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serious question. the top floor of my house has 2 rooms but its just used as storage. its got this guys stuff there for when he moves back into our house cuz he rent it from my dad or something, I don't know. But anyways there is always creaking and stuff up there like somebody is moving around and I don't like to go up. My dad says its just cuz the window is open. He's trying to say its open permanently? Yeah right. Besides I can see from outside that he only opens it like once a week so it don't start to smell up there. so its creaking again right now like footsteps. its not my cats like he sometimes says cuz my cats are in my room with me. And I remember like last week I asked my mom to look in the rooms and she said I'm not going up there, are you crazy. So she must think it too!! sometimes downstairs doors open randomly too. Or I think something is in my room. even my uncle said one time he was in bed and it felt like somebody got into the bed with him. It wasn't his invisible girlfriend like my dad said cuz his girlfriend is real, I saw her and she is black. so is there one or not? do we need a priest? Do they still do those exorcism things?

my dad has become extremely overprotective of me since I turned 10 (I am 14). He keeps controlling what I am wearing. I used to wear a lot of skirts and dresses before middle school, and then I got into a phase where I started wearing skinny jeans, which my dad hates. Whenever i wear them he makes some sort of snarky comment, so I don't wear them very much or I wear them with a long shirt on top. I wear skinny jeans not to be provocative, but just because I feel they're comfortable! Also in the summer, he makes a remark about every type of shorts I have. I do not wear booty shorts, they are all at or below my fingertips, but he acts like I am walking around wearing a bikini or something (which incidentally, i can't wear anyway). Today I got some really cute pajamas. The bottoms are leggings (though not skintight) while the top is a long shirt. My dad freaked out and started yelling at me about how inappropriate I was being, though it's not like I was going to wear them outside the house. My sister (below age 10) wears pajama shorts and pajama leggings with no problem (yet). I understand my dad doesn't want me to be slutty, but that's the thing: I'm not. At all. His comments also make me even more self-conscious about weight and body, which has recently become a big issue for me. I don't know what to do.

It's a SUUUPER long story (588 words exactly) so I couldn't fit it on here... here's the link: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1_63mWw942dJq7hcRCTI0JxLkIH1L2kWqE1X-8g2C9Vc/edit please read all of it!! Basically it's saying my cousin moved to the US three years ago (without her mom) and is living with my uncle and aunt, except she's being extremely disrespectful to them. She's threatening to move out the house, and I blame her friends for being a bad influence. Also, she's a senior and got a full scholarship to college, but her grades have fallen a lot, so I'm worried her acceptation will be revoked. How do I help her??

My mom has always said "you can tell me anything" but I have never felt comfortable doing that. I now have something I want to say that's really important and I don't know how to tell my mom. How did/do you want your kids to tell you things? Parents only please!

I went to visit my cousin at her college. She is a senior and is 22. I am a sophomore and only 19. We were getting ready to go out, I had pre-drank because drinking at the clubs would be too risky. We went to 1 bar that let in 18+ (with X's on hands for those 18-20), and then we relocated to another one. The second one was 21+. I was expecting that they would just decline to go in and find another place that allows in 18+. Instead, my cousin turns to me and says "Looks like they won't let you in, but there are a couple bars on the next block that will let you in. You can call me if you need anything, but otherwise I'll see you at home." I didn't know what to say, except "ok". Now, I went to visit my cousin because my cousin suggested it. I wanted to spend time with her. I did not want to go out by myself in a college town I am unfamiliar with. It's not fun, and it's certainly not safe. I also couldn't go back to her place, because I didn't have a key, so I just grabbed a quick bite, and I took the bus back to campus and waited for her to call me at 1 AM saying she was back home.

Hello, I am a 21 year old female with a precious soon to be one year old boy. He is my life and the reason I am trying to push forward. A small look at my life. I currently split the rent with my mom on a tiny apartment in NY (pricy rents). It is me, my mother, my son and my younger sister. I am currently with my boyfriend who is also the father to our child. He is a great guy. He lives with his father. Our long story short is...between my family drama and no room I am at a life crisis and quickly going downward. Before move into our apartmen, there were 9 of us in a one bedroom in my grandparents house for years. When I was pregnant we rushed to find any old place to get a little more room. However, I face issues because my mom suffers from severe depression. I am a prisoner in my ow home because I have to watch what I say and do. Because we live separately the responsibility of my son falls on me. Long nights of being up with the baby is followed by going to work and then the process all over again. I am worried because my mom cannot afford rent on her own but I really need my own place. We recently visited my boyfriends mother who lives in North Carolina and I fell in love! The rent is so affordable. The only issue is leaving my family behind. We are a very small, close knit family. I really want to go as I feel it would be a fresh start. My family has a lot of drama and I often cry because I don't know what to do. I just want what's best for my child. Please advise!Thanks

