My mom is always complaining about how we never are never like her siblings' families. When they send pictures of their Christmas decorations, Easter eggs, or Valentine's desserts, she gets jealous and frustrated that 'We don't do that family stuff!' or 'We aren't fancy like that!'. It really makes me feel like trash for not thinking of doing what the rest of my family is showing everyone. I understand that they are all close, but they all try to show up the next person. It's pretty toxic, and it usually doesn't bother me because i dont care what they think about my decorations or outfits, but lately my mother has been getting really bummed out about it, and she gets pretty bitter about it. I don't know why I'm putting this on yahoo answers, because I'm pretty sure all I have to do is suck it up and ignore her.

I am planning to move to VA from NY in September to live with my bf (we are both grown adults). My parents, especially my mom, is not supportive and very angry about it. She calls me selfish for leaving the family (especially leaving her) here to be with my bf. She feels like I'm abandoning her even though I've reassured her that's not the case. My bf's family also lives in NY but he moved to VA few years ago for his job. I like the atmosphere of VA and can see myself having a better life there, plus I don't like my current job. So I really see this as an opportunity to venture out and possibly have a better life somewhere else. My bf and I are very serious about this relationship and plan to get marry after I move in. I am determined to move by September, but every time I bring up the conversation of me moving, my mom starts yelling. I feel like there's no way to convince her or even just talk rationally with her and I don't know what to do. I suggested my bf also try to talk to my parents about it, which would only be right since I'm moving to his place. But I don't want to see him get yelled at and be hated by my mom.  What would you do?

My dad has always been very controlling to the point where I am 19 and had a 9:30 curfew, he made me give him my phone at night, he had a tracking app on me that notified him when I got someplace and when I left someplace as well, and I had to ask permission to do literally anything, amongst other thing. Mind you, I've never been one to make decisions that broke their trust. I get good grades, am paying for my college completely out of pocket, I've never smoked anything, never drank anything, never been to a real party. I decided to move out so that I could be an adult and have independence. I had my own bank account but my parents had access to it. I asked them to remove themselves from the account when I moved out and apparently they did not because I got a text from my dad yesterday telling me that he's been tracking my spending. I told him that I was going to make a new bank account because I'm on my own and there is no reason for him to have access to my money. He's always been very rude and demeaning and this conversation is a great example. He proceeded to respond with "why don't you for once in your life not be an impulsive little b****"and "you're an irresponsible, worthless little c**t" along with many other demeaning comments. I love my dad but he has always been this way, to the point where I have lived my entire life and made every decision to make sure that I don't disappoint him and that he does not get mad at me. I'm tired and don't know what to do. 

Is complaining all the time a form of toxic behavior? 

Last month my brother and his family came to visit me at my house. He has 2 daughters. The older one is 6. The younger one is 3. They intended to stay for just a week, but then the coronavirus happened, and now they are stuck here with me until they lift the quarantine. Ever since they came, i haven't been able to sleep AT ALL, and it's driving me NUTS. It's mostly because of that little demon who never stops jumping, screaming, yelling and running around the house. I had big problem sleeping even before they came, but now it's almost impossible. It takes me hours to fall a sleep, and once i am awaken, that's it, i can't go back to sleep. Every morning that little minion wakes me up at around 8 with her running around the house. Once i am awake, i can't go back to sleep again. Everyday i feel tired, sleepy and i have a headache all day, and i am unable to do my work, which is what irritates me the most. I talked to my bro and his wife, but they keep saying "there's nothing we can do about it". I swear that little kid is doing it on purpose. She ALWAYS does evil stuff. She would wait for her sister to do her school project, or draw a picture or something, and then she would go and tear it apart just to piss her off. My cat, which i love to death would sleep next to me, the little minion would come and hit the chair next to her just to scare her. When i scold her, she would just look at me with a troll face like she knows exactly what she did, and she will do it again. Of course im not going to harm the little minion, but do you think i am just being intolerant, or is the kid just pure evil? Is my hatred not justified? If its not clear i am talking about the 3 year old.

