Family: Question: Why is life unfair?

Question: Why is life unfair?

Posted: 16 Aug 2019 01:09 PM PDT

I got makeup on my dad's girlfriend bedroom floor on accident and she put a lock on her door. The reason why she puts a lock on her door so I can't come in her room. My dad's girlfriend her name is Shannon Shannons son and daughter is allowed to come in her room my dad is allowed to come in her room except for me im not allowed to come in her room because I got makeup on her floor to me in my eyes this is not fair. Treat people equally.

Question: Is a $20 birthday gift from your brother really cheap? (We're both adults)?

Posted: 16 Aug 2019 12:57 PM PDT

So every year I spend about $90-$120 on a birthday gift for my brother. I make about $20 an hour. I think of it as 4-6 hours worth of work is the value of the gift. If I work a short 8hr shift I make $160. He makes about $18 an hour but has more money than me. He knows I spend that much (which I feel is reasonable) it's 0.3 percent of my annual income. His is 0.05 percent which is 1.1hrs of work for him. So once a year he thinks his brother's birthday is worth 1.1hrs of work. I know that he is frugal, and sometimes even cheap so I thought because I spent $120 dollars most recently that he would probably spend $80 (2/3rds) of what I spent. But you know I figure for his income that $50 would be the bare minimum. When I found out it was $20! I was very offended. I am convinced that he is actually a bad person. He constantly blows me off when I make time in my busy schedule to see him, Hes always rude to me and ignores what I say because his phone is more important. He is beyond selfish. Im his brother for God sake. "Its the thought that counts!" He doesnt even put any thought into it either! Its so predictable what he got, its not unique, its not special, its lame. I am embarrassed that I was "generous"... Generous would be $300 (15hrs) So obviously I'm gonna get him like a $25 giftcard to Mcdonalds next year (but that would still be more generous)

Question: Does anyone else feel completely different from there family ?

Posted: 16 Aug 2019 12:47 PM PDT

I've always felt different from my family and Ive always hated it, my mom and me are completely opposite she has a lot of built up anger in her she always wants to fight and scream ( I'm not trying to judge her cause I do love her ) but every time I try to talk to her she always says something negative about me or about someone else and I'm not sure why :/ I don't really like talking to her cause we don't have anything in common. My dad and brother are completely different from me as well. I guess it's cause I'm quiet and they think that's weird but every time I do try to talk to them it makes me feel even more alone, I don't like fighting or screaming or confrontation I like to be to myself mostly and do my own thing. I've tried to connect with my family but I just can't I don't really like talking negative 24/7 does anyone else feel like this if so how do you deal with not feeling so alone ? Thanks for reading.

Question: My father loves holding grudges against family members. Should I hold a grudge against my sister for him to see how it feels?

Posted: 16 Aug 2019 12:39 PM PDT

My sister is mean to me anyway

Question: Do you think my suspicions are warranted?

Posted: 16 Aug 2019 12:27 PM PDT

So, my income taxes were suppose to come around 3 months ago. I didnt think too much about it, as I've had a lot going on in my life, but its 1,500 dollars, so I asked my mom if she could figure out what's going on. (She deals with all mine, and my siblings tax stuff) she seems just as confused as I am. She keeps saying all she has to do is go on the computer and check it out. I've reminded her to do it like 6 times in the past month or so. I reminded her like 4 times yesterday, and she kept forgetting. I asked her yesterday evening, and she said shell check when it's not so hot in her room. It was almost 100 degrees yesterday. I was talking to my brother about it, and he said that my mom really needs to figure out what's going on. He said he Hope's they didnt come, and than take them, and go and spend it. I don't think she would do that, but she did kind of screw my dad over in the divorce. She didnt steal anything, but she took all she could get. She still acts normal around me. If I still a bunch of money from someone I just couldnt act normal around them, but i have a conscience.

Question: Did Pearl get her m key fixed?

