Family: Question: My mom‘s uncle and aunt used to tell their children how stupid they were. Could this have contributed to their low self-esteem as adults?

Question: My mom‘s uncle and aunt used to tell their children how stupid they were. Could this have contributed to their low self-esteem as adults?

Posted: 27 Aug 2019 02:06 PM PDT

The mother died young from alcoholism ( she was the blood relative) but the father is still alive and has softened greatly since his first wife's death. He's happily remarried.

Question: My dad is a liar, if I started lying to him would it help make him see what it’s like to be lied to?

Posted: 27 Aug 2019 02:05 PM PDT

He is a pathological liar.

Question: Does age of sexual consent change???

Posted: 27 Aug 2019 01:17 PM PDT

There's this kid I've been talking to, he's 16 but we both live in a state where that is under the age of consent (with our age gap). Would we be able to hook up in a nearby state where the age is 16? In other words, if his parents found out, could I be charged or would it be fine because we did it in another state. Please reference the law if you can.

Question: I disowned my parents because they had me so late in life. What are your thoughts?

Posted: 27 Aug 2019 12:53 PM PDT

I never want to see them again because of that. They can live by themselves from now on. As of right now, I'm not related to them.

Question: Can you help me deal with my punishmentg, please?

Posted: 27 Aug 2019 12:08 PM PDT

I'm a 14 year-old girl. I gave mom a hard time, disobeyed, was disrespectful, She was understanding but I went overboard, specially being disrespectful. And I was really mean to a lady who regularly works for us as a maid. Mom got really mad and, as a punishment, for 45 days I'll have to stay home doing housework, after completing my school homework. She got me some maid uniforms and, except when to school, I have to wear thern every day all day long, even when I'm not doing chores. Sometimes I have to go shopping with her in full maid uniform. She got me 2 kinds of uniform, one for chores like cleaning and mopping the floor and other, more delicate, for serving dinner and things like that. Both consist of a dress and a frilly apron. The second uniform has also a cap. Kinda embarassing wearing those uniforms, specially around friends. But mom said I deserve and won't back off. Yesterday some of her friends came over. I asked her to let me wear my regular clothes, but she said No way, Then I asked her to at least skip the apron. Again, No way, the complete outfit. I had to serve coffe and sandwiches. Very embarrassing. People there laughed,said I looked cute and should do my best as a maid. And in fact mom wants me to be an excellent maid, or my punishment won´t be over. How do I deal with this? What do I say when someone sees me in my uniform? I hate housework and my uniforms, wanna wear my cool clothes. Dont wanna wear those uniforms! I'm not a maid!

Question: I feel like i'm missing out?

Posted: 27 Aug 2019 12:07 PM PDT

I'm 16 and my parents are super strict. They won't let me go to any parties, to a friend's house, or sometimes to trips that include being on a bus that's driving on a highway. The only thing i could do is go out to a mall/restaurant with my friends.(Only when my dad is at home so i basically only got my mom's approval because he'd never agree) I do go to trips whenever i want to put they decided that on my junior and senior years i can't since i need to focus on my SAT. When my mom was young she went to a friends house (when she was like 13 i'm guessing?) where they had a lot of alcohol everywhere and her friend's mother was wearing clothes that showed a lot of cleavage). Point is, she felt uncomfortable and she doesn't want me to experience any of that. My dad grew up in a strict, religious household too and didn't have any friends growing up. Anyway, I feel like i'm wasting years when i'm young basically burring myself in textbooks.I love both of my parents and i know they love me and all that but i just want to experience stuff. Also, I've tried confronting them and convincing them over a hundred times but they wont even listen.There is no conversation anyway, it's just them speaking and telling me how it's 'a rule that can't be changed'' even though I've always got stronger points but they won't even argue.They won't open their minds a teeny tiny bit for me no matter what. I feel so unheard. Please suggest anything if you've had any of this with your parents growing up.

