Not sure if he resents me because he's been financially supporting me since I lost my job 6 months ago or what but I notice his attitude has been horrible. No I don't bring in any money since I lost my job but I have been cooking and cleaning every single day. He said he doesn't want to do any house work since he works hard outside of the house and I don't have a problem with that but his attitude is becoming unbearable. I do not ask him for anything except grocery money. I don't ask him to pay for my hair, nails, clothes nothing else. Only the necessities food. The meals that I make him aren't simple meals they are long extravagant meals that take me hours to make a lot of creativity and a lot of times he appears ungrateful. I'm very grateful for him supporting me while being unemployed. I'm actively looking for a job hopefully I can find something soon. Ever since I've been unemployed cooking has definitely become a passion of mines. I decided to cooked cheese burgers for our family for dinner my sister was over our house and she said they were the best cheese burgers she ever had an asked for the receipe. My husband snobbishly said " I only like Burger King hamburgers." My sister said " home made us better in my opinion and your wife Is an amazing cook.." there was another instance where I was on the phone with my other sister and he seemed to have an attitude with me. I cater to my husband a lot and I have him money while I was working so I'm not sure what s issue

I just read somewhere that children only have one legal home after their parents divorce, even if its a shared custody agreement. But can the children still live with one parent half the time and the other parent the other half of the time? In two different homes. Let's say the parents live really close to each other and they get a long well.

Why do they always fight when they don't see each other, but when are together they hardly fight, and if anything they sound like an old married couple?

Is it best to let her be have her space and talk when she is ready 

I know I shouldn't be planning for a divorce, but I really want to become a father and I would NOT be okay with only getting visitation rights and being a "weekend dad." That's actually one of my worst nightmares. I want to raise my children all throughout their childhood. I'm okay with sharing custody if a divorce were to happen, but what if I marry one of those "no, shared custody is wrong, the children need one home" people? Since it's wrong to discuss divorce before getting married, it's not like we can plan this beforehand. Again, I'm not planning for a divorce and I will do EVERYTHING for a divorce not to happen, but this is just a worry I have on the back of my mind. I really, REALLY want to be a father and I don't want a scenario like this to ruin it for me. I want to be a father. Being an uncle is NOT enough.

so my soon to be ex husband wants to stay together and move to Arizona he claims once he transfers to a better position for his job. problem is we are barley getting divorce this year of july, it was just too much for me after begging him to grow up and be finically responsible instead of supporting his toxic mother like giving her rides and money who was in our marriage and turned his family against me. i tried to get along and talk his mother about her gambling addiction for the sake of our 2 children but she's stubborn, and narasstic. He lives with her currently but I honestly don't see him changing making his promises.  refuused marriage counseling, and now excuses to leave by his actions. one day he loves me other he hates me due to her brainwashing. I have my own place and can support myself I love him deeply but he can not open his eyes and move away from her it seems or keep her out of his personal life.  should I trust him? i want to be with him but I don't want to feel like I can sometimes i need time to heal we just spearted. he broke my trust so much dont want to look like a fool He also tries to stay over my place claiming his tired of her but doesn't have the money yet to move out, I stand my ground and don't have any physical contact with him except dropping off the kids. I have my reaons if he's staying with her I don't want to be used and lied to. he keeps repaying give me time, but I refuse to sleep with him 

Me and my ex husband were together with our 6 year old, we are divorced. He was talking to him about candy and how he always has him on candy, and I made a joke saying I'll be the one who keeps you healthy  to balance him out. He looked at me weird after that, I got the vibe that he was disgusted in me for making a joke and thought why am I saying that. Am I looking into this too much? I feel that I can tell what people are thinking and can read people a lot. It makes me feel bad cause I was simply just trying to be funny and joking. 

I always think nice, friendly people who reach out to me are fake, desperate, needy, and deceiving that I act snobbish, rude, and aloof towards them because of what my husband and family have told me about them, knowing my family chose my husband for me, and I can't reach out to anyone either because they will be violent, aggressive, and hostile because I am female and people, especially males hate being taken advantage of by females. This is where they get violent to defend their manhood, according to my husband. Is it a good idea to be an arrogant, conceited, snob so no one will target you?

