Family: Question: How should I act around my cousins whose father recently died very suddenly?

Question: How should I act around my cousins whose father recently died very suddenly?

Posted: 21 Nov 2017 01:59 PM PST

On Sunday my uncle passed away very suddenly, he was healthier than most, and only in his early 50s. We still aren't sure how he died, but we are getting an autopsy. When the memorial comes around, my dad, brother, and I are flying down with the rest of my family. I just want to know how to act and help my cousins. Also they are a 6th grader and a 3rd grader.

Question: Do you think my crush thinks I'm creepy?

Posted: 21 Nov 2017 01:45 PM PST

It's not a crush, it's a fascination. I'm not close to him at all. We just know each other. At our high school prom I ended amends by breaking the awkard looks by saying to him Goodbye Steven! I will miss you. Then continually waving then stopping after realising what I was doing. Steven did the same back. Ever since then the dude has never liked a single one of my Instagram pictures and unfollowed my Instagram music channel where I post me playing musical instruments

Question: Can I adopt her?

Posted: 21 Nov 2017 01:07 PM PST

I am a 25 year old single guy with a 15 year old niece Jill, my sister's daughter. Jill often comes to my house for help with her homework. If we finish her homework late she spends the night a my house and I take her to school the next morning. She told me she was a nervous wreck from her mom and dad fighting all the time and they were getting a divorce. She wanted to stay with me until the divorce was final. I told her that was OK with me but she needed her parents OK which I thought would not happen. However her parents thought it was best for her not to see them fighting all the time and agreed she could stay with me until there divorce was final. I was very surprised by their decision but I think they were thinking of what their fighting was doing to Jill. Jill moved in with me and has been living with me for 2 months. She is a very nice person and is no longer depressed. We have had a lot of fun time together going to school events and sporting events. Jill ask me if I would adopt her so she could stay with me permanently. I told her that I doubt if her parents would let that happen. I don't know if you can adopt someone that has living parents. Does anyone know if that can be done? Would a better solution be to just let her live with me as long as her parents are OK with it?

Question: How to make my children to obey me ?

Posted: 21 Nov 2017 01:04 PM PST

Question: Do you think it's right?

Posted: 21 Nov 2017 01:00 PM PST

Do you think a mother should let their present boyfriend be like a father to her kids when she doesn't let their real father see them or know who he is. I'm having problems with my nieces mother and she's acting like a dumb *** and it's b.s for that? Opinions please. I don't like the fact that people can give straight answer without being cruel or assholes. At least give a different answer pricks.

Question: Am I being unreasonable?

Posted: 21 Nov 2017 12:56 PM PST

My mom (and rest of my family) always yells at me for being "too private." For example, I don't like her to read things I write for school or hear what I'm playing on piano (I have headphones and a keyboard). Also, when I'm in my room and on my phone, I usually have the lights turned off. I just like to be in the dark instead of being bombarded with light for no reason. My family labels it as weird. Anyway, they always try to pry into my stuff and constantly annoy me with questions I don't want to answer about the things I'm doing. I don't know if they're concerned or whatever, but forcing me to share what I don't want to and what I frankly think is none of their business isn't helping me with anything (I don't even know what they think it is doing). I don't have a problem with my friends reading my stuff and whatnot, I just don't want her doing it. I really don't think I'm the one at fault here but I want a second opinion thinking of somehting I might be missing. Also if I am justified it's always hard to try to explain that I just don't want to share certain things, because she always gets mad and literally will not listen to me when I try to walk her through things logically. I don't know what to do.

Question: This morning my fire alarm started going off I got the closest latter then it fell down and I did to I hurt my foot?

Posted: 21 Nov 2017 12:52 PM PST

My mom doesn't have patience even if I don't say I want to go or not. She just assumes that I don't so she just leaves me at home when I wanted to go.

Question: Why did my mom just leave without even asking me to come I wasn’t even ready?

Posted: 21 Nov 2017 12:48 PM PST

She told me to fix the fire thing I needed clean clothes. She didn't have patience.

Question: Why did he suddenly ignore us?

