So, I'm 26 and currently don't have my license (long story). I always have to get rides from people. I have a friend who is married and who used to be my boss. Yes, I do have feelings for him and although we haven't acknowledged it, the attraction is mutual. We're both good Christians who would never act on the attraction, though. He's given me rides before, but during the day and his son was always with us (at his wife's demand) except for one time. Nothing bad happened during that one ride alone. He's told me in the past that his wife complains when he gets home from work late. Tonight, I needed a ride home from work and I sent a message to a couple of people, him being one of them and he said he could give me a ride home from work. When he was on his way to come get me, he said he was headed my way and that he had to be quick (because he had to get home). Do you think he kept it from his wife that he was giving me a ride home? Seeing as how she complains when he gets home from work late. By the way, we used to flirt a lot when we worked together, but not so much now. His wife and I get along well, but we're not friends...we're just not b*tchy towards each other either lol. I'm not sure she's all that comfortable with our friendship, but she hasn't asked him to stop being friends with me either.

Whats the BEST COUNTRY for a "man" to to divorce in to avoid paying alimony, paying spousal support, and her taking your assets and property?

My wife is very hairy. It has gotten me suspicious. she had some thicc legs but her voice was so deep. the only time we did the nasty it was dark in the room, so i couldnt tel what's what.

I have been with my husband for five years married for one. We have a daughter together. Since day one his family has been nothing but disrespectful and filled with drama. His sister tried breaking us up numerous of times n disrespect me and my daughter and even called me the n word. I am black and my husband is white ( born in Europe) I been. Treated so poorly by them and every time I confront my husband about something disrespectful they done he never sticks up for me right away he either tells me to ignore it or he waits until I explode then tells me he gonna handle it. Me n my husband got a new home . hasn't even been two weeks n his mother got mad all because we told her we will invite her when we are ready . then his cousin blows him up everyday talking about I'm coming to ur house n we inviting the whole family after we told him no. His cousin then calls the next day n told my husband u can't let ur girl tell u wat to do u the man of the house that ur house not hers I am family who wears the pants in the family u or her and even called me a black All my husband told him was if u can't respect my wife don't call me no more n that was it n I literally had to ex plode once again just for him to say something now his cousin is going around spreading false rumors about us to his family. Keep in mind his cousin is 25 with a daughter living off his gf parents with no job I don't know WAt to do anymore

I'm 29 and my husband is 31. We have young kids and I'm a SAHM. I'm biracial and he's an annoying typical white man. He works long hours and when he comes home he messes up the house leaving doors open and he wants attention. I'm tired all day taking care of the house and kids while he works. His annoying parents want to visit and I don't want his mom in my house. I'm pregnant again and I haven't yet told him because I don't feel like having another child. He can never do anything right and I'm tired of him and want a divorce, what do I do?

So, this is awkward for me to even read but I'm gonna go for it anyways. I'm a teenage girl and I don't believe in sex before marriage. Now, being in a public high school, I have heard many a jokes about 'beef curtains, hanging ham, tuna blinds', all being crude terms to refer to longer than usual inner labia. I have these. I hate them. Now, being that I don't believe in sex before marriage, I keep having this horrible thought that I'll marry the man of my dreams, and he'll wind up hating me from the wedding night onwards or flat out leaving me because he'll see me naked for the first time and realize that he has to enjoy a gross looking vagina for the rest of his life. On top of this, I play volleyball and I'm always worried that people can see their outline in the tiny shorts we wear. Is is normal for me to feel like this? Could this happen and do men really care as much about this as I'm freaking out about it- is it really that big a deal?

When I go shopping I go for food or clothes I'll admit I take longer than the average. If I'm going for one thing I come back with ten over a two to three hour period . I don't think it's a big deal but my husband does. We have three kids and he works from home unless he has to go out. When he does the shopping he's really quick about it and comes back home. I like to just take my time and have fun. So right now I took an hour to go to buy shoes for a friend (X Mas Gift) and toys for her sons. I told my husband I'd be quick but I wasn't. Now he's mad at me calling me selfish and inconsiderate when I knew he had work to do. I honestly don't care I think he's overreacting. He's with the kids more than I am..who's wrong ?