Question: Is this legal?

Posted: 27 Aug 2019 12:03 PM PDT

my daughter is 15 and she is dating a 50 year old man she met on tinder and she goes to his house all the time and comes back and she looks like she has bruises and cuts and when i ask what's wrong she says nothing and doesn't tell me anything, i'm not sure if it's legal because i don't think they are sexual so it shouldn't be illegal. her boyfriend picks her up from school and she goes on vacations with him and his wife

Question: What is happening with my friend?

Posted: 27 Aug 2019 12:00 PM PDT

I'm 28 and she's 26. We kept in contact over the years. She moved an hour away from me and was visiting her brother who doesn't live to far so she came over with her two kids. While she was here she was saying things about she didn't like this or that about my house. About two weeks later, she called telling me she had ten days to be out of her place and if she could stay with me. I lied and told her my sister is staying with me now. She would text and ask did your sister move yet?. She had other options such as her brother, sister and mom but according to her their place were "too small". She drives lyft until 4am so she also expected me to babysit her two kids. So she ended up going to her moms.She text me all the about how she hates it. Then she'll bring up things like your family has money (she only went to my parents home once, I never discussed my family financial situation. We do not come from money either) then she says things like " I don't care to buy a home, I'm not settling that's stupid". And" don't you have a degree, I'm not going to school to be in debt" It's like our whole friendship has changed since I said no. Did I do anything wrong to apologize for?

Question: How can I get my daughter to take more pride in her appearance again?

Posted: 27 Aug 2019 11:56 AM PDT

When she was in jr high (she's 19 now) she would always wear makeup and nice clothes. And she always did her hair. Now, the past few years she only occasionally wears makeup, dresses in plain clothes and never curl or straighten her hair. She tells me that she's getting older and that's stuff in no longer important to her. How can I get her to stop being so rebellious towards me? I want to see her self esteem get better and this is the only way I know of that will do it. She's always struggled with insecurities and I'm trying to help her but she keeps rebelling.

Question: Why is my half brother so mean?

Posted: 27 Aug 2019 11:25 AM PDT

Tomorrow he turns 30 but we celebrated his birthday today and after we had lunch my father was serving me tea in a cup and while he served me my half brother kicked the table and the tea almost spilled and I was afraid. Why did he do that?

Question: I found searches for escort services on my dads phone history what do I do ?

Posted: 27 Aug 2019 11:10 AM PDT

My mum and dads anniversary is coming up in October. They have 4 kids including me. Idk why my dad would look this up. The service is located an hour away and dad went to the city it was located in today to see a "car"... Do I tell my mum my dad has been looking up prostitutes or not ?? Please help

Question: How can my sister hate and judge my boyfriend when she had never met him?

Posted: 27 Aug 2019 11:06 AM PDT

When my child was still an infant my ex husband left. To give my child a family life I bought a house with my parents. My 2 older sisters moved in. I have spent the years that followed raising my child and did not date. Over a year ago I started dating a man I had known for several years as a friend. I keep my social life away from as one older sister is very judgemental and doesn't seem to like many people. She always has negative things to say about me and my choices. Many of my friends have not met my family for that reason. The anxiety of what would happen. My friend is now my boyfriend. It was not something I was going to keep a secret. My teenager loves him they get along great. My parents love him. Now that child is heading off to college my negative sister had told me she does not like my boyfriend nor does she trust him. She thinks because he works two jobs to get along he is just with me for my ownership share on the house. My sister claims she is protecting my childs inheritance. I think she is protecting herself. Why can't my sister be happy for me? How can you hate someone you have never met?

Question: How to get my mom's vibrancy back?

Posted: 27 Aug 2019 10:56 AM PDT

It seems like my mom has stopped trying to force me to events and to do things but I didn't expect her energy or vibrancy to go out as well. I didn't know those two things were related. She still tries to get me to do things but not like before which is what I want. But that vibrancy or whatever you call is almost completely gone. That energy thing is one of the things I like the most about her and one of the most inspiring parts of her.

