Family: Question: My moms abandoning my son and I (even though I work and pay her most of her bills) how can I have section 8 stripped from her?

Question: My moms abandoning my son and I (even though I work and pay her most of her bills) how can I have section 8 stripped from her?

Posted: 26 Nov 2017 01:49 PM PST

This is going to sound extremely heartless. But coming from the situation I m in I just need to know. My mother originally got section 8 from being homeless with me as a child. Now that I m older she wants to be alone (not really alone she just wants to be with friends in another state. Mind you. My mothers very selfish and has basically used me for benefits). Since she claims she wants to be independent I want to hit her where it really hurts and get section 8 taken from her. She s always been negligent to me growing up and now that she s not receiving food stamps etc cause I m older she finds no use for me anymore. I personally will have no place to go and even with the two jobs I have at the moment I can t find an affordable place to go. She s clearly stated she could give "two shits" where me or her grandson end up. Mind you. I have no family in the state I m in because she moved to Florida when I was younger to be with her friends over here. No matter what I do. She s not happy. Im disgusted with her as a mother. And I seriously don t feel she should keep living off of benefits when she s fully capable of living on her own but chooses not to. She literally plays a sob story to people to get money and I promise. She has an income and the only reason she has me paying her bills is so hat she can save up and leave.

Question: Please help with my divorced parents?

Posted: 26 Nov 2017 01:34 PM PST

My parents have always been divorced and I️ move always lived with my mom. The past few years, I've wondered what it would be like to live with my dad. Reasons I️ like my moms: - she gives me money for things I️ need/want - she will call me into school if I️ want to skip (I️ have a 3.8GPA) -I️ can pretty much do whatever I️ want, because she trust me so much Reasons I️ don't like my moms: - i know everyone at my school, but do t have any friends - I️ just sit in my room bored all day - my mom is always busy Reasons I️ like my dads: - I️ have 2 stepbrothers that I️ get along with well -me and my dad share a lot of the same hobbies - my dads family is very well known in the community, so we're always hanging out with people Reason I️ don't like my dads: - if I️ moved to his house, I️ would have to go to a new school and meet new people, which scares me - I️ would be worried if I️ would do as well in the school I️ would attend at my dads -my dad may make me pay for my own stuff -my dad may not let me skip school - I'm scared I️ would just end up staying in my room all day again like I️ do at my moms because I️ have no friends

Question: Christmas is coming up and I was wondering if I should get my sister a gift. It'd be nice to hear your opinions so feel free to answer?

Posted: 26 Nov 2017 01:29 PM PST

I am 20 years old and my sister is 17 years old, we live in the same house but we don't speak , so I was wondering whether I should get her a christmas gift or not. Months ago she got mad and accused me of stealing her clothings (which I haven't) and she said she doesn't wish to have a sister like me and said she'd never speak to me again. We haven't spoke a single word since then and it seems she's better off without me anyways since it doesn't seem to bother her as much as it bothers me that we aren't on speaking terms. I tried to do little things to test the water and see if we can reconcile but she wouldn't budge like I meant nothing to her. I guess I'm scared of getting hurt and don't want to show my vulnerability, what if I get her a gift and she won't open it or accept it? It would be a slap in my face and I don't want to risk it plus I think I would cry on the spot if that happens. Though I got everyone in my family a gift and I don't want her to feel excluded. I'm conflicted and I just don't know what to do. Any suggestions? I was planning to get her this plus a $20 shipping fee just in case I need to return it if she refuses it: https://usa.shoreprojects.com/7161697/checkouts/d16f30a30ea8b1b73421428e27d19a0c?step=contact_information

Question: Is this Considered Abuse?

Posted: 26 Nov 2017 01:23 PM PST

Whenever my mom punishes me for a little stupid thing, she would use her fists or a broom and she would yell at me. Last week my mom hit me with a dust pan really hard that it left a bruise on my thigh that turned blue and brown. She would always call me stupid, fat, or she would tell me that I'm ugly :(this lowered my self esteem because everyday I would do exercises to lose weight, but my friends tell me I'm not fat but she says my sisters are perfect and skinny and they can pass as models. I also am extremely self conscience about how I look whenever I go to school. I also have a problem with going out doors like being with friends or going to the theater because I think I'm ugly and fat. Whenever I try to talk nicely to my mom she would ignore me or say YOU TALK TOO MUCH! but this happens often, but my mom sometimes talks to me. And whenever I tell my dad about this problem he would just say its no big deal. All of this has been bringing my grades down and I have been feeling myself withdraw from friends and people in school because I feel like no one likes me or cares of me.I just wish I was someone else that is pretty and perfect with nice happy parents.Also when my dad gets mad at me he would call me a brat or a *****.:( i just want to run away or never exist. I literally cry everyday.

Question: What do I do if I hate my sister in law but is forced to be around her?

