16 years ago today Jason Dunham died at the hospital stateside with his parents at his side. 8 days earlier he had jumped on top of a live grenade in Iraq to save 2 fellow Marines. World has changed so much during these years. He was just 22 years old...When I think about it I wonder I would feel about it if this was my kid,especially considering the war in Iraq was so controversial. How would you feel if that had been your kid? Would you stll think he died for a good cause or what? to me we should've avoided Iraq war

My bf and I are planning on moving out ant my parents have known this for a little while now. We found our perfect spot and I decided to let my mom know about it. My mom went crazy and sat my bf, dad, and I down only to attack my bf and I. My dad kept yelling at my bfs face, threatening him, calling him names, etc. my bf has done nothing but be respectful and kind to me and my parents, so I got upset and got in my dads face about how he's attacking the  wrong person and if he wants to take anger out on someone to take it out on my ex bf who raped me. My dad has known that my ex bf raped me but my dad said it wasn't rape because he was my boyfriend. My dad denied he had any idea that I was raped in front of my bf. My mom then started making up lies about how she supposedly saw pictures of my bf and I smoking weed out of a bong (I don't even smoke weed to begin with) and she started telling him he's a drug dealer that wants to ruin my life. He doesn't even deal drugs either! I decided to leave the house for the night and let things cool down. I just got home and now my grandmother is attacking me saying I was wrong for defending my boyfriend and standing up to my dad and that I'm a child and nothing will ever go right in my life and how I'm so ungrateful and unappreciative and since I left last night I should be gone forever.  my bf and I are still planning to make the move but no one in my family is happy. How do I cut ties respectfully? 

She still has issues from her cheating ex. I told her after 4 years together I would have cheated by now if I wanted to and she should get into shape for herself and not for me anyway. She gets insecure, questions the relationship, I get upset and she starts crying.  Its really depression for me and almost feels toxic. What do I do? I honestly just respond to the bs that comes out of her mouth. To me shes badicly saying shes not good enough and I'm wasting my time staying with her. That's how I take it now. Honestly I wish she looked more attractive bit I never put her down.  I might give hints saying wow you could look like that of you wanted to. It's TRUE, my fiance used to look really hot when she was younger.  I feel like now that she keeps putting this idea in my head this is not working out because I complain on how messy her room is.  I feel bad when she starts crying but she cant afford a therapist either.  We fight a lot because of her attitude. I'm starting to think I was happier single. I'm just asking is it normal to be turned off by a person's constant insecurities? I try to make her happy, give compliments, but honestly she brings me down half the time but I still love her and I'm waiting for her to come around and snap out of it.

Hi. First, thank you very much for reading this, I know it's a difficult time in the world right now, so thanks again. To start off, I have a difficult situation with a teenage brother. He is very disrespectful towards my mom. He calls her swear names( I won't say which ones, but they are pretty bad, especially for a son to call his own mom), taunts her, and refuses do his  homework.Every morning, he has screamed atI am not sure where he has learned this behavior from, however, he has had unfiltered exposure to the internet. He's had CB therapy in the past, however,  we just moved, so we have yet to get to a therapist. However, even with the therapist, it does not work. In fact, he has been this way for a long time, so it does not have to do with the move. However, he may have anxiety, not saying it excuses his behavior. He has not been formally diagnosed by a trained professional, however, he is usually  jittery and he is not on any meds. I am just wondering if maybe the disrespect is due to his anxiety. The hard thing is my dad, while a very kind man and good, feels bad for my brother and does not attempt  to talk to my brother on the disrespect. As a teenager myself( I'm 18), I never treated my mom like this and I have tried to talk with my brother about how disrespectful it is. I try to act as a conflict mediator when my brother is being disrespectful. So my question is, to anyone who has had an issue with a disrespectful brother, what has worked for your family? Thanks

My father has never been there for me when he divorce my mother, he left her the house to maintain us so  he says, but half of the house my uncle help him paid for it.when he was married to my mother. the point is that he wants me to fight with my uncle for it. why should I fight with my uncle when he has helped me more than my dad. my father never sends child support or kept in touch with us,live with him one year in Arizona, and he and his wife treated me like a slave, he didn't even give a decent bed to sleep. when I got sick once he didn't take me to the doctor,instead he made me carry heavy tool boxes when I was with the flue. he didn't take me to the dentist, I had braces, I went without a treatment for a year. The point is that he thinks because he left my mom the house he thinks  that he didn't have to give us anything, when i went with him because I couldn't live with my mother because I was suffering abuse, I went with him thinking it would be better, but he was just as bad as her. my uncle has help me a lot more than him. He wants me to take his side he says I am a horrible daughter that my brother is better than me. My mother pass away few years ago the way he still insults her even after death is terrible, I know my mother was terrible too, but she was bipolar and  no one help her  especially him. Who is he to judge her.

