Family: Question: What to do 60 year old mom who can t take care of her self?

Question: What to do 60 year old mom who can t take care of her self?

Posted: 24 Nov 2017 02:17 PM PST

My parents are divorcing. My mom is not all their she hasn t drove in 15 years. She has never worked. She has constantly made my dad s life hell. My dad had put her in a rental trailer after she cheated on him. She has been living their for 3 months. He has been bring her food and washing her clothes..... my dad had a heart attack 3 days ago had to have 4 bypasses he is recovering well. But I don t know what to do about my mom. She won t see a doctor and keeps causing scenes. (A judge is supposed to be splitting their stuff in January. Their house flooded a year ago and my dad is living in a small trailer in the front yard. They won t make much off the house.) I m just looking for advice on what to do about her. Do I take her to a mental illness hospital? Can I force her to see a doctor? Idk what to do. Sorry if my grammar is bad in this post. I haven t had much sleep these last few days. I really appreciate any one who takes the time to give me advice

Question: My aunt is a narcissist. Could this be why she makes her life looks so much happier on Facebook then it really is?

Posted: 24 Nov 2017 02:13 PM PST

Question: I upset not to long ago cuz my mom whiped me so i felt depressed and told my friend that i felt lonely and depressed.?

Posted: 24 Nov 2017 02:12 PM PST

His mom founf out and told my mom.My mom keeps asking me why and shes the resson why.Im afreid if i tell her she will jist abuse je agian.plz help.

Question: How do I get my mom to stop lying to me about my dad?

Posted: 24 Nov 2017 01:49 PM PST

Question: Moving out?

Posted: 24 Nov 2017 01:49 PM PST

im 15 and i live with my mom, i have my whole life because my dad`s been in jail. ive only seen him a few times. am i still able to move out and live with him even though my mom wont want me to, and since he`s been in and out of prison/ jail?

Question: How do I remove my toxic sister that can not cope with communicating from my life?

Posted: 24 Nov 2017 01:43 PM PST

Question: Little brother wants to take out my eye?

Posted: 24 Nov 2017 01:30 PM PST

My brother is 12 and I am 16. He has been wanting to take my eye out for a while now and almost did once. He also made an "eye poker" before. Today my dad accidently poked my eye and I got upset and said be careful and my mom joked "If you lose one eye it isn't a big deal because you have another one" this upset me because my brother was there and he takes EVERYTHING SERIOUSLY that my mom says. He walked by me and laughed "Hey can I poke your eye."I feel like he now thinks it is okay to take one of my eyes and will encourge him to do so. I am honestly scared because I am pretty sure he is crazy based on other stuff he has done. I don't know how to prevent it from happening since my parents will say I am dramatic :( My door doesn't lock and I am scared to go to sleep tonight now. The best thing I have is to wear sunglasses and hope for the best but this just adds to my stress What can I do to prevent my brother from doing so?

Question: Was I wrong to yell at this parent for his stupid kid?

Posted: 24 Nov 2017 01:26 PM PST

I used to love Buffalo Wild Wings until they tried to combine a sports bar with Chuck E. Cheese. So now I just like it because I still like the atmosphere and wings and beer. So my team was loosing and there was kids everywhere at 9pm (wtf Is up with that) I was getting close to drunk and eventually going to drive home and was already in a bad mood and tried earlier to nicely tell the parents to have their kids that were screaming next to me and running around the bar. This sorry excuse of a parent told me to mind my own business as he was on his phone nearly the entire time! Then later the mother who was also gutter trash came up to me and asked if I could tone down my voice and language. I said "excuse me?" I wasn't acting like a complete jerk and if I was I'm pretty sure management would have said something. I told here I'm here to watch sports, drink and cuss and if you don't like it you can F off! Was I right to do this? I think I was a tiger!

Question: How do I talk to my dad?

Posted: 24 Nov 2017 01:06 PM PST

I'm 14 and my mom and dad are divorced. At this point it doesn't affect me, in fact I'm happy because both of them are in relationships with someone they truly love and someone that I would love to have as a step parent too (my mother is married and my dad has a girlfriend). So me and my mother talk to eachother about everything, probably more than most teenagers talk to their mom about. Btw my parents are really young so she doesn't affect our conversation. My dad on the other hand is a little bit harder. My dads personality is pretty chill/cool and don't get me wrong I love my dad to death and I wouldn't trade him for anything but I want to talk to him about more than basketball (I'm 14 and I'm a girl that plays basketball). He doesn't force the subject but that's the only thing we can easily talk about... otherwise we sit in silence. I love my dad so much and I don't see him everyday but I don't want him to think I'm hiding stuff from him or I don't like him but I just don't know what to talk about with him! Can you help me figure out how to stop this akwardness?

