I just started my Freshman year in college and I have been a loner for as long as I can remember. I can remember sitting along the fence in elementary school so other kids wouldn't bully me. In middle school I would sit in the office at lunch time because I had no friends to talk to. In high school I would just walk the halls when it was lunch time or an assembly was happening. Now that I'm in college, I'm dealing with the same situation. I would understand if I made no attempt at all to make friends, but I honestly do try. I try talking to people, texting them, or inviting them out, but no one ever wants to talk to me. So then I started thinking it was personality and that I was just not a likable person. It's true that I'm a downer most of the time but that's because I have no one who cares about me. Or could it be my looks? Am I so ugly that no one wants to be my friend? I could be in any group or situation with other people, and I would be the last one picked or just completely abandoned. For example, my college roommates always go out at night and invite each other, but never ask me. In high school, other kids from clubs I was in would all carpool and ask me to find another way there. Am I missing something? Why does no one want to be my friend?

A friend of mine from high school who lived in a 2-bedroom apartment with his mom, eventually moved into a condo. I lived with my mom in a 3-bedroom house, and moved into a 1-bedroom apartment. I think he's mad at me for that, since he went to college and I dropped out. When he first found out I moved into my own place, he basically reacted like "WTF? How was that possible?" because I have no goals, so to speak, and don't deserve anything. It's like he wants me to struggle like he did, which I think is also because my mom made more money than his mom, as well as the fact that I'm the only child. In addition, one day, our morbidly obese classmate accidentally broke my mother's swivel chair while the two of them were at my then-house. So I called my mom at work to tell her what happened, so she'll know what to expect when she gets home. Fortunately, she didn't make a big thing of it. So everything was fine, despite my friend breaking her expensive chair. When I got off the phone and relayed the good news to my two friends, the "possibly envious" one said, "What?! You mean you're not getting a whooping?!" He basically reacted like I was a spoiled brat who talks back to my mom and never suffers the consequences. But our heavy-set friend broke the chair, not me. I found it strange that he was shocked that my mom was not going to hit me. Is he jealous that I get everything I want and never get hit, even though he makes more money than me and has a bigger home?

As a male under age 30, I find it disgusting. I ain't sticking my genital into anyone regardless if they're female or male.

At nightclubs

I'm in one club and I've got to know at least some of the club members, One of them told me I could go and hang out with them but that was late freshman year now I really want to go with them bc I don't really have any friends but how do I casually go to them? I know where they all hang out but would it be weird if some of them don't know me and I just sit at their table?

Hi there! So pretty much I just wanted feedback on what to say to my boyfriend and I's friends without sounding rude. Pretty much, we have 3 couples in our friend group and we all take turns every week, rotating on having a game night each week. When it was our turn, I was nice enough to give to go buy food and make everyone tacos and I didn't ask for money in return since we were hosting. The next couple did the same thing with making a nice meal and didn't ask for money or anything. But the other couple in the group texted our group chat and told we all needed to give them money for dinner tonight which I thought was a little rude, considering the norm was if you're hosting, you provide the meal for everyone. This isn't the first time they've asked for money. This one couple struggles financially since they have 2 young kids, it's rough. We always try to help, we've given them money before, paid for them to go swimming with us at the rec center, paid for them to eat out with us, the list goes on with stuff we've done for them. But now I'm just getting fed up with this and didn't appreciate that they told us we have to bring money if we want to eat. Thankfully it's just me and my boyfriend but we have on our own bills and expenses and don't have money to keep spending to help them out with things. Also just hospitality, if you're the only hosting it, you already know we agreed that you would be providing the meal. I just don't know what to respond without coming off rude.

to go to Uniiversity class again.Why so much hate about a woman?

Why bother so many years later? I believe if you made someone miserable then the apology is valid either soon after the offense or within that same year, not years later.

