My mother is strongly christian and has been taking me to church for a while. However, i dont really believe in god and I feel like I need to tell her

It is hard for me to stay in my room all day except when I go out in the community with my mom. Because I have AD/HD. My dad gets mad easily and is impossible to get a long with and talk to. I know he is never gonna change and I have to accept that. I will never move out again because it was hell for me and I was depressed all the time. So please DON'T tell me to move out on my own. He is a moody person and he has been like that all his life. So how do ignore him and honestly I don't want to stay in my room all day because my room is really small with a lot of stuff. My dad gets mad at me so easily so I just want to ignore him. So how do I do that?

NOTE: Sorry, this is going to be long, but I feel that some background is needed for this question. So, I am 19, and I still live under my parent's roof. I don't have too much money in savings, but I work around 15-20 hours a week along with being a full time student, so I'm saving up as much as I can to move out within the next couple of years or so. (With a roomate or two, because let's face it, minimum wage could never cover rent AND utilities anywhere.) Anyways, my parents (most specifically my father) have the mentality that "I live under their roof, therefore I live by their rules." My dad even takes it so far as to that if I want to move out, he feels that he has to give me permission to do so, and that if I take my car somewhere that they do not approve of, I KNOW he would not hesitate to call the police and say that I stole it. Also,both of my parents have an app that tracks my location on both my phone and my brother's, AND MY BROTHER IS 21. (Yes, he still lives at home.) So, with all of this information, my dad still is VERY big on church and sees any time that I am sick or am helping volunteer in the church with the nursery as an excuse to miss the service. It's not that I don't believe in God or anything anymore, but I'd rather discover things on my own and make sure I know why I believe what I believe by exploring things by myself and not just because it's what I grew up in. .

Maybe suicidal/depressed people don't care if they're just being used as a means to an end. People don't really care about us, they care about their own long-term happiness and prosperity. That's why they tell us not to kill ourselves. So they can be happy. Isn't that what self-sacrifice is? Doing things to your own detriment for the sake of others? I mean, I'm not depressed or anything, but I believe I would commit suicide EVEN IF it involved family. That's me being honest.

My aunt and I are really close and have really fun and loving relationship. Her daughter (19) is a way at college and her son is barely graduating high school (17) . Neither of her kids know how to drive or want to learn. I will be graduating college soon (in about a year). I am 20 with a stable job and a bright future My aunt used to participate in car shows, in which she has collected some pretty sick cars along the way, most of which are sitting in my Grandmothers backyard rotting (sad, I know). She is already 57 and has a family of her own, her interest is no longer with her cars. There is one, a 1978-1981 Camaro Z28. and I really want it. I am willing to pay her but I just don't know how to ask... how would you? I was thinking about using my college graduation as an excuse and offer her some of my savings as payment but I still am afraid she'll give it to her son (who treats her awful and mean and doesn't even know how to drive in the first place).

I'm a 20 year old girl, and I was having a conversation with my mum and brother. We were talking about my dad valuing his side of the family (his mother, his siblings and their children) more than our family (his wife and kids), and how we were hurt by him and how his side of the family treated us like crap continuously. So then I went onto to say about my mum's side of the family, (aunties, uncles and cousins), and said how they never included me and my siblings(particularly me and my sisters), and treated us like we weren't part of the family for years. It's 2017, and those cousins try to talk to us, and we find it weird, we then find out that they were just prying for information so they can feel that they're better than us. We didn't tell them anything, we didn't bother talking to them and we treated them the way they treated us for years. And I don't feel bad about it. At all. I told this to my mum and brother, they told me to shut up and get over it even though they still treating us this way. I told them no, I only care about my immediate family. This is the part where I was shocked and was getting a little teary, they said to me that my immediate family isn't going to be there for me, and told me that I was stupid. They were talking about themselves, my own mum, brother, dad. I wanted to cry, but I didn't. A couple of weeks later, I spoke to my mum in the car, and told her that my aunties, uncles and my cousins all talk about us behind our back and that they don't respect us...she told me that she knows that they talk about us behind our backs, but it's only me and my sisters. Exact wording was ' I KNOW that MY nieces and nephews don't do this to me, but you kids are ****, and no wonder they don't talk to you. Look at you, you don't even try.' I tried with my cousins so many times and they still treated me like ****, my mum saw this and took their side as usual. I told her that 'you value my cousins more than your own kids', and she said 'yes I do and what are you going to do about it?'. I was upset, I was getting teary-eyed but I had to control it. What kind of parents value their nieces and nephew more than their own kids ? I didn't expect this. I suffered from depression and anxiety, they used to mock me for my suicide attempts. They weren't there for me at all. They blamed me for everything. I can't get into a relationship because they told me if I talk to the opposite sex then I'm a whore. I can't strike up conversations. I try to but I just can't. I'm so hurt. my mum knows that my cousins talk bad about me and my siblings, but she doesn't care, as long as it isn't about her. My dad thinks the same way