Posted: 26 Nov 2017 01:11 PM PST

Well we never clicked since we met. Things are extremely awkward for us... you can get the awkward tension with a knife. It's not that we ever argued but our conversation simply doesn't flow. It actually makes it hard to be around her bc it's that overwhelmingly stressful. I am a social butterfly and can talk to a wall for hours but with her I cannot deal. & Never been in this situation before.. I am forced to be around her bc she's constantly around when I go to his house or if we all go to family functions. That might seem rude as I'm getting mad about HER BEING WITH HER OWN FAMILY lol but they think it's a good idea to always put us together. Like if we go to a sit down meal they make us sit there together or we always have to ride together (big family - not enough cars). No she just recently joined my gym and is constantly texting me if I went.. I feel I have to put on a fake smile & pray the evening goes by fast. This probably makes me look extremely childish & petty but having to deal with her the past 4 yrs is getting old. She moved out of his house, had a baby & now it's like I see her double the amount. I'm nervous to talk to my fiancé about it... I just don't want to hurt his feelings or him get mad. I'm actually about to go to dinner with him right now & guess who's gonna be there lololol. What do I do? Any advice?

Question: Family Drama?

Posted: 26 Nov 2017 01:02 PM PST

So my uncle and my granny and my cousin live in a house together well.. my granny did before she died 5 years ago. My cousin she stopped me my sister and my mother from coming into the house to visit my uncle and granny and my granny was 97 at the time. My cousin she pushed my granny down the stairs one night and she beat up my granny and she was scared to death of my cousin and my granny could barely walk she was a very lonely person as well as my uncle. I never got to see my granny until i saw her in her death bed. These days she abuses my uncle and my uncle has his legs amputated and from what i hear from their neighbours she doesnt take care of my uncle and my uncle is sad and lonely and hes scared to call anyone in my family because of her and she also abuses my uncle. I was thinking of trying to get into that house by fooling her that im a mail man or something to try get into the house to see my uncle. She lives in that house because she abused her parents years ago she technically doesnt own that house it belongs to my granny and uncle. Should i try go in to the house and try talk to her even if it means i have to break the door? She got away with so much over the years i feel like its time i need to see my uncle and make him happy again. What should i do?

Question: Should I just run?

Posted: 26 Nov 2017 12:56 PM PST

Hello. I just wanted someone's opinion. & if possible, someone who's ran away from home before. I'll try not to go into too much detail, but I live w/ my parents, & we're going to be moving back to our home town soon. It's been...chaotic to say the least. It's always been that way, really. I have 3 siblings back home, & their lives are pretty messy as well. Most recently, my sister had a baby. She's been snorting pills during most of her pregnancy, & was hospitalized from an overdose. But still, it seems like I'm the one they have a problem with. They just did nothing. It might sound like overreacting to you, but years of non-stop lies, drug, alcohol & sexual abuse through my whole family have been enough. I do not want to go back home. I'm 19, but my parents are still overprotective, so Idk if I can get away with this if I do. I also had to quit my job so I'm short on money. My point is, one of my siblings could commit murder & my mom will still act like their best friend. But it's different with me. Idk why it is . I really don't. I'm at my limit. I had to drop out of high school just to help my family, & i still get talked to like a I'm a dog. If you think I should just run, how can I go about it? I don't mean to sound dramatic, but other than running away, there's only one option left I can think of...

Question: Are children more vulnerable in K-12 environments?

Posted: 26 Nov 2017 12:32 PM PST

Some private schools have to integrate all the age groups in one school because there's not much kids. Especially if they have to interact with each other a lot, would it make the younger ones more vulnerable? Some kids like to "befriend" the older children, and there's been cases where an older teen dates a younger person. I think the relationships are less likely, but there have been situations where it had a bad outcome. There's been controversy that they will be more likely to feel pressured or uncomfortable being surrounded by older kids a lot.

Question: Are my parents gonna divorce?

Posted: 26 Nov 2017 12:01 PM PST

My mom and dad always fight and get annoyed at each other. They are both 49 years old and I think that's kind of old to get a divorce. Anyways, they are always arguing and yelling at each other, but usually the next day they make up. One time about 4 months ago, they were actually gonna divorce and were talking about it because they had a huge fight but ended up talking it out. Last night, they had a fight again and haven't talked yet. When there not fighting they are fine with each other and don't get mad and stuff.

Question: I need advice about my daughter?

Posted: 26 Nov 2017 11:56 AM PST

I am the mother of a 23 year old daughter. My daughter is married and is 6 months pregnant. Both her and her husband smoke very heavy and drink all the time. I asked her to quit smoking and drinking now that she is pregnant and she told me so won't and to mind my own business she is an adult now. I just came back from their house and I am heartbroken., She was so drunk she could barley walk and she smokes 2 packs of cigarettes a day and I don't know what to do. This is my first grandchild and I want it to be healthy but my daughter won't quit smoking or drinking. Neither my husband or a smoke and we don't drink and my daughter never smoked or drank until she started dating him. When her husband is at work all my daughter does all day is smoke and drink all day.

Question: Wives would you do this?

Posted: 26 Nov 2017 11:53 AM PST

I have to leave soon to drop my husband off at the airport. He has to go on a business trip. I am not getting out of the car just going to drop him off and come back home. I have a 2 hour drive so to be more comfortable I am just going to drive in my bare feet and not bring my shoes. I don't need shoes for a 2 hour drive since I am not getting out of the car.

Question: Help my Dad won't talk to me, how can I show I'm sorry?

