A guy has been contacting me almost every day for almost a year. He sends me links to love songs and he also tells me he's stalking me. He says he is a sociopath. Is he stalking me? I've told him to stop a couple times. What does he want from me? He knows everything about me from facebook.

Like would you immediately stop having sex with the other man, apologize, and be mortified.... Or would you lustfully want to finish, and tell your husband to get out? And would your decision be smart or stupid? Why or why not?

Over the summer I had more than a few sexual encounters with a married man. By no means in this post am I justifying anyone s behavior and I know this is horrible, but I need advice. We became very close very fast, texting all day long and into the wee hours for months. We would hook up every so often. At that time in our lives my relationship at the time was struggling, as was his. We had such a strong connection emotionally. We would talk about everything and we would hang out aside from sexual things. After about 4 months, all of a sudden it stopped. The texts, the long talks, the hook ups. To this day I have no explanation. We remained in touch during those months without much interaction and did not speak of anything out of line. He treated me as if I was just a random person he was just meeting. Up until now, recently he has been making more of an effort to communicate with me through text. He hasn t made any sexual remarks, but is acting like just before as if nothing ever happened. So my question to you guys is. Why did he randomly stop? Do you think his wife got suspicious? Did I do something? And is he going to try to come back? It is bothering me because he hasn t said anything and I don t feel it s my place to be pushy for clarification. My mind begins to get over his absence and then he pulls me back in and it s hard on me mentally. Please help!

My wife and I are getting a divorce because I cheated on her. I know it's wrong but I did. She's kicked me out and my kids are now writing her maiden name as their last on school papers. How can I convince them that I love them? My oldest (12) said "if you don't love my mom you don't love me". They're heartbroken, which is a given, but I really love my kids and don't want this to be a huge deal to them.

My husband worked for an oil company, but due to it laying off thousands, we decided to relocate. He got a job offer not in oil or gas and moved to Nebraska. I stayed behind, 7 hours away along with our 2 children, ages 1 & 4, worked and waited for our house to sell. It finally sold and we had lived apart for 5 months. He came back 1-2 times a month for the weekend. Just last week, the children and I left our home town behind and made the big move here. We've been here a total of 6 nights. My husband sent me a text hat he was going out with his coworkers only 15 min before he was suppose to be home. I was annoyed. It's now 10 pm and he's just now leaving a bar. When we lived together he did not do this, he would stay out 2-3 hours maybe every few months. After we've lived apart for so long, and my oldest daughter confused and keeps asking when he leaves for work "is daddy coming back to see us?" I just feel like he sees those guys every day all day & we are stuck at home (right after a blizzard where I cannot drive in it well) he shouldn't be out drinking all night. I also need to add that he nearly got a dui New Year's Eve and promised he he wasn't going to drink and drive again- which is also not something he was doing before the move. Should I let it go this time or should I say something? I am hurt over him drinking and driving more than the actual going out part, but dang, we've also really missed him.

Me and my spouse have been married for almost 2 years. We got into it last Mon and I told him I was leaving; from a build up of things he has been doing or not doing. After warnings, still no change. I began to feel disrespected so I packed my things and left. Not once during the process did I mention getting a divorce until he starts talking about putting our son on child support etc. I asked him if he was going to get an attorney & he says yes. He brings it up this day and I take it from there. I ask him about it & one day he says he wants to the next day he says if I want to then we will & if I wont we wont. He even told me that him getting a motorcycle was more important to him then getting a divorce and it wasn't his 1st priority. He told me he would get one in May after he gets a motorcycle. I initiate getting papers to file and he puts off signing them. I literally had to make him sit still enough to put his signature on them. He knows I cant go file right now b/c of my financial situation. During him signing them he says he doesn't want to rush. Im more of a get it done and over with and he is a waiter. He tells me he doesn't want to work on his marriage nor does he want to be married. I feel like you know what you want to do. You don't need that much time to figure it out. If you want a divorce everything is going to get centered around a divorce. Your not going to wait around to do it Why tell me you want a divorce but put forth no effort to making it happen? I've suggested not going forth w/ a divorce but he says he doesn't want to work on his marriage. Although I packed up & left our home I ended up coming back. Asked him for money to get a hotel but he wouldnt allow it & "made" me come back home. He asked me if we could still go to lunch and do other things together and I said no. If we are getting a divorce I don't want to be his friend. We can co-parent but that's all. He says we can be like "best friends". But I don't agree. He wants the benefits of being a husband but doesn't want to actually be a husband. I've been good to him & he knows it. & like I've told him, You aren't going to get rid of something you cant get back.

