We dated when we were 17 but we didn't feel like this about each. We reconnected 25 years later (two weeks ago) but the tie between our souls is very real. Why did we not feel this way 25 years ago but do now?

Is that childish. I get butterflies in my heart. 

About 9 months ago I came home to find my partner of 3 years on the phone with another girl, talking dirty talk. He confessed she was just someone from America. I had seen the warning signs but ignored them (phone locked, never left his phone alone, finding tissues all the time and in our spare room from where he was obviously doing his business). We worked through it and he said he would go to counselling. Well it's 9 months later and he hasn't gone to counselling! But he has just finally booked an appointment.  Anyway, lately I've been noticing him withdrawing from me sexually, declining sex as he's 'too tired' and struggling to get hard when we do. There have been other little signs. Like his face expression looking worried when I'm looking at his phone. The other night while he was asleep I went through it. I found nothing however I went into the 'secret messenger' section on FB messenger and it was turned on. Why would it be turned on if he's not using it?  I don't trust him anymore, and I know he won't tell me. I'm thinking of turning 'off' the secret messenger and checking a day later to see if he's activated it again, and if he has then he must be using it. Hopefully he will just think it was a glitch that turned it off... I need to find out. This is driving me insane. Please what else can I do 

My husband and I are both on our mortgage. And he lost his job so we want him off of it so there's no financial obligation for him. How can you take yourself off your title and mortgage? Both parties are willing 

You have your husband all the time but he is messaging someone else about sex.You share a house and a bed.

My husband and I moved to the south many yrs ago. There's a female from our old neighborhood where he is from he keeps in touch with this female. They used to have sex when they were young about 28 yrs ago. Now with social media he talks to her on a regular basis. I may not have too much to worry about because we live  like 7 hours south of where we used to live.I don't think he will really go out his way and see her but I haven't clue as why he always talks to her.

I'm a 41 year old single mom (kids are 11 and 14) who has been divorced for 3 years. Recently something very unexpected happened: I'm super attracted to a guy who is 25 years old. I never expected (and never have) dated anyone with such an age difference, but we're quickly moving in the direction of getting in a relationship. There's a part of me that thinks the gap shouldn't be a big deal and another part of me that thinks it could be a real problem. The pro-dating him part of me thinks that the age difference shouldn't matter When I'm with him I don't feel it. I can talk to him so easily and we have a ton in common. He's super mature for his age and I don't feel a maturity difference when I'm with him. Furthermore, he also has a masters degree and a good paying job in tech. He's got his life put together and can take care of himself financially (which may be an issue with other guys his age). It makes me feel super great knowing someone his age finds someone my age physically/sexually attractive. In bed he actually has a lot more stamina (and a much better body) than my ex/most guys my age. I think it's helped me feel much more sexually satisfied.   On the flip side, I do recognize there may be some issues from the age difference. There have been a few times when I've talked to him about issues I'm having and I can tell that (despite being very mature) (continued) he doesn't have the life experience to truly connect with me on some issues. .know there is a stigma about women dating younger men. I'm especially concerned what my kids would think (they haven't met him/don't know his age). The other issue is that I think he does want at least 1 kid (which could be an issue if we got far enough along in the relationship). However, I actually do like the idea of having 1 more kid and I'm not so old getting pregnant is impossible. But it would be much harder for me than someone his age and (since I haven't tried in a while) I'm not 100% sure I could. Finally, if I'm being honest, the social stigma does bother me. I know I shouldn't care about what other people think, but it does. I'm particularly worried about what my kids would think (they don't know exactly who I've been going out with/what his age is)  Would it be a good idea to give the relationship a try? Why or why not? If so what are things we can do in order to work out potential problems the age gap may bring?

I don't know how to get ahold of my ex

Recently my father in law passed away and My husbands ex-girlfriends daughter is included in the obituary as my husbands daughter and the deceased's granddaughter. My husband was never married to his ex, he never adopted the child, and the relationship isn't even that close. I am taking offense to this. I feel guilty about it because I know my husband is going through a difficult time, however I find this to be very weird. My husband as well as his aunts and uncles took part in writing this obituary and my husband says he doesn't see it as a big deal. I do because she is not his child and I feel like he takes other people's feelings into consideration before he thinks about how any of this will make me feel. My question is, is this harmless? Am I blowing things out of proportion?

"You would be messed up and struggling if you go out and get a place of your own." We moved fast in our relationship. After 3 months of seeing each other here and there...he bought a house and moved me in with him. I never really did understand what role to take in finances because this was all new to me so I just picked up where I thought I should. I'd buy groceries and cook. Home decor and decorate, internet, our clothes and when I had the extra money I'd give to go towards standard bills. After a year in we had a big fight and I left on top.of being put out. 2 months went by and I find out I'm pregnant while away ( it's his I'm a good girl) and so we went to counseling and I moved back in. We have been doing pretty good but I can tell past feelings are still harbored a little. I have agreed to step up and pay more money each month while being expected to take on the other things I did before and be a mothering role n his daughters life. I am pregnant with my 1st child so I sometimes get very emotional about things that I don't agree with. I don't make as much money as he does because I work for myself and have my own business so we are from 2 different financial realms. But to insult me by saying I will not make it on my own makes me want to try to. 