Posted: 26 Nov 2017 10:57 AM PST

My mom left my dad when I was 5 and we haven't heard from her nor about her in 16 years. My dad is an amazing father and handsome. I'm the girl version of him but he still looks better. On Monday I was super horny and was playing with myself in my room. I "finished" but I was still sexually frustrated. I'm a virgin but I popped my cherry myself. I couldn't take it anymore so I went downstairs and got a sausage out the fridge and put it in me. I was moaning loud and my dad walked through the door. So I started crying and screaming, "Its stuck, it's stuck" I Thought this would levitate some of the embarrassment. He realized what happen and wanted to call an ambulance or rush me to the hospital. I told him no just get it out. He turned around and put his head on top of his head uncomfortable. He put some gloves on and took a deep breath and pulled It. It felt so good that I grabbed his fingers and jammed it in me. The worse part is his hands busted through and I instantly ejaculated on his fingers. He yanked from my grip. Looked at me with a disgusted face and said something I couldn't make out and went upstairs. it's been almost a week and he hasn't spoken to me at all. How can I apologize? I thought about saying earlier I was watching step daddy xxx videos and I lost my mind. I do watch those.

Question: Is my mother in law offended? and does she hate my mother?

Posted: 26 Nov 2017 10:20 AM PST

Ok, so my mother in law has had relationship problems with her husband, and they live apart. However they are still in touch, and have an amicable relationship (this my husband and I found out recently). Before we knew of their amicable relationship, because they used to fight all the time, we invited only my husband's dad to Thanksgiving, because we thought he'd spend it alone, as she lives with their daughter and son, and also because we have a small apartment. Then we found out that they were amicable, so we expected the dad to spend thanksgiving with them, and he did. I posted pictures on social media about our thanksgiving, which included my husband, my mom, a friend, and I. She hasn;t like any of our posts at all, and neither has my husband's sister. Is she offended that we didn't invite them? Another thing that should be taken into consideration is that she might be slightly jealous of my mother, because my mom looks really young, and has an office job. I say this because on our wedding a lot of people told my mom she looked too young to be my mother (which i'm used to hearing), and it was obvious that it bothered her. She even made a comment about my mom having plastic surgery, which of course she hasn't, but it was clearly meant to hurt my mom. On another occasion she asked me about my mom' visiting us, and i told her that she was working and that she liked her job so she didn't want to leave it, and she automatically placed herself in competition with her by saying that she loved her job too, when it had nothing to do with the conversation. Now i might be biased, so i want an unbiased opinions on what she's said, and know whether she's really jealous of my mom. Thank you.

Question: Is my staying out of this the right thing to do?

Posted: 26 Nov 2017 09:47 AM PST

I remained good friends with my ex wife's mom and dad after the divorce and she was OK with that. Her mom and dad called me to invite me over dinner. I gladly accepted as her mom is a great cook. After dinner they told me my ex wife was getting married again and told me who the guy was. They really disliked him and did not want her to marry him. I had to agree with them that in my opinion, the guy is a bum. He is 28 years old, lived with his parents and has never had a job in his life. He is a high school drop out. They told me their daughter would not listen to them but she greatly respected my opinion and asked me to talk to her out of marrying this guy. What is so unexplainable is that she likes expensive jewelry, luxury cars, and the latest in fashion clothes. All of these things are expensive. I am conflicted about this. Even though I would like to help my ex wife as a friend in this situation, I don't think I should be telling her who she should marry. Please let me have your thoughts on what I should do. Ladies, I would really like you input. I don't plan to talk to her unless she ask for my advice. Even then I am not sure what I should say. Is my staying out of this the right thing to do?

Question: How should I feel about what my dad did to my daughter?

Posted: 26 Nov 2017 09:42 AM PST

My daughter is going to start college soon. The college is 100 miles away. She will be sharing an apartment with 3 other girls. She ask me how I thought she should get around and go the grocery store and other places as there is no public transportation where she is staying. I ask her if any of the other girls at the apartment had a car and she checked and none did. They told her they will use a bike to get around. She wanted me to buy her a bike. I told her with the high cost of tuition, books, and her apartment, it might be a used bike. She visited my dad and mom last weekend and she talked to them about the problem she would have getting around at college and that I planned to buy her a bike. My dad told her that he used to be an ambulance driver and he had picked up MANY people that had be hit on their bike by a car. He said the bike driver was usually DEAD or severely injured in a car bike accident. He was going to get her something safer than a bike to use at college. He then took her to a car dealer and bought her a new Kia Soul so she would be safe. She thinks she has the greatest grandpa in the world now. I am not sure how I feel about this. Dad did not buy me a new car when I went to college. Is dad trying to make me look bad to my daughter because I could not afford to buy her any car let alone a new one or his he concerned about her safety on a bike. How should I feel about what my dad did?

Question: My cousin is ignoring me, how do I get my items back?

Posted: 26 Nov 2017 09:28 AM PST

I let her borrow some clothing & other items, while I was out of town, a month ago. She went to my house to get the items and we agreed, verbally, that she would bring my stuff back when i came home. I got back to town last week. She's aware I'm back & texted me, asking me for $400, I didn't respond. I texted her yesterday, "Let me know when you will be bring over my stuff". I know she seen it because she left me on "read" & she made a Facebook status stating "I love to ignore people that text me, but didn't reply to my text". The items that I have proof of owning value $550. I don't want to pop up at her house because it won't be a pretty sight. I didn't want to go to Small Claims Court, if I can avoid it, because I would have to pay the fees. What are my options? Could I go to the police station & ask them what to do, or accompany me getting my stuff?