A few years ago my older sister got arrested for drugs and murder. My mom is a deputy so my sister is the last to be expected to do thigs like that. She is my only sibling. She had been doing stuff like this for as long as I can remember. Like rebelling against my moms job. She has been in prison for a few years now and in that te we have spent thousands upon thousands of dollars on a lawyer who did nothing for us. she murdered someone And did drugs, she's not getting out. She is now doing life in prison. She has a 6 year old son (my nephew) and his dad lives in our renting house right next door. His dad yells at him for coming home and tells my mom to watch him 24/7, his dad has sex with all these girls, and his dad doesn't have to pay rent. My mom lets this kid do whatever he wants and you will not believe how bad this kid acts. We are getting a lot of money soon and it's just going to be put toward my sister. I will be going to college soon and we will have no money to help me succeed. They are not willing to helpe who has tried my best, but will spend all money on drug addict/murderer sister. I get yelled at all the time and I can't live with them so I lock myself in my room 24/7. I can't talk to my mom because she tells me to shut up, and she threatens me all the time if I don't stop talking to her. I ran out f characters so just with that short version that I left a lot of detail out, how can I help deal with this?

I have to do this run (5k) for a family member who is really annoying and I can not stand him and his whole family is a bunch of punks so what is a good excuse to get out of going. Thanks and please do not give me any of that spending time with family is the best he is my cousin and they are thugs. Thanks

I'm 13 and I'm really fed up with having to take care of my mom like a little kid when she is drunk. Please help. This is a serious problem.

I am 17 years old im looking for a brother who is older than me. Im a African American male who needs a brother to teach me things. Can someone help me or give me contact information where I can reach u. My instagram is _always_thuggin_

Okay so I am going to get expelled from school, and I was in the principals office with the principal and my teacher, and my teacher called me a "bad boy" I'm a 15 year old boy, I'm getting expelled because when I was playing basketball I threw it at the principals head. What did she mean by this it kinda of made me mad.

If my moms mom is Panamanian and black is my mom Panamanian also? If so am I? Or is it just her?

Here's the situation. My brother (12 y-o) is at a coming-of-age party. It is now 10:00 at night. It is also a Sunday. (He doesn't have school on Monday) He calls my mom at 10:00 and asks her to come pick him up. My mom just finished tutoring for 5 hours straight. Anyways, she gets up, throws on her coat and she is out the door. When she arrives (20 minutes later - a long drive) she gets a text from my brother saying "Wait. Speeches just started. Can't come out now. Give me 5 minutes". My mom is pretty upset. She drops everything to come and get him, and now he is saying "not yet"? 12 minutes later, he gets in the car. My mom (as you can appreciate) is extremely tired and somewhat upset. She tells my brother that she is tired and wants to go to bed, where my brother says that if he left the speeches, he would be "disrespecting" the speakers (parents). My mom says that he disrespected her by making her wait around, when another kid came out before he did, presumably during the speeches. He then gets mad, and tells her she's a ***** and was raised by dogs with no manners. What do you think? Do you think my mom should have waited it out and not said anything, or do you think that when my mom got there, my brother should have been waiting. He told her to come, he pushed the button, and when the time came to get what he asked for, he didn't want to do it. Your thoughts?

I got suspended because I beat up a kid who was talking bad about my dad. My parents are mad at me because of it. They threatened to send me to the scared straight thingy if I keep getting into trouble. I tried explaining to them that it's really not my fault. My relationship with my dad is really sensitive to me and I flipped. How can I get them to understand that this wasn't my fault

So I am 13. I have a 15 year old brother. My parents keep saying that they are going to get a divorce 'if I don't keep up with cleaning' I have 2 young siblings that create messes non stop and my older brother just smoked pot all the time. I've had a lot of pressure on my back and school, too. They won't get a divorce but like to hold it against me for some reason. I'm not fat, I'm smart, athletic, and more I don't know why they pin point me. My dad works for pennies because he has Lupus and isn't allowed to hold a real job and so he spends the money on food during the day and alcohol during the night and usually doesn't come home till 3 AM. My mom is a workaholic (she works her *** off) and she makes messes too my parents don't help me and are only nice on occasion like my B-day. Don't try to answer my question by telling me to get a therapist or professional help...there's so much more I just need some kind of help its so stressful and there's so much more. I wish it could just end. Just all of it could stop I wish I could just go away for a year alone deep inside of a forest and survive there maybe with some friends idk I just can't do it anymore. HELP ME pleeeeaassse!