Question: How do I handle the hurt of family rejection here at the holiday season?

Posted: 24 Nov 2017 01:00 PM PST

Question: Jobs for a 13 y/o?

Posted: 24 Nov 2017 12:56 PM PST

I need have some stuff on the wishlist, and I need to buy presents for family and friends. My parents are really tight on money and always complain if ask for something as small as some fast food. I think by getting my own job young I could start being more independent and even help my parents with some bills. I've been searching for days on the internet jobs for a 13 year old. The only things that pop up are survey taking (which I feel is very sketchy and don't feel comfortable putting my email and such on) and blogging (which I tried but you have to pay for a 'domain name'?) My parent's don't want me babysitting since they are very overprotective and don't like the idea of me watching kids in a stranger's home and I cant sell lemonade(its freezing) or shovel (back problems). The only tutoring at my school is for free and honestly I don't really think I would be a good tutor. Pls help!

Question: How do I stop my mom from comparing me to other kids?

Posted: 24 Nov 2017 12:46 PM PST

My mom often compare me with not only her friends' talented and IB AP kids, she also compre me with models and actresses, saying that their beautiful and I'm the ugliest thing she's ever seen. She's been doing this ever since I was little and It really hurts me so much every time she does this, and I just want to run away or die. I tried to express this to her and she beats me for being disrespectful. I talked to the counselor, teachers, and even social workers, (idek what my parents told them ) but all they said was "listen to your parents obey to your parents stop complaining". Even after my mom found out I talked to a social worker, I was beaten and called "failed abortion" I'm 16 now and I'm almost falling over the edge, I can't handle this anymore and I'm frustrated and confused. Is it normal for parents to compare their kids like this? Because I don't know what right or wrong anymore. Please help

Question: Moving out at 15?

Posted: 24 Nov 2017 12:46 PM PST

i live with my mom, i have my whole life because my dad`s been in jail. ive only seen him a few times. am i still able to move out and live with him even though my mom wont want me to, and since he`s been in and out of prison/ jail?

Question: Moving out at 15?

Posted: 24 Nov 2017 12:37 PM PST

Am i able to move out with either my dad`s girl friend or his mom at 15? He`s in jail right now so im not too sure if i can or can not. My mom does not know im planning on leaving but she has kicked me out multiple times. I live in georgia btw. Thanks

Question: Is there any way you could get adopted without your parents wanting to give you up?

Posted: 24 Nov 2017 12:36 PM PST

I really do not like my mother and my stepdad. I do not feel comfortable around them, and my stepdad is very messed up. (Not going into details with that) but I'm tired of being with them. I would go live with my dad, but him and his girlfriend are the same way. My older brother feels the same way about my dad and his girlfriend than I do about my mom and stepdad. My brother doesn't know what to do and I don't either. There's nobody else I can go with and I would prefer to stay in the same town I'm in. So I want to stay with a friend... I guess it wouldn't matter if they couldn't adopt me, but I know my mom wouldn't want me to stay with a friend either...

Question: How do I get my dad to let me see my aunt who he doesn't speak to you next weekend and her kids who are my cousins?

Posted: 24 Nov 2017 12:30 PM PST

He says I'm never allowed to speak to her again because he doesn't like her.

Question: My parents are bigots how do I educate them?

Posted: 24 Nov 2017 12:21 PM PST

Question: Would this be considered spoling your child?

Posted: 24 Nov 2017 12:18 PM PST

So I love my dad a lot. I appreicate how loving and caring he is. He doesn't actually buy me stuff, as in spoiling your child with valuables and all that, but he would be willing to buy me whatever I want and I don't like to take advantage of that. Whenever he sees me (my parents are divorced) he's always showering with complinents and saying how amazing I am. It gets reallly uncomforable because I don't know what to say back. I've tried talking to him about it, but he took it as an insult. Sometimes I wish he could just not do that and say "I love you" once and that's that. Please don't hate on me because I get that I'm a really lucky person for having a dad like that and I really appreciate it, but it just get's really uncomfortable. What should I do and would this be considered spoiling your child?