Question: My mom has lost hope in me?

Posted: 27 Aug 2019 10:33 AM PDT

I guess I got tired of her always forcing me to events and trying to force me to do things but I didn't expect her energy or vibrancy to go out as well. Without knowing it, I have always been inspired by her energy. I'm not sure what it's called but it is something like that. I guess it's almost like she is disappointed and just doesn't have as much expectations as before.

Question: I want to go to marquette university?

Posted: 27 Aug 2019 09:48 AM PDT

Question: My crush isn’t in any of my classes, how will I see her now?

Posted: 27 Aug 2019 09:44 AM PDT

Question: My girlfriend stole my wallet and won’t give it back, help me?

Posted: 27 Aug 2019 09:42 AM PDT

Question: My girlfriend is cheating on me again, advice?

Posted: 27 Aug 2019 09:33 AM PDT

Question: Is an ipad mini 5 or a ipad 3 better?

Posted: 27 Aug 2019 09:30 AM PDT

Question: My boyfriend hit me, advice?

Posted: 27 Aug 2019 09:19 AM PDT

Question: My family don’t talk to me anymore !!!?

Posted: 27 Aug 2019 08:34 AM PDT

Last year I had argument and quarrel with my mom on FaceTime and she stopped talking to me been more than a year I tried to talk to her but nothing worked. I live abroad far away last time I met them was more than 5 years ago. My sister don't talk to me either since months. I'm all alone and feeling sad missing old times with them. I always thought family comes first no matter what. But now family hold grudges over few mean words and fights. Ugh. Dunno what to do without them 😞 anyone else had same experience and how they managed to get family back?

Question: Should poor people have kids if they don’t ever rely on welfare?

Posted: 27 Aug 2019 08:28 AM PDT

Me and my husband are working class. He is a bus driver and I work as an administrative assistant. We are not in poverty, but not too far from it. Could we still give our (future) kids a good life even though we don't make much money?

Question: My grandfather has asked me on a trip to Spain. I accepted but am really nervous, how do I stay calm?

Posted: 27 Aug 2019 08:24 AM PDT

I am afraid I will miss something really special back here at home. For example if a family member dies where I would feel the need to go to the funeral but not enough that it would warrant flying home from Spain. Also. a special family gathering on the other side of my family like a wedding. Lastly, my grandfather is an angry old man often. He is seldom in a good mood. He is a good person but seldom in a good mood. He has always been a very stern and serious person (scary) as he was raised by a father who was in the military though my grandfather was never in the military. His father (my great-grandfather) was apparently absolutely terrifying. So I am going to go as if I don't I will regret it when my grandfather dies. He is on an elderly people trip. We will be there 8 days. How do I get over my anxiety and also the fear of this scary grandfather?

Question: Am I really over reacting to this?

Posted: 27 Aug 2019 07:27 AM PDT

My son's father moved away and has not seen our son since he was 6 months old, doesn't pay child support or provide any support at all. But he met some women online from France that he wants to go live with who has a child of her own. I feel pissed because he chooses someone he's never met over his own child.

Question: Help with exchange student?

Posted: 27 Aug 2019 07:07 AM PDT

Hey, we recently welcomed a Japanese exchange student. He's very shy and spends most of his time in his room. How do I bond with him? Also, how do I explain that he's to be outside his room, socialising and learning the language? I don't want to be rude, I just worry bc he seems depressed (as he spends most of his time alone, and when we ask him if he wants to join us for dinner he refuses). He's been here less than a week, but from our previous experiences with exchange students, he seems like he's not enjoying his stay. I also want yo remind him to only sleep at night (that way he'll suffer less from jet lag, and will be able to adjust to our time zone). Any suggestions? Ps. I don't think he likes me 😅 he only speaks with my brother and when I say hi he seems bothered. Is it customary to only speak to men? (I'm a woman) Or is he shy? I don't think I've done anything wrong. Since he doesn't seem interested in talking to me I leave him alone, not to bother him. What should I do?