Question: Is my mother abusive?

Posted: 26 Nov 2017 09:03 AM PST

I am 15 and live in New York I live alone with my mother and suffer from extreme anxiety (For example I was never hit as a little kid but even then I flinch when someone moves towards me) as you can imagine this leads to bullying in school and because if that I don t like going, and about a week ago I didn t go and even then got over it and asked my mom to drive me, at that point she told me to get out, and when I cried saying please don t make me go, at that point she got a bat and smashed my things including things I bought with my own money such as a small flat screen tv. At that point I was scared out of my mind so I tried to get the bat away from her and she said she would kill me and then proceeded to bite me. I have been with my grand parents ever since. And I would like to know is that abuse? And if so what should I do?

Question: My dad wants to use my sex swing. what do i do?

Posted: 26 Nov 2017 09:02 AM PST

i bought a new sex swing because my old one broke when my little sister tried to use it. my dad found it and wants to use it i don't wanna say no because he also found my sex whip and i don't want him to whip me. sometimes he makes me moan daddy. help?

Question: My parents are very controlling how do I get out from their control and live my own life?

Posted: 26 Nov 2017 08:44 AM PST

I m 20 years old I d like to get married one day and have a family and be financially stable and raise them right. I ve been through emotional abuse and being controlled and manipulated by my father as well as witnessed violent destructive behavior and gone through much strife as well as punishment and withholding of affection, beliitlement, judgement, being criticized, what can I do to save myself from this situation? I m tired of dealing with it I have to walk on eggshells with everything that I do, he basically will make my life hell and treat me bad if he loses his trust for you. He s taught us that if we want something we have to go get it on our own, I am going to have to work for everything that I want because he will not help us but barely. So right now I don t have hardly any of anything. I m 20 female and I m having a hard time because I m a female, I don t have a car or a license due to him being so controlling and making it hard for me to get one. I need to be financially stable to help support my future family one day please help advise on what I should do?

Question: So I just found out my mom is on drugs. what do I do?

Posted: 26 Nov 2017 08:39 AM PST

Question: Feeling suffocated by elderly parents?

Posted: 26 Nov 2017 08:28 AM PST

I am in my thirties and take care of my parents and all my brothers and 2 sister's kids. I would like to have my own place so I could have a little freedom.They constantly fight and scream at other and try to fight with me too. I have to lie about going out with my friends, or dating because they get angry . My dad had a fit I lost weight and I got a fur coat at an estate sale with my own money because his old ugly one should be good enough. He gets annoyed When I bathe more than twice a week or when I have a little bit of wine and Netflix after work.They took my car that I bought from them and won't give it back because I want to move out. I hate driving with my dad because he screams the whole way to work about what a failure I am and drives like a maniac.If I leave ,I am afraid, they will turn the whole family against me, and I will not be allowed to see my nieces or nephews because they will be mad. I ignore their calls when I do go out because they bug me to come home to look for their money and keys .They act like they are dying and their stuff is always where I said but they are too panicked to look.

Question: Am i related to this person?

Posted: 26 Nov 2017 08:28 AM PST

okay so my moms sister married a man whos brother has a son am i related?

Question: Just moved out, but I am so so homesick. Help!?

Posted: 26 Nov 2017 08:26 AM PST

Hi everyone! So, I literally just moved out of my parents house for the first time ever and I am living several states away from anyone that I know (I moved for a job). I was fine during the packing and the moving, but now that my parents aren't here and it's just me and my dog, I am so extremely homesick and kinda afraid. I'm extremely close with my parents and I always spent a lot of time with them. I know that the homesickness and everything will pass given time, but how do I feel better now when I don't feel good at all? I've literally been sitting on my couch crying. Thanks!

Question: I lied to my mom about where I was. And she lost my trust. I feel guilty. What should I do?

Posted: 26 Nov 2017 08:19 AM PST

Well. It was Saturday night and I told my mom I was going to sleep at my friends house. But first we were going to watch a movie. She gave me money for the movie and dropped me off. We ended up not going and just going straight to my friends house to get blankets because. We take them down to the park and just chill and eat chips and listen to music at night. But I thought my mom would get mad at me because I was at a school with my friends after dark. And that I spent the money for the movie on food. So while I was at the park. She texted me and asked. Hey how was the movie. Me thinking that she thought I went I said good. She was like. Cool where r u guys now ? I told her "at mels" (my friend ). She said well. I talked to her mom and she said you guys didn't end up going to the movie and that you guys were hanging out at flowery (the park). She said she wouldn't be mad if I told her the truth. And she said she lost my trust. ): I feel guilty. What do I do??

Question: Mi ex me hablo y dice que quiere regresar conmigo y mi hijo?