Posted: 16 Aug 2019 11:22 AM PDT

i noticed that she's typing the letter m now, she's no longer using nn or rn

Question: How do i convince my parents to buy me a bed and let me dress and bathe myself?

Posted: 16 Aug 2019 11:17 AM PDT

even though im almost 18, my parents still make me sleep in a crib. theyre worried about me rolling out and getting paralyzed, so they force me to sleep in a baby's crib. my mom also dresses me because she's worried that i'll suffocate myself when getting dressed or that i'll rip a shirt. so my mom literally takes a shirt and puts it over me, and same with pants and underwear. she even ties my shoes for me even though i know how to do it. my parents also bathe me. my dad carries me into the bathtub, my mom undresses me, and then they wash me. it's really embarrassing because my siblings get to watch. and my parents only do this to me! i have a 5 year old brother and he gets treated more like an adult than me. they never bathe me or dress me, and he's allowed to have a bed. but me, no, my parents bathe me and dress me, and i have to sleep in a crib in my parent's room. they first spend about 3 hours at night talking bad about me and how much of a retarded, incompetent jerk i am. they think i can't hear them, but i hear them just fine. and then when they sleep, they snore super loud. im also not allowed to walk. my parents carry me around from place to place or make me crawl around. my mom follows me to school and carries me around there. she changes my diaper on the cafeteria table in front of everyone.

Question: How do I show my boyfriends mom im not a slut and im a responsible kid?

Posted: 16 Aug 2019 11:02 AM PDT

I was asked to babysit my boyfriends younger brother while she was at work, and his sister was there, shes 16 and im 17, well i was being irresponsible and i was in my boyfriends room most of the time while he was outside his room in the living room and i was just having really bad flu like symptoms like puking and i was having a hard time getting through to his younger brother, well she got mad i neglected him and she also heard us having sex last night. she texted me saying im disrespectful and irresponsible.

Question: Whats the worst thing your mom has said to you?

Posted: 16 Aug 2019 11:00 AM PDT

mine is 'even if i die , ill never forgive you' if you ask what i did to make her this mad , skipped school lol

Question: If my grandmothers (my mom's mom and my dad's mom) were sitting next to each other. Can I say "These are my grandparents"?

Posted: 16 Aug 2019 10:50 AM PDT

Question: My father lies to my mother all the time. What do I do when he tries to get me involved in the lying for him?

Posted: 16 Aug 2019 10:30 AM PDT

Question: What do I do???

Posted: 16 Aug 2019 10:23 AM PDT

So Ive been with my boyfriend for 6 months. Hes 18 and Im 17. He lives with his mom in this apartment, with his sister my age and his little brother. I dont have the greatest relationship with my parents so we always go over to his house. I have a good relationship with his mom and weve always gotten along. Well she asked me to babysit his little brother one day and i asked i would. Well that day i was having a super bad day, i was really not feeling good and im having a lot of family issues going on at home that are really bad. I dont get along with my mom at all and there are just a lot of bad things going on. Well i was locked in my boyfriends room while i was supposed to be babysitting because everytime i would go out there to see if his little brother wanted food he would tell me no, I guess i was just having a hard time getting through to him and i felt like he didnt want me there. . Well last night we were in his room and his mom and little brother were out in the kitchen and they heard us having sex. His little brother pounded on the door saying "mom can hear you and she doesnt appreciate it" so i was really embarrassed at that point and i felt so dirty and like i disrespected her. Well she texted me this morning saying shes mad how i was locked in my boyfriends room when i was supposed to be babysitting and she doesnt like how i go into the bathroom when my boyfriend showers, and she said i disrepected her by having sex and being loud because it is her house. How do I get through to his mom and get past this?

Question: How to bond with my dad without him realising?

Posted: 16 Aug 2019 08:49 AM PDT

Question: I told my mother to go die, and that she was a mental. I should have never done this. How much time does she need to heal?