So my mom and I am are cooking thanksgiving dinner. Everyone seems to like the food except one person. All they do is complain and ask if I know what I am doing. They never bring anything, either. They have never cooked anything but will not stop following me around the kitchen,panicking over nothing,criticizing everything I do. Asking me why I don't microwave the stuffing or use a masher instead of a food processor to mash up the mash potatoes fifty or sixty times and why do I have to make sweet potatoes with marshmallows because that is fattening.I told them to make their own, but they said it looks to hard. I try not to blow up but after hearing this all day , it stresses me out. I really lost it, when I heard them Telling people they aren't sure if they should be eating what I made and that their dog could cook better food. My mother said she is going to ask why are they here? if they do it again. My other sister said she will bring wine.

I asked him if I could come see them at Thanksgiving even if not on Thanksgiving Day. He said no. He said it politely and said it is too many people for my step-Mom with the kids. That is always what he says. I asked if he wants to meet me for lunch and he said no, he has to help Lisa with the kids. My step-mother's daughter is welcome, I am not. My Dad and his family are going to my aunts (his sister) but she has not asked me. I asked her if I can swing by last year and she said she already has the plans but to come by after the holidays. I did but it is not the same in January. Same happened two years ago. I didn't even try this year. I hate this time of the year. I feel so rejected. I have my Mom and part of her family but it is just her brother and his in-laws. It is not the same as being with family when we are with his in-laws who are not related. It is so depressing. How do I manage this hurt now through New Year? I absolutely hate the holidays. As a kid my Mom would remind me over and over "your Dad wouldn't have left me if he had wanted a relationship with you" and I felt so rejected. My Mom is not as bitter now but that hurt is still there. I have suicide thoughts over this sometimes. How do I manage this hurt now through New Years. I hate this time of the year so much.

They have friends who are cops and they have family members who are in the court system.I even try to apply in the military then I start to see family members putting on there military pants out of no where.how do I stop them from watching me?

I noticed my wife always seems so close to her dad,even sometime we fight on this,because she keeps her dad before me sometimes,Even she is so sensitive if i tell anything wrong about her dad.She is always in contact with her dad.always comparing me with her dad,which freaks me out.But in recent cases I am seeing my son does not listen to me so much,but my two daughters are so close to me,and very obedient.I know its true i am little hard on my son than my daughters,because he behaves so immature comparing his age,which my girls never do.

If someone took your 6 year old on a hot air balloon ride without asking the parents first, would this upset you?

When I was 15, my mom got caught shoplifting and she has been overusing pain pills (I had noticed a change in her I didn't want to believe it was drugs) and I was pissed but went about it in a mature way. My dad almost made me come live with him. I cried so much for several days not believing her my mother became. A druggie. Her doctor told her her best bet would be to go to rehab and that he could no longer be her doctor because he could of lost his job about the pain meds. Well she left early and acted like she changed she looked better and had a detox. Now I'm 16, and I go to my dads on weekends. Well yesterday morning my dad wakes me up and says my mom is in big trouble again. She was pulled over for swerving in the lanes and her and some man I've never even heard of were found with pills, meth, and pot. So since she's still on probation she'll be in jail for a year. My dad said I might have to come live with him again and he lives an hour away from my school so I couldn't go to school if I lived with him. I broke down because I would miss my pets, my friends, everything would change. He told me he wouldn't force me to do anything I don't want to do. (My mom, brother, and I live at my grandmas) so I can stay with her as long as she doesn't bail my mom out & my Grandma said she won't. She's just constantly destroying my brother and I's lives I'm tired of crying about it