Question: How do you Mourn someone that’s alive?

Posted: 24 Nov 2017 12:02 PM PST

Question: Is it ever right for a parent to do this?

Posted: 24 Nov 2017 11:57 AM PST

For years my father has had anger management issues, and can be verbally abusive when he's really angry. I graduated college (magna *** laude) earlier this year, moved back in with my parents, and landed a full-time job at a bank about a month afterwards. Although this is likely not a job I want to make a career out of, it pays a really good salary/benefits and I'm trying to take this next year or so to figure out what I really want to do. The other day when I came in from work, my dad gave me a backhanded compliment ("You look so nice! For once...") and when I expressed annoyance he flew off the wall, telling me I was an ungrateful spoiled brat, that I had "no ambition," that he was ashamed of me, how he's so much prouder of my brother than he is of me (my brother's applying to medical school), and that I "look like **** all the time." I'll admit I'm not the perfect daughter (I'm not the tidiest person, but I have good hygiene, and I can be moody sometimes), but that seemed extremely uncalled for. And this has been a pattern my entire childhood. I also found out recently that dad had left bruises on my mum after an argument, but when I asked her why she stayed with him if he did this, she said "because I'm strong and I can take it. That's just the way he is." Now, I'm out of my parents' house now, but I'm introspecting and I can't understand who is more at fault here, me or my parents?

Question: I need to get out of my house!?

Posted: 24 Nov 2017 11:46 AM PST

My mom and step dad abuse drugs quite frequently. It s just marijuana and alcohol, but the thing is that they don t know their limits. They are aggressive and angry. The other week me and my mother got into a heated argument and she started swinging at me and then kicked me out while my friend was over! We then headed over to my aunt who I have always relied on for an intimate mother-daughter relationship when my mom was never there. I have accepted that I will never have a good relationship with my mom, things will never get better. Alcohol means far too much to my mom. I m 17, I turn 18 in less than 9 months. I don t think I can hold on any longer. How can I establish legal guardian right for my aunt. I m sick of defending myself from my mom physically and mentally. This has been going on since I was 8 and I got exponentially worse when I was 11 when she kicked my *** in front of neighbors on my birthday when she was drunk. I am diagnosed with generalized anxiety and moderate depression. Can this aid me in leaving my parents? How can I leave my house legally when my mom wont let me leave?

Question: Can a family member have different RH blood type?

Posted: 24 Nov 2017 11:39 AM PST

My older sister claims she has O- type but my 2nd older sister has A+ and my brother has O+ and I have A+ as well so I'm sure my older sister has O+, but she claims to have O-, is that possible? My parents have A+ and O+ so I'm sure she's O+ not O-...

Question: How can I deal with spending time with my boyfriend's parents when mine have died in the past couple of months?

Posted: 24 Nov 2017 11:28 AM PST

Okay so this is not his fault at all, but my mother and father passed away this year, July-August from cancer, a month apart. We had a very close family and I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year. We had Thanksgiving yesterday and I kind of shut down seeing his family when I realized I wouldn't be having that myself. His family is nice, they're pretty cool, but they're definitely not as warming I would say as mine were. I feel like they thought I was being stuck up and we chatted some, but it wasn't that I didn't want to be there, I just felt sad and was trying not to cry. I've been avoiding family functions of his because of this and I'm wondering how I can cope? He also seems to get frustrated with me but it's not his fault. He just doesn't understand, so I'm battling with that as well....

Question: Was this wrong to do to my son?

Posted: 24 Nov 2017 09:58 AM PST

Yesterday, on Thanksgiving, my 14 year old boy woke up pretty sick. His face was pale green and he was throwing up. I was having 11 people over for dinner that day, and I was not letting them all catch his tummy bug. So I handled it by quarantining him in his room alll day with a bucket, not to come out and spread his illness. I checked on him hourly, took his temp, cleaned the bucket etc. all creaking stuff. It's not like I ignored him. He wasn't hungry for dinner anyway.

Question: Everyone knows my sister's crush/FWB is still sleeping with his ex and lying to my sister about it - should I say something to sis or no?

