They're still married and hold hands and all the married stuff people do but they sleep in separate rooms. Why might they do that? I'm not saying it's wrong or anything but I've just been curious for a while now

The mood at all. Yes I do as much housework and take care of the kids just as much as my wife. I never want to force her into anything but I really do not feel like romancing her anymore as she doesn't try with me. We have only been married 4 years and have 2 young kids, but I feel like she is my enemy. Hate to say it but I'm almost ready to call it quits. Is this normal?

i just want a quick divorce. i dont want spousal support, assets or child support, just to be gone from him. P.S my husband wont ever agree to a divorce.

Single parents with a Parenting plan in place, what is your experience with relocation? Like if the move was rejected after hiring a lawyer but you had gotten a new job elsewhere do you give up custody and get visitations?

I mean, men have porn. It bothers me immensely that my husband looks at porn but even if I tell him to stop I know he can't, he's a guy. That's what guys do. So how is me having an emotional relationship with a man I'm not pyhsical with any different or any worse? Men and women connect differently. He needs visual and I need emotional! I do not see the harm.

We've been married for five years and have two children. I've been generally dissatisfied with our marriage from the beginning. He started a relationship with another girl when I was in the Army. They never kissed or anything, but they were going on frequent dates when I got back and he continued going on them. That was pretty early on in our marriage. Since he hasn't had any girfriends, but he looks at porn often, and tells me how I'm not good enough. I'm 5' 4", weigh 123 lbs, exercise often, have an hourglass figure, and get asked out by random guys. I know I'm pretty, but my husband never says it or acknowledges it. I don't have long blonde hair and knockers the size of watermelons, and therefore to him that makes me unattractive. I'm so tired of feeling like nothing I do is ever good enough. I just want to be happy. Every time I think about divorce I get excited, like a sigh of relief. But I also don't think I can support our kids on my income alone. If we get a divorce I would have to work fulltime at a job I don't like, and I would have a lot less time with my kids. My kids are young, the youngest being 8 months, and I don't want to miss the precious time with my kids. What should I do?

I've been in a very happy, deeply committed, and loving relationship with my boyfriend for 19 years. We have 5 kids together as well. Not to long ago, he started pressuring me to get married, but I won't marry him. I was married before, and that marriage ruined me financially for many years after my divorce was final. I told him from the very beginning that I have no intentions of ever getting married again. My boyfriend says that after 19 years, he's done everything that prove that he's not like like my ex-husband. He's not like my ex-husband, but I'm not willing to to get married again. I love my boyfriend, and I love our life together as it is. To me it's NOT worth having a piece of paper to legally bind us together. My boyfriend has given me an ultimatum. If I don't married him by our 20th anniversary, than he's going to move out and move on with his life. I've already told him how I feel about marriage, and if he chooses to leave the relationship, than that is on him. It would hurt me deeply if he left, but I'm not willing to make that kind commitment to anyone ever again.

Am i crazy or asking for to much from my wife? So tonight i decided i will bath both children and vacuum and wash all the clothes. so i bath my son first , dry him off and put his pjs on no problem. then i bath my daughter, and forget her pjs while drying her off, so my wife says, "You should have all the stuff ready when ur bathing them and i should have been prepared. Strike 1. i let it roll off cause I'm not trying to argue. So now we are on the laundry, she says she rather she do the laundry cause the clothes are wrinkled, am i wrong to feel like all she does i criticize she claims all women or most do this. i call bs.

A woman came to me a year ago and said she was sleeping with my husband during separation. She was surprised we were back together. He told her he loved me and he was never leaving me and that he didn't care about her. Last year we moved out of town and we are back in the same town as she. Yesterday I get a message from the same woman claiming she slept with my husband in October and she stated he wanted to see her on Christmas. She described what he wore to a tee. She claims they have unprotected sex and he kisses her deeply and claims he said he loved her. Is this woman a threat to me and my marriage

A person only came her for advice (or support) on one problem, so why are you redirecting them to another source? The whole damn point of this section is to give people marriage advice, and it seems like the most of you have the same carbon copy response to anything asked, regardless of situation.