So I am a sixteen year old girl, and I don't believe in sex before marriage, but one day and one day soon I do aspire to be married. I grew up with an abusive father and so it's very careful ground to tread for me to commit and submit myself in every way to a future husband. Despite this, I dream of being married to a kind man that takes care of me. I dream of carrying his children while cooking for him while wearing a ring. Whoever that may be, I dream of him. I know that it's stupid, I know. My friends think that I'm crazy for not touching drugs or alcohol or never having had sex yet. I've never held hands with a guy, hugged a guy or kissed a guy and I'm a junior in high school. I am also really tall and broad built for a girl, so I kinda feel like guys are intimidated by me. I am not that feminine looking so I feel like no one is attracted to me. I have short hair, I'm not super smart, I'm not great at sports, and my family is broke so I don't have money for expensive or 'fashionable' clothes, or my own car. I know that as a follower of Jesus Christ I'm not supposed to care about these things, but no matter how hard I try they are always in the back of my mind, preying on my self esteem. I'm kind hearted, not terrible looking on good days and always act like a lady, and I still feel ugly and unworthy. How awkward will it be when I meet a future husband and have never interacted with men before? How do I get over this feeling of feeling like an undateable potato?

I don't understand how this is possible when there is a variety of women out there. How can they commit themselves to just one for eternity.

I'm 27. I was dating a guy who I didnt know was married until last week( His wife found out too)He has kids too! When I confronted him, he told me that its an arranged marriage and he did it to make his parents happy, and that I am his soulmate. They are going through divorce right now and it's stressing everyone out. His attitude towards me is also changing; he seems to blame me for all the financial losses that he's suffering due to the divorce. Now that we have all found out, he's bringing his kids to the house that he bought for me and is trying to make us bond. They hate me, but he keeps pushing them onto me. His wife keeps insulting me. I don't know where any of this is going, but I really want to marry him, but this divorce is seems to make him hate me. I hate my life. Everyone hates me now and thinks I'm a characterless *****.

There's a guy at work that's married with 2 little girls. He's trash talks people when they're not around, runs people down with mean personal jokes when they are and maintains a constant run of sexual innuendo. He also stays out all night partying and drinking and lies to his wife saying he found a temp night construction job. Lastly he also frequently cheats on his wife saying he can give other married women what their husbands can't. Turned out both him and I liked the same girl. He won. No problem, that's life. I was still nice to both. But then he came to me in private and said, ":I ****** her and there's nothing you can do about." It wasn't jealousy, but the arrogance and lack of respect he had for every living soul even his own family made me sick. I knew nothing I would say would make a difference. So, I kicked his ***. Not bad but enough to hopefully teach him a lesson. But now everyone said I was wrong. Really?

So, I'm 26 and currently don't have my license (long story). I always have to get rides from people. I have a friend who is married and who used to be my boss. He's given me rides before, but during the day and his son was always with us except for one time. Nothing bad happened during that one ride alone. He's told me in the past that his wife complains when he gets home from work late. Tonight, I needed a ride home from work and I sent a message to a couple of people, him being one of them and he said he could give me a ride home from work. When he was on his way to come get me, he said he was headed my way and that he had to be quick (because he had to get home). Do you think he kept it from his wife that he was giving me a ride home? Seeing as how she complains when he gets home from work late. By the way, we used to flirt a lot when we worked together, but not so much now. His wife and I get along well, but we're not friends...we're just not b*tchy towards each other either lol. I'm not sure she's all that comfortable with our friendship, but she hasn't asked him to stop being friends with me either.

So basically my brother and his girlfriend have lived with my husband and I on more than one occiasion. Every time they have lived with us for free. The first time they fought a whole lot and put holes in the walls of the house we were renting. My brothers gf use to wear skanky clothing and I had to ask her more than once not to do so which I shouldn't of had to ask more than once. My brother and I have had issues with each other in the past and he gets real disrespectful and calls me b**** and etc in my own home. I had to make them leave more than once because of this. The second time I let them stay again because they just had a baby and the baby just got out of the NICU unit. Once again all the drama stirred up and I had to tell them to leave. They ended up moving with my dad in another state. Well for whatever reason my dad put them out and now they are back. My husband do ant ant them to stay with us and my mom is jumping on me about it all. I'm so sick of bs and drama and I'm 36 weeks pregnant at the moment and my mom feels like I'm obligated to let them live with us because they have a baby that needs extra care, etc. she fails to see that we have tried this more than once and nothing changes. If anything is makes more issues. Am I wrong for just laying low on this whole situation? Do I stick with my husband decision or override him? He doesn't like the disrespect my bro shows me and feels i don't need to be stressed right now.