Posted: 24 Nov 2017 09:56 AM PST

I do not have any sort of hard evidence to prove it to her. I just hate seeing her look ridiculous repeating his lies to everyone and nobody wants to be the bad guy to point out the obvious. The excuses this guy comes up with as to why he keeps ghosting my sister to "innocently" spend the night at his ex's house are ridiculous. He doesn't even deny sleeping at his ex's he just denies that there's anything still between them. Please answer the question which is should I point out the obvious to my sister so she stops looking ridiculous believing and repeating his lies to everyone? Regardless of how this situation with this guy pans out, I don't want people ending up thinking my sister is an easy target to take advantage of. Right now every time she repeats this guy's ridiculous excuses (believing them) she's basically advertising herself as exactly that. I have no problem with FWB in general. My family looking gullible and like easy targets is absolutely my business. My sister is in my family so how does this have nothing to do with my family? "choosing to believe his lies" you sound like an abuser

Question: Our son passed away wife coping strangely?

Posted: 24 Nov 2017 09:55 AM PST

Our son passed away about 2 months ago. My wife has been struggling. She won't live/stay in the house at all since he passed. We've already put our Home up for sale and are in the process of closing on a new home. She now wants to sell everything we own. She's already sold our sons bedroom set, our livingroom set, plates, dishes, she wants everything gone. I'm trying to be supportive but this isn't normal. We can not afford to purchase an entire new house with everything entirely new. She's been selling things behind my back while I'm working. I realize she's struggling but this is really unhealthy. She said she's doing it to rid herself of bad memories and start totally over. We've had a difficult few years. My mother and mother in law have both advised me to stay out of it and let her cope but I'm concerned. First for her sanity and second for our bank account!!! Selling everything is going to put a tremendous amount of stress on myself and the family. Any advice?

Question: How to convince my dad to let me play club volleyball?

Posted: 24 Nov 2017 09:43 AM PST

I have just finished my last high school volleyball season, as i am a senior. I was pulled up to varsity my sophomore year, and started my junior and senior year, and did pretty well. I also played club sophomore and junior year. clearly, i am invested and love the sport. next year in college i want to play club or intramural. I also want to play club this year because I still want to play and have fun, and be prepared for next year if i do decide to do it at all in college. the biggest reason is that I really just love to play and don't want it to end so soon. I have a car, so i can drive to practice the one day a week we have it (sunday), and my grandmother already offered to pay the tuition because she really wants me to play too. my dad complains that it would take away family time, but i only have practice a few hours every sunday and 4 tournaments (all on sundays). I understand where he is coming from as I am leaving for school next year, but it doesnt take up that much time in reality. also i feel as though I should be able to make the choice considering i am the one who has to leave next year. my friend also said i can go with her to some of the tournaments so my parents wont be that inconvenienced all around. my dad keeps saying that i am only doing it because my friends are (not true) and that it's pointless because i dont have to prepare for the season anymore. how do i convince him? my parents have never been very involved with volleyball for me or enthusiastic.

Question: Parents always fighting?

Posted: 24 Nov 2017 08:44 AM PST

My parents have been fighting ever since they were married, nonstop. It's not just those small parents fight that happen every once in a while, it's fights everyday. However, I realize that it's my mom that is always starting the fights, my dad hasn't ever started one. My mom always fights about how she hates my dad's family and how from her point of view they're dead to her. I honestly rather wish my parents were divorced rather than married and fights everyday

Question: How can I stop hating my brother so much if he’s really changed?

Posted: 24 Nov 2017 08:19 AM PST

ok this might be a long story I am 22 he is 28 I am female he's always been mean to me back and forth but I am just assumin he's always been drinking since he was a teenager but it gotten worse the past 2 years but he's been going to treatment for it 4 days a week and he seens a bit nicer and making an effort, I however keep thinking how he treated me what if he acts that way again he's never hit me no but he's been emotional abusive which I know his treatment tells him expect to put work in to getting a long with your family or something like that which is why I am willing to give him another chance. I don't know how to stop hating him tho I got that hate in my heart sadly it builds up a bit of anger though it's not as bad as it used to be since I learned not to be so angry by reading the bible has helped me a lot.

Question: My sister locked into Steam at my computer and now has my games in her library?

Posted: 24 Nov 2017 08:15 AM PST

My sister had to check something on steam, so she borrowed my computer to do so. When we checked her library, the games I have downloaded were there as well? Does that mean, that she can now play my games as well from a separate computer?