My parents are evil, they steal my money and throw out my stuff. If i yell or get made, my mom grabs my wrists or slaps me leaving nail marks. I hate them and all my friends have perfect lives

Firstly, I'm 24 yr old male licensed smog technician working with my dad at an auto center/plaza with 7 others shops full of men in their 40's/50's. Back in 2013, BAR released a new program called the 'STAR Program" and my father did not qualify with his license score. We were losing a lot of business at that time, so I decided to get my license. I ended up becoming a STAR certified smog check technician for my father and we started having great business everyday. These older guys don't know that truth and just think I'm there working for my dad via nepotism when in reality I can keep the business going when he's gone. Those older men see me only as my dad's son who works with him. I actually went school full time from November 2009 - July 2010 and took the state test on October 2010 to get my Smog License. I went to school from 1pm to 10pm Monday thru Friday for 9 months straight. These people don't know that though, they think I just got hired for being the son. I learned how to do smog checks on my own with my own license, but that still doesn't earn respect from people in the auto center. Sometimes I just want to smear my certifications from school in their faces to show them I wasn't just handed this job, I had to go to school and earn it. I would not be working with my dad if I never got the license, so I did earn it. I'm not going to beg them to respect me, but I don't want them thinking I didn't earn what I got. How do I deal with these impossible men?

So I'm 20 years old and i currently go to a community college so i live at home but the problem is there's barely people my age in classes and im not in contact with any high school friends so i currently have no friends.. and i also can't drive by myself cause my mom doesn't trust me yet to drive alone to places that aren't very near our house, so i only really leave the house if it's to go to class or if I'm with my parents.. I've been trying to beg my mom to let me at least try living in a dorm at a regular college cause i think I've found a major i like but she doesn't think I'm responsible enough :/ and my dad agrees with her and thinks I'm gonna be living with them forever and that scares me.. i have an older cousin in nyc who always asks me to visit and my mom doesn't want me going there by myself cause again she doesn't trust me enough. She treats me like a child and thinks I'm one. She even told me once "i don't want you having friends your age anyways you're too immature for them" and thinks i should be friends with 12-14 year olds instead and tries to set me up in volunteering places so i can make friends in those age groups but 1. I'm not gonna be friends with a 12 year old while I'm 21 wtf is she even thinking? What am i gonna have in common with a middle schooler? 2. Yes maybe i don't have the best social skills but i won't get them unless i experience it so shouldn't i be friends with my age group instead? I'm nearly 21 ffs..

I'm 24 working at my family business which is a smog station. It an auto center/plaza, so theres 7 other shops full of men in their 40's/50's. I try to say hi to the other shop guys, but they make a hostile face and turn away, but they all talk to my dad very friendly. My dad can be a bit of a gossiper, so maybe they hear things my father says, but idk. Maybe these people are having bad days and my friendliness can rub them the wrong way at the wrong time. Another guy I talk to friendly sometimes, but when I'm leaving to go home, I hear him say something in Spanish like "this asshole is leaving." I'm not doing anything to provoke this, so this is totally uncalled for. What's going on? oops I meant to say " how to know if people are having a bad day or just don't respect you?" Back in 2013, BAR released a new program called the 'STAR Program" and my father did not qualify with his license score. We were losing a lot of business at that time, so I decided to get my license. I ended up becoming a STAR certified smog check technician for my father and we started having great business everyday. These guys don't know that truth and just think I'm there working for my dad when in reality I can keep the business going when he's gone. I went to school from November 2009 - July 2010 and took the state test on October 2010 to get my Smog License. I went to school from 1pm to 10pm Monday thru Friday for 9 months straight.

