Family: Question: Why does my brother only talk to me when he needs to borrow money?

Question: Why does my brother only talk to me when he needs to borrow money?

Posted: 15 Apr 2020 02:01 PM PDT

Question: What can be done if I don’t think my 13 year old’s friend is a good influence?

Posted: 15 Apr 2020 12:56 PM PDT

My 13 year old has a friend who has NO emotional regulation. This girl is explosive. I don't like how this girl gets herself into drama wherever she goes because she retaliates so much. She and my daughter have been friends since elementary school. Last year was when the girl's maturity issues became obvious. I know that teenagers mature at different rates but come on, it's a little ridiculous when a 13 year old acts like a toddler whenever she gets upset. I'd rather have my daughter choose to be around other friends.  I'd like to mention that her friend displayed age-appropriate behavior until last year, at least that I know of. I know the girl's family and they are not "dysfunctional". I think her friend just doesn't have good coping skills.

Question: My sister said my dad tried to rape her and molested her. What do I do?

Posted: 15 Apr 2020 12:21 PM PDT

She said 2 years ago when he was drunk he came into her room and he was trying to kiss her and touch her and she ran off. He woke up crying denied it and they've never spoke about it since. I'm just so upset because my dad hasn't been in my life, I'm 23 and we're finally talking now and I don't know if I can carry on talking to him with this information. I've wanted to know my dad for so long, to build up enough strength and forgiveness to talk to him to then be told he did that.  I believe you're meant to honour your mother and father because I'm a Christian but with this new information I don't even know where to start. 

Question: Should I feel this way?

Posted: 15 Apr 2020 11:16 AM PDT

I am a step mom of 1. We get the kids every other weekend, but sometimes the kid stay with only me while the kid's dad is working. I always feel like a babysitter more than a step mom. Is this normal if I don't see the kid that often?

Question: My sister is a bully and a narcissist. She abuses me. How do I make her feel bad enough that she will not abuse me anymore?

Posted: 15 Apr 2020 10:47 AM PDT

She is the only family member to abuse me.

Question: Was my mother's mind poisoned by her child beating and racist great-aunt, read below?

Posted: 15 Apr 2020 10:46 AM PDT

My mother's great-aunt used to beat her with a stick and used the N word even in front of my cousin in the 1990's. This woman beat her nieces children with a stick and like I note was a racist even until her last days. I only met her twice thankfully and she was too old to beat me. Despite all this my mother used to talk about how wonderful and loving this great-aunt was. I see reality that she obviously was a child abuser plus a bigot. My question is since my mother talked like this child abuser was sweet and loving had my Mom's mind likely been poisoned by this aunt Edna woman?

Question: My parents won’t let me be an eBoy. What should I do?

Posted: 15 Apr 2020 10:04 AM PDT

Question: How can I repair this relationship? How do I truly fight for this relationship?

Posted: 15 Apr 2020 09:53 AM PDT

I created a separation two times with my 27 year old daughter that lives in my home. She is very upset and I have caused her pain. Now, I do not know how to repair the relationship. She says that she is now working on closing up the relationship due to past issues. How can I dig deep and get to the root cause of the problems? She says that I hide, avoid conflict, lie and sweep things under the rug. I also do not communicate properly. She will not accept apologies.

Question: How are you as a parent staying happy while you're in solitary confinement with your children 39 and 1/2 hours a day?

Posted: 15 Apr 2020 09:47 AM PDT

Parents, in this day when we are blessed to have our beloved children by our sides 24 hours a day, can you please hit me with your best Covid-19 meme?

Question: How can I stop getting nightmares/getting scared and nervous at night?

Posted: 15 Apr 2020 09:27 AM PDT

I know what your thinking, I'm just a little kid with problems I should just ask my mom to help me with, but it's harder than that. Can someone please tell me? Im a girl, my age is 11. I mostly get scared about paranormal things and I get nightmares about that as well.

Question: Can I go to school in a different state?

