We keep our deadbolt locked and our handles unlocked always. Strangers would walk up to the door frequently and I would see the handle twist and the door push but the deadbolt would keep it from opening. after a while they would leave. Why do they do this?

My boyfriend is coming home from Afghanistan in two months. He has been gone for over a year and while this whole experience has been tough, is also extremely rewarding. We have never been closer to each other and it means a lot to both of us that our relationship has grown and strengthened during this time. He has been the sweetest, doting man and I really want to show him my appreciation. I cannot say how many times I was in (happy!) tears because of all the flowers he sent while I was at work. For Valentine's Day, I received the most beautiful ring from him and he is always sending me little nick-knacks to brighten my day! I try to send him what I can, I feel like his gifts are so much more extravagant than mine. He is coming home in less than two months and I really want to get him something nice. Problem is, he has everything! Mac computer, iPod, iPhone, iPad, all these gadgets and gizmos! He is a simple guy and said repeatedly that he doesn't need anything, but I just want to surprise him. He is really tech-savvy (hence all the Apple products lol) and he LOVES eBay (so he has ordered through them everything he wants). He is basically one of those people that whatever you get them, they already have! If you have any suggestions, I would greatly appreciate it :) I have sent him items while he has been there. Mostly homemade items, like a tie-blanket for the cold nights and hand written letters. I got him a small Swarovski crystal moon charm to put on his dog tags (we have this thing with the moon between us... if you have seen Dear John, you will understand!). But those kind of pale in comparison to the $2,500 ring he got me! I am not trying to compete price-wise, but I want to get him something really nice because he deserves to be spoiled a little bit :)

So, long story short I have a jealous, toxic roommate who does petty **** all the time and I gave him the benefit of the doubt initially. I tried to not start drama with this guy. Eventually, I got sick of his **** and talked **** to his face. He does not win any of the verbal arguments. Then, I just told him if he wants to pull more petty ****, he can just fight me. He got defensive and I asked him if he wanted to fight. He said, "no, I don t." Now instead of a fight clearing the air, he won t even look me in the eye and the house is awkward. The only time he ll say a word is when the third, cool roommate is around. He hasn t been doing any more petty **** since, but the house is awkward as **** now. My other roommate and I are staying at the place for the summer and will be starting a summer lease, while he is leaving for some camp job. However, he thinks he is going to stay an extra 2 weeks on the lease before his new job starts. How should I handle this situation to minimize the awkwardness and get this guy the **** out of here before I explode?

So this girl came up to me mother today and said quote "Tell your daughter to leave my boyfriend alone, he's infatuated with her and she's flirting." Now let it be known i'm somewhat of a recluse who dosen't date So no i wasn't flirting with this guy, I don't even remember who he is. And how is it my fault this guy likes me I don't want him and I sure as hell not gonna fight this girl over some guy i'm 22 she's late to mid 20's were adults and she's acting like a teen. So now she glares at me and my family when we do go out she stands at the end of our stairs all day. So should I ignore her that's what i've been doing so far but what should I do if she tries to progress with this behavior?

So I will put it all on the table here. I left my job after he begged me to leave it because of sexual harassment issues. I left and am searching for a better paying one so that we can go on trips and save up for a home loan. Speed up time and here I am a month later and jobless cleaning up his clothes off of the bathroom floor and livingroom furniture everyday. Washing his dishes that he left dirty on surfaces. organizing the mail, scrubbing the floors and bathroom while balancing bills, making repairs, throwing out the garbage, and looking for a new apartment. It takes all day; the moment he comes home to relax from work, mine doesnt end. He asks me to cook, if he does then I must clean his dishes afterwards because he has a job and I do not. I understand that I have no job and no contributions at this moment but I must admit that I feel like a slave. I told him how his job ends but mine doesnt and I told him that only children need others to clean up their dishes and clothes from the ground. I saved money before I left my job and it has just dwindled away from bills. Although I love to see him happy with his new car, I am not. And he asks me how in the world I could be stressed when my life is so chill. I am going to ebay to sell my old computers that I had built when I was 12 And the first pieces of furniture we had bought and built together. This is the lowest point that I have reached in my life and I dont know how to get him to help around the house.

Would I be born to a different mother or father?

