environment opposed to being with his dad and brother? How should I go about this. I want to provide more information in Utah we have the Huntsman cancer research institute, while in Nashville there is St. Thomas and Vanderbilt. I don't know what to do. His Dad said he will help with bills and insurance if we stay in Utah. His one brother is mentally unstable. How can I convince my fiancé that it's less stressful for him to stay in Utah and get treatment than to move to Nashville get stressed and that will affect his health. I would like to explain that his brother had numerous doctors tell him that there were numerous treatments, instead he shopped for a doctor to amputate both his legs

if a uneducated parent has a kid or more kids but doesn't have a job to support his/her children, but rather do drugs, drinking alcohol, being totally, neglectfully, verbally abusive to your own offspring.When kids have uneducated parents who don't have jobs and can't support them, but rather goes to next relative and ask them for money. When I say "the next relative" i mean uncle or aunt. That's what kids do, because the aunt/uncle is gonna be spending his/her money on his or her brother/sister's kid. People in this world need to have something for themselves cause they really do not have time to look after somebody elses kid when they should be the ones that's taking care of their own kids that they are bring into this world @Believe In Yourself i know what you mean. Because I have that same problem too. My niece has 3 kids from three different dudes.She's currently unemployed, She doesn't work, she spends time on drinking, smoking weed, and getting high, taking advantage of her own children, using them as if they were slaves to her. She very totally verbally abusive to her oldest child which is my nephew he's almost 13 and he comes over to my house just to get away from his mother. @Believe In Yourself Usually when he comes over, my older brothers buy him some food. Then, I be the one to forcefully spend my money on my nephew, which I don't wanna do but i had to. He can't get money from his mother because she doesn't have a job and then me and my older brothers will be ones that's supporting him.

I need to do whatever it takes to get out. My mother makes me want to shoot myself every day, my dad hits me, and my sister doesn't want to take me in. I have no where to go, and i dont make enough money to move out. I dont know what to do anymore and i just feel like im never going to get out. I dont want to call the cops or anything because i smoke weed and they will tell the police. Im suppose to be starting a 6 month college and even tho its not that long, im just so depressed and angry all the time, i just want to forget about college and get a job now and move out, but im not sure if ill be able to do it being a waitress.

My niece is graduating from MIT (First in my family to graduate college) this year and we're proud of all the work she's put in so my family and I are chipping in to get her a new computer for graduation. It's a bit early for graduation gifts, but since Black Friday is nearing, it'll save us some money. She's studying to become a software engineer so which computer do you think will be best for this profession?

I m a senior and I m graduating so I got all emotional about it and my mom started to yell at me for it and said if she should take me to the hospital. And I can t explains o her why in emotional about I think because all she will do is yell so I just keep quiet and I try to talk but then she yells and I get all choked up or whatever and i try to correctly talk but I cant , I m also sad cause my dad who passed away won t see me graduate and it s just so much going so quickly and she won t give me space to cry she told me that it s Brennan s long enough that I cried which I get that it s been about fifteen minutes but please I need time and she just yells what do I do? I cant just talk to her anout cause she ll yell yell so is her being over dramatics r me ring over dramatic and crying over graduating ?