I told my husband i think its inappropriate for him to give anther female a massage and let a female or male massage him. He dont think there is nothing wrong because the boss pay him good money and dont want to upset the boss and be the only one to not participat. Also said im acting insecure and jealous. Do you agree with him or would you be upset about this as well? Could i be over reacting?

This is a really convoluted situation. I have been in a loveless marriage for the last ten years. We have five children, so we try to hold it together, but we struggle. There are a lot of things to that, but suffice to say it is not a healthy situation. I started a new job in October and I love it. My husband hates it, because ever though I work from home most of the time I do have to go into the office twice a month. Here is the thing. I am so in love with my boss. He is the nicest, funniest guy I have ever met. He has a heart of gold and the best smile, which he uses often. I love being around him. I feel guilty though, because even though nothing has ever happened I enjoy being around this guy so much more than my husband. I have not said anything to either of them. Things have been strictly professional, no flirting. I find myself dreaming about this guy though. I m constantly lost in thought, about him. I can t help but smile at the mere mention of his name. I have never had such strong feelings about another person. Like, from the first time I met him I had butterflies in my stomach. I just don t know what to do. I m married. He is single, but he s my boss. I don t want to tear my family apart. I also don t want to risk losing my job (that I love, not just because of him) or making things awkward when I m there by saying something. I just don t know what to do.... I m completely infatuated.....

I hear couples who have been together for over 20 years and they are very in love and happy. When I look at my generation, it seems like no one takes relationships serious anymore. People get married and divorce 5 years later. It feels like 5-10 years is the longest I've heard people stay together. I want that marriage where after many years we still make love, still are happy and even if we fight, we can make it up. Its just sometimes I doubt if that is even possible anymore.

I got my confidential license in mariposa county and the clerk told me it was ok to have ceremony in another county, so we did in Malibu. I keep reading things that say you have to get married in same county as the license was distributed and created. Is our marriage void?? Serious answers only

I got a confidential marriage license in October of 2015 and now we want to have a real wedding and have it in public records for ancestry reasons, is it possible? Don't ask me dumb questions or tell me there's no such thing as confidential marriage license because yes there is

I'm starting to think that being humble (thinking low of one's own importance - which is somehow NOT the same as having low self esteem) has a big reason why my marriage feels different than the majority of you. My wife and I don't feel like we are important or superior to anyone, but we are not humble by any stretch of the definition either. Since no one wants to click into my name and answer any of my other questions in the last 24 hours (especially the one about respect) maybe you can teach me the connection between being humble and marriage. Is there one?

There was no discussions about what would change. There were no hopes that either of us WOULD change. There wasn't any discussion about our roles entitling each other or ourselves to anything. We spoke our vows, but I don't think we fully understood what we were agreeing to (just going through the motions to get married - a milestone all people do). We just knew that we loved each other, we didn't want to be with anyone else, and we were going make this thing work (or rather we were hopefully this thing would work without effort). So without a focus, a dream, a goal, a future in mind, whatever you want to call it, did my marriage really mean nothing? Was it really just a milestone so we could be treated like adults since our parents saw us as children and we want to prove we were really adults with a showy wedding (it was a very Christian-like biblical wedding - only we took the word God out of everything and did it in a hotel not a church)? I'm beginning to think that the reason I've been upset isn't because my marriage failed after being in it, it failed because it didn't really have a purpose other than to legally bind us together and make us recognized as "full adults". There really was no vision of "us" and what we wanted in life; we were just glad to be together and to be alive, we both had times when we didn't think we'd make it this far! What's your thoughts, does marriage always have a purpose beyond just "love"?

I'm asking for clarification. It does seem to be the case, but I just wanted to make sure I understood before I put that in the long term memory.

We have been dating for 3 and a half years and we have been married for 1 month (I got married December 21, 2015) and he is in the military. His friend is staying in an extra room of ours until he gets back on his feet because he is going through a hard time. Although, I don t mind helping him, his friend always has his girl over and our walls are really thin so I can hear everything and I mean "everything". When I confront my husband about it, I tell him that I want to work on us, especially since we are excepting a baby and he always comes back with a comment like "What am I supposed to do? Kick him out?" and I am really tempted to say yes but I want to help. I also feel like since we have a roommate that doesn't give us time to be us. I get that he has long work days, but he comes home, spends the rest of the day on his phone, eats and will only pay me attention if he wants some or if he's ready to go to sleep. Like he doesn't make time for me and when I confront him about it, I am "overreacting" or I am "just trying to start and argument" or he blames it on his job. What do I do? I tried going out on a dinner and movie date, thinking that would give us time to talk, and he stayed on his phone the whole time during dinner and told me the next day that he thought he wanted to talk to me and dinner made him realize that he didn't. I don t know what to do anymore. His attitude is making wonder if I should keep our kid. Could the roommate be a problem?