Posted: 26 Nov 2017 08:09 AM PST

Les contare, tengo un hijo de 5 años que adopte siendo soltera, entonces como de costumbre le preste mi celular a mi hijo y elimino los nombres de contactos y mande mensaje a todos ellos para que me pusieran sus nombres y yo guardarlos, solo que sin querer se lo mande a mi ex y el me dijo de que queria regresar conmigo y ser el padre que tanto quiere mi hijo, en total no se que hacer

Question: DID MY EX CHOOSE HIS FAMILY OVER ME ? WHY DID HE LEAVE ME BEFORE THE HOLIDAYS HELP?

Posted: 26 Nov 2017 05:37 AM PST

a few months ago me & my bf im 23 and my 32 year old of 1 year dumped me while we were out "celebrating" at a bar and as soon as we got there he started talking sh*t he started saying my lips where chapped so i grabbed my lip gloss and i re glossed my lips and he said it wasnt good enough then he saw i was pissed and started talking about how he's glad i finally got a nice weave and why didnt i get an expensive nice weave before now and my hair lately was looking dry & old then i said "if you loved me at all you wouldnt be say this" and he said thats the problem i cant fall in love with you you think time equals love you and your parents both thing i need to be proposing and fallin in love because were at the one year mark and im not even close to that and started saying i let myself go i wasnt on his education level anyways after that a weeks later he hits me up apolozing like crazy saying he was only drunk that night and didnt mean those things and needed me back we get back together and he realized that i made videos about our breakup on my youtube then some how his family finds it too and he starts judging me saying i could never be around his family anymore " i embarrased him" and i was really close to his family anyways then he starts pressuring me for unprotected sex and since i never let him hit raw he started saying our sex life was "boring" then i tell him "if you dont bring me around your family no more no raw sex" then one day after hanging out with his cousins WITHOUT INVITING ME TO Hang out with them as well & ignoring me the whole night he texts me the next morning saying "our relationship ran its course im not compiatble with a relationship right now and im gonna spend my time to recharge and find myself with my family its better for me to be single and it'll be better for you too i'll drop your sh*t off in your mailbox" and this was 2 weeks before thanksgiving WAS IT IS FAMILY OR LACK OF RAW SEX?

Question: I want him back and my family back. How do I fix this?

Posted: 26 Nov 2017 05:35 AM PST

I had a mental breakdown. I went through severe trauma years ago and it's broken me down and caused me to do some bad things to people I care about. I finally was willing to go get help and now everybody has walked out on me. I'm 8 months pregnant and the dad said he's done and won't come back. He will send money for the baby but because he wants to never be near me again he won't co parent. My family won't talk to me. How do I fix this? How do I make sure my son has his dad?

Question: Does my mom have a right to me mad at me for telling others things she does that I don't like?

Posted: 26 Nov 2017 04:21 AM PST

For example if something happens and she doesn't like it she will stay quiet and act like everything is ok until she's alone with me and then kinda explodes on me like it's all my fault that it happened. Or if I want to do something but she doesn't like it she will pull me to the side and tell me why she doesn't like that idea and sometimes will try to get me to tell her why I even started thinking like that because it makes me sound crazy. But if I tell anyone about it and she finds out then she gets mad at me because apparently anything she tells me that i dont like is for my ears only. And usually adding in if I tell everyone every time I take a poop too. It's like if I have anything negative to say about her in the slightest then I'm supposed to ignore it and bottle it up so that I don't make her look bad. Oh but if she has anything bad to say about me shell tell them even if I'm standing right next to her. And when she does ( she says more good things than bad but still) I always stay quiet and just let her. So does she have the right to basically keep my mouth zipped up if It makes her look bad in any way?

Question: I have an aunt who was not a narcissist when I was a kid but became one after marrying her 2nd husband. How does a person change like this?

Posted: 26 Nov 2017 03:30 AM PST

She had one son with her first husband and then adopted two kids with her 2nd husband. She is a narcissist post adopting and post 2nd marriage. Her one adopted child is perfect, infallible and the other adopted daughter is a witch she says. Not literally a witch but meaning mother thinks she is bad. She praises adopted daughter two and condemns adopted daughter one to the point they are estranged. The adopted daughter condemned I feel sorry for as she was already abandoned by bio-mother who was into drugs. As for the son who was her own biological child he is closer to his Dad and she just ignores him. Nothing bad or good said about him. They see each other once or twice a year. So why would someone become narcissistic like this in their 40's or is this common with a life change like marriage? Her husband is an enabler but not a narcissist at all.

Question: My uncle was drunk all through Thanksgiving and his kids asked their Mom to take them home and she did. Why do they care if he's drunk?

Posted: 26 Nov 2017 03:22 AM PST

Why do the children of an alcoholic care so much more when the parent is drunk then a nephew would. I found it amusing. Not ideal but not any need to leave early. My brother and I laughed and said "someone is drinking" when the uncle started his rant about his older daughter (not there) and her mother (his ex-wife). My mother cared deeply when her father was an alcoholic. Yet, she doesn't care about the brother drinking much and really didn't care when her uncle was an alcoholic and would be drunk. So why is this?

Question: How do I convince my mother I am old enough to see her family even though my grandfather was once an alcoholic (he died)?

