I hear ppl talk about me and say he don't talk or i don't talk to people unless they talk to me first why is this?

This sounds awful, I know. Usually we chat forever but I don't know what to say anymore. How can I chat about my daughter, pregnancy, and my move abroad when her future is gone. For the first time in many years we have nothing to talk about. She tries to stay positive in front of others but alone she falls apart. My heart breaks. I try to avoid talking about the future. This is awful, I feel like such a bad person for asking this, but what do I talk about? I feel sick when I talk about my future. When I look at her I just think how much poorer all of our lives will be without her. She is such a wonderful person. I can't find the right words for the first time ever. She pretends she is fine but she isn't. She gets visibly upset when we talk about any sort of future. What do I do? What do I say? Please help, what can I talk about. I never dreamt I would ask this question after all these years of friendship Please, if you've been in this position, advise me. Life is so damn cruel.

I have a co-worker that I can't stand. I've worked with her for over 13 years. As soon as I hear her annoying voice, I'm instantly irritated, LOL. She's such a bullshitter, she's a bigot, a gossip, and a slacker. She lives in a glass house, but constantly throws stones. I know of several things/policies that she is violating at work. Out of frustration, I've found myself being a tattler lately, and I so don't want that to be who I am at work. So my question is, do I keep quiet, and continue to pick up her slack? Confronting her is not an option, although that's what I'd like to do - but I've never had this kind of an issue at work prior to this. Our new bosses are clueless, and she's pretty much spooked them by saying she feels attacked whenever they confront her about her work, or lack thereof, so they back off for fear that she will file a grievance. She's already bragged that this is how she gets them to leave her alone. HELP!!!

My teenage son keeps on saying "Pickle Rick" around his friends, and then they laugh. He will not tell me what it means, and I'm worried it's some kind of new sex toy or some other type of sexual activity. Do any young folks on here know what this means?

It's a little more difficult than just being shy... we've been friends for the longest time (really good friends) and one day she randomly shot me out (there was no previous drama between us and it's not something I did because she would have told me) (she also did go through a pretty tough time with other things but idk if that's connected) its been a year or two now since we last talked/ she shut me out. I miss her so so so much we always talked it was the best man. Would it be weird to just text her? Because I feel like she was sad at the time or something but if she was she would has contacted me. Idk I just want us to be friends again.

Okay so, I had this friend and we've been friends for the longest time and we were so so so close but then she shut me out randomly (there was no drama or anything at all) (she was also going through a hard time but why couldn't she have texted me after because I said I would says be there for her). It's been a year or two idk who's counting. I really really miss her she was such a good friend and I just want to talk to her. Would that be weird to talk to her? To just hit her up out of the blue a year after she blocked me out? Would it be crazy to say "hey, I really miss us. How've you been?"

So my friend was on the phone with her boss, and her young 9 year old sister was fighting with her 10 year old brother. So her brother hits her sister and she screams right next to my friend, OWW Stop hitting me. So it sounds like my friend is abusing her sister. Her boss hangs up think her sister is being abused and she might get fired. Not to mention she has to work tomorrow. what should I do?

i mean my group of friends make fun of each other in a funny way since we know we are all joking but. other kids like push me around and stuff, and its like they dont give a flying f*ck about others feelings. on the other hand i'm really nice.

Hi! So there's still group of annoying guys at my school. They've always been jerks but they've really gone up a level in the past month. They've started commenting horrible things on my friends Instagram posts. They say that they're "joking" but it seems more serious than that. They almost sexually harass my female friends, saying things along the lines of describing how they'd like to f*ck them, undress them, touch them, etc. On one of my male friends posts they insulted and bullied him about being in band so much so that there were 250 comments trash talking him when he has less than 150 followers. My friends are really upset and I want to help but I don't know if anyone would help us. Should I talk to a school counselor or something? They might just tell me it's an out of school issue...

After almost a semester in college I feel like maybe I made the wrong choice. I have a lot of friends and I am doing well in all my classes, but I felt so much closer to my friends from home and I don't feel like I belong here. Meanwhile, a couple of my friends who went to the other school I am considering are having a great time. I feel like maybe I just chose my school because I wouldn't have any debt, and I didn't consider my other choice because it would set me back almost 80k in loans.

