I live with my mom and brother in a duplex. They stay downstairs. I stay upstairs where my father rents. My dad he just bought a house and he's there most of the time. Im 21 living with schizophrenia and i hear voices and see things that arent there. My mom is controlling but my dad is patient with me. Sometimes i feel like my mom is not as supportive. I mean im around her but she is ok with me being in the house all day on my phone and not living a life a normal 21 year old should. Every time I tell my mom I want to get a job get married and own a business she gets mad at me. I tell her i dont want to be living with her forever and for her to help me be because i have a disability and she gets and attitude and says stuff like dont start with me. I have no skills no job not in school and she could care less what I do. i feel like she is secretly jealous of me. But i dont want to live on egg shells and be kicked out homeless and disabled if i decide i dont want to live by her rules but my dad wont let me come live with him he wants me to work things out with my mom. I try to get along with her but its not enough she holds me back as if im her property and that because she doesnt like the thought of me shining i have to sit back and let my sister and brother shine and i cant. She does little gestures sounds that trigger my schizophrenia. I asked her to stop one day because it made me feel uncomfortable but she wont. I clean up not all the time because of my disease.

So my dad's gf Rita is 27, they work together, and quite attractive. I'm 15 and was able to catch a glimpse of her lifting up this long one piece dress she was wearing only to see her in purple panties checking herself out in the mirror. Its almost if she was checking to make sure she wasn't fat or something. She tugged on the front of her panties to look down in her crotch area too. Full bush from what I could tell. She was tucking the hair into her panties. This is a young, really good looking woman. Why would she sport a full bush? What would she be looking at in the mirror? Pregnant maybe?

I have a younger brother that I used to be really close with and he recently started middle school and has been going through puberty, but it has also made him insufferable. He slams doors, yells at me when I tell him we're leaving the house, punches or throws items when upset, insults me and my weight, and has overall just become someone who only plays video games locked in his room and is totally a nuisance to be around. How do I deal with him? Is this just puberty? Or something we should see a doctor for?

Every time I'm talking with my baby's mom over the phone she start telling me that she's depressed and she feels that I'm playing her because I'm not paying her child support! Should I leave her alone? She also thinks that I should stop calling her while I'm with my new baby's mom. 

I'm riding with my aunt to a funeral in Tennessee. I live in Ohio, she lives in Indiana and is picking me up in the way.

My mother fears how she's going to treat her husband one day. 

i just straight up hate them so much they only care about themselves and not me and i hate them. they make everything about themselves like my mom for instance there is a group of people i dont like or hate but she does like them and i dont want to hang out with them and she has the nerve to tell me that its not fair she cant hang out with them because of me. like wtf i never ever told her she cant ever hang out with them i just said i dont want to i never f***king said she couldnt i just said i dont want to hang out with them but she could still like wtf she is making it all about her and same with my dad. just recently i told my parents how i might be working on thanksgiving cause i normally work on thursdays and my dad turns to my mom and says i wouldnt let him work on thanksgiving like its all about him too. he doesnt obviously care about that i have job all he cares about is that i am there for thanksgiving with the family like wtf i hate my parents so much they suck and i hate everyone else so much and i dont care if i am alone and not near anyone i hate people so much that i dont even want to be near them anymore. i just want to sit in my room and have no social contact with anyone cause i hate people.

I cant tell if it's good or bad. I want them to know why I dont want to forgive, but they make me feel silly and like nothings wrong I hate the way I'm treated and not respected.

Long story short. I decided to unblock my mom after almost a year. She wont change. She gets either verbally abusive, pushes my buttons, or is very fake with me being nice. I wanted to vent and remind her why I moved out and have no intention of visiting, but I'm always repeating myself and it's like talking to a wall. I feel like ignoring is not helping and is eating me up that I'm not getting things off my chest. She told me to enjoy my say off. First of all under her roof, I was not allowed to enjoy my day off even when paying rent. She was controlling and violent. I'm torn of I dont reply. Sometimes if I get things off my chest it feels better, but is temporary. Shes super clingy and obsessed with me. I'm stronger now living far away and she keeps saying you look stronger. Yeah because all.she did was weaken me So I wrote replies, but didnt send them, but now its eating me up shes acting g like everything is fine No things are not fine. I hate my life, Im very poor. She stopped helping me even though I constantly took care of her demands in my youth. Its affecting my relationship in a bad way and my job. The holidays are coming up and shes out to make me some problem child all over again so she wont look bad to my other relatives if I skip Christmas. Shpuld I just get things off my chest again??? Its like talking to a wall and defensive person.

In most cases it doesn't work out and ends bad for both sides.