Posted: 21 Nov 2017 12:47 PM PST

So my moms cousin kept calling my mom begging her to come to his state and visit him and his wife and kids because they're family, he kept saying that we must stay in his house for a month but because me and my mom need our space we decided to stay in a motel close by then see him when we want. He said if we do this he won't speak to us at all but we told him not to be silly and he didn't mean it. So when we travelled there (1000 miles the flight was so expensive) after few days of settling down my mom calls him and says we're in town now so let's meet up, he says he'll call us back in an hour because he was busy but he sounded enthusiastic. He didn't call us back at all. So after a week my mom calls him, he doesn't answer. The whole time we were there for like a month she called him like 5 times but he never answered. We decided to see other family members who lived in town instead, we see them almost every day. It then turns out he found out and was asking about us to them. So it turns out he was deliberately ignoring us. When we finally got back to our state he calls until angrily saying we deliberately excluded him and saw other family members and that his wife had the bed all made for us and they were all shocked we never visited them. But he was the one that refused to speak to us? I'm confused.

Question: Is this considered physical abuse?

Posted: 21 Nov 2017 12:33 PM PST

Please help, i am so scared, ever since I was little my mum and dad would hit me with a wooden spoon and throw stuff at me. It got better but about a year ago it got worse : my mum hung me from my window, threw me into that bath, pulling my hair, plates thrown at me, strangling me, kicking me but then there is my dad who punches me, strangles me he like sticks his thumb right into the center of my throat, he tells me I that I was an accident, that I'm too dumb to make it to Japan..i got used to it, I'm starting to think that it's my fault..but tonight... Tonight he punched me, thumped me and took a big platform shoe and now I have dents in my skin. I'm too scared to tell an adult, I'm scared that I will be sent to a foster home and then I won't be able to study in Japan. My future will be ruined...What do I do? And thank you in advance

Question: How to stay positive when everything in life is going bad?

Posted: 21 Nov 2017 11:41 AM PST

I'm a sophomore in high school and I've been moving from family's basements since the summer I graduated 8th grade. I don't have my own privacy or room, I can't have friends over, can't put up a Christmas tree or anything. My mom is single, has lupus and other health problems and has 3 kids. She's been trying for almost 2 years to get help and she can't get on her feet because she can't work. Government won't help, no one will help. And I'm starting to think we will basically homeless for the rest of my high school career. I hate my life and it's so embarrassing. This will also be my second Christmas without anything:( . I'm starting to give up on everything, I never go out anymore or see my friends and I think I'm depressed. There's nothing I can do anyways cause I'm just a kid.

Question: Whydo my bro /sis nlaws ignore my husband and i on fb?

Posted: 21 Nov 2017 10:37 AM PST

Fb is the only way we can talk other than when we see them and they choose not to . They do however talk to his brother and sister and whoever his brother is with . They include her in photos and have a tissy fit when i am in one .You wouldnt know my husband has a wife, they have no pictures of me but do everyone else well his sister has some but she deleted out wedding album.she mad bc she was mad about something . Idk why do they do this when i hardly see them and why do they ignore my husband ,is it because they are so much involved in college and hia brother goes to college ? They are all about fame and money . His sister is fb friends with all her other inlaws but me ,idk why . Please dont say ask them bc they refuse to speak to me .

Question: My parents not supportive with international marriage not because of racism, should I agree with the reasons and move on?

Posted: 21 Nov 2017 10:12 AM PST

So I went to my dad's origin country for holiday alone. There I met a distant relative( dad's cousin daughter) that I really liked, and she seemed to be interested in me as well. So apparently, before thinking far ahead I took the opportunity to discuss with my parents first. My age is currently 18. First my mother was questioning about the language barrier that we might have. Well I've been trying to master the language here so far since this is not my first time coming here. Anyway, my dad was very unsupportive when I talked to him about it. Instead of getting mad, he just talked it out with me explaining the positive and negative of the relationship. 1. Communication problem with locals 2. Family issue from abroad country. Expensive international tickets + busy with work 3. Visa problem. Need lots of money 4. Culture shock Leaving some of the other reasons, I can't disagree with him on all the reasons. The thing is, I actually have a feeling towards the girl that it will be tough to just let her go. What should I do? Should I just move on and forget about her if I know I can't handle the problems well? Basically it means I need to be financially stable to overcome this, but then also have to manage our future retirement plans and more, that it would be tough and challenging. Or is there some sort of solution to counter these international marriage?

Question: Why doesn't my ex look at me as much anymore?

Posted: 21 Nov 2017 10:02 AM PST

He and I broken up and when I went back he said he wouldn't forgive me and wouldn't "allow" himselt to have feelings for me"however every sunday at church he wouldn't stop looking at me. I wouldn't look but my friend with me would look and telll me. He was gone for 2 weeks and came back and now only glances occasionally and does't stare like he used to. Our eyes locked about 2-3 times thojugh. Could it be that since I don't look at him he gave up?

