My 15 year old daughter's room is being remodeled so she will not be able to get in it for 3 days. I told her she could sleep on the couch or I will put a cot up in the den. She said that will be uncomfortable so she will sleep with her brother those 3 days. Her brother is 18. I told her NO WAY was that going to happen. She told me not to worry. If he tried anything no appropriate, she would cut his dick off. I told her again, she is NOT GOING TO SLEEP WITH HER BROTHER. My son heard me telling her that and told me not to worry. He said he would not do anything sexual with his sister. He said that is incest and it is disgusting. I again told them they are not going to sleep in the same bed EVER. My daughter thinks I am being over protective. Do you think I am?

my mom's aunt (her father's sister) had Alzheimers.. her father doesn't. It may run in her father's side of the family, though. I really hope my mom and her brother don't get it.. What are the chances?  My mom says that she sometimes says the wrong word for what she means (and I have noticed I can do this too). She thinks she is just tired, and I haven't really noticed her do this a lot. She is 49. her memory has never been the greatest (even when she was a kid). she is smart and has a good memory for some things, just often forgets names of random ppl (but lots of us do this). 

my aunt took me in when my dad kicked me out... but now I work a full time job and after work, my uncle makes my aunt leave leaving me with a 13, 10.9 and 9 month baby to watch and it stresses me out because I also have online school work to do.. How do I tell them nicely its too much, because they took me in and I don't wanna be mean

I saw it yesterday.

She suddenly want to be best friends and act like things are ok, nothing happened etc. She claims not to remember any of it either. I have some good memories, but a lot of really bad ones. She raised me all wrong and to be scared of people too, and not stand up for myself. I was always criticized personally.

Ok so I had money and reviewed money and I showed the money it my dad and now I feel like I will fail at everything because of bad luck after showing my money I received to my dad because I know that there is a ton of voodoo in my family and from the culture and tribe associated with the country I come from. I feel like I can't focus when I try to study now because my dad showed everyone the money I recieved and bad luck is going to come to me because my dad showed the money I received to everyone. What do you think of this situation and what should I do?

Last time I mentioned something, she cried. I feel smothered and kind of icky. Like I dont want to text or talk every day. I dont. I cant be a jerk ignoring, but she cant go a day without texting like I'm her boyfriend or something.  We didnt get along for years either. In fact I stayed away from her. She helps me out though when ever I hit rock bottom. I dont mind catching up, but I need more breathing room. She doesnt change though, I also deep.down dont really like her much. She was very mean to me sometimes and controlling. I got treated like a tag along. Anyway I want to live my life with my fiance. 

we have a 4 year old and we never had a vacation. I was with a child and now I feel burned out and wasted. We even didn't go out these years. I really want to visit my friends in another state. Grandma won't watch our child, she is not into kids. How do you do this? I mean vacations just you and your husband. I am not sure I can trust a live in nanny. My option is to take my child with us but then I will end up babysitting again. any suggestions will be appreciated, the vacation I'm planning will be 2 - 3 days only

Not that she always does this but if she has done something to trigger me to get angry, she gaslights me. Why is she doing that?

She has had sex with my dad and stepfather and probably also some other guys but I'm not sure so I can't know.

My dad is a straight up asshole. He's been abusive to my mom physically and mentally/emotionally abusive to my siblings and I.   The last argument we had was about my bf who he hates because my bf never asked my dad "permission" to date me (we're 24). My dad also yelled at my bfs face, told him to fight, and then called my bf a pussy bc he refused to stoop down to my dads level. I'm moving out with my bf and my dad hates it so much but I can't be home anymore. That night that my dad yelled at my bf (for no reason, just because we were explaining how we were going to move out) my dad also accused my bf for being a bad person and started attacking him. I got upset bc my dad never attacked or defended me when my ex bf raped me. My dad just brushed it off. I brought this up to my dad while In the argument with my ex and my dad said "you never told me that happened" when I did and all my dad said was "well you were in a relationship so being in a relationship consents to sex even if your drunk and he's sober".... my dad still will not defend me against my rapist and hates my bf for being kind to me. How do I just break off communication with my dad? Is he right for acting up? Am I wrong for disliking him?