Question: Forced relationship with toxic family- what to do?

Posted: 24 Nov 2017 07:37 AM PST

I'm an adult and live with my mother. I want absolutely nothing to do with my father and brother for my own sanity. However, they are constantly visiting and trying to "make things work" again but it only angers me. I am not changing my mind. This has been ongoing for 2 years. I need to take care of my mother. Her and I get along great. But the issue is, she won't accept the brokenness of the family. She is constantly trying to keep my dad and brother "in the know" what I'm up to. I want to be dead to them. It also upsets me when she keeps me updated on them too. Should I break things off with her too for my own good? I think you've never heard of manipulation.

Question: My narcissistic and did not come to Thanksgiving because her son was invited. Is this usual family holiday drama?

Posted: 24 Nov 2017 07:21 AM PST

She hates her son but loves her daughters. She said she's boycotting Christmas to if we invite her son and my mom plans to invite her son. Her son usually comes by for about a half hour and then goes over to his dads.

Question: My mom is so toxic I spent Thanksgiving alone to avoid her. How do I handle Christmas, should I do the same?

Posted: 24 Nov 2017 07:20 AM PST

She is better and has lots and lots and lots of grudges. My dad enables her as do you my siblings who came into her. It hurts me because it keeps me from having an extended family.

Question: Are my parents being ridiculous or am I not seeing something here?

Posted: 24 Nov 2017 06:13 AM PST

I'm going to be 20 years old in a few months and I am a sophomore living at college. Although my parents let me live at school, they just flat out won't let me drive a car and never have. I've had my license since I was 16 therefore I THOUGHT I'd be driving someday but here I am, 20 years old and still no car and no sense of freedom besides living at school. Is this kind of ridiculous?

Question: Is it bad that I wanna have my crushes babies?

Posted: 24 Nov 2017 05:05 AM PST

This guy really likes me and seems head over heels for me. I also like him and am very attractived to him. I'm 25 and wanna have his babies now..is this bad? 3 months since I came across him

Question: Should we find sentimental value in this gift?

Posted: 24 Nov 2017 05:05 AM PST

My 21 year old step-son is dating this girl. This girl's sister got married and they (my step-son and his girlfriend) went to the wedding. They were giving out souvenir shot glasses with the couple's initials and date of the wedding on it. Step-son brings home a couple of glasses to give to me and his mom. I noticed them in our dishwasher. After they were cleaned I took them and placed them in my step-son's room. Mom gets upset with me because I did that. I asked why she was mad and she said that he brought those glasses for us so why would I put them back in his room. I told her, first of all, we didn't go to the wedding nor do we know the couple. Never even met them so why would we want 2 shot glasses with someone else's initials on it we've never met. Secondly, I told my wife that she and I aren't big drinkers and she said that "I might take a shot of something." I looked at her and said, "a shot of what, milk, tea, or juice, because that's about all we have in our house." She thinks we should just love these shot glasses like we personally know the couple or simply because her son gave them to us. It's not like he's in kindergarten and he made an ashtray out of clay. I told her that's just more clutter we now have to display to show our appreciation for him giving them to us. And it's not like these were top of the line shot glasses. She probably ordered a million of them from Ebay for like $20. They were giveaway gifts , not something they personally picked out for my step-son and he was the only one to get a gift. Should we hold a sentimental value to these shot glasses or did I do the right thing to just put them back in his room?

Question: I feel I am over macro managed and not helped. My family has me overwhelmed, I feel pushed around & dictated to. Help?

Posted: 24 Nov 2017 04:52 AM PST

Question: Is it rude for my in laws not to help with marriage expenses ? home furnishing etc?

Posted: 24 Nov 2017 04:34 AM PST

I paid for my new apartment in full; and im buying all the necessary furniture, carpets etc by myself. When i met my fiancee's parents and told them that we wish to get married etc i expected them to sort of help out with the expenses somehow; at least toss in a kitchen or a bedroom. After all i own the apartment and we won't be paying rent = financial stability. Times are rough and i really dont see why her parents don't want to chip it. She just graduated from college so she'll be working soon. I find it very rude from my in laws not to chip in the home furniture; yet they will spend money for her daughters wedding ceremony and their guests. Is that rude ? FYI there has been NO mention yet of how she intends to spend her future salary...and so far im getting the impression that it will be spent on herself in terms of shoes, clothing, makeup etc. Its a partnership...not a free ride on my buck; we're talking tens of thousands of dollars just to furnish a house from A to Z with all the appliances and 3 AC units etc. Im having second thoughts on this ... my future wife should pay something to be with me; not just waltz in here.