Posted: 16 Aug 2019 08:35 AM PDT

And how can I make up? She hasn't answered calls or texts in a week. I tried emailing her but nothing. I tried calling to her landline and it didn't work either. I really miss her and I love her. I didn't mean what I said. But it's already been said. I don't know what to do. I just want her back. I tried apologizing, but she blocked my phone number. I wrote her a sorry letter (email) but she ignored it.

Question: Do you agree that all kids need a father figure in their lives?

Posted: 16 Aug 2019 06:22 AM PDT

70 percent of youths in state-operated institutions come from fatherless homes – 9 times the average. (U.S. Dept. of Justice, Sept. 1988) 85 percent of all youths in prison come from fatherless homes – 20 times the average. (Fulton Co. Georgia, Texas Dept. of Correction)

Question: As a supervisor or manager, what would you do if an employee reported another employee who happens to be one of your children?

Posted: 16 Aug 2019 05:45 AM PDT

Say, an idiotic employee reports one of your children who happens to be an employee of your company. Do you fire that reporting employee, kill that reporting employee, make his/her life a living hell, or punish your adult child?

Question: My Boyfriends mom gets on my nerves.?

Posted: 16 Aug 2019 05:12 AM PDT

My boyfriend and I are living in his moms place, it's a big house so I have no problem finding a place to be alone when my boyfriend is at work. Or so I thought. She's always so nosey, if I'm sitting in the second living room she always has an excuse on why she needs to be in the kitchen "open to the living room I'm in" and she will bang plates around and run the sink on full blast to the point where I get tired of turning up the volume on the tv and I'll go upstairs to my boyfriend and I's bedroom. And even then she will eventually "have to bring up our laundry" and she goes in our closet to put SOME my boyfriends clothes away.. like 2 pairs of socks out of the whole basket. If I buy extra soap to use in our bathroom soap dispenser, she will take it and use it in all the bathroom around the house so I have to hide it now. If we buy anything from the store she has to know what it is, same with my mail, she's always asking what I got in the mail.. If my boyfriend and I get a load from an auction she's always down there touching it and going through it.. AND HERES THE MOST ANNOYING F*CKING THING!!!! If I go to my room to use MY bathroom she will have some dumb *** excuse to come in my room for example. one time she needed to give me a bar of soap.. like is this **** normal?

Question: I'm invited to a part September 8th. My parents will be mad, though I am an adult, cause I am not going to the beach with them. What do I do?

Posted: 16 Aug 2019 04:52 AM PDT

I hate conflict. I will be going to the beach but two days late. My parents will be mad cause the party is with a cousin on my Mom's side of the family and my Mom is distant from her family but I am not. So I am hoping to claim I have to be home for something else but since they are invited also to this party they will know that is why I am staying. I always go when my Mom's family has something as it is cathartic for me since my parents and siblings are distant from her family which is hard for me. As a kid I had to be distant but as I got older I got close. My parents don't get this. So what do I do when they get mad? I hate conflict though I am 32 and out on my own. I missed this party last year since we were traveling so this year I want to wait to go until after.

Question: MY mother is very toxic and verbally abusive.?

Posted: 16 Aug 2019 04:21 AM PDT

I am 30 years old and experiencing a rough patch in life i lost my job and had to move back home. I moved into a house my mother owns however she pays most of the bills. She pops up anytime she wants because she pays the bills and even when i was paying the bills she would still pop up and complain about the house being dirty or just complain and put me down in general about how much weight i gained. I clean the house multiple times per day but my brother and his two kids live here as well and my brother is a slob and allows the kids to constantly dirty the house but my mom shows favortism and never really ask my btother to clean. Not to mention my nephews are left woth me all of the time my brother depend on me to watch the kids while he goes out or go to work. I love my nephews with all of my heart but watching them for 10 hours a day is starting to take a toll on me. I have no kids. I should be out living.i just feel guilty if i leave them because i dont want them. To be looked after by someone else who may mistreat and abuse them. There are many child abusers out there. Well last night my mom came to the jouse screaming about how dirty ot was and how i am such a bad and lazy person. I am dealing with depression even suicidal thoughts because i feel like a failure in life. I want to oack my bags and just run away and sleep in my car until i m able to fund a job amd save. The abuse and lack of privacy is constant. I feel so unappreciated i want to pack up and live in my car

Question: What should I invest in to prepare for recession?