Imagine that you and your spouse go into marriage believing that once a person gets married they are happily ever after. Naive and ignorant right? But let's pretend you did. And let's say that both of you kept that dream alive for as long as you could, until one of you said "you know, this isn't working, the harder I try to keep us happily ever after, the harder it gets, I quit". Even though the immediate reaction is they quit YOU, this wasn't anything personal. They still love you, they still love your company, but making this "happily ever after" thing work is just that - work. Has nothing to do with compatibility, has nothing to do with not being the right astrological sign, it has everything to do with the idea of fairy tale marriages is just that - it's a fairy tale. So when you and/or your spouse gets disillusioned and loses hope on that marriage trope that the two of you believed in, can the relationship keep going forward successfully without creating a new illusion to believe in? Or does marriage only work when there's a dream, a goal, a promise being fulfilled, each and every day of your life? Definitions: (1) Marriage - Marriage is the name of the legal (or biblical, depending on your beliefs) construct between two people who had a ceremony. (2) Relationship - A social construct mutually created between two people based on a shared understanding of what relationships are. (3) Disillusioned - When you realize something you thought was true was all in your head and not real. (4) Illusion - Something you believe in, even though there's no proof saying it is or is not real.

I told him to keep it out of the house and he isn't being respectful at all. Hes lied to me about this off and on for YEARS and he spends our money on it, money that we dont have! Then I wake up this morning and realize there are pieces all over the coffee table in the living room. My kids were eating fruit snacks off that same table! I am so mad I could kill him! Can I report him?

My wife has to be right...always. Just now, she was gone for two and a half hors and I had the baby. I was feeding her for about half an hour. She walked in and right then the baby started crying. My wife said, "don't over feed her." And it's like this constantly. Whatever I do, she tells me I'm doing it wrong. Drives me nuts.

I feel as though it was an "Emotional Affair".. Mind you, it was only during work hours and sometimes when he was off and I was at work. They would talk to each other for like 20 minutes at a time and play phone tag about 10 times a day.. I had noticed the number on our cell phone bill about a year ago and he said it was a guy's he works with.. So finally I called it from a random number and it was a woman, I asked her why she had been talking to my husband and she hung up.. So I called him right away and he kept saying it was that guy and maybe it was his GF!!! So thats what makes me think he had some kind of bond with her... Anyway HE FINALLY confessed to me it was a woman he was just friends with and never even saw, they just talked on the phone alot and it never got physical..He also agreed to cut off the correspondence and never talk to her again and called her in front of me to tell her... I still feel eerie about the whole thing... Now I will give him that, he's never snuck around and we're always together.. It was just he phone calls.. So do you think that was more than friendship?

Having an above average IQ sucks for marriage. Why? Because you realize what it (and everything else) really is. We are nothing more than animals, choosing a "civilized" and "modern" life with ethics, norms, and morals to prevent us from being predatory to each other and doing what other animals in the kingdom - mate openly, abandon our kids to survive/die, and spread diseases uncontrollably. But looking beyond our existential purpose in life (to survive and nothing more) everything else is man made. Respect, honesty, integrity, authority, bro code, humility, even romance; all of that - man made. Nothing exists outside of the mind; it disappears the MINUTE you stop believing in it (just like Santa). This is where I'm at in my marriage. We both dissected the world around us to the point where we can see it for what it REALLY is, and we're having an issue putting the veil back on to make this "surviving" or "living" thing worth it. I'm betting other people are going through (or have gone through) this too, so I'm here to inquire - did you ever become "disillusioned" with marriage? What did it take to convince yourself that this added man made layer (a lie outside of the mind) was worth believing even though it was a "logical fallacy" and did NOT come natural? I may not be fighting anything "mental" in either of us after all. I'm beginning to think the real problem is we know the truth; but now we need to "get back in the game" and find our way back to each other. This question actually does have an example to go with it... I found a blog (NSFW 18+) that explained WHY men like oral sex to share with my wife. It was actually really well written (I'll be sharing it in the next update). So when I had my wife read it she said "This is cheesy - is any of that even real? It sounds very unscientific." and that's because it was. There's no science to why, but it does have to do with cultural meaning - it is an act a woman does to prove selflessness/vulnerability. http://www.thefemininewoman.com/2010/02/why-men-love-blow-jobs/ -- NSFW!!!! But here's the link..... As I said, it is a well written post about it. But again, it is a very man-made thing. We could say that those emotions/feelings us man get are nothing more than adrenaline, testosterone, oxytocin, serotonin, and dopamine all doing their magic; but that doesn't describe our consciousness and what we are consciously feeling, does it? We are feeling closeness, connection. Things that aren't real. Note, I said "above average" IQ, not high. An average IQ person would just see the man made stuff and not be able to realize our animalistic true nature. They would believe in anything just escape the truth of their inevitable death, unavoidable aging, and their constant loneliness (without someone able to read your every though, no two people are truly "connected", we all are alone in our thoughts)... So some of you will dismiss my question, but those who understand will have wisdom to share.