Question: I have a crush on my cousin is that wrong?

Posted: 21 Nov 2017 09:57 AM PST

oky before you start calling me a sick demented human being let me just say I have or never intend to act on my romantic feelings for a family member I just feel like we get along and are like friends its just that she is nice to me we text back and forth i know its amoral but nobody outside my family girls wouldn't go for me I live in the U.S. she us a few years older than me crushes are normal but I wouldn't date or have babies with her is it normal to have a crush on a cousin?

Question: What does this mean?

Posted: 21 Nov 2017 09:52 AM PST

I thought there would be way more karate in our day to day lives by now

Question: My mom is cheating on my dad ,what should I do?

Posted: 21 Nov 2017 09:44 AM PST

My mom and dad have been together for at least 16 years plus. I am one of their three children, I m the youngest at 13, and my older brothers are 17 and 18. Recently, my mom has been very protective of her phone. She has also met up with a high school friend that fawned over her. Last night, as I went down to her master bedroom where my mother (my father works night shifts in winter), sits alone in the room talking. I sit outside her door listening to the conversation just in case it was with my grandmother, but it wasn t. My mom talked about how she couldn t do It with my father anymore because she doesn t want to work on the mariage. As well as saying I love you too, and talking about how she can t sneek out to see him. But earlier this year I told her how I don t like the man who fawned over her, and she started to defend him. I also caught her texting him when she says she was just texting her girlfriend. My father doesn t know anything about this, and I worry because he can t take care of me if my parents divorce because he wouldn t make enough. So that would leave me with my mother whom I would really want to stay with. What should I do?

Question: My mom won't let me make and sell slime for a living?

Posted: 21 Nov 2017 09:37 AM PST

Question: Poll: do you like Breastfeeding or bottle feeding?

Posted: 21 Nov 2017 09:27 AM PST

Question: Is it uncommon to declare independent at 21?

Posted: 21 Nov 2017 08:27 AM PST

I want to declare myself as independent the summer before my senior year of college, but of course I am going to be working full time and pay all my rent, phone bills, and stuff. Is this uncommon? I want to get out ASAP.

Question: Is this wierd?

Posted: 21 Nov 2017 08:14 AM PST

Ok so i have been living in my neighborhood for the past 14 years and have never ever speaken to my neighbors nor dont even know any of their names is that wierd?

Question: Thanksgiving plans with in-laws?

Posted: 21 Nov 2017 07:53 AM PST

My husband passed away almost 2 years ago. My in-laws have been incredibly kind to me and their granddaughter, but I am finding it difficult to be around them knowing my husband is gone. It just feels weird. A side note is that I have been dealing with postpartum depression along with grief. We were invited to Thanksgiving with them and some extended family. As the days draw closer, I have a huge amount of doubt and anxiety. I would prefer to either stay home or do something I love, like hiking. I deliberately booked a camping trip for the remainder of the weekend just to get away. My other concern is that the event will be fairly fancy, and I feel like I will have to be "on" engaging in small talk and all that. I just don't have it in me this week. Should I buck up and go, or kindly decline?

Question: Is it okay to ask my sister to wear a bikini after she asked me to be shirtless?

Posted: 21 Nov 2017 07:50 AM PST

It gets really hot around the area I live in most of the time. One day, it got really hot in my house and I was getting really sweaty. As a result, my sister told me to take off my shirt so I can cool off. As first, I thought it was inappropriate as I am not going swimming or to the beach. She then told me that it was fine and that no one was looking. Therefore, I took my shirt off and cooled off. Right now, she is starting to get really hot as the sun was blazing down through the window in her room. I feel bad for her for always having to wear a top because she is female unlike a male's nature. Since she has asked me to be shirtless, I would figure I can ask her to wear a bikini to reciprocate. She loves bikinis overall, so I do not think she will mind. Again, I am just returning a favor for something she did before. Is it okay for me to ask her? How should I ask her?

Question: My mother is STRICT and she wont let stay on campus when i transfer to an university? (no mean answers please)?

Posted: 21 Nov 2017 07:38 AM PST

Hey you guys. i am 19 years old and my mom still treats me like a child. it is getting out of control now. im not a bad child or anything. i just got out of high school, i maintain my grades, even today in community college i still have good grades. i am an obedient daughter. i have to ask to go this place and that place , and she says she has to think about it. My mother even sends my little sister with me half of the time whenever i go somewhere. its really upsetting me because she wont let be great and do the things i want to do. i cant even go to my uncle house without asking and her telling me i better not leave his house when i stay. i don't get much freedom as i should. it is really depression me because i cant be a regular adult and do things by myself. i really want to go this particular university and stay on campus, but i know she's not going to let that happen. my mother tries to run my life and what my career should be. its so much more to it. someone please help me!