Posted: 15 Apr 2020 09:03 AM PDT

I am 16 and currently a sophomore and will be going into junior year next year. I live with my parents in Florida and my siblings are moved out. My living situation with my parents is absolutely fine but I think I just want a fresh start with fresh faces at a new school so even though I live in Florida would I be able to go to school for a year or two in Virginia if I temporarily moved in with my 24 year old brother in the navy? He is states away & I don't know if he would have to be my "guardian" for me to stay with him. Also, if this isn't the case does anyone know any exchange/experience programs where I could stay somewhere like in a different state/country? I'm a great student with a great living arrangement but I want to experience new things

Question: How would my uncles ex-wife‘s sister’s ex-husband be related to me or is he not related at all?

Posted: 15 Apr 2020 08:40 AM PDT

Foofa: Thank you, I was scared he was. The man just murdered his new wife last year and then killed himself. I wanted to make sure there was no relation to the animal. 

Question: How do I get my sister to stop hating me?

Posted: 15 Apr 2020 08:39 AM PDT

She is the one in the wrong so I don't have anything to apologize for and the only thing I did have something to apologize for I already dead and my parents said not to apologize again that it's on my sister.  

Question: If quaranteen happens again in the future, how would you prepare differently?

Posted: 15 Apr 2020 07:57 AM PDT

What do you wish you had today during corona lockdown? Do you realize that not everyone is locked inside of ugly walls with people they hate. Quaranteen is one of the best time to live your vivid dreams! A beautiful mansion with a nice view... ... a home gym... a pool.. a fish pond for radio controlled boat races a fountain for meditation..  ...a library and home theatre picturesque and award-winning front lawn  ..A Garden of Eden in the back... and a walking distance to the beach I definitely wish I had:  - more gym equipment to alternate in between - better home wardrobe  - landscaping equipment and tools - artistic painting supplies - mature apple trees - professional chef's kitchen - a park for bicycle rides - private salt-water pool

Question: How can I get my father to stop being so controlling and erratic?

Posted: 15 Apr 2020 07:43 AM PDT

i have always had a controlling father. he tries to control what i do in my room, what i do at school, what my family does, etc. he thinks he has complete power over my family. he is physically and mentally abusive. he has had past history of beating my mother and has went to jail because of it. recently i heard him say to my mother that he would slap the **** out of me if he could. i am in 9th grade, enrolled in an IB school. my father takes my academics very seriously. since we have been quarantined, i haven't been keeping up with my assignments. i have depression because of my living conditions and my father won't let me go anywhere to study. i can't ever concentrate in my home because my parents are always screaming and fighting. zoom meetings are very risky and embarrassing for me because i don't want anyone hearing what goes on in my home. my friend passed away on april 12. he was in english and band with me. we were friends. i was devastated. my father said he was sorry for me but i know he doesn't mean it. he is still screaming at me and threatening to put me into military school if i keep turning in late assignments. my father refers to me as a "juvenile delinquent." i am grieving. i can't even mention my friends name without breaking down. i weep. i can't concentrate at all, with my father screaming at me and now my friend dying. please, someone tell me how i can get my father to lay off and leave me alone. i am suffering.

Question: Does that mean I am gay?

Posted: 15 Apr 2020 07:26 AM PDT

I am a senior in high school with a female cousin the same age. To say she was beautiful is an understatement. She is gorgeous. She has a figure to die for. She has been my best friend all our lives. We are very close. However she is my cousin so I have NO ROMANTIC interest in her AT ALL. We like to hang out together and have a lot of fun together. She will model her clothes for me and ask if they make her look sexy. I never get a b0ner for her and do not EVER think of her that way. My buddies who also know her tell me that NO GUY can watch a girl, any girl, that is as hot and sexy as she is and not get a b0ner unless they are gay. Does me not getting turned on by her mean I am gay?

Question: Sleeping Naked?

Posted: 15 Apr 2020 07:09 AM PDT

We're moving soon and I'm going to have to share a room with my brother. Do you think it would be weird if I still slept naked? He's never seen my dick before

Question: Is it immature to still hang out with you parents after a certain age?

Posted: 15 Apr 2020 06:34 AM PDT

People often tell me to "grow up" because I often hang out with my family and help them with the cats because they are getting old and ask them for opinions when I don't have anyone else to ask. Does this make sounds like a kid? The stereotyped lifestyle where you should have a good job (I've medical condition that made it difficult to get a standard career and currently a staying-home student), get married and kids (not family oriented in that context) and don't care what other think or do in order to be classified as an adult is just crazy... (English is not my native language, so if express myself in an odd or childish way, its mostly because of the language bareer!)