Posted: 26 Nov 2017 03:20 AM PST

I am 16 and she will not let me see them cause she says they don't like her. That doesn't mean I should be punished. No abuse, just mood swings by her father but he died in March. She still says my grandmother is the only person we can know. I looked at my cousin's facebook page. All the family gathered for the holidays posing in pictures but us. We are the only ones rejected. It hurts. I have no Dad cause he didn't want me. So my only family is my Mom and brother and we see my grandmother each summer. How do I convince my Mom I am old enough to have family? I feel like she is punishing me cause she doesn't like her family. I did nothing wrong

Question: How do you live with an jealous sibling?

Posted: 26 Nov 2017 03:20 AM PST

My english is not very good. She s 4 years and 10 months older than me. At almost 27, she got no degree, no job, no boyfriend, no friends and she s a liar. How ? Well i come from an middle class african family. My parents invest in our education and give us everything we need to succeed. My mother invested four years in my sister s education ( rent, food, allowance, everything ) but she kept lying about her grades. She when back to our country and has no job because she has no diploma. At 27 she lives with my mother and helps her no way financially. She has no boyfriend because she doesn t ask for respect and lies about her life. No friends because she owes everyone money. She doesn t face her problems but she hides them with lies. She s happy when something bad happens to me. For example when I broke up with my first and only boyfriend of five years, within an hour people were calling me asking about him because she was so excited and happy that she told everyone. It s only now that i realize that she consciously pushes me in bad directions so i can make mistakes and so she can have something bad to say about me. She hooked me up with a guy but didn t tell me he has a girlfriend, and when i asked why she said she forgot to tell me. She calls her friends or family member asking for money and telling them that i m the one who needs the money. She s my sister, my only sister and I can t just cut her off my life. It will destroy my mother. Idk what to do.

Question: Would you help and support your sister if she demands it and blackmails you if you refuse to do so?

Posted: 26 Nov 2017 02:40 AM PST

Question: Black girl curse?

Posted: 26 Nov 2017 01:53 AM PST

I am 25 and single. I look back at pics of myself in college and wonder how the guys there didn't want a serious relationship with me bc of how gorgeous I was. I get praided constantly on my looks! I am an accountant with a graduate degree. How am I without an educated Nigerian guy (I'm Nigerian) that wants to marry me. I'm so funny too. I have Naomi Campbell complexion

Question: Boyfriend watching incest porn and think he is in love with his sister?!?

Posted: 26 Nov 2017 01:45 AM PST

I'm really creeped out because i came home and my bf was in the bathroom and i see his phone laying between the crack of the wall and the bed, like he threw it there or something. I unlock his phone to find a sh*t ton of incest porn, like "brother sister *******" "brother giving sister dick" "brother suprising sister with big cock" "luv my sis"- mind you he's 17 and his sister is 14. Now I'm thinking back to the time i had to delete photos of his sister off his phone, he had more photos of her than me, specifically showing her butt and her wearing shorts. Ig you can say i felt a little attacked. Then our shower curtain is clear and when his sis is in the shower he always goes in the bathroom to brush his teeth or some excuse. I confronted him about the porn and asked if he is in love with his sister or something and he got mad and said no stop talking about it. Completely shut me down. I told his sister about everything and all she has to say is "maybe he doesn't like watching the same things all the time."and just brushes it off. AND STILL WHERES ONLY PANTIES AROUND HIM. WTF. Now I'm thinking she must already know about how he feels about her and she must be okay with it. I'm pregnant but should i leave?!

Question: Crappy baby's father ugh?

Posted: 26 Nov 2017 01:05 AM PST

What do I do! I'm a total wreck right now my son just turned 1 in October and his father is a complete nightmare, no matter what he does I remain civil with him but it's no use, he hasn't seen our son since March of this year because of these little jealous girlfriends he gets he completely blocks our son out for them, my bad I take that back his most recent I actually liked she always called me to check on the baby, HER never ever him, she was a good one but he let her go, if hes bored he will ask to see our son, ill agree be on my way to meet him and he will just bail for our son's birthday I asked him if he could help out a little he said no, I FaceTimed him on thanksgiving so he could see our son which only lasted about 2 minutes, then I started getting texts about how he wished he would have been there for him and on holidays etc I told him we will come to an agreement for Christmas, he seemed excited about it, but when I asked him if he could loan me $20 for diapers and wipes I got a call from him yelling about "I'm always wanting" but mind you he has never bought anything for our son nothing at all, I've threatened child support but he will just start bouncing place to place to avoid it, I don't know what to do I just want him active in the baby's life and helping provide for him.

Question: How to tell your parents you’re a whore?

Posted: 26 Nov 2017 12:30 AM PST

i'm 16. i'm pregnant. i don't know who the dad is because i've been with 6/7 guys in the past month. i live with my dad and his wife and he is super weird about saving yourself until marriage and i know he'll ask who the dad is but i don't hav an answer. any advice? please no 30 year old moms with some bs answer this i don't give a **** what u hav to say i want some real advice from someone who understands or related please :)

Question: Should I end my life?