Ok so i have 4 friends i hang out with almost every day 1 is a girl and 3 are boys i dont know if that mattered or not but when ever we all hang they never tell me and they sometimes say they forget to pick me up this happened 4 times and when they pick up each other I'm right down the street from one of those peoples house but that's not it i come over and then I'll be really quiet and they all just talk and not say anything to me and they sometimes ignore what i say but then at the end of the night or when they do hear what i say they will say they love me and stuff and I'll get included in some stuff not all though I'm just so confused

It's been like that for a while for myself. Only recently I've tried finding help. Online and from people IRL. Everything that anyone tells you is total bullshit. Half will say that you just have to be you, but being you, doesn't work. I've been me my whole life with a few exceptions. That is a good segway for my next point. So, I also heard that to fit in, you have to conform to the group or groups that you are trying fit in with. I've tried that too, but the end result was even worse. Hiding who I am just depressed me even more. I do have my friends that I've known since forever and 1 on 1 hangouts are fine. Groups though are a different matter. Friends in groups talk, naturally, but what I've noticed always was that they talk to each other and about things that a 3rd party would have no way in chiming in. I've tried many other situations and it's not that I get the feeling that I don't belong, but it's obvious by how people talk to me or not rather. Some scowl when see me and others act like I'm a annoyance. Even tho, I don't participate in their talks. When I do try I get ignored or just can't get a word in. Call it whining if you want to, I just wanted to get it off my chest.

I've just finished my final year of high school, and I had a small group of close friends for a couple of years. I became a member of this friendship group by originally being friends with one girl. There was a point during high school that I lost all of my friends (they all joined other friendship groups, leaving me behind). So I awkwardly spent a few years trying to squeeze my way into this friend group. This group was the lowest on the social ladder in our year level.At the start it was very forced and awkward, but as time went on I felt I actually became friends with these girls. Especially the newer girls who joined the friendship group later on. Fast forward to the end of high school, I'm no longer awkward and am a fully integrated member of the friend group. But when high school ended, suddenly no one wanted to keep in contact with me, return my texts or hang out in person. Their personalities all changed, now they seem fake and full of themselves. They go out clubbing and get drunk almost every week. Despite being the most unpopular girls in school, they suddenly believe that they're the hottest thing on planet earth, and that guys are falling at them. They'll hang out without me, then post it on social media. They'll make up terrible lies to get out of making plans with me, then hang out together on the same date I had suggested. They don't care about my life or my interests, but expect me to care about theirs. I'm at my wit's end. Any advice would be appreciated.

Long story short my best friend just got out of a relationship 2 months ago just to hop back in one with an ex from 2013 when she was 14... anyways I don't like him because she made a rumor about me a couple of years ago and blurred it out In front of everybody including my best friend, she was there and honestly in that moment I was so embarrassed and wanted to die.... in school people were always looking at me in weird ways and I even got embarrassed in front of my friends and they laughed (yeah I'm not friends with them no more they were fake) and I know y'all going to say get over it , it couldn't be that bad blah blah but it still hurts me and I know if we all hang out he's gonna start it again and embarrassed me and honestly this put me through stress and it still bothers me till this day and I feel like she shouldn't even be with him cause he already has a child and he cheated on her in the past and his babymother so do I have the right to be mad?

What to do with this friend of mine,who has grown for 49 years,she is that much timid,that tells big big lies always,when I,m near by to cry, say then what can I do for her?! She has made me tired,doing mad acts infront of me ,she is bringing her reputation down,I see that she is going to become old.

I seem to not be able to keep female friends and when I do they turn out to disrepect me and be vile. I am a very nice person but when you do wrong I stand up for myself. I seem to have trouble making female friends. For most of my life it was fine until highschool and beyond. Girls would isolate me, gossip about me & find me VERY annoying when I never spoke to them. They picked on anything about me. They never gave a reason to why i m annoying which made me frustrated. My friends notice that I get lots of male attention & were used to it, but now it seems to be an issue & then they just dump me as friends or treat me like sh**. My best friend is now acting snakey, control me and tries to imitate me (which i find weird) and shes starting to find me a nuisance it seems. Again for NO reason. I havent even done anything to her. she s distancing herself from me now. Its horrible cause i adore her so much. Girls in school even threatened to punch me in the face because they found me annoying. And it s making me feel crazy cause I DON T TALK TO THEM, only to a few ppl. I attract males, but PUT FEMALES OFF so much. For no reason. Im nice to them, but their not nice to me. It's like its an achievement if they conspire against me. They make it seem like im the problem and I start arguments with them. No one sticks up for me. It s not a coincidence no more. It s like i m so different that I have to be singled out all the time. what s going on??