For a while, I was nice to this guy, because he was always nice to me. I'm nice and pleasant to everyone I work with. Well, he began coming up to my desk multiple times a day,and talking...forever. Again, I stayed cool and nice about it. Soon he asked me to go to lunch with him. I declined. I am happily married and don't want to give off any wrong impressions. Though he claims to be married too, I don't see a ring on his finger. I also bring up my husband in nearly every conversation we have. Sort of like, hey, get the hint. Because I'm just not sure of his intentions. One day he asked me why I don't go out to lunch. I told him that I like to save money by bringing my lunch and out of respect for my marriage, it wouldn't be appropriate to go out to lunch with him. But now, anytime I do have to go out and get my lunch, he'll walk by my desk and say, "Oh, I see you went out to lunch today.." or "Well, I know you had to leave the office to go get that." I've started putting in my ear bud's to make myself unapproachable (even if I'm not listening to anything), but he still stands there and waits for acknowledgement. He also smacks my desk every time he walks by, as if it's funny for the 10th time that day. I've tried to be short with him, and I avoid making eye contact if I can when he walks by. Yet he still makes an extreme effort to come and try to bother me. I don't want to be flat out mean. I really don't. But, even if he means well, it's weighing on my patience. Suggestions?

I've been having kinda sex buddy relationship with this woman. We have mutual friends. She accidentally sent me a voice message through FB messenger. I heard her having a conversation with a guy but I know she has male friends so I wasn't sweating it. I asked her if I was going to see her this weekend. She responded through messenger by saying yes, let me know when where what time. Then she sent 2 more messenger explaining that her messenger app was acting crazy and she was going to delete it. Later that night she called and I sent the call to voicemail. Then she started texting asking to see me. I didn't respond because I was doing something else and she texted 5 more times that night saying she couldn't understand why I'd ask to see her and not respond to her. Again the next day she sent 5 more really angry text demanding that i respond to her and if I see her in person again that she was going to curse me out. I didn't feel like responding so I didn't. The day after that she sent me a light and more reasonable text saying, "really, your not going to say anything...u r funny." I responded 5 hours later. Then she chose not to respond and later that night I heard she hung out with my best male friend. Now 2 days later she text me a frown face. What is going on here and what am I doing wrong? How should I respond to the frown face?

Within the last 3 months my mom has stopped cooking any meals, doesn't clean the house or anything, doesn't take the dog out, won't feed the cat or the dog, leaves stuff laying around everywhere. If I want the house to be clean I have to clean it myself meaning wash and dry clothes, dishes, take out trash, clean the bathroom, sweep, mop, vacuum, dust, and I always have to make sure I feed the cat outside and their dog because I hate seeing animals go hungry. Plus she will leave toilet paper, socks, trash bags, anything just laying around in the floor and I have to clean up. She has never been like this before, but lately she has changed so much. And she is steadily on her phone playing games, never wants to work, and for some reason she has been on a "diet" where she goes to the gym sometimes she will be gone 30 minutes sometimes she will be gone 3 hours, then she never eats anything anymore except lettuce and tomatoes which is also weird. Also lately she doesn't want my brother to be at the house she wants him and his friends to stay at the gym all weekend, and all day after school until 9 or 10 at night, yet she got him a membership at a different gym than the one she goes to. Should I start watching her closer?? Idk what to do. What do you think is up with her???

I left my bf of 1 year because he emotoonally abused me over nd over. The thing is he voice msgs me and when i hear him somewhere in background i ask him where r u? And im always in fear he will have somebody else. I guess i cant let go and he is taking advantage of this. Everytime i try to let go i have extreme anxiety. Pls help

My mum did not approve of my same-sex relationship and for eight months before she died we didn't speak to one another. Now my partner has started seeing a colleague at work and I feel overwhelmed with grief... Was I stupid to think some guy could would be there for me at the hardest of times? Three months ago, my mum passed away out of the blue (a brain haemorrhage). We hadn't spoken for the previous eight months because I was in a same-sex relationship, of which she did not approve. A week after the funeral, I discovered that my partner, who I lived with and had recently got engaged to, was having an affair with a work colleague (we all work in the same place). My partner and I have now split up and I find myself alone, living in my dead mother's house. I am racked with guilt over the loss of contact with her and overwhelmed with grief at these two huge losses in my life. Worst of all I now have to face my ex and her new relationship at work daily. How can I move forward?

I'm seeing a married man and if I recorded him and I having sex and threatened to show his wife and spill the beans about his affair what do you think the married man would give me more money. Could I face charges by doing it. What would you do.