Question: Since my sister abuses me how do I remove her spirit from my life?

Posted: 15 Apr 2020 06:19 AM PDT

How do I act like I don't know her when I have to see her at family functions? my mother said it will probably be Thanksgiving before I have to see this person. My mother is on my side and I fear the spirit of my sister even when not seeing her. 

Question: My uncle is a violent and scary man, what do I do if I have to see him at a family function?

Posted: 15 Apr 2020 06:17 AM PDT

Luckily because of coronavirus the wedding I was going to have to see at has been postponed until fall.

Question: Should I say something ? Or is it not my place ? I’m tired of being used . ?

Posted: 15 Apr 2020 06:15 AM PDT

I (21) have lived with my fiancé (28) and his family for the past two years it's a huge 5 bedroom household .  We all split the costs etc , I am the ONLY one who cleans the house we lived on the downstairs half with his youngest sister (25) the rest live upstairs I clean BOTH upstairs & downstairs practically EVERYDAY. If I don't their dogs will go to the bathroom inside all day and it will not get cleaned up , they'll leave cigarette butts and everything all over etc .  We pay the same amount as his youngest sister , I am CONSTANTLY cleaning up her mess along with theirs , she does absolutely nothing , she barely ever pays the right amount of rent , and if she doesn't his mom just covers it but if we don't we are **** out of luck basically (we have never paid less but have asked to when unforeseen circumstances have came up and it was a problem) . I just do not see if fair or understandable as to why I have to pay the same amount as someone who does NOTHING? I literally came home same day I had surgery I was cleaning .  I'm afraid to say something but at the same time I'm good enough to babysit and clean shouldn't I be able to say something ? Since I'm a paying person , who does most of EVERYTHING I even make their kids breakfast while their parent is sleeping right in the next room from being hung over . I'm so close to a breaking point...what would you do in my situation???? I don't mind cleaning up my mess but cleaning up after 3 other grown adults not including me and my fiancé & cleaning up their three dogs crap and pee from ALL OVER daily seems like something I should not be having to do ! 

Question: How can I escape from bad parenting?

Posted: 15 Apr 2020 05:48 AM PDT

Im Nathan and a teenager. Ive been suffering from bad parenting my whole life. My life is miserable from the day I was born especially from when my parents divorced. My life starts out pretty bad. My parents keep spoiling me and well put me a lot of high expectations and demands. Whenever I did st wrong they scolded even if we're at home or out in the public. Back then when I still young, I wanted to learn a bunch of stuff like riding a bicycle but they ignored almost every request I made and said that I need to study. After divorcing, she demands the things that I wanted to do back then but without any interest in them,it giving me a hard time learning. She always giving advice in life and stuff but not a single encouragement. Its so frustrating.Everytime I get stressed out in life and needed her support, she scold me and said that she was busy with work and money and if I were to distract her again she would hit me and let me die of hunger on the sidelines. And the trauma i suffered from when my dad left is still there I  have always wanted to talk to him but my mother keep saying that my dad was a bad influence and demanded that I shouldnt talk to him.Everytime i want to talk to him i hesitated that my mom would find out and scold me.Another thing to mention is that my mom always says that lgbt is bad and st like that so i have a hard time to ask her about me being gay.

Question: How can I resolve the conflict?

Posted: 15 Apr 2020 05:31 AM PDT

If my 27 yr old daughter and I are not getting along and separated while living at home, we have tried the following: Talking turns into a long discussion as I get defensive and do not speak from my heart. Stay separate for weeks on end She is not open to counseling My behavior triggers for her are Lying Sweeping things under the rug Avoiding Running away Not taking ownership Poor communication I keep doing these things in each discussion. What other option could there be? She is not open to counseling.

Question: Why does my sister say to move out when I don’t want to let her or anybody in my family the food I cook?

Posted: 15 Apr 2020 05:31 AM PDT

Why does she say it and what does it mean?

Question: My sister embellishes things about me cause she is very hateful.Does this counting as lying even though it is not total lies but embellished?

Posted: 15 Apr 2020 05:01 AM PDT

Question: My brother is sarcastic. What emotions does sarcasm mask?