My dad is an alcoholic, a compulsive liar, and is emotionally and verbally abusive. My mom wishes she could leave him but whenever I encourage her to do so she says she "can't afford it." She can't move out because she has no where to go and can't afford her own place. None of her family lives here either. I really want her to get a divorce. Unlike my mom, HE has family 30 minutes away. He can go live with his mom. If it came to trial, I think we could definitely get the house and pets and all of our possessions. The consequences for us would be that his family would probably not want to see us anymore because he'd twist the story in his favor and my mom would be taken out of my grandmother's will. Honestly, I can live with that and so can my mom. The issue is I can't convince her to do it because she thinks it's too expensive to get a lawyer. On top of that, she fell and hurt her knee in September and basically destroyed her leg so she's out of work on sick leave and dealing with worker's compensation. So not she feels extra trapped because she can't even leave physically. Is there anything we can do? Can't we hire a public defender or can we represent ourselves in court? I really want them to get a divorce. If I find a way that's easy enough I think I can get my mom to agree. The court system we'd be dealing with would be Michigan.

They make it seem like it's bad luck to leave a relationship when someone else treats you better? But what if your current spouse abuses you and someone good happens to come into your life?

maybe it was an old picture? or maybe he was slightly drunk haha? Or maybe he was just having fun? doesnt matter, I'm not judging lol.what should i do

My husband's company brought in summer interns in May, and my husband chose to mentor this little perky blonde from the local college. She is always calling him on his cell for "help" and at a company dinner thing I went to with him, she kept touching and flirting with him. I heard from one of his coworkers that she even invited him to lunch. He assures me that he is just being a good mentor, but I want him to get rid of the little tramp. How can I get through to him?

My husband who is 34 like I am hates it when much older and younger guys talk to me because my parents have raised me to believe that I should be married within the same age group as to why they married me off to my husband. Is it okay for family, relatives, or peers to limit you to dating and marrying within your own age group? Everytime my parents have set me up with guys close to my age that meet their long laundry list of requirements, they turn out to be sons of b***hes. And then my husband accuses this young, looking 50-year old guy in our church of looking like he is trying to steal younger women from guys close to their age including me. I have a former college classmate who is getting trolled on Facebook by her ex who's the same age for being in a relationship with a much older guy and another one whose current girlfriend (three years older than he is) is being harassed by her ex who's close to her age for being involved with him. Her ex is also harassing him for being much younger than she is as well.

Every year my husbands parents and our family rotate holidays. They live in Arkansas we live in Georgia. My hisband and i met 5 years ago while he was visiting Georgia and he never went back home. Hes 31 and my 2 children are from a previous marriage. I get along with my in-laws pretty well. No drama to speak of just different lifestyles. I m from the city and just turned 30. They are of course older and strongly opinionated county folk. We respect each other for the most part aside from the occasional mumble about how I should handle my kids. I ignore it. We are in Arkansas for a week and my husband hunts while he is here, enjoying the 300 acres we are on, to it s fullest. However my in-laws make no effort to entertain or even bond with my children and I. We poke around in the woods or fish, visit the cows etc. But we are on our own out here. I feel like no effort is made on their behalf to show us around. My husband is an only child so these trips turn into a family reunion for him. We are left to ourselves while my husband is asked what he would like to do. In-laws want us to move here but now I m not so sure. I am in the back bedroom playing legos with my kids and my mother In law is on her laptop in the living room, father in law is cutting trees on the farm. It will be this way until my husband comes back from a last minute dental appointment. I m not sure what to think.

