My wife and I have been married for 5 months. I'm 26 and she's 28. She's a full time grad student and teaches at her university. I'm a full-time Uber/doordash driver and go to school. I've been in school for 7 years at my community college and an international student. My wife is a smart and pretty woman. Her family loves and accepts me. However, I feel like my wife doesn't see me as a man sometimes. Gender roles was big for my parents. My wife know this. I admit that I sometimes tell her that a man should provide while a woman should be pretty and do house stuff.  I want to be seen as the man. Tonight my wife's car stopped working. I tried helping by calling friends but nobody helped. She became irritated after I told her we can figure it out tomorrow and leave the car in a lot overnight. She went ahead and ordered a tow. I think she know I didn't have money since I didn't offer.  She isn't talking to me. This morning, she paid for a new couch. I've been talking about getting a new one but haven't. I discovered last night that she wanted to deliver for Uber Eats and I got mad at her and said she can stay home. She pay bills and doesn't ask me for money for anything. I think she's mad because I really don't do anything for her. I want to be the man but I see how she needs things and I can't give her things. Am I inadequate? 

Or does she need to learn to survive on her own, in case her husband/significant other dies first (leaving her possibly homeless in the event that he barely made over minimum wage?

3 years ago I cheated on him and slept with another man. There's no excuse for cheating and I definitely regret doing that. Although I felt like my husband wasn't being the best husband towards me and still feel like he's controlling. I also feel like he might have bipolar problems. One day he's overly affectionate the next he's cold towards me. So sick of his black and white attitude towards me. We both agreed that we could hang out with the opposite sex and he said he was okay with it when I asked him a couple months ago. Now is the day where I wanted to hang out with my friend he's coming over to the house to watch movies with me. My husband acts like I'm cheating on him by having a conversation with a friend and watching movies. I told him I wouldn't have a problem with him hanging out with his female friends if that's what he wanted. He said he spoke to a lot of married couples who said that its wrong and disrespectful to hang out with the opposite sex while you're married and even when you're just boyfriend and girlfriend. My husband said " one thing will lead to another and an accident will happen. It's better to not even tempt yourself" I was like " I'm not even attracted to my male friends first of all. I don't find any of them to my sexually attractive and especially the one that I'm watching a movie with." Me and this male friend just have a lot of things in common and so it's easier to do activities with him. Me and my husband have absolutely nothing in common. We don't even like the same food I have to cook two separate meals every night  Me and my friend share the same views the same morals the same religion we share the same hobbies and have the same outlook on life. I'm not going to get with him romantically but it's just easier to hang out with him instead of forcing my husband to watch a movie with me  Recently my husband has not even wanted to watch movies with me anyways  Also I told my husband I wanted to drink a little wine and he told me the type of person I am I won't be able to handle the wine I might spiral out of control and end up cheating again. What the hell? See I told you! Controlling me like I'm a child  I have some female friends that share my hobbies but none of them live near me 

My married female cousins are homely and they married good guys like I did, whom my parents arranged for me. I am not homely by their and my aunt's and uncles definitions, they consider me to be more attractive and vivid than they are and so does my husband who expects me to be homely instead. Is being homely a good thing in a relationship and a marriage while being attractive is bad which can make a good person feel insecure? My cousins and I married homely guys whom our families approve of because none of the males in my family are that handsome/attractive.

You gotta learn to let things go.  I've learned this the hard way a few times in my life. I used to be anal retentive like you but life doesn't care.  I learned to let things go to make life in general more enjoyable. You should too. Learn to let bygones be bygones.  Bury the hatchet so to speak.

I hate to burst your murrige bubble but its no wonder youalls have problems!  You caint even come up with a decent joke or come backs. Man....I need to go back to politics section.....you so DUUUUUULLLLLL! And to that one dude about autism....STOP IT already!

My cousins have bugged me about this on Facebook and boasted about being pure, chaste, clean, and virginal and that they've never been touched by other guys or touched other guys before marrying their perfect husbands. They tell me good guys want girls who are not desired by other guys, especially in the case of my cousins who are attractive to one guy only and not others, unlike me in which I can't do anything to make me look like black sheep among them. They also tell me that the reason why my husband is always disappointed, jealous, insecure, and angry with me is because of my past with other guys, from what they've heard from my parents and that I talk to and attract other guys as well. Do I have to fit in with my female cousins just because I come from a collectivist, conservative family and not do what my childhood female friends have done in which their families and relatives support them although my childhood female friends have told my how rude and disrespectful my relatives and family are? I don't have a good relationship with my family and relatives because of all these double standards and restrictions they place upon me. I'm torn between groupthink and individualistic thinking. I am in an arranged marriage

I'll tell you what:  You get to hide behind these stylish masks! BTW today, I seen too many of yalls masks not being worn properly.  I know you wanna hide that pretty face of yours but you aint supposed to: 1) Stick your nose out 2) Leave straps not fully secured just dangling there 3) Have it loose fitting mask where there are huge gaps allowing air in from the sides. 4) You aint supposed to crochet your own mask! 5) Make sure its on straight, it bothers the hell out of me if its crooked. And the list goes on.