So I have about had it with my friends as they don't seem to be understanding at all. Everyone is always accusing me of not trying hard enough in life to become independent. My friend andy accuses me of not trying hard enough and says you just don't want to because your lazy and don't want to get off your butt. I have learning disabilities and mental illnesses that hinders me from becoming independent. I am trying very hard enough but no one believes me. My other friend hank constantly criticizes me and doesn't understand stuff either. Everytime I tell him that I am feeling depressed he says its because you don't get out much and tells me to go out. I told him that I can't drive because I don't have my license and tells me to go on the bus when I don't have any money. He's always accusing me of things too and I am tired of it. The other day he accused me of being gay because I called this one friend of mine too much. He says your acting gay and creepy because you whined about him spending too much time with his ex girlfriend when he was dating her and now your happy because they broke up. He says that it sounds like I am in love with him. I am not and I am not freaking gay I have a fiancee for gods sakes. She just lives far away but we will get married eventually in a few years. I am so tired of these accusations. Why is everyone always accusing me of stuff ???

I've been wanting to talk to my 2 friends more and they don't answer me half the time. I have gone out of my way to tell them it bothers me a lot when they rarely contact me and how it makes me sad. It makes me sad too that I've only seen them a few times this year and we aren't far apart, we just don't have cars or licenses. They always use this excuse as the reason why we don't hang out much and I think it's just their way of letting me know they don't want to see me. One of them said about a month ago that she'd try to contact me more and she's maybe contacted me once or twice since then. The other hasn't contacted me at all and she said she'd contact me more from now on, about a month ago also. I'm tired of being lied to and let down. It makes me upset and angry inside. And every time we get into an argument, they take each other's side and try to make me the bad guy. I'm the reason they became friends again after they had a huge fight. We are all adults and this is just beyond childish that this is how our friendship is. It definitely feels one sided. I had plans with one of them the other day and she did not tell me she couldn't make it until I CONTACTED her and it was around the time she was suppose to come to my house. I honestly was sad and I cried a little bit. Having Aspergers Syndrome makes this hard to deal with. She said we can plan something for another day and I really doubt she'll get in touch with me. I'm ready to distance myself from them.

My best friend and I have been friends for 7 years. We met in middle school and from there, our friendship continued to grow stronger as each year passed. We have done almost everything the same in the past: same classes, same activities, same sports, etc. We both realized that it's not healthy to do everything together so in the last couple months, we have started doing things apart, taking different classes, etc. We had always talked about living or dorming together in college since freshman year of high school. We recently were accepted to the same university and now when it is finally time to Dorm together, she does not want to anymore. She thinks that we will spend too much time together there and will not branch out and make new friends. However, she says she wants to continue being my best friend and see me regularly on campus to hang out. The school is VERY big and students are very busy. I think that we SHOULD dorm together at least for a quarter (3 months) and see what happens. I promised her we will continue to do things apart just like we are now. That way we will still make new friends and join new groups, and still stay friends. If it still doesn't work out and we are not branching out, we can always switch room mates next quarter. should we give it a try and see what happens before we automatically assume dorming together is not a good idea or should we dorm separately and grow apart? When I say "the school is very big", I mean VERY big. A lot of my close friends who are attending that university currently have told me that they are way to busy with classes, school work, extra circulars, etc. and rarely see their friends from high School. So I know that if we do indeed choose to live separately, I will barely see her, which ultimately will lead to distance between us, resulting in us not being friends anymore.

I have friends that every single day they tell me how ugly I am. I always say I don't care, but I really do. I've always have low self-esteem and they make it even worse. The only people who have told me I'm beautiful is my best friend and my family, but I feel like they are just saying that cause they love me. I can't really just leave those friends, because no one else wants to talk to me in my classes. I've known them since kindergarten, so they expect me to spend time with them too. I just don't really know what to do. Should I say something, or just forget what's said?

So basically I was at his house and we were playing on the computer and he has a pet toad and I really wanted it so when I left his house I grabbed his pet toad cage with the toad in it and tried to walk out with it but my friend asked what I was doing so I said nothing and he screamed at me to stop and I ran to my house which is across the street and he ran after me so I ran to the forest and let the toad go and then I smashed the empty toad cage on my friend and he cried so I kicked and punched him and shattered the glass on him I'm so upset what do I do

https://www.instagram.com/milmilin1/ 1-10 what would you give her?

I'm in university now and sort of have my life under control. My high school "friends" were always mean and jealous to me back then and I've only last seen them 3 years ago. They are now all of a sudden into everything going on in my life, from all of a sudden viewing every status that I post to following me on most social media but never liking a photo, and even asking other people about me.