I've heard this one around before, and I'm just curious because I've seen people be pretty rotten to younger siblings who were firm babysitters as well. And I've seen people treat their little siblings totally different than other little kids, whether they're kinder to their little siblings because it's not their place to tell them what to do, or if they're kinder to other little kids because it's not their kid. Is this statement accurate, or influential at all?

I asked him if I could come see them at Thanksgiving even if not on Thanksgiving Day. He said no. He said it politely and said it is too many people for my step-Mom with the kids. That is always what he says. I asked if he wants to meet me for lunch and he said no, he has to help Lisa with the kids. My step-mother's daughter is welcome, I am not. My Dad and his family are going to my aunts (his sister) but she has not asked me. I asked her if I can swing by last year and she said she already has the plans but to come by after the holidays. I did but it is not the same in January. Same happened two years ago. I didn't even try this year. I hate this time of the year. I feel so rejected. I have my Mom and part of her family but it is just her brother and his in-laws. It is not the same as being with family when we are with his in-laws who are not related. It is so depressing. How do I manage this hurt now through New Year? I absolutely hate the holidays. As a kid my Mom would remind me over and over "your Dad wouldn't have left me if he had wanted a relationship with you" and I felt so rejected. My Mom is not as bitter now but that hurt is still there. I have suicide thoughts over this sometimes. How do I manage this hurt now through New Years. I hate this time of the year so much.

It hurts me like I am not, I feel all alone. I see family in the summer and one member at Christmas. My parents caused some dysfunction in the extended family that makes me miss out except in the summer. One aunt has me over with her kids on Christmas Eve. I am alone the rest of the year. The uncles do not ask me over.

Im 19 and she's 31, she is rude and very disrespectful but my brother wont believe me. She acts nice infront of him but as soon as he leaves she's a *****. I try to avoid talking to her but she always find something to be rude about.

I have raised 3 kids now 40,30,25,,I was a very good mom when they were kids,I was so busy so happy but I do now look back and see I was antisocial and had depression,I think because I grew up in a dysfunctional family I don't know.When my kid were around 18 they hated everything I did and said,,all I wanted for them was if they chose college and to find something they wanted in life.The 1 son start causing problems at 16,weed,calling me names,it only got worse,he lived at home until 25 in and out of school,the 25yr old is doing the same but he never gave me trouble but calls me terrible names,,my daughter 40 was very good but I took her and her kids on vacations,bought them school clothes anything they wanted,,,really I bought all my kids what they wanted,,,their dad sat back and let me do it all,,he was out sneaking,cheating and gambled our savings but here we sit,can't afford to leave my home,,every time there is a problem all these years yes I overthink it try to solve it end up in deep depression,,,,My kids have all given up on me,it's sad because I was there for them.therapy is a waste,I have tried so hard to be positive but don't you think they could support me help me to be positive,they just stop communicating,,,,

I'm almost legal and as soon as I am I am leaving. For most of my life all I remember is my mom being angry, fussing, yelling, being violent,blacking out and being violent and then lying about the incident right after as if she's done nothing. Everything is always about her. I grew up always feeling sorry for her but the way she treats me and my siblings isn't right. She uses everything against me and when I say something positive she will tell me I can't do it and she puts me down so much. I used to have a car but it died on me. I'm working part time and a senior in school saving up for another vehicle. I don't have much money and I barely have any credit. How can I get away from her? Low income housing would take me in perhaps if I were to find something full time? My mom is very vocal about her past and how hurt she is and how her mom treated her badly. She shouldn't have had kids if she was going to do the exact same thing, I'm starting to hate her. She's mad if I cry then she starts to cry saying I treat her badly. What a manipulator. Granted when I was younger I didn't treat her the best however at that time I was getting molested. It's like it doesn't matter just crucify me for going through something horrible at a young age smh. I'm always blamed for my past mistakes.