I am a full adult. No longer in college, over 25, not at home, etc. I drink quite a bit more than the average person- often 10 drinks or more everyday. My family thinks I am an alcoholic I know this isn't an ideal way to live, but there is just so much judgement for this and it seems like society's views on alcoholism are now being forced on me. Being told by a sibling and parent that I would essentially be disowned if they were to find out I had even one drink at any time ever again. I'm not even sure if it is because they care about me- or if they just think that this level of drinking means they have a "failure" in the family. I am not a violent person when drinking, have never gotten a DUI (though I cannot say I have never driven over the limit- I use caution), etc. This does not impact them. I rarely see them but it is annoying having to pretend that I don't drink when I am around family. It is not something that I can keep up forever as sooner or later a friend , woman, etc. is going to notice that I never drink around my family and I always state that "I dont drink" to family friends (which makes me feel bad). It also felt incredibly unnatural to be telling family friends that "I dont drink" at christmas parties (and the drinking would make the party a lot more fun) when Id probably end up having beer at my place afterwards anyways. So what do I do? Just flat out tell them I am still drinking and have no interest in stopping but still love them? I hate lying , but also feel like as an independent adult I have the right to do what I want. 

i'm in britain and i feel really scared with this whole coronavirus pandemic situation, the death toll has rised quite drastically and there are many rumors going around, that this will destroy the economy here.....and then i'm worried for my elderly parents survival, who are presently isolating and staying at home......and im worried for my own survival as a male in my forties.. i'm feeling scared to the point of panic, how do you cope with it? especially because i live alone, have mental problems and type 2 diabetes to manage....ive never made any relationships in my lifew...never had a female partner and cope with ''agonizing'' loneliness and isolation in general, living alone.....my mum and dad phone me every day, they are divorced and live apart....they both live far from me... how do you cope with the times now?

2 of my sisters got into a violent altercation. One that ended with a pan flying into our mother's shoulder. I have been stopping them from fighting all day until our mother told me to let them get it out. So I took my nephew upstairs... well my mom demanded that they apologize but one of my sisters did not and exploded on her verbally.  My mother smacked her and went downstairs to cry.  And told me that I was taking sides when I literally did nothing but stop them from fighting until she told me not to... which resulted in her injury... I let her know I thought it was immature to let them fight and then be upset over the results.  She wanted me yell at my sister I guess... but I think it is also immature to want to gang up on someone... especially a family member.  My mom is more hurt that my sister shouted that she wish our mom was dead... but this happened after the fight, and after our other sister kept claiming that God took her daughter as punishment.... I told our mom that she should have waited until the previous drama had cooled off before confronting her.  But she said I should have... which I did... I just did not do it aggressively or in front of her... and I gave her time to cool down.  My sisters said I was mature... and they apologized to each other already. But our mom and my sister have still  not apologized or talked. My sister thinks our mom should have removed our other sister from the house the moment she started to throw her dead daughter in her face... 

My 27 year old daughter just moved back home and we had not been getting along. So, I said let's live separate and now we just communicate by text and have separate meal times. This has been going on for 4 weeks now. She is very upset with me that I let this go on and did not try to resolve issues early on. She had gone grocery shopping for my Mom on Tuesday.  I told her that I would be going for a walk at 4:30 but left at 4:15.  She came back by 4:30 expecting that I would help her clean and sort the groceries. I was not home and she was on her knees sobbing and called me.  She was very, very upset with me. She says that I have not shown up as a mother. We tried to discuss the relationship issues but it came down to me being selfish, a coward and not being there for her. I had thought that she was going to pick up a few things and would be giving me the list of additional items to pick up. Now I feel very sad and upset that I am never there for her. She refuses to talk with me and resolve issues as I add nothing to the discussion. The scene keeps replaying in my mind and I feel very sad and bad.

My mom is a stay at home mom, and all she does is go on instagram or snapchat. She barely talks to us, and doesn't socialize. She goes in her room and stays there until dinner, laughing at some stupid Gossip on the news. No one knows what it's like because she's been addicted ever since I was little. I've never really talked to her before...like a conversation. She doesn't know how to start one and she doesn't want to go out. I remember being like 13 and she'd be on her phone instead of talking to me. When all the kids in school had instagram, she had instagram not me. She's addicted to her phone, and gets mad when I take it. How do I get her to stop? This is an actual serious problem! I'm loosing my mom! I want her back, I want her without the phone.

Here's a little background info about me. I'm 22 and I work for my grandfathers business. I work along with my uncle and his son which is also a grandchild of the owner. Ever since I was a kid I've been close to my grandparents and I help them when needed, same goes for my mother and brother and as a result we have a strong relationship with them. I feel as tho I am belittled by my cousin because of this, and at work it's no different. I am picked apart, gossiped about, I sm talked about to other people and they are being told things that are either exaggerated, altered, or just plan made up and this is really giving people a bad image of me. I am cut down to where I feel like I'm just a screw up. The bad thing is I can't talk to anyone about this because my uncle is pretty much the manager and let's this stuff slide. What do I need to do to cut this out? We live in a smaller town where people tend to make assumptions about somebody character based off what has been said about them. 