Should we even be seeking that? I know I want a lifelong love. But is it unrealistic being so young?. In the past, divorce was illegal. So if you we're trapped in a crappy marriage, you had no real way out. So perhaps. That kind of love is limiting.

I live in house which we bought when we ware married and on deed is his name and my. Several months a go he bought house for himself mortgage free, and moved in with some woman. But now he stop paying me alimony. Before he was working and money was take off from his pay check. And now he is retired and I don't get my monthly money! He is telling me this house where I live is his house, like what I am doing here. And he is still paying mortgage on this house where I live. What should I do? Everything is mess up since he brought this woman with him, which was speech less surprise for me and our adult son.??

Can anyone please help me find out if my husband is cheating on me? I suppose he's in contact with a girl through message s and whatsapp. Is there any way I can spy his messages n whatsapp without giving him a hint?

We will ask them a direct question on fb and they don't answer . They don't comment or like our stuff bc they say they are busy but they talk to each other (mother,brother and sister in law ) it is like we aren't a priority to them at all except when they have to see us face to face and then it's fake . What should i do and sometimes they leave me out of pictures but have my husband in them .

It seems like women often ignore their partners wants and desires. They want the man to be able to read their mind, do everything for her, pay for everything, take care of the kids at the same time with her. They let themselves go physically and claim that the man should love her regardless if they are fat. They never give their husband sex and claim he should be happy he even has her. They order their husband around and he has to obey or else she will take him to divorce court and take all his money. Why would any man be happy in that situation. All she sees him as is a caretaker and a billpayer and not even as a person.

my husband and I have been together for 5 years and married 3 years. I'm 23 and he's 25. I found he cheated 5 years ago at the beginning of the relationship. I found out by snooping through his messages. I found out 3 months into the relationship he had sex with another girl and 6 months into the relationship he had sex with another girl a few times and 2 years into the relationship he had sex with another girl twice. I knew he was cheating but I never confronted him because it turned me on from him to think he was getting away with it. he hasn't done it since we've been married. For some reason it turns me on to think he cheated and got away with it and I don't know why because I'm usually really jealous. should I ever ask him about itor let it go? I don't like girls so it's not that but something about him cheating and getting away with it turns me on

She doesn't want to feel like my mother she says. But how can I get her to being more open to being more dominant and taking on the leading role in our relationship?

I feel bad because my husband works three nights a week for 12 hours and then the days off he sleeps a lot but he still helps me around the house . Should I do it all or is it ok that he helps me ?

So today is superbowl 50 as you guys know..it me my husband and out 4 month old baby..my husband has decided to go to a friends house or whatever to watch the game with a couple of his friends,,i honestly dont know where he goin to watch it but now its just me an thr baby..am i wrong for not wanting him to go and to spend something he feels special with his family. I feel like he should be with his family. Am i over reacting. Should i just say ok you can go?

Can he absolve his responsibility in the marriage too If she controls him there too?

this is for his 65 th birthday

I met a married couple of 20 years last week at an airport. I thought they were lying until they showed me their wedding rings. They are only 35 lol which means they married at 15. They have twin boys who are turning 20 next month. I just thought it was so cool for them to start young so that way they could still have their youth. They are only 35. If you were 15 would you marry and have babies young?