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So my brother locks the door to the bathroom at night every week and I can hear him throw up he isn't sick so I know it isn't sickness and he throws up a lot and he's been getting skinner should I tell my mom so she can talk to him or what should I do

All of my anger is slowly building up to the point where I can't breath when I get angry. I also am suicidal not just because of them but other reasons.I have asthma so when I am stressed or angry my asthma starts acting up most of the time.I hate my sisters it is so stressful being around them. They are so loud, find fault in everything I do even when I try my best. They say my best is not good enough , if I make a mistake they hold it against me forever. I have a huge family(7 siblings) and unfortunately most of my sisters are at home though they are in their late 20's & early thirties. They all have no social life so they are home 24/7. I'm the youngest .One's always telling me to work on parts of my personality she doesn't like and tells me to do impossible things. Some are so hot headed and so not excepting of me. I've asked my mom if I could go to one on multiple occasions but she won't let me. She says they always make things worst. I want one to have through e-mail so I can sneakily talk to one.

Been with my guy for 5 years & plan on making it official soon. With holidays, we've been lucky with compromising which families to spend time with. For thanksgiving, I spend time with my immediate family for lunch, he's with his immediate family. For dinner, he has a big family (that I feel we see every other week) with all his aunts, uncles, cousins, & kids that we all go to (they all live in the same neighborhood by the way). The day after thanksgiving, we go to my extended family's house & spend time there - my parents, sibling, uncle, aunt, and cousins. This year, my extended family wants to meet on thanksgiving the same time his extended family usually meets up. I would love to do all but I feel like because we don't see my extended family often, we can just stay there longer this year but I don't think that will happen. My parents (I think) gave not so good advice & told us to just separate this year and he spend time with his family, I spend time with mine, especially bc we're not married. We've spend the past few years learning on how to be a team and compromise. We're not attached to the hip & we do things separately here & there but splitting up during the holidays isn't a good idea. I feel like it's a recipe for a disaster. In that statement, I felt that they were very resentful because they KNOW how close his family is and there would be resentment on their part if he didn't attend - even though we see them all the time, bc they live in the same neighborhood...

I'm 19 and I attend a Community College. Most of my life, I lived with you mother and father, however, my parents separated and I went to live with my mother for about 2 years. The reason why it didn't last is because she's schizophrenic and she has been off her meds. (All of this happened before I was a legal adult). I've been living with my grandma for the past year because this is the on,your place I have and it has not been easy living here either. My grandma has been dealing with bedbugs and refuses to get rid of her furniture and I do not understand why, my auntsister who live here tried to consult with her, but she ignored them. Now the bedbugs are all over the house and my aunts do not care because most of the bugs aren't in their rooms. ((Yes, my aunts are 35+ years old). Dealing with this issue made it immensely difficult for me to attend school as well go to work.(they also ask me for money every other day knowing I have to pay off a debt to my school). I of course go but I have at times been conquered by my desire to sleep. I complained but they don't care and can not stay here any longer. I could live with my friend but it's always an issue when you leave your house full of problems to live with another family who has their own problems. I could also live with my other grandmother, however, she lives so far and I'm not sure how I would get to school or work. I just not sure what you do it seems that every step I take more trouble comes my way.

So I vape (im not 18 but I'm close) and my parents don't seem to like vaping all that much.... but I do... it helps with stress a little bit and it's a nice thing to do. I want to tell them/talk to them about it because I'm sick of hidding it and stuff. How can I confront them about it?

My daughter has the idea that the world is always so cruel. She can't look on the good side. Another thing is that she seems to know the latest bad news that receive the biggest shock value. Her favourite Netflix shows seem to be so dark and negative as well. They're mostly popular teen shows, but a lot of them aren't very pleasant. I've spoken to other parents, and some do say that their children are more aware of the bad than the good. I'm keeping an eye on signs of depression or anxiety. Meanwhile, it does seem like what today's teenagers are interested in.

My boyfriend is coming back from basic training for Christmas exodus December 22nd-January 2nd. I want to spend all that time with him because he will be away in the military for 6 months. At the same time I have a dad in California who wants to spend December 16th-December 26th with. It is true that this way I would get to spend time with both of them but I feel guilty missing time with my boyfriend given the little time he is back from the military. That being said I live in Utah and my dad lives in California so I don't get to spend that much time with him either. I want to spend time with my boyfriend but I feel a familial obligation to spend time with my dad. If its relevant I am 18 years old and my mom lives in Utah so even if I don't go see my dad I would still be spending the holidays with her.