When I discuss the emotional and physical abuse that my sister put me through years ago on the phone she gets mad and upset in her voice . When I ask her what's wrong ? She's like I gotta go bye and hangs up .  She knows about the emotional abuse it's been confirmed and she's seen it of course when we all lived together . Why does she get mad at me ? Yes she's definitely mad at me because she hangs up on me or says , " why do we have to discuss this"! ? She and my sister also live together. Yes this happened years ago but it's relevant because my mom is always trying to force me to talk to me sister or delay a message from my sister to me about random stuff like , " oh I have a new tv for her if she wants it . Oh I bought her daughter some clothes".

My Dad was watching the Sopranos which is so racist. The show shouldn't be allowed to exist. On the show they make fun of blacks and call them name like eggplant but in Italian. When my father heard some of the lines he burst out in laughter he also repeated the slurs as it was so funny. I don't want to get in trouble with my Dad can I report anonymously

I hate being around him and try to avoid him because he is so emotionally abusive and mean and toxic and sometimes physically abusive and makes me very uncomfortable. I'm moving out of state in August by myself but until then I'm stuck in the same house as him and it's driving me crazy. I don't feel safe around him. He threatens to evict me every day even tho I tell him every day I'm moving in August and it's true since I'm graduating next month from college and will have a job to pay enough for an apartment so I'll have one in August out of state. He is a horrible person who gets mad and yells at me or my mom about what I did over the smallest things I do  I don't have any friends or relatives I could live with

I like the round ones she bought the other ones

I'd like some advice on how to proceed with this situation. My primary car has over 100,000 miles on it and it has given me a bit of trouble in the past few months. I have a second automobile which is stored over at my parents' house which I have not driven since I moved out of their place six years ago. It was never a primary vehicle. It's a vintage auto that I used for parades. It needs a lot of work and I just don't have the money to sink into it. So I would like to sell the vintage auto and trade in my current vehicle to get a new automobile as my primary vehicle. I told my mother this plan and she basically forbid me to do that and her reason is that she doesn't want space cleared out in the garage for my father to park his vehicle. My mother controls that house and won't let my father have any space for himself... she controls every single room to hoard her things everywhere and my father is basically confined to a tiny little tool shed as his man cave

I have always hugged my mom like that and not like I used to hug my friends before this ****. Some of them have said that it's a bit too much tho and if I got a b0ner she would notice. The thing is that I never get one when I hug my mom.

I feel like I'm the problem most of the time, but then I stop and think about it and I feel like they bring me down as a person. I love my family, but I just cant be around them and I dont know if it's wrong of me at times. If you can relate I'd appreciate your feedback.

My mother keeps trying to tell me what to do and keeps trying to force me to do things that I do not want to do. When I say ''No'', she will start swearing at me, calling me names, and start yelling at me at the top of their lungs. She also steals my money often and puts me down by calling me names like; ''Ugly'', ''Fat'', ''Low class b*tch'', ''Ugly b*tch'', and etc. I am not sure what to do anymore, I am sick of this treatment by her, and she acts like she owns me even though I am 19 and I am a grown adult. She also will constantly threaten me and say things like ''If you don't shut up, I'll smash your face in'' or ''I will knock your face up'', and etc. Excuse you, I make my OWN money that comes from my own JOB. None of MY money comes from her, my money comes from me. Don't you dare talk to me like that, I don't have to put with any abuse. I don't have to ''suck it up'', she should stop being such a annoying, abusive b*tch to her own daughter. I never asked for her to be my damn mother and she take all of her rage out on me!. UNTIL you lived my life and dealt with everything that I went through, you shouldn't say anything. I got MOLESTED because of her when I was 14 and she sits there and accuses me of lying about it while also blaming for being SEXUALLY ASSAULTED and calls me nasty names. I have been trying to save up money, so I can move out and get my own home but I am struggling from money problems. Not to mention it's hard to ''suck it up'' when I am nearly always on the risk of being psychically assaulted and beaten.