Like when you pass away your going to always be remembered because of the things that you could say at the end of each day that I did this today where others don't do or accomplish nothing in their time and wonder why or what happen and all it was,was saying I was going to get up and make this goal plan like this to fallow! What do you want to change? The past is the past. Find thing you love to do every day and see. Do things your going to fell proud of and others will be proud of you. Don't make bills you don't want to live with. Live with out any conflicts because others notice it and you live with it. always remember the difference between needs and wants and what is necessary. writing things down and keeping track will help get you to your future plan more successful.

we lived together for over 10 years. ( trying to understand law lingo for sick leave that allows use for this.

I am a guy. So i was feeling sick and when i was at my girlfriends house i fainted and i woke up to see my girlfriend kissing me and wiping me off with a clothe or something, and so she said i needed a bath to help me feel better, so we went up to my bathroom, she undressed me while i kept my eyes on hers. And then she put me in the bathtub, and she washed pretty much every inch of me. She started at my face, and then the chest , and stomach, and she washed my feet and legs and washed my genital area with a sponge to make me feel comfortable, and then brought me out of the bath and dressed me up in my pajamas and it was like midnight and she put me to bed, and she slept with me and kissed me like every 5 minutes :) she was very nice to me! But.....was she doing it because she knew I was sick or because she didn't want me dirtying up her place? How do I thank her?

Are there many kinds of bonding?

I recently got in a fight with my friend(a best friend) and I lost. I could/should beat his *** and he humiliated me and it was horrible for me and never should of happened but anyway. My sis, her bf, my girlfriend we re there. I feel like a beach for losing and not doing anything right away but now I m worried my gf will see me differently. She has been a little off lately it seems, so I did some research and I got a lot of bad news. Everything was about how the alpha would cause her to want to move on. Is this true? Like is it really a thing that she naturally is saying to get out? my sister said that it was f ed up on his part and that I did the better thing no matter what and she def said that he ran when I got up from being down and I was MAD I was on a warpath and I would of ran him one but I didn t. it drove me crazy cause that was my friend but also my gf was there. Def the worst part for me was my gf was there. We got in a fight over the dumbest stuff just messing and got to serious. me and my gf have been together 4 going on 5 years, me and him have been friends for 10+ years.But I m here seeking advise on my girlfriend thinking. She swears up and down that it legit means nothing but she also doesn t really want to talk about it. So to me that raises a red flag a bit and she did stick right by my side that night 100 and was supportive, just seems a little off. Happened about a week ago. Please just help me solve this with some guidance/knowledge.were all 23-2

My fiance &i were eachothers first so we never had any sex partners before eachother. We have been together for 7 years and have never done anyhonf else sexual with another person. Which is why i ask this question because we love to keep our relationship very open w/eachother &the other day he admitted to wanting to try a sexual act with someone else if i allow it. Its not because his friends are doing it more so because he is a bit curious. Ofcourse at first i flipped out but he told me if i ever felt that way and wanted to do the same then it will be ok for us but until then he wont do anything. Honestly when i thought more about it i wanted to experience other men to but im afraid i wont be comfortable because i am also inexperienced any thoughts plz? Try to keep an open mind.

I'm single and was very horny I made a Craigslist ad looking for a one time one night stand. A guy that I didn't know was married at the time hmu. He came over to my house he ate me out and we had sex protected. He told me he wanted to keep doing it so I said cool. I had him all weekend even up until Monday. Now he told me Mon that he wanted to have an affair and was adamant about it. He has 2 kids both 3 years old now this man has eaten me out and has to go back to his wife and kids and kiss them. He gave me money he told me he could take care of me. I'm not stupid I know he isn't leaving his wife I know that. But why why is he doing this.

In the dream we were in a dark place and she went outside to protect me (idk from what) even though I tried to stop her and there was a glass barrier I couldn't break between us and before she left we both haha our hands on the glass as a final goodbye

I have this one teacher who I really look up to and she really means the world to me. I want to email her telling her how much of an impact she's made in my life. I'm a really shy person, so I don't think I could do this in real life... so should I email her or should I just leave her alone? Or should I tell her sometime. I don't wanna sound like a suck up. If you couldn't already tell, this is not a former teacher. I currently attend her classes :)

Say the guy knows he s going back, he will call and message the mistress obsessively, like there s a deadline and when he gets back together with the wife everything good for maybe a little while. Does he need sex from the woman to be ok in his marriage?