Ok so I am in high school, and this is going to get a bit complicated lol. Whenever it is my friends' birthdays, we decorate their lockers. This year, I wanted to step it up a notch. Over the summer, my grandfather died and two of my friends, Abby and Sara helped me a lot through his death and even came to his funeral, which was very far away from where they live. They really helped me feel better and they are my closest friends. I have a big friend group, and Abby's birthday was first, so I bought her a cake and only two of my other friends contributed to pay. Another girl's birthday (who is not as close to me) passed and someone brought in cookies for her. Another girl, Michelle (I just really met her last year and I am not too close with her), had her birthday after that, and nobody brought in anything for her, but another girl and I did decorate her locker tho. Fast forward a month, and my friend Sara's birthday is next week. I texted my group saying that I am going to buy a cake for her and if anyone wants to contribute, they can. I get all these texts after (privately messaged to me), saying "why didn't we do anything for Michelle's birthday?" and another passive aggressive ones from people who aren t contributing to the cake. I replied that I am not responsible for organizing everything and that Abby and Sara helped me during my grandpa's death and that I really wanted to bring them something to show that I care. Should I feel bad about not doing anything for Michelle? I am not planning on buying desserts for everyone else because I always end up paying for the bulk of the cake, and the only ppl that have really contributed are Sara for Abby's birthday and Abby is going to for Sara's birthday. Michelle didn't contribute for Abby's birthday. Sara and Abby and I are not a clique, and we have a very big friend group and there really is no excluding anyone ever. This is mainly why I feel bad, because I feel like I was excluding Michelle by not buying her a cake

I am a freshman in college, very introverted but definitely a good friend when I'm able to open up to you. I take a while to do this, though, and to most people I am quite serious and not very talkative. I have never had many friends. My two closest friends of all time moved a while ago and live in different states. I have one acquaintance I met on the first day of classes. We talk and text but idk if we're considered "friends." She had her birthday in October and didn't invite me. I'm celebrating on December 22nd, I know it seems like a while away but the last day of the semester is soon. It's in a few weeks and I don't think it'd make much sense to invite people I just met to a birthday party, considering the possibility I make friends between now and then. Should I just celebrate with my family? I'm turning 19 and just think it'd be more fun with a couple of friends there. What do you think I can do? Just for some clarity, by the word "party", I wasn't hinting at anything childish or too dramatic. I'm planning on going out to dinner and hanging out at the mall beforehand. I usually don't go all out for my birthday. Thank you for the honest answers, I appreciate it.

My charger was missing at my friend house,apperently her brother was using it last not her.She found it and then we got into an arguement about whether I should go get the charger or should she bring the charger to my house?Was I wrong by saying that she should bring the charger to my house? She was also recently messing around with my makeup,ever since then I can t find it.Who should have to look for.

I have a friendship with a friend for almost a year, soon in the beginning of the friendship I said that I was related to her and tals, did everything she asked nothing else happened, then at 4 months I decided to look at other girls and I started dating only 2 weeks ago I finished and this friend of mine spoke to me, that among all the mistakes I made with her dating was the worst, I was embarrassed and started to move the cell so she turns and says: "This with me today and now marking with the other ?? You always cluck, so I have nothing to do with you my good? PS: In college we were in the canteen and it was cold, this my friend arrives at me and I embrace and says: "My bm that comfortable hug does not I want to leave him no more. "This happened Monday.

even though they have known you for months.

I been friends with this girl for a couple years we are both around the same age 19-20 I helped her a lot and she only calls me when she has a question relating to school since im the one who recently enrolled her, but when i want to hang out or talk she doesn't want to most of the time she only hangs out with her other friend who goes out and parties and drinks... today i asked if she wanted to hang out she said she had homework but i see her out with the friend I previously mentioned... Ugh i always respond back to her cause i love helping others and she is my only friend but i feel like she is taking advantage of me idk what to do

I texted him after 2 months of being broken up that he was on my mind then he said I honestly dont know what else to tell you, you really offended me and the things you said about my family unbelivable. I said are you still on the past he said of course, the things you said about mom are you kidding me? no sorry I can't forgive that or allow that.I didn't respond to him then 10 min later he texted back My mom has the purest heart and for you to say those nasty things about her are you kidding me My mom has the purest heart and for you to say those nasty things about her are you kidding me I just said i'm not in the state to discuss the past nor do i want to. He said and thats fine but you should know why this will not work and why I won't allow myself to have feellings for you again. I didn't respond. I go to church where he's a deacon, and he constantly stares at me from the alter to where my friends and family notice and tell me. I don't look at him The only times i have i've given him a dirty look. It's been more than a month since that convo. He said something first about my mom fyi. Does he still have feelings or being dramatic? FYI in the past he's also said a lot of things and gone back on his word so idk if he's trying to be dramatic cause he keeps staring. I chased after he stopped chasing me so Idk if thinks he can get away with saying stuff like this.

