Why would they ask that the adult child NOT visit any of the extended family or family friends? Or ask that the adult child also not tell anyone that during the years that they weren't in contact with the parents, that they had fallen victim to a lot of things, including break-ins, robbery, rape, workplace bullying, and even being harrassed (and sometimes even threatened) in public (and sometimes at work) by people telling them that God wants them at home with their parents and that they may be "taken out of the world" if they don't "behave"; or that prior to them reaching out to the parent that they had been hospitalized following a suicide attempt? Why would the parent want the formerly estranged child to avoid the rest of the family and to keep all of these traumatic experiences a secret?

i'm 14 (about to be 15 in a few weeks) and am very unhappy about where i live. I've been having depressive episodes and anger outbursts for the past 8 months and it's to the point where my own family doesn't like/trust me. I don't have any family members that live elsewhere i could go live with. We've tried getting better HERE instead of actually moving out and it's never gotten anywhere. My mom keeps a baseball bat under her bed because she's scared of me even though i've NEVER tried to put my hands on anyone in this household, EVER. How can i move out at 14 legally or what can i do to fix my problem. Thankyou

im 28, and my sister is 17. she has a boyfriend, and she moved out to live with him. even though my parents didn't approve of it, they still let her, saying that "she needs her independence". on the other hand, even though i have a college degree and a job that earns about 60 grand a year, my parents still make me live with them. they say that they don't want to lose me and that i'm their precious little baby. i asked my parents if i can move out and have my own apartment, but they strongly refused. after i argued with them for days, they finally said i can have my own place to live, but they must have a copy of the keys to my place, and they can come visit whenever they want. this isn't the only time my sister gets more freedom. my parents still put parental controls on my devices, but not my sister's. and when i was growing up, they put surveillance cameras in my room, and they made me sleep in a crib. they also didn't let me go to school alone: my mom had to follow me everywhere, sit next to me in my classes, and even follow me into the bathroom stalls. the same thing happened in college. as for my sister, she was allowed to go to school alone. also, im not sure if this is normal or not, but when i was in elementary and middle school, and my sister was just a baby, my dad would wear short shorts and follow me to school to embarrass me, and my mom would push me around on a stroller. but they don't do this to my sister. so why do they play such favoritism?

I'm vacation in Houston with my siblings, a cousin and my my mom. My cousin a female is 26. My sister is 25. I'm 22. My 3 brothers are 23,19 and 16. So all the girls share a room and my brothers and I share. The first night. My older brother and I got into it bad. Because i was play fighting with my 19 year old brother. Because he kept on hitting me even though I asked to stop. We Ended up making some noise. He got mad saying he's trying to sleep. And that our youngest brother is even more mature than us. So of course that made me mad and we started to get into it. The my older sister and cousin got mad because I would not drive to get them something to eat. I'm the only driver since my older brother doesn't have a license, my sister and cousin have a license but are scared to drive the van. So I'm tired. I'm just annoyed. Only my youngest brother and my mom haven't annoyed me. Was it a mistake suggesting to do this. I never had a family vacation out of town before but this is just too much and I'm the only driver and everyone seems annoyed at me?

a conversation and tell me where the hell this situation is going.She yells,cries and says its my fault.Why the hell is she doing this?

My Mom says they use me as a sound board cause I am nice. However, I don't want to not be nice as then both will dislike me. In my Mom's family you are either in or out. These are her two surviving sisters.

She is a really bad person all around. Our mother always sends a text telling me and my brother and other sister to text her happy birthday. She is 22 this Sunday. Maturity age she is evil or age two. For example she threw a violent temper tantrum in the hotel when she learned she had to carry my shoes back in her bag. That was in April and thankfully I have not seen the witch since. I have to see her next month and am not looking forward to it. She is one of those people where if she passed away no one would shed a tear besides her parents. So do I bother acknowledging her birthday? Do I just pretend I missed it?

It this abnormal? Last week I saw his privates because he accidentally forgot to close the door when using the bathroom. I keep on trying to act like it was nothing but I still can't get the image out of my head especially when I see him. It's really annoying :[ I'm 15 and he's 17.

Some children are introduced to gang life at a very young age, usually around 10 years olds. These children come from broken homes where their parents abused them or did drugs. And they usually have a father or relative in prison. Do you agree that society should do more to keep children and young teenagers from joining gangs?

