I'm 19 almost 20 and I recently got an apartment and my girlfriend moved in with me. My parents are VERY nosey people. Even after I turned 18 they still felt like they had the right to go through my property or know where I am 24/7. They're asking for me to give them a key for my apartment. When I asked why all they can say is "just for emergencies". Ok, I don't know what kind of emergency is going to require them to get into my house but whatever. I know they just want it so they can go into my house when I'm not there and snoop around. I know this because my mom would ALWAYS go into my sister's house (she's 22) and she would clean up the entire house and go through her stuff no matter how many times my sister told her not too. Like wtf I don't go into their house whenever I please and go through their stuff. They think they deserve a key just because I have a key to their house, which I never even asked for and I have no use for it. Anyway, how do I get them to stop being so nosey?

I always imagined school functions, family vacations, holiday traditiona and so fourth. When I say being a dad has always been a dream, I put all of my heart and soul into this. Just a little back story, I had a daughter at 22 who had passed away at 11 months. After that, the opportunity to have another biological child never came thru. My significant othsr and have been together 8 years now, and we werent able to have kids of our own. We decided to seek out adootion. It seems like every oppotunity has fallen thru, every inch of hope is like a carrot dangling in front of me. Worst of all, my significant other doesnt have the same passion for this as I do and thats frustrating. Weve been in this asoption process for 3 years.. every disappointment, everyday is more ans more lost hope. I cant imagine my life childless, it kills me inside.

I am living with my sibling because my sib is too Bad off to take care of self. I am told how to arrange my own bookcase, get yelled at for rearranging the fridge when I didn't touch it, and am not allowed to throw out month old rice because it "messes up the system" whatever that means. I am so done with having to take the butt end of the mental illness. I want to move out but everyone says my sibling will be homeless if I can't provide care. What can I do to keep from losing my mind too?!

I don't like upsetting the peace, but, I'm getting worried. She's my younger sister, still in high school. She's always been chunky, but now, it's like every time I see her, she's bigger than last time. It'll be things like her wearing a shirt that fit a little while ago that now doesn't fit well, or just being more out of shape. I'd guess she's 200 or more. Is it even my place to bring this up or let parents handle all of it?

How much stuff did your children leave behind when they moved out? What did you do with it? After my older child graduated from college and before moving out of state for her first job, she went through all her belongings in her room at our house, threw away what she didn't want and took what she did want. She left a clean, empty room. My younger child is hoarder. Her graduation is only a few years away and I am worried. While I am confident that she will move out as soon as she has a job, I fear that she will try to use her room in our house as "storage." If you simply threw all the stuff that your kid left behind in the trash, how long did it take your kid to get over it? Books, old toys, outdated tech, clothes that are too small, etc aren't exactly things that anybody would pack to visit... I wouldn't mind some personal stuff that can fit in the closet. I do mind it when the closet is filled to the ceiling with stuff, the door barely closing and more stuff is being piled up along the walls. :(

It is really uncomfortable to go from the big extended family Thanksgiving of years past which was so dear to me to now just my bossy sister, myself, and a mob of my parents friends at this beach house in NJ. Some of my parents friends I like and others I can't due to family politics. All are perfectly nice. However, it is like when we used to go to my uncle's redneck in-laws place where it is a family holiday without family. I know I am going to feel sad and I dread the thought of my parents suggesting doing Christmas there. For Christmas I am going to insist on staying home myself at least for I am an adult living on my own. So how do I handle this if I do go to my parents new place for Thanksgiving or any family holiday. Extended family is my passion and this will be my parents social village, not mine.

I know constantly try to make up to her family for not being good enough as a kid. My mother was mad her father was an alcoholic and used me as a pawn to vent and to make a statement. We got closer as I got older and my mother softened. Yet, the pain of that rejection remains. I talk about it on here but not in person to the people for I have to be careful not to over do it (I don't reach out as often as I post on here or anything, I reach out like 3 times a year).

I have been my bros caretaker the past 7 weeks. He has a stage 4 pressure sore on his butt. It literally looks like someone chopped his but cheek with a machete. The day he came to my house from the hospital was the first time I ever witnessed something so "real". I've been stressing myself out trying to care for this wound meanwhile we get into fights every time I want to move him. He just does not get it. He will lay there for hours and I get so pissed I want to slap the **** out of him. He doesn't seem to even blink when I tell him he could easily die from it. What do I do? Strong arm him? Forcefully just man handle him?

Well my parents choose a guy for my elder sister. He is looks very decent.they already got engaged and will get married soon. But last night unintentionally i checked her phone & i read their entire private messages and got fully shocked. The whole chat box was loaded with porn links and nude pictures .even he desperate to know about my sister's virginity and body sizes. I think he just wanted to marry my sister only for physical satisfaction .my sister is 34 now and my parents hardly found this guy who is young, smart good looking and wanted to marry my sister at this age.

