I can't sing, I'm not a fast learner, I suck at sports, and my family has all found their niche but me. I thought about nursing school until I just realized how stupid I am lol 

How can I get my parents to listen? So my grandpa has had high blood pressure for years and years, my dad has had  diabetes for 29 years AND high blood pressure for more than a decade, when my mom gets sick, it can be from any little thing and it's like she's sick to the point where she's going to die. My grandpa keeps leaving the house with the coronavirus out there and if he gets infected i'm so scared he, my mom, and dad will die if they get infected as well. I tell my mom how serious this is and she gets scared but she doesn't want to tell him to stop going to work. AND on top of that they have my cousins over when her dad goes out to work too and she's not hygienic at all so she touches so many things and my mom doesn't tell her anything or to stop coming over. Sorry my anxiety is just really bad right now so this won't make a lot of sense.

Is it normally one member that causes the dysfunction or is it everyone? My dad is basically an alcoholic and my parents marriage is bad. However I get along great with my mom and I spend a lot of time with her. Are dysfunctional families focused on all family members and not being able to get along with them? 

My Dad hated her for a time and ordered me not to talk to her but my Dad has matured some and allows me to talk to her again. I still want to be careful with her as she still hates her daughter and her daughter hates her even more.

Is my dad in the wrong for disowning my sister? He was paying for her to be in school and she was lying to my parents the entire time. I have no idea where the money was actually going to but my she must've told my mom about it at some point and my father was furious.. I understand she is now a 19 year old adult but when does someone draw the line? Who is in the wrong him or her? She did lie and manipulate our parents. And I consider anyone who does porn to be absolute scum. You can't even get a regular job after doing porn. You're just pathetic scum looking for attention. 

I'm 19. I've always wanted to travel far distances without my parents like my little sister is doing and what people my age are doing. I was only allowed to choose the closest college to my house. Why??? I'm tired of being treated like a baby. How can I make this stop?

I have saved up a lot of money of the years, (tooth fairy money, Christmas and birthday money, etc) and I have saved up for two things with it all, a long board and a Chromebook. My mom won't let me spend the money even though I have thought hard about what I want to spend it on. How do I convince her?

We argue and fight everyday because she bites my head off all the time if I try to offer sense, logic and reason to things she does wrong a lot. Especially financially. So her attitude is "it's over we're done", but its bs because shes begged me crying not to leave her.  She gives me a lot of put downs and makes me feel weak a lot. Tells me to shut up. Doesnt let me talk.  I think it's sad really.   I feel like she forgot how to enjoy life too. Shes always so angry and negative about the world and her problems. So is this hopeless?  We dont get along anymore and I feel it's her lousy attitude.  We been living together for 4 years. I'm hoping she will change back.

my brother told my mom that his friend from my school ( who does actually go to my school ) told him that i do acid, smoke weed in the bathroom at school, am a total pothead, hookup with every senior, and flash on FaceTime for money. And she believes him. she yelled at me for stuff i did not even do and really believes i did them and i feel so bad and guilty for stuff i did not  even do. my brother also thinks i stole his weed pen when i didnt. now my moms making me transfer schools next year because she thinks i have a bad reputation .

Growing up in a family of four people (Mum, dad, me and my sister) it's been quite hard to compete with my parents over who is the better child. In more recent years this means academically, and my mum has been cracking down on education in my household. For some context - my mums never been as attentive as I would've liked her to be, as she juggles three jobs. Recently my dads laziness has gone to a breaking point, crippling my family - after being 'dismissed' from his job, he has done nothing but sit at home for the past 15 months whilst everyone else in the family has cared and provided for him. This has really taken a toll on my mum as she has had frequent anxiety induced attacks. Anyways, going back on topic to the question, my mum has tried many different routes to push me academically, even though she spends no personal time with me. I have grown many hobbies and interests in tasks. I used to sell online merchandise, earning me a considerable 10,000$ in profit. My mum asked me for loans (as she was starting up an office at this time), so out of sheer kindness I gave her money. It has been 8 months since then and I have not earned a single penny back... I then picked up an interest in gaming (and again, for 'academic' purposes) my gaming computer was taken away and given to my dad... Nothing makes me happy anymore and I have a lack of motivation to do anything academic related as it has caused severe pain to me.