Posted: 25 Nov 2017 11:36 PM PST

Before I explain anything I want to say this is not a plead for help I genuinely feel trapped and Im looking for guidance because I dont know what to do anymore. I am fifteen years old and since I can remember all ive ever grown up in is dysfunction. All of my brothers have been in jail throughout my life, and my sister was 15 sleeping with a 24 year old man. Thats all ive ever seen. My dad moved me and my little sister out to Arizona because my mom was having an affair and he thought moving us would change that. Now here, my mom has been having an affair with her supervisor and just recently left that job but still keeps in contact with him. Sure thats hard but im used to seeing that. One of my main issues is i dont have a life. Im a sophomore in high school and im not allowed to go out with friends, sleep over, or anything I come home from school pick up my little sister and sit in the house. Im not even allowed to have a phone and when I do have a phone its my SEVEN year old sisters. I dont know what I ever did to get treated the way I get treated. I am a good kid ive never had a boyfriend, ive never done anything illegal or any kinds of drugs despite my brothers and sisters past. Although my life is hell. My dad is so mean to me. Today I started my period and my dad would refuse to even give me pads he literally gave me one and then said "I have to work for things" They drink all day. I really have nothing to live for i dont know what to do anymore.

Question: What do I do?

Posted: 25 Nov 2017 10:23 PM PST

I am a in need of some advice. I have to go to my dad's house every weekend and I hate it. He is nothing but a bully. No matter what I do he gets mad, and he's just a drunk alcoholic. He's even tried to pull my phone out of my hands. I started having to come here when I was little becuase my parents split up. My mom recognized after I was born that he is two faced and abusive. Though she did what she could, I am court ordered to come here. When I was little he would make me huge plates of food and make me eat all of it, even though I would sometimes throw it up. I started getting fat when I was little, and now I'm just a 182 pound sack of fat and depression. He does this to my little sister too and she is getting that signature round belly. I just don't know what to do becuase I don't want to come over here any more. The only reason I do is for my sister. I could keep going but I'm tierd and there is and character limit.

Question: Why doesn't family share a toothbrush?

Posted: 25 Nov 2017 10:20 PM PST

It doesn't make sense that family shares a toilet but not a toothbrush

Question: I'm a burden on my parents, what do I do?

Posted: 25 Nov 2017 08:41 PM PST

I'm 19, I live at home still and I don't yet have my license but I'm learning to drive. I have a job and a study, but my parents still have to drive me places when I can't find my own way there. There are other things. I can hear them complaining about me quite often and I'm always to scared to engage in the conversation cause I know what they are saying is true. I'm an adult and they shouldn't have to do stuff for me anymore so I agree, I am a burden. I just annoy them and frustrate them. It makes me quite upset and sometimes I sorta feel like it'd be better if they didn't have to deal with me. I am studying at college. I'm studying a medical degree.

Question: How to convince my parents into letting me smoke weed?

Posted: 25 Nov 2017 08:23 PM PST

I'm in some serious trouble with my AFRICAN parents about smoking long story short I'm in trouble for smoking weed how do I explain weed so she can be more cool about it ?

Question: How's to stay angry for a month straight?

Posted: 25 Nov 2017 08:15 PM PST

My sister screwed me over big time st thanksgiving and I just figured it out. Thing is, I won't see her till Christmas to tell her off. I am having trouble staying pissed the hell off for that long. How can I keep myself in a state of full on fury and rage until then? I try but feel the anger beginning to subside over time. I've tried straining every muscle in my body and listening to evil music which has been somewhat helpful. Thanks!

Question: My probation officer doesnt wanna let me stay in an alternative learning center help?

Posted: 25 Nov 2017 08:03 PM PST

I wanna convince her soo badly to let me stay i dont think i can do a main campus to be honest ive had soo mucch inner issues and shes told me that they dont let juveniles do ALC but she gave me permission to do the rest of this semester im in my senior year and theres one semester left after this one but honestly im not ready yet but im afraid to convince her because i dont want her getting me in trouble i just wanna do good but right now i feel like im under alot of pressure and im just not in the right place emotionally right now.

Question: Why does my mom want me to come with her to the family reunion?

Posted: 25 Nov 2017 07:53 PM PST

She isn't at all interested in hanging out with me outside this one annual event and once we get there she always ditches me. I never hung out with her side of the family as a kid and as an adult I find them all incredibly boring and pretentious.

Question: Why are my kinks the things I hate?

Posted: 25 Nov 2017 07:27 PM PST

The kinks I have are the same things I used to fear when I was a child. I have really bad issuses with my dad and I've been hit and called awful names. I hate when it happens with my actual dad, but I love getting off to it when it happens with a sexual partner of mine. Why does this happen?

Question: I dont love my half sibling is it wrong?

Posted: 25 Nov 2017 07:26 PM PST

i have a younger half sibling, we have the same mom who wants us to have a relationship, but my mom gave her to my grandma and kept me. i don't care for her at all. She has always taken my things, she instigates problems within the family, and has done things to sabotage me. She stalks all my friends on the web and talks with them. she is nosy and a whole bunch of other things. My thought is if my mom gave her to my grandma then obviously there wasn't meant to be a relationship there. I'm tired of her being around me and i wish she wasn't my half sister. thats all she is to me HALF. it means nothing. my mom says its bad to feel that way, but i think its natural. she isn't truly my sister so i shouldn't have to deal with her, right?

Question: I want to talk about my uncle but everyone seems to keep quiet about him? Is it wrong I want to?

