So my fiancé and I were supposed to have a big fun wedding reception this Saturday. But obviously because of the ongoing virus, it's been cancelled. We plan to throw a big reception once conditions are safer, but we really want to get married legally to keep the date, and because we want to take advantage of the legal benefits and I want to go on her health insurance since I don't have a plan and she does. But as of now, all the local courthouses are closed and not giving out marriage licenses till further notice. And I also feel it's not safe to even have a small 5 person ceremony at the moment. I live in New York. What options do we have at the moment?

So our venue just contacted us that our mid June wedding has to be postponed. We wanted to keep the same date so we pushed out a year, plus is the only month of the year certain family members can come to my neck of the woods. My fiancé just wants to get married now and have the party later, but I don't want to get married alone or on some stupid video chat or anything, I want to get married officially in front of my family, even if I have to wait a year, as many of my guests hate vow renewals. I don't understand what my fiancé's rush is. We can get married anytime we want, we'll always have each other, a year really isn't long to wait, so why is she pushing me so hard to marry now. We already live together. 

I'm in quite a pickle here. I have a wedding coming up last weekend in July. At our venue, deposits have already been put down and contracts signed, and our venue is not letting us change the date at all no matter how much talking and convincing we do, they will only help us if the state still has gatherings restrictions in place by my wedding date. Even lawyers said they couldn't help me since we signed a contract, and a contract is a contract. We're slightly confident things may clear up by then, but a lot of my guests are asking me if the wedding is still happening, and I've had a couple even back out.  I don't quite know what to tell them yet, that's what I need help with. Our wedding date is far enough out that I don't know how things will be by then, but close enough that I, along with many of my guests are worried conditions won't be safe by then. I also feel like even if I could postpone it, which the venue isn't letting me right now, I don't know what date would be safe to postpone to. Maybe 2022 or 2023 since next year may be way too soon too? Everything is just so unpredictable with this virus and I need help 

Maybe not said but disappointed. She grew up in our town but she always felt bad, was racially bullied and then moved. She never called me or asked about me. I don't know why, I have always supported her. Last time we spoke she said she never felt I was her aunt, because I would consider her inferior (that's not true), because I married a local man and had 'white kids' (not that she's not white, but she isn't western european). She also told me she wished my kids went through the same. This was the last time we spoke years ago. Now she has married a pole, as I can see from the wedding pictures my sister showed me, but I feel so disappointed that I wasn not there. I held her in my arms when she was a child, now she won't even talked to me on the phone and didn't invite me to her wedding, she's far away I know, but at least she could have called. She's treating me like a stranger.