Question: How to tune out my insincere, manipulative adult sibling who is constantly complaining that our family is not as close as it could be?

Posted: 21 Nov 2017 07:12 AM PST

I feel like if he's going to behave the way he does then he should just deal with people not trusting him. It's annoying.

Question: My parents are disgusting?

Posted: 21 Nov 2017 05:45 AM PST

Ok my parents have sex ok i know i was born that way but my 5 year old child which my parents were babysitting said that granny and grandma were screaming and there was to much nosie and they were in bed they told me to keep my child with them they dont have any respect like infront of a 5 year old theyve got grandchildren now they should grow up there 50 My mom refused but my dad who is horny pulled her into bed Im not trolling the ****

Question: Is it wrong to sell my mother s coin collection?

Posted: 21 Nov 2017 05:33 AM PST

My mother just passed and she had no life insurance, money no nothing. I dont even have enough money myself to see to her final expenses her without having to borrow money from somewhere. She left me with a bunch of old coins, would it be wrong to sell them to pay for her funeral?

Question: Why do people decide to have more babies if they can barely support the ones they have?

Posted: 21 Nov 2017 05:01 AM PST

I have a cousin who is nothing short of an idiot. My family has more or less cut ties with him because he uses people. He starts out fine but quickly asks to "borrow" money. He owns money to several people. His wife is not much better. She has some psychological issues and long story short the lights are on but no one is home. Anyways we heard recently that she is pregnant with their third child. Usually a baby is happy news but not in this case. His in laws are more or less supporting them and they are not happy about this. They can barely handle two kids so a third won't make things better. How can people be this selfish? If you want to live like that and mooch of the good will of others that is certainly your right to try it. But to bring in kids like that is just selfish. If you are in that situation why would anyone choose to bring more babies into an already problematic situation? And when you ask her she'll usually say things like "God will help us". Sigh....I just don't get it.

Question: Mental health day?

Posted: 21 Nov 2017 04:56 AM PST

So, I cried last night around 4 times because of stress and Yknow, terrible teenage hormones. I'm having trouble in some classes, namely my algebra since I'm late on a homework pack, and Ive got a missing assignment in art. They're really dressing me out. Woke up really early this morning to get to school early so i could make up a PE test i missed but i feel like utter ****. I really don't want to go and I've got permission to stay home, but I'm worried if u do I'll be even more stressed. What should I do? Stay home or go? Any opinion helps.

Question: Should I tell Dad, he's being catfished?

Posted: 21 Nov 2017 04:43 AM PST

My dad is staying with his friend down the road because my parents need space, he cheated before and I think my mum is getting fed up with him being suspicious. He goes to the gym everyday for 3 hours and when they argue he accuses her of cheating which she swears she's never done. Well my mum decided to look at his Facebook last night and found messages and this morning he had deleted them, I've also seen them. My dad may be oblivious but I can see it's a catfish, asking for money which he refused, 'she' only has 10 friends, all of them male and only has 2 pictures. In the messages she refused video chat and it's just so obvious. He wants my mum back and to work through their problems but he's not even trying In one hand I feel like he deserves it but then again, he is my dad. He doesn't know we have seen the messages (including that's he's down to ****)

Question: What do you think? What is the better option?

Posted: 21 Nov 2017 02:12 AM PST

My friend and I got in a little fight yesterday, she made a comment that was very hurtful to me. I told her im getting off the phone and she said "ok, im sorry, bye" We haven't talked since.. I don't want to honestly but i want her to know how bad it really bothered me. Should i send her a message just letting her no why it bothered me or just not talk to her and see if she really cares to even find out?

Question: What wouod be better to do?

Posted: 21 Nov 2017 01:59 AM PST

My friend and I got in a little fight yesterday, she made a comment that was very hurtful to me. I told her im getting off the phone and she said "ok, im sorry, bye" We haven't talked since.. I don't want to honestly but i want her to know how bad it really bothered me. Should i send her a message just letting her no why it bothered me or just not talk to her and see if she really cares to even find out?

Question: My parents hit me. I’m 12 and terrified?