I'm 21 and I feel so trapped at home and in college. I'm almost done with an AA and it's the worst degree you can get because of the jobs I found for it are only $12 an hour. I just want to go into a health care vocation so I can get the hell out. My brother doesn't show respect and I think about knocking him outlet with a frying pan everyday. He always wants me to help him with his son but when I need help he acts funny. I would buy him and my nephew food but when I want food, "he didn't get paid". He always insults my singing, my cooking, everything about me. Despite me driving him to practice one his car was broken one day driving him to the bus station to go to a UFC fight out of town and being supportive of him. When I was 17 my brother used to always borrow money from me. I used to have to hide it from him because he would say oh you don't have kids so you have it lucky. I was trying to save up for things I wanted to buy for myself like dance lessons. I didn't get your stupid girlfriend pregnant. My mom would borrow for me too to gamble and try to make more money. The story of my dad is a little different. He completely supports me financially but I always have to consult him about every small decision I want to make regarding money. And it makes me feel so small. My car is broken down and I wanted to tell it to the shop and he said next week because I'm not going to be home and I told him you don't have to be home. But he doesn't care. Every time we're out and he's with his friends and colleagues he always talks about how he wanted me to pursue nursing even though I didn't. And that's always the first thing that comes out of his mouth. It makes me feel embarrassed. I been told him what I want to pursue. He wants me to get a masters in nursing all I want is a job with enough money for now so I can pursue what I really want which is singing. I've decided I'm either going to do nursing or Dentistry I'm leaning more on dentist hygiene. I just want to move out at this point because I feel trapped. I'm almost done with my AA. I know 12 an hour wouldn't be good for rent. Because my ex lived in a 1K apartment with his cousin and he was always hungry and tired. And he got sick once a month. I feel so angry like I did last year I keep throwing things and wanting to break walls. If I had money I would smoke a lot of weed again. My kitten is the only person in the house to give me Comfort. I would get a bachelor's one day just to make my dad proud but right now I want to do my own thing period after I get a good medical job, I feel like I'll finally be free. I hope I don't sound confusing in this post basically I want to either become a dental hygienist or an LPN. Then I would get my own place and pursue music. If music fails then I would get into a more practical job again. I'm starting to get depressed again. I feel like I wasted three years trying to get an associates that is basically useless. My family exacerbates it

My Dad died, my Mom and step-Dad always kept me from seeing him as a kid at Thanksgiving and Christmas anyway. My Mom would tell me that my Dad didn't love me and my step-Dad was my father now. I felt rejected by my Dad as a child because of these words. Then I learned my Dad did love me. But there had been a 6 year estrangement at that point. He could have fought for me better then he did but the rest of it was my Mom's doing. I never forgave myself for believing my Mom from ages 8 to 14. So the family holidays are a reminder now of the sadness of my childhood holidays. My Dad was always insulted the most at that time of year with my Mom saying "another Christmas and your Dad didn't come bother to have a relationship with you". I personalized it. My Dad was an alcoholic and when he got help is when he got back into my life. Sometimes my Mom was alienating me from him other times she may have been being protective of the drinking. Her words scarred me forever though and she wouldn't even give me his gifts when he mailed Christmas gifts at first (I found them years later when my mother and step-father were moving). So now my Dad has died (in 2014) and I feel that emptiness at the holidays again that I used to feel. My Mom and step-father get angry and defensive when I bring it up. My Dad's family doesn't ask me to their get together and seem vague when I inquire. They live two hours away anyway. I feel sad and empty like when a kid. ANY ADVISE OR IDEAS? I marked my name anonymous to discuss family dysfunction.

My Father Is About 6'7 And My Mother Is About 5'5 5'6. I am currently 17 years of age and my height is about 5'9. My uncle on my mother side is y'all as well. My big brother is about 6'2 but I think I am kind of short compared them. If I do continue grow how y'all do you think I will become in the future? Thank You.

My Mom died and I know my Dad a little but at a distance. He won't have me to family celebrations saying his wife is uncomfortable since I am from his ex-wife. He accepts her two kids but she won't accept me? I have no family as a result of this other then extended family I see once a year in the summer. The holidays are coming and it is so sad to be rejected. I have suicide thoughts at this time of the year. My Dad also lies a lot to me with excuses like "we don't do the holidays" and then I see on Facebook they do. How do I get my Dad interested in knowing me outside of weddings and funerals? My Mom was an only child so there is no close family on her side.

So after work today, I was almost falling asleep on the couch while in my work clothes, but I remembered that I have to go to the gym, so I got up and told my parents I was going to the gym. Next thing I know, they're yelling at me, saying, "Don't go to the gym! Go to sleep and go only on your days off (which is only one day)! You can't be sleeping only four hours and going to the gym!" They even threatened to take my car away from me, even though I pay everything for it. I even pay them $300 a month, but they still don't let me do anything. I'm tired of feeling disrespected. Maybe they treat this way because I comply, I don't know? I would move out, but where I live, rent is super expensive. I'm also going to college, so I can't have anymore room for other jobs. For crying out loud, I'm 21, but they still act like I'm a child.