Posted: 15 Apr 2020 04:57 AM PDT

Question: I blocked my dads sister on facebook and she never spoke to me again?

Posted: 15 Apr 2020 04:30 AM PDT

Long story short, he passed away and his side of the family never bothered with me my whole life. Shes the only one I really talked to, but then I found oit she was showing all my posts to everyone in the family I never even met or talked to before, and I have a private profile. I felt like I dont need these people keeping tabs on me. I did not want to add his ex, or my grandfather who never bothered with me either. Was I wrong? 

Question: Why can I not add value to the discussion?

Posted: 15 Apr 2020 02:00 AM PDT

My 27 yr old daughter and I have been living in the same home but separate. I have caused her a lot of pain as this was my idea. Now as we discuss the relationship, she says that I need to add value to the discussion. I don't know what to say. How can I fight for this relationship? She is not open to counseling. I do not know how to make it up to her for the pain that the separation has caused.

Question: How do I stay safe and help my Dad be safe from Covid-19 with the job I work at? I am 18 and work in a restaurant drive thru?

Posted: 15 Apr 2020 12:56 AM PDT

I am 18 and live in a very small rural Ohio farm-town with a population of 4500 we only have small businesses in my town and everyone knows each-other my family and most people are long time residents of this town. My Dad is 58 years old (my parents are divorced) and he has had 2 heart attacks before he is pre-diabetic and has a pacemaker he had to quit farming on our fields because of his heart its that bad and his other job (doctor recommended) We have a hard time making it since my Mom and Dad got divorced and I work in the drive thru of the only fast food restaurant in town (We don't have many large chain businesses around here only small ones) we get a lot of "regulars" as customers here we do not temporarily have carry out so I have been working a lot and the virus has already made it in my town and killed several people. I am very worried that I could get it I don't want it to spread to my Dad or anyone else if I do but then I need to work to help pay for the groceries, pay my Dad rent to live at his house  and I have my own Chevy truck which I payed for I also pay for gas, insurance, and upkeep of the truck I also, help pay the electric bill. I am at a loss I don't want Dad to get sick and I don't want us to go hungry because I quit my job. My manager does not allow me to wear gloves or a mask at work and I am dealing with customers I got in trouble for wearing gloves and a mask yesterday. I am at a loss I have been staying home otherwise when I am not at work 

Question: Talking to my wife about my family?

Posted: 15 Apr 2020 12:52 AM PDT

My wife asked me what family I have... I told her that the cold truth is that you (meaning my wife) and my kids are what I have. My mom and dad, here dead. My brother, he died at birth before I was born. My sisters, one is a con artist gold digger who is very dangerous for me to associate with.. And the other, for all she's worth, she's a piece of sh!t... I don't really have either one of them. My two nephews, one is dead and I literally have nothing to do with and never seen the other. My only niece, is 20 years old and simply thrusted into a sink or swim world of predatory, dog eat dog, bills are due, pay now or starve.. Capitalism. She isn't there for me. She dont know how to be my family. And she's only doing for a living what her mom put her up to, simply to be rid of her. She has the wrong motivations and the wrong personality for her job. My cousin is a washed up, former professional student.. Who now has a fake diagnosis of lupus for a disability check that isn't worth sh!t. None of my aunt's on my dad's side give a damn about Each other..or about me... They hated my dad. Don't even get me started about my mom's parents, sisters and brothers. So guess who that leaves ? Lol

Question: Can cousins rivalry be created by grandmother?

Posted: 14 Apr 2020 11:51 PM PDT

I understand that having a grandson is an amazing experience for many grandparents, however, when my brother had his son my mother got almost obsessed with my nephew! I never developed a big love for my nephew because I was constantly yelled at if I didn't revolve around my nephew in the way my mother wanted me to. One day he fell down and cut his forehead, while I was at the shop changing the oil of my car. When I got the phone call my mom was yelling at me out of control that I had to take him to the hospital immediately. I told her "mom they are changing the oil as we speak there's nothing I can do", she proceeded to insult me, etc. That's an example of many. I have a son, 5 years younger than my nephew and the comparison is brutal. I moved away as much as I could because I didn't want to involved my husband and my son in that dysfunctional  relationship. The first time we visited after my son was born; my mother had a chat with my nephew because my nephew seemed jealous and she told him: "you don't have to worry about your cousin's visit because you are the king and he's just a little prince". My nephew has a sence of entitlement and superiority. Everytime we buy something for my son my nephew has to have something similar. If we visit, my nephew makes shows to get attention. It's exhausting!!! It breaks my heart but I don't like to expose my son to that unhealthy dynamic. How would you handle a situation like this??? Any advice from your own experience or point of view?