When my mom is clearly at fault, such as annoying me or getting me angry, when I confront her, she'll change the story from her end and tell me that something else happened and I should stop getting upset and let go. Is this form of gaslighting too?

For example, she'll do something to annoy me or piss me off or get angry at me for some unreasonable reason from her end, usually twisted perception or some sort. Then when I tell her why I am upset about what she did, she'll quickly bring up just about anything else she can and doesn't want to be called out for it or she'll just change the story. Why does she do that? Is this gaslighting? I am so sick of it because I can't stop arguing over because it's always in a loop. She'll try to guilt trip me or changes the story as if it's false memory.

Im serious.  It's disgusting. I cant tolerate it anymore. Yes I have a severe mental illness and I should obviously move out but it will have to be when I have mental clarity. As of now I am sharing the bills. Anyway it's horrible. Im not going to go into detail because its horrible and makes me sick to my stomach. She constantly yells at me for sniffling when I have allergies but when I look over at her or her direction 9/10 she's in her nose. I want to tell her in an effective manner, and I have to be careful with how I word it because she has severe anger issues. Her anger issues are severe to the point where she threatened to cause me bodily harm at times and my older sister had to stop her at times for almost damaging my vehicle. 

Hey, I'm a 16 year old.  I live with parents who "care" about me a lot.  But I've found it extremely emotionally exhausting living under their roof.  They are very strict, controlling and downright negative and offensive (more so my father).  He came from a very abusive household so I understand that its hard not to pick up some of the same habits.  But they cant realize that I can make decisions for myself.  I basically barricade myself in my room and they get mad at me for that, but everytime I go downstairs I'm met with so many personal attacks and negativity.  I do so much more for them than other kids, dont do drugs, drink, have sex, or anything that is stereotypical "bad kid" behaviour but still, they act like im one of those teenagers on Dr. Phil.  There is an extreme lack of trust and I dont know where it comes from.  I cant tell them any of my problems anymore cause it normally ends in a fight.  I have no privacy at all.  Fighting all day everyday. I pay 60 dollars a month for my phone, but they still act as if its theirs.  Im trying to do the best I can by talking to my best friend.  She is my life and knows more about me than my parents Im sure.  Anyway now for my actual question.  How do I move out asap in an expensive city. Are there things to invest?  I need advice other than the usual get a job.

I don't feel as if they should be trying to charge me rent. I am going to move out soon anyways, but I'm just curious what other people think. Things I already pay for: Car insurance  Car expenses, gas, repairs, car itself Phone bill My furniture All of my groceries My FULL TIME college tuition Entertainment Phone, laptop, etc Anything else you can think of other than rent, utilities, and medical insurance (I pay deductibles) I don't feel as if I should have to pay rent while living at home because I'm very clean and neat, I just work and do school and mind my own business, my parents stated they don't actually need the money. Their argument is they had to pay rent as a young adult. I feel as if they should want me to save for college because nursing school is very expensive. I feel they shouldn't charge me rent until I become a nurse (2 more years), by then I'll have moved out. They dropped out of college so maybe they don't understand. They want to charge me $500 monthly. I am 20 years old. I would much rather move out than pay that to live at home. Please call me out if I sound entitled, I won't be offended, just need other points of view. 

Like most, my job has cut my hours due the virus. I am only over by 2 dollars of my weekly benefit amount. At least in the paper it states you will not receive benefits if your weekly gross exceeds the weekly benefit. Tried calling unemployment but clearly they are busy.

