My BF and I had an argument and one of the things he said was, "If you think I'm playing you, you can leave now". What did he mean by this? We did made up and he said he's sorry and that it wasn't my mistake.

Everyone at my office is pretty close. We have a nice little community and everyone is pretty much friends with everyone regardless of our age differences. I really wanted to invite the 4 girls who are closer to my age to hang out outside of work (post COVID crisis, of course), but if feels weird. For 2 years, we have always only ever been work friends, but we have become closer lately at work.  It also feels weird to invite just them and not everyone else at work.  It would feel like we were excluding the other 20ish people we work with that we are all also close to, but the others are all at least 10 years older than me, so it would feel weird hanging out with them outside work honestly. Plus I'm not looking for a huge party. I just want to get closer with my friends from work who are my age. This is my first new friend group post-college, and I'm probably overthinking it, but it just feels like hanging out with friends outside work is so much harder in the real world than it was in college! Any ideas/suggestions? I don't want to hurt feelings of people who aren't invited that I am also close with. I don't want them to feel like they are just too old to hang out with us, even though that is kind of the case. We are all friends at work, but the 4 friends my age are just in the same stage of life as I am, ya know? 

So I knew this girl that I used to work with, her  name was Grace.  Grace was pretty, she was down to earth with an amazing personality.   we could talk about anything,  But as time went on I began falling for her.  I could feel as if Grace liked me by the way she talked, and the way her attitude was with me.... the problem was that Grace was married.   We were always respectful to each other I don't understand why,  but one day Grace was talking to a close friend of mine during break.   She told my friend a secret,  that recently she starting to have feelings for me.    deep down she feels guilty because she's married .   she also mentioned that it would hurt her husband and her kids if something pursued between us.   But I don't understand why Grace would tell my friend this...after she told my friend Grace Deleted my friend from Facebook. Weeks later Grace began Ignoring me!!!!! Why did she ignore me....this situation is confusing??

First and foremost, I am supportive of the LGBTQ+ community. I don't want this post to send off the wrong message whatsoever. Right now, there is a lot going through my mind, and I need some guidance. I'm wondering if anyone has been in this position before. Ok, so to get to the point, I have been best friends with this guy since 1st grade. I am 17 (boy). Even though I moved away, I kept in good touch with all of my friends, including my best friend, whether it was through texting or even going back and visiting. I tell him EVERYTHING. He is the funniest, kindest, most understanding person, you name it. In January, he came out as bisexual. Then, he recently told me he was gay. I kind of had suspected it for a couple of years, but of course I waited until he was ready to tell me. I was super supportive and we talked through it. I'm glad he told me. Anyways, a couple of days ago, he called me and sounded a little nervous. He said he wanted to talk to me about something, and was nervous about how I'd react. With a deep breath and through tears, he told me he had a crush on me. I remember there was a giant pause. He said he couldn't fight the feeling anymore, and he was hoping I'd maybe want to try out being his boyfriend (even though I'm straight). I don't know why this news was so shocking, because now that I think about it, I guess he did like me more than a friend. I just thought we were really good friends.. I told him that I was sorry but I only liked him as my best friend. continued: I realize this must have taken him a lot of courage to say. I wish I had something better to say in response.... We kind of awkwardly wrapped up the phone call.. Now it's been 5 days and neither of us have spoken. Does anyone have advice? I told my sister, and she wasn't really sure what to say. I am worried this ruined our friendship, though I feel like such a bad person.. I am sad and kind of feeling a loss.. I feel weird, too... I wish he never told me... I'm so confused. Help! Just to clarify, I am straight (I am actually in a relationship with a girl right now, and have dated a couple girls before this). I think my friend was just hoping I felt attracted to him in that way, too. I guess the best way to describe our friendship is that we were like twin brothers..really good friends. kind of like a once-in-a-lifetime friend.. but no, I would never want to date him/have that kind of boyfriend relationship...  thank you guys already so much for the quick and really helpful responses.. honestly, this helps a lot. 