Posted: 20 Nov 2017 11:59 PM PST

My parents and I got into a fight the other day, and let's just say it didn't go well. I'm 12 and in yr7 and the oldest of three kids. The other day my parents and I got into a fight. I was back talking and being a smart a55, and my mum slapped me six or so times. My dad got up and I knew he was going to get something to hit me with, so I ran into my room, out the window and into the street. Our street is very empty and quiet so there were no cars. I was in the middle of the road and my dad ran out and grabbed me by my hair and dragged me into the backyard through the side gate. Then he got a belt and started hitting me, hard. So hard it left bruises and lumps for the next week. He was chasing me and throwing hits at me with his leather belt. After fifteen or so hits, my mum interfered and said "Jorge that's enough" "No." he said. "It's not enough, she needs to learn!" At this point I was terrified and in survival mode and screaming for him to stop. I ran into the house with him hot on my heels and ran into my room. If my mum (who was more on his side than mine) hadn't stopped him, I believe that he would've just kept hitting me to his hearts comtent. I was shaking and terrified. I grabbed my stuff and leapt out the window again and now I, living with my grandparents in Bentleigh. This isn't the first time it's happened. My dad has hit me with a stick once, hard enough to leave a mark. He's a great father and doesn't do any drugs or smoking or drinking, ever. Nor does my mum. My parents hit me. I'm 12 and terrified, what do I do?

Question: Kids are being abused bio father. What kind of abuse should I be concerned has happened with each kid?How do I help and get them to share?

Posted: 20 Nov 2017 11:54 PM PST

Child one came home disclosing molestationfrom her bio dad. She also disclosed physical abuse her dad hurt her sibling. Second child early pregnancy K has become clingy and at the same time he acts out aggressively breaks toys hit people objects. If I say you can't hit your sibling child gets attitude says fine then I'll hit the couch.This child also gets nightmares is afraid of monsters in bed. Third child has special needs seems to love bio dad but refuses to tell anything that happened at their visits. Their bio dad has told me I have no right to know what goes on at his house regarding the kids. It's all secretive. How do I get pregnant schooled to tell me what's bugging them. How do I get my special needs child to talk share without fear. How can I help them. Currently kids just received a CPO.

Question: Why is family so damn important? Why are people so worried or distraught over the prospect of leaving their loved ones behind?

Posted: 20 Nov 2017 11:50 PM PST

I just don't get it.

Question: Can a CPS be involved due to a parent who emotionally neglects and does not allow socialization?

Posted: 20 Nov 2017 11:24 PM PST

Let's say if the child is already on the verge of suicide. They cannot even socialize with their siblings or other parent. That one specific parent controls their life 24/7. They are not permitted to befriend their peers and keep in touch with them. Their parent is in denial about the mental illness that may be developing. The child isn't getting the help he/she needs, etc.

Question: I have never met my granddaughters?

Posted: 20 Nov 2017 11:05 PM PST

My sons girlfriend will not let me see my granddaughters. They have been together for 4 years and things have changed so much, my son doesn't come to family functions anymore, I barely hear from him and he doesn't even speak to his only brother. My family has never got to meet the only grandchildren of the family. I've tried to reach out to them and they both just ignore me. My heart is in so much pain it causes my so much anxiety. I just want to be able to see and spend time with my son again. I want to be able to be a grandmother to my granddaughters, life is too short tomorrow isn't promised she's depriving my family and my granddaughters of so much. She controls his life and I wish he would just open his eyes and realize it. Im hoping someone has answers, I've been suffering for so long.

Question: Can I legally become fatherless (UK)?

Posted: 20 Nov 2017 10:31 PM PST

He was abusive i walked out on him 3 years ago and have always stayed with my mum ever since I'm 15 year old boy who's a 70s rock n roll kid (sorry that doesn't matter) Anyway how can I legally become fatherless From North Yorkshire UK

Question: I'm 15 and supporting my mom, it's too difficult what do i do?

