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I work with him, a single young doctor I work with (34 and im 29). We've had our spats or when he's told me something he's realized i have a leader personality since i don't take it well when someone gives me orders (also applying to medical school). I was in his office the other day and he said yeah even working in this company he isn't his own boss might as well work for uber I said yes we go to school for 10 years and still not our own boss. Then he said well at least I'm your boss smiling. I didn't like what he said and looked to my side. He said you didn't like that did you and smiling. I said no. He said I know smiling. I said how do you know? He said because no one can tell you anything.. not even your man, looking down and smiling (mind you i've never mentioned a man or anything, we've been workign together 2 months and barely becoming comfortable with eachother. I found this strange I said yes because i'm powerful and it has to be equal and he has to respect me. He said yes but you have to put down your walls a bit. I said yes because I don't let people in, no one's on my level. He said I know no one's on my level either. I said really? he said yeah I have my walls up too. I said then why are you telling me to put my walls down when yours are up? He said because I'm working on lowering my walls too. Why did he have this conversation with me? He also always smiles when talking to me, makes jokes etc. Would he say this if he wasn't interested? Also, I find that at times he has trouble looking me in the eye, gets awkward and starts fidgeting like picking up his cup of coffee while i'm talking during meeting. Then he said he had a few more things but seemed he had lost his train of thought from being flustered? Why is it that sometimes he gets awkward and can't look me in the eye too long while talking but other times talks as if nothing. I"'m so confused

I work with him, a single young doctor I work with (34 and im 29). We've had our spats or when he's told me something he's realized i have a leader personality since i don't take it well when someone gives me orders (also applying to medical school). I was in his office the other day and he said yeah even working in this company he isn't his own boss might as well work for uber I said yes we go to school for 10 years and still not our own boss. Then he said well at least I'm your boss smiling. I didn't like what he said and looked to my side. He said you didn't like that did you and smiling. I said no. He said I know smiling. I said how do you know? He said because no one can tell you anything.. not even your man, looking down and smiling (mind you i've never mentioned a man or anything, we've been workign together 2 months and barely becoming comfortable with eachother. I found this strange I said yes because i'm powerful and it has to be equal and he has to respect me. He said yes but you have to put down your walls a bit. I said yes because I don't let people in, no one's on my level. He said I know no one's on my level either. I said really? he said yeah I have my walls up too. I said then why are you telling me to put my walls down when yours are up? He said because I'm working on lowering my walls too. Why did he have this conversation with me? He also always smiles when talking to me, makes jokes etc. Would he say this if he wasn't interested? Also, I find that at times he has trouble looking me in the eye, gets awkward and starts fidgeting like picking up his cup of coffee while i'm talking during meeting. Then he said he had a few more things but seemed he had lost his train of thought from being flustered? Why is it that sometimes he gets awkward and can't look me in the eye too long while talking but other times talks as if nothing. I"'m so confused

Hi I'm a 21yo female and I've been with my boyfriend for almost 9 months now. I love his company and he makes me happy and this is probably the best relationship I've ever been in, but he seems to get offended and not trust me when I want alone time. Just today I didn't want to go to his mom's house with him because we both work a very labor intensive job, and I just started this job a few days ago and I'm not used to it and I just wanted to spend my time relaxing instead of going out to do things. I told him I didn't feel good and said I didn't really feel like going anywhere and he seemed to get offended and it made me very frustrated. Sometimes I need space because it's just the kind of person I am, it doesn't mean I don't love his company and or don't want to be around him, I just am a very closed off person at times and need one on one time with myself. He got out of a very abusive relationship last year and she cheated on him, I know that causes him to have trust issues but I've explained to him I don't know how many times that I would never do these things to him, I do a lot for him, and I reassure him constantly. I just don't know what to do, I want what's best for him and I've even told him to seek therapy but he'd afraid it will make him seem weak. I love him but it can be so frustrating at times because I give him space when he needs it, why is it so hard for him to give me space as well? I just need some advice.

I work with him, a single young doctor I work with (34 and im 29). We've had our spats or when he's told me something he's realized i have a leader personality since i don't take it well when someone gives me orders (also applying to medical school). I was in his office the other day and he said yeah even working in this company he isn't his own boss might as well work for uber I said yes we go to school for 10 years and still not our own boss. Then he said well at least I'm your boss smiling. I didn't like what he said and looked to my side. He said you didn't like that did you and smiling. I said no. He said I know smiling. I said how do you know? He said because no one can tell you anything.. not even your man, looking down and smiling (mind you i've never mentioned a man or anything, we've been workign together 2 months and barely becoming comfortable with eachother. I found this strange I said yes because i'm powerful and it has to be equal and he has to respect me. He said yes but you have to put down your walls a bit. I said yes because I don't let people in, no one's on my level. He said I know no one's on my level either. I said really? he said yeah I have my walls up too. I said then why are you telling me to put my walls down when yours are up? He said because I'm working on lowering my walls too. Why did he have this conversation with me? He also always smiles when talking to me, makes jokes etc. Would he say this if he wasn't interested? Also, I find that at times he has trouble looking me in the eye, gets awkward and starts fidgeting like picking up his cup of coffee while i'm talking during meeting. Then he said he had a few more things but seemed he had lost his train of thought from being flustered? Why is it that sometimes he gets awkward and can't look me in the eye too long while talking but other times talks as if nothing. I"'m so confused