Her dad is on a business trip and my mom just tried to disclipline her and she flipped out. She throws tantrums all the time. If she ever gets in trouble she just tries to cute her way out Bc she looks like a ten y/o. I don't know what to do? What should I do? My dad passed so don't recommend to stay with him.

It's a really long story but let's just say I have a sister as a result of cheating and a brother I didn't know about until a week ago. My dad was in jail for about four years, after he got out he saw me twice. I saw him for the first time in another six years two weeks ago and now he's supposed to call every weekend. I haven't really talked to him to much and I need help asking him questions. I could really use some ideas!

I have a sister who says I am blessed with good parents although they always leave by lonesome on Christmas as they go to Utah to visit my sister and my nephew and enjoy their second home. I have finished an associates degree but does not help me career wise, and am going broke because I am trying to give as much as I can to the church offering. I just don't see how I am blessed

I love my bf dearly. My problem is his sister s, they dont have a relationship with me and don t try to make one, but yet they are close with his Ex and seem the need to tell her everything that go on within the family, even to the point to invite or tell her about family functions!! I never had a problem with his sisters but yet they wanna speak to me when they want and don t even try to make conversation to where you can feel the awarkness in the room. What would you do or how would you feel?????

I was watching Criminal Minds (and HE was watching it too) and after like two episodes he made some comment about how he hates tv shows like that and that I shouldn't be watching it because they "promote violence". I told him I was interested in criminology and that in forensics class, they show things like this every day because the show depicts things that happen in real life, between real people. He said I shouldn't think that every person is "bad" even though I never said anything like that. I told him to not make dumb assumptions about my opinion (because he was seriously acting like a child) and that it's not like he's an expert in psychology or criminology. He then proceeded to tell me he was smarter than me just because he's an adult and stormed up the stairs, stood in front of my bedroom door for five minutes and told me to open it and yelled at me. I didn't open the door, so he took my car keys away and told me I'd have to take the bus in the morning for two weeks. Because apparently me expressing my opinion and stating factual information is being "disrespectful" and because my opinion doesn't line up with his, my car is being taken away from me.

Sorry to be a downer. I'm a 36 yo F. Moved back from NYC (lived there for 1 yr.) to Seattle, WA. I want to be here for my brother (who was cerebral palsy) and his wife and family. Ever since I moved back here, everything has gone wrong. I was pregnant with my 1st child, Dr's said I had a life-threatening pregnancy & misdiagosed me. After D+C, came back as a NORMAL pregnancy. My bf (father of baby) broke up w/ me, a big reason I moved back. Then, my 22 year old sister disclosed to me that our dad molested her when she was 16. We're all adopted (from different families), and I was adopted when I was 1 yo. My mom didn't stand up to my dad and leave him, told me she put him 1st, & I learned my mom talked my sister out of telling the police years ago. This breaks my heart because my mom was my mom, but as I got older was my best friend. This changes everything. My sister is now married with children. I love my siblings. My dad used to physically abuse me, and still has rage to this day. I'm scared of him sometimes still & didn't realize how it would effect me. I find myself more angry since I've moved back, one of the reasons the relationship ended with my ex. BUT... I have a great job waiting in NYC, along with grad school @ NYU (will be taking out all loans another $60,00 worth) to finish my degree. It's hard to know what to do. My family/friends are here, I have no one in NYC. If I move again, it's permanent for many years. I can't keep moving. Please help advise.. What does everyone think? Sorry to share. I needed an anonymous place. :/

My friend's mom passed away a few months ago and he told me that he and his two sisters have been fighting with each other over who gets the estate and how much money each sibling would receive. Why does this happen?

After my grandma and then my grandpa passed away on my dad's side everyone has been fighting and we aren't close anymore. Why does this happen?