It's basically a nerver ending cycle, he won't get up for work because he's too sleepy, he ends up waking up with enough time to rush/speed to work 45mins away. Then he'll be mad at me for not getting him up earlier. So everyday I try harder and harder to wake him up, but then he gets mad at me for not using a soft sensual voice. He won't wake up if I use a soft voice! But I can't help it to sound a little frustrated while trying to wake him up. Because I know either way he's going to be mad at me. Advice?

Isn't marriage a primitive religious institution? As a society which is slowly getting rid of religion shouldn't we also say goodbye to marriage? It is against the natural order of humanity...

How would you feel if your husband had pics/videos of his exs naked in a usb? What if he sext texted some other girl over an app & denied it? I have my husband that I found girls poping up on my soical media saying he was asking them for nudes I asked he denied and said they were crazy and liers. And immediately blocked them. Has had more then once I got on his app he uses and he says someone hacked him that isn't him while I was on there I was kick out and the password was changed immediately. He says I'm being inscure and a little girl and pulling stuff from a previous relationship but I know I'm not I'm just having this feeling. A few days ago I was going to do Laundry and I checked he jacket there was a usb and I check it thinking it could be a clean one so that I could use and to my surprise he has pictures of his exs multiple naked and screenshots of talks of him with girls sending him nudes before and clearly stating it was him. He made me delete everything from my soical media that has to do with any of my exs but yet he deletes his messages of his exs or calls them crazy. What do you think how would you feel? How could you get the truth out from him? Not to mention he has a obsession with a 3 way with me in it but that would break the marriage completely for me.

Yesterday, I discovered that my wife is exchanging messages with some friend with "I love you" every now and then although they are not a match at all! They just communicate well with each other. I am feeling very miserable and pain is too big to take. I personally know this guy and as I used to trust her completely, so I didn t mind letting her go out with him. I really believe that she wants to keep our marriage because I am giving her the best "base" she can build on in her life. I helped her to establish her own business and I am helping her out in most aspects to ensure her success. But instead of appreciating all that, she just ignored me completely with time and I told her many times that I need her and I am facing depression because of her absence in my life, but I got zero reactions!!! Deep inside, I gave her many excuses to justify that to myself, because she puts herself under huge stress and even looks for new issues to stress herself out. But my mental state worsened with time and I felt like falling apart. After I discovered her conversations with this "friend"!!! I didn t sleep a second and was crying out loud in my car. She doesn t know that about any of this and I am keeping control of myself as far as I can to keep things in our marriage s favor, but I need advice on how to deal with this situation. I don t want to lose my marriage and for my children I would sacrifice anything. Please help me before I lose my cool.

