My grandma has recently moved in with my dad and I , she has no boundaries will come in my room whenever and when I'm not around she goes in to my personal bathroom and bedroom and cleans. The most annoying part is there will be times when she's in her room all day and will hear me open my door or go in to the kitchen and come out just to watch what I'm doing. Its not that she wants to socialize or anything cause she won't say a word she just comes to where I am and observes. It's giving me anxiety and making me angry, I just want to be able to walk around my house without someone hovering over me 24/7. I feel like I'm trapped in my room all day everyday and even there I'm not safe because she just comes in and out as she pleases. And I can't lock my door or shut it full because I have 2 cats that like to have access to my room as it is also their space. And no I can't move out yet because I'm a full time student. I might just have to stick it out till I get my degree in a year. Whatever. I needed to vent. Feel free to add your 2 cents.

TW: Incest. (Please keep it respectful.) My cousin (I'll call her L) and I have always been close friends, always understood each other, been able to make each other laugh. We grew up on the same block - I'm 17, she's 16. But things changed recently when we tried weed for the first time - decided to do it together since we trust each other and always have each other's back. At some point during the high, she wanted to shower, to see how the water felt. But we didn't want to separate so we ended up taking a shower together. At the time I didn't see a problem. We've always been affectionate and ended up washing each other...which turned into making out, and feeling up...which turned into...yeah. Once it was over we dried off and crashed in her bed. In the morning, she was as playful and relaxed as ever. I'm not sure what's going to happen now, or what should happen. She's my cousin, it's not like a hooked up with a friend. That said, we live in a pretty liberal-feminist state, (so no, not Alabama. Please spare me the jokes.) and it's technically legal here. L said that her mom has suspected us of crushing on each other for a while, and isn't bothered by the idea. I'm not sure if we're going to be in a relationship now, or just go back to normal and never speak of it again? What can I do now that this has happened? Hi, I got the category right the first time, but the attempt at help is appreciated.

I saw a girl on youtube ( a beauty blogger) that constantly buys expensive makeup at sephora, constantly shops at nordstrom for expensive clothes, buys designer shoes, and gets her hair professionally done all of the time but she complains about an expensive grocery bill. She went to the grocery store and said that food is way too expensive and that she wish she had food stamps. she said food is ridiculously expensive. she spent about $400 on her groceries. The whole time I'm thinking that it wouldnt be an issue if she just cut back on the unecessary expensive makeup and clothes right? I mean food is necessary for survival but sephora makeup and nordstroms clothes are not. you can get good quality clothes from target or walmart. insanity at his finest.

My 15y/o has recently gotten into graphic design and has been practicing techniques and designs. Day in day out for nearly 2 weeks. Over the last couple days it's been nearly impossible to get him away from the computer. His work has improved tremendously but I'm worried he's become obsessive. We both just realized he hadn't eatin since breakfast yesterday. He's operating on only like 4 hours of sleep and quite irritable. While his dad and I are glad to see he's being productive with his time, this doesnt seem healthy. Knowing him though, if we disrupt his "creative process" he'll snap and loose interest. Especially if we try to police his time. I want him to be able to give himself restrictions as we told I'm but he's not been managing to do so.

I would freak out if i had to work with my parents. Yet, i see this family where the mother and her children work in the same store. Why is that?

I can't be flawed or my family (especially the highly educated ones will hate me). My brother and cousin seem ok but as usual I'm the black sheep and embarrass the family.

This uncle of hers I see at reunions and funerals. When I was a teen my mother noted that he was the one accused of sexually abusing his daughter and possibly his younger sister. When I asked my grandmother about it she said "that was all just rumors, there was never any credibility to that claim". So I have just assumed he was falsely accused. However, as I have gotten older I have seen that he has a really creepy and narcissistic personality. He blurs things out like Trump and he made a bizarre and somewhat perverted joke to me claiming he had made kids while in the Navy in Panama. Recently at a funeral reception another cousin of my Mom's who is the daughter of his sister said "I would never leave my children with Uncle ....... that is for sure." The dots are to leave his real name out. So when I see this man should I just assume he is a pedophile even though he is probably not? Do I assume he is innocent and ignore the rumor? His daughter has a lot of Bipolar related psychiatric problems. This great-uncle is not close but I see him about once a year. I do not have kids so there is no issue of whether I trust him around my children or not. I have no kids.