I am 30 years old living with my parents due to financial reasons. I'm not dependent on my parents financially and I do pay for most of the house bills. Problem is, she feels like she is always entitled to have the last say in everything, including decisions I make for myself. I constantly remind her that I'm an adult now and should be able to make my own decisions. But every time I say that, she'll say that now I'm old enough, I think I can do whatever I want, I don't need her. She'll say things to make me feel guilty, like I'm abandoning her. Especially right now, she always have something negative to say about my boyfriend. She doesn't want me to move out, and definitely not to another state. She called me selfish for wanting to move away from her, even though I assured her that I'm not abandoning the family. Every time I try to reason with her and talk it out, she'll only end up raising her voice and get angry. And she'll get very defensive when I point that out, saying that she is just protecting me. I told her I understand that, but she also need to learn to let me make decisions and respect my decisions, to which she'll only get more upset saying I don't care about her. She would ask if her love for me cannot be compared to the love with my boyfriend. Just that alone, I think she is being irrational. How can I talk it out her her?

My mom lost her job and got behind on her mortgage payments and was in danger of losing her home of 30 years. Of all the people she could of asked for help, she asked my ex husband Bill. She really liked Bill when we were married and he really liked her. I guess that friendship did not stop with our divorce like I thought it would. Bill immediately paid the back mortgage payments and also he paid 1 years mortgage payments in advance. He also used his business contacts to get her a new job. That is totally in character with Bill. As long as I have known him, if he finds out someone needs help, he helps them. Mom went from VERY DEPRESSED to VERY HAPPY in one day. I am not sure how I should feel about this. I and my siblings agree that mom should of asked us first for help but we all admit we could not have helped her like Bill did. We just do not have that kind of money. I told Bill we would somehow repay him. He told me he would not accept any repayment. He said my mom was great to us when we were married and this was his repayment to her. Am I off base to think mom should of asked us first before going outside the family for help. Is it possible that it would be too embarrassing for mom to ask her family for help?

I've been shunned by my cousin and aunt for over 5 years now and I don't even know why. I've tried asking but it just escalated the meanness towards me. It seemed to all start when there was a death in the family. At the funeral, they were whispering about me, calling me names, rolling their eyes at me, etc. I was uninvited to a holiday get together after that and then called a b*tch. A couple months ago, I reached out to my cousin to try to make peace. I told her I loved her and if I did something to please tell me so we can talk it out. I apologized several times. She shot back and said she's moved on and only wants to be cordial with me at family events. So I told her that at least I tried, and I'll continue to pray over this and that Grandma would be sad. I also said that I hadn't done anything to deserve such disrespect. Her mom texted my mom and said that I need to learn to shut my mouth and think twice about what I've done...and that we are no longer invited to her wedding. She told my mom that I'm not wanted in their business and that we need to "grow up." Wtf. If I did something that bad, why not just tell me like an adult? I can't think of what I could have done to get this treatment but why would people be so mean for no reason?? They never let me talk about things that make me happy, they take it as me "bragging." I don't know what to do. If I did something, I'd like to know! What do I do?? This is escalating my anxiety. I just wanted to make peace.

She would be an aunt but I was 12 when I saw her last and this would be 22 years ago. She and my parents had a falling out when my grandparents died so I just followed my parents lead and don't speak to her or her kids. I remember her kids and played with them when little. My mother wishes not to speak to her but wonder if I should reach out? Do I attend the funeral? My parents said they will not be attending but will write to the children.

One woman, the ex-wife of an uncle, poisoned her daughter against us. The ex-wife is not family anymore but the daughter still is. Another woman, my mother's sister, has extreme love/hates. Either you are the greatest she has ever known or you are Satan. She hates her son from her ex-husband and insults him and tries to form alliances against him. As a result my father uses me as a pawn to get her back (he would be the brother-in-law). Her husband stands by and watches as he has no balls. Meanwhile my mother was similar to this sister of hers when I was growing up. Trying to poison my mind against people and she was VERY similar to uncle's ex-wife, almost like a clone. Lastly, the stable aunt has deep bitterness at the other sister and their parents. The one who has it made is Uncle 2, he is a Roman Catholic Priest and never married, He only comes around twice a year (he is actually a monk). So what do I do with all the damage the women cause? The men are all fine, it is the women. It all comes down to me because I experience the pain.

