Can't really be both...so confused...

It all started when her husband cheated on her. She pretty much started getting interested in me and I gave into temptation. I can't stop worrying he will find out. They live like right next door. How do I make sure no one finds out?

Dang it!  My career choice keeps me employed even through these tough times.  I've never been out of a job and the wife can relax too since I make enough.  Plus, I can goof off while I pretend to work. HOWEVER.....I hate it....well maybe not that much. Do you ever feel this way about your career? My only strength is that I'm good at irritating people.  Can I put that on my resume?

My question is: Should same-sex marriages be outlawed after 20 years?

I know a lot men like to watch it. I want to hear mens opinion too. Thanks 

People will think that this is a troll and this is not I am happily married to a wonderful woman but my wife still cries about the fact that her parents verbally physically and emotionally abused her as a child. She wishes that she had parents who loved her. Things will be good for a while and then she will remember her lost childhood and then bam she will start crying over her childhood again she never moved on from it How can I comfort her and tell her that she can't change the past but she needs to move on from it?

He seems happily married on fb.  Tells his wife he loves her, baby this and baby that. 

It's the same home he lived in with his ex wife for 20 years! No matter how I decorate I just feel it's m Not good enough because it's all been done in this house:( I just don't feel like I matter or that he cares about how I feel!

I've always like making money. I still want to be married and have kids but have a stay at home husband. Is that more common now or still weird? I've always make more than average and been tired of men I date beinf annoyed I make more than them. I don't want to stay at home with the kids and cook and clean. I'd rather the roles be reversed. Is this finally the norm or I am I going to have a hard time finding men like that? 

I recently got married but have a 3 year old from a previous relationship. My husband has been more a father to my son than my sons bio father. My husband wants to adopt my son but I know in order to do that bio dad has to give up parental rights. My husband and I are expecting our first child and plan to have more. GOD forbid anything were to ever happen to me I wouldn't want to see my oldest son separated from his siblings or his life just uprooted. My sons bio father isn't really too much involved. Gets him every other Saturday for a few hours and brings him back, doesn't call, text,FaceTime in between to check on him. Doesn't come see him for Christmas or birthdays. Even in light of this whole COVID-19 he hasn't seen him in 2.5 months or called to even check on him. He isn't on child support but does give me money every month. I personally believe my son would be better off with my husband (he is an AMAZING father to him) then his bio dad. My husband and I were thinking of asking my sons bio dad to sign over his rights so that he could adopt him. But most Importantly so if anything happened to me all my kids would be able to stay together. If he agrees I would tell him he wouldn't have to give me money anymore every month BUT that I still want him to be apart of his sons life. He can still visit, take him, spend time with him do things with him I want him to know his bio father. I just believe his bio dad wouldn't want full responsibly if it ever came to it. 

Y'all I am worrying myself sick over this. My husband and I have always had sex regularly. He loves playing with my boobs and butt. Recently, he discovered that he likes me to put my finger or dildo in his butt. Last night, we were in the shower and I was standing behind him and he wanted me to lick his butt and put my arms around his waist and also finger him while I was behind him. We do have anal sex also, but not all the time. He likes for me to play and finger his butt a lot. Should I ask him if he's gay? Does this mean that he is? Or am I overthinking?

I am living in my fathers trailer while going through a divorce. the living conditions are awful. His girlfriend is making it hell for me.I get my mail here and i"m in California. My divorce wont be final not until a few more months and as of now i have no where else to go and have no income. I hardly have food, they stopped giving me food over a month ago.Besides the food ,I don"t want to leave because i"m scared. Can he kick me out?

Friend told me her husband didnt rinse out glass before pouring her drink. And that she discovered mouse droppings in bottom of glass. She's convinced he tried to poison her. I asked so mice just climb in glasses to poop? and she laughed. I seriously want to know is that likely a mouse climbed in her glass just to poop. Or could her husband put it in the glass?

Y'all I am worrying myself sick over this. My husband and I have always had sex regularly. He loves playing with my boobs and butt. Recently, he discovered that he likes me to put my finger or dildo in his butt. Last night, we were in the shower and I was standing behind him and he wanted me to lick his butt and put my arms around his waist and also finger him while I was behind him. We do have anal sex also, but not all the time. He likes for me to play and finger his butt a lot. Should I ask him if he's gay? Does this mean that he is? 

My annoying, mentally unstable and crazy ex who was very clingy and lied about things to make herself look better seems to have turned out better than me and it is hard to not be resentful. She has a good job, a big house and a husband who she apparently has a good relationship with and he has no complaints of her the way I did, according to their circle of friends, who state they have the best relationship out of all of them. Meanwhile, Im in my 30s, still live at home and work as an office assistant. To be clear, I dont miss her or care about her, it just sucks that someone of her caliber has turned out better than me, like karma does not exist.