My father is stubborn, and that is not just my opinion. Whenever we have a disagreement on something he has the tendency to lose his temper, interrupt me (he acknowledges he needs to stop this but does so always anyway), uses his authority as my father to shut me up so I have to listen to his opinion over and over again. It's frustrating how sometimes we'll be having a normal conversation then suddenly this happens, and makes me want to avoid having conversations with him altogether. I've tried explaining him that his way of micromanaging conversations is unpleasant and disrespectful, to no avail, and so did my mother. But I don't want to simply avoid conversations with my dad. I want to know if there's a strategy to maintaining our relationship whilst avoiding these mishaps

One time when I was a teenager I was having a terrible time and I was really, really angry I acted terrible to my parents especially my dad he yelled and screamed at me. but afterwards I said to him something bad about his parents and his dad and he started crying. now I feel bad

My brother and I fought last night and I still feel so bad about it. He went shopping yesterday morning and he got pasta but no sauce. I asked him if we could have some of the pasta he bought for dinner and he told me no even though he eats the food I buy as well. He then said sure but he didn't buy the sauce to go with it. I decided to go out to buy it and I went but had forgot my wallet so I had to go all the way back home and then went back to the store. By the time I came back, the food was cold and my laundry had been sitting for a while because I was distracted because I was doing that too.  By the time I got back, I was furious because I always am the one buying groceries and having to get everything. Then my brother had already ordered food for himself but decided to also eat the pasta. So I had no real dinner at all. I was really mad at him and said he was being an idiot and that I just wasn't going to eat the food.  Today, I didn't talk to him in the morning and he seemed really depressed but later on today, he asked me if I wanted to get food with him, but he still seemed sad.  I feel absolutely terribly sad by what happened because as brother and sister we are extremely close. What should I do and will he see me differently now?

Me and my mom babysit my niece and nephew quite a bit. My nephew is 12 and COMPLETELY out of control. I've never seen a 12 year act the way he does. He gets in trouble all the time because he uses violence on everything. He intentionally starts fights and will get in peoples faces and act like he's going to punch them in the face. He beats up his 9 year old sister all the time. I know kids roughhouse but he bloodies her lip or leaves bruises all over her from hitting or kicking her. If you mind your business he wants attention from you and starts a fight. If he's told to stand in a corner or sit on the couch he says no, we don't spank him or anything but it's like we can't do anything. His mom is my sister and she's a single parent, she supports him telling us no to those punishments. She also spends a lot of her time drunk and putting her kids off on other people so she doesn't have to deal with it. CPS or cops have been involved many times, all they do is run or hide from them and nothing else happens. My mom doesn't wanna call in fear of never seeing her grandkids again. And we're no longer sure of what to do with his behavior anymore. He calls us "f*cking retards" when he does something wrong and we get onto him for it. Please help, we've run out of ideas on what to do at this point, nothing works. He's running a muck when he's here like he feeds off of negativity or something as awful as that sounds.  I would've put this but I ran out of words yesterday. Just to clarify a lot of the abuse to his sister does happen when he is at home or at her friends houses because he knows my sister won't do anything and neither will her friends. We don't spank the kids. We try keeping them separated as much as possible. Neither of them care. They continue to find ways to find each other whether that be crossing paths to the restroom and starting fights or just sitting at the same table eating dinner.  I also didn't expect anything less considering their situation. I understand them acting out, and my niece does sometimes but it's never to the extent he does. We've told my sister she needs to put them in counseling but she refuses to let them see a counselor because she thinks they're for crazy people. I try explaining to her that's not so and they need to talk to one but she won't listen. I've tried sitting down and listening to him explain why he feels this way or wants to act like this And we'll talk and he'll be fine again for about a day and then get worse. I let him speak and I let him get all his emotions out and I let him know he's always welcomed to talk to me without being judged or anything. Sometimes he'll talk to me but then after he talks to me it's like he goes through this thing where he grows a hatred for me like a day or two after and I don't get it. My mom never stops offering to watch them and I'm not mad about that at all.  Here seems to be the only place they really get fed well, at their home they only eat every now and then and they always come here hungry, of course we feed them and give them something to drink as much as they want because we understand what's going on at their home. My nephew also goes to his other grandmas house and hangs out with his cousin who's much older than him and teaches him way too many things making my nephew feel like an adult.  We all tried taking our dogs on a walk and he made the statement to my mom that he was going through a phase where he's a real jerk to everyone and she'd just have to deal with it. I whole heartedly agree with everyone saying he needs counseling and neither of them need to be in the house with their mom. But any time CPS gets involved they show up, knock on their door, they hide in the house and CPS leaves and doesn't come back until the next call comes. The same goes for when cops get called.  My nephews father isn't really around, he makes an appearance every now and then. My nephew doesn't look at him as his dad. He calls my sisters ex husband his dad who's my nieces dad. They both have different dads. My nieces dad used to beat him and nobody knew but my niece and my sister when it happened and she didn't do anything. He also beat my sister or would try to kill her. They were in fights all the time. Which was definitely not good for the kids and that's what we told her.  She won't take any advice at all and repeatedly calls herself a really good mom but refuses to help her kids. Her and my mom argue all the time because my mom tries to get her to see that her kids are suffering a lot. She argues and goes on about how good of a mother she is. She has a severe alcohol problem. She doesn't drink nearly as much as she used to but it's still a severe problem. She also has severe anger issues.  Any time cops get involved she hides because she's afraid she'll get caught for being too drunk and getting her kids taken for child endangerment and for having illegal things in the house. She also put cameras up everywhere on the outside of her house to see when a cop would arrive so she wouldn't be taken by surprise anymore. She's also completely unstable. She's said before that if her kids were taken from her she'd have nothing to live for. She says she'd probably commit suicide.  Her saying that makes the kids feel guilty and makes them want to stay so she doesn't do that. Neither of them want to stay but they do for the sake of their mom. It's a really bad environment for them. Me and my mom are both worried that if we tell the cops or CPS and it's another failed trip she'll know we called and keep the kids from us. Neither of us want that to happen. If it were to happen we'd never know what happens to the kids or be able to help them any way we can anymore.  I would love to get the kids out of there and get somewhere safe but my sister seems to know her way around things and knows how to get out of situations with cops or CPS and she's taught the kids to lie to any cop or CPS worker if they get involved and have to interview them. 