I'm pregnant and still living with my parents. They said that they will not let my boyfriend move in to help raise the baby. That's not good because if my boyfriend isn't there to help, it will be like I'm a single mom doing everything myself. I'm also not comfortable with my child spending nights over at his house. 

some background info... i am an 18 year old senior in high school. i have a job and have had one since i was 16 years old. i pay for everything i want, i pay for all my products i use for myself. I paid for my phone and for my phone bill every month. i bought the phone but the service is in her name. she takes my phone away as punishment and won't let me see my boyfriend if i do something she doesn't like. i have expressed how i want to cut my hair to my shoulders. i have been thinking about it for a long time and have thought it through over and over again and have decided i wanted to cut it. then... my mom said i couldn't. i instantly said "its MY hair". she replied with "not as long as you live under my roof." she is constantly being so controlling and i hate it so much. after she said that i told her that i am 18 and she said that the next person to cut their hair would get beat with the belt. if i do it she would take my phone and ground me. im about to be a high school graduate and im going to be 19 in 5 months. i dont know what to do. im so angry and tired of her controlling everything like this.

Does anyone have any suggestions on what I can do to in order to: 1. Not be angry at my brother  2. Make him understand that I need to be left completely ALONE to do my work.  Background: I am one of the many college students who is finding themselves back at home. And one of the challenges that I have had not even one success with is dealing with my brother. I need to be left completely alone and undisturbed to do my work. Just him being in close proximity of my door results in myself suddenly getting enraged at his presence and completely distracted from my work. I have tried talking with him, and other methods, but to no avail. Instead I find myself screaming at him, yelling at him, and wanting to just hit him with a shoe. I do not like my outward expression of anger at him, however I just can't seem to get them to stop. With siblings there is expectations that there will be bickering, and fighting, and hatred for each other at times. But All I want is to do my work during the day. And not have to constantly battle with him that to him, his work may not matter to him, but that mine does to me. And that I need absolutely no distractions. When I do not lash out at him immediately I just harbor negative feelings. Which from experience I know is just as bad for me as it is for him. I understand that he is only 10, and he needs a friend. But I need complete isolation to get my work done.  Does anyone have any good HEALTHY suggestions for me? 

So I finally got a job and it's working in a hospital as a scribe. All I have to do is pass my final. My mom isn't very supportive of me working is a hospital and catching corona and giving it to her. My mom has diabetes so she could die if she gets it. She told me that if I start working in the hospital then I need to start living in my car until this is over...

My whole life I think I've been mentally conditioned by my father. he has never tried to let me make decisions on my own. Thanks to my parents me and my twin brother are imbreds for life. Due to the coronavirus, I can't go to housing and apply for an application so that I can move into my own apartment. I was only supposed to stay at my father's house for a briefly, I ended up staying for 5 years. My entire life my father has told me to work the system and to not let the system work me. My father has told me that without SSI and SSD checks,that I'm going to struggle and I won't make it on my own without letting the system help me. Everytime I try to stand up for myself and let my father know about himself, he justifies himself and he tries to make himself look as if he's right and when he's not. He contradicts me, he argues with me,and he screams at the top of his lungs every time I try to say something to him, and he always tells me I don't want to hear it. sometimes I think that's his escape exit when things are too overwhelming for him only the truth hits him in his face. Sometimes when I speak, he'll start making ridiculous sounds with his voice, kind of like how some mentally challenged people talk. I don't sound like that lights on, if anything he rolls his letters when he talks like most Hispanic people. I've been fighting for years to get housing and its hard. I'm 35 yeards old and stuck living with him and I have nowhere else to go.

Obviously I don't need to tell anyone that Covid19 is ravaging the world. My husband and I have our honeymoon planned for Australia coming up May 15th. I didn't cancel it because the airlines haven't cancelled my flight, and no one knows when everything will be better. I have until near the end of the month to decide. My husband and our family have stayed home, aside from groceries and the doctor, to do our part with distancing. But my husband is a severe asthmatic, and it could be truly dangerous should he get sick. I haven't cancelled yet because this is his dream trip, so I was hoping things would get better. But we can get our money back and go again another time if need be. So what do you think? Should I start cancelling everything? 