Question: My Dad has been promising a ski trip for a year and yesterday he announced he changed his mind. How do I get over my disappointment in him?

Posted: 27 Aug 2019 06:12 AM PDT

He lies all the time. He gets me excited and then pulls the lie game and I am let down. He worked with a guy he always complained about doing this and yet he does the exact same thing as that person. How do I get over my disgust and disappointment in him?

Question: Why does Michelle Obama look more manly than Barrack?

Posted: 27 Aug 2019 05:42 AM PDT

Question: Daughter letting boyfriend sleep over all the time?

Posted: 27 Aug 2019 05:34 AM PDT

My 32 year old daughter is being foolish, and terrible by letting her boyfriend spend the night with her 6 year old daughter there. He's not the father, and I've tired to tell her how horrible that is, and how she shouldn't send that kind of message to child. I want her to live with me, but she wants her own place. I told her she will be throwing away all her money, and she needs to do what is best for daughter. Her boyfriend is an idiot who drives a beater with a pos job. Dresses like a low life idiot, and I don't know what she sees in him. How and I get through to her? She will even kiss him in her daughers around, and I think that is horrible. I didn't bring her up this wat, and I wasn't raise like that.

Question: Why are my parents less protective and strict on my younger sister?

Posted: 27 Aug 2019 04:44 AM PDT

im a 15 yr old guy, and my sister is 13. i'm much more responsible than her. i do my chores diligently and on time, and im very motivated when it comes to studying and homework. but as for my sister, she's really lazy and spends way too much time on social media. however, my parents are still stricter on me and they're more protective of me. my parents always lecture me about my imperfections (such as getting a 32 on act science or 750 on sat physics), but they rarely tell my sister she needs to worker harder at school and spend less time on social media. my parents (especially my mom) trust her more as well. for example, whenever i finish my chores or homework, my mom literally checks to make sure i did everything and that i did a good job. if i make a small mistake, she'll get mad at me and spend hours correcting it. but my sister gets more freedom. she gets to go out with her friends whenever she wants, and she is allowed to talk bad about me with her friends. but if i say anything negative about her to my friends, my parents will find out and they will ground me. i understand that my sister is a female and she is younger. so doesn't that mean my parents should be more protective of her? i really don't understand this. what have i even done to deserve so much distrust? (nada) what has she done to deserve freedom and trust? (zilch) but my parents shame me for my "achievements" (see paragraph 2), and they are proud of my sister for no reason

Question: What can i do if nobody told me my mom had passed untoll e months later. What about the will how would i see that. In tucson az.?

Posted: 27 Aug 2019 03:34 AM PDT

Question: My parents are being nasty to me...should I pay them back?

Posted: 27 Aug 2019 03:31 AM PDT

My parents stopped talking to me because they don't approve my fiance...their problem is that (according to them) he is ugly and he doesn't have a good job.They only saw him once and refused to meet him again,they also never met his family. My fiance is a very sweet, loving,hard working man so is his family so I know I made the right decision.The problem is that my parents are doing everything they can to make my life miserable, they said really hurtful things, they want me to sign so they will get the house they bought for me back. I told them i don't mind signing as long as they give me the money I paid as well for that house (1/3 of the house's price). My mum called me the other day and full of hatred she told me that they will not give me anything back because I owe them more since they had paid for my studies 15 years ago so I have to give the house and the money for my studies back....but when they paid for my studies they never told me that I had to pay them back, they paid for my siblings studies as well. The only reason they are doing this to me its because they are trying to break me believing I will change my mind about my engagement. My fiance doesn't know that he is the problem because I wanted to protect his feelings but I'm worried they will start calling him and they will make our life even more difficult...