Posted: 20 Nov 2017 10:00 PM PST

First off, my ENTIRE family hates my mother and i so don't suggest we ask for family help, friends neither because we have none. My brother is an addict and he's 23 staying with us, he's getting clean though i'm so proud. My mother has a bad job, she gets about 10 hours a week and makes i wanna say $12 per hour. I got a job 4 months ago to help pay for necessities, i make $9 an hour and can work 15 hours a week. This helps a bit. My mother just got out of the hospital, she's on bedrest for 3 weeks after her surgery. I go to school over the internet but i'm behind over a month because i've been supporting my mother for over a year. She uses her food stamps for food for her boyfriend who lives across town. I have to do laundry, dishes, take care of her dogs who have diabetes and are obese due to her lack of care, vacuum, dust, go to work, try and catch up in school, drive me and her everywhere with a car i bought myself, and everythings falling apart. I'm self harming, i drink like 2 times a week, i smoke ganja but that actually helps me in my history class so that's not a con, and i'm exhausted. My father isn't in my life. I shouldn't have to be supporting myself along with my mother and brother. What do i do! My mom doesn't even appreciate me she complains that i don't do enough and she says she should just kill herself. She's told me she hates me and my brother and regrets having us. I'm lost. My boyfriend lends me money, free alc and ganja, but i feel guilty. What doi do

Question: Why are children's clothing becoming more inappropriate?

Posted: 20 Nov 2017 09:34 PM PST

I went shopping with my 9 year old yesterday. We saw a few very cropped tops in the children's section! More and more kids clothes seem to be mini-versions of ADULT clothes. Some are perfectly okay, but some are not! There's still lots of cute outfits that are great. It seems as she gets older, we have less clothes to choose from that are not too revealing, has no bad message on it (e.g being "sexy" or suggestive) and will suit her at the same time.

Question: My mom is acting different?

Posted: 20 Nov 2017 08:23 PM PST

So my mom does this like 2 times a year. I noticed it maybe 3 years ago. She acts weird, not necessarily a "bad" weird just, different. She looks tired and spaced out, slow. I ask her like if she's okay and usually responds "yes!" Or "I just had a lot on my mind." This time, my dad and brother are out of town for the week, so it's just me and her getting ready for Thanksgiving. I can see it maybe happening this week cause she really does have a lot on her. But it happens just out of nowhere. The last time I remember, my dad was working night shifts and wasn't really home, and it happened. It's the exact same thing! It usually always last about a week. PLEASE IF ANYONE HAS ANYTHING PLEASE PLEASE TELL ME!! Thank you:))

Question: Uncomfortable around my father?

Posted: 20 Nov 2017 08:18 PM PST

I'm a young girls, early teens, haven't done anything id think you'd call sexual, but im extremely uncomfortable around my dad because i always feel like he *thinks* sexual things about me. i know he doesn't. i mean, i don't think he does. but i can't help it. these thoughts aren't 24/7, as my parents are divorced and im with my mom maybe 2 weeks out of every month, but basically every day i *am* with him, i worry. i can't even touch him and he thinks i hate him. my dad has a tendency to yell a lot, which i dislike. but that has nothing to do with this. see, this problem has been with me for about a year now and i continue to try and ignore it. i feel it might be getting worse though. maybe half an hour ago my dad touched me. nothing bad, nothing inappropriate. just a light touch to the arm, if not a stroke for maybe 10-15 seconds. i went into the bathroom and cleaned my arm, though i still cannot get the feeling of it off and it's driving me crazy. i don't know if this is extremely weird of me to experience, if it's a normal part of growing up, being uncomfortable around your parents sometimes...has anyone else ever felt like this or know what's up?

Question: Is it true what they say that grandparents love their grandkids more than their own children?

Posted: 20 Nov 2017 08:09 PM PST

Question: My parents are too strict what should i do?

Posted: 20 Nov 2017 07:51 PM PST

in my town where i come from, people start partying at 14, but i (15) cannot. i have had to grow up way faster than most people have and im very matture. ive even been rasing a kid since 14 (my sisters) but my parents treat me so unfairly! last time i did anything was in july & that was only bc of my sister. my sister is an addict & we have not seen her in forever & my parents always tell me i cant go out or i'll end up like her (completely stupid) but the more they treat me like this the more i want to get high. i use to use adderall and everyday its all my mind wonders to because they make me feel so shitty. what should i do?

Question: If I am really bad do you think my husband might spank me? He's 13 yes older than me. And I probably do deserve one.?

Posted: 20 Nov 2017 07:09 PM PST

Question: How do I tell people politely to not call my mother's husband my "dad/father" "stepdad/stepfather"?

Posted: 20 Nov 2017 07:09 PM PST

He is my mother's husband, nothing more. We are not family, we are not friends. We have no relationship whatsoever. I lived with him for a year (moved out when I was 16, I'm 21 now), but we mostly ignored each other. I hate anything that reminds me of fathers. I have cptsd (my bio father abused me emotionally, physically, sexually, even rape for 14 years until he died. My mom found herself a husband a month later, because she is codependent. He tried to dominate me in the beginning, but soon gave of (thankfully). The word father triggers my ptsd. Istill love my mom, visit her once a month. I go to therapy How do I stop people from calling him anything father related? He is not my father! If people knew what I associate with that word they wouldn't call him that, but I won't tell people my trauma history. Please help.