My mom is 36 and wears one. It's not that she is too ugly or fat to wear one becaude she definitely isn't but it's just weird to see her in so little clothing and everyone else seeing her too. Is it embarrassing or am I just overthinking it?

I'm a child of rape and I just don't get it. Why the hell would a man do it?  My mom was at a party when she was 19 and there were a bunch of people there but they started leaving as the night went on.  Eventually the home owner left briefly so it was only my mom and some strange man. Well he took the opportunity and started raping her when she was half drunk and impregnated her. She did get him to jail luckily and I have always lived with my mom and technically stepdad but I just call him my dad because I don't wanna call a monster my dad.

I'm 16 a sophomore in high school. I'm a decent student mostly B's and a few A's but some times I barely squeak by with B. I play baseball but honestly I'm not the greatest, I would ride the bench most season but I liked it. When I'm at home and most definitely avoiding homework I'm playing video games. While I can beat some of my friends 7-10 times I'm no pro gamer because that's a possible job now. So that strikes out two job careers, no matter how outlandish they were. I'm not gonna sit here and piss and moan about how my life is terrible. My parents got divorced when I was younger and it didn't impact me much and I have 3 loving parents a mom, a dad and a step-dad. I'm an extreme procrastinator and that's my main downfall. I wait and wait until it's to late and my grades fall. I'm really into computers everything about them. It may seem like rambling but I'm just trying to let y'all understand me. The reason I wrote this is because I have no idea in what to do with my life. My sister just got back what it would cost to go to a really good college D1. That number is zero. With grants and scholarships it's zero. She was able to do that because she is so diverse and has a 3.9 gpa. While i'm sitting with a 3.4 and no diversity. I just need some direction on how to go on. If anyone does see this and can give some advice that would be wonderful. 

My niece doesn't come across as a niece; she comes across as a second cousin. I wonder if half siblings would come across as first cousins, since they have only two grandparents in common.

I told my parents that I plan to move into a dorm when I go to college later this year, assuming the corona virus situation gets better. They pretty much freaked out and told me that I was selfish because I did not think about who will take over my portion of the house chores when I leave. Which I guess is somewhat true as I just assumed they would start cleaning after themselves for once. And to give some background, I am really the only person that does the house chores. My parents' reason for why they do not have to do chores is because they work which I can't really argue with. But what did they expect? It's not like I can keep cleaning their house and yard forever. They insist I take public transportation which is 3 hours to and from the school that I plan to attend. Personally, I do not want to spend 6 hours of my day sitting on a train. Also, the amount of money it would cost for me to use public trans each month is almost the same amount as getting a dorm. I don't really want to leave on a bad note but they aren't really giving me much of a choice. To be clear, they aren't financially supporting me. Any suggestions?  

I live in the Santa Clara County Area where the shelter-in-place has been issued since mid March. I was told and I even looked it up that you could only leave the house if it's absolutely essential for you to leave...ex...groceries, medicine pickups, doctor appointments and work.  I live with my girlfriend and her family(it's her parents home) and on a few occasions had people that do not live in the home or are considered family visit the home. Obviously it's not my home even though I do live here, but I get frustrated since I want to say something about the subject but don't want to offend or upset the family as I have done in the past where I stated my opinion and I got chastised about it. My question is...since it's not my home, should I say something about family and friends gathering at the house even though the county has issued an order to stay home. I'm not too worried, but it is a serious thing as my county has the highest cases of COVID-19 out of the whole Bay Area. Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you.  NOTE: Not that this may matter but may need to say this as it may be a cultural thing, but my girlfriend's family is Filipino as I am half Filipino myself. Her family is from the Islands and I'm Americanized. For Filipino's, family is everything but this is a serious situation.