My single mom who lives alone really liked my ex husband John when we were married and they remained friends after our divorce. That is fine with me. We did not have any children. John brings mom a lot of happiness. Whenever she needs something fixed on her house, her car, or her computer she will call John. He comes over and takes care of the problem. He never charges her anything for his help. He just told her that he does not charge friends for helping them. I have remarried and when my current husband and I visit mom, she NEVER mentions John or what he has done for her. In fact she does not want to discuss it with me when we are alone. She tells me she does not want to cause me any problems. John did a kitchen remodel for mom and it came out beautiful. The last time my husband and I were at moms he saw the remodel and when we got home he asked me to get the name of the contractor that did it so we could use him to remodel our kitchen. Please give me some advice on how to handle this. The LAST thing I want is to have my husband meet John. I see nothing but trouble from this happening. Oh My God. What would happen if they become buddies? YOUR ADVICE PLEASE.

Will fate divorce you if you're unhappy? I'm not the problem. He's the one with commitment issues. Why get married if you never want to be around your wife or help her with anything? I can't believe I stayed married to him for 5 years just to come to an end like this. I have been so unhappy lately. We argue too much..so much that we barely sleep on the same bed anymore. He's the one pulling away and every time I tell him to stay with me or help me out with our kids.. he'll avoid all responsibilities and anything to do with me.. he goes out and do his own selfish thing. After 5 years I don't want to stay with him anymore. He's super fake and his intentions are fake. He always lies, do things behind my back and without me and I hate him even more now because he cheated on me with my niece in law. He ruined my relationship with my family. I have detached myself and gave him exactly what he want, separation. When ever he wants to compromise now..I would get up and leave. I hate him so much. I can't stand him anymore. Every time when I wanted to talk before, he would push me away or shut me out. I grew to hate him so much after how he treated me. He pretended like he was a gentleman when we first met. I fell for it and always thought good about him up until I see his real face, inside and out. Marriage don't mean it's forever right? 

When I got married I was just out of college and had a $51,000 dollar student loan debt. My husband Jack worked a lot of overtime hours to payoff that student loan debt. That was several years ago. Jack is now my ex husband. We remained on friendly terms after our divorce. I recently received an inheritance and I think I have a moral obligation to pay back Jack some or all of the money he used to pay off my student loan debt. My friends and family tell me I am crazy to do this. They say I don't owe him anything. It is a husband's duty to pay off his wife's debts. I am confused. Can someone tell me what is the right thing to do in this situation

We have an autistic son. And it requires me to attend IEP's with him. My son lives with him because the school district in my town was not helping him at all.  My son is much more happier in his new school.  And we travel back and for to see him.  When he is with me my ex comes to visit him and when he is with my ex, I go there to visit him.  I don't know what to do. I divorced 6 years ago. My marriage was not a good one. My family is in another country and my family was him and my son. I observed that when he was droping my son in my house, because he lives very far, he was staying the night and leaving in the morning. I did not like it until I told him that he needed to leave. He did. Until the last two times that my son has requested me to let him stay. The second time he did stay, he started kissing me and hugging me, he had tried before but   I always pushed him and aggressively have told him to leave me alone. This last time, he told me that he thought we have a chance, and he had change. I told him that it was weird, then I agree to kiss him, and we did kiss. Then the next day I called him and I wanted to discuss what happened. He told me that he doesnot know. That he does not want to get married again, that he knows we are not a good match. That we can date but not kissing and nothing intimate. That he was lying, and he just do he just does not know what is going on with him. I don't know what is going on with this man. Why does he need to lie, why is so hard for him just to be a friend? I have to have a relationship with him because of my son, but it is very hard to me because I want us to be friends. What can I do? I have to deal with this toxic guy. That I do not like, but he is an excellent dad. And our son loves him.  

I too shall depart soon on my eternal journey. Leaving behind my still warm shaded skin.

I feel like this is the biggest hypocrisy.  And I am now somewhat fearful of him.  Is that how he sees me?  What if I had gotten an abortion before he and I were even together?  If he believes women should be killed because they terminated their pregnancy, where does that put me?  Being a woman and whatnot.  I don't fully agree with abortion for convenience but I absolutely do not believe a person should be put to death for terminating their pregnancy.  This actually made me love him less hearing this.  Should I talk to him about it?  Or drop it?  I know he isn't going to change his mind on that. Which is his right, but where does that put me?  A free thinking, independent woman with someone who can think that harshly... There is just so much wrong with this view. It's hypocritical (you either value life completely or you don't) and if you start killing women for having abortions out of convenience, how long will it take for them to start killing women who have them because they were raped or their lives are in danger? It scares me to be with someone who thinks like that.  When I say it made me fearful. I don't mean I'm literally afraid for my life or anything that dramatic. I mean, it makes me fearful that he won't defend my rights if worse comes to worse.