Question: Should I be offended and assume I am being rejected and just liked because my aunt did not ask me over for Thanksgiving?

Posted: 24 Nov 2017 03:58 AM PST

She had my uncle and his family over. She did not ask me even though my parents were out of town. I spent the day alone sitting by the phone hoping for an invitation. I felt rejected.

Question: My dad was drunk yesterday for Thanksgiving and made everybody miserable. How should I confront him before Christmas so he doesn't ruin it?

Posted: 24 Nov 2017 03:57 AM PST

I don't want to ruin Christmas also. He's gotten worse and worse with his drinking in the past five years but my mother does not want to do a family intervention because she says it's a private subject.

Question: How do you deal with a mother who lies like crazy?

Posted: 24 Nov 2017 03:51 AM PST

Question: Does incest make retarded children?

Posted: 24 Nov 2017 03:43 AM PST

Question: Do I have the right to be upset about my privacy being gone?

Posted: 24 Nov 2017 03:08 AM PST

I'm an adult and I live with my mom, she pays slightly more rent than I do and claims she has the right to make all the rules because of that. I already sleep on the floor in the living room because I want privacy and it's only a one bedroom and I don't want to share a room with her, but a few months ago she decided that she was uncomfortable in her room and that she wants to sleep on the couch. So now I have no privacy at all. She claims I'm crazy and that there something "seriously wrong"with me for not wanting her in the same room as me when I'm trying to sleep. And of course I'm not allowed to sleep in the bedroom because that's "hers" too because she pays more rent. Also she refuses to sleep with the light off so I have to have that on all night too. And before anyone suggests it, yes, she has mental illness. It's already been diagnosed and she refuses to get help.

Question: My child treats me like a child?

Posted: 24 Nov 2017 02:50 AM PST

I have a mental illness and she thinks she knows about it more than I do because she's studying to be a psychologist. My coping mechanisms require the people that live with me to do certain things, and if they don't they get yelled at. I'm not wrong to tell them off for not following my rules. She will stand there and refuse to do what I want or listen to what I'm saying and tell me that 'my behavior is out of control' and that she won't 'enable me' to treat her that way. But it's my right. It's my apartment and she just lives here and doesn't pay the full half of rent. Neither of us can afford to live on our own right now, but if she doesn't want to follow my rules she should just move out. I tell her every day if she hates me so much to just move out. What do I do to get her to treat me like the adult and her act like the child like she's supposed to and just obey?

Question: How to deal with unpredictable father....???

Posted: 24 Nov 2017 12:41 AM PST

Something that's really bothering me now would be my relationship with my dad. There are days where he's cool and nice, and other days when he's patronizing and makes me feel like ****. I wanna respect him, cause he is my parent, but the times he treats me like **** are when I wanna cut him off. He has this thing where he puts on a face for everyone else, but when it comes to family, he lets this face go. I feel like seeing him is toxic, and I don't know how to deal with his abuse

Question: I don’t love my family.?

Posted: 24 Nov 2017 12:26 AM PST

Sometimes I do feel guilty about that but I genuniely just don't care. I dint miss them if I dont talk to them for a while and I don't like getting called by them. I dint care if I break their rules or hurt their feelings. I care about my friends/boyfriends so it's nit that I'm completely indifferent just with them. But yet I want to move out and know it'll hurt my mother and I don't care?! Why is it that I'm so uncaring. I break their rules, lie to them.

Question: My fmaily and i have just moved back to Europe from Australia. HELP?

Posted: 23 Nov 2017 11:42 PM PST

The choice to move home was led by my sister and i ; if we didn t want to go, we wouldn t have. We moved home for family, and along the way I was told multiple things; - that i d ba allowed to go to parties if invited - that i d be allowed to catch the bus to the city whenever - that as an immediate family we d spend time together and explore the place I also assumed that, as i ve mvoed before, people in school would be as interested in the new kid as they have been before. I left behind a big group of friend who are now more like family to me than my extended family ever have been. Upon moving home my life has gone to ****. A divorce is on the table for my parents, turns out there s family beef which means my extended family don t actually like my family (mum+dad didnt tell me of this before makng the descion), i ve gone from a straight A without study student to a straight D with study student, my grandparents may be divorcing and potentially worst of all im not allowed to leave the house by myself. I have no friends in school, im not sporty therefore won t be joining a club and to be honest i can feel myself breaking. It s just all this **** happening at once and I don t know what to do . Help

Question: Any advice for my mom issues?