T Sorry for long post. I have lived in my sisters shadow for most of my adult life and probably kid life too but was too dumb to realize. My sister who is very financially stable and has done very well for herself has helped out our parents for quite a long time. I have helped financially when I could. A couple of months ago my mom thinks she sends my sister a text thanking her for all she has done and that she was the only one they trusted. However she sent the text to me. I kept the text and showed it to my husband. I am not sure if I should just bury this hurt like so other many hurts has been buried or should I say something? There has been more incidents that has happened prior to and since this one but this particular one just has me weighted down. Should I just keep my mouth shut as I have done or let it out. I am in my 50's and so is my sister. Mom is in her 70's. I do realize she is older and mistakes happen and why this has me so weighted I am not sure.. but its really getting old. Ideas please? And thanks for listening.

I am a 13 year old boy and recently asked my parents for a Nintendo switch lite. I made a powerpoint presentation to give them a closer look. My parents say that it costs too much especially during these hard times but didn't say no. It more of a : I will think about it. My Birthday is in 3 weeks and im unsure if I should just cancel my Birthday wish and move on or just wait and risk dissapointment. I could use some advice and thoughts.

Many years ago, my father told me that while my parents were together, he had sex with every single one of my mother's friends. My parents split up 15 years ago because my dad had a child with another woman. Last week while my mom and I were talking, I told her what my dad had said to me about sleeping with her friends. Did I do the right thing? I feel like things are awkward between me and my mother, more so on my end because I feel like it hurt her and that wasn't my intention! I try to be open and honest with my mom, and I tell her everything...but now I feel like this could cause a wedge between us. My parents both have had long term relationships after they split up so I didn't think it would affect her as much now that a whole 15 years have gone by....but my parents were together 30 years....so maybe my mom still does have some type of love still for my dad? I don't know, but I feel so guilty for telling her what my dad told me, I feel like a snitch...what do I do???

T he other night before eating dinner, I reminded my boyfriend to wash his hands and he laughed and rubbed his hands all over my face! Prior to dinner we had been out and about. He pumped gas and went inside the restaurant to pick up our food! He never washes his hands or takes precaution. He just doesn't take covid19 seriously and the WORST part about it all is that he comes over my house every day and I live with my parents who are high risk. Both are over 60 years old and my mother has diabetes and heart disease and my dad has a history of asthma!I've talked to him about this and he doesn't take it seriously! He laughs and says "if I catch coronavirus then I catch it"We are in our 20s  and he currently still has a job, so he is constantly in an out of the house.I don't know if I'm overreacting but I feel like  dumping him for even putting me and my parents at risk like thatWhat should I do????!

It's pretty rare that he does this but sometimes he does it. It looks kinda weird and I'm confused.

First of all.. If you're not American.. Shut the f)uck up and stop responding to my content. SHUT THE F)UCK UP. You're not relevant. Number Two.. my dad was born in the early 1940s.. In NEW YORK CITY, USA... Actually in truth, a much more violent time than today. Violence was all around.. THEY'LL BEAT THE BEAT THE F)UCKING SH!T OUT OF YOU.. JUST BECAUSE YOURE THERE ! And there was automatic gunfire in the streets of New York. The Looney Tunes and Tom and Jerry.. Helped teach untrammeled violence to the children, which fueled violence in the streets to a fair extent.. And back then, there was no going to the suburbs.. Back then if you went to the suburbs or the countryside to attempt to escape the violence.. There was no break to be had, it just got worse. Not all like today. Number 3... My Dad is was..before died.. HELLOOO!!!!! He was A MILITARY VETERAN.. HELL-F)UCKING LOW!!!! RETARD... HE THOUGHT STRATEGICALLY... TACTICALLY.. HE SIZED THINGS THE F)UCK UP... HES A PREDATOR...HES A KILLER.. HES A ******* SPY!!!- HE'S A F)UCKING SOLDIER.. HELLO DUMBASS!!!!!! Number three.. WHEN HE SAW THAT I PH6SICALLY OUTMATCHED HIM.. HIS RESPONSE TO GET MAD.. BECAUSE I HAD MORE STRENGTH AND ENDURANCE THAN HE HAD TO PLAY WITH... THE REASON WHY HE WOULD BE MAD ABOUT ME BEING BIGGER AND STRONGER IS BECAUSE HE ABUSED ME.. AND HE KNEW THAT I WOULD COME THE F)UCK AFTER HIM... HE KNEW THAT BECAUSE HES A F)UCKING.. SPY!!!!!!!!! now.. What part of that do you not understand ?