Hello, my name is Ally...me and my mom got into an argument recently about my eating habits (I have anemia) I told her I was going to bed and she said I'm not going to bed until I eat so I went to the kitchen told her. I wasn't hungry but she took my phone and hit me in the arm I started to cry and I told her to leave me alone because she kept on yelling saying she pays the bills and she doesn't want to here me complain if I'm in pain, I told her can I speak (I was trying to tell her that I cant just eat that's like telling someone with an eating disorder to eat, it's like a mind thing) she didn't care punched me again and pushed my head. She told me after that to move out and left. (More Info) This is not the first time she threatened to kick me out we always get into argument she tells me to shut up  Made me sit outside in the dark  We haven't talked in three days and I feel like I'm misunderstood and numb I'm 14 and I feel like I'm not wanted I flinch a lot don't like being touched and now I show very little emotion around her I'm always sleeping not eating......So please give me advice. 

We were all at the dinner table and someone asked my profession I replied I'm a garbage man I work in the contra costa county service industry, my younger brother works as an investment banker go's, "That you are" and the whole table started laughing and I got a few pats on the back. It felt so bad I was embarrassed and can never look at my family the same.  My whole life he has always picked on me and has said hurtful comments.

My 20 yr old daughter She was supposed to have gotten her car I was raised to believe when someone is doing you a favor you should abide by their guidelines. I told her she's not going to look like trash anymore. She always wear sweatpants her hair is never done. She said " how am I supposed to have my hair nice when we are in the middle of a pandemic. I don't know how to style it myself and salons are closed." I told her she can do it something to it but she would not be getting any food or groceries looking the way she does. She said I was controlling and a horrible person She was supposed to have gotten her car lost her job due to the virus 

My father and I were very close growing up or I am the youngest one of all my siblings and my father got offended when I got into a relationship and the relationship started to get more serious and into having children. He throws fits for us to break up and tells me to go to Mexico with him on a Saturday and get drunk and pass out for a few days and leave me future wife home alone pregnant. I bring my partner now everywhere I come like family parties etc and my father gives us dirty looks. No offense but spending all my time with him is not something that sounds fun. I enjoy having barbecue and inviting other siblings to come tag along. What's his deal? I obviously care.