Their mother is a very sick and bitter person who likes to hold grudges and that I think might be poisoning her adult children.

My husband's parents moved in with us a couple of months ago because they are elderly and need some extra help. It has been a rough adjustment but I think we all have found our balance. Except now my husband says he doesn't feel comfortable having sex with his parents living down the hall.  What do I do? Are we really never going to have sex in our own home again? I wouldn't have agreed to them moving in, if I thought I would lose intimacy with my husband. Every time I initiate, he turns me down. This is not only hurting my feelings and self-worth but our relationship as well.

We are the young couples and have a 6-month baby. After we had baby, I became a housewife stay at home to take care the baby, so I do the most housework, cooking and take care the baby. My husband to earn money to support our life. He is a nurse and usually work 13 hours a day, 3 days a week. I know he works very hard, and I try my best  do not bother him during his work days, makes him has enough time to sleep. he has 4 days a week at home, he spend his most time to play games and never help me share any housework and take care the baby  besides I ask him to do.His life is work, sleep, eat food and play game.  For example, he only take care the baby, if I need to cook or go grocery shopping. If I was at home, he usually didn't take care baby for 30 minutes a day. There's one thing that makes me really angry about him, we just move to new house, I ordered some furniture online. The furnitures delivered for a week, but he never open the box and try to built the up. They are too heavy to me, if I can do it, I won't waiting for him. So I mad with he and I told him, he is not robot and the house is not only mine. Why he only do the work I ask? So we argued about our works. He think he earn money is hard, and I take care family and baby are easy thing. I don't want to separate the work, but we are a family. as team, we should help each other. I don't believe all Americans husbands and fathers. If they earn money, they don't have to take care baby and housework. 

I think coronavirus will end around 8 May 2020 but I am not scared of coronavirus and I had enough of them I think now it is the coronavirus peak and the latest I think coronavirus will end is around 16 July

With that in mind, would you mind...... sharing your seedy history with me!Dis for your own good.Now fess up! Let me give you some good background music while you divulge your secrets! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9E6b3swbnWg

I don't really know what to do. Any advice? She just isn't productive at all in her life. She can't keep a job, has been fired or quit 3 jobs in the past year, failed out of school in the fall semester, re-enrolled in a different school online and is taking only 2 classes and is failing 1 of them and has a C- in the other one. The only reason she has a C- is because I took one of her exams for her online and got her a A on it because I didn't want her to fail out again. She lives with her parents, she's 28 years old, and sleeps in until 1pm everyday. I ask her what shes doing in her free time and she says she is always "busy". But never says what she does all day or all night if we aren't hanging out. She has no hobbies at all which leads me to believe all she does is sleep all the time. She struggles to focus on her homework for more than 15 minutes when i try to work on it with her. I feel like she is looking for me to provide for her, and basically be her father and fix her life for her and become my dependent. I have a full-time job, and can't be there to pick up for her. She is very eager to get married and always asks when I'm going to marry her When I work on homework with her, she gets frustrated after 15 minutes and slams her book closed and says she is exhausted and stressed out and needs to take a nap or a break to watch TV or YouTube or go on Instagram

I lost count at week 5 maybe 6....I don't know anymore.  Its all a blur.  And how are you marrieds doing now? Everything still rainbows and sunshine for your marriage? If you can't handle a simple lock down with the spouse then you have no business being married. (I love this line, thanks to whoever introduced it to me!)

My married female cousins have been telling me never to keep my options open and expand my dating pool, even before each of us got married to our husbands, because good guys might think of us, including me, as being dirty whores (who are touched by other guys or have touched other guys) and/or sellouts. Girls who play the field are also considered dirty sluts and sellouts as well in my family. My male cousins and my brother can date and marry whomever they wish but my female cousins and I can only date and marry certain types of people. And no, we were not allowed to have any male friends and/or work with all sorts of males before marriage. I can't get a divorce from my husband who my family and relatives wanted me to marry or else, I might act like a man-eating whore, according to them, and end up with the wrong people so I have to stay with him because he is all that there is, according to them and him. Would you agree with my family, relatives, husband, and in-laws about this? @Xavier-Adventurous, stunning, and brave women are called sluts and sellouts.

I have been reading several questions on this section (marriage and divorce) and not surprises me how liberals perceive men as disposable diapers .. Consider the following questions that were asked recently on this section : My husband refuses to go down on me, but he wants the favor.  I have never experienced this before...What do I do? https://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20200417023949AAQkbo7 f your man made you work during the coronavirus while pregnant, would you still be with him? https://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20200418025132AA17eTc (by the way, he works but he happens to need help paying the rent ) I love my husband but he's not my ideal husband and he's not my type. Is it wrong to be with someone b/c they are safe ? https://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20200418033929AAqrhdS Every single one of those women was advised to get a divorce which of course means finding a lawyer and leaving the husband homeless .. but what if a husband was complaining because his wife doesn t want to give him oral sex?.or what if a.husband.complained because his working wife wants him to help her to pay the bills? do you think people would feel sorry for those men ? does our liberal society view men as disposable ?