I've mentioned something similar to this before on here several times but id like some more advice on this: My wife is very insecure about her body she is 6ft4 and (to me anyways)she's very sexy,she has pretty nice size boobs round,perky,and firm with relatively small nipples and silky smooth skin,along with a nice size butt, semi thick but toned thighs,small,waist,and of course long legs... all of which is natural! (physically) I say she's BLESSED! i don't know what do I do what I can to make her feel loved/appreciated such as reminding the kids to give her lots of hugs and kisses,taking her out on dates,giving her flowers and chocolate,never forgetting are wedding anniversary,standing up for her,comforting her when she's depressed,and reassuring her (that in this house) she will always be loved. And to make her feel sexy i always tell her she looks hot or i whistle when she walks by or bends over,i take my time during foreplay and oral sex (lots of teasing) and in general i love touching her body rubbing her legs and spanking her butt ,i often ask her to wear/model sexy outfits like wearing clothes that are little to short/tight so her boobs,butt,and nipples really (pop out) I don't think counselling will help she's always been very shy and insecure,she's always felt alienated due to being constantly teased and harassed,she told me she feels like some (FREAKISHLY TALL AMAZON WOMAN) and as a man/husband i feel like I'm not good enough to make her feel safe and happy. what can i do i feel so helpless when ever she goes through very severe depression,she's tries to never let the kids see her when she's sad or depressed. I've talked with my in-laws and found out she has come from a very long line of tall women with these (assets) and her mother and younger sister have similar (assets) as well except her sister is 6ft3.

so my husband told me before "when we were not married yet" that he return the ring worth $1000 to the store. he bought for his proposal on his ex gf but she refused so he had to return it. he told me that he only got $900 when he return it because that's the store policy. we are in ldr relationship back then and i dont have any problem with his past. he told me that he bought me an engagement ring and it's worth $2000.. he even showed it to me on cam. but he never gave it to me until now. he didnt even bought me a wedding ring. but i dont wanna complain about it.. even though sometimes i get jealous when i saw my friends wearing wedding ring and i dont. but yesterday i saw a picture taken just that day of a ring. it's a diamond ring worth $2000.. i know it's not the ring that he bought for me because it's a different design. and the date that he bought it is the date before he proposed to his ex gf. i know that's the one that he bought for his ex gf. i dont know why he lie to me.. it just bothers me a lot. please help.

Our family: myself, my husband, a boy 8 and a girl 1. Schedules Husband: Monday, Wednesday, Friday: class from 10am till 2pm and then work from 4pm-1130pm Tuesdays,Thursdays: work from 4pm-1130pm Saturday, Sunday: Off Myself: Mondays, Wednesdays, Fridays: Nanny to 2 kids 6am-6pm, stay at home mom to my 2 kids all day Tuesdays, Thursday: Real estate photography from 7am-11am (I bring my daughter), Nanny from 1130am-530pm, stay at home mom my 2 kids all day Saturday, Sunday: Off (besides cooking and cleaning and caring for my kids) Cut and dry, I do all chores 7 days a week. All the cooking, cleaning, laundry, grocery shopping, homework help, baths, getting up at night with the baby, etc. I feel there should be a division of chores but my husband feels that he has his "job" and school and is the primary bread winner and I have my "job" and part of mine is doing all the housework, I make only half the money he does in a month so I pay for the smaller bills, groceries, etc. I feel exhausted all the time and I am beginning to resent my husband because of his unwillingness to pitch in around the house. I am looking for advice, even if it isn't what I would necessarily like to hear, but no negativity please. I would like to note that my husband is a loving father and spends lots of time with our kids on the weekends.

Im a really silly, lighthearted person and my hubby is a little more serious and uptight. We love eachother to death but sometimes i feel like he's annoyed by me. I dont know if i should try to be more serious around him or if i should be myself? Im not silly in serious situations.

Will you : Shout at them Divorce Go to court Beat them Cry What will you do?

I'm a 41yr woman, I've been married to my husband for 16yrs and we have three children.I am a stay at home mom and I'm very attractive with an amazing body. I love wearing sexy, revealing, provocative clothes ,It's exciting to go out dressed this way. I love the attention and comments that I receive from men and women. My husband doesn't like me dressing this way, but he doesn't really ever touch me or is he even turned on by me,he's very asexual, passive and a bit feminine .We are caucasian and we live in a very diverse community , there is a lot of Latino and Black men in the area that we live in. I LOVE the attention I get from all the Latino and Black men, it's exciting, they are very manly, masculine, macho men( unlike my husband) I was at the market today and I was wearing these cute and sexy see through leggings and this latino man pressed up his hard, erected bulge against my behind, it was really exciting but I didn't do anything about it, I just looked at him and smiled. I'm not a slut, I just love showing off my sexy body and having some innocent, harmless teasing and flirting. My husband has caught me dressed this way and gets upset and doesn't talk to me for the rest of the evening, I wish he would just enjoy it and make passionate love to me but instead he ignores me. I'm very attractive and sexy, but my husband doesn't get turned on, he never wants to have sex ?? I love dressing sexy and I love the attention I get, am I a bad wife for feeling this way?