Posted: 23 Nov 2017 10:43 PM PST

I got some pretty bad issues with my mom and I ll try to keep this as short as possible. I m 15, mom is in her thirties. SHORT VERSION: my mom is a very stressed person raising 3 kids on her own and I understand so I do try to help as much as possible but nothing I do is never enough for her so she constantly takes her anger and stress out on me. This has caused me stress and depression since the age of 10! LONG VERSION: So, for years now, my mom has been the type of person to really yell, curse, etc at me over the littlest things but not your typical mom yelling at her son. It s hard to explain but my mom really knows how to press my buttons and due to it, I ve suffered with on and off depression since the age of 10. Basically anything as simple as a question could come outta my mouth and my mom could twist my words and go ballistic. You may think "oh, just avoid conversation with her" but when I tried this about a year ago and I attempted to see a psychiatrist but this made her jump to hella conclusions and get even madder at me about something she didn t know anything about. She constantly makes me a dark, sad person when I m genuinely a hilarious, nice person and ever since middle school, teachers and friends even see the shift in my personality. It s all due to my mother that I can t please or make a right move with.

Question: Why does my cousin get everything she wants in life while I have to sit here with 5 kids on welfare? I hate her?

Posted: 23 Nov 2017 10:38 PM PST

-she has a sugar daddy who pays her bills - shes not that pretty. She looks like Angela basset. I don't understand why guys like her - she's a stripper/escort - she has no kids or husband -has a mental illness that she takes zoloft for -she slept with the governor and didnt get in trouble for it -she is 5'1, 140 pounds with size 34D breast implants... That her sugar daddy paid for - she wears 30 inch weave everyday - she flunked out of college and owes $20,000 Like I really dont like her. I just want to be around her because shes popular on IG and she takes me on a cruise with her every 3 months

Question: What should I expect during first Christmas since sister's death?

Posted: 23 Nov 2017 09:22 PM PST

This will be the first Christmas since my older sister died unexpectedly earlier this year. I have another older sister who lives out of state with her husband. My other sister will not talk about what we are doing for Christmas this year. Every time I try to talk to my mother about it she also doesn't want to talk about it and gets mad and upset with me. I have always made out a christmas list every year since I was a teenager and sent it out. I don't know if I should even bother this year. I still expect presents and I was hoping I would get presents this year like I have every year. I've been told to buy myself a present but I refuse to do that. I would rather get presents from my parents and my other sister. I also want to be able to buy presents for my family as well. Should I prepare myself for not having a family Christmas this year?(Or any year from now on?) Do I have a right to even bring up Christmas with my mom after the death of her daughter that left her devastated? Am I taking the death of my sister too lightly? Is this even a Christmas that I should even be celebrating like I used to? My dad even said that I need to drop the Christmas thing and just treat it like any other day. I don't want to. I know I'm a 37 year old man but I still expect presents every year. Especially since I didn't even get any birthday presents when it was my birthday a few months ago. Am I wrong for feeling this way? What am I supposed to do this Christmas?

Question: Sister in law hates me?

Posted: 23 Nov 2017 08:47 PM PST

She says hi to me and thats it . I try to compliment her to get a conversation going bc its all about her, she wont even sit next to me . She never asks about us and we harsly see her . She never shuts up so we dont get a word in and she insults my husband so i insult her back when she does that .She loves all her other inlaws . My husband always talls abojt me and i think.maybe that makea her jealous but her favorite brother is their younger brother so and ahe hardly in my.husbands life so idl what she has against me so much ??? Im done trying to brown nose her, its been 5 years ,time.to get used to me right, whoever her younger brother is eith she loves .

Question: Do you think my parents meant it when they say they don't love me anymore?