We are 6 months and the entire family was together yesterday. We did not tell them I guess due to a lack of communication. I am a little sad because I think it was a great day to celebrate life. What can we do? I doubt everyone will be together for thanksgiving like the party because I will be with my family.

For years, I tried convincing myself that moving to a new country and dropping out of college to "travel" and "find myself" was the right decision. I thought I'd make a life for myself becoming a freelance artist and a writer. In reality i was just immature and ignorant. I lost my family, and my ex boyfriend who broke up with me because I moved overseas. Now I'm moving back home at 28 years old after 3 years here being supported by my family because I haven't made any money and I have no health insurance. They all warned me it was a stupid idea and I didn't listen at 24 years old and now I have nothing to show for it except debt and wasted years I didn't "find myself" at all, all it did was make myself depressed and feeling overwhelmed. My parents warned me to strive for stability, but all I did was make my life unstable. My boyfriend wanted me to finish college and find a stable job so we could start a life together and I threw it away

DMy mother is staying at our house for a few days while her home has some remodeling work done on it. My husband and I are enjoying every minute of her stay. She has a great personality and is joy to be around. Working gals, can you imagine how it feels to have bacon and eggs and home made biscuits ready for you when you get up in the morning. And then have a hot home made meal ready for you when you get home from work. At the dinner table one night, I reminded my husband to lock the bath room door when he takes a shower, something he normally does not do. I said to mom "Wouldn't you be embarrassed if you open the bath room door and my husband was getting out of the shower. She said "Yes, I would". There was a long pause then with a BIG LAUGH she said "Unless he was really hung". Mom and my husband had a BIG laugh about that. OH MY GOD. I almost fell out of my chair. My mom must be losing it. I did not know she even knew what it meant for a guy to be hung. Should a 44 year old mother even be thinking in terms of guys being hung?

He didnt do anything serious he plucks (more like a fling to the ear) me  all the time for dumb reasons and my other uncle punches my brother hardly and he doesnt like it. I tell my mom and she does nothing about it but i dont want to do anything serious to them because they are my moms family and she will be mad at me i dont know what to do anymore i already have depression and i just cant 

Basically I am in my mid 20s living with my younger sibling because she doesn't have the skills to live on their own (it has been a year and they still ask me to do their dishes and I am the only one who remembers to pay any of the bills etc) I told my sibling I won't renew the lease until the dishes no longer overflow from the sink and bury the stove.  There are currently 9 dirty pots and pans that I did not use that have been sitting there for weeks. My sibling had a meltdown because I had to be asked to take out the recycling for days but I refused to do it until the dishes were dealt with. I wanted them to realize how frustrating it is to not be heard.   Our mother heard  sided with my sibling and is now driving 2 hours to do their dishes rather than telling my sibling to  take care of themself. I want to move out but when I try to our mom cries.  She keeps telling my sibling she is not fit to live on their own (they are 20) and scaring them into thinking they will be in grave danger living alone.  I hate how our mom enables the helplessness in my sibling and cries until everyone does what she wants.  They all rely on me for money since I am the other person who works full time (the other people in my family refuse to work more than 20 hours per week but I work 40-60 hours). I am sick of having people cry until I pay their bills or clean their mess. 

My daughter lives 2000 miles away from me because my ex remarried and moved away. When I challenged her move, the courts basically didn't care.  I did get every minute of summer, every Christmas, and every Easter.  That is how life was for 6 years.  Fast forward to this summer and my daughter disclosed to me how her step father yells at her to the point that she has urinated herself in fear and that her mother hits her with a spoon leaving welts for up to a week.  I immediately filed for an emergency change of custody which was ignored by the court because it didn't see it as an "emergency ".  Just flew out to take my daughter trick or treating and she told me that she doesn't want to live at my house.  She feels more "comfortable" at her moms.  She told me that she exaggerated it and it isn't that bad.  My ex is a master manipulator and has spent the last 8 years competing to win the award for parent alienation.  What do you do when your child, that you treat like an angel, wants to live with her other parent who is abusing her?  PS...she did not exaggerate.  There was absolute terror in her eyes when she told me what was going on at her moms. I told her that she could be honest with me, that she didn't have to make things up, but she is refusing to be honest about what is going on in the home.

I painted half of my parents house and then they said we will paint the other half. Not only did they use the wrong color paint but they also repainted sections of the house that I already painted lol then they "touched up" rooms too lol not I got a zebra room. What would you do?