All your life you're told these are the best ways to stay healthy, but these hygiene habits are actually very bad for you. Is this true as I clicked and clicked and never got to the bottom of this!!! O h I wore out my clicking finger~~Beieve it or not~but I did see a squirell in my backyard and he found a nut~but even a blind squirell will find a nut now and then

So to start off with I'm married! But I don't spend any time with my husband because he's always working, so I have been thinking about introducing myself to my neighbor. I've seen that he spends time outside to smoke but it's usually in the mornings when I haven't even gotten dressed. Do I go up to him and start a conversation or try to make eye contact with him 

I always hear how people in arranged marriages fall in love after marriage, I always assumed that you usually fall in love before marriage. Can it happen after you get married in an arranged marriage? What if it doesn't happen?

There are people who want to help me with my controlling family situation and marriage which was arranged by my family but I always think of them as liberal, politically correct, godless, immoral propagandists from what they talk about and post as to why I end up ghosting them and ignoring them instead because my husband, family, and relatives don't approve of them since they are conservative. Is it okay to do that to people like that just because those close to you think they are a bad influence?

As well as further telling the child that his birth was "an accident"? Ostensibly dropping these verbal atomic bombs on the child so she could inflict the maximum amount of suffering on the husband? Without even thinking about how those words would damage the child, as if the divorce itself wasn't damaging enough to the child? Would you think it an effective  strategy for ruining the rest of the child's life as well as the father's who now has to go to his grave (64 y/o, bad health,  "child" is only 19) thinking he will be remembered by the child as the "father who didn't love him"? On top of being told his birth wasn't intended? Would any of the rest of you out there have said that to your child under similar circumstances?  If so, why? Or why not? Women, how do you feel about this? Men, how would you feel in my place? Every time my son asks me if it's true I tell him that his mother is lying. But he doesn't believe me. What would you do or say? Even if it was true, which it's not, because there are no "accidents" in this life, why would you or anybody else want to tell a child these things? Would you have? Would any of you have done the same thing after an acrimonious divorce? For revenge?  To destroy an ex-spouse? Without thinking about the effects of those words on the child, words he will remember for the rest of his life? Am I wrong to believe that words can be some of the most powerful weapons in the world and that it is a crime to tell a child something like this?  Thanks for the supportive and thoughtful answers on here. And the other ones, it doesn't matter. I expected them. It was a bad situation where my ex-wife worked for the same court that we had our divorce and custody proceedings in and re-married a guy after our divorce, her 4th husband,  who was abusing my our son and she covered for this guy.   Because she worked for the state superior court here the judge in Family Court treated me worse than a hardened criminal and ignored everything I was saying about the abuse of my son. It was all swept under the rug. I didn't even have an attorney representing me except for two court appearances and he just made matters worse. It was just the perfect storm. In the worst possible way.. At one hearing I got so frustrated I told the judge that the court was corrupt and she had me arrested for contempt of court and put in handcuffs and ankle cuffs.  I'll never forget it. Child protective services and the cops wouldn't listen to me about the abuse either. As soon as they found out she worked for the state superior court  system here they just turned a deaf ear. And now my son hates me because I was such a failure as a father. And he hates me for bringing him in the world with a mother like her. He's expressed this. I don't even know why I keep going sometimes. And his mother had to say that to him. Those words. For some reason, to me that's  the worst part of all. I don't know why.

Frens, I've come to the realization that most of you over zealously defend marriage because marriage alone is enough of a conundrum. I get it, you don't need me to point out the flaws in the marriage institution. You can continue to believe marriage is all rainbows and sunshine and that there aren't any bad actors in the world. BUT Isn't it helpful to have somebody to let you know the bad side of things?

I feel like the worst person in the world for posting this, but here goes. My husband and I have been married almost a year. He has 2 children (4&6) from previous marriage and I have none. We only see them once a week. I've known them for about 2 1/2 years. Every time they come, I always feel like an outsider. Sure, they are loving towards me, but there are moments when both of them and their dad have their loving moments and it makes me feel jealous. There are times when I want to do stuff with them, but they don't because they want to do it with their mom instead. At night when we all lay down, they want to lay next to their dad and so I'm just hanging off the edge of the bed while they're cuddled with their dad. The SD even told me to move to another bed because there was no room. When they are with me alone, I feel like a babysitter. I do love them, but I don't know if I do like their dad loves them. I feel like I'm more of a friend to them. I don't say "I love you" a whole lot to them. I do show that I love them though. Is this normal for a first time step mom? I rarely see them so I guess if they were around me more, things would be different. Any advice? 