Posted: 16 Aug 2019 04:21 AM PDT

which investments do good during a recession and when assets fall during a recession, is that a good time to buy and hold until the recession is over

Question: How to live with a broken heart?

Posted: 16 Aug 2019 04:20 AM PDT

Question: Why do people act like this gets my parents the "get out of being a sh*tty parent jail card"?

Posted: 16 Aug 2019 03:27 AM PDT

My mom was 17 and my dad was 18 when I was born. Yeah pretty young but I really don't give a damn how young they were. They did what it took to have me and agreed to have me. I swear something I seem to catch more of the heat for that then they do. Was my baby self supposed to shove itself back up my moms vagina and say "I'm choosing right now to not be born anyway....". My life's been ruined because of the way they handled everything but it's ok because they were just so young, practically kids....

Question: My brother checked my phone. Help?

Posted: 16 Aug 2019 02:19 AM PDT

So my brother checked my messenger and watsapp. There were tons of messages both old and new from my male friends and also conversations with my female friends about males. So he checked it out and stole away my phone from me , deleted everything , my photos etc. He might stop me from going to university now and complain to my father too . I belong to a very conservative muslim family. Help im worried, what should I do ?

Question: Stepmom Issues?

Posted: 16 Aug 2019 12:50 AM PDT

I live in a small family, my stepmother is a streamer- she doesn t get involved with me often, she s called the police on me several times in the past for "Hitting" her whilst she held me down and slapped me multiple times, she is trying to steal my dad away from me- she s done well at that. She s a streamer and constantly talks about my grandma and I (we are close) behind our backs with her community and friends , it seems whenever she isn t around my dad and I get along so well and we bond because we love eachother- he s totally different around her, I practically stay in my room all the time now besides when I leave for school or for football yet she still acts like I m such a pain in her ***, while she sits on the couch watching TV and talking with her friends all day. My grandpa passed away from cancer a few years ago, he was a veteran and wouldn t let this happen but he s no longer here. Please give some advice, because I love my dad and my grandma but I hate her.

Question: How do I solve this?

Posted: 16 Aug 2019 12:22 AM PDT

My cousin drove us both to a nearby supermarket at night. While we were driving there, we were joking around for a bit until he says "I'm going to **** you like I ****** your sister". Knowing about their past affair and how much they hate each other, I told him to take it back, because I already told him how I didn't feel comfortable him talking about my sister around me. I told to apologize or else I was going to get out the car, walk home, and never speak to him again. I wanted to knock him out right there of course but he was driving. He kept going on about how I didn't make sense on why I was pissed off about this. Like we always joked about our family, but I knew this was just straight up disrespect. He said he was sorry but he kept trying to justify what he said even though he clearly saw I was very disappointed. When we got to the supermarket, I then started to walk back the way we came and he kept apologizing saying he wasn't going to say stuff like that again. Eventually after realizing it wasn't safe to walk far back home at late night in a bad neighborhood, I drove back home with him. I accepted his apology because holding a grudge is the last thing I want to do because the last time I held a grudge it was for far too long and it took it's toll on my spirit and it was starting to affect me negatively. I felt like something was missing after I accepted his apology. How do you completely stop someone from disrespecting you?

Question: I feel like I can't be a teenager.?