I've lost my husband when our little girl was one. Ive known him since college, a very long time so it was very hard to process his death. After almost a year of mourning, counselling and getting better, I finally moved on. I then met a lovely guy who moved into our neighbourhood and we hit it off very well within a few months of our new friendship. He knows of my loss and respects it and he is open to listening to me when I at times speak of my late husband. My new man also grew close to my daughter prior to our marriage so she would be comfertable with him as her step-dad and he does very well with kids, as he had very younger siblings growing up. We got married a year age, he takes of me and loves me and my daughter. We plan on having kid(s), which would be biologically his and my girl can also become a big sister (though biologically she'd be hlaf-sister) I still have pictures of my late husband put up in the house. Even though I love my current husband very much, but my love for my first husband can't be replaced. Does this make me being unfair with my current husband, like as if he is my 'love number 2' because it isn't that way. And should I still have my late husbands photos put up in the house ? :x my current husband seems okay with it.

Think they enjoyed the experience

I have bled the lines but the problem persists. I need to get this fixed but I don't want to fix things that are not the problem. Please help

Ho eliminato un video, come faccio a rimetterlo con gli stessi like e visual? Non ho manco piu quel video

So I know this is way tmi but I've been constipated about a week and I just had diarrhea. Last night my stomach was cramping super bad. I still feel like I didn't completely pass everything but I had diarrhea so doesn't that mean I'm not constipated??

We live together but sleep separate. Initially when we got married she said she needs time to understand me better before getting intimate. I too thought the same and was hoping that we find comfort in each other but it just doesn t seem to work. We fight often and have loads of difference of opinion. I really want this this relationship to work cos ours is an arranged marriage and don t want to disappoint our parents. She seems to think that I m not a match for her and always finds reason to stay back late at work or hang out with friends. I really dunno how to make this work. Please could someone explain what should I do to make this work?

My wife sometime don't want to have sex when I want too. So she will let me "have some!" She will say "ok, you have 5 min" I sometime go over my allowed time and some time I don't. My question is, when your men want to have sex and you don't, but you let him "have some" is 5 min about average?

I mean to say that what are the chances that she would secretly drop poison in his coffee or stab him when he is sleeping

I actually didn't know what it meant to have a controlling personality until I started looking at life like Americans believe that everyone should be "free to do whatever they want". And that's when I realized (this weekend) that I am controlling, because my wife and my kids are NOT free to do what they want. If my wife wants to make man hating friends, I would stop her (she doesn't, but it's an example). If my son wants to skip doing his homework (and he does), I'm going to be on him like a hawk. If my daughter wants to eat 4 donuts in a row (she tries to), I'm going to stop her and force her to eat an egg or something else. But the more I think about what American society stands for, it stands for letting the kids be "in control of themselves" by letting marketing companies grab hold of them and control them instead. And it stands for women "being in control of themselves" by making feminist friends who break up marriages or by making sex minded friends who turn the wife into a nymphomaniac. The idea in America is "let culture do it's thing, who died and made you boss?" and I realize that no one died to make me boss; I just took this role because I'm not as naive as I used to be. But I clearly need to let go of my controlling behavior because my wife is still going to make man hating friends, my son is going to avoid homework, and my daughter is going to eat 5 to 6 donuts - all behind my back. But how to let go of control when you're agnostic and can't trust wife? For those who don't understand the atheism/God reference in my question or details -- If I let go of my patriarchal control over my wife and children, who is going to make sure they are safe? Theists have God to protect and look over their family, but what do agnostics and atheists have (especially if there is no God)? What will reassure me that me letting go of my protection/control that everyone in my family will be safe, healthy, and not conspire against the family or me? Fate? Destiny?

as a man what do you feel after having sex with your girl friend or with your wife and do you love that feeling?

My ex husbands friend and I have gotten involved with each other and are now developing feelings for one another. As if that didn't sound bad enough the ex husbands friend is also the godfather to two of the four ex husbands kids. I feel terrible about this but I'm also happy with the friend. Things were rough with the ex and I had a mental break down and the ex abandoned me. I've fought to get where I am Today. Yes I was angry with him but not anymore so me seeing his friend is not me wanting revenge. Does this relationship between the friend and I have a chance?