I asked my friend Megan if she'd ever thought about what she'd name her future children, (we're both pretty young, nowhere near having kids.) she said she couldn't have them, I thought she meant she physically couldn't, but she clarified, she could, and she wanted kids, but she couldn't or shouldn't have kids. She didn't say she couldn't handle them, or she couldn't handle the responsibility, and I didn't want to say, "You'll change your mind later." because that's just rude, but I'm trying to understand, if you can have kids, and want kids, you should have them as long as you're financially and mentally fit, and preferably have a partner, right?

My ex gf and I broke up after a year and a half, but she didn't let me move on properly. She kept calling, wanting to hangout, have sex, showed up at my job and even tried to get back together. After a phone call where she wanted to come over and 'cuddle', I said no. A few months later, I tried to get in touch with her, assuming we were friends, and learned that she was moving, she was really nasty to me and said all kinds of cruel things. I finally confronted her about the times she used me as a spare while she played the field, it was a vicious call. She sent me a e-mail apologizing telling him that she still really cared about me a lot, how she was truly sorry for all of the things she told me, regretted it, and that she was going through stuff at the time. I called her back, she had just moved, she told me that she missed me, That she still felt a strong connection with me, and I think, that she thought of me as family. But she downplayed our past relationship (when we were a couple) attributing it to being 'young and naive' and that she liked some things about our relationship. She also told me how she was interested in hook ups with random people. But at the end of the phone call, I wished her good luck and happiness in life and told her goodbye. She told me that I could call whenever I wanted to talk, but I didn't respond to her offer, and just said 'bye.' After she told me bye, and she stood on the line until I hung up. And I never talked to her again. I wonder if she was just going to use me as a spare/security blanket while she played the field again. Her past behavior exemplified this. Even though she said that the relationship (when we were officially a couple) because we were 'young and naive', yet she 'really cared a lot about me' and couldn't seem to let me go and feeling devastated when I finally said goodbye. Was she just trying to keep me on hold until she was done playing the field? On our final night together, during the period where she was being hateful, she told me 'if I was older, I probably would've stayed with you,' and she came onto me sexually, andI rejected her. This was before the confrontation call, before the final phone call. You don't try to have sex with someone you feel is like family. So, I wonder if she was putting on a front during our last phone call.

I had a dream that took place in my school's science wing hall. I was talking to my friend facing her, she notices something behind me then all of a sudden she hugs me and I was quite confused as to why until I see a friend (crush?) of mine (exchange student) walk by crying and wiping his tears away with his friends and his friends seem to be comforting him and I wanted to go see why he was crying but my friend wouldn't let go of me no matter how hard I tried to release her grip she wouldn't let go of me What could my dream mean?

I do not engage in violence or gangs, I do not do drugs and I most definitely do not drink alcohol in excess. I only drink occasionally. I am not supposed to have no friends.

Like I smoked with him too and I just say things in a non defensive way and he got upset or something and it happened with one of my friends too. We both smoked and then I was high I was saying weird things and then since I know my friend told me "I'm boring huh" and he had a straight face and I was like noo (laughing) like I was worried he would of gotten upset or something. Like I don't like getting people offended or getting people upset but why does that happen, I think being high and saying things affect it I don't know if this makes any sense lol but i tried to explain it

So me and a friend had a three way with this guy after he started to hang out just me we become friends but my friend didn't like it and cause a big screen demanding I choose her r him cause couldn't be friends with both of them at the end I choose to stay being friends with him, but now she has went down the wrong path ( hard cord drugs) and she OD the other day I want to go and check on her but at the same time I don't cause i don't want to be in the drama of it again, so was I wrong for choosing him over her r did I make right decision

I used to be close buddies with some people, all we did were smoke weed, today im almost 4 years sober. And it seems like when we were hanging all it was about were weed smoking or drinking. Now that i'm sober they barley call to check on me, or wanna hang out. Should I look for other friends?