My sister weighs 245 pounds. Me and my dad lived about 3 miles from the playground and basketball court and baseball field. Messing around when I was 14 years old.. I had my sister ride ontop of me, there, and back... One leg on each shoulder of mine.. With my dad watching on. I thought that I was having a good time. The fact is, he was madder, and madder, and madder.. By time we got home.. He wouldn't say a word to me... He drank a beer, threw the empty glass bottle at the TV.. Broke the TV with the bottle.. And left.. He didnt come back until 9 pm the next night. So if he was so f)ucking innocent, why would he be mad not only at the things I'm physically capable of.. But what back then, my growing ? His anger tells me now today.. That he knew that the things he did to me when I was little was wrong.. And going to come back to bite him. It did, a year later in a fight that he started.

Im coming of age and im growing attracted to men way older than me but only men I am related to family wise is this normal 

I think that kids who are suicidal and yet want to live on for their families should just be removed from the face of the Earth. That way, people can be all about themselves and their families can be destroyed. I like seeing families be destroyed, especially those who choose to live on for them despite being suicidal. These people make me sick......ugh.....

I always see these posts on social media of 16 year olds showing off their new cars on their 16th birthday that their parents gave them. New cars are really expensive, and the insurance rate for 16 year olds is super high. My parents wouldn't even fathom the idea of getting me a car in high school, which I admit really inhibited my freedom. I'm 19, asian, and in college paying my tuition by myself, and my parents say that if I want a car I need to get one myself.  Is it wrong that I think these people are spoiled and have insanely generous parents?

I've been dating my boyfriend for over a year. My son and I are staying at his place during the quarantine. My son is 10, and his father is not involved. He has not seen his father since he was 4, and he adores my boyfriend.  Every morning my boyfriend gets up and 6am to run a lap around the neighborhood, and do needed yardwork. My son wants to feel like a man, so sometimes he joins him. Occasionally they'll play football or something in the backyard afterwards. When it's done, they've been showering together in the master bathroom (huge walk-in glass shower). To be clear, I trust my partner and I know there's nothing going on. I'm in the next room when they shower and I can hear everything anyway. I have no problem with the ritual, since it's like a locker room and it's male bonding...but my aunt found out about it and she's giving me an earfull. She's saying that my son will have issues and grow up twisted because of it. She won't leave me alone about this. I told my partner and shrugged saying "We don't have to shower together." but my son feels like it's their "morning guy time." Should I fight my aunt on this or tell her to sod off?

My baby brother cries literally all the time, even when he has what he wants. He's so selfish and spoilt. And he keeps trying to kick me and gets mad when I dodge. He even uses me to get to his aunt. Not to mention he also disturbs me when I use the computer. And when he can't fall asleep he cries. He refuses to eat unless he watches stupid cartoons.

Ok, I'm going to try to make it short, but with details? Basically, my brothers and I got to spend the night at my grandmothers house. While we were there, we told her about not so great events that have been happening at home that I don't want to put here. The next following day, our mom came back to pick us up, and my grandmother and her had a heated conversation about how she should treat her kids. The argument went on for several minutes until our mom stormed out our grandmothers house. I feel like I just destroyed my family's relationship with each other, or just me and my brother. Whenever we're around in the house, my mom wouldn't really respond to me or them when we try to ask questions or talk to her. She would kinda give us glares here and there. I'm not sure what to do to fix the problem I created..