Together for 10 years and I (wife) want sex constantly. Always have been this way. Husband says his libido is very low. That he finds it hard to get an erection and when he does says it's hard to keep it. He's very healthy , not overweight, works out, doesn't drink or smoke and in early 30s. How common is this among that age group? I'd like to try to help. I know it bothers him when he feels he isn't satisfying my needs. When we DO have sex it's fantastic. Always has been. But I think he avoids it if he feels like his issue will get in the way. If anyone has any experience with this, how did you solve the issue?

i travelled to ukraine in the 2011 for the purpose of education and in the year 2012 a divorce was charged in court by my mom against dad because he was violent against her for a long time and she couldnt take it. divorce happened and as dad was the sponser of education he stopped helping me and went on with his life (hence that i didnt know about this at the time i never had any problems with him). now i have been for the last 3 and a half years in ukraine working minor jobs so i can earn living.i have no one back in my country to go back to. mom travelled away and dad remarried. i am now a homeless illegal foreigner in ukraine with no income. to whom i could talk ?? does the UN or Unhcr help in such situations helppp please!

We've been married two years and we have had many discussions about the things he says sometimes are hurtful to me. He is a physician and i'm finishing my grad school. Whenever I tell him something about himself that he needs to get better at, he comes back with a remark that makes me feel very small. For instance, we have many things to get done around the house together but he has a very negative attitude about things. When I point it out to him, he comes back to justify that thats the reason why he's so successful in life. To me, thats sending a message that I'm not. He does this many times and its really chipping away at my self esteem. He says stupid things which are just unnecessary and hurtful. The other day we were watching a show and there was a video of an old lady with lots of cats. He tells me that if I hadn't married him then I would've turned into a cat lady. I don't know about other women but its really hurtful to me. It makes me feel like I don't have anything important in my life according to him. How can someone like that ever respect or love me ? I know he works hard but he doesn't have to boast about it. He has had a lot of help from his parents to be where he. I have talked to him so many times and we apologize but it happens again. He looks at other women while I'm with him and starts to behave very awkward. Its sad but I'm starting to imagine myself with someone else and wondering if I could be happier. Deep down, Im not really sure if he loves me. I do love him but when he looks at other woman, it makes it very hard to respect him. When he puts me down, it hurts me deeply. I want a husband who loves me for me.

During the Time were separate he had been talking to another girl. He girl didn t know about me. Two months before I moved in to be with him he ended things with the other girl. It s been almost 10 months of no contact with the other girl now. Could my husband still have feelings for her? They haven t communicated with each other in 10 months and it was my husband who ended things with her. He doesn t know that I know about any of this. I somehow found out after snooping around on his phone. I m just so scared what if he likes the other girl and not me? I checked on his phone and he has the other girls number blocked

Well he has a,job that he is fixing to start and we want to be able to get an apartment together...I am ready to go back home but my mom keeps saying bad things about my husband and don t want me to go back...but she told me I could go back but my son has to stay...if I sneak out with him she will call cops and CPS on me what a should I do?

Ok so about a year ago I posted up an question about if I should get back with my daughters father. Long story short we were together for 7 years and broke up over 2 years ago. I was to busy being mad about the past and his cheating and lies to even consider getting back. Even with all his pleading and crying for the entire time we were not together. So I ended up confessing I still loved him a couple of months back, we got married despite it felt like a joke because his feelings weren't the same, they literally change the moment I told him I wanted to get back. Anyways long story short he left me for some one else, an ex he dated just a little while back. He strung me along and made me feel guilty for 2 years just to get up and leave and used me for marriage since he has problems with his papers. (He has papers, but he can't leave the country for a couple of years, and I think being married to a citizen will speed up the process)I've never been so hurt and mad my poor daughter was strung as long as well. What can I do to get back to my old self before I choose to see the good in someone who obviously doesn't have none to be clear I'm hurt because I love him and also for basically putting our daughter in his lies and for the fact he found joy in making me feel guilty for living my life normally the past two years . Like what was the point ? To torture me? I know I don't deserve this ?