I've become truly obsessed with family as a result of this fear. It's because my mother moved far away with me when I was a kid and held me back from her family however, as a teenager I got closer. Her father was an alcoholic which was the reason for my mom's bitterness.

It's obvious she wants a baby around for boredom but what hurts is that she doesn't think about my health issues I suffer from fatigue is one of my symptoms sometimes I will pass out for 3 hours during the day I don't tell her all of it because it would be a lot having kids would only make it worse for me I tell her I don't ever plan on having kids she said we all say that and sometimes she will say something with when you have babies beginning of stories even if I snap about it she won't take the hint I get guys and females asking me out but I reject them all haven't dated over a year I realized love doesn't really exist and I am happy alone she already has a grand kid from my brother just far away now I won't be one of those moms living with mom with a baby I don't even have a job but I am working on it I don't mind her talking about me having kids but it annoys me she expects me to have one someday and that someday she will be disappointed. Any advice is appreciated.

I'm used to it on ordinary days but afraid she'll do it on a special day.

So point blank, my car is my baby. I bought it with my own money a few months ago. Since then I have put my own money into fixing it up. Cleaned out the entire car, spent money to get scratches and wear removed, etc. when I drive it I make sure to pump my brakes, let my engine warm up before driving it, make sure the car is stopped in reverse before going back to drive, etc. basically everything I can do to keep it safe and running. Well my mom is the complete opposite. She doesn't give a s hit about cars and her cars are always the ones to break down the fastest. Well her latest car is having issues so now she wants to drive car. How do I tell her no politely? We have two other cars that she can drive but she wants to drive MINE?! Any advice would be greatly appreciated. By pumping my brakes, I mean going down hills and or coming to a stop. If you hold them down going down hills, it will cause them to overheat. Don't know how that helps in answering my question though.

She's 27 years old, and still acts this way. I don't even speak to her at all, I know this is a dumb question to ask and post.

She used to tell me how I will never have a boyfriend or any success in life if I m not skinny. She made me learn how much calories each food contains. I never been an obese child but I was somewhat chubby like many elementary school kids. At age 13 I became anorexic, than my mother would call me a living skelaton and threaten to send me to the mental hospital and let them tie me to a bed and force feed me. Skinny or chubby I was never good enough. Now I m 31, living a happy life with my husband, very far away from her. I left home and moved abroad as soon as finished high school and I visit home only twice a year. Its never easy. I learned to accept my body even tho its curvy, size M/L. Still whenever I visit home my mother would comment on my apperance within the first hour of my arrival, it s always about how fat I m, how she remembered me being skinnier etc. She even managed to tell me a day before my wedding that people back home probably think my husband only marries me because I might be pregnant, since I have too big of a stomach. (I wasn t pregnant). She would also bully my skin color, as its very fair, no matter how much I m on the sun. She would tell me I look like I been "sitting in bleach the whole summer". The list of critical comments goes on. I feel obligated to visit home twice a year but its always a hellish time for me and it drains and tears me up emotionally. How could I not get emotionally affected by her critical comments?

I feel that it is my duty to join antifa as we must stop these crazy trump supporters My dad is a scumbag he is a Trump supporter my mom is also a supporter of trump to she told me if I join antifa they will no longer consider me their son especially got mad at me after I returned home from Portland because I went to fight some nazis I mean my grandfather fought the nazis I think he would be proud of me

I am 55 and moved in with my mum after my marriage breaking up. My mums partner of 30 years (they are not married) is very controlling. the house has been neglected no wqallpaper on the walls, the kitchen is filthy. i have offered to pay for a new kitchen and to redecorate he says no. No-one does anything in this house but me. My mum is 86 he is 70. He tries to controll me he wants to do my washing I said no, he accused me of breaking the washer and then overloading it. He checks what i put in the bins and critisises. i am having to stay at my friends house as a postal address because he wont let me pay my council tax, so I have to spend £300 per month travelling to stay at a friends house. Council tax are aware. i am waiting to move out and I have a cat so difficult to rent pretty fed up with the behaviour. he will not clean, never cleans the cooker, I cleaned it last week and I had a temper tantrum, any ideas on how to handle this please?