No matter what I did/do, my heart is in art: dancing. Ever since I was little, I really wanted to dance (Hip Hop) to be exact. I wasted my time doing something that I didn't want (it's an Asian thing...) Parents aren't always supportive w their child's decision. And unfortunately, that's me. I think it's too late now because I'm already married, 25+ years old and has a child. I even left my job because it's not where my heart is. Now I'm pursuing photography. It is art but dancing is my passion. I know it's hard to make dancing a living. Not if you're w an agency. I wanted to be in a group. I can't just audition in Kpop because I'm not Korean and I don't speak the language. Also because of my age and life now. The agencies these days wants a "fresh" face. This is why I said I think it's too late for me. I  don't do this kinds of things but I'm just so lost. I don't know what to do. Help..? Thanks in advance.

I have a hard time getting along with my parents and they are putting strict rules about the times I should be home. They do not understand or support my career aspirations and I am struggling to support myself. Can parents establish rules that you have to follow if they get in the way of your schedule? I also have to go to church, do my groceries separately, wash clothes at the house mostly when they are not around, and clean up after myself but they are always dirty. I also have a hard time convincing them to give me a key so I end up locked out most of the time.

I'm 19, my cousin is 8 or 9. Our whole family went to Hawaii to celebrate an event. Since there are so many of us we got several rentals but stayed at ours most of the time since the water was closer.  We all used the outside shower to shower off before going inside. It was my turn next then his turn. He made a comment that we should shower together that I just ignored. Once my brother got out the shower I got in. My older cousin (his mom) yelled around the corner " Ulio is going to jump in with you since we have to go." I didn't respond but I seen through the cracks he was getting undressed. He walked in and started starting right away at my junk, feeling super awkward I stood in the corner covering myself with my hands and let him shower first then I finished.  Why did he basically force taking a shower with me?

My older brother and his wife have died (cremated) within the last ten years and their only child who is buried there,16 years ago. The rest of us live out of state or hundreds of miles away. How can I be sure someone will look after my nieces grave now?

My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years now and we recently relocated to Texas. I'm from NY and that's where my mom and relatives live. My boyfriend's parents live here in Texas as well as some other extended family. They've never met my mom and a couple weeks ago they told me they have an airline ticket they can give my mom so she can come and visit for Christmas and finally meet them (his parents travel for work a lot so they always have points racked up for free tickets) I thought that was a very nice gesture and told them I will talk to my mom about it. I would love for her to visit but the only thing is, my mom suffers from bi polar disorder. She is constantly on and off her meds, she's currently off them now. When she's takes them her mood swings aren't too bad but when she stops, she will lash out at any given moment, will cry for no reason and then starts laughing and smiling two minutes later. She also talks very loud and rambles off topic all the time. I'll be on the phone with her talking about food and then she'll start freaking out about how we all need to be good Christians before judgement day and will go on and on.  I have accepted that this is my mom but I'm worried for her to meet his parents. They are very professional, wealthy soft spoken people. They might judge me and look at me differently after meeting my mom. I don't think she will cry in front them but she might ramble about something and be moody.  Any advice on this situation? 

Like everybody is against me or has something towards me especially my lil sister. Like I cant be myself without her hating on me for no reason, she wants me to be something im not, yet want to copy me. Is she jealous?

I'm 17. If my local library doesn't have a certain book, I can place an order online. The book travels from a different city library to here. If I mention the need for me to pick up that book tomorrow, my mom insists that she'll take me there NOW (even if I CLEARLY explain that the book isn't there yet). She doesn't seem to understand the concept of booking things online. It's like she thinks if I need to get that book, then I can go there anytime. I've also tried to explain that she can order food, grocery, clothes and gifts from the Internet but she gets so confused. 

Ex- first just q night or two, now it's most nights.  I want to move again to a place closer to work and stop having them over but they say I am ripping the family apart for wanting space.  I am in my mid 20s and everyone shows up on my doorstep uninvited 

Whenever my mom is mad, whether its at me or someone else she always takes her anger out on me by doing stuff like slapping me or pushing into a wall and telling me to shut up. She's been getting more angry lately and i really don't want to get slapped or hit again so does anyone know what i can do to make her stop? And please don't say this is abuse. Every time i asked someone in person they always say to call cps but i dont think my mom is abusing me. She's just upset and has a rough way of telling me to leave her alone 

My daughter and her boyfriend are both thirty. She is unemployed, just got fired about two weeks ago from her office job. She cannot afford food or clothes so her boyfriend gives her per week for her clothes, shoes, food etc. Because he does all of this he cannot afford to move out. I spoke with him and he said he has no savings, no retirement. I asked him did he think it was ok to have no savings, no retirement, or nothing of his own at age thirty? he said he wanted my daughter to be happy. I told him at their age he needs to be worried less about materialistic stuff and more about owning property. He can show her he loves without spending ridiculous amounts of money. I then told my daughter this man is going to resent her when he wakes up and he's year's old and everyone else has a house and he's still living with his mom because he refused to stop giving my daughter money. He's going to hate himself when he realizes he doesn't have anything of his own. He is only making twelve an hour he can't afford a house and keep throwing money at her. Every-time he comes to our house he's wearing the same outfit. I told him it's sad he cannot even buy himself clothes because he spends all his money on my daughter. My daughter told me that he said his mother doesn't mind him staying there, but everybody dies. I just don't want them to end up homeless because I'm kicking my daughter out next year whether she has the funds or not. She has already stayed a couple years past.