Posted: 16 Aug 2019 12:03 AM PDT

I'll try to make a long story as short as I can. I'm 16, and live in the US with just my dad and brother. The rest of my family and childhood friends live in Canada (we live here for my dad's work). I chose to live with my dad because he made life sound very promising and I was unhappy with my living situation at the time. I trusted that my dad would be different than how he used to be when I was younger. When I first came here a few years ago, I struggled with making friends as it was such a culture shock. I went from a small town with people I've known since kindergarten to a school with thousands of kids. My friends from back home are constantly telling me all these crazy stories and fun memories they have, while any memories I try to make my dad shuts down. He doesn't let me leave the house most times and instead has me do household duties and cook for my brother. My family warned me about the way he is before I moved with him, which is why I feel like it is so much so on me. I've tried to discuss moving back to my family (not only for the reason that I don't have much freedom) but he yells, gets angry, ignores me and guilt trips me for days to weeks at a time. He limits contact with my mom and other siblings and grandparents, and goes against visitation orders (I've seen them maybe a week this whole year). I'm in such a depressed and angry state that I don't even know where to begin with fixing it.

Question: I have video proof of my little sister being physically and emotionally abused by my mom, but I don t know what to do with it.?

Posted: 15 Aug 2019 10:16 PM PDT

I m 15, and have been living with abusive parents all my life, my mom being the worst, my dad doesn t do as much to us as support our mom. My older sister has called the cops on them before when I was younger, but to no avail. The reason I haven t turned in the evidence yet, besides distrust in any CPS or law enforcement, is because my family is fairly well off besides the obvious. My dad has a very well paying job, we have over 1 mil in the bank. I have no idea if it s even worth reporting the abuse if it ends with my younger sister being worst off than before. I prioritize her happiness in this, and she has held to a positive connect with my mom despite how horribly she treats her when she s mad at her. Any advise would be greatly appreciated, especially from someone with experience with the laws response to these sorts of situations. Thanks.

Question: What do I do about my mother?

Posted: 15 Aug 2019 09:33 PM PDT

Okay, I'm 25 and pretty much treated like a child by my mom. I live at home, not by choice but a bad family situation...but I'm also treated like a 15 year old. Still have a curfew, can't drink, can't have fun with my friends...just rough. Idk what to do. Everytime I talk to her about it, she just tells me how ungrateful I am and pretty much implies that I don't do anything (when I'm the one going broke every week paying bills)...

Question: Another mother found me, should I relocate?

Posted: 15 Aug 2019 09:29 PM PDT

She was knocking on my door something this morning. This is other mother of one of the little kids my friend and I beat up long ago in 2010. I was then 10. She kept repeating ''Why you hurt my child, why'' over and over...then continued knocking for a long time. I didn't answer. Should I relocate? To be honest, now I'm kind of worried and scared of some type of vigilante or something. She's probably going to tell others around this area. If I had done this in some other country, I would have been called something else by now. Actually she's in the rights. Both kids were beaten up badly, along with taking off their clothes and shoes and placing them in a garbage with disgusting crawlies. My friend and I acted like sadistic psychos back then.

Question: What was the worst mother in law or boyfriend mom you’ve ever had?

Posted: 15 Aug 2019 09:03 PM PDT

Just curious has anyone else had the bad luck of getting a really terrible mother in law? How did you manage to tolerate her and what made her so awful?

Question: Would you forgive your child's bully if they were remorseful?

Posted: 15 Aug 2019 08:18 PM PDT

My younger brother was getting bullied from 4 years. That kid was the meanest one in the group and the main tormentor. It only ended when my brother learned some self-defense moves from a friend and beat the hell out of him in Dec 2018. It ended for good after that. Both are now 17 year-olds and just started 12th grade a couple weeks ago. Then suddenly these things happened: - 1-2 months later, he apologized to both my brother and parents (it did seemed sincere) - Made promises to protect my brother and stand up for others - Ending of May: put himself in harm's way and nearly got run over by pushing my brother out of the way of an upcoming truck. It was a drunk driver. Basically my brother could have died if it wasn't for him. - Lately I heard he sometimes give out donation in charities My brother already long forgave him (they're good friends now) but then so did my parents. In a case where your child's bully is remorseful, would you forgive him? Yes he did saved my brother's life. It's not that I'm holding grudges but he did put my brother through hell for 4 years. At the time, my brother would never tell us his problem.