Question: Withholding privileges as motivation?

Posted: 27 Aug 2019 01:14 AM PDT

This is a rant, I am eally upset right now and would like feedback. I am a senior in high school, and being a senior comes with perks including leave during lunch, getting a drivers license, and early leave. However, my parents refuse to give permission for any of these things, and instead withhold them until I meet unreasonable, loosely defined requirements, which are often redefined. Right now they say I need to be more responsible, which has shifted from turning in all assignments to finishing college essays to waking up earlier, changing as I meet the previous one. How can I please them so that they will allow these privileges when they obviously cannot be pleased? Is it unusual to withhold these privileges instead of giving them then taking them away if a rule is violated?

Question: When I was 4-5 my father drugged me and raped me.I was very pretty and my mother was ugly.Then he smoked.My father is short,with fat face?

Posted: 26 Aug 2019 11:27 PM PDT

and fat thighs.He also couldnt make money driving his taxi.He pimped me out to the pedophilles to make money and build a big house.What is my father?

Question: I feel like my parents are just too excessively strict, is it okay for me to cut them out of my life?

Posted: 26 Aug 2019 10:24 PM PDT

firstly, i'd like to point out that not all, but most of my problems with them stem from religion. my parents and entire family are muslim, and although i do think some parts about it are beautiful, the way my parents describe it feel like a trap, which i will explain below. my mother is an emotionally/physically abusive stay at home mom and my father is an alcoholic/workaholic who works from 7am to 11p-1am, but I've known since middle school he just goes to the bar after work every single night to drink. im almost 18, and going off to college and things are worse than ever. as for the religion thing, my parents are trying to force me to wear a hijab, which i just am not mentally ready for at all right now (or maybe ever), and the college im going to is only an hour and a half away and my parents are trying to make me come back home every single weekend, and live at home for the rest of my years in college. here are some other things they control me over: 1. when i was looking for jobs, i had a connection from a friend at a local golf club that was near my house, and my parents blew up on me saying i was just trying to work there to meet men, same lecture when i had a job connection to work at a lake. 2. i live in a different town than i work and my parents told me it wasn't okay to sit in a coffee shop waiting for my shift to start ( i work at a subway now), after i dropped my brother off at school because i "can't go to places without a purpose". (1/2)

Question: Boyfriend (26) was mad that I wanted him to go to my uncle’s funeral with me (26) and it makes me upset.?

Posted: 26 Aug 2019 08:21 PM PDT

A couple weeks ago my uncle passed unexpectedly. Last Tuesday my dad let me know the funeral would be Saturday. I told my boyfriend and he was irritated and mad. He said he had plans with a coworker to go to a brewery. I have had about 6 instances of family plans since May he has attended with me. He said he just wanted a Saturday to do what he wanted. I said he didn't have to go, but internally was upset. Friday night before he asks what's going on Saturday and I ask if he's going with his friend. He says yes and I was quiet. He asked what's up and I said I thought it was weird he not coming with me. So he got mad and cancelled plans. The morning before the funeral he was pouty and pissed off. The car ride there I was thanking him for coming but he was pretty silent and then ranted saying it's har to make plans with this friend and my family takes up too much time. During the funeral he sat arms crossed and silent, I tried to hold his hand but he refused, I was crying during my cousins eulogy but he didn't even acknowledge me. After we went to my dads to spread my uncles ashes and I told him he didn't have to go if he was going to be like this, but he said he would bc I would be mad if not. He said he hates funerals. He said he just wanted me to acknowledge how cancelling his plans made him upset and not be haughty that I won in the situation. He thinks we made up but internally I don't feel safe because he wouldn't even support me at a family's funeral.

Question: My grandpa gets drunk and yells and cusses me out everyday he doesn’t physically hit me but threatens me.Can I call dfax on him or what?