I told my grandmother to stop shopping there because she is putting her life in danger but she said she hates to stay cooped up in the house, she likes being out and grocery shopping. She said she is not spending more money at other retailers like publix, wholefoods etc. I told her does saving a couple of dollars really mean more value than your life. she said she isnt even scared smh

Today I was talking with my mom and she brought up about my friend how's shes went a guy that's older but yet when I was in a relationship with an older guy last year how I couldn't talk to her about anything.. so I started to talk about when she said to me when your passed 40 how your at high risk of having a kid with down syndrome. She stop be right away that she didn't want to hear about that bad I found it so weird cause she said I hate when people repeat but yet she always does that and me so why that one that bothered her that she didn't want to hear it? Does she want more kids my mom is 44 besides me (20) there's my two younger sisters (10 and 7), not long ago I found on the computer chance of getting pregnant at 44 etc., I freaked cause I been a nanny to my siblings and it's been a lot on me I had to move back home to help. Anyway she said she doesn't want more kids but don't think my parents use any protection but pullout method only cause of what I saw on the computer that night. She didn't fight me when I kept saying how weird I thought it was that she got like that today.. usually she would've been more defensive. I asked her so many times if she's sure she's done having kids cause her response always seem funny but she said are you kidding me in other words she's done! But at first she didn't want to answer, this was all that time. Now I just found that weird

This is a long complicated story but I'm gonna try to be short. My ex is SEVERELY mentally ill with PTSD and IED. After a year and a half of me putting up with his abuse, I kept urging him to therapy. After our final breakup ( 2 months ago) he exploded at me for nothing ( as usual) because he is not in treatment for his disabilities and he literally explodes if he " thinks" I give him a weird glance or anything he imagines that doesn't actually happen. Anyway, he is homeless and he can't hold a job because he explodes at them and quits after a week . He lives in his van. I have tried MY BEST to help and love him and get him into therapy....but he just wouldn't. So, he drives off during the last argument, demonizing me because he claims I gave him a rude look when I didn't. He changes his phone number so I can't get in touch with him. I'm trying to reach him and look for him for weeks thinking the worst that he is dead or that he killed himself ( which he has tried in the past). I can't call the police because he lives here illegally. It's a mess but I'm the only one he has. He literally as no one else. No family, no friends. Today after almost 6 weeks he magically shows up at my job ( a bar which is where I met him) only to hide in the back, avoiding me completely. I finally corner him telling him how he completely had me crying/ freaking out the last six weeks thinking he was dead. He's like, I don't wanna talk to you. I'm like, ok....why are you here then??

This could be for instance someone who left his girlfriend or never even was in a relationship with her, as well as men who simply didn't seem that involved. Could you please tell a little of the story? Tnx.

Girl: I am focusing on whether or not you are over me.. Guy: I don't know Girl: You dont know if you are over me? Guy: ..How can I be over you if I want something potentially in the future. How can I be over you. How can I be over you if I am interested in seeing how you change, or how you're going to live your life..

I'm very nervous to drive with my instructor and I'd really appreciate it if someone could tell me how it goes or any experiences or etc that could possibly help me not overthink about it.

My boyfriend is caring and affectionate. Lately we have started getting intimate. I love and need him so much but one day he lifted up my shirt ad started kissing me it felt good ams perfect until he put his lips on my nipple which triggered in my mind the memory of years ago when I was 12 I was sleeping in my aunts summer house. There was a young guy there he came from the countryside attending the house sometimes (the friend of my cousin). One day I woke up screaming and fighting as he pinned me down (I was sleeping) and bit my nipples. I was developing and just the first breast buds, I looked like a child not yet a woman, but bit so hard he made me cry, I was sleeping and woke up immediately and tried to kick him but he was pinning me down and he hurt me so much because he was pressing my chest and as I said, I was developing so they hurt like hell. I was so scared but when they came home he acted like nothing happened neither my aunt nor my parents believed me they said it was just a nightmare and they laughed about it. I felt so ashamed I never wanted to see my aunt or her family again and my mom still doesn't understandwhy (I never told her). Should I tell my boyfriend the truth? Last time he was so shocked at my reaction (I cried and pushed his face making him bleed with my nails) that he sat on the bed staring at me for a while. I am so ashamed to tell him cause he couldhave the same reaction of my mom. I also felt dirty thinking about it