We've talked about a July wedding, but now my BF says to postpone because of the virus and because his mom says "to take your time." But my BF still wants to date? He tells me to "think positive" and we've still talked about rings in the near future. He also will surprise me with something in May.

When my wife was my girlfriend, she was extremely nice and catering. She was easy to talk to, she was caring and now she's just a whole different person.  Ever since we got married, she's rude, she's quick to respond with something negative. She hardly smiles, we argue almost every day. Shes not easy to talk to, shes easily offended, we don't take showers together anymore.  I just feel really unsure and maybe unhappy with everything. I tried talking to her about it and we get nowhere. She's now pregnant, and she's super insecure and If she's not crying she's angry about something.  Is all of this normal? 

Ok so I was the other woman. I was involved with a man with an abusive wife. His wife found out and I sent her evidence that her husband was a player. Up to this day apparently she still mentions how I 'called him out' when they are arguing. She also still follows an account with my name on social media- although the account is not actually me!  No I am not still seeing him! A friend of a friend told me! 

Every time we get romantic in bed, I'll ask my wife "what do you have in mind," thinking that I could make help with her desire. She always says "nothing." Sometimes, I'll ask her to share fantasies when we are enjoying foreplay. "I don't have any" she says. Or maybe "Who are you thinking about?" Her reply? You got it... "Nobody." Come on. We all have fantasies, desires. I've asked. She claims NONE. Why do you think, she won't share? I would not be offended. Not after what I've told her, LOL. Thoughts? Any advice?? Been together since 1991. Married since 1994. The sex is very good. Just looking for a little something extra to "stoke the fire" so to speak.  And, I know the fantasy stories I tell her drive her wild. So she is into new ideas like inviting others to join us in bed. So I'm very perplexed what's in her head when her eyes are closed and I'm pleasuring her.

My husband only was invited to his friends wedding. My name was not on the invite, but his friend knows we are married, knows my name and we have met. Should I be offended. Husband says I should go but I really don't go to things that I have not been invited to. Am I wrong?

Provided he trusted her and revealed everything about him and about him being virgin and having never used any women for sex in his life, and he also trusted his wife's words and loved, cared and tried to fulfill all her wishes till he found out about the truth and now he feels fearful and like fooled, but still does'nt mistreats her and still cares for her...but the only thing he has stopped is having intimacy and remains upset and does'nt sleep well at night as like all his wishes and hard work has went in vain. And on asked by the wife about not javing intimacy he instead blames himself saying whenever he goes near her he gets very unwanted visuals of her enjoying with other men and pleasing them wholeheartedly and he cant stop it as its a natural problem for him. And he even with humbleness says to her with heavy hearts that if she does'nt feel good or comfortable to live with him and with his problems, then she can divorce him and marry a better person than him, which he will be happy for her. But he will never re-marry anyone because for him she will always be the only loved one till life. Then, what should the wife do under such situations? Should she leave her husband and move to someone else no matter that person will love her like her ex-husband or not? Or should she simply watch her husband dying in emotional stress? Or else what can she do? Yes, she can show modernism n leave him as its her choice. Are there any steps that can be adopted to solve this situation?

Does it mean she cared, trusted, liked and was more attracted to her exes but later only settled with her inexperienced husband for security and so treats him like a consolation prize after she enjoyed with her exes but could'nt be with them due to relationship security reasons? Yes, the wife may say that she did all kinky acts and enjoyed with her exes because she did'nt care about them but does'nt do anything with her husband because he cares for him and loves him? Is this real reason or is it just a readymade excuse and is just a way to fool her innocent husband? Its like saying that the husband gets the less and boring side of his wife because she loves her, but the exes got the full of her body and trust because she did'nt love them? Is this just a justified point or is just a stupid way of fooling a husband? And if that is justified, then if the exes tries to return to her life for free sex after marriage by convincing her like before, then will she go and have all those kinky acts with them again, and later tell her husband that she is doing all those acts with others because she does'nt careabout them?

Or you'll face cognitive decline.  Let me tell you that you're not exactly the sharpest tools in the shed  And this was ALL BEFORE the lock down. God only knows how bad your mental skills have degraded since then. So please marrieds, get of the couch.  I'm rooting for you. Sauce: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5GLwsH8EwgA

My wife before we married was nice and sweet, but once we got married she goes through my phone every might which I find so rude. I have nothing to hide, but some things she gets mad about. For example, if I was texting one of my friends about a really pretty girl we saw at the mall I don't understand why that should be an arguement that's human. Another example might be some of my single friends want to learn about my exes and how I met a lot of the woman I dated because they are lookin for dates that's something that also bothers her. It's like I have no right to be human anymore. I have to act so perfect on my phone and never do anything wrong. That is so stressful, what do you think?