I am 35 still live at home. My brother was a bum at 18-21 all he would do is sleep in the couch and one day he woke up and started a company and succeeded disgusting. What makes me mad is all these years I put all this effort into waking up early going to work and he sleeps in and at the end of the days still more successful than the people who have tried. Why is he so worthless? Lazy bastard the only reason why my parents like him is because he helps with their retirement ******* peace of ****. What should I do?

They have chronic fatigue & have no money & no where else to go.

Most kids probably befriended a stranger before, lots of parents don't monitor their online usage. It's common to talk to mutual friends and other children who claim to be from a different school in their area. I think many of them are safe but there's always a risk. They are likely to want to meet up after gaining trust or "knowing" them. It can be pretty easy to lie to your parents and go somewhere alone. How often is it that a child is lured by someone dangerous?

Whenever I walk past my dad, he slaps my butt. When I bend over, he doesn't slap my butt once, but multiple times. He makes weird comments when he slaps my butt, for example, "Ooohhh, I like this..." and stuff like that. He slaps my butt, makes weird comments, when he slaps my butt, and also spanks me multiple times when I bend over. Wtf is this?

I came out as transgender female to male in 2014, and the abuse got so much worse when that happened. I compiled a list of all the things she's done to me after I came out that I suspect I can go to the counselor about. Please tell me if there's anything on this list that I can report her about. It'll be in order from least abusive to most abusive Called me worthless, tell me I was going to die in eternal hell Told me no one would care if I died She said I was sick in the head for being trans She told me no one would believe me if I told anyone, told me my life would be worse in an adoption center, and she would send me off after she would be found not guilty She threatened to destroy my piano with a hammer She kicked me out one night, and I was forced to stay with a family friend She threatened to smash my head in the car windshield if I didn't shut up. She reached her hands out and acted like she was strangling me She hit me really hard on the arm when we were leaving Branson, leaving a bruise. I no longer have the bruise When I was cleaning my room, I was putting something away when she started punching me and slapping me on my face and arms, because she said I was going too slow I was doing dishes, and she got mad at me for cleaning the non-stick pans with the abrasive side of the sponge (I didn't know any better) and she pushed me against the wall, and punched me and slapped me. I had bruises. If I could get enough people to agree that this is abuse, that might just be the thing to help me finally go to the school counselor. All of these years, out of the small percentage of friends that know, one of them even tried to report it when I was in 8th grade. But again, I was so scared for anyone to find out, I covered it up saying "oh no he's lying she never hit me that hard." and they believed me. At this point, I know that reporting it is the only option to getting out of here. (cont) Every time I think about it, the more I see that I'm just sitting around doing nothing about it and letting the time that I can report her slip away from me, the more I cry about it. Only just within the last couple years that she's been abusing me, I've noticed that I've been crying an increasingly amount of time. I think I've cried for the 4th time within the last 2 weeks.

I dont know if i should leave for my own good. The main reason is my mom. Im gonna be honest my mom isnt the gentle person i wish she would be. I try hard to help out but she just looks at what i havent done. I mean the moment i turned 18 i was thrown into the world. I either had to become the main bread winner or the second. Thats hard for a kid who hasnt graduated highschool. Today i may have gotten a lil to angry but thats cus i have my hands full at the door and she just unlocks and doesnt even bother to open. I told her off a bit cus dropped everything i had. I said my bad i just got angry but she doesnt act mature be like its fine i understand. No she keeps this grudge against doesnt talk when i ask something she vaguely responds. It just drives me crazy. I feel like i dont have a motherly figure.

She blames my dad and me but the thing is isn't her fault? My dad lied to her about owning business in USA and she decided to stay with him because she was too lazy to work. She married my dad Becuz she thought he was rich and after 20 years she doesn't want to do anything. Maybe if she had been more active and sociable she would have lead a happier life?