So my dad visited me the other day. We were sitting near my garden and the doors were open so people could possibly hear us. My dad was telling me stories about a Muslim man who was a spy got realeased from jail after 15 years. He stabbed someone in broad day light. I found it really funny the way he was telling me the story. Now since that the Muslim people who live near me have indirectly been teasing and bullying me. Who should I be angry at my dad myself or the neighbors? I feel like my dad set me up knowing well I would laugh and that people most likely would've heard our conversations

He often promises he'll come see me and makes big promises but always goes with a stepson and wife and their two daughters instead. I'm really sad because of this. He adopted his stepson because his stepson didn't have a dad and yet he doesn't see me his own son who now doesn't have much of a dad either. this year he promised to travel with me, he backed off because he had too much on the calendar with his daughters. Same thing happened last summer and last Christmas. I was not asked on the cruise they're going on this year for Christmas because it's his wife's family. Excuse any grammar errors I'm talking into the phone. Feeling really sad and rejected please help.

I'm 28 years old parenting a 4 year old and also work full time at 50-60 hours a week. I don't have time to deal with my family's BS. I also don't have time for petty childish behavior from my coworkers and bosses. I hate that my rude stepfather controls me and won't let me do anything. Or I have to do every single thing on his terms when he wants it done or else he gets demanding and rude. I hate that my siblings eat some of my food when my name is clearly written on my stuff. I cannot afford to move out right now because of bad credit so that's not an option. DO NOT MENTION MOVING OUT!!!! Any other ideas on how to get people to back off me and leave me alone?????

I m 13 and I m going into 8th grade soon. I don t have any new clothes for the school year.All my clothes are a year old. When my brother was this age he got everything he asked for. He has a tv in his room, a ps4, 3Ds, so many clothes. But everything I get it s from the clearance section or on sale! It s not like I m even being a brat. Other kids have phones and stuff payed for. I m typing this on a cracked tablet since they refused to buy me a phone I don t even have new clothes or a new backpack for next year. I feel like they don t even care about me. I m just a burden to them it s like I m better off dead. thats I feel. I also feel like if I ask they will get mad at me since they re always saying that "we have no money" which makes me sad. I wish we had more money. I mean other people have it worse. At least I have a roof over my head and stuff. I probably just sound like I m complaining at this point.

My mother has a long history of substance abuse and criminal child abuse (mainly against me) that began once I became a teenager. My brother has always blamed me for her abuse toward me, saying things like "if you didn't upset her, she wouldn't have punched/kicked/slapped you." I am now an adult and he still does this, and even blamed me for her leaving our home (the abuse became so bad that my father put a restraining order in place, so she was forced to leave the home when I was still a teenager). I love my brother and I would like to have relationship with him, but my self esteem plummets every time he says these things to me. How can I go forward in having a healthy relationship with him?

When I was 10 years old I experienced a family member dying. Out of the blue my uncle who was a couple months older than my dad, died of a heart attack. It was my mom's brother, so she naturally flew out to see her mom and sisters. I was left alone with my dad and brothers. Both my brothers were not at home yet. It was in the evening. My dad and I were about to watch a movie and then his blood pressure was high. He bought a machine. I understand why he was being a hypochondriac, he was mourning and he was the same age as my uncle. I heard that stupid machine beeping when I got home from school. His blood pressure was high. It scared me

I'm 17, I'm in my senior year and planning to get a job. I have an interview soon, and I still need to complete my community service hours in order to graduate. I have a pretty packed schedule now. My 23 year old sister who I don't speak to at all has moved back in because she has gotten evicted and she doesn't even pay to my parents to live here. My family is of 6 including my sister is living in a single story home with only 2 bedrooms and bathrooms. My brother doesn't have a room and the youngest who is 10 years old is stuck sleeping in my parents. My sister has taken over my room completely. Her dirty dishes are everywhere, clothes, and the room is so disgusting I hate to be in it or being near her because she's a truck driver and comes home with smelly feet and horrible smells. I've spent the last 6 months sleeping on the floor or even a chair and it sucks because I miss my bed and I can't do a whole school year sleeping on the floor it frustrates me. I would sleep in the room but it's annoying because she sleeps during the day and works at night, she wakes up at 10 pm to start getting ready and makes so much noise and doesn't leave till 1 am so either I sleep on the floor or wait till 1 am everyday to sleep in my bed. I've tried it and came to school so tired. I've told my parents my frustrations and how it is so unfair but they don't listen to me or care for what I think. Please help me I really can't be like this for another 3 years.