Question: Can anyone relate to my situation or give helpful advise i dont want to act like a whiner. But my parents are wealthy and wont help me?

Posted: 20 Nov 2017 07:01 PM PST

i have really wealthy parents that can take care of me for the rest of my life if they wanted to. But they choose to abandon me disconnect me financailly and cut me off since age 17, they expect me to work and pay for school and support myself all by myself. Its very difficult and its driving me crazy i cant handle the stress. i also suffer from bipolar disorder and lack good social skills its hard for me to get along with people im an akward antisocial introverted person. Im struggling

Question: Is it bad that I hate my mother in law ?

Posted: 20 Nov 2017 06:28 PM PST

She tries to tell my wife and I how to raise our kids and she constantly puts down evrything my wife does down. My wife is a good wife and a good mother. I hope she has breake problems in the dead of winter on a icy road.

Question: PARENTS: Is it normal for a child to want to go before their parents?

Posted: 20 Nov 2017 06:19 PM PST

I am a 23 y/o male and the thought of my parents dying aches my hearts. I dont know how I could deal with such a loss. I know its ultimately up to God to decide who goes first but idk. I love my parents.

Question: If you have an aunt, and she marries, what do you call your uncle s parents?! Are they your new grandparents? Please help!?

Posted: 20 Nov 2017 06:02 PM PST

Question: Could I ever get custody back of my child?

Posted: 20 Nov 2017 06:02 PM PST

I had my daughter at a young age (14), with me still being so young I wanted to finish school & go off to college. My mom was positive about it well a year later I ended up giving custody to my mom because I got into some trouble with my ex .. & just to be on the safe side I gave it to her . well now I'm 18 & me & my mom bump heads waaaaay more now & now she's put me on child support & my daughter father for her own purposes . I don't live with her anymore I'm damn near homeless no job or not in school only thing that could save me right now is Job Corps . I just don't want to leave because I feel like that won't help me . I want my little girl back as well & that's mainly the problem, my mom thinks she's my daughter mom & I feel like she's more of a sister . Any ideas of how to start off ..

Question: My Sister Uses The Shower Head To Masturbate, Am I right to be upset?

Posted: 20 Nov 2017 05:49 PM PST

I only live with my mom and sister. I know it's not my mom because my mom keeps complaining "Who keeps putting the shower on high speed jet, every time I wanna shower the thing splashes water everywhere!" Anyways for the past few months everytime I wanna take a shower the shower head is set to high speed jet and I have to constantly re-adjust it to default shower setting . I didn't really understand my sister kept doing that, I always figured it was for when she washes her fair. Eventually, one day when I went to turn the shower head to default setting there was a fishy smelling slime on the shower head, and some of it got on my face and then eventually I realized, this is female *** and my sister uses the shower head to masturbate. Honestly, it grosses me out, I don't wanna shower with a shower head my sister uses to get off and her vaginal juices is mixing with the shower head and water and then when I shower some residue can hit me. When I confronted her she said I should just mind my own business and that it shouldn't bother me since the water cleans it. I bought the example of "Oh so its ok for me to put the shower head on my dick, *** all over it?" and she said it's different because I'm a guy and she's a girl. Anyways I asked her to not do that because the shower head is something the family uses for shower, it's not her sex toy and if she want's a sex toy she could just buy her own. It's honestly gross. Leafsfan29-Embrace the drought! I never said orgasm, and men don't need to orgasm to ejaculate either btw, I said there was slime (aka vag juices) and you don't need to orgasm to leave vag juices on the shower head and who cares if she orgamsed or not? The point here isn't "Oh as long as she doesn't orgasm thats ok" wtf are you talking about "She's not inserting the shower head" She literally uses the shower head to masturbate, shows she has an interest on it.

Question: Since my sister is a spoiled narcissist and my parents enable her what would it take for her to change now that she is over 21?

Posted: 20 Nov 2017 05:43 PM PST

Question: How do I overcome the heartbreak of not being welcome at my Mom's families for Thanksgiving this Thursday?