Question: I’m 20 and stressed out by my current living situation with my family. Should I move out?

Posted: 15 Aug 2019 08:07 PM PDT

Should I rent an apartment? My mom yells the whole day, she is obese with high BP I was at the doctors today, I have HBP as well especially for my age It is 129/89. I am too stressed out all the time, I don't want to be at risk for diseases. I just want to be alone and under less stress. She yells at me all the time, says she needs my help but doesn't tell me what it is. She's home the whole day, she has no job. She just yells. I've also found a total of like 10 grey hairs. I don't even know anymore, I love her just can't live with her!

Question: Is it wrong to want to delete all the pictures of my dad of the last 6 months before he died?

Posted: 15 Aug 2019 08:04 PM PDT

My dad died last month. I loved my dad. My dad was never a skinny man. I never ever saw my dad without his mustache, at least not until before he died. My dad began getting sick a year ago. 6 months before dying, he was unrecognizable. He lost over 70 Lbs and stop being able to grow a mustache. I have many pictures with my dad. I really don't want to see my pictures with my dad before dying, all frail and with no facial hair. Is it wrong to want to delete all the pictures of my dad of the last 6 months before he died?

Question: Why did I become insecure after my friend married?

Posted: 15 Aug 2019 07:21 PM PDT

My plan is to wait till after college and working (when Im 25 or older) then get married, so I get wisdom, experience with people and finances. Im 20 and in college, but I just started having insecurities about myself when my friend who is 2 years older than me got married. I am not ready to marry now but I have self doubts about myself

Question: My 11yr old is out of control he talks back throws things tells me to shut up I don,t know what to due.?

Posted: 15 Aug 2019 04:13 PM PDT

Question: My parents refuse to get me glasses? I’m 14 help :/?

Posted: 15 Aug 2019 04:12 PM PDT

okay so please help me out because I'm stressing. So I need presecription glasses, to see. I broke my glasses like 1 month ago and my parents never took me to get new glasses. I told them everyday that I need to get them or at least some contacts because school is starting soon and I'm so blind. But my dad refuses to take me. My mom is sick so she can't take me. I literally have nobody to take me. And all my dad does is threatens to hit me and hits me. He hit me yesterday on my head super hard. I don't even cry when he hits me because it doesn't hurt I just stay still. He's always hit me since I was a kid. I'm a girl and I'm 14 now and i don't even flinch when he hurts me that's how bad it is. They buy my brother everything he wants but not me. They spent 400 dollars buying him school SHORTS. And just shorts. Then they're gonna spend money for his supplies and they spent 300 dollars on his shoes. And me? they only spent LESS than 100 for my supplies and everything that I NEED. They don't bother spending 70 dollars for contacts and I have the money from my birthday but I have nobody to take me:( please help me I'm tired of living like this. They buy my spoiled brother everything and when my dad hits me my mom doesn't even say anything. She just stays there frozen as if nothing happened. School starts August 21 and I'm so ******* stressed because they haven't even bought my backpack or my clothes or my glasses that I need :/

Question: Would any girl date a guy who is short, fat and ugly?

Posted: 15 Aug 2019 04:06 PM PDT

I'm 22 and never had a girlfriend before. Girls just don't find me attractive. I have stopped growing many years ago and I'm still 5'2. I'm also very overweight (almost 200 lbs due to some health issues) despite going to the gym a lot. Lastly, I have a kinda chubby face. Every girl I flirted with or approach don't seem to take interest in me. Will I ever find a girl to give me a chance or will I be forever alone?

Question: Should I send this to the person that birthed me (she doesn’t deserve the title: mom)?

Posted: 15 Aug 2019 03:20 PM PDT

This isn't fair your saying I was being rude to YOU but your always ******* rude to me I hate your behaviour your such a hypocrite and by the way I don't do anything cause I'm depressed probably cause of you and since I'm depressed I have lost Interest in the things I used to like your a bad parent and ps by your logic me being inside for as long as you have been here isn't ok but Kalista does it all the time so **** your hypocritical selfish sexist attitude Should I send it or no

Question: Uh what’s going on here is it abuse?