I'm not entirely sure when exactly this whole mess started. Maybe it was when I hit my teens, maybe it was always there. My mother keeps getting worked up over the dumbest things. She talks **** about me behind my back to friends and family. She says that I'm supposed to act like a young lady and look after the house. And I try, sure, I can probably try a bit harder, but I vacuum and dust and do the dishes and look after my sister since both of our parents are at work all day long. My mom uses her work as an excuse to not have to spend time with us since we keep giving her headaches, her words, not mine. She works in retail, and spends all the money that she makes on clothes and knick knacks, while telling others that she works hard to raise money for our family, even though she doesn't contribute to the bills- not even for her own car. When she gets home she's always on her phone, whether it's facebook, gossiping with friends or family, or online shopping. Only on rare occasions does she ever spend time with us without her phone. She always complains to me about her relationship with my dad and there's no romance between them, along with other stuff I'd rather not hear. She keeps saying that since I'm 18 now, I can hear this stuff. That she sees me as her friend, someone to confide in. She keeps picking fights with me, and claims to be supportive of me (especially in front of others-my friends love her) but in reality I get little to no support for her. she's also under the impression that if she buys us nice things we don't need or even ask for, then it's our fault. she throws it back in my face, along with the fact that she had a hard time with my birth. she freaked out when i told her i wanted to do a gap semester this fall because i don't feel mentally ready for college and do online classes, saying i'm a failure and disappointment. so i did what she wanted, and i started college today. still not enough. she says awful, hurtful things when we fight, and more than once she has claimed that i'm her enemy a spawn of satan, and/or pure evil. then when we make up she tells me to stop making her say those things because she loves me.she's also "disowned" me on many times, including today,saying that unless i change my attitude i need to leave. one second she's nice and awesome,the next she's screaming profanities and how if it weren't for me she'd still be in home country with her friends and family. despite doing my best to please her, she still tells me she wants me to leave. i've started having nightmares about her. i can't leave, though, because i don't trust her with my sister. there are times where she would forget to feed my sister because she's glued to her phone. i've been taking care of my sister to the point where she sometimes calls me mom. i've been so stressed between studies and trying to find a new job that i've started getting gray hairs, which is both cool and kinda sad

For example she and my father would not give me Christmas gifts my Mom's father would give us cause he was an alcoholic. It is like they thought we'd catch alcoholism by catching something he gave us. We also were barred from seeing him. More recently my sister was denied a birthday gift from her aunt by marriage cause she had divorced our uncle. The woman was the godmother of my sister. My mother gets mad when I see her brother who is now an alcoholic (the divorce was before he was drinking). I am expected to be making statements to these people by my silence and I do not like giving silent treatment to family members. It always causes me pain since my parents are the only ones in the family to do it.

My brother used to be an exotic dancer. My parents fully supported his decision. Now I am one, and they object because I'm a girl. Why is it OK for my brother to be an exotic dancer but they have so many issues with me doing it? Also isn't it hypocritical that my parents have anything against me being an exotic dancer when they both go to strip clubs at times? If they see something wrong with it, why do they go support other strippers?

I don't want to be too sensitive to it. They mean well but have opinions like I am 12 and not 41. I am well out in the world and living on my own.

So my mother has always been a conservative, VERY CHRISTIAN woman. My dad is a pastor. Yeah, yikes I know but I love them dearly but lately my mom has been really ripping into me about my body and how much skin I show. Now I'm not wearing a push up bra, squeezing my **** up into my neck with a little crop top and booty shorts on. I'm actually quiet shy about my body and only show cleavage in tank tops or V necks cause I'm a triple D cup. It's kinda impossible to hide. So at home when it's summer I like to wear shorts and a tank top. NO BRA cause it's hot and uncomfortable but my mom insists I wear one at all times.. she goes as far as buying me bras to wear in the house. Telling me there's MEN in the house.. yeah MY DAD (her husband) and her brother. She tells me I shouldn't look too sexy. That I look disgusting and slutty. HER literal WORDS. But it's not like I'm tryna to seduce my dad or uncle??? Like WTF is any one else's mother like this? Don't know if it helps but I'm 24.

i wanna move back to england to go live my wuth my dad cause he cares more but im young and ill have to care for myself cause he works 15 hours a day and also ill have to find a way to force my mum to let me which is hard but i just wanna be loved and have a future what do i do