Posted: 23 Nov 2017 06:54 PM PST

My parents I think are Abusive and th ey give me emotional abuse all the time. I live with them and they have fought wi th me and thr eatened to kick me out, they never forced me out and I'm hoping they wont. I think they treat me differentlyrics from my sister I th ink th ey treat me worse. My sister beats them and th eyre afraid of her and won't do anything about her. But my parents still cook and do thi ng s for me. They threatened to not pay for my education but my mom still paid. Today my dad was saying how he doesn't love me or the family. Do you think th at they were bei ng serious about kicki ng me out and not lovi ng me any more? I was arguing with them but th ey started it. Th ey th ink because th ey own th e house that its ok to abuse me and give me emotional abuse. They said that I am unreasonable. They are negative and they are toxic They sounded serious what kind of parents would do that to th eir own kid? I'm thinking of reporting them to the police You're right that I'm not being abused to the point that its life threatening but my parents are toxic people and emotionally abusive and they have hit me bfore they are abusive towards each ot he r and they have all gotten violent with each other before. I'm sorry for the typos. they are messed up and dysfunctional, my sister and dad were fighting very badly last year, physically, cops were called and everyone was injured, my mom also is abusive towards my dad, my dad is abusive towards all of us, they're messed up. i want to file a police report. i am a young adult.

Question: How do I explain to my 9 year old son why I don't feel comfortable with him going to a friend's house?

Posted: 23 Nov 2017 06:49 PM PST

He plays with a little girl whose father has a history of having sexual relationships with children. I already felt uneasy about this girl being vulnerable to him (especially DURING the time he was caught). It's my job to protect my child. This man was involved with a few other kids, but not his daughter nor my son. At 9 years of age, it seems too young to be exposed to this stuff. He's been told about the basics that he is always to tell an adult if someone makes him uncomfortable. I'd rather he not go to places where those risks are present. How do I tell him in an understandable, age suitable way?

Question: I hate being a maid at home,i hate being used and my parents take advantage of me.what to do?

Posted: 23 Nov 2017 06:30 PM PST

https://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20171030021121AAyGYOT Everyday,i clean,vacuum,mop and my parents are extremely messy people. We used to have a home aid last year,but she wouldn't clean,and my grandfather threatened to call the cops on her because she wouldn't leave the apartment. Don't get me wrong,i do help around the house,but this is getting very tiring for me. I don't have a life,my mom owes me and my grandfather money,she takes advantage of me by using my computer and doesn't shut it off. I have to shut if off myself. She doesn't pay any attention to me whatsoever. I don't have a social life because i'm always cleaning up after them. My mom always comes up to my grandfather's apartment,where i live,and always watches t.v,smokes in the bathroom,and makes a huge mess everywhere and guess who's always cleaning? ME!!! She doesn't even pay 0 attention to me,and she has been like this since i was little. She never raised me,my grandparents raised me. She steals money out of my grandfather's checking and savings account. She is always on fb and you can't have a conservation with her. It's impossible! I told my therapist this and she says to move out,which i am saving money up for. She doesn't care that i have anxiety,depression or a learning disability,because you know why? I don't talk to her because she is in her own little world,it's really getting on my nerves. what to do? I can't bond her with because she doesn't act like a mom to me.

Question: I don't like my host family?

Posted: 23 Nov 2017 06:18 PM PST

I've been an exchange student in America for 3 months now. At first my host family was pretty decent. But lately they have changed a lot. I got sick and they seem so annoyed for that. I have been in pain constantly and to avoid complaining I began staying in my room almost all the time. I feel like they don't help and support me with anything. It's literally like living on my own in a house filled with strangers. I don't even know how to communicate with them. And then there's my host mom who complains about me not being talkative when actually whenever I start talking about something they don't even care about thigs I talk about. The things they wanna talk about are so insignificant like all they talk/care about is food. Literally all the time. When I talk about me or my day or my problems they seem so uninterested. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO. And I surely don't want to continue like this. If my exchange year is meant to be like this, I don't even wanna be here anymore.

Question: Ladies who drive would you have done this?

Posted: 23 Nov 2017 06:05 PM PST

I just got home from my parents house after Thanksgiving dinner. I was barefoot inside my parents house and had a 3 hour drive home so instead of putting my shoes on I just walked out of my parents house barefoot threw my shoes in the trunk and drove home barefoot. It was very comfortable driving home barefoot.

Question: If you criticize an abused person for cutting contact with their abuser (including family), you deserve to step on a landmine, T/F?

Posted: 23 Nov 2017 05:59 PM PST

Pearl I've seen you do this already tonight