My Father just passed away the other day, my father was the kindest sweetest man, my brother is 36 and a nasty rotten person. my brother abuse me whn I was a child, he abused our mother he is a thief and an addict. he never loved our father and would treat him terrible and always threaten him, he gave my father a stroke a 10 years ago. so now that my dad passed, I had to tell my brother about it, my brother asked me how did Dad die? I explained and then my brother interrupted and told me to shut the F up and stop rambling, then I lashed out at him, I stood up to him for all these years holding in the anger I have towards my brother I told him he is the reason dad was so sick and all he did was take dad's money and abuse him and I told my brother, that he should have died, not my father. and he just laughed. I feel bad for what I said and I hope my dad can forgive me for this. my question is did i do wrong?

Hi, A couple years ago, I got a laptop for christmas which came with a VR headset. I began playing around with it, occasionally letting my mom try it out. This soon led to my mom playing around with the VR headset even more, which led to her getting into a big VR obsession, she's went through several headsets, and has bought 2 oculus rifts so far. I kind of miss my old mom, any tips on getting my old mom back?

My mother in law allowed me to use her computer and it's connected to her phone. I wasn't snooping but accidentally clicked on a message where she said she was masturbating. Her child sleeps in the same bed as her. He is 3. She's said/done in appropriate things in the past (touching his bottom sexually), (blowing on his stomach whilst he was naked), etc. what should I do? Is this normal?

I live with my sister and she only cooks enough food for her and her fiancé, but not for me. She also eats the food I buy, so I end up eating crackers or peanuts or nothing. I weigh around 89 pounds and have been trying to eat more, plus I'm hypoglycemic and I have thrown up. My mom just says buy more or get food delivered, but the last time I got something delivered, my sister chewed me out, saying we have stuff here but don't. I don't know what to do, because confronting her just makes her mad and her fiancé tried to give me his food a few times and she chewed him out. HELP! #literallystarving She won't let me cook or get food delivered I don't have a job right now so I can't move out.

Okay so my mom is nearly 50 and she LOVES to abbreviate things. She thinks it's quirky. My mom also loves to play golf. Today while we were playing, instead of saying "I need the distance" she would say "I need the D" and "Give me the D" etc. Obviously she doesn't realize what saying those things put in people's heads. It made me feel weird for obvious reasons and so I told her to stop and she asked why, so I told her what "the D" means in slang. She told me I'm mean and have a dirty mind. Was I a jerk to her?

I'm 28 and she's 26. We kept in contact over the years. She moved an hour away from me and was visiting her brother who doesn't live to far so she came over with her two kids. While she was here she was saying things about she didn't like this or that about my house. About two weeks later, she called telling me she had ten days to be out of her place and if she could stay with me. I lied and told her my sister is staying with me now. She would text and ask did your sister move yet?. She had other options such as her brother, sister and mom but according to her their place were "too small". She drives lyft until 4am so she also expected me to babysit her two kids. So she ended up going to her moms.She text me all the about how she hates it. Then she'll bring up things like your family has money (she only went to my parents home once, I never discussed my family financial situation. We do not come from money either) then she says things like " I don't care to buy a home, I'm not settling that's stupid". And" don't you have a degree, I'm not going to school to be in debt" It's like our whole friendship has changed since I said no. Did I do anything wrong to apologize for?

Step brother out of control, my step brother was suffering from depression and some other mental illness due to his past which he was abused by his father. He was strange for a year just when our parents got married, he actually never spoke to anyone, even his own mother. He would walk out of anywhere where my father was present, he still avoids my dad. He wasnt disrespectful to anyone. After a few months he got better, he would avoid speaking to any of us, but he started talking or joking. Now, he's bad again. I mean, like he's having self-destructive behaviour, argues with my step mom over his behaviour. On school nights he comes home at 2am and he haves a girlfriend which I don't think she is helping him become a good person. She smokes weed and uses other illegal drugs, my step mom went out looking for him the other day because he went gone for a whole day, apparently they found him high. The last few weeks he started calming down, he started respecting my step mom again, and doing things right. He even found a part time job on the weekends. Well, I had an argument for the first time with my boyfriend in front of our house and he got in the middle having a fist fight, getting himself detained and making my bf break up with me. I'm pissed at him and I don't know what to tell his mother. Should I insist on my parents getting him hospitalized on psychiatrist clinic?