So my son is 16 years old and me and my husband caugh him smoking. When we confronted him he promise it was just to experiment and it was the first time and that he wont do it again. Well i got really upset and when i was about to hit my son my husband stoped me and told me to go to the living room to calm down, i did what he ask because i was feeling really angry. I heard them talking and my husband was talking really soft and caring with him and in the end i saw them hugging and our son told him that he will never smoke again. And my husband forgive him. When the conversation was over and i was alone with my husband i ask him, why didnt he hit him and he answer me saying he never hit our son and never will. Is this good parenting what my husband did?

I'm 24 but still live at home, I have been talking to this guy for a year now and my parents despise him, they found out we had sex a year ago And ever since then they hate him, he doesn't have the perfect past and has a few kids, he is behind on his child support payments so he has a warrant and my mom is using that against me. She refused to let me see him because she threatens to call rn cops, I keep explaining to him that he needs to take care of those so we can see each other whenever. My dad is understanding and it's just my mom at this point....I don't know what I'm supposed to do and don't think it's right. At my mom can dictate my line when I'm 24, I would totally understand if I was 14 or something

I started working at a warehouse, in order to pay off my $400 COLLEGE debt, and to get a laptop. I definitely have to pay off my debt. I think it will take a little longer, to get a laptop.... I was hoping to get a laptop, to work for clients from home, instead of having to go to the library. I want to become a digital nomad. And get out of this damn job. But now my mom wants my help, financially. She's getting in my way. I'm going to have to talk to her about this soon.

My brother has been hiding his phone and messages with some people and he's still young so he doesn't know what he's doing and it's very suspicious. For anyone that says this is an invasion of privacy no it's not because whenever i ask to check his phone he gives it to me but i'm worried he's hiding more when we're not looking. When you screen record on phone it turns off instantly when u close the phone. Is there a way to stop it from turning off?

(Part 1:) My entire family thinks I am stupid including my mom. My mom says "i can't believe something (me) can even do, you can't do" My extended family treats me like ****, one of my uncle sad I should go clean toilets for a living. They don't really like me hang around there kids because they don't want them to be like me. They say rude remarks when my mom or sister isnt around. I told my mom about it when they says, all she says is I am over thinking it because of my low self a steam, or they are just joking. Once my sister said i don;t have a brain in my head just mud. My entire family loves my sister, they think she is perfect. They all ways ask how we are related but so different. My sister went to university, then went to college to a paralegal. She talks more than me, she likes talking about the importance of education and random social justice issues. Whereas me, I went to college for a optician program, I didn't like the program, i failed some of the course. I studied it for 4 years even though it was a 2 year program I wanted to drop it but my mom and sister yelled at me and told me not to (I should have dropped it without listen to them it was my fault, i don't blame them for wasting 4 year).

So I'm A 16 Year Old Girl, and like, my mom sersly gives me no priv at all, i dont mean it in a way that i want to have a boyfriend or whatever, like, last night I came back from the gym and I played my radio to have some songs while im taking off my cloths, and the stupid maid wanted to change the bed sheets but couldnt get in becuz my door was closed, so mom, just pushed the door and came in while i was half naked and dancing and she was taking the bad sheets, like wth?? and when i told her i wanted to take my cloths off and have a shower ,like three times she just shouted that she is not getting out and got all mad over it, like wth? this is my room, she could knock it just like dad does

The other one is nicer and closer. However all she does is talk about the war everytime my Mom and I see her. The other aunt is a lot more distant and probably more at fault but she lives on the East Coast so we only see her on special occasions like reunions or funerals. Whose side do I take? For the sake of my grandmother could I be neutral? My Dad is mad when I see the one aunt who initiated the conflict cause he likes to punish me in fights with his in-laws. My Mom meanwhile is the good guy who says I can do what I want. Should I take sides with the one who talks about it less even though the other one is nicer? Since he uses me my Dad is the bad guy even though this is his wife's side of the family with these two aunts.