Ok, for starters, I'm a 15 year old girl (the oldest). I have straight A's, play the violin and piano, and do sports. Basically, I do everything my parents ask me to do. My problem is, everyone in the house pushes me around! They mock me, laugh at me, and just don't respect me as a person.  For example, the other day I used my sister's comb without asking. (she's 13). She found out and threw a huge tantrum, she screamed at me, threw things, the whole ordeal. My dad yelled at me and demanded I buy her a new one. I felt bad so I got her an upgraded brush and did all of her chores as a way to apologize.  The thing is, she takes my stuff all the time, I just don't say anything! She took my mug a few weeks ago and had refused to give it back (not the first time). We got into an argument and I told her to bring my mug back and she said no. My mom DEFENDED her and told her "well when she's done using it, she'll give it back" and they started laughing. It makes me so angry because when I did this, I do everything to make it right and it's still not enough, but when she does, it's "not a big deal" I also have OCD ticks, which my dad mocks a lot. I literally do EVERYTHING my parents expect me to do, and I have extremely bad anxiety and depression because of it. I just want my family to stop treating me like a joke because I'm working my *** of every day :( I've asked them to stop and they don't listen. Am I just too soft?

unfortunately my brother suffered some pretty serious injuries (broken sternum, ribs, concussion). this guy got mad about something that involved him last year and hurt him pretty badly.. he was in the hospital for a week and a half. a day after the accident, my parents decided to alert the school since kids had heard about this, and then principal & superintendent sent out an email to community telling ppl vaguely what happened.. my brother is ok luckily and now he is just pissed off at my parents. shouldn't they have asked him before they wrote to school? maybe the school reached out to them, but still, my brother wants his privacy protected? I think my parents shouldn't have done this. anyone else? 

Im having falsh backs like few years ago about I remember waking up at night seeing him in my room, me and my sister's room, just walking in my room, so I started to get scared a bit so i locked the door, next day i see him trying to open my room's door with a fork at night, so the next day i did something so no one can open it again, but seeing him at night in my room standing that's creepy! Especially that me and my bro are not close  So what was going on? I don't know why I remembered that, but now since i did I really wanna know what was on his mind Pls help ?

I am 19 years old, and live with my parents and brother. My father is incredibly emotionally abusive to everyone in the house. As I got older, I started to defend myself. He calls it disrespect. He screams, curses and puts everyone in the house down constantly. He is a tyrant. I hate it here. He is childish and petty and does things on purpose to try and push me down and show his authority like making me walk out and come back into a room if he didn't like how I did it. I tried to ignore him, he does more on purpose. I am so unhappy, I do not know what to do. There is nobody to help me he tells everyone I am the problem and of course they believe him. I am going to dorm my next semester If we can go on campus but I do not think I will make it that long. I just cry in my room all day, I do not eat in fear if I leave my room I will see him. I want to runaway but don't know if that is smart. I have a few hundred saved up, but our bank accounts are conjoined because when I opened it I was a minor so he is the authorization person and he gets my notifications but it is still all my money. My mother isn't going to leave him but she agrees with everything I said about him. He pushed her and put his hands on me the other day. please just give me advice. I am not interested in fixing our relationship, as soon I am out of here I am done with him and if that means the rest of my family then so be it. please give me some advice thank you. I am seeing the answers and thought I should add some more info. I have a steady income, I have two jobs but they are minimum wage and I am a full time student. I know I should move out but Is that the smartest thing? I am not sure of everything living on my own, or with a roommate would entail financially. 

I'm still upset with my dad. It bothered me that he didn't respect me when I told him that I wasn't going to get out of the car. Especially with this virus, it's scary.he asked for help and lied that I wouldn't help him when I was helping him but he decided to be rude with me and yell at me. Then on my mom's birthday he didn't even say happy birthday to her at all. This has happened in the past he didn't say happy birthday to my mom.   I totally forgot his birthday and my sister reminded me about his birthday. But I don't feel like telling my dad happy birthday after how he treated me. I felt insulted I felt belittled because my dad doesn't respect me  and my siblings.  Should I say happy birthday even though he hasn't said sorry to me?  I feel like I shouldn't. What do you think?  

I know someone who when he was 14 his mom carried him over her shoulder the fireman's carry she was in her late 40s / early 50s kind of thin and looked exactly like Brady Reiter and he was 14 and thin.