He is already aware that I am married so he stopped reciprocating the attention that I gave him. However, prior to that he was very open to our conversations. When he found out I was married, he started to ignore him. I ignored him back but it seems he's now trying to get my attention. I'm turning 40 next month and my husband and I want to invite him for a threesome. Should I even bother or ask.the next dude?

When I think of my fiancee (R) & I together, I have no red flags. When I think about having a life long relationship w/ family, I cringe. R, his brother & his parents are hard working people. His sister is not. She is disrespectful, unappreciative & shows little to no basic common courtesy. She was spoiled by her husband, then got divorced. Her parents paid for her divorce & 2 yrs of living expenses. When her pink caddie got repoed by Mary Kay, her parents bought her another pink caddie to keep up appearances even though she wasn't meeting her quota to keep the company car. When they cut her off, she jumped on Foodstamps meanwhile still pushing single moms to put in credit card apps so "they can be as success as her". She lies to people about her wealth/status all the time. She's a 37 yr old overweight, unhealthy, divorcee with an ego the size of Texas lying her way through life. She been given a lot support & hundreds of thousands of dollars over the yrs. She won't support herself. We don't want to be in a position of having to take her in because she's made poor choices in life. His parents will mostly buy her a condo & cont. to pay for her for the rest of their lives, but then what? Who becomes responsible for her? Us? Her baby brother? She's taken so much from all of us & gives nothing back - I'm done! I don't want to have anything to do with her & I wish they work stop supporting her. R shares the same concerns & doesn't believe she's is a good person. What can we do? UPDATE: There wasn't a lot of room given to write all this out. After her parents cut her off she, went on foodstamps and then moved in with my fiancee's brother. Now that he's experienced her he now wants her out. We haven't contributed money, but we have contributed years of time and energy into helping her move, get on her feet etc. My fiancee has spent a substantial amount of his time trying to reduce her burden on their parents. AND YES! Now that mommy and daddy won't help and she's mooching on baby brother for the last year, they are not talking about US taking her in. Correction: AND YES! Now that mommy and daddy won't help and she's been mooching on baby brother for the last year, and YES her parents are talking about US taking her in as an option.

I get approahced by women about once a week or so to have affairs on my wife, even though I am married, Are women really that immoral these days? Is this normal? Or does this only happen to guys who are really attractive?

I have been with my SO for 14 years, 7 months and 19 days.. we have 3 children.. he's an alcoholic and drinks everyday... this past week he got blind drunk again and threw me up against my van hen I tried to keep him from driving and then kicked out our windshield of the only vehicle we have... my question is, how many chances does he deserve? We have separated 5 times due to his drug and alcohol abuse where he has several times been physically and emotionally abusive... each time he has taken time to get sober and I have taken him back for the sake of our children... this time I feel I can't take it anymore and need to be done but he of course says he will never drink again and married people are supposed to stand by one another and I'm just so emotionally drained and confused.. I want to do what's right for my children and family. I have no job and would have to rely on state for help until I find one and I just want to know how many times does one person make the same mistake before it's a choice?

My husband's family does not seem to like me. We have been married for 8 years. More specifically, his sister and his mom do not like me. His female cousins act standoffish with me and seem afraid to talk to me about anything. If anything needs to be spoken about , they call my husband and talk to him instead. I've never done anything to offend them or cause them to behave this way. They only talk to him about everything. I feel excluded, not really a fully accepted member, or part of their family I have two children from this marriage

He tore his ACL due to this injury. Since the accident was not at work he barely receives any money for disability.I am a full time college student and full time hairstylist. The problem is that on most days my husband spends hours playing video games and wasting his time doing football stuff. He does go to physical therapy and swimming a few times a week. Any suggestions to motivate him? What would you do in my case? Positive feedback appreciated.

It stinks and I HATE the sound it makes. I never pass gas like that. If I DO I go into another room. Why can't he do THAT instead of farting in my face? :(