Both my husband and I are working from home now and When I get off at 4 he's still working till 6. When he is done we usually sit down and eat dinner together then watch some TV. Last night I wanted to watch a movie but he didn't really care for that. He mentioned that we have a few shows saved on the DVR we could watch. My immediate response was "oh, we can watch something you want to watch but not anything I want to watch?" Yeah, I like watching movies where as he is not a big movie person. Why doesn't he understand that I just want to spend time with him. He's big on wood working so he's about to start a new project and his mind was on lumber and measurements. I know that when he gets started on that I am second fiddle to any wood working project he's got going on. He keeps telling me that I need a hobby or a girlfriend I can call and talk to. I'd much rather be with him but I don't think he wants to be with me all that much. Am I wrong to want to be with my husband during this crisis?

My husband likes it when I use a dildo on him and when I also finger him.  I am scared he is thinking about other men or if he is gay because of this? Should I worry over this? I am a female. 

My wife of 7 years, we have one 3 year old daughter. Our relationship has been off and on ever since day one. During our first year of marriage she started showing symptoms of suicide attempts, self-harm, etc mostly when she doesn't get things her way, she threatened me by harming herself or killing herself. then slowly things got better in that regards but we kept fighting about everything, every hour, every day. every now and then she will love me and our relationship starts to improve but then changes suddenly into a monster from wanting to rip my clothes, to cursing at me for no valid reason. I am lost and i don't know what to do. I am really worried about my daughter. I worried about her abusing the kid ( yes she yells at her, and handles her roughly like if my daughter is crying for not getting candy, my wife will yell at her like she is a 18 year old and try to shut/cover her mouth aggressively. She threatens me frequently about going to court and ending me through a divorce. i have been nothing but kind, caring and loving towards her. Despite that she hasn't changed. I am writing this while tears are pouring, I am not sure what to do! Help me please!

I forgot to mention while she has her ex on social media and she text with them. 

My wife and I came back from her mothers house and she is crying because my mother in law told her that she will never allow her to visit her ever again for the rest of her life she to,d her to never speak to her again she made my wife cry I called my mother in law and asked her why she did that and she told me that she never wanted her and my wife is still upset about the whole thing what can I do to comfort her 

My husband likes for me to stick a finger in his butt and anal sex. Should I be worried if he's gay? Does that mean he is?  I am a female by the way. 

I have sole custody of our kids. However that only holds up in my current state Delaware. I e been reading that custody is only in the state you were granted custody. Now with that all being sad. The kids father lives in South Carolina. We do not communicate. He never reaches out but will reply on occasions if i reach out to him. He has other kids and plays a "great" step dad to someone else's kids. However he's a narcissist and only seems to care about his kids when he loses control. I'm afraid if he finds out i moved to Texas, through social media. He will try to use that opportunity to change custody agreements, or only god knows what else.  Should i tell him his kids will be living in Texas or let him find out on his own? 

Am I being selfish and childish over this situation? Our first wedding anniversary is coming up and my husbands ex wife is due to have her baby on our anniversary so we have to keep their kids on that day (my step kids). I am hurt because I wanted just my husband and I to celebrate it. He keeps telling me we will do something later and that he can't help that it falls on our anniversary. He said it bothered him that I didn't want them to come. No one else can keep them either. Do I have a right to be upset or should I be more understanding? 

I'm a younger guy, and I got involved with a married woman sometime back, who was older; late 40s. I knew it was wrong, but then again I liked her. It only lasted a short time, and she later divorced her husband; who as it turns out was cheating on her, which she was aware of and was planning on dumping him anyway because of it. Yet I was always taught that marriage is a very sacred thing, and so I have a lot of guilt over what I did. That and I have a real disgust that I got involved with someone who has the mindset of: "Well they're doing it to me, so it's okay if I then do it to them", because I do not think that's right. I think when you do as they do in that case, then all you're showing is your no better than they are. I was still wrong. I violated a personal belief I hold, and in doing so I put myself in a situation where I basically got used. And for both things, I feel disgusted with myself. I have no intentions of ever repeating my mistake. Once was quite enough! But how do I get rid of the internal disgust I have been carrying around?

And who will be under more pressure of being inaqequate and performance? If the wife decides to confess about her promiscous past on the first night, then what effect will it have on the virgin husband's mood and feelings?

I got an invitation to my ex mother in law's birthday party. I really liked her when I was married to her daughter Holly. However Holly in now married and I am sure she will be at her mother's birthday party with her husband. I decided my presence at the party might be a problem with Holly so I did not go but I sent a nice birthday gift. I got a thank you note for the gift and the note said Holly really wanted the same as my gift for herself and she asked where I bought it. I am on friendly terms with my ex wife so I bought an identical gift and sent it to her. I got a thank you note from Holly thanking me for the gift. Then unexpectedly I got a text message from Holly's husband that she would be returning the gift to me as he would not allow her to keep any gift I gave her. However the gift was not returned. I can only guess what might have happened, I think I learned a lesson from this that I should stay out of my ex wife's life and not have any contact with her as that might cause her marriage problems . Do you think that is the right lesson I should have learned from this?

When I asked her, if she still loves me, she replied, "I'm not sure". I feel I'm wasting my nerves and time.. COVID have forced us to be together but still even in close quarters our communication is at the minimum.. most because of my disappointment and resentment. Help!