I met my husband at the end of 2015. The relationship was ok at the very beginning but, soon, his drinking problem and anger issues became clear and, after a year together, I decided to end it. After a couple of weeks, however, he asked me for another chance. He went to AA and got help with his drinking and his anger. He cut off people who were toxic and even got a different job to be able to spend more time with me. Marriage was technically my idea, since I saw how limited he is in his situation and because I want him to travel with me (I travel at least twice a year, alone). We got married in August and really have not have any issues. We see eye to eye on almost everything and none of the red flags apply to our relationship (asking for money, rushing to marriage, refusing to introduce me to family, etc.) What is suspicious is that he is TOO GOOD. If we have a disagreement, he wants to find a solution. If I tell him I don't like something , addresses it. If I am upset, he does everything to cheer me up. My sister thinks I am just paranoid and that I should just give him credit for everything he has done to improve as a person and as my partner. What do you think? What I mean by 'too good' is what is known as the 'don't rock the boat' approach in these situations. People who don't want to ruffle any feathers out of fear of losing their 'golden ticket'.

My ex and I have a son who is 9. Ex has primary custody during the school year and I have summer. Ex never works with me and always refuses to give me extra time when I ask. Ex just sent me an email. His in-laws (he's married and he and his wife have three kids - 13, 4 and 1). They are doing a family vacation out of state for a week in the summer. The inlaws are paying for everything I guess. The issue with the trip is: My ex doesn't have our son during that time. So ex is asking me if I'll switch a week with him. He'll give me a week during the school year for that summer week. I asked why a different vacation time wasn't chosen - ex said he's not the one who planned the trip. It's irritating that my son's schedule wasn't factored into this decision. If I don't say yes, ex plans to go anyway. If I say yes, I'm going to be angry that I have to bend for a guy that won't work with me at all. Ex can't give me an hour when I ask, but expects me to switch weeks with him during the summer - which is the only time I really get to see my son. If I say no, I'm a mom that wouldn't let her son go on vacation. There's a chance that son wouldn't know. But at 9, he'd probably find out. Either way is very upsetting. BTW If you are curious about how ex and his wife have kids older and younger than our son: Ex and wife were separated when we met and then they got back together before my son was born. I didn't break up their marriage or anything. I thought I was dating a soon-to-be divorced man, who then left me when I was pregnant to go back with his wife. So don't feel too bad for her.

My husband grew up in a very codependent home where his parents and two younger sisters depended heavily on him. At 18 he left home to join the military, subconsciously to get away from his family. Then 6 years later he and I met & he has since married and started a family with me. We have been together for 11 yrs and have a 4 mo old baby. With an infant, our household is stressful enough without him taking on the issues of his parents and sisters & bringing those issues home with him. Both of his sisters still live at home (both are in their 30s) and are considered adult children who don't drive, don't cook, don't work, etc. Their parents allowed this for too long & are just barely realizing the need to push the girls to grow up & move on. My husband has spent years of trying to motivate, teach and encourage his sisters to "grow up". Sadly, that may never happen. Hubby comes home every day venting to me about his family's issues like a broken record. I've heard it all for 11 yrs & frankly, I'm tired of it & he knows this. I have decided to move on & let his family be - I can't change them. How can I get my husband to do the same? To add, my husband hurts for his parents, yet fails to realize that his parents helped create this situation. I have been patient, but am no longer willing to allow his family's issues affect my household. I have a son now to worry about and I don't need the negativity in my house. My husband has been unable to completely stop trying to take on the caretaker role for his family, although with my pushing him he has been able to distance himself somewhat.

Would this make you upset? If she has done nothing to disrespect your marriage or family and if she is kind to you and supportive of your marriage, would you be okay with their friendship?

I didn't know in the beginning but now that i've done my homework they all have serious cases of this disorder and i'm afraid for my life physically as well as emotionally. I believe in the power of God and faith but I don't know if I can take any more of this stupidity For the person who said I should've known they are narcissists, actually many people don't even know the definition or condition of it until they have been around one. I knew there was something wrong but couldn't put my finger on it other than thinking they were a little bit off, ok, a way bit off. But the term is new to me and is new to the stepfather of the daughter who's been married for several years and just now realizing what this problem is. Thanks for the advice tho

I'm very negative and unhappy since finding out my be was not only cheating and sexting but paying escorts and says the only way he will let me go is by me having sex with someone else. I'm so stuck in this negative mindset it's consuming my entire life. I just don't know what to do anymore. I used to be a fun outgoing person not always happy but made the most of life. It's literally affecting my parenting, my work, my social life. I have no interest in anything anymore. I am still with him but I do not trust him. Someone please give me insight.