Question: My dad’s sisters (my aunts) could they possibly be jealous of me?

Posted: 14 Apr 2020 11:49 PM PDT

When a couple of my aunts were in town a few years ago, my mom showed them my jewelry box. They were shocked that I own a lot of jewelry. Just recently, one of my dad's sisters came to visit. Of course, the two aunts that saw my jewelry box told her that I have a lot of jewelry. My aunt that was in town recently got angry at my mom and said, "Does she have money saved up for retirement?" My mom told her that I do. She told her that I get a lot of tips from customers and use that to buy what I want. Why would my aunt be mad about me buying so much jewelry?

Question: Although my aunt has never liked me and we aren’t close, why did she get me a gift when I graduated from college?

Posted: 14 Apr 2020 11:44 PM PDT

My aunt and I have never been close. She doesn't like my mom just because she's Asian. All my dad's brothers and sisters married a white person except my dad. When my dad told her I was going to graduate from college, she said she wanted to attend my graduation. She couldn't come because she had a project to do for work. Why did she want to attend my graduation? Why did she get me a gift when she doesn't like me? I did send her a thank you card in the mail. Other than that, we don't talk at all.

Question: Does this guy have a mental illness?

Posted: 14 Apr 2020 11:04 PM PDT

There is a 24 year old guy I know. He has never had any kinds of jobs in his life. He always stinks and smells very bad and when I asked if he ever takes a shower he said like "no, I don't because I don't work. Why do you?" He looks normal and talks like a normal person but he is not smart. (He didn't go to college and he barely graduated high school and he forgets things.) He has no money and his mom still gives him 5 dollars a week and he sneaks into Starbucks and Mcdonalds and watches youtube videos there with his smartphone. When I got a new Samsung Galaxy S20 last month, he asked me if I can give him my old Galaxy 10 because his iPhone7 is slow. He also calls me during the day time and it bothers me when I work so when I tell him to txt me unless it is really an emegency, he just says like "Then I will call you after you get off work" and he never tries to txt me. He once fell asleep and started snoring while he was talking to me on the phone and I was really surprised. Also, when we are supposed to meet, he usually doesn't show up and calls me later and says "hey dude I fell asleep" like nothing happened and never appologizes to me. It pisses me off. I thought he was a friend but now it feels like he is really weird. I wonder if he is really mentally ill or he is just silly and has bad manners. I wonder if this guy is a very rude and has bad manners or he is actually mentally ill.

Question: Why does my mom love my planned sister more than me?

Posted: 14 Apr 2020 10:59 PM PDT

I don't understand why she loves her more and it's dead obvious. She had me at 20 and her at 29.

Question: Why does my sister treat me so bad?

Posted: 14 Apr 2020 10:48 PM PDT

I actually told my sister that I AM her.. Genetically.. Im the closest thing to being her, outside of her body and will.. Not only that, but she has the unique experience of holding me in her arms when I was a baby. And then you act like this to me ? F)uck you. And I'll go get a counselor to help me mean it too. :P

Question: What are some things kids need?

Posted: 14 Apr 2020 10:42 PM PDT

They have the essentials - food, water, love and a home. I just bought them electric toothbrushes, to make brushing more fun for them. They have a full size bed that they share. They have clothes and shoes and toys. The child support has been so low in the past ($35 a month) for 2 years. Once the divorce was finalized, the judge ordered my ex to get a job and pay significantly more support. Since it was just me supporting the kids (now 6 & 7) we've learned to be frugal their entire lives. I've always paid my bills on time and in full, even working at minimum wage and part time hours, so I know the struggle! Let me say that visiting the father is not in the cards right now. I don't have enough PTO saved up to take time off work. And we can't travel because of the virus. (He lives almost 900 miles away) How should I spend this money? (On them of course!!)