A guy who was mean and a bully to a disabled guy in school is now happy perfect has everything he wants and the disabled guy has all the problems

My name is Eric,  and I am 25 years old.  I was friends with this girl from my job named Lily.   Lily and I knew each other for almost 2 years, and I had feelings for her. the problem is that she was married with two kids,  she  would always stare at me like crazy I always made her blush, smile and laugh.  I could feel this weird connection between us.  one day Lily told my best friend that she starting to fall for me, and  that deep down she feels guilty because she's married.   Lily begged my friend to never tell me the truth.    as time went on everything was I'm going fine between us,  but other co-workers began to gossip about us.  some co-workers thought  We were having an affair because we were always together.   my supervisor told us that we need to stop talking at work to avoid conflict.  Lily told me she would have my back and that she missed talking to me.   I know for a fact Lily was still having problems with other workers.  But later I noticed a difference in Lily and she seemed like she was giving me the cold shoulder.  one day it was her birthday and I gave her a gift card but she gave that gift card to my manager and told him that my presence is affecting her. My manager got mad and moved me to a different floor. two weeks later Lily left her job  blocked me from all her social medias. Early February she returned to work after one year of being gone.   she doesn't look at me, she just stares at the ground every time we run into each other.      Is she angry at me????

So, I a bio major hoping to go on medicine path. I have this friend, who is also the same major as I am. Currently I have a 3.95 gpa and if everything does well, I should have a 3.97 at least ending this semester. So in beginning of this year I met a friend person, who is also Pre-med, she had a 4.0 last semester. And I know I am being so selfish and stupid, but this semester I was doing way better than she was, so I was a little happy. She was getting at least 3 C, but now cause of the online classes, she is getting straight A, because of that she is ending with a 4.0 again. Now I know that is insignificant difference, but I just feel like she is better than me, she is vice-president of a club, and I only got a name of a research poster. I am only a freshmen, so I have no reason to be this anxious, and I know I am being ridiculous but I just can't help comparing myself to her and feeling so behind, like she has done this and that. I hate feeling like this, I hate comparing myself, so like I want to avoid talking to her, but the thing is she keeps calling me as we are talking many same classes over summer as well. I just don't want to feel so insignificant and behind, any tips? 

So I have a few friends, but all throughout this quarantine, none of them have bothered to stay connected with me. I mean they sometimes text me to ask about how school is going or about homework and stuff, but that's it. Is it bad that I'm kinda hoping we get in a fight or something, I mean , that would give me some excitement in this time of immense boredom and an excuse to find new friends when I go to college?

so i had this best freind but all of a sudden she started getting super defensive, calling me a hoe, pussy, and a snake all beucase she thought i was lying about something and i keep calmy reassuring her i'm not lying but she won't believe me and she is going off and telling the whole school and i'm so embarrassed and my feelings are hurt that she was capible of such a thing

Its hard for me to trust people now. I have no friends now? How do i gt my trust back? Any advice

i'm a man in my forties who has had a lot of misfortunes and has hard a really hard life so far, never went to college, dropped out of high school, never found any adult relationships, never had a female partner....had mental problems to cope with...and have ended up on my own in a flat with no support network except my elderly parents who live far...and me living and isolated lonely life. but whenever i hear about other peoples lives of success and happiness, i feel jealous and envious, wish i had that too. when i hear about the young woman in university, around other people, having fun and exploring the world...embarking on relationships, travelling etc......i feel envy and wish i had the life that she has? plus, ive aged terribly in my face and look like a bald headed ogre. whats the answer to this?

A couple years ago, I lost a really close friend. They just randomly stopped talking to me without any warning or reason. I tried asking what was going on but they just stayed silent. It was really unusual for them and hurt me, but I knew I couldn't do anything about it. I wish I could have at least got some sort of explanation. It was very random. I have accepted they'll never be back. Well, now I have ANOTHER close friend acting the same way. This one started behaving unusually distant and hadn't spoke to me in about 3 months, so I asked them about it. They answered a couple days later and went on about how they knew they were wrong, they didn't blame me for being upset, apolgoized for hurting me and told me we could still be friends if I wanted to... but we wouldn't be able to talk hardly at all because they claimed they were "too busy". That was in December and they never did say anything else after that. I told them I'd be willing to forgive them and we could talk whenever. They have chosen to stay silent/gone though. I assume the 2nd friend won't be back just as the first one I mentioned. Has anyone else ever had this happen? How did you deal with it? I was very close to both of these people (especially the 2nd one). I have a hard time understanding how someone could be close to someone, then one day randomly decide they were leaving for no reason. In both cases, there were no fights, no arguments... nothing. I guess they weren't true friends, right? =/ Also, me and the 2 people I mentioned are adults... so this has nothing to do with teen drama. I get that you lose friends in life. I grew apart from pretty much ALL my high school friends. I know that's normal. But these two I met in adulthood and we were very close. With the first person, they had talked to me 100% normal then just disappeared from my life and refused to ever speak to me again. Coach Simon - Not sure what the point of all that was. I know how to be a good friend. I know the art of active listening and I know how to check in with friends. I didn't need advice on how to become a better person. I was seeking advice for this situation of me losing 2 friends very randomly without any warning or reason.