I used to be close buddies with some people, all we did were smoke weed, today im almost 4 years sober. And it seems like when we were hanging all it was about were weed smoking or drinking. Now that i'm sober they barley call to check on me, or wanna hang out. Should I look for other friends?

im not talking about online im talking about in real life like in my school online is different because the person is not there with you, please give me some good advice

i was born an introvert and i forgot how to socialize for some reason i dont know what happened in my past vcuz i can barely remember all i know is that something led me to lose all my friends from my childhood and i have distant relationships with everyone i know i really just need help with my confidence so can someone please help me give me advice because i rally do want to make friends except i have no idea what to talk about with people my mind just suddently turns blank and yeah please just give me adivce thank you

I have a close friend and he's a really nice guy but I only see him as a friend. I know he likes me since one of his other friends told me. Basically my whole class knows and I sorta know too but I just try to deny it. Sometimes he slightly flirts with me and I just go on with it and brush it off. Is it wrong to lead him on? I had a close friend before and apparently I was leading him on. When I told him I didn't like him we stopped talking and I lost a close friend. I really don't wanna lose him I do care about him a lot. Should I confront him about it? It is that a bad idea?

The people around here that tries to hang with me gets inferiorated at me for being this way. They tend to curse each other and they tend to fight each other and they tend to be mean to each other and do malicious things to each other and when they try that stuff with me I freak out and tell them to stop. Or they will go up to me and try to provoke me and I would try to back away from the crap that they're trying to start. They get burned up because I am 'weak' and not like they are. They ridicule my behavior because I break down when they start trying to bully me or start an argument with me because I am supposedly 'weak' and 'girly' My mom ridiculed me when someone says something mean to me and I break down and says 'if your other brothers had been done the same way then they would just have laughed it off' What is wrong with these guys that they're this way to me? Why cannot they accept me for who they are?

I always sympathize for someone who gets hurt, looses, or fails, but most people find it amusing. :(

I'm a sophomore in high school. I have this friend who can be really annoying sometimes. Whenever I make a mistake, she always feels the need to tell me that I'm stupid. If I forget something she tells me "ha, you're stupid." I wrote an essay in English and I made a mistake on formatting and she tells me maybe my parent dropped me on the head when I was a baby. Then she's like, "too harsh, huh?" She's a ***** sometimes. My grades are better than hers but she still likes to comment on my intelligence. I don't really like her so much, I try to act like friends "joke" around about each other but she seems like she's just being rude and wants to hurt my feelings. Plus she likes to make rude comments about my appearance even though I know I'm a lot better looking than her. I don't know how to make new friends. Advice? Sorry about the extra word in my question.. The problem is, I've been friends with her for four years. She wasn't as bad when I first met her but she's been getting worse and worse over the years.

my friend shunned me and wants nothing more to do with me..i got upset with him about something and even though i apologized numerous times he wont forgive me and has not talked with me since...anyway, this is the last message he left for me..i dont understand what the last line means..and since he wont talk to me he is not explaining it. can someone help me figure it out? it was a facebook message.. tks and will choose a best answer the last line sayd, "thanks Viv" then has a smiley face and a thumbs down...my name is not Viv..so can someone figure out what this means? tks for any help..will choose the best answer..tks

I'm 15 and my brother is in his 20's. Most of his friends act almost the same as the boys in my grade. They still do stupid, foolish things. I feel like I'm a bit more reasonable than him at times. A few times, he wanted to pull pranks that are not funny (the ones people would get angry at) and I stopped it. Ever since about 6th grade, I noticed that especially guys are more immature. I'm not trying to generalize, but a vast majority of them just seem to act in a way that others perceive as "annoying", or even sexual.

I'm 15 and my friend is 21. She treats me like a young child sometimes which I don't really mind. We're in the exact same generation, dress similarly, and are both into some of the same things. I won't be able to drink till I'm 18 (cause I'm Canadian) but that's the only slight difference.

the only thing that might make me hesitant is she works in a lab so maybe she took it off for that reason but she is around computers and nothing really else.

I am in a bad spot in my life. I am a loner at school, and don t have many real friends. On Instagram, there is a fan page of a TV Show. The owner of it was insecure about her nose. I bullied her about it. One thing led to another, and eventually she deleted that account, even though it had 75K followers. I know I shouldn t have done that. It was awful. But how do I redeem myself? Please help.