Question: Do Dads who sexually abused their daughters ever feel guilty or that they are doing something wrong?

Posted: 14 Apr 2020 10:06 PM PDT

Question: My Dad ruined another year, how do I restart the year?

Posted: 14 Apr 2020 07:36 PM PDT

Coronavirus didn't help. 

Question: When will this virus outbreak end? *this is a long read*?

Posted: 14 Apr 2020 07:14 PM PDT

So the world is in whole lockdown due to covid 19 outbreak and everyone is affected and the people who are very unfortunate are the ones that are deeply affected including my cousin and her family. They live paycheck to paycheck and they can't afford to buy enough groceries for the whole quarantine. When the quarantine was enforced last month, my family and I got them some groceries and toiletries enough to last for a few weeks and they really appreciate it. We're very close to them and I love them so much and I feel so bad because they have to go through this. They've been through so much in their life and then this outbreak hit and their situation got even worse. My family happens to be fortunate. I have my own house and a stable job. We've been supporting them and they never complain. They appreciate every small things. I called my cousin yesterday and asked how they're doing. She said they're doing well and still keeping up and I asked if they need anything I can go to the store. She said "it's ok you don't have to do that. You guys have done so much for us already." By the sound of her voice I know they're not ok. So I said I insist and she still said the same thing but she thanked me for all the efforts we're doing to help them. We don't deserve these people😢

Question: How to deal with guilt?

Posted: 14 Apr 2020 07:10 PM PDT

my foster mom has this thing where everyone has to suffer because of one person's actions. she says that's the only way she feels she will be fair. but me and one of my foster sisters are grounded from our phones and we arent allowed to use the other foster's phone (she's not grounded). but my foster sister used the other girl's phone and i feel guilty for holding this in, but i don't want to get in trouble for what she did. but this is eating me up. what should i do?

Question: Why didn't my mother have an abortion when she was pregnant with me?

Posted: 14 Apr 2020 06:05 PM PDT

I wanted to invent a time machine to hit her in the belly until I aborted. I didn't ask to be born. I'm a trash.

Question: Ignorant me on Instagram?

Posted: 14 Apr 2020 05:34 PM PDT

I used to have an Instagram account that said melted glitter and sometimes I say things that I didn't know that were offensive. I have asperger syndrome if that helps. Also my brain was still developing. So obviously I'm not going to be experience with everything. I was scrolling through the pictures and I saw a naked fat lady and I commented ew, gross. With a barfing emoji next to it like 🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢 then I got a phone call from my older sister at 4:00 in the morning telling me that I insulted a fat model who was naked and other girls were mad at me. Yeah when I pulled up my account. I saw some pretty mean comments. I felt very destroyed by them that I begin to cry. 😢😭 then I saw one of them trying to track my address down and they threaten to jump me.

Question: Am I a bad person for leaving my moldy house behind for my brother to deal with?

Posted: 14 Apr 2020 05:20 PM PDT

My brother, and I bought a mobile home 2 years ago, for the past year and a half there had been a slow leak in one of the bathrooms, which produced a substantial amount of mold. I didnt know how to fix it, but my bother did. We would have to drive several hours to get the roofing. My brothers a high procrastinator. I kept telling him we need to do it, but he kept brushing me off, or getting mad. We weren't seeing eye to eye, so I just moved out a year ago. I've reminded him several times, and he keeps saying "I know, we need to get to it, but than keeps putting it off, now the other bathroom is leaking, and there's a big black spot on the ceiling. My brother doesnt care, so I decided to have him buy me out, which hes okay with. I'm giving him a discount, because hes family, and I was just gonna let him deal with it, seeing as hes buying me out, after this outbreak is over. I just feel a little bad, because his friend lives there, and is paying him rent. He doesn't seem worried about the mold, but I still feel bad, because  I still own half the house. I dont except his rent money anymore though. My brother takes it all. 

Question: How to politely ask my mother to stop driving my car?