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So back in highschool me and my friends used to play this game where we would go a while pretending to be in a gay relationship (emphasis on PRETENDING) and the first to chicken out loses. It's been 13 years and me and my friend that I was pretending to be in a relationship with now own a coffee shop together and have adopted a girl, and I'm starting to wonder if he's actually gay

Couple of friends told me recently that I am self-deprecating a lot.

I feel like the people in my life are much more important to me than I am to them.  The people I consider my closest friends don't seem to think of me the same way, and I always feel like I go out of my way for my friends and family, but no one ever goes out of their way for me.  Is it normal to feel that way?

I'm brainy,boring smart and I ramble a bit,but I also enjoy outdoor activities and other things. Problem is everyone hates me,they ignore me and I just get that vibe! Is it my intelligence?

Hey guys, I'm 19 and I had this super toxic friend during HS. She was bipolar, narcissistic, EXTREMELY negative, super manipulative, and obnoxiously careless about the words that would fall out of her mouth. We were friends for 4 years until things went downhill in the 4th year and we had 3 nasty falling outs until I finally said enough is enough and I'm not taking this kind of abuse anymore. She didn't really believe in me taking the risks I needed for my career either. After the last falling out, it took me a couple months to move on, and another year to fully heal from all the emotional damage. The last couple months I've been starting to go viral on social media and just starting my big break. And now suddenly what a "coincidence" after 2 YEARS, I randomly get a text out of the blue that she wants to meet up with me and go on a ROAD TRIP with me to "work things out" and that she misses me so much. WTF??? She even used OUR FRIEND as a middleman to communicate that to me!! When she left my life, I discovered peace and happiness. My other relationships improved as well. It's also so typical of her to lose friends all the time. She's the only human being on this planet that I've ever experienced a falling out with.  I guess I was such a terrible friend that she was making a fuss in her own head over how to win me back for the last 2 years. 2 YEARS!!! Seriously?? Have any of you had an experience like this with an ex? This is so bizarre! Should I ignore it or say something

In movies and tv shows they always show the main character living in a town and they have their childhood best friend where they spend all their time together and they tell eachother everything. They have been friends since they could remember.  When I was a kid (military family) we moved around constantly so when I would make a good friendship it died off because we move. So now that I'm in my last 2 years of highschool and we stopped moving (dad retired) it's like everyone has their best friends and I have really good friends here but I don't have that one BEST FRIEND.  I'm kinda sorta popular, I have a ton of friends so it's not like I'm not social, it's just I don't have a certain friend I can tell everything to and its honestly more lonely than having just a few friends and then having that one BEST FRIEND. It's like they are all just kinda HS friends not lasting friendships. I would rather have a few friends and have my one best friend where I can do anything with and be friends forever you know?

I wanna get back with my ex boyfriend ( please don't judge me, it's a long story and we ended amicably ) he noticed one of my Snapchat's where I posted a text convo and ppl said he viewed it out of curiosity because I hadn't texted him in a while and the text messages were the only thing he viewed and to be fair he barely gets on social media  Anyways tonight I was watching a movie and I thought one of the characters were cute so I took a pic and put it on my story saying "I might get in trouble for this but —- is cute af" Lol should I delete that? The "I might get in trouble for this" part might sound like I'm dating someone else and I don't want him to think that And I also don't wanna seem thirsty for posting a celeb and saying they were cute on Snapchat. I just don't want it to go too far and make him get turned off.  Should I delete it? Would that make him jealous or something?