I'm 27 now but from what I can remember they never slept in the same bed and that also they don't even sleep in the same house anymore. We have two different houses and they sleep Inn their own houses but see each other everyday. My dad is twenty years older than my mom. They separated about 12 years ago but now their just together but living in separate houses. Since I was a child they never slept in the same room. My dad owns both houses and lets us live in one and my dad in the other. Is this a sign my mom never loved my dad or it's just they get along better that way

I feel like I am being unfaithful that I don't see them all. All but about 10 of the 2nd cousins are close family and all of the 1st cousins are. Also add 20 siblings, a niece and nephew, and 9 aunts and uncles. I see the siblings and aunts and one of the 3 uncles at the holidays but not two uncles and only 1/5 of the 1st and 2nd cousins.

so im 14 right now (female) and my sister and i have always had small arguments and whatever. when i was 10 or 11 my sister was offered to join a pageant, as a normal girl wanting to feel like a princess too i obviously complained, and was told by my sister i was too ugly. over the course of a couple years our arguments turned physical, she used to pull me off bunk beds, grab my hair, slap me and punch me, whenever i fought back my mom and dad used to say it was my fault and i antagonized her. just recently i went to her, we still have an okay relationship but i tend to avoid her, and talked about how i was feeling suicidal again (previous suicidal tendencies and recovering cutter) and we both said a lot of things we didn t mean. we were at sonic because i wanted to talk about it away from home and i raised my voice to her once because she got in my face, and she s the reason im scared of people in my face, and she slapped me. she bought icecream after that to make up for it and then when i told her to take me home she drove down a street, pulled over in a church and told me to get out. i put the icecream on the mat of her car, (stupid i know, i was upset) and she picked it up, threw it at me (slapping me in the face again, and causing my nose to bleed this time ) my mom and her said it was my fault because i put it on the mat and made me clean it up. i feel like that isn t fair because she s the one that threw it and she should ve had to clean it up since she threw it?

to sue Mcdonalds for coffee being hot? That has to be the stupidest GUY invented, coffee is supposed to be hot. Its the equivalent of trying to sue a Ford dealership because your car had a flat tire. Stupid or not? During group discussion one GUY explained his response, which still did not make sense to the rest of us. I think he was diverting our topic because he has just came out as homosexual. Our group is very open and loving, we would of loved him no matter what his sexual orientation is.

Ive been punched , slapped , beer poured on , car taken , mentally abused , verbally abused , physically abused , emotionally abused , slapped while pregnant with our child , punched in front of our child , water poured on me , clothes thrown out on the porch after 3 years of this we broke up and I was doing well for about 4 months then he came back into my life saying he changed & didn't want me to raise our son alone (1 year old ) I let him back into my home while he was homeless got him a car in my name & insurance in my name . After all that was done he still verbally abuses me but he no longer hits me , he gets mad if I don't let him come home when he pleases & says he is a grown man and doesn't need a curfew . I don't talk to him because during the break up I lost interest and he makes no effort at all to win me back over if he does anything it's the bare minimum and it's because I asked him too and whatever he does he does it once and that's all . On his off days he sleeps until 5 then leaves to go with his boys and I feel used and dumb for letting him back into my life . I'm not hard on him so when he can't help me with our son I don't push the issue I just pick up the slack and if I do ever ask for help and he is not delivering fast enough and I say something he goes off the handle yelling and cursing and blames it all on me . I've kicked him out but sent him a long apology like a dummy . How can I let him go and go through this pain of feeling used and being alone ?

woman I have ever loved? To clarify, I have loved Sharon since we first met, some 10 years ago..We have had occasional 'flings" but she is happily married and will not leave her husband. I am ok with that, her husband is a great guy and she deserves to be happy! But I am not ok with my own flesh and blood trying to 'steel' a part of my heart! She KNOWS that Sharon and I are really close and she still finds ways to try to bully herself into our relationship. **yes we are all bisexual, Sharons husband is also!** Please help me decide if I should cut ties with my Sister, I love her but this is destroying that. Thank you and God bless

Don't bother answering if you're going to tell me not to hit my son. He is 16; he will be fine. Lack of corporal punishment is why America is now full of sissy boys and fags.