Posted: 26 Aug 2019 08:21 PM PDT

He is very verbally abusive to everyone in my household and makes me wanna kill my self

Question: I m scared that I might get so sad that I hurt myself?

Posted: 26 Aug 2019 07:16 PM PDT

If you want to know everything you can read my past questions, but basically the reason I m so sad is because I didn t play football or many sports at my school, and my older brother and younger brother do. I ve never done anything that my dad could be proud of me for or anything like that, and having a little brother that plays football and is athletic just makes me feel worse because it seems like out of my siblings and me, I was just a mess up. I m talking to my aunt about this stuff just to see if it helps but if it doesn t im scared im gonna get so sad that it messes with me. i know that being sad for a long isnt mentally healthy but ive been like this for like 5 days and this problem just keeps growing, i keep thinking of new things to stress me out and stuff. i dont really know what exactly to do. I'm so sad and I don't know what to do oops i was trying to update my header question, didnt realize it doesnt do that

Question: I still resent my mom for teasing me when I was overweight?

Posted: 26 Aug 2019 06:49 PM PDT

Ok Im thin and Im 20, and I get glances and noticed from people since Im pretty, but I still sometimes just insult and nag at my mom why in past she use to make fun of me when i was fat and smelly. I am angry like i see all those happy people and I feel resentful it not fair i get teased and i used to be chubby but they have social life. I lost weight at 16, and it happened years ago, but I cant get over my anger at my mom. My mom hurt me a lot she thought insulting me help to motivate me, even if she is nice now I still get mad at her and start nagging why she nag at me when I was overweight.

Question: YMCA Questions. I might work there next summer?

Posted: 26 Aug 2019 05:39 PM PDT

I might be working at my local YMCA next summer for a summer job 1. Which part of the YMCA do you recommend me working at? 2. Can I bring my broken iMac? 3. Where should I put my iMac? 4. Any advice for the YMCA? 5. where should i put my pet tiger

Question: Am I a spoiled brat?

Posted: 26 Aug 2019 05:34 PM PDT

If I complain often, throw tantrums, am demanding, feel ungrateful, am impatient, and expect things to revolve around me, am I a spoiled brat? How can I change?

Question: My teacher hit me, is this allowed?

Posted: 26 Aug 2019 05:30 PM PDT

I live in virginia and go to a public school and so basically i was in science and the teacher was teaching and my teacher handed me back my test and everything was marked wrong so i asked why and she said she thinks i cheated and i assured her i didnt and she screamed at me i did and we argued and she got so mad she hit my face hard with a red face and roared with anger. i told her im reporting her to the principal and she said no one will care because she has seniority

Question: I have an older brother who always rating on me and showing me that he has insecurites about himself..what is that a sign of?

Posted: 26 Aug 2019 05:22 PM PDT

Question: Parents call me lazy?

Posted: 26 Aug 2019 04:49 PM PDT

I'm 22 and in college with quite a bit on my plate right now. I go to class 3 days a week as well as quite a bit of online work not including the homework for those 3 classes. I also have a job where I work 2 days a week for 8 hours each day. I am in a super hard financial hardship right now but that's not what I'm on here for. I want to know how exactly to deal with my mom. She is angry that I don't contribute to the house and claims that I just sit around all day (which I do but 99 percent of the time I'm doing online coursework or homework for my classes). I don't know if I am still too young to realize where she is coming from, but it really irritates me when she gets mad or confronts me because I try doing extra stuff but I don't always have time because I'm trying to hold everything else together. Can someone please give me advice (and dropping out of college is a big no no. I plan to stay and get my education, and moving out is also not really an option right now because of my financial strain)

Question: My sister is cruel but I wished her a Happy Birthday yesterday anyway. She wrote thank you, love you to. How do I know if it was sincere?

Posted: 26 Aug 2019 02:51 PM PDT

I never know when sincere and when just being written for purposes of having good etiquette. I have not seen her in several months and will see her next at Thanksgiving most likely.