I have a twin brother. It's like there have always been a difference between me and him. I remember him calling mom first when we fought. I remember him always being blessed more than i. I got hit sometimes i don't remember him getting beaten up but i'm sure he recieved a few slaps aswell. I often had to break up my parents drunk fights by yelling or destryoing something, because my brother always took away when it happend. And i understand that. Now in my adult life, there's still a difference. The familiy see more or less like the black sheep. I've always been different myself, i made my own ways, i did what i wanted, with who i wanted. Nothing criminal nothing crazy, just in my way. And i got really hated for being alternative. My dad wouldn't talk to me for days because of my personality. I admit i was wild back then, and still is. But why am i getting punished for it. I just live my life, and yes stupid decisions come and go as they do in every lives. I have a crazy good job, and my parents know i make alot of money. I once lend money from them, and we have a deal where i transfer a planned amount of money every month, but sometimes they just call me random, yell at me and tell me to transfer more NOW!!!! "CAUSE THEY NEED IT" It's really uncomfortable and triggers some kind of anxiety in me. My brother got his own familiy kid and wife, we both 27. And now he's recieving the blessing again, and they buy them everything. I'm feeling alot of guilt. wish i could write mor

My aunt on my mother's sides father passed away, to give a little background I only see this side of the family at Thanksgiving and Christmas. I've never met my aunt's father once and they rarely ever associate with us however my mom felt we were obligated to go to the calling hours/funeral and I refused because it seems fake and pointless to me they didn't come to the calling hours/funeral when my father's mother passed away for example yet somehow their grandfather passing away is more 'immediate family' than my grandmother was. Was I in the right not going?

The conflict with her has become a war. Mother against daughter, brother against sister, grandmother against grandchild. One of my aunts will speak of nothing but her sister is narcissism. My father gets really mad at me when I see narcissistic aunt and yet it's not his sister it's my mom's sister. It even makes me really nervous and my mom who is always been a very bitter grudge holder is actually the only one forgiving the narcissist and being neutral. My mom is really growing up finally and I'm proud of her as she is being a big girl now. So I am a nephew how do I survive the sheer dysfunction in my mothers family without just fleeing with my father to his family in Seattle as his family is very normal and close? Sometimes I see the narcissist because I feel very weird boycotting a family member. If she was not family then I would have nothing to do with her. Anonymous: Nothing wrong with congratulating my mother on her growing up. She was incredibly immature when I was growing up and it was very hurtful to a mature daughter like myself.

I've become truly obsessed with family as a result of this fear. It's because my mother moved far away with me when I was a kid and held me back from her family however, as a teenager I got closer. Her father was an alcoholic which was the reason for my mom's bitterness.

He is a strict old man and when you do something wrong he tells you like you're his kid. I am scared of him but he's a perfectly good man. When I was little we were taught that he was very religious and therefore was saintly and so I just assumed he could do no wrong and was perfect. As I've gotten older I've realized he is scary. My mother feared him and still does and so she does all he commands like a little girl. If we're late on Thanksgiving she is terrified her parents will be upset which I always found pretty weird as we missed out on doing stuff with the other side of the family because of my mom's fear of her family's disapproval. My mom is very sick this way. So like I wrote how do I get over my fear of my grandfather? He's not a bad guy at all he's just strict and was raised in a military family where are you are the fear of the master. His father was apparently downright terrifying. His grandfather is rumored to have made Mussolini wet himself. Thus it is a family of strict and scary people. Any advice on how I can stop fearing my grandfather in his final years? I'm 26 and he is 84. He rolls like a non-abusive cult leader or A military General. When he dies my mother will either kill her self to be with him or rebel and be free like a teenager off to college.