I wasn't even in the mood but she unleashed the beast! See marrieds....this is how you stay married 20 plus years! To all the wives out there that don't put out for your long suffering chubby hubby....shame on you.

I do.  To this day I still grieve and will always. However, if someone were to joke about cancer like this: "Xavier, your post gave me cancer" Should I get offended at this person because I knew somebody close that died of cancer and hound him about it for weeks? I won't go into the details that inspired this question so as not to re trigger a certain someone.. What say you my frens?

I know that's a shocking question to read, but hear me out. My wife wears high heels every single day and has for years. It's finally caught up to her and she needs to see a chiropractor every week. This costs $45 a session. The doctor has told her if she stopped wearing her high heels she'd only have to come once or twice a month. But she refuses to give up her high heels. This costs us $180 a month which we just can't afford. As it is we both work full-time and I work a 2nd job and it's difficult to make ends meet. Should I try to get her to stop wearing her high heels, or is this a losing battle?  Please offer some advice!

I got laid off from my job and we could no longer make the mortgage payments. The lender was going to foreclose. Then I got a letter telling me my mortgage had been paid off. I thought it was a mistake so I went to the lender, and ask them about it. They told me my ex husband who was still on the mortgage had came in and paid off the mortgage. We had a friendly divorce but I NEVER expected this. I got the house in the divorce but I had to keep up the mortgage payments. I called my ex husband and ask him why he paid off the mortgage. He told me that since he was still on the mortgage, his credit was being harmed by my not making the mortgage payments. I promised him I would pay him back the money he used to payoff the mortgage. He told me I did NOT OWE him anything. There are not words to express how great it feels to not EVER have to worry about having a home to come home to. However, I had an unexpected problem. My current husband is very upset about the way things turned out. I told him it did not have ANYTHING to do with him. He should be happy that WE now have a free and clear home. I told him if it bothers him so much, he can pay back my ex husband the money he used to pay off the mortgage. He has not mentioned anything about this since. Do you think he will get over this and let us both get on with our lives with NO MORTGAGE PAYMENTS EVER.

My husband thinks I'm a fake, lying hoe because I'm considered attractive-looking, especially by others, and that anyone who is attractive like me is also unrealistic and deceiving since homely people are more commonly available which is realistic. Is it reasonable to think that attractive people are fake and dishonest while homely people are more real and honest? I am considered a natural beauty but wear makeup and dress fashionably with high heel shoes but my husband hates it. It makes him feel insecure and deceived. My husband calls me a vain c%&t and thinks all attractive people are vain.

My husband expects me to be homely, although my parents chose him for me, and hates the idea of me being attractive, especially in public. Homely people are defined as less attractive to others but can be attractive to one, especially to their partner who then becomes their spouse. Marriage-minded good people with high standards and morals, even for themselves, prefer homely people rather than attractive ones who make them feel nervous, intimidated, and insecure. Is it better to have a homely spouse (in the beginning) rather than an attractive one? If a person is homely, it's more practical and safer. If a person is attractive, it's not practical and it's deceiving.

that was my father . but still everytime i try to have a little old family chat with her , she reminds me how big her husband's penis is .

during this Commoda outbrake? If not, WHY? If u are a essential worker thin you had to go to work, so you are pardoned and admired for youre ongoing efforts to help save lives. That includes hour health care workers, hour po-po, hour food distributors, hour cleaning services--anyone who keeps pressing on in this time of horror. And even though some ANONOMOUS people deam me seedy---i wont to say thank you sincerely for helping other people during this outbrake.  But if you had the option to stay home and you still hit the streets i wont to say--STOP IT you selfish imbiciles, these essential workers dont knead you out feeding the virus no more! My house has won essential worker and the rest of us STAY HOME, its hell cause their is 14 of us hear at all times but we respect essential workers lifes and we wont to due hour part. Sew I ask ye, did you and your spouce dew you're part and STAY HOME? Thank you and God bless hour essential workers!