I'm 19 and still living at home with my parents. I'm super stressed out living there I just wanna move out. I'm miserable all the time there. But my mother said once I move out she's leaving my dad. Which puts a lot of pressure on me and makes my inner child scream. What do I do?

I'm 26 years old and still unfortunately live with my mother in New York. It all started when my father passed away in March. My mom started to go to lawyers and write up her will. I am to get the house my mom and I live in now and my sister is to get more money then me which I completely understand. On top of all if this we also adopted a dog which my mother paid for. I have a boyfriend whose family I adore and I obviously run to them when my sister and mother are being nasty with me so they know everything. My problem is anytime my mother and I fight (which is more than ever since my dad passed) she threatens to take the house from me and the dog and also threatens to kick me out. After dealing with this for months I'm becoming depressed and even suicidal at times. She's not the type of person you can ration with. Neither is my sister which is one of the many reasons why we're not close. Today I fought with my mother over the holidays (thanksgiving and Christmas) I told her I'm staying home with her instead of going to my boyfriends house but for Christmas I'll be spending it with his family. Keep in mind my family's jewish so I didn't think it would be a big deal ... I was wrong. I told her I won't go there for Christmas but she said " no go be with them, might as well get out of my house and go live with them. so again today I was threatened with the house and the dog. I can't take it anymore. This house is my boyfriends and I future. We can't afford to save for our own.

A few days ago my neighbor had to work extra hrs and asked her sister (another neighbor) to babysit her 2 year old son.  Around 11am I noticed both kids (2 and 3) playing in the front yard alone. To each his own so I didnt really think much of it. Later though about 3-4pm, I peeked outside and didnt see them. Idk what made me, but I decided to walk my dog and to my suprise, I found both toddlers alone nearly a block away. Initially, I thought to just wait with them instead of jumping the gun and assuming they were actually alone. But 20mins went by and nothing. I called the mom (the one who was supposed to be babysitting). And she didnt seem to even know they were missing.  This isnt the 1st time they (especially the 3y/o had wandered off) and I know kids do the darndest things when they get together but these two are really little and based on how thirsty they were Idk how long they were out. Not sure what approach to take here bc the mom (of the 2y/o is planning to leave her son with his aunt again). I know her personally and I'm sure she wouldnt trust himwith her so soon if she knew they were "missing". Which tells me she probably doesnt know.  I dont mean to overstep but considering the fact that the aunt had no clue the kids were gone. And that this isnt the first time. I think she should know.

Do you know that if you do one of those mail order DNA tests, your DNA profile is added to a registry where police agencies have access to them? So if your DNA matches or is close enough to an unsolved case, you'll be arrested and charged for a murder you didn't commit??? This has already happened many innocent people cause their DNA was "close enough" to the real murderer! DO NOT DO DNA TESTING!!!!! Here you go, lying PlG. https://www.motherjones.com/crime-justice/2019/03/genetic-genealogy-law-enforcement-golden-state-killer-cece-moore/

When I got out of high school, I had a hard time finding a job. I finally found a job with good pay and a GREAT boss. One day in his office I saw his high school graduation picture on his wall. I told him that my mom went to the same high school. He asked me her name in school. When I told him, he said "I knew your mom in high school. I can see were you get your good looks. She was the most beautiful girl in the school." WOW was that nice to hear. He asked if I had a picture or my mom now. I said no. He said "I would like to see her again to catch up on old times. Why don't you let me take the two of you to lunch some time. I said "great I would arrange it". It sounded like that would be fun. When I told my mom about this she said she did not want to see anyone she went to high school with. When I ask her why she told me she had gained 10 pounds since she was in high school and didn't feel like she looked good. I told her 10 more pounds in 20 years and after 3 kids did not change her great looks. She still looked great. How can I convince her she is still beautiful and should join us for lunch? Would taking her to get her hair and nails done and helping her buy a new dress make her change her mind? It is always good for your job to make your boss happy don't you think? Moms and others, PLEASE GIVE ME YOUR THOUGHTS ABOUT THIS.

Some people say this will have him hit rock bottom and he'll seek treatment but I can't imagine disowning my own father. My sister is already disowned him but the other three of us still visit him once a month. He has a severe alcoholic.

I have my suspicions she has a personality disorder but I can't come to face it because sometimes I see her true self. I think she was neglected/was abused by her parents. Either that or her past was so horrible. She told me her dad died back in Thailand or Laos during the Vietnam war and she couldn't even say bye to him. She said her father was addicted to smoking and that the whole village looked down on him. She said her mother was the second wife and her side of the family was poor while the first wife had more privileges and her dad would stay at her house more than theirs. I found this to be quite sad. However, I feel conflicted because I felt like I was treated very unfairly growing up. I'm still staying with her now but I'm planning on leaving. I just can't do it. She had a stroke in late 2014 and I feel like if I can't even love my mom then who could I possibly love? She has problems like hitting me when I was a kid. She would take me and my little brother out to see her boyfriends and they would flirt a lot. It makes me want to cry because I know that this can't be my mom. I know who should could have been. I don't want to blame her for who she is. It hurts me to call her bad things.. I've cussed at her because I had nobody to talk to. Today my big brother came to visit with his wife and 2 kids and she cried so hard. These were real tears. You can't hide a fake cry. This wasn't fake. And it broke my heart. I don't ever want to see her sad  *I know who she could have been*

Every day I've been video chatting with my old baby's mom in front of my new baby's mom (we're living together) and she thinks I'm being disrespectful by conversation with her while we're together. But I told her, 'well you know I had another kid before you, what's the PROBLEM?! Then she'll get mad at me and not say anything until the next day. She knew all about her because I showed her pictures of our child. What is she mad about now? She was even with me when I was video chatting with her during the summer, also. 

He lies regularly so I need to be the parent since he is the child.

How do I tell my parents and family

My mom sometimes takes my sister's phone away when she doesn't do shores or just to make sure she isn't ore self-absorbed on her phone. I know its not right to say she is so self-absorbed but she won't even talk to me, she is my younger sister and is so concerned with her friends that she doesn't want to do anything for her self because she doesn't want to be away from her friends. Apart from that whenever she does get her phone taken, same as me, she starts yelling at my mom and jumping on her to try yanking it out of my moms hand, she threatens my mom with the "you don't have a right to touch my things" and I get scared sometimes with her violent outbreaks... Should I be concerned and ask my mom to speak to her or am I over exaggerating..sorry if this seems like a dumb question but I'm heading off to uni. next year and am left worried about how she'll behave with my mom.

Before everyone gets mad at me I will give a describe our relationship. I left home when I was 13, my dad was extremely abusive towards me, my sisters, and my mom. He knows right from wrong, he is smart but he always made the wrong decisions and we were all miserable living with him. I dont wana sound like a kid complaining from getting an *** beating for misbehaving. He would brutally beat us up for no reason; I was terrified of him. Fastforwad today I have a beautiful family, I love my wife and daugthers and they are everything to me. I forgave my dad and sometimes text him, but I dont wanna help him. Is not as revange but mostly because I have my own family and they are my only concern. My dad always asking for money and saying I don't care about him. How can I tell him I do care about him as a human being, but not as my dad. I don't want to help him. I know there is some form or rationale in my belief. I feel like being a man means being self reliant. I'm building everything for my self so my kids will never feel like they must care for me. Deep inside me I dont feel bad for not helping him, and there must be a reason. Something i cant express in words. A sign of a virtuous men is him who does not ask for help to survive, but uses the power of his mind to overcome any obstacle in life. I can't help him because is against my own beliefs. And i strongly feel my beliefs are right and just. I just don't know how to articulate this in a way that makes sense.

I just want to say. I grew up in an abusive home where I was physically and mentally and emotionally abused. I was choked, I was hit just because "they felt like it" (would say that to me) I still suffer ptsd from it. ANYWAYS, I just wanted to involve my back story because I want to prove that I am not trolling or exaggerating, I just take these situations seriously. My neighbor's have these kids that are always ALWAYS yelling and crying. Everytime they come home they are screaming to their mothers. I never saw them, but they are always slamming doors and pounding on the floors to the point our floor shakes. mind you, they arnt above us, they live next door. whats strange is that the kids are usually home atleast 3 times a week. but the rest of the week theyr not there? its like quite and all. I know theyr the parents cus theyr the only ones that live there and I have seen the parents. and the kids always call them mom and dad. Yesterday I heard the father scream at his wife and it got to the point I was scared he was gonna hurt her. So I didnt mean to snoop, (they were extremly loud, i didnt even have to stand by the wall to hear) I was worried. and they parents started joking and laughing and then all of a sudden he would scream "YOUR STILL MAD?" and starts yelling again. they look young like in their 20's/ should I call CPS? I just want the children to be safe. Because I would have wanted to someone to do that for me. is this normal? I just want to know if this is normal or not in a family and if I should take precautions. I grew up in a terrible home. so I dont have anything to compare it to. I just care about the safety of the children.

Basically, I was and at her for slapping me. Then she refused to feed me for a day(That's over now) and I have my phone taken away which is my only source of communication with my friends. I have a 40 minute screen time limit, no social media and am not allowed to text guys. I have no idea what to do. I'm always upset but I don't understand what I'm upset about. I get good grades and I have atleast one extracurricular everyday. I'm a first generation American and I understand my parents had to work very hard tog et where they are now but I wish they would actually care about me. I have tried talking to them and they don't care. Please help me with what I should do.

I didnt finish this book toxic parents, but it angers me when she tries being nice to me or normal. She pushes my buttons a lot. I decided to hold back venting this time. Because it ends up being fighting a d he said she said. Plus I feel like she brings me back even over texting g from.far away. It throws off my equilibrium and by the time I recover, shes texting again. I've tried blocking her number if she gets verbally abusive, and it only made me feel guilty.

She causes me bad luck and I start fighting with people also. Even my girlfriend I live with. My mom was really mean to me until I moved out, now she keeps asking me to come back saying sorry. I dont want to forgive and it feels icky she wa ts to text every week. I want to go months even years without saying hi or this guilt. Sorry I meant clingy.

My girlfriend's mom into tennis big time. She is a very good player. She likes to play with me and we both enjoy it. She also has a great sense of humor. For our last game, she told me "We can play today if we use your balls". Of course you know what I was thinking. Was she teasing me? What would have been a good response?

Last time I saw them was years ago and it was lots of drama. I ended up spending Christmas in my car. I have a life now and am busy with work. I might even work on Christmas and dont feel like traveling or seeing anyone. Plus last time they ganged up on me in the car just taking turns criticizing me and making me feel bad about myself.