Posted: 14 Apr 2020 04:27 PM PDT

I bought a new car a few months ago. My mom has her own car, but she doesn't like hers because its old and beat up, so she has been driving mine. This may seem petty, but I've noticed the drivers seat is caving and and has become dented in as my mother is very overweight. Is there a polite way to ask my mom to stop driving it?  I don't want her to ruin my interior and I don't know how prevent this.She also junks up my car and rarely refills it. I also don't want to offend her especially since my parents make the car payments. I put a lot of money down on the car myself, but my parents are taking care of the rest until I can pay them back.

Question: Toxic parenting and how to cope?

Posted: 14 Apr 2020 04:06 PM PDT

My mother treats me really bad for no reason, I'm the middle child out of four children 2 sisters and 1 brother, but for some odd reason my mother singles me out of the four of us and treats me poorly. She catches attitudes and explode on me for no reason... she also finds reasons to argue or yell at me for nothing. I've done so much and taken care of so much out of the household, hell ill even say I raised my siblings and been a mother to them more than she ever has and I get treated like ****. I've paid our bills and rent and ask for nothing. I'm the black sheep of the family and my mother treats me like I'm the problem child. she treats my delinquent sisters like gold and will praise them for doing the bare minimum like washing dishes but gives me the slap in the face for actually providing . I don't get it 

Question: How to deal with constantly arguing parents?

Posted: 14 Apr 2020 03:59 PM PDT

My parents argue and yell everyday or get violent. They are as I'm writing this. I've given up on trying to console them. I'm scared of them getting mad at me and me trying to console either of them always leads to me getting dragged in, getting yelled at or getting in trouble. The situation has escalated because we're all in quarantine. They are probably going to divorce once the coronavirus is over and I'm fine with it if it means I finally get some peace in my life. Things were a lot better when I was younger. We were a lot poorer but at least my parents seemed like actual parents back then. My mom used to at least care about our grades and extracurriculars but now she doesn't care what grades and even encourages us to stay home more thinking she's being funny. I highly suspect she's bipolar like the other question I posted before. Her mood swings are crazy and she gets violent. My dad is also part of the problem fueling the fire while acting like he's done nothing wrong. My mom is crazy about food. If you don't give her a certain thing to eat she'll yell and even chased my sister and threatened to throw a knife at her before throwing all sorts of other household appliances at her. This was literally over a can of pineapple. It's beginning to feel like more of a give and take relationship rather than a parental one with my mom. She'll give me money and I'll make her food or grab her water etc. I'm scared I become like them when I grow older. I'm 14. I just wanted to say that calling cps is useless. School counselors are also useless. My friend in a similar situation and she called cps 3 times. Each time they did nothing and only strained the relationship between her and her parents. My school is like that too, they only care about their reputation and want to upkeep it as a good prestigious school.

Question: What makes some women not to want a child until they’re like 45?

Posted: 14 Apr 2020 03:06 PM PDT

I have a friend who's an only child who's 25 and his mom just turned 70. I think it probably just has to do with how long the woman wants to live a free life for before taking that responsibility, but idk. Answers?

Question: When my dad gets drunk he yells at me and says awful things, does he mean these things?

Posted: 14 Apr 2020 02:55 PM PDT

He's an alcoholic

Question: My really mean cousin blocked me on Facebook, how do I stop having hurt feelings over it she’s mean to everybody?

Posted: 14 Apr 2020 02:54 PM PDT

She and her mother are really mean creatures. Her mother's luckily not family and has not been since the divorce 12 years ago (ex-wife of an uncle). Because I know his family even though we seldom see her. I feel like I'm supposed to like and get along with family no matter what. This girl is the only mean cousin I have. I guess her mother made her this way as my uncle and her two brothers are good guys as well as my aunt (uncle's new wife).

Question: Where do I go to report my sister for elder abuse?

Posted: 14 Apr 2020 02:42 PM PDT

She abuses my parents without mercy despite all they do it for her. she abused me and I just stop talking door as no one in the family likes her, but my parents feel obligated to be good to her I guess because they are the parents even though they don't like her ( obviously they still love her and they are the only ones).

Question: Since my dad lies a lot how do I learn to live independent of him?

Posted: 14 Apr 2020 02:37 PM PDT

Question: My mom sister has a huge temper and acts like a narcissist, how do I avoid getting abused by her at family celebrations?

Posted: 14 Apr 2020 02:36 PM PDT

If someone is annoying or different she abuses them unless being nice to them is to her advantage.