I have Misophonia (hatred of certain sounds). One of my triggers is snoring. Tonight I had to stay awake (for my laundry) and my parents were on the couch. My dad ALWAYS starts falling asleep on the couch. He knows that is a part of my trigger. Yet he NEVER goes to bed, or tried to stay awake. And yet again, he did that tonight. He knows it triggers me to the point of having a breakdown but he doesn't give one flying f*ck about it. He also treats my mom like she's a queen and me like I'm the servant poor person. He does do nice things for me somewhat. But no matter what it's my mom getting favoritism EVERY SECOND OF THE DAY. Even if she does something wrong, he won't disagree with her. He'll just praise her unless she does something wrong towards him. It's like he's trying to get p*ssy every night by showering her with compliments and siding with her no matter what. He doesn't respect or appreciate me at all, no matter how much I respect him and do all the things he asks of me (and more). I hate it so much. And I can't even talk to him about anything because he just gets pissed and tries to blame everything on everyone else. He won't even respect other people's opinions, and sometimes life styles. He also always makes these stupid lectures about how he's the "sheep dog" and how he knows everything. I'm getting seriously over it

Ive been asking for braces for at least 5 to 6 years now, i have 3 sisters, my sisters and i went to the same high school both dropped out while i was the first one to graduate they had braces before me, my little sister is going for her first time and she got braces when she asked and she didn't tell me until i saw them. i told my mom if i can get mine and she said yes, we went and the dentist was not patient with me. he put my brackets on me but the wire didn't fit and he got mad and said he has to order a new. The dentist office called me and i told my mom and she said "they haven't texted me anything so we have to wait." When i tell my mom to just call them. my sisters tell me to stop giving attitude and just wait another year as if they waited as long as me and graduated from high school. i was never taught how to get my own doctor because theres no lessons in high school to how to do that. i just dont understand that even though my sisters didn't accomplish anything in life they still got what they want and even though one has started any goals she gets what she wants too, as if when i accomplish something i dont ask for an award at but ask at least once a year for something for my mental health or physical health. i asked for a therapist cause i gets horrible thoughts or something for my physical health that doesn't feel right. i just feel neglected. sorry my question is, iam wrong or is them?

I simply don't know where I went wrong in life. I have a good life now, but everything started to early, I'm only 20, I'm married, I have 2 kids, I'm the sole supporter of my family, I work then I sit with my thoughts besides the time I spend with my kids. Sometimes I want to just run my car into a tree, so my family can be taken care of for the rest of their life, but I can leave. My father died when I was 13, I was incredibly ungrateful, I had to grow up then, he had a 7 year battle with cancer, I had to take care of my little sisters, I thought of blowing my brains out at the age of 7 due to the feeling of walking on egg shells constantly, I wanted to live with my mother, my dad would get angry so easily. But he loved us and did so much for us, including selling his pain pills just so we could have amazing gifts. I've constantly coped my life away into marijuana, but for my family i had to quit. I'm in the military, so I cant go to a psychiatrist for this stuff in fear for losing my job. I dont know where I'm going. I dont know what I want to do, or how I'll even do it being the only one supporting my family. I'm very lost and I don't know who I can tell this to, I cant worry my family with it.

My best friend has 4 sons and a husband. Her oldest is 21 a high school drop out a pothead with a major attitude hates authority and has no respect for his parents. Everthing she tells him not to do he does. He speaks badly to his girlfriend as well. He thinks nothing is wrong with him. He never made anything easy. He fought about doing homework, having a tutor, having to clean, having to fold clothes, having to be places on time etc. He can't keep a job. He doesn't follow through on any responsibilities (wash dishes, take out garbage etc). If he does have money he won't use it on his bills. His phone is in his girlfriends name. He's the type to tell you what he wants to do and he expects you to adapt. He's been locked up shortly for stealing and had a year to pay a 700 fine and he didnt do it. Sometimes he says he needs help but he never takes it. He usually says this after getting thrown out the house for disrespect. He's stolen and pawned his mother's items with no remorse. He never says sorry. He constantly tells them they are not always right and they don't know everything. He's really skinny she thinks he has an eating disorder. He thinks his parents are against him because we don't see things in his way. She's sad because the bad times outweigh the good times. She doesn't know where she went wrong. Sadly she can't think of anything he's good at.

I live at home and am starting college next month. My life at my moms is awful. Everyday I get brought down and my family constantly makes rude comments about me. I'm so tired. My dad is not in the picture so I can't go to his house. I work but not often and my family doesn't understand that my job depresses me because I work in a nursing home and see people dying all the time. I'm mentally exhausted. I often think about just killing myself so I can go and live up in heaven and not having to deal with this anymore. I don't have any real friends and I feel so alone. How can I get out of this household. Please help me. Please.

What would you do if your 18 year old stepson who you love dearly is a couch potato, eats every 2 hours, not thinking about others eating and only washes his dishes he used in the sink when that is one of his chores to do...I am getting frustrated and don't want to explode on him or my partner...what would you guys seriously do.