My brother-in-law (I'm calling him Bob--not his real name) has over 50 watches. He keeps them in wooden boxes glass lids except for the expensive ones which he keeps n their original box on a pillow. He has said the only reason he works is to support his watch habit. And when my my sister was annoyed he bought another watch, he just smiled and said "Just be glad it's not drugs." When my brother was a best man in a wedding, Bob loaned him a watch and told him to guard it with his life. My brother said he didn't know how much the watch cost but he read sure his life was with more, Bob looked at him and said, "You works be willing about that." He has also said that he has watches that cost more than his college education [but he was in the Air Force b4 college so he went for free.] He's part of a Facebook group about guys who talk about watches and take pics. Like today he took a pic of his wrist and behind it was his breakfast and he captioned it Waffels and a Timex Weekender.   That was a cheap watch. You can get one new for about $30, but some of his watches are like $800. And he loves to tell the story when he found an Omega watch at a flea market for $50 that he sold for over $1000. So I know he was joking when he said his watch was worth more than my brother's life. If he really felt that way he would never have let him have it. But this guy is obsessed with watches. And it's not like he can't pay his mortgage or his kids go hungry, but if this normal?

She laughs AT me when I'm talking', ignores me and makes faces . She claims that our dad prefers me and thinks I'm prettier Aswell. Also I'd be practicing in our room playing guitar and singing (we share a room) I'm very good at it and many people tell me so but she distracts me and puts music on her phone in the middle of my practice time so that I have to leave . What is going on?

What do you women think?

I didn't want this to be a "boy who cries wolf" situation, so I've been afraid to completely open up about it and ask for professional help. Anyways, I've been having thoughts about wondering if my father is being abusive or not. He constantly belittles me and my siblings and mother, talking about how I am "good for nothing" and "just as shitty as your mother". He gets upset and yells over everything I do, whether it's a normal task or just a simple mistake. He has violent outbursts where he throws things around, and has laid a hand on me and my younger sister twice. He always goes on about how "You're all going to kill me one day" or "I'm going to end up dying because of the **** you do." which really hits me hard, considering I've already been diagnosed with depression, BPD and anxiety, and as far as I know, he knows about this. He also claims he'll leave us one day, and blames my mother for everything he has to deal with. (Keep in mind, he was the one who impregnated her when she was 15, so he had a decision to leave when I was born, he just didn't do so.) But what confuses me the most is that he's always comes to us afterwards and apologizes, saying "Sometimes you make it hard to control myself" and "I don't like hitting you or yelling at you." If anything, I'm just more concerned about my younger siblings and my mother rather than myself, which is why I'm now afraid to move out, because I'm terrified of what my father will do to them, and it would be selfish of me to go.

Basically I'm kicked out of my mom's side and my dad's side. No one cares about Mr. I've always been on the bottom of life. The lowest in school the lowest in my family, the . Every one hates me and wants me dead.  I've never had a birthday party no friends because my parents chase them away. I live alone in my room . My grandparents treat me like crap. My father is crazy and my mother always defends him. I want to runaway. I can't stand it anymore. 

Let's say he shows his sister a closet full of gifts, and tells her the gifts are from their mom, not Santa.  If she asks her mother just to be sure that her brother's telling the truth, which of course results in the mother finding out who told her daughter about Santa, is it abuse for her to hit her son for that?

Aunts, uncles, and cousins (grandparents have died).  This is on my Dad's side as my father has died and so I do not see them much anymore and miss them. We used to have a big summer gathering but after my grandparents died and then my Dad they no longer had it. We had it last year and it was wonderful and I was devastated 2 years ago when we did not have it. Three years ago my grandmother was still alive and so we had something. I want to do it though no idea what COVID-19 will be like come summer. My Mom's side I see alot cause my Mom is alive.   Any Ideas?

She wants me to hate them also but I cannot do that.

What should we do if our moms and dads get abusive and start making threats, yelling, bullying, insulting and hitting children? What if they refuse to change and get even more abusive? How should address the abuse?