I know I asked a similar question about this. So my mom quit her job and started getting into her own little world. She stopped communicating with people. My dad tried to help but my mom refused so yeah. My parents divorced 11 years ago when I was 18. We would call and talk to mom and our aunt to see how they're doing. My mom lives in out home state. We took her back there. I lived without my mom for 11 years. I still need her. She never calls us, not even on our birthdays. It still didn't stop us from having a fun birthday. We called instead. Anyways fast foward to present. My aunt is getting older and planing to move. My mom I don't know what she going to do. She isn't working or trying to do anything for herself. Just sitting in the house being lazy. I'm still going to save up to go see her. My two cousins down there are tired of it. If something happens to our aunt, I'm worried that mom will be homeless. I feel like I wanna give up but she is my mama and we can't do that. She gave us live and she was a good mom to us. I feel like we don't have much of a mother anymore. We gotta worry about what we gotta do, live our own life. I see other people with their mothers and I'm like, "Why can't my mom be like that?" Well I can't say that because my mom was like that and always been there for us when we needed her until she shut herself out. I feel like I'm done. I'm still going to see her. Hopefully my older brother will go with me. I feel like an awful daughter for saying thinking this because I don't know. I know mom won't be the same like she used to but I don't want her to end up homeless or hurt. I feel like I'm done but I'm not. If something happened to mom, we'll fegrer giving up on her. Sorry I mean "Regret" in that last sentence

Whenever my mom and aunt see one another they ALWAYS fight and then it always results in me hearing from both of them bad things about one another. I hate seeing them fight and they can never stop. I am so close to my aunt and same with my mom that's why it hurts to see them fight. What should I do?

I'm on vacation with my family. It's me, my older brother, my younger brother and our parents. I'm sharing a room with my brothers and my parents have their own room. Last night, my younger brother dropped some food. I kinda of did have an attitude with him " I said you need to be more careful." He got irritated and told me to shut the fck up. We argued and it escalated and he hit the tv. So I told my younger brother that I hope he gets a job soon because he's gonna pay for it. My older brother told me to shut up because this is my fault for irritating him in the first place. So then my older brother and I were almost about to fight but we didn't. I told my parents what happened but my older brother keeps saying i should pay and it's my fault for saying something to him. So who fault do you think it is?

My aunt has told me many secrets about my mom from the past and my mom doesn't know I know and I hate keeping these secrets especially when they make me sick like how my mother had many boyfriends and much worse then that. Please help

All my life I have been compared to my older sister when we were really little I was just her little sister then we moved and while I was in high school she left home for a good awhile and I built up so amazing friendship but then she came back and as soon as she met my friends she ruined all of my friendship by causing drama and making up stuff about me now that we are adults you would think she d grown outta of it but now she is coming between me and my fiance who I ve been with for 6 years and we have a kid she is telling him lies about me and sending him flirting texts and going to my house while I m gone at work and I ve told her more times then I should that it hurting me and that she needs to stop but she just attacks me with hurtful words and now I m pretty sure she is sleeping with my fiance which is a huge knife in my heart but also she has herpes and if they are sleeping together while I m at work and I end up getting it what am I gonna do I m at the point where I just want her to disappear and not come back which is bad cause she has 2 kids and I love my niece and nephew I need advice bad. I ve tried talking to my mom and all she told me is to ignore it don t think about it if it s happening then its happening and move on and I can t take it anymore

I'm going to try make this as simple as possible. I'm very thankful for everything my mom has done for me. I know she loves me, and at the end of the day, I love her too. With my dad working out of town, my mom quit her full time job to devote her life to me when I was little. Without having a job, my mom has become very isolated and toxic. She is always mad about something, and I'm always there. When she gets mad at me, she talks and talks until I blow, and once I say something I regret, she redirects everything making me look like the bad guy. She tells me how I'm never gonna have a wife and how I'm gonna live a lonely life, but I have a good amount of friends and I've never had a teacher, coach, or boss that has complained about any of these things. I'm a nice person, but for some reason my mom brings out this person in me that I don't know. I'm a senior in high school and I only have a small window left that I have to live with her, but how do I keep her negativity away from me? It feels like I'm starting to become more and more like her every day but I'm stuck at this house... help

Okay, here I go again. Looking for relationship advice. It's no big deal, but it stand that there a quite of few things that my 21 year sister dosen't mind doing that she doesn't like being the victim of. I'm 16 btw. One of those things is ignoring me. Not like a two day silent treatment. If I ask her a simple question that she doesn't feel like answering she'll just ignore me, stare at her phone, or walk away. She's even closed the door in my face on rare occasion. The moment she asks me something though, I'm expected to give above and beyond responses with a cheery not in any disrespectful tone withing 2 seconds. If not she'll just pull the "I'm an adult" card and try to intimidate. She isn't my sole caregiver btw. We both live with my mom so it's not like she's overly stressed from constantly having to babysit me or something. I'm not exactly sure why it ticks me off, but what I know is that she knows that it bothers me because when we got into an argument a long time ago she apologized for it. She also says really rude and disrespectful things, sometimes under her breath and sometimes where I can definently hear it, but if I say anything or ask about she'll tell me not to worry about it and that she wasn't talking to me. On the flip side, she once tried to get me in trouble after she hear me grumbling while I was taking a shower. I'm open to passive aggressive suggestions but I'm not violent and I don't want to get into to much trouble with my mom.