All through my childhood family holidays were when the Extended family on my mother's side rejected us because my mother and them did not get along and my mother personalized it and said it was a rejection of all of us. Now as an adult I try seeking everybody out on family holidays to reach out and show that I'm my own person separate from my mother. However, this year with COVID-19 I think that would be kind of rude and Easter is not a huge family holiday like Christmas. One of my mom's sisters is even out of town. So how do I handle the trembling fear that I will have that everybody's getting together when most likely they're not? Last year they had something and forgot to ask me despite an uncle seeing me at church that morning. I guess I was just overlooked as I took it personal but a Thanksgiving they asked me to come by so it's not like they have anything against me. Yet the rejection and pain opens every year at a family holiday. Easter I tremble fearing everybody's getting together when usually they're not. Any ideas?

I am 22 and my cousin is 31. He was present at my baptism and my parents' wedding. As I started growing he would be gone anytime I visit the country. In my life I have only met him about 4-5 times. Next year I'll visit him abroad, hoping to finally get a chance to meet him. I tried to talk to him so that I can learn about him but he is too busy. What can I do to get close to my unknown cousin?

She is 36 but looks around 25 imo. She is really hot. I don't get how this can be possible. She hasn't aged one bit.

My son hates going to see his grandpa. I found bruises on my sons body and on numerous occasions my dad burns cigarettes on parts of his skin. My son also tells me that grandpa starves him and never lets him drink any water. I think my dad also inappropriately touched my son because one time he jokingly slapped my son on the butt while he was walking by and he forcibly tried to kiss my son on the lips when he felt uncomfortable. I am really angry with my dad. I haven't taken any of his calls and I want him out of me and my son's life.

I am 32 years old and I got a degree in graphics design. I am currently not working and it's been so hard to find a job. I really just want to live in peace with my parents for the rest of my life while they pay all of my bills and insurance. After they die I plan on moving in with my Aunt and uncle so they can continue supporting me.  I also plan on taking all of my parents money after they die.

"The Hellfire complained to its Lord, saying, 'My Lord., part of me has eaten other parts (of me), so give me breath (or ventilation).' He gave it permission to breath (or give vent) twice every year. The coldest thing you will find is the bitter cold of Hell; and the most intense heat you will find is the heat of Hell." https://lycopolis.wordpress.com/2015/04/03/journey-to-afterlife-beginning-from-trial-of-the-grave-to-the-eternal-life/

So i asked my mother if it's true i was born in 1995 as suggested by the mental health birth certificate, and she instantly said "No, it was a mistake from the mental health birth certificate" "You were born in 1999" "how did you know that information" and i responded "You told me 2 years ago". Sorry if my English is bad, I'm not a native speaker of English since I'm from and live in Puerto Rico.

Yesterday My Stepmom made me quit Job because of the coronavirus my stepmom said that she is worried about me catching the coronavirus.  Yesterday she demanded that I give her my car keys then she made me called my boss to tell him that I was quitting. My little sister called our mom and and told on our stepmom. My mom got mad and called my stepmom and to stop telling her daughter what to do. My stepmom told my mom that I live under her roof and hang up on my mom. My mom wants to get the car keys and go to work tomorrow but I don't want to starts an argument with my stepmother. I want to go to work but my dad agrees with my stepmom. Wished that my little had kept her mouth shut. Because now my mom is calling my dad and starting Arguments. 

Who cares if I want to sit on their until 3.00 am or my guest along with me.  We are not disturbing or  bothering anyone. Opens up at 6.00 am yet closed at 11.00 pm then security tells us to leave.  To me make sense if it was open 24 hours long as their no sex, sleeping, drinking, drugs or loud noise going on.   Even if there is noise the way the room is designed it is virtually soundproof.  A nuclear bomb would have to go out for anybody to hear it.

Having a child with with your full sibling or having a child with your quarter sibling/niece or nephew who is the child of your half sibling and your parent (the one you share with your half sibling) of the opposite sex. I mean genetically.

I know a family who are very rich and decided no to leave anything to their son.The son graduated and landed in a good job but got unemployed as the company went bankrupt.His parents helped for a 6 months only for basic expense.he lost his car and studio apartment provided by company.The parents stopped handing him the money as he was not getting the job as was expecting higher pay.The son started getting resentful toward his parents for not helping him out regardless of having so much money.He stopped contacting them became alcoholic and died in a car crash WOULD YOU FEEL GUILTY IF HE WAS YOUR SON?