Posted: 15 Aug 2019 03:01 PM PDT

So, my mum thinks I should be involved in her problems and that I should pick a side when it comes to her and my dad. She also thinks she has every right to control both me and my father by controlling who he talks to, his money, his phone, etc. She says hurtful things and calls both me and my dad disgusting things (she calls me a *****, whore, etc for no reason and calls him a lowlife and pig and all this bullshit). She belittles my choice to have good friends and says **** behind their backs. She claims I'm abusing here when I'm just defending myself after she calls me names. I'm over all of it and I'm done. She's made me wanna kill myself because I feel it's the only way out. She thinks it's okay to say she'll put me up for foster care and make sure I get the worst foster parents ever. She thinks she can call CPS and take me away. She uses her words to bribe me or get me to take her side. I'm done. I need help.

Question: Why do women who want to have children work in fields of work that aren't compatible with raising children or taking time off?

Posted: 15 Aug 2019 02:17 PM PDT

They claim they want to be "independent hard working women" but at the same time want to take time off to have and raise children. They can't have it both ways. For example, a woman who is an airpline pilot that works red eye flights and weird hours, or a woman who works in manual labor in mining or in jobs that require intense travel. They say that they have trouble dating and finding a partner because they are always traveling and hate their jobs, but they are so stubborn about being a "feminist" and "independent" that they won't switch careers

Question: My sister is one who is narcissistic and self absorbed. Does this develop from being spoiled?

Posted: 15 Aug 2019 02:12 PM PDT

My brother had severe conduct issues as a teen so my parents were busy with him and my sister, while she would act up, was not dangerous. So while she would be yelled at, punishments were never enforced. My Dad would try to but my mother always lifted them if my sister screamed enough. My other sister and I were older so didn't have to deal with it and were regarded as halfway normal and easy kids (not that we didn't have our moments). So fast forward 12 years later and my brother got his act together after 2 years in jail. My sister however, is a monster at 26. When she doesn't have her way she has a meltdown. In June we were at a hotel returning from a funeral and she had a meltdown cause my father told her she needed to carry his shoes in her bag. She was hollering in the hotel like a 4 year old. She is developmentally normal and no known mental illness. She does have ADHD and some mild-moderate learning disabilities when in school like I do but I never acted like this past age 10. Lastly, she insults people bluntly, more then normal feminine gossip. So does this likely develop from being spoiled? My mother has some cousins who are estranged from their youngest sibling because the youngest, also a woman, demands her way or else and is said to be narcissistic. That woman also blurts out insulting things I have noticed the few times I have met her. That woman lies a lot whereas my sister is not known for lying.

Question: How do I keep a secret from my parents (I am an adult) and justify it when they discover I have covered up?

Posted: 15 Aug 2019 01:59 PM PDT

It disturbs them that I see a therapist and take medication. So I am going to claim I am coming off the medicine and no longer see the therapist unless an emergency. That is what they want to hear but it is not the truth. I also was set up with a nutrition coach that is once a month and my Dad is disturbed I still do that when he is the one who set me up with it. I might not need that forever but not ready to break it. I am going to claim that person I don't see at all anymore. What do I do to justify these secrets when they catch me? I am 34 but they hover over their kids, grown and when we are little. I don't even see my parents that much, maybe once a month. Their fear is that the doctors use me and make me sicker with depression and anxiety and that the cure is to just decide I hearby will "let go of it". I can't wait to tell them that when they have cancer "just let go of the cancer unless you want it". Any ideas?

Question: Since my Dad lies so frequently is he a hypocrite since he disciplined me for lying as a kid, now tells me I need to lie more?

Posted: 15 Aug 2019 01:50 PM PDT

I am practicing lying but practicing on him. He's a bad man so I am trying to score points against him for things like this so let me know if this makes one a hypocrite. I am never 100 percent sure what makes one a hypocrite.