I met a guy at a school party and we chatted for a bit. Now whenever he sees me at school he always says hi and he tried to talk to me once about school. He talked to me last week, and I was surprised that he remembered my name since we last met was few months ago and we only talked for few minutes. Yesterday, I was at the library reading and when I looked up I noticed he was looking at me, so he waved and smiled. Is he trying to be friendly or is he interested?

were not pretty.The boys were stupid or I think I m pretty?

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She is always screaming and mad at everyone, very high strung person but sometimes she is really calm and nice? But she has screaming fits and then starts to cry and says everyone hates her.. she is also very suspicious of people, saying her coworkers are stealing from her and saying my dad is hiding things and keeping secrets and absurd things that don't make any sense? She also changes the stories of things to make it more dramatic and it changes to things that didn't even happen. She even yells at my best friend. She drinks often, few glasses of wine every night, and she drinks alone. It's really unbearable to be around her because she is always so agitated about things and insists on things that didn't even happen. Thinks everyone is making fun of her and whispering about her.

Awhile ago this guy and I agreed to be friends with benefits. We met up once and had sex and had a nice time together. He met my parents where he works awhile ago and sometimes they talk to him where he works. They talk to me about him a lot and I told him the things that they say about him and that I thought they wanted me to date him. So now he thinks that I want more but I honestly don't. He said that he thinks us hooking up should just be a one-time thing. But that he loves my body and that he thinks my body is amazing. That he still wants me to send him sexy pictures. When I told him that it was just a misunderstanding and that all I want is sex he replied telling me not to stop sending him the pictures. Update: @Foofa: You don't know me to say it isn't true. If I wanted more than sex I would say so. He's not leading me on because I don't want to be in a relationship with him. I talk to other men as well don't assume things about people because it makes you look like an asshole.

So, I have this really awesome close friend and he plays video games. That being said, he plays video games with other people remotely, like in other states. Well, he met this one girl in a group chat in Messenger and started talking to her one on one in Messenger. I'm from Virginia and this girl is from Ohio. I got jealous because I thought my friend was replacing me with someone who couldn't physically meet him. So I sent the girl a fanciful text saying that she had to block my friend. Well, that backfired and she sent my friend a screenshot of the text and my friend gave me a TON of angry texts Sunday about it. I apologized because I wanted to keep our friendship but he said that I betrayed him, that I disrespected him, that I have no idea what empathy is, and such. Then he said for me to leave him alone and to lose his number. He has trust issues and this isn't the first time he's been hurt by other people, considering that he's had a myriad of girls dump him for no reason other than because they wanted somebody whom they deemed better. So therefore, he won't talk to me this week. How should I get him talking again. I know he needs to heal and we both need a good break from each other, but then I hope to god we get back because I love our friendship and this guy means so much to me and he's just a big sweetie. Any help you could give me would be greatly appreciated!!

I feel so distanced and alone. Wish it was easy to make friends.

I had a friend in highschool for a few years and a few months ago I decided I didn't want to be friends with her anymore and told her that. The only problem is I let her borrow a lot of my clothes during our friendship and she never gave them back and still has them to this day. I've reached out a few times trying to get them back and she just makes up excuses for why she can't even though she has the time to party and hang out with friends. I don't want to keep contacting her because I believe she's keeping them from me because she wants to still have a tie to me (remember she is VERY manipulative). Nothing I've done has worked I don't know how to approach getting my clothes back from her.