So like about 4 weeks ago my older sister left the house on a bad note with my parents. Like for this year she was rebellious, got a tattoo, and things like that. Her gf broke up with her resulting in my sister going out almost every single day to the point we don't see her for about a week and we don't even know where she is. She never helped around the house, just left her mess there and goes out, etc... so I took over as the "older sister" since I'm the second oldest. One time my mom even had to pick her up from who knows where at 2 in the morning resulting in an argument which woke me up between her and my parents so i heard everything. My mom was so devastated and depressed to the point I had to hug her and calm her down from crying after my sister left. It hurted so much to see my mom like that. It made me loose so much respect for my older sister. Now, I'm guessing my parents made up with her and she occasionally visits home. I try to avoid her, I don't want to talk to her at all after what she made my parents go through.   I just feel anger towards her. When she comes to eat here, I go eat in my room. My mom is like "why are you like that to her, she didn't even do anything to you". After seeing my mom cry in the bathroom floor, how could I forgive her and act like nothing happened. I despise her and she's still my Mom's favorite after everything too.

she Is very nosy and controlling

my mum shouts, threatens, yells and throws things.... i dont have a dad.... he left long ago..... i have my grandparents who have never raised a hand to me and are so kind and i love so much but i hate my mother.... shes been like this since i was a child and shes just horrible. i have no happy memories of her. anything bad that happens to her she blames on me. she threw a book at me once because i asked her to please move so i could clean my carpet. she causes drama at her workplace aswell btw , everyone hates her there and its embarssing going to work parties with her and seeing everyone avoid her. she called me a fat cow, (im underweight btw, im anorexic) shes mean, she doesnt love me... but nobody believes me... she acts like she loves me in public but she doesnt.. my grandparents love me but they think im mean to her (i am not) and that she is super nice to me my mum has brainwashed them to believe her lies... shes manipulative. im also 13. please help me. is it abuse? also dont say "talk to childine " or something... that way i'd get taken away and my hrandparents would believe her lies again and they would hate me and it would hurt too much please help me because i just feel unwanted and unloved all the time.

My brother acts like an angel to my parents but around me he's a devil. Not just to me but to other people. He is sexist, racist, and homophobic. He would joke around about bad stuff. Usually when he'd play video games with his friends, I'd always hear him talking to his friends about bad stuff. He says things like "Go back to your country N***a," to people online. If he would be playing with strangers on games like League of Legends, he'd ask what their race is and if they say black or white he would call them the N word or say something really offensive then leave the game. He refuses to hang out with his friends whenever they invite girls to hang out with them. He bullies female gamers which really bugs me. He says that females shouldn't exist and that all they do is cause drama. And he's a bully to me. I know its what siblings do but what he does is really wrong. He always invades my privacy and tells on me for the dumbest stuff. He would talk to me but then he would end the conversation with "don't talk to me" even though he started the conversation. He is really annoying and if you're wondering, yes I do tell my parents about this. But since my brother acts like an angel to them and a devil around me, they never believe what I say. So please help me out, what should I do? Oh and he judges me for no reason. I always ask him why he does and he says "I'm not judging, I'm just pointing out." And he's a bragger which makes my life in my house 10 times worse. Please help.

We live in New York City and I was at a street celebration and I wanted to see if any of them were down here. Only one texted me back and that's the one who's not here. I fear it means they don't like me anymore. Growing up my mother swore to me that they don't like me because they don't like her. As an adult I've reconnected with them and gotten closer. The same time I fear they might not like me because of my Association with her.

I pray she won't show up but if she does, how do I trade her? She's a human being though she has the soul of the devil. Sorry my spellcheck is messed up, it put trade her what I meant to write is treat her.  

I feel really bad. I know i'm the bad person in this situation, I just can't help it. i'm getting really moody and taking it out on my dad which then causes arguments in the family and between my mom and dad. then I start to panic, but I know I should just suck it up because it's my fault. you can troll me all you like but i'd also like some advice. Me and my father don't have a great relationship. I also struggle with anxiety and he forces me to go out a lot and I get angry at him for forcing me into uncomfortable situations. He's really immature and manipulative. I'm sorry, but he's slightly like Walt from Breaking Bad. He is nice but sometimes he just snaps.