So... my birthday is coming in a couple of weeks. I'm from a different country and my mom and grandmom live there. My plan was to go spend my bd with them. I took the days off from work, and I'm getting the plane ticket. But I have $1000 left on my car payment. So my sister was telling me, why don't you stay and take care of these things and put the money for the traveling on your savings account. My mom on the other hand just wants me to come. I can get the car money by the time I come back from vacation. (Btw I owe my sister the car money). I've been working year around without breaks or call outs. I'm tired. Honestly I want to go, I never do anything for my bd and as I get older it gets less interesting. If I stay, I'll end up just spending my bd on my bed watching Netflix, but if I go, it'll be a whole adventure. What should I do? Should I suck it up and listen to my sister and cancel my days off and work the week (and pay her) ? Or should I go and enjoy myself with some consequences? Ps by the time I come back it'll be time to get paid again and I will be able to give her the whole money.

My dad always has pill bottles scattered around the house, some questionable. He buys pill crushers all the time but does not need to crush his pills to take the ones that he does need. According to my younger siblings who live there, they have heard fighting between their parents where this is brought up. My dad sniffles and blows his nose all the time. The evidence is all there. It s affecting his family and social life, as well as work. I m extremely worried about him, but I don t know if or how I should bring this up to him. What do you think? The only thing is, he only does it in his room and I can't place any cameras or anything like that to get proof. He has had a past with drugs, mostly weed (which, honestly I'd prefer he did weed instead of pills) and xanax is plausible considering he has anxiety anyways.He is also starting to do Maeng Da, if that counts towards anything.

My family is my dad, my mom, 2 older sisters (23 and 22), me(15) and my brother(14). My oldest sister is toxic. I mean she is completely toxic. My whole entire life she has just behaved extremely inappropriately. Its in her nature. She claims she is always being attacked by the whole family all the time emotionally and that we are practically bullying her, like she is always the victim. And by now, I get how she must feel and that she genuinely believes she is. Sometimes she is "targeted" but i am very targeted also so i get really defensive easily by them. She goes to therapy and when we argue she uses what the therapist says to support herself when everything she says is super biased and makes us look evil. I AM A 15 YEAR OLD GIRL. Me and my other siblings know she is not giving the lady the full story. I have attempted suicide and thought about it again plenty of times. I've self harmed because of her (i used to scratch my arm with my nails) after an argument because it gets so heated and she COMPLETELY DIMINISHES EVERYTHING I SAY so i get so frustrated and start crying and she uses how i'm crying AGAINST ME. I have to talk myself out of killing myself after it gets heated like that but sometimes i wonder if she knows how badly she is behaving or if i need to be dead for her to realize. Then i realize she is not worth my life and i shouldn't be a baby. I can't wait for her to move out. She is completely toxic when she gets angry.

I feel disgusted with men, I even feel horny, especially for dead animals, but not for men, but I want to have a child and I do not want to adopt and have no child of a stranger by insemination, so I need to get pregnant from my father, as I convince him ?

I'm worried that a 13 year old is suicidal. Her parents claim to not love her because her mom was impregnated by an ex. She has twin sisters who are a year older, but they have blood from the mom's current husband. She is verbally abused, dealt with anorexia, and her sisters mistreat her. Those parents seem to ENCOURAGE it and do it themselves. CPS has investigated this family once when the girl was with an eating disorder years ago. Apparently, her school was worried that her parents refused to get her help. No child was removed from home because all of them met their basic daily needs. She was put in a program and therapy, and CPS pretty much left after. Name calling, "slut" shaming, comparing, and calling out is common in the family. Nothing physical is involved.

Okay so rn I'm an exchange student in LA. I'm 17 years old. The year cost my parents like 30-40 thousand dollars. I buy stuff for myself here all the time and I spend lots of money. The organisation I travel with arrange trips to for example Hawaii during February. I really wanna go since Hawaii is SO long from my home country and I would never bother to go from there. But now I'm so close and I really wanna go since I probably won't go later, at least for a while.. the trip is 1700 dollars and I've talked a little bit about it with my parents and they seem fine and everything but I feel like such a spoiled ***** to be honest. And I know, I am spoiled but today I had such a bad feeling. They buy me everything and I never feel like I give anything back. Do you guys think I should go to Hawaii? We can totally afford it, but I don't wanna be the biggest cost of the entire family either etc.. I hope u understand and can help me. I feel like **** right now and it sucks