I'm having the worst quarantine ever. Everything was fine until 2 weeks ago when my moms bf came home from work he's a truck driver.. he's very ghetto very ratchet and very loud..always slamming stuff..blasting his music. Singing on the top of his lungs he'll do it for hours because he just thinks he's so cool and funny..he's very obnoxious like a circus clown..I'm always in my room but he hangs out next to my room so I could hear him..I'm always angry and in a bad mood just because of him..I hate his company so much..please help?? I just feel like I wanna die that's how stress he makes me when you have personal issues the last thing you need is loud people triggering your nerves.. 

Me and my boyfriend were asked to take care of my grandma after a stroke and be her caretaker and we agreed to so she didn t have to go to a nursing home. We had to give up our condo and pay half of her bills and we didn t know it was going to cause so much heart ache for us. It s not the fact that we had to take care of her. It s the fact we were always judged and she liked to instigate to the family and never appreciated what we did for her and always wanted us to do more and we had to ask permission all of a sudden to leave even though we have been able to do it and she was fine to be on her own for a couple hours and she is actually stronger so I don t know the issue all of a sudden. The issue is all of a sudden she wants us to do all of this handyman work that electricians roofers and plumbers are trained to do. Our knowledge was that she was going to hire a professional to do it and then a family member would come with the items and we are expected to do it even though she knew we already had plans and she would pull the guilt trip on us saying she will get in her wheelchair and do it herself making us look bad. There are other family members there but she expects us to do it even though we are not comfortable doing it and don't know what we are doing. She doesn't care about our safety because when I told her I was allergic to bees and afraid of heights she said she will call 911 if she had to. I tried to talk to her about how she handled it but she started yelling She all of a sudden mentions and feels since we dont pay rent anymore that we owe her even though we moved in to keep her in her own home and we enjoyed the place we were staying at and made a sacrifice for her. We asked our family to stop encouraging her and buying stuff right away until we are asked to do it and agree to do it on a certain day but they continue and tell us we know that she wants it done but she said she was going to ask a professional to do it.   We end up doing it and she gets mad at us for having a hard time doing the task because we don't know what we are doing and said she will get in her wheelchair and do it even though we are keep on trying and wants to be over our shoulders I wish this wasn't true. I have been dealing with this judgement and tried to talk to my grandma and family about it and they think I am taking it personal or should let it go but they are not experiencing the judgement. The electrical issues has just been happening for two weeks. It hurts because I feel like I am not part of the family anymore and that grandma doesn't love me because she is always so helpful and calls me out in front of visitors Auto correct.  I did not not check before submitting.  I meant how should I address the issue with her and my family without any drama happening again especially since it has been addressed twice and it caused drama both times and they keep on doing it but worse each time. With the Bill's, she gave us the amount and told us is what half because me and my boyfriend are one unit but now we have to check the mail and the amount is actually more than all Bill's together but we decided not to argue Also we were told since we were helping her out it would only be half. It was supposed to be more until we had to do more but it was only a $50 split. I would clean and she would yell at me while I am cleaning. She treats us like her slaves. She was talking about calling 911 if I was to fall off the roof or get stung by a bee implying i still have to do it. She also lies and tell family that she asked us and we refused but we didn't know about her wanting to do it literally the second  She was alone most of the time when we were working all of a sudden even though she is stronger she needs upbeat her backing call and God forbids we take some alone time and fo honour own room. It turns to drama What I really want is them to ask if we are able to do it and not drop it on us and ask us the day before especially knowing beforehand that they want us to do it and respect our plans

I'm a 20 year old woman. She keeps bringing up my "future husband and children".She thinks that some amazing man is going to come sweep me off my feet, and she brings up this hypothetical man in conversations about the future.I've never dated before and don't plan to. Men seem to reciprocate those feelings, because I've never been asked out before. I don't even like kids, and it's kind of hard to get pregnant if men don't want to have sex with you. Not that I would keep it if I ever do manage to get pregnant. Should I just stop talking to her? Because I've had enough of her fairytales.  I am not sexually frustrated, I'm irritated with her forcing her delusions on me.