My mother suffers from severe mental illness. She has done some terrible things to me throughout my life. She wrote a letter to one of my boyfriends  when I was younger that I was totally in love with and said terrible things about me and caused him to break up with me. She talks terribly about me behind my back to everyone and smiles to my face. She ruined my relationship with my father and my sister. When I first met my husband she sent him a email trying to get him to leave me telling him I was in bad debt and was a terrible person. I still managed to forgive her and talk to her.. She would take pictures of me when I was overweight after I had my daughter and send them to people to make fun of me. Well recently she did the worst thing ever to me.. I decided to stop talking to her because she was starting to verbally abuse my children and I got a call from one of my neighbors that she received a letter in the mail about me.. Well I found out my mother typed a letter and pretended to be me and sent it to every single one of my neighbors which is about 50 people and in the letter it said horrible things about me. I cried my eyes out.. was humiliated and sick over it.. afraid to even show my face in my neighborhood again.. not only did she sabotage every relationship with family but now she wanted to make sure even my neighbors wouldnt talk to me. What should I do to make this stop? she is a scary person! 

I am a failure with problems. I don't have the value of the bullet that I will kill myself

He's turning 101 on Saturday.

I am a high school Junior and I met this 2nd cousin in February at my great-grandmother's funeral. I had met her once before at Christmas time 3 years ago. Since my Mom died I have gotten to know my Dad;s family more and this girl is very nice. My parents were divorced so my mother kept me from Dad and his family but the past 5 years it has been nice cause I got to know them more. I want to ask her to go somewhere but not date a family member. Plus she is more distantly related, not a 1st cousin but 2nd. My 1st cousins I all got to know well after my Mom died. Any thoughts?

My boyfriend and I are 19 years old and we both in college. We both still live with our parents. We've been together for a little over a year.  However, my mom is extremely overprotective. She doesn't allow us to be alone. We're allowed to go out just the two of us, but as far as being home alone she doesn't allow it. But we have found our ways around it so we can get away with it. She also asks me to send pictures of where I'm at whenever I'm with him and it's extremely annoying. She also forbids me from laying down with him to cuddle. This is why he always invites me to his house. I was never caught doing anything and neither have I ever gotten in trouble do anything so I don't know what her deal is. his family has asked me to go camping with them later this summer (meaning in an RV). I explained to her that we would be in separate rooms and that there would be 7 people in one camper. My mom said no because you're never supposed to sleep with a boyfriend before marriage and it makes me look like a whore. She also said that it embarrasses the family. I explained to her again that we would be in separate rooms and she replied with "Other people wouldn't know that. It makes you look slutty. I thought I raised you better." After that we kept fighting over it. I kept telling her I'm nearly 20 years old and she doesn't need to forbid from spending the night with him like I'm 16 years old. I just don't understand why my mom is like this. She's refusing to listen to me. It's kinda difficult to move out when we're still in college. Also, I'm not intimate with him at my house, we only do those things at his house. His parents don't care. I already said I can't move out. I'm asking why she's being this way. Telling me to move out isn't answering my question.

Okay, so I came out to my mom and dad last year, after I came to accept it, of course. I've known for a while now and I think I should tell my family, even though it might cause problems, they should know. My aunt is a pastor, but the family also gossips so I worry I could ruin her church if they gossip to the church about it. My aunt is a very loving person though, and I know that she will eventually accept me. I was thinking of coming out to my cousin Vicky first, but what exactly should I say?I plan to tell them after the quarantine is over.

My mom passed away last week. I'm an only child and never met my father. I'm literally alone now.

Due to the virus his company is temporary closed and he can finally rest at home with me, I'm taking care of him now since he's been working long and tiring hours in a factory, 9 hours a day, 6 days a week, walking and lifting things all the time, without rest. My boyfriend used to come home exhausted and fell asleep shortly after. I am so happy these days, I am staying with him all day long, I cook his favorite things, homemade food and cakes, I'm cuddling him and taking care of him. We never argued all these days. We stay together close and cuddle, we do things together and I massage him for all the days he came home weary. I worked there too until I graduated,  now I have a better job but I know that that job is awful, and my poor love cannot still work there. I am so happy he's staying at home with me, I'm taking care of him