So,, my cousin literally snap chatted me a picture of his dick, I blocked him and haven't said one thing to him. I'm beginning to wonder if he will ever talk to me again, I told my cousin who he did the same thing too and my family but not his, my mom wanted me too but i didn't due to the fact he is my cousin and I don't want him to get in trouble. It's been a year, I am just curious about this whole thing. What does he think?

I have four sons. The oldest has a 12 year old that lives in mexico. The 2nd oldest has a 2 years old but rarely brings him. My 3rd son has 2 kids. A 3 year old and a 4 1/2 month old. And youngest has a baby on the way with his girlfriend. My sons work hard I have to admit but every weekend they visit me since they live close by. Around 5 minutes away. They bring their noisy children for me to see them. But I don't want to see them because I have so many things to do. I'm 54 I still work. Four days a week is too much already, since I work in housekeeping in a hotel. When everybody gets together their kids are running around laughing, screaming, and crying. The three year old is potty trained and the 2 year old is also potty trained but they ask me, not their parents, to take them to the restroom. There is a dollar store across my house, one of my daughter in laws asks if I can watch the kids while she quickly goes to the store to bring something she needs. I already baby sat my kids! I don't want to be babysitting babies an more. Less even the four month old. She cries because she wants to feed every hour. I told my daughter in n law to give her formula milk, that way she won't have to struggle with that baby crying every time. I don't know what to! I don't wan these kids running around in my house!!! Please help me!

My mom always is such a jerk to me and soooo nice to him. He is almost 15 and im younger. I lost my phone for 3 weeks now and he found it while we were playing in the yard. Surprisingly, its fine after snow and rain. We were all standing there (me him and my mom) and Mom said: Oh! You found her phone! Me: I wonder if it still works... Him: Probably not. You haven't been taking care of it lately. - This just made me blow up. I punched him into the fence (not hard compared to what he does to me often). And stormed into the house. I bumped in my mom on the way on accident. Note that I don't blow up very often. He is just such a jerk to me. Everyone is. He has no daily chores, I do the dishes, vacuum, ect. He mows the lawn like twice a summer at the most. - Im also not very appreciated around the house either. Not even a simple "thank you" after I do them favors. My dads not home very often and I only see him like and hour before I go to bed. Ive told them my problem with this and my dad just laughs at me like a child and my mom just doesn't really say anything before I run up to my room and cry myself to sleep. Im always positive with a smile on my face. They just like him better. They get him better gifts for X-mas and birth days ect. He gets to do and eat anything he wants. not me. I hafta have and apple for dinner and do yoga when im done. Some advice or comments would be nice. THX:) Don't be a web jerk either

The mother of a younger relative keeps letting the child stay home from school and doesn't have them make-up any of the work. The child has already failed once and is on the path to fail the same grade again. The child sits at home all day and plays video games and watches tv. The child spends the weekends at my house. I take him to do fun things and we spend time doing his school work. but it is impossible to complete it all. The mother says the child always acts up and gives her a hard time not going to bed and not wanting to get up and go to school. The child is very well behaved at my home. I have spoken with the mother and she makes up all these excuses and says she is going to do something but doesn't do anything. The father is deceased. I have contacted the school, but they won't tell me anything or let me do anything because i am not the legal guardian. Also I know the mother has had a drug problem in the near past. She claims to be clean now, but most likely she is lying. What can I do to help the child? If it came down to it my family would be more than willing to take custody of the child.

I am a 20 year old female, 21 in September, in my third year of college. While I live at school during the week, I've recently found that coming home some weekends to be stressful. I still have to ask my parents for permission to leave the house, especially when it involves using one of their cars (I cannot buy my own car at the moment, as there are parking issues where we live). I started dating someone again, after breaking up before-- partially due to the fact that they were not particularly accepting of him. They refuse to allow me to drive to see him (about a 30 minute drive), despite the fact that he always drives to see me during the school year. I feel like I constantly have to fight with them about basic rights I should have at this age and the longer I'm at home, the more suffocated I feel; I have no issues at school-- I could be doing drugs and it wouldn't matter, but once I come home all these restrictions appear. It's causing me anxiety to the point where I don't know what to do or how to approach this. I've tried to be a good daughter and to listen to them, but sometimes I feel that they're being irrational to the point where I don't even feel comfortable expressing how I feel. Anyone with experience with this/advice is much appreciated, thank you!