I'm 21 turning 22 this summer. I'm an adult, but I still live at home. I still live at home because I can't afford my own place and i'm just not ready to move out and be completely on my own yet. I have a job, but my job doesn't pay me enough to be able to afford my own place, and I don't have the experience needed for a higher paying job. My main problem with living at home is that my parents MAKE me eat healthy! They FORCE me to eat healthy! They always act like the food police and tell me what I can and can't eat. For example, i'm only allowed to have soda twice a week, and i'm only allowed to get something from Starbucks once a week. The one time a week i'm allowed to get something from Starbucks, i'm only allowed to get the SMALLEST size drink made with SKIM milk. On the other hand, all of my friends can go to Starbucks everyday, get whatever size drink they want and get it made with any type of milk they want. My friends can also drink soda whenever they want. Also, when we have pasta for dinner, my parents will only let me have a SMALL, LITTLE portion of pasta, no more than that. They limit my carb intake! They also limit my sugar intake. I'm so sick of it! I understand parents doing this with little kids, but i'm not a kid at all anymore! I'm in my 20's! Even people a lot younger than me are making all of their own food decisions now, good or bad. I feel like my friends have cooler parents than me! One of my best friends goes to Starbucks twice everyday and gets herself a medium sized java chip frappuccino every single time, and her mom doesn't care. Even when she was only 15 years old and not driving yet, her mom drove her to Starbucks twice every day so she could get a java chip frappuccino. That just proves that her mom is a lot cooler than mine! Not only that, but my mom's best friend lets her daughter who's only 14 eat whatever she wants whenever she wants. Her daughter can go for seconds at dinner(i'm not allowed to go for seconds at dinner at all) and have all of the junk food and sweets she wants. How come my mom's friend acknowledges that her daughter is old enough to make her own food decisions, but not my mom? Please don't tell me to move out! I already told you that I can't and WHY I can't! Besides, all of my friends still live at home but their parents let them eat whatever they want whenever they want. My mom thinks it's because my friends have terrible parents, but that is NOT the reason. THEIR parents actually acknowledge that they're old enough to make their own decisions while mine don't.  Teens and young adults, how did you convince your parents to stop limiting your unhealthy food intake and let you eat as much unhealthy food as you want whenever you want by the time you were 12-13? Please help me guys! All I want is for my parents to start treating me like an adult!  I forgot to mention that my mom's best friend also has a son who's 9. My mom's friend limits HIS diet, but not her 14 year old daughter's. I understand this because my mom's friend's son is only 9, a KID, but i'm already 21 and my parents still do it to me! 

My sister still isn't taking the coronavirus seriously. Shes still going outside to stores but there's tons of confirmed cases in our area (we live in NY). My dad gets super mad at her when she goes out and buys thing without even a mask but she just yells back at him. She is still buying her drugs from her "friend". I saw her text him our address and the next day he showed up in the morning. She went out but because we have ring my dad found out. He yelled at her and asked to see what he handed her but she refused and was like "what are you talking about it's none of your business." She also tried and complained to my mom for an hour about how it doesn't matter if her boyfriend comes over but she was rejected cause he lived in the city and there's a lot of cases there. Shes 5 years older than me and she's just being plain irresponsible. I can't afford to get the virus because I am immune deficient and so is my mom. My mom also has asthma. How can I convince her to stop endangering everyone in the house.

My husband is a missionary and I'm an English teacher. We're from Germany. A year ago we decided to live in Sri Lanka for a few years to serve the locals. Our daughter is now 9 years old. She has made good friends at school and she finds Sri Lankan children very friendly. She used to go to the beach with them after school. Now, the schools are closed and she has to stay at home. We don't allow her to visit her friends or go to the beach and now, she can't concentrate on her studies anymore. I think she's becoming depressed. Me and her father try our best to entertain her and we often tell her to have faith in God and pray for the world to become safe again. But she's not even interested in reading the Bible anymore. I don't want her to lose her faith. She keeps staring at the wall, without doing anything particular. She barely eats and she has lost a lot of weight.

My wife's mom recently passed away from a cancer battle, the one thing she wanted was her to live long enough to see our daughter 1st birthday. Unfortunately she did not make it. I want my daughters cake to show something regarding her mom, I can't figure out what i can do. I want something small, maybe a heart with a little saying inside... Any ideas would be great. I really want my wife to see that her mom is still watching our daughters first birthday. I attached a sample cake I plan on getting. Thanks. 

I'm 19 (m) and he just turned 14 earlier this year, a lot of times  whenever i'm home (Which lately is often obviously whenever i'm not working basically) he'll be in there too just hanging out or watching tv or whatever, me and him are close and his room is kind of small I'll admit, but I feel like he's like almost always in my room, I dont wanna be mean and tell him to leave though,