Posted: 25 Nov 2017 07:01 PM PST

My uncle passed away in July and he was like dad even if I only ever saw him over facetime most of the time cause he lived in another country. I miss him and always have dreams of him and I really miss him still but when i want to talk to my mom or gma, they seem to become quiet and i understand they're greving but i just wish they were more open.. i wouldnt force them to though.. is it wrong I want to talk about him still?

Question: How will I make it ?

Posted: 25 Nov 2017 06:53 PM PST

Tomorrow (Nov 26) marks 1 year since my grandpa passed away. We were extremely close and I don't if I'll make it through tomorrow. What can I do?

Question: How do I cope?

Posted: 25 Nov 2017 06:36 PM PST

Ever since I've remembered I've had a bad relationship with my mom. She's a single parent and while her peers might praise her for being able to provide for her kids and give them education, nobody knows that shes the constant problem in my life. I'm 16 and I don't ask for much, I like to earn my ****. I try not to feel entitled although she complains I do for small things (my phone, laptop, etc.) I just don't have a great relationship with her. I find her method of conversation and humor to be very annoying and because of her many previous divorces I feel shes very needy, dependent, and attention seeking. We have arguments on things that are very small (using the phone in presence of family even for 2 seconds) and turn into big things (not taking me to drive ever). I hate her method of parenting. Honestly when we don't talk is when we get peace and quiet in this house. Every holiday, every weekend something bad happens. On the other hand my stepdad who splits his time with us and his own children in a different state, has a very different style of parenting, one that I like. He's so lenient with his children and gives them independence, spoils them, encourages them, and most importantly isn't petty. I don't spend too much time with m stepsister, but when we're all together I can't help but notice that she has such a great relationship with her dad, and yet she says its her mom she gets along with best.

Question: Do you think it's ok for my grandad to walk around my little cousin in his underwear?

Posted: 25 Nov 2017 06:29 PM PST

Question: Would you pay less attention to a middle child compared to their siblings?

Posted: 25 Nov 2017 06:11 PM PST

There's been theories that middle children don't get as much attention from their parents. As a result, they're stereotyped as rebellious and attention seeking. Smaller children usually need more protection, and the oldest might be at the point where they're reaching a new phase. The middle ones might be too old for one thing but not at a certain stage of life yet.

Question: My aunt refuses to come to any family events due to a family dispute. Is she wrong to ban her two children from ever coming either?

Posted: 25 Nov 2017 05:58 PM PST

My two cousins are not really in the family anymore. We haven't seen them in 4 years except at our grandfather funeral last year. My aunt had a fight with the family over my grandmother's estate and some criticism of her parenting. I think she does have some legit hurt, but to ban her kids from seeing aunts, uncles, and cousins. Am I wrong to think this is unfair to do to the kids who are 11 and 8?

Question: How do I get my extended family on my Mom's side to want to see me for Christmas?

Posted: 25 Nov 2017 05:39 PM PST

Because my Mom committed suicide several years ago they have wanted nothing to do with me. It hurts and especially at this time of the year. Dad and I spent Thanksgiving alone. I want extended family, real blood family, for Christmas. How do I get them to want to see me? Steve: My Dad is blamed but I feel blamed cause they don't want to see me either. They blame my Dad cause he was ignorant to her problems. Plus he had just lied to her about taxes

Question: What is a good flower to give a family member?

Posted: 25 Nov 2017 05:31 PM PST

When you give a red rose to someone, it says Iove you, but that's mainly for a partner or spouse. What kind of flower would be great to give to a sister / brother / mother / father as a congratulations, for a birthday, mother's / father's day, ext?

Question: How do I get my Mom to let me see my Dad on Christmas?

Posted: 25 Nov 2017 05:08 PM PST

She says he doesn't deserve to see me when he doesn't make an effort the rest of the year. I really want to see him. She always tries to keep me from him ever since he divorced her 6 years ago. And don't say "take her to court" as I am 14 and can't do that and my Dad wont. He says he is done arguing with her. Christmas is never the same anymore.

Question: How would you let your kids know they are unimportant?

Posted: 25 Nov 2017 05:07 PM PST

I already stopped celebrating/ getting gifts for my kids birthday's at 5 and 6 stopped spending time with them 9 years ago, refused to teach them to drive at 15/16, never taught them(18,19) how to finance a place to live, never got them phones/ electronics and plan to kick them out with nothing/ no where to go. What would you do?

Question: How can I get my almost 30-year-old brother and his family to stop freeloading in my parents house and move out?

Posted: 25 Nov 2017 04:30 PM PST

Question: Why Grandparents lecture and get easily argument mode over the smallest things?

Posted: 25 Nov 2017 04:04 PM PST

Is it because of being old?

Question: Was this mean of me to do?

Posted: 25 Nov 2017 03:53 PM PST

So my sister is a vegan and over Thanksgiving I made a green bean casserole, usually it's not made with milk but I make mine with milk. My sister loves green bean casserole, but i didn't tell her until after she was done with it that it was made with milk. She started flipping out since she hasn't had any animal or dairy product in years. I started laughing at her and posted a status on FB about how my sister is a hypocrite. Tbh my sister and i haven't gotten along in quite some time and i thought it would be funny to do this. But now my whole family is pissed off at me, but it was just a joke. Do you think I was out of line?