I live with my parents. We don't get a long. They are super weird negative it's my way or the highway type of people. They always criticize me and when I stick up for myself it's disrespectful and they give me a huge lecture. It's b.s.. the stuff my mom says to me, if I said anything like that to her I'd get yelled at. It's the "you respect us because we're your parents" type of b.s.. where I believe in if you respect me ill respect you. They are so negative about everything I can't take it. Like both of them are super weird. If I wasn't their son i wouldn't even consider being their friend. One time I had a girlfriend and they thought she was a slu t cause she had pics of her in a bikini on Facebook. They're that type of weird. How do you deal with it? Keep defending myself? Have you had any experience? What'd you do?

My sister has a holier than thou attitude and is always finding a chance to put me down and make me feel like a piece of ****. Just recently I was slightly upset and was refusing something and she turned around from her seat in the car and started yelling at me and calling me a ***** when all I said was "no" in a very submissive manner. When we were losing our house she was under a lot of stress like everyone but she started to be abusive both mentally and physically. I can't do anything without her yelling at me to stop and I feel very much like she's trying to control my actions and reactions. She takes everything away from me and blames me for things I've never done and keeps making me feels so worthless and I can't even cry without her calling me a *****,worthless whore,skank, whatever.I really, very seriously, hate my sister. I can't stand being around for another minute and feel like I'm going to kill myself anytime now. I dream of dying because of her. I mean, I can't even begin to explain how evil she is. She's a bipolar, narcissistic devil. My parents won't do anything about it. They're even there for half the time she's bitching at me and they just ignore it. I can't even live my own life and talk to my own friends because she steals them and talks trash about me with them. She micromanages everything I do and I feel so stuck and helpless.

I'm 17 and female, my sister is 12 almost 13 and I have massive problems with her. I know with her being the age that she is hormones are crazy but she always gets me in trouble. One minute shes being nasty and doing everything she can to make me angry, but when I tell my mom she pulls the victim card and starts crying saying I'm making her upset, and then I get in trouble! I've tried telling my mom but she just tells me to be quiet and leave it alone. How can I stop this? I have an explosive disorder, basically in fight-or-flight my brain audimatically chooses fight so I can't help but get angry, what else can I do?

I hate my life! My mom yells at me. And don't get me wrong I live her and I have a nice life but days like these just make me so sad that I think about ending my life. My mom yelled at me because I hve a B in math and a C in science. The rest are A's. I only have a C case I didn't turn in some papers and a B cause I didn't really understand it. But it's just my mom will tell everyone and make me sound dumb. I'm always getting told that people hate me. I act like I'm happy at school but I'm not. I just want to die idont want to be here!!!!!!! Someone help. I've cried for the last week because of just everything! :(((

I'm a 15 year old sophomore in highschool. I'm failing almost 4 classes right now and just got the news I didn'take my baseball team for my school, which I played for last year. My grades didn't have to do with that, but I feel my life is out of order. I can live without not making the team, even though I really wanted to. It's mostly my grates, my dad is very strict on that and everday I worry more and more till he finds out. I don't usually get amazing grades, but never this bad. I'm lost in this time and don't know what to do. People say oh just try harder, but that doesn't work for school really, I've worked my *** off before and barley a change happened

My mother has put me through a lot of stress my whole life, and has made me very mad at times. I'm really not one for violence, but I felt like she deserved it. She told one of my huge secrets to everyone when I obviously didn't want anyone to know. She said sorry but she didn't mean it. She didn't even look at me while saying it. I was really mad at the time, so I hit her. I do think I could've controlled my anger, but I just hit her just because I wanted too and I felt like she deserved it. I didn't hit her too hard, she isn't injured or anything like that. I'm 14 years old

I'm 15(16 in December!:P ), and my mom is extremely protective. I think she has a fear of me growing up:/ I barely learned how to use our electric stove and oven-after begging for months to be taught how to cook, I'm not allowed out of my front yard even though there's a park two houses away from our house. I couldn't go on a school trip downtown because my mom thought it'd be dangerous:/ Anyway, that's my current situation, but that isn't my issue. I'm a freshman currently, and over the summer I plan to take summer courses over the summer so I can graduate earlier.. If things go according to plan, I'll be graduating by junior year. I'm just extremely scared because I've never taken online courses, and I plan to move out soon after. My only issue is I don't know what I need to learn to get along on my own. What are the basic things I'd need to know about online school and things I would need to know in life(ex: cooking, how to do laundry, etc.)?