Posted: 20 Nov 2017 05:33 PM PST

I will be with my Dad and his small family but my Mom's big family does not ask me and comes up with excuses when I try to get together. My Mom died from a suicide so my Dad says it is just their coping mechanism. I will be 7 minutes from where my Mom's family gathers so that is what makes it hurt so much more. If we were out of town or lived far away the rejection wouldn't feel so bad. How do I get over the hurt that is going to come with Thanksgiving this year? I am dreading Thursday. Luckily at Christmas my Mom;s family doesn't do the big gathering and her mother (my grandmother) accepts a private visit from me Christmas Eve. Thanksgiving I see no one but my Dad's family and I feel this void. I also feel as though I am viewed as responsible for my Mom's suicide since I was hyper as a kid (ADHD) and anxious (OCD) she worried about me a lot. I have two siblings but they don't mind cause their not as sensitive.

Question: Friends who are Americans, tell me how life is, I'm Brazilian, but I want to live in the United States, Christmas must be wonderful.?

Posted: 20 Nov 2017 04:53 PM PST

My dream is to live in the USA, Christmas must be wonderful. Say your opinion!

Question: My mom wants to invite me over to Thanksgiving dinner?

Posted: 20 Nov 2017 04:43 PM PST

My mom and I do not get along, neither do I stay with her. Her and my father don't have the best relationship either (separated). However, she channeled her way to him today because he called and asked if I wanted to come over for Thanksgiving. I don't want to bottom line. She's being sneaky, by first of all contacting my father and she so call hate him. Secondly, she's on drugs and I don't want to be in that environment. What should I do guys?- Your comments are helpful!

Question: Should my soon to be step daughter call me "Mom"? Her mom is an alcoholic&not in her life, except a phone call/visit a couple times a year.?

Posted: 20 Nov 2017 04:38 PM PST

Question: I'm so scared of my mom what should I do!!!! I can't calm down!!!?

Posted: 20 Nov 2017 04:14 PM PST

So I'm 24 years old female. With disabilities. I live with my mom and dad and they are my caregivers. I'm in CFH"Certified Family Housing". So my mom was yelling at me on top of her lungs because I was crying because how my dad was trying to piss me off so I had to keep asking my mom where my markers were and she yelled at me on top of her lungs so bad and stomping her feet while walking to my room. So when I try to talk to her about it she tells me to let it go and then she yells at me on top of her lungs to drop it. I told her it's abuse. She told me it is not because every parent yells at their kids and that means the whole country is abused then. She won't stop yelling at me and she says she will but won't anyways. I got so scared that I left the house. She told me I should not be scared because they didn't beat me and that they won't. But still I was scared shitless! I get scared when people yell at me. My mom's yelling at me is way worse than my dad. When my mom was in my room I thought she was gonna break something. I can't tell her anything because she tells me to drop it and if I don't she gets mad at me and yells. I have no where else to go!!! I'm still scared and crying and can't stop!!! I wish my parent's would change but they never will. My mom got's a excuse for everything and same with my dad. I can't talk to my mom without her telling me to drop it and yelling at me about it if I don't. She does that even when I told her I need to talk to her. She still does it anyways. I was so scared that I was gonna call 911 but I didn't because if I do that I will get taken out of here. I will be put into another program and had no freedom or very little freedom. My mom just told me that she can't help that she yells at me because she gets mad. She tells me that I cuss all the time in the store which I sometimes do but not all the time. SERIOUS ANSWERS PLEASE! I'm honestly not looking forward to thanksgiving. I wish she would stop yelling at me and she won't because she has an excuse for it. I feel like killing myself but I won't because of my dog. Because he has a birthday and christmas coming up!

Question: Feeling replaced by my sisters boyfriend.?

Posted: 20 Nov 2017 03:42 PM PST

I know it's sound weird but Bare with. Before they got together we had family nights every now and again and I loved those days because it wasn't very often that we were all free on the same day. Since they got together he's come to every family night. Two family holidays and practically lives at our house anyway. I haven't got anything against him and I don't mind him being there but now Christmas is coming and he's also coming to all our family Christmas plans. I dk am I being selfish for not wanting him there all the time?

Question: My parents take all my money?!?

Posted: 20 Nov 2017 03:41 PM PST

I'm 17 and I've been working really hard over the last couple years to the point of having absolutely no social life. I work Friday night's, and a double on sat and sun. I make 14$ an hr so if you add up all that money it's quite a bit. My parents took every single dime. Listen, they need it . We're a family of 8 and money is short. But I just keep being angry working for no real reason because I don't keep any of my money. 35 hrs a weekend. They say it's for Bills but they just bought a brand new dining table. Am I evil for wanting to keep my money? They can't pay for my college . So I was going to pay . But....