Mom and brother. Im planning to visit this year but I'm worried about many things. We never had any real beefs but I guess i haven't been the best son or brother. Not even sure if they have room for me to be a guest since they are renting. (Our communication isn't that great)

They have done this my whole life and broken many relationships I could have had.

(I posted this yesterday but something removed the description which confused people.) It s happening next week saturday and its a formal event but I have two events in the next three weeks (one tues, another friday) in school that require me to wear corporate attire and my only 2 suits are in the condo. He expects me to bring home my suit but its a hassle to bring a suit back and forth. I already have them set for those two events.

I live at my parents house and I'm a 19 year old about to be 20 year old college student. My mother has a spare room in her house but she won't let me move into because my room is always messy. I would understand her decision if I didn't have a little brother who does not pick up after himself as a roommate. He moves all my clothes and stuff around and some times just drops them on the floor. So not only I have to re clean MY things in order to appease my mom I have to clean up after my lily toe brother. I need my own room I cannot physically think inside a small cramped room with clothes everywher. Every other room is occupied and even if they weren't my mom wouldn't give it to me for the same reason. My oldest brother told me that I could move into his place.But his house is at least 2 times as far from my school and I would need to come back to my old house to pick up my sister in law to come with me since we go to the same school and I would need to drop her off as well since she does not have a ride. This would make gas money go overboard and I can barely afford insurance for my car being a full time student. So should I stay and slowly lose my mind and risk failing because I can't find ANY quiet or safe place (my mom doesn't even want me going into the room to study anymore and the people in the other rooms don't want me in their own either) to study, or move into my brothers house but financially cripple my self for the rest of the semester?

She has constantly been critical of me. When I graduated from high school she assumed that I wasn't even going to graduate. She is kind of embarrass to post any photos of me on Facebook unless I am turning sideways (I have a DDD size cup and even did when I was skinny). I can't make her happy because I haven't found my aptitude. I get so annoyed at her and she threw a fit when Fox News was on a tv in a restaurant. I shouldn't post stuff this personal but it gets annoyed. She even criticized my brother for joining the navy. She has a PHD in Organization Development.

When I become a mother, I'll teach my kids values and morals. I have to admit that I'd rather have a thief, liar, oppressor for a kid than see my child getting victimized/hurt by someone else. I can deal with seeing my future kid arrested. I can't deal with getting a home call from school telling me someone beat up my kid. I don't want a weakling, naive and victim for a child. If he's the victimizer ok fine. I'll straighten him out myself but I would be piss off if he's a victim that lets themselves get beaten. I understand the other parent would for sure be coming after me for failing my role. In that case, I imagine myself sincerely apologizing for the damage my child cause to someone else's child. I would obviously do my best to install values to my kids. I just don't want my kids to ever be hurt by anyone. That would be the worst nightmare for me...worst than knowing my child hurt someone else.

My mother has a long history of substance abuse and criminal child abuse (mainly against me) that began once I became a teenager. My brother has always blamed me for her abuse toward me, saying things like "if you didn't upset her, she wouldn't have punched/kicked/slapped you." I am now an adult and he still does this, and even blamed me for her leaving our home (the abuse became so bad that my father put a restraining order in place, so she was forced to leave the home when I was still a teenager). I love my brother and I would like to have relationship with him, but my self esteem plummets every time he says these things to me. How can I go forward in having a healthy relationship with him?

I am 17 years old and I am currently looking for a job, however, I feel like sometimes employers don't want to hire me because of my hijab. I have only had one job in the past at Chick Fil-A and I honestly wish I never left cause now I can't find another job.. I have an interview at next week but honestly I just feel like I should just stop trying... should I just give up?

He lies just constantly and makes promises he breaks. His arrogance makes him unable to see it. He is basically a bad man. He is also very ignorant of those who are different and was horribly negligent to his elders who were all wonderful people. I worked all through my teen and adult years to make it up to them (they have died since). So should I divorce him like my mother did or will I feel regrets later in life? By divorce I do not mean literally file for divorce obviously, I mean emotionally divorce him. It is an expression. Ever heard "Trump needs to divorce Hillary and not talk about her anymore" obviously they don't mean the two are married, it is an expression. Or when a football fan divorces his team. So I mean emotionally divorce this dishonest and arrogant father of mine.