She acts like im a horrible person for asking for food. Like i shouldnt be asking for anything becuase she doesnt owe me anything. Everytime i ask her shes like oh im not going to kick you out but then she acts like this. How come? My older cousin moved in and hes older then me but he doesnt have to do anything all he has to do is play video games all day he just sits at home living off people doesnt want to get a job hes been out of school for 10 months and he doesnt have to do any work. Im at home just got out of school and becuase im a girl i have to clean the entire house my mom is a hoarder by the way. Clean every room everything do a huge bucket of dishes because no one else will do them i keep the house clean I took my brother to school I take care of my dog I have extreme depression and anxiety which makes it extremely hard to function and my grandmother moved in and now I take care of her dog and its only me that gets treated this way no one else becuase im a gil. My mother and father have always shown complete favoritism to my brother than me buys him everything without a question but when I ask for aomething I need they verbally abuse me and gossip about me behind my back. I cant afford to go anywhere by myself I wish I could I have 600 dollars saved up but thats not enough.

Its high school. I have to decide between a few careers and I secretly always wanted to be a police officer. Im not strong or super intelligent, but I love helping people and being fair. However my dad hates the idea and whenever I slowly get into the subject of that career, he tells me that I will become a programmer or some engineer which does not sound that bad but I dont want to sit at some desk all day. I dont know how to get passed this.

Sooo my brother ( Who is 8 ) overreacts all the time... But today he was scaring me, basically he didn't listen to our mom so my dad was getting on to him... And one thing led to another and my dad spanked him. He then started screaming, saying my dad was a demon and he needs to be killed, hitting random things, and also saying suicidal things... Right now he's making moaning sounds for no reason.. Is there some kind of mental disease for a person that overreacts this much?... I'm genuinely scared and worried... Help please.

This isn't your regular 'i hate my brother comment' hes only 14 and a year younger than me. he made my mother cry (not the first time) bc he talked back to her and cursed and actually physically pushed her around he threatened to hit me. this all happened bc he didnt get to sit on the computer and i did bc i needed to type my essay. hes like this everyday. he sits on the computer literally 24/7 hes addicted. what do i do. talking doesnt work my dad works all day and my mom's health isnt good. theres only me and whenever i try to talk to him he gets angry.

Yesterday, my father passed away in a terrible car accident and I've been absolutely devastated, to say the least. I haven't been able to sleep or eat because I miss him so much and am worried about my and my family's future. I can't stand the thought of not having a father at graduation in two months... Please help with advice Thank you It feels like I've swallowed poison... I seriously feel physically ill.. I'm not exaggerating or being cliché by saying he was one of my best friends.. he really was..

What are some good shetlers? & how long would it take for them to get my daughter & I a place to live ?

My mom is a very good mom for the most part, but for some reason I don't like her. I don't even like her touching me or talking to me even when she hasn't really done anything. I feel bad for this but why am I like this?

I've had the cold for about 3 days now. My dad the 1st two days was great and helpful. He is an alchoholic and drinks every night. I'm the only person that lives with him. I have no siblings and my mom m passed away. Anyways. He didn't drink the first 2 nights and I was so happy. Then tonight which is the 3rd night I am worse than before. And my dad is drunk. He keeps saying im not sick and I'm pretending. I threw up and he said it was on purpose. He has been making me clean. And I'm so tired and I feel terrible. I've been taking alka seltzer and it helps but makes me tired and my dad keeps telling me to stop being lazy and get up. He's so drunk and he does this every night and I'm used to it. But now that I'm sick I can't take it!!! What should I do? If I say something about him drinking he gets mad and sometimes abusive?! Help??

She's not technically my aunt. Her and my uncle have been together since 2001 & have a son but are not married. I am 16. At their house, there is a small hole in the doorknob & when she uses the bathroom I have to go and watch. Just seeing her naked hip and her pants pulled down turns me on. I'm not sure why. Is this taboo?