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My husband and I are both 43. The other day I left and went to the store and made some errands with our son who's 5, my husband stayed home. When I got home this girl that lives next door was in there, she's 18 and we've known her for about 8 years. I was in shock when I walked in and it seemed as thou they were too. They both stood up quickly and my husband said oh well she heard a loud noice in her house and got scared and came over here. I was in disbelief and just nodded my head and tried to really believe him. When I went upstairs I could tell the sheets in the guest bedroom looked as they had been used and moved. I cried about it but I still don't have any proof anything really did happen. We've been married for 15 years and many times I felt he may be cheating on me but this really made me think that

I've always paid from day 1, but she makes $77k per year and I only make $42k per year

This had me wondering for years. I'm a woman in my early 30's that just gotten married in March. I've been raised in violent household where my father hit both my mother and I. His father (paternal grandpa) was abusive too. She eventually divorced his cheating *** (yup..he cheated too) when I was 9. I took self-defense classes during my mid teen years. Years later, I got enrolled in a firearms academy. Ironically after all those years of training, I've never had a man threatening to hit me nor gotten into any fights outside play fights and sparrings. Even when a bf was drunk, stressed out or we got into a heated argument, none have ever lay a hand on me; not even before they knew my skills. The most a guy did was give me the cold shoulders, got moody or made a face. I'm only 5'5 to be honest but even then, someone once told me I gave a strong ''don't mess with me'' vibe even when walking outside. I was told abusers are cowards and they know who to mess with and whom not to. I was told once that abusers smell weakness some miles. That's what they want and I don't give that.

To hate each other I mean. I have never known a divorced couple so this is new. NOTE---Right now they are NOT social at all. They do not speak. I am talking about years later if they were to become social. Right now they absolutely hate each other as his wife does not believe in the word forgiveness and he can be mean sometimes and scary. I am just wondering as I have never known someone to get divorced aside from meeting in passing this uncle's in-laws who all divorce all the time. No one else has in my lifetime.

And why do they marry us ladies if they're just going to leave for a skinnier woman?

He judged a robotics competition about 5 months ago. Last night we went to my kids open house for school, after 15 min he asked where some teacher was and told me he'd be back. He took my oldest son with him I didn't think much of it. Then my oldest told me he gave this robotics teacher his card and email. Never mentioning it to me again or why he went down there. Then he left early from open house.. I'm not the jealous type but I found this very strange and disrespectful.

My dad and his second wife divorced 2 years ago, they had a 12 year age gap. They had two kids together as well. A year after their divorce, she set him up with one of her close work friends who is 23 years younger than him and now they're having a baby together. His ex wife is perfectly fine with all of it.

My wife is attached to her phone. She checks it about every 8 minutes throughout the day for social media updates etc.... It bothers me that if we are home watching a movies for the first 5- 10 mins. she is on the phone checking it. She know is bothers me but she seems to be getting worse. It is hard to say anything, gets really mad and then I look around and an everyone seems to be on the phones!!!!!! What have we all come to!!!! Why can't we let the damn thing be put away for a bit.

If you're going to lecture on how my question is dumb, or that if I even have to ask then that's my answer, etc., please save your time. Here is my situation: I believe that I have found the love of my life, but do not know that committing is wise. We both had gone through hard separations and lived apart. For over two years we created a deep friendship and love through blatant honesty and communication, rather than trying to "date" or be on good behavior. During this time I've dated people, and dealt with some hard personal things- and he has shown unconditional love all while knowing. He has shown up every time I've needed him- flew across the country to help me move and my mom move, has been there through moments of tears and shame and let down, and we've shared so many adventures now - for example we traveled Asia together for almost two months this summer. It's like being with a best friend and love that I can be fully myself with. This is the problem- he had been in the military and has serious ptsd, and since his divorce I have seen a roller coaster of irresponsible horrible choices from afar. Drug use/partying, failing at his classes repeatedly since he's back in school for an additional degree, living a life of darkness and chaos with his two also divorced military friends. The rest of the question is in a comment below